Mere father se aise hi saare paise mere Bade Bhaiyya ne le liye. Aur fir unko apne ghar par rakh liya. Fir one year baad unhe apne ghar se nikal diya. Ab mai unke saath hi Vrudh Ashram mein rehta hun. To parents beware of sick daughter in law. Meri bhabhi bahut chalaak thi mai pehle se keh raha tha. Now my mother is sick on saline she cannot walk same with father he is unable to walk , mai apna job chor kar baitha hun , Varanasi Vrudh asharam mein , case file kiya hai court se but use ladke ke bhi paise nahi hai. Now i am seeing my parents dying, and i can do nothing. Father was in private company, he dont have any pension. Toh mere baap ke bete ne toh pura dhamaka kar diya hai. Toh yeh sir ki advice mujhe sahi nahi lagi. Bye mujhe abhi khana parosna hai sabko aur mother ka saline bottle change karna hai , from DNS water to RL with mvi .
Hamara sahi hai !! Jo kuch karna hai khud se karna hai because saas sasur hum par hi dependent hain !! Devar bhi humko hi dekhte hain jab zameen aur ghar lena tha unko ! That’s why we are still living in Govt accommodation . We have so many liabilities can’t think of ever owing a house 😢
Very informative and practical advice. Hamare father in law to hamare hi paise se hume ghar nahi lene de rahe the. Kafi saal nahi lene Diya. Fir mere husband aggressive ho gaye ki mai to Ghar banaunga hi , aur rent pe nahi reh sakta jabki paise haath me hai,loan bhi nahi lena.But ab hum apne bachhon ke sath Aisa nahi karte. We are with them in every thick and thin
Parents in law bhale hi muh pe, keh de ki hum tumhare sath nahi rahengey ghar apne hisab se lena Lekin jab koi life serious illness ya bed ridden ho jate he to bete bahu ke, ghar turant shift go jate he Bete bahu ka bed room bhi dena, padta he Jab bete bahu ko bachho ko deshbhal n care ki zaroorat thi as bahu was working in emergency services still parents in laws refused to help in taking care of grand children while remaining in same city direct mana kar dete he grand children ki deshbhal karne se Kehte the naukar laga lo Night duty pe maa jati he to apni choti si beti ko kisi domestic help ke pas maa nahi rakh sakti In laws kehte they apni maa se kaho tumhare bachhe ki dekh bhal kare wo hum responsibility nahi lengey emergency services like railwaya, departments police departments hospital services me emergency services me sudden leave nahi milti but sas, saur ko koi fark nahi padta, They blyntly said on fce we will not help take help from bahus parents Bahus parents, helped to take care of children Now after 15 to 20 yrs suddenly parent in laws are talkin very nicely and telling bahu about care of elderly where will they go now they need your help as they are very old bed ridden nd as, bahu is really good she is taking care of them as well nice as her upbringing is good but now irony is both sides parents, are dependent on this couple as beta bahu / beti damad and rest children means other son/bahu of in laws and brother and bhabhi of woman who is working in Emergency services are not at all interested in taking care and helping nd even in laws have changed sides now seeing comfort in this betas house No funancial help from any side Crux is as a mother working in emergency services is Govt should make a law to force in laws to help in taking care of kids of working mothers just as beta n bahu are bound to help and support in laws If govt wants family system to survive Child care has no laibilty on in laws They should be make liable to support care and sfe environment Other wise how women will work with little children Highly educated working women don't get inlaws support in raising kids but in laws want that they should be taken are of and supported in severe illnesses bedridden conditions Even if healthy they want to live with their son as it is difficult to make chapati dal rice daily chores themselves plus maintenance of house is difficult for them Achhi nature ki Bahu par hi rishtedaro ka dawab hota ki seva kare jo bahue nahi karti unko kuch nahi kahte Jo bahu karti he, seva unko bura bhala, kehna Parents are really very biased it is, a sad fact They never realize that they will need help whe they get old Achhi bahue, bahut, suffer karti he, wo house wife aur working dono ho sakti he Har cheez mehangi he Leki jo beta videsh me rehta he wo mast koi help nahi karts na physically na financidlly sara burden ek par hi hota he aur parents jispar finacial limitatiin hoti he usko hi emorionally exploit karte he Dusre bachhe ke sath unka relationship ghumne phirne enjoyment ke liye hota till the fall illl than other son bahu / beti damad with more emotional attachment will take all burden and other son bahu will physically disappear in need of help Gayab Baney raho pagla kam karega agla Parents will not dare to ssy such other din/ bahu to take care but again when all healthy hood gears will shift This is the reality Exploitation of seedha beta bahu / beti damad happens who take responsibility
@@viaan945 tell parents to hire a caregivers or maid in Old age. Govt wants to decrease population so laws will be made to decrease population which is good otherwise there will be no jobs and places to live in the country. When they ask for help try to help but after helping for a while ask for financial help from in laws or parents if they don't help financially while you are taking care of them then better to cut off all relationships with them don't even talk to them
Sir please make an exclusive video on "selfish parents", i.e., those parents who wants to stay with their children, or at least have a say in all the decisions their children make, are highly emotionally dependent on their children's time and attention, and even stop them from pursuing higher studies abroad or a career of their choice just because that will take their child away from them. Also maybe a video on why is old age so scary that even good people become selfish and exploit their kids to take care of them. And how to ensure one's old age will be comfortable, for those who still have time to prepare for it.
My inlaws spoiled my husband's life only because of same reasons, me and my children suffered a lot. But paid attention to both of them. Societal pressure is too much
You come up with remarkable topics. Same thing had happened to us, when we were buying a property in Mumbai. We didn't even ask inlaws for money and my father was prepared to pay few lakhs to help us. Yet, they were so angry about us buying a property in Mumbai. Now for the last 7 years they are living in Mumbai and I live separately in Chennai. They ended up spoiling our married life. You are so relatable, AMAZING.
At least I've been super lucky in this regard. Have been going through a low phase for some time now. My parents have been rock solid with me. They've been providing for me and my kids even though my father is a pensioner now. Hopefully things will get back on track soon.
U talk very practical guruji...u show another side of story But sir also for these small town people 10-15 lakh is big...also they feel what if their child don't look after them in old age,so they see this amount as security.
No pension for a person who is doing his own small business their full life.. only some savings depending on much they can save, if enough income is there
The way you have taught astrology... bringing Karma in your own hand and making peace with surroundings ... you have changed my life for ever .. I am on my path to increase Guru Tatva ..... No gurudakshina will ever be at par to that guudh gyaan 💫🙏🏻💫
@@manvir777 Jab bachein College ki padahi Khatam kar leta hai toh usey Atmanirbhar banne ki aur dhyaan dena chahiye...kab tak gharwalon se maangtha rahega.. Baat rahi hospitalization ki toh woh bachoon ka kartavya Banta hai...jis tarah parents ne apna kartavya nibhaya padalikhakar bad kiya..uski zarooratoon ko poora kar
Case study- Sir, in-laws koi help nhn karte. Wo sas ke naam pe FD bnaa ke rakhte jaa rahe hain aur bête ki ₹1 help nhn karte. Unka apna hee attitude hai ki mera pati earn karta hai. We don’t need son and daughter in law.
This is new to me. As in my family boys parents are squeezing them for money even for daily essentials and rice dal etc. Everything to be borne by son even they are well off. Son should pay even for their donations to extended family and inlaws will take the name.. my husband is vexed up with this behaviour. But he is the only son so I don't bother. Let them enjoy their son money as long as they are alive. But feel bad for my husband he lives like a monk earning for others. Never does anything for himself
This is really happening and kids end up buying the flat themselves and there will always be a gap created in views and not involving and understand each other how much you try.
Children expect money as gift from parents. Very few would take money as loan from own parents. Registering the property on joint name with parent is a good suggestion .
Fellow community members, my parents have already decided that they won't live with me later. So, they probably won't help me out financially, as they'd like to save for their future as well. And they've been very negative lately saying that "tujhe to rehna hi biwi ke saath hai, shaadi ke baad". And I am not even married yet. What about this situation?
Then you are so set for a good life where the ghar ka kleshis very minimal. Once things are sorted out with your life partner after marriage, then you all come up with an understanding based approach that is mutually beneficial. Eventually situations in a few years will change irrespective of what your parents say now, and who know a new arrangement with with out really well for all. By default the Indian brought up is reasonably good, and we children take care of our parents in their old age whether they like it or not. It's just that the nature of taking care changes its form according to the times.
Sir you are right I had similar case. I wanted to buy flat but my prarent refused. So I went for cheaper plot I took personal loan and then I was duped by property fraud and lost money. This is there in mind even after 8 years
Your thoughts are more relevant to North India where population replacement ratio is above 4 . The normal ratio is 2.1. in south India population is decreasing
Bhai parents should not give such a big amount. This Person is not giving the right advice. Kids today are not trust worthy. They should think of themselves first.
Even other western cultures with less familial and cultural values parents help their adult kids when in need. Nothing wrong if Indian children needs help as long as they are trustworthy.
Sir aapne bilkul shi kha mere husband kbhi bhi apne papa se paise nhi mangte hai wo knhi bhi interest me le skte hai lekin lekin apne papa se nhi maang skte sir kya aap mujhe bta skte hai k aisa kyu krte hai ma baap age bacche k liye nhi hai unke paise to kus k liye kya kr skte hai???
Sir my case is a little different,my wife doesn;t earn much . she is the only child of her parents.her parents do not have any retirement income. now she is indirectly expecting me to financially support her parents.which i am not willing to do. we have returned all the gold to her parents which was gifted to her during wedding
Case study- meri family Faridabad maine rheti hai in 2bhk..now I am married..we want bigger house 3 or 4 bhk..now my father telling me to take loan of minimum 50 lakhs..30 lakh he will add by selling 2 bhk... Siblings I have I sister and 1 brother..issue my father is doing..that may could lead to property dispute among brother...that I want to avoid.. Secondly I have idea that I haven't shared with him..he give me 30 lakh and i also have downpayment of 10 lakh ..5 lakh take from father in law..5 lakh ask my father to contribute..then take 30 lakh loan..once I will pay loan then I will payback my father 30 lakh also.. Mine Salary-12 lakh , working- MNC and age- 30.. Kindly suggest.
