Salute aapko uncle....aisa Gyan Hume aaj tk kisi ne nhi diya....apke sare vdo dekhti hu...aur dekhne se phele hi like kr deti hu...bhut sari good wishes....5G generation ke Krishna h aap....sader pranam 🙏
Expectations which are not met by some parents due to circumstances or for any other reason results in such feelings One must consider that May be the parents are or were disappointed in their parents This cycle ends only when you become the bigger person and accept them as they are and love them Share few laughs and see the magic
I'm the only child. Parents are no more. Father was a drunkard, abused my mother physically for decades and mentally all her life till that age when I was grown up and started to raise my voice against it. He had countless extra marital affairs and even slept with my mom's younger sister. Looted all my mom's earning worth of 80 lakhs. She worked diligently for 40 years as a staff nurse in a government hospital. After my dad had a heart attack, my mom quit and looked after him taking care of all the expenses while I was still in college. Before her passing, He conveniently took all the signatures for pension and remaining 5 lakhs which was the savings for her. Mom was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian and she could not have a peaceful time at all. It was a nightmare. I was alone in Manipal with my mom getting diagnosed and treatments for months while he was in home city living his life. Soon after her passing in 2012 on may of mothers day, not even grieving he started searching for another woman to get married. I have decided to let him go before my mom's passing and my mom made me promise to look after him. Yet I took care of him for 6 years. After I got married, we even gave a choice to stay together yet He wanted to seperate. 3 years from now, He used to call and I never wished to speak. My mom had been through enough of his torments and I was not going to give my time and love. Fast forward to 2022 September, I kept recieving calls that he passed away. I didn't attend the funeral. Now tell me, how do you forgive someone and make peace with when he has ruined my mom's life and mine for 30 years. Never been there financially, dried out all funds of mom and my mom was paying his loans from failed businesses for decades. Respect seems like a superficial word to me and love felt like a shot in the dark. I tried to show mu love despite all of this horror, I made my peace with it and didn't attend his funeral. All I yearned for was love which my mom gave me and she protected me while eating away the pains of life.
A very thin and delicate line between- Genuine, heartfelt gratitude and children being taken to guilt-trips through emotional manipulations. In first case we know what little we can do to be enough. In second case, what more we have to do because it is never enough.
You are the saint of a 21st century. You should live for 100 years. I can't tell you how I am feeling now. From one side I am happy that new generation will get your advice and balance their life on the other side I am feeling very sad that why you were not there when I was passing through this pain. The havoc of respect and seva killed my life and career. I am hopeful that one day I will meet you. 🙏
This is applied to in laws also. Subha, sham pair pado. Baharse Aakar pair pado, bahar jane se pahle pair pado. Sasur aur Jeth ke samne ghunghant lo. Kisiko naam se mat bulav. Bechari bahu respect dene ke chakkar me kabhi pyaar kar hi nai pati
Very True same happened with me to .After all this latak letay hai bhau par , cooking etc , Kam wali absent ka kaam bhi karwa letey hai .If your husband out of job alag karwa detay hai par sasu ma mahiney me 15 days , 6 days ghoomney jai to expect to cook and look after father in law .😁 Same house mey rahay key . Property to Eldest one of 5 loot kar apney nam karwa leta hai . Phir bhi bahut ke sewa late rahtey hain .🙏
I so agree with u. Parents especially mothers keep emotionally blackmailing n manipulating children by their std line "hamne itna sacrifice Kiya tumhare liye ".I always remember Sadguru's words in this "Parents became horny cos of their chemicals n u were born cos of their needs "Sharing this video with my mom.Im very excited to know her feedback.
Truth fullness will command respect even for very poor, incapable and not so high achiever parents. My father was a very innocent person and committed a lot of wrong decisions in his life because of which he suffered many financial loses . Still he always told me that my dear son I have made so many mistakes in my life you please do not repeat them. (Even when I was 5 years old) Because of his Extreme truth fullness I never ever had any grudge towards him. On the contrary spent hours talking to him like friends.Learnt a lot from his mistakes. I still miss him as my most precious friend and person in my life.
Lower or 'lower middle class' families mainly have vary dangerous parents due to lack of education, ethics and morality. I have seen some of my friends from this segment who manged to come up, frustrated with the attitude of their parents. Especially after marriage they made their life horrible, cribbing on every matter and demanding money all the time. You failed to address this angle.
I always treat my parents as my friends. It's a two way process, don't expect 100% from parents and don't put your 100% responsibilities on your parents. Parents should give wings to their child to fly and at the same time children should respect and understand the process and space that their parents are giving. It's a mutual thing. There should be a balance. Nobody on this earth is perfect. We should respect your parents but at the same time we should be loving and affectionate towards them.
Men think they know everything and don't have to learn anything new. My dad refuses to even watch RU-vid while my mom has taken big time to RU-vid. They refuse to learn after a certain age
@@lazycat8946 oh ok. Esp with kids, they need to be ok with talking to us about anything, even their biggest mess ups knowing we will always love them and back them up. Im sure with someone as curious and open-to-learning partner like you he will come around. Keep at it
You are absolutely right. I have been successful when I listened to nobody. Whenever I listen to my parents or spouses parents ....I have failed liked you sd 95%. If I state my point they call me rebellious and unconventional child. Only my grandparents both sides and mama , my teachers listened to me and that's why I am successful in my business.. When I love them ..they put their terms and conditions I feel like Chad do...My mother thinks at 40 she has right to slap me... Entire day they want to school me..and when I needed my parents as a child my parents were busy telling their stories...
Sorry to say but rishta tod do...they are insane to your mentally and grandparents ke sath rishta rakho as they understands u more...ur parents are narcissistic. Ik how ir feel even I've narcissistic father who wants to control me and yes maine unke har baat ko ssly lena band kiya and now I'm much happier and calm mind de apna kaam kar sakti hu...
👍 Respect is always earned. If you love your child and make him/her independent financial and showing the real face of life rather than teaching them for pleasing the society then the child will naturally inculcate respect towards their parents.
सहज और स्वाभाविक। गुरुमंत्र। हर रिश्ता ऐसा ही होना चाहिए मगर है नही। बहुत सारी irrelevant do's and don'ts की लिस्ट बना रखी है। Time to change syllabus and so glad that you are doing it with good humour and खलूसियत। Thank u 😌
Exactly, world is changing so does the parents belief system, no child wants to disrespect their parents but if you have different point of view than your parents ,then they will put a label of "dis respect" or " mad" on you. They think what they know is universal truth and that is only good thing to do. They unknowingly kill the dreams of their child just because of societal beliefs.
Kids are never allowed to have their own identity and live in identity crisis. Sango sir , kudos to you for talking about these topics openly. You are a precious gift to our society. Please make more videos on how parents should be , how they should handle old age and how they can leave the children alone and live their life without having them take a guilt trip every day !
A very great perspective and taking up this issue Sir. Honestly, dimag ke taar khol diye... Ham sab pe Respect for parents thing itna thopa gaya zindagi bhar, woh bhi unhi se, ki unke liye pyar kab khatam ho gaya pata bhi nahin chala. And now the bitterness is all among parents and childrens exist. Truly worthy advice.... Hope all parents (both present and future) understand this ..
The best point is.....if they only respect you then they will never open thier heart to u. But if they love you...they will feel free to tell thier heart out like a best friend. Communication gap should not be there.parents should make themselves more approachable and supportive.
रिश्ता चाहे कोई भी हो पासवर्ड एक ही है विश्वास रिश्ते कांच की तरह होते हैं, टूट जाएं तो चुभते हैं, इन्हें संभालकर जिंदगी में सजाना, इन्हें टूटने में एक पल और बनाने में बरसों लग जाते हैं
Very nicely presented content, so true and relatable. Thankyou for sharing your wisdom on youtube. I always resonated with such thoughts, but never spoke openly as I was too scared to be tagged unsanskari. But, we need to change our thinking if we want to be a happy society. Thankyou for bringing such unique and progressive content.
Koi bhi baat na mano toh bol dete hein ki meri cheezo ko hath matt lagana or paise bhi nhi dete......I feel anxiety and depression at this point bcz I don't have any job .
Sir let the trolling be whatever, I had step-mother and i have experienced what happens when you dont get love from father. Me and my mother have tried conveying so many times to him we have failed still. I dont even want to share this video to him, bcoz he will make issue out of this also. I have moved on from my father. My age is 37 and He is 68 and still strongly hates me my brother and mother. This video of yours especially i loved very much. Thanks a ton by listerning to this video itself i am feeling happy and relaxed that someone out there in the world resonates with my feelings. Kudos
And they need to accept that, instead of saying matapita Jo kanhe or kare wo bache k bhalai k liye hota hain!! Bacha adult ho jaye tab bhi bacha bacha hota hain! As if it's his only identity. Galat ho kar bhi accept na karna galt hain.
Main toh har din itna disappointed and dissatisfied feel karti hun apne parents se ki unke sath bhi rehna toxic lagta hai, and aise pyar se initiate karne ke liye bhi unhone discourage kar rakha hai, I feel hopeless about our relationship, aur neighbours me jo unke 3rd generation wale bachhe hote hain 2-3 years ke, unse zada pyar karte hain lagta hai, as if apni true personality toh bahar ke logon se hi chhup sakti hai toh andar ke logon pe kyu mehnat karni
should we respect our parents? Now I relinquished house live somewhere on rent. I stopped convenience them respect,love ,fake expression i have done everything but nothing worked,still treat me like a trash why to entertain someone else by wasting your precious time? Now I work on myself by earning money, learn skills,grow in life. My goal is to make my house as early as possible I have seen poor family guy doing good just because his parents are like God they are doing good parenting, support the child financially,give child comfort for mind and do everything for growth of life.even they are not very educated. That is blissful environment I have seen just because of parents child got many skills good communication in English, confidence in his/her knowledge now they are doing in life . Poor guy bhi boys/girls bhi bahut jaldi rich financially+ academically ho jate hai just because of good parenting or parents support. My soul just frustrated now to entertain this kind of garbage people
When children fails in career....there is saying in society " humara baccha kuch nahi kar paaya" or " humara baccha nalayak nikal gaya" But there are many parents who are a big failure in their own responsibilities like timely marriage of their children or neither serious about their career Now society is silent on those issues Biggest culprit are the parents of this era Ex - girls of this era who are bring up by their mother that she is not meant for household as she is qualified enough Western culture is not acceptable by heart by Indians And harsh truth is that we are dependent mostly on foreign jobs In nutshell India is achieving nothing but loose their precious culture
Main itni trauma me hun mere sath kya kya ho rha h parents ko kuchh nhi pta ...din rat bas bolte rehte the ki tum kuchh nahi kar paogi ..hum subah uthate hi the aur vo dono bolne lagte the ki ye itna der soti h kya hi kar payegi ..aur ab sach mein hmko bhi sun sun ke lag rha h ki sach me main kuchh nahi kar paungi ..bas das baar yahi bolna h unlog ko ki tum hmlog ka ijjat nahi karti ho ..mere kismat me bhagwan tumko kyun likhe the ..aisa bolti h meri mummy AajTak hmko ye nhi pta ki asli maa baap ka pyar kaisa hota hoga
Have faith jn urself.. detach urself ..jus think about urself .. and ur growth .. apne ko pyaar karo ..jab paaisa aayega sab Tameem se bolenge ..tb takk ke lie keep patience and work hard because keep this in mind that u can do it
Haa...aisi psychology jo daily life chalane me bahut jaroori hain sir ke videos sabko dekhna chahiyen. Log job paa lete hain...paise aa jaate...marriage bhi ho jaati hai..but family ke kuch logo ke galat behavior ke karan pura pariwar dookhi rehta hai
Sir... sir... aapke videos 95% reality matching hote hai and ye kaafi balance vali batein kahi aapne or last ke 1 min me jo current respect ki definition hai uski ekdum dhajjiya udai hai aapne hats off...
How to deal with abusive parents? Specially with sex offenders ? It’s a sensitive topic but as a counsellor I see a surge in such cases of trauma and confusion amongst women. Plz make a video sir.
Eminently sensible advice.Generally parents equate respect from children as following every stupid notion of their's. In such a scenario, it is best to discard respect and seek & give unconditional love to children. Get down from the pedestal and share your blunders and stupidities with them. Give less advice, if any. Let them talk their hearts desires and tribulations without fearing judgement. Become their friend. Have fun & frolic. That is the way to go in the new year.
My father use to beat me and my sibling and one day when i was in school a friend of his came to our home during the diwali festival and they were discussing about their childhood that when my grandfather used to slap or sat something to my father, my father used to feel so bad and he told to his friend ( Uncle ji) that one day when my father was in 12th standard and my father did some mistake, my grandfather slapped him and he told the uncle ji that he didn't talk to my Grandfather for some months but he forgot that he also beat me and my sibling, it means we didn't feel bad?? Ofcourse yes we also used to feel so bad and i think bcz of these small things he lost the love, the respect and other things from our side and now we rarely talk to him. So as Amit ji said If you( as parents feel bad) we the children also feel bad. Express the feelings, the love, and involve, understand your children. If respect will be given to others, then naturally you will also get respect. 😊
Sir , u shall receive lot of resentment from older generation, but we youngsters agree with u , but very small chance parents will change their thought process
should we respect our parents? Now I relinquished house live somewhere on rent. I stopped convenience them respect,love ,fake expression i have done everything but nothing worked,still treat me like a trash why to entertain someone else by wasting your precious time? Now I work on myself by earning money, learn skills,grow in life. My goal is to make my house as early as possible I have seen poor family guy doing good just because his parents are like God they are doing good parenting, support the child financially,give child comfort for mind and do everything for growth of life.even they are not very educated. That is blissful environment I have seen just because of parents child got many skills good communication in English, confidence in his/her knowledge now they are doing in life . Poor guy bhi boys/girls bhi bahut jaldi rich financially+ academically ho jate hai just because of good parenting or parents support. My soul just frustrated now to entertain this kind of garbage people
Sir , Namaskar 🙏 This subject is very very important were every parents must adopt and every CHILDRENS should follow each and every advices and guidelines given by our beloved guruji and we all need to admire his intentions which are very simple and practicle , If this is not implimented and adopted the result will be painful that both parents and childrens have to experience and suffer. Sir , we request. Yourself to bring Part-2 of this episode still deeper with different dimentions..Its a request. Jai Shree Ram 🙏
Aaj tak Jeevan mein Har koi raaste se bhatkaane wale mile. .ek Pehle aap he Jo sahi disha Dikha rhe he...wo bhi niswaarth...selfless.... Bhagwat se prarthna krti thi. .koi margdarshak ho ...or aapka channel gaya saamne ....pranaam aapko.
Sir, i never seen the points you are making in any podcast, lakh lakh Naman....ankhe kholne ke liye. FYI....my father making lot of losses, never listened to us....ab baat hi nahi karta
Amitji, Amazing points put, very rightly said every word, let's exchange the words love and respect in their contexts, will lead to healthier families around 👍👍👍
Bilkul sahi kaha hai Sir! Bahut baar parents ko khud bhi kuch nahi pata hota woh doosre logo ko dekhkar ya unki baat sunkar ulti seedhi advice dene lagte hain aur zabardasti chahte hain k bacche wahi karein jo woh keh rahe hain.
