Sir, You are the only person on the earth who has the guts to show mirror to people with double standard,people intentionally or unintentionally are doing the same mistakes.
All girls who r capable should fight for their rights . Remember U r not against ur brothers but u are paving ways of equal right for ur brothers' daughters.
@THE ZOLDICS parents spent all most same expenditure to both gender..so..if they spent on dowary..they equally paid as gifts..to there daughter in law..in fact they will pay more to daughter in law by giving support in many ways...so no complaint...thanks
@THE ZOLDICS all should b fairly calculated ..... for both. very small calculation ... isn't it ? Dowry exits because girls do not get their share of heritage.
This is mostly impossible for most women as men in India are not so understanding it will make the relationship between her and her father/brother really bad when they face each other in court and in Indian mentality image and responsibility is only considered to be on women's shoulders.This is why women don't go to court.
I am lucky that my parents divided property equally among son and daughter. And even after marriage I live with my husband and kid in my ancestral home. My brother has no issues with it and my in-laws are very supportive to taking care of my parents responsibility during their last days.
It's good that parents divided property equally among son and daughter. Real question is that the daughter who received property from her parents ensured that her in laws property also got divided amou her husband's siblings 😂
Sir, I am 35 year old lady, last month my mother asked me to sign NOC on ancestor property.. It was so sudden I didn't have time to think. I signed and felt hurt. Though my brother was against it. But still .. Papers were signed.. it was so shocking, I never wanted anything from the property but the mere satisfaction of calling that my own home.. Now it feels like I don't have a father's home anymore..
I always wondered why senior citizens are not happy in this society, this video has given insight to what's happening in almost all the families. You have really hit the nail in the coffin 🙏
Very true. When parents discriminate on the basis of financial conditions of their children and give more to the weaker one it creates misunderstandings and harsh feelings towards parents. It should be divided equally.
As a jaat girl, I'm also facing this.In each conversation since childhood we r conditioned that girls who demand property share are bad girls.But after marriage we don't get anything in sasural readily or have to wait till your partner passes away( which is very unfortunate in itself). Ab bad daughter bhi nahi ban sakte but rights ke liye nahi khade ho pane n rishton ko khone ka dard pareshan karta hai. Kash Hume school bhejte hue parents ye na bolte ki tumme aur tumhare Bhai me hum koi farak nahi karte, tum dono barabar ho, kyunki hum kabhi barabar the hi nahi, na kabhi honge
Husband mostly in our culture take descision regarding purchase or sale of property on his own or with his parental family, wives are not included in such practice, even if she is contributing financially, isiliye lagta hai- har jagah dhokha hai apna ghar Kahan hai
At 37 years of age I bought my own apartment with hard money and lots of struggle. When I moved here with my daughter, first time in my life I realized what is the meaning of home..
Sir let me tell you case of my family My grandparents (both alive) has 5 children(2son ,3daughters) My father started job at 18 but my uncle died at age of 30. He died unemployed. My grandparents spend all his wealth on marriages their daughters include selling of plot which purchase in their fertile time besides give more preference to my late uncle thinking my dad to be worthless but the contrary my fathers also handover all his savings from time to time(ie FD maturity and so on). My father is now left with no wealth neither purchse any land to fulfill my grandparents lavish endeavours. However my grandparent has their own house but we don’t. For now we are staying with them. Now the dynamics is like My father feed my grandparents And in exchange grandparents let us allow to live in their house. The sad part is that my father were able to create much wealth but due to his soft corner he let them all his money to grandparents and they foolishly spend and now say “we don’t aware of any money my father gave to them” Sir This my longest comment ever . One thing I must say your every suggestion and point raise is too the point. I really feel blessed to get such learning in my early 30s.
I was planning to show this video to all the oldies of my house......fir socha gallian to fir mujhe e pdni hai.....kahenge aya bda hmko sikhayenge ab ye
Bold decision to make a video on this bitter truth. Most of the elders above 60 will not accept but actually they are doing it. Thank you Sir. Keep guiding us all
Correct, that's exactly what most parents do; comparison, divide and rule, play dirty games, manipulation and abuse. My parents have treated me so selfishly and taken advantage of my kindness that I am shocked they have no self-respect. After going above and beyond, and providing for them financially, they still compare and had the nerve to say that they made a mistake by giving birth to a daughter. As a result, I have developed hatred and resentment for my parents. They now talk about give me a share of their little property but honestly I don't want it because I don't want to feel obligated to do anything for them in the future. Most Indian parents don't realize that they are their own enemies and the damage they cause to their children will have consequences.
Sir, agreed that the girl should get equal share of property and law is also there. But nobody talks out sharing of parental responsibilities for example in a family there are three brothers one is married ,two unmarried studying in the college and two married sisters. Situation developed parents fell sick and died after hospitalition. The expdr on treatment and all ceremonies linked with parents generally is borne by the son. In this case the eldest married one. After that brothers studies and their marriage responsibility also fall upon him. Society does not expect sharing of this by sisters. And later also all familial social responsibilities also borne by the son only. If the girls deserve equal share in parental property then she should also share these responsibilities. But nobody talks about it F
You being a son can claim your parents bank balance and their regular income that is enough for their care.. here the point is avout fixed assets that are supposed to be divided equally.
Yes sir u are right mare papa to betao ko hi respect karte h beti ko kuch nh diya bus achi shaadi kar di ab bete rakh nh rahe mare pass aa nh sakte kyounki beto ko sab kuch divide kr diy a soch soch kar mari health bhi theek nh rahti
My father has been no more since..2022 ... property is in My name only because I have to pay a loan emi of 60 since 2019...same type 2 Bhai ek behen....saari log ek khatta hokar...mujse gift deed maang rahi hain...is mein bhi favourite chal rahi hai..1aur property bhi hain woh papa ke naam par hain....maa abhi deed maang raha hi hai...Sab property ki..
You are so true and honest. My in laws have sowed the seeds of bitterness between my husband and his brother only to favour and elevate my jeth's economic conditions. It's is bitter truth of society that younger generation is more mature , understanding and empathetic than the older one. Sometimes I realize that our older ones are more kalashi/ kalesh premi and they poison the relationship equation of younger siblings.
Jeevan ki Sacchai hai Apki baaton mein sir... Wisdom ain't Correlated with Age, Sometimes elders too create blunders, which could have been easily avoided by clear thinking and sense of Justice & Equality among kids... But still Koi na... Upar wala sako de & Sabka bhala ho... 🙏🙏🙏
Sir last concept I totally agree with you even in my family same thing happened to us . property distribution was improper by parents n younger brother of my husband inherited most part of property so there's all time bitterness in relationship of them.
Very good topic sir ,nobody wants to discuss on this aur ye ekdum sahi hai ki parents hamesha apne do beto ke beech barabari karne ki koshish karte rahte hai ye keh kr ki tumahare pass tih sari facilities hai uss bichare ke pass nhi hai hume ysse support karna chahiye aur agar hum ye baat kh de ki aap hamesha uska side lete ho toh hum hi bure ban hatehai. Aaj ke parents ye family politics toh acche se khel rahe hain apne kgud ke fhar mein but wo ye kabhi nhi sochte ki humare samay mein hamara kya hoga inke pass toh do teen bachhe hai politics karne ke liye but humare time mein toh ek hi bachha hoga aur agar woh bhi parents ko chod kr chala jayega toh ,aur waise bhi aaj kl ki jo generation aa rhi hai sabko pehle se hi mentally prepared ho jana chahiye aane wale samay ke liye ki hume khus hi apna khayal rakhna hai,aur agar sab iss tarah sochne lge toh aadhi problm aise hi sopve ho jayegi ,zyada expectations krne se khud ko hi problm hoti hai,aur property matter ko le kr politics krna bahut hi galat hai.
Hats off to your guts sir! These videos are actually need of the hour. People feel if the daughter is claiming for her right, she is greedy, she don't care for her brother, she will not be welcomed in her "maayka" i. e.father's/ brother's house. These kind of mind set needs to be changed. And boy's mindset can be changed only if parents believe that all their kids are equal in every aspect. Thank you for your contribution!
Grate job sir , this is real problem of society, this is the reason girls suffer in-laws place but boys never suffer. Parents need to treat equally for both girls and boys.
Actually son maintains parents daughters don't maintain old parents this is the reason parents give property to son then daughter ..This is the law sirji if daughter wants half share in fathers property she has to maintain or share parents expenditure 🙏...then she can claim from father 🙏 ..marriage expenses are same for boy or girl for parents ... 🙏
I am a daughter having only one brother and no sister but my father did not give me a single penny in his will although I was only 26 years old when he died and mother had already passed away
It's the preconditioning of our family system that actually ruins the bond . One has to take the initiative to learn and find out the changes that are much needed. But it's only few who understand them. And when one says it, they are pointed out very badly by all the members of the family.
You are the only person who is making videos on such important topics otherwise RU-vid has billions of videos related to cooking, visiting places etc where millions of people subscribe without much value addition to their life
Very true , I salute you . Kuch father to aise hain agar Betiya apni kidney bhi donate kar de Apne father ke liye phir bhi wo apni property beta ko hi denge or beti ko struggle karne ke liye chor denge or kahenge ki tumari kismat hai kya kare .
14.37 point se jo point aapne bola hai.That mentality of parents has been an age old problem with parents through many generations which is the seed of dispute on all families.I have seen this from my grandparents s generation and continue to see this even now around me in many families.
As funny as it sounds, my in laws are more concerned about their daughter coz she stays in france and is super successful as compared to their only son as per their logic. And my husband is quiet and is not concerned about our child's future.
