We Need to Talk: How To Have Conversations That Matter | Celeste Headlee | Talks at Google 

Hey Tara maybe we should start a fan club. She deserves one.

There must be a Celeste Headlee fan club I think.

not a girl... but her mission and NOT her "job" *wink* is appreciated too here if not done yet : Let's make it happen !

Ikr 😅

But, Patricia, if the one you're talking to doesn't do this too, it may be hard to have a good conversation.....

Allowed

Yes, I also noticed that at the end she didn't let people finish their questions (bad listening, and it's rude) and she also had answers ready while the question wasn't finished, although in lecture she said that we should listen all that other part has to say, before start to think of an answer. Yeah, the Q&A at the end kinda reduced my opinion of the lecture and her as a specialist. That was a little disappointing, although lecture was quite great.

Well, She is also a human.

@@iedzerkvasu2063 I get the feeling that the quietness of the room slowly makes her anxious and she speaks faster and faster.

“the only thing that she wants at the end was to talk” Of course, that is why they call this presentations Google Talk. All presenters at Google Talk give, well, a talk. That’s what she was hired to do. Also, working on radio as a veteran interviewer makes you aware of time limitations which was the case here.

I noticed this too, but as she said, she's also guilty of doing the things she talks about. She's only human. I guess you can be aware of your bad habits but that awareness doesn't mean they just stop right away. It takes practice. :D

That's an interesting point, I think handwritten letters show you more of a personal touch than text on a screen. You can sense that the person who wrote that letter, actually wrote that letter when it's done in their own writing. Handwritten letters can sometimes be a little messier or have spelling mistakes that have been crossed out and rewriten, so you can see little human errors, and the writing style is also usually pretty unique to specific individuals. When it's an email, the font is so generic because we see it everywhere, it can sort of feel like anyone could have typed it. So it feels like there's no personal touch to it. It's like when you get a written letter from your bank that has been printed vs a letter that's been handwritten. Digital text doesn't convey the same sense of uniqueness to it that handwriting does. That's my take on it at least. :)

Good question ! I also think that you put more humanity in a letter. It involve your body more, and your handwritting reveales your personnality, as the shapes of it comes’from your mind. Very diffenrent from computer writing. Also, you can hold the letter in your hand. It actually « exist ».

An email and a hand written letter are light years apart. A hand written letter takes so much more to put together then an email.

My God! This is IT!

it might just make her more anxious and frustrated with herself, it might push her to learn tho

“Changing” I think is bad word for this, we don’t have that much control as you think, even if you are manipulating someone, usually the manipulated one has some responsability for it too. We can, though, INFLUENCE other’s behavior. Psychologists, for example, studies how to do that, how to influence someone’s behavior, life perspective and philosophy of life through communication but that person have to have the will to change and also this person have to trust you and know that you can help, and this individual has also to actually do something for the change to occur, something that the therapist doesn’t have control, like moving their body. I guess you can make the argument that you can change someone’s behavior through communication by threatening, violence and this kinda of thing, but that’s unethical.

​@@gabrielmachado2709 The facts are clear we can and we actually do it sometimes without even knowing it. Ethics, good and bad, like and dislike are entirely one's point of view(or a given society), they are not in any way a matter of Nature and it's rules and laws. So, the idea here is to learn and understand, see the Nature of things, their core basics and fundamentals. How you live your life and use them, that is entirely up to the individual at hand. What you think is good, for others may be bad and destructive. Also how you threat such perception biased labeling (as good and bad) is another part of this side topic. Society and history have shown that labeling someone or something as bad ALLOWS that society, group of people or individual to do BAD things justified by what someone else did deemed bad. It's simple and basic(bad and good in nature are just nature doing it's course), yet it's complex(bad and good in human social conditions is created, judged, measured and acted upon in a very specific and time-era-place-climate based). Focus on the basics and the fundamentals of Life and living, and you will always be in a good place. Having it and improving upon it will help you with anything that appears and is complex, or is complicated more than necessary. P.s. To have a definition of good and bad both you and the other side should agree on them, otherwise what's good from your perspective maybe bad from theirs. In pure Life reality view can be seen as it is creation and destruction, production and consumption, etc. One last thing. Saying something is good and another is bad, and agreeing on it, doesn't magically make you immune to NOT doing it. But those basic core fundamentals DO if you understand and apply them. The same way using those unchangeable basics you CAN change someone's... well, all processes that are opened to change from an outside authorities and/or entities(including objects, wind, light, etc...) P.s.2 Give someone a genuine compliment and see how their behavior and thinking, PERCEPTION of the reality around them, themselves and Life itself changes. Is this manipulation, or anything complex in its core? Bad?

Yeah! I think she meant 13 min ( (13 min / check * 110 checks ) / ( 60 min/h) ~= 24h).

is English your first language?

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