What Are Healthy Coping Skills?  

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All coping mechanisms can be unhealthy if done badly enough. But some are naturally more healthy than others.

Im all for people getting pets as long as they treat them like their children and not like toys

My bunny gives me a reason to wake up and maintain a consistent schedule.

So happy to see this. Thank you Dr. K ;)

very emotional music like heavy metal is something i often listen to to cope. it really helps me release it all.

Pets are great, our cats have helped me so much. Especially being in a relationship where we have different needs for touch, having a cat that is almost always willing to snuggle (and sometimes quite insistent upon it even when I'm not) has been such a massive boon to my life. The one concern I have is when people are unable to do basic care tasks for themselves, they might end up neglecting their pet. But this just means you should be mindful of what pet you get to make sure you're comfortable with handling their care needs.

The title of the short combined with the thumbnail that just says "alcohol" is perfect

Getting a cat greatly reduced my chronic anxiety almost instantly. Can recommend!

My dog has saved me from the brink more than once. Long enough for me to start getting therapy and working through my mental health in healthier ways than I had been.

I recently got a gf whom I met in person but lives far away. It sounds cliche but playing guitar really helped me get my emotions out when she was gone and I was trying (and failing) to bottle it up. Especially when I could do it over the phone to her.

I totally felt the pet one, I have dealt with depression my whole life and once I had to take care of a baby bird that fell from a tree and wow, I felt like I had a purpose in life I would wake up early eager to take care of him, unfortunately he flew away when he reached adulthood and I still miss him so much...

My cat saved My life. He’s been immensely helpful to my mental health and even to my family. My mom just yesterday told me my cat made her day just because he came out of hiding and was letting my parents pet him. (He’s a shy boy)

This checks out. During the worst of my physical and mental disability days, what got me up in the morning was taking care of my tree frogs, gecko, and bearded dragon.

Gamer bad: cat lady good.

I know multiple people who have been saved by their relationship with their pets. I also know one who, tragically, followed their dog after it passed. Please seek help even if your pet is helping you get by.

Spending money makes me feel better! But I didn't get employed last 7 months, so no serotonin for me I guess

I guess its a good thing that im a professional dog walker

Please make sure you’re able to care for pets and understand financial needs they will need through out their life before you get them for your own need. They need you too and only have you to lean on.

nature. hobbies. And meditation is the most powerful thing. It is like giving yourself therpy. But problem is people dont know what meditation is. They think it is clearing your mind. You gottan know what you are trying to work on and why and then find the specific meditation skills for that and practice those. You need to have a great insight of what you are actually dealong with to start healing it on your on. Its DYI for your brain. But it is not for everyone. Most people need to be guided through thrapists and meditation experts.

I use to be in a really shitty living situation and I often contemplated suicide. I never really had a thing for pets either they just seemed like to much responsibility for me at the time but one day my mom left a cat at the house and told me to watch her or she would die lol. That cat has kept me from going off in the deep end and saved me so many times I couldn't imagine my life without her.

Not me drinking to cope rn while watching this. Very true about the pet thing.

Just make sure you are actually in a good spot to take care of them and meet their needs more than the basics of just food and water. I didnt think of that when i got mine as a puppy and i worry that i messed the poor boy up by not being able to do more than just cover the basics of survival. I cant speak to others but both dogs and cats are complex beings that require enrichment and true dedication. Please take good GOOD care of your little fur buddies, they really deserve it

Fulfilling job, rest, friends, activities for health are the best coping mechanism. I don't even know which one is top one

The things that truly made a difference were my animals, exercise/eating well, natural supplements, knowing yourself, and I mean every little thing, trauma, patterns, taking a hard look at yourself, what you think, what you consume, the people you're around, what triggers you, limiting beliefs etc. All of it. You have to know. So that you can identify what's making you use unhealthy coping mechanisms. And then comes the hard part, taking action.

Thank you thank you Dr K now I want to buy an albino crocodile

I know for me the things that help me are the very things that are hard to do at first or I have a hard time wanting to do or setting up a routine to do it. Like waling everyday has honestly brought so much into my life! It helps me think and also helps me focus on a goal. And then in the evenings reading instead of mindless shows I used to watch has helped me a lot!

My mental health started to improve a lot as soons as I started working as a petsitter, since I couldn't (and still can't) afford to have one of my own. I like dogs, but cats are my favorites. I had one when I was a child, he just showed up at my house someday, he stayed because of my sister and me, he would go around the neighborhood when we'd leave for school and then come back when we'd arrive. I learned his cat language and the meaning of his vocalizations. He was a really good kitten, I was shocked when I found out about the negative stereotypes about cats, because none of that ever happened to me. I have interacted with lots of cats throughout my life, literally none of them tried to hurt me or acted cold around me. Cats have their own habits and personalities, and they have an unique way of making us feel special. If you want a pet but don't have lots of money, a cat is a good choice, since they bathe themselves. Just keep them indoors and use some catification (watch Jackson Galaxy's videos for more).

Pets arent people and not human! But they deserve respect, in that you have to take care of em, and can be a loved and loving part of your family nontheless!

My cat keeps the mean voices at bay🥲

How come games are considered an unhealthy coping mechanism? Is it just if you play them too much?

Holy moley my two favorite youtube therapy channels

Responsibility for my two cats saved me over twenty years ago.

the cat that loved me more than anythihng in the world.....if i got up and go to my bed and shes not asleep she would always get up and lay next to my head. i was so self aware of her needing food that when i was dead asleep on medication her head butting my rubbing my should with her head would wake me up from a dead sleep. the cat had an easier time to wake me up than a person. she lived way past the time she should have died.......when she died she still tried to hang on to living as she beame nearly paralyzed and lose of function and when i touched her u could still she her trying hard to give me any type of movement to show me.......we couldnt find a vet thaty would take her to put her down because they were either all booked or was like maybe after closing time we could at 8 am in thew morning. called 10+ vets. i hated those 2 last days of her life more than more os the thing thats happened to me.. she did help me stay sane and i realized it even more when she was gone. i have other cats i love but she was just so different. she died last year..... she slept next to my head for nearly decade when ever i was at home she would be there next to me when i woke up or just laid down because i needed to she was there.

Having pets are always a W

I do compulsive masturbation, escapism like drowning in work, playing games that get my mind out of there, maladaptive daydreaming, writing poetry and music. These aren't working the best so I'm thinking of trying alchohol. I don't think the "healthy" coping mechanisms are strong enough for my sanity. I don't even know if I should keep going. Might just end it all but the only thought that's keeping me on is the desire and dream of success and the power to control people and abuse my power to let on the cycle of hatred

Imagine telling people Lego Star Wars is an unhealthy coping mechanism on par with substance abuse. Clown shoes moment.

My dog helped me so much. He died, and now my partner doesn't want me to get another dog. I'm fading

Pets are going to be required to get us to Mars and staying on Mars without going insane.

the only things that are strong enough to help me cope are substances of abuse

Do you know how to get there? Is not easy to, have tried but couldn't isolate what went wrong

Pets cost money to keep them happy healthy and safe, a LOT of money if they fall ill, or when you need a pet sitter because you cannot take them with you when you need to be elsewhere ✌️

People can be great, but animals are much more reliably attentive and are harder to perceive as judgmental.

Is love an unhealthy coping mechanism? - no Good, cause I fooking looooove cocaine.

Man’s really just said video games are an unhealthy coping mechanism, if done in moderation video games are a healthy coping mechanism, it all depends on how u approach things, hell even alcohol can be a healthy coping mechanism if done properly. For example there are people that turn to video games to destress or to have fun with friends or to mentally challenge oneself, 10 hr a day sessions are bad but realistically if u r playing with ur dog for 10 hrs a day that’s equally bad so assuming misuse isn’t really valid here, and as for alcohol I know many people who become mixologists and dedicate tons of time studying different drinks and trying new flavors and that is a healthy way to experience and use alcohol as a coping mechanism because it’s only unhealthy if abused you should never just toss coping mechanisms into the unhealthy category because they can be misused you should indicate that they are often misused tho

I initially wrote a long thing about games and porn before I realized I was triggered and the context is COPING SKILLS. Games and porn are only good within the context of being fantasy and a fun and limited accoutrement to a broader life. Friends as a coping mechanism isn't great though because some of us aren't lucky enough to have good friends or a great understanding of ourselves, hence why they may be subscribed :p The only true coping mechanism is self knowledge. Ps: I love that you're speaking with other pros in your field, and pros in general!

The phrasing is a bit confusing. Is leaning on people for social support a healthy or unhealthy coping mechanism?

I depends how are you doing with your illnesses. My cat became depressed too and died due to cancer. If I was healthy, I could've offered her a better life and ended her sooner. Instead I held her alive too long suffering and neglected her like my mom did to me.

For me it's my plants. 😅

Do it for them

Huh, no wonder my mental health deteriorated after 2016. Dog died that year.

👁️‍🗨️ Heard a good one is making up an alternate reality and version of friends in your head to return to in sleep. Repress those bad memories and don’t let anyone know. Make sure to stay in isolation for years too! 👍 [Joke Reference]

Just don't get a puppy that isn't potty trained. That can be a nightmare if you're not ready for it

I do not agree with coping through a companion animal. They are beings, not tools for getting us through a challenging situation.

What about shutting down?

Shout out to my goldfish

IF COPING DOESN'T WORK COPE HARDER THARS WHAT I DO

Saying that videogames are unhealthy as a basic idea is... simply wrong. It depends. Otherwise board games are the same. Watching a movie. Reading a comic book. All of this is bad. But playing a game with a friend? relaxing and unwind enjoying a good narrative? why not?

Why is gaming worse than meditating it keeps me from killing myself just as much I think.

Why are video games not considered a good coping mechanism? Genuinely asking.

I agree with a lot of what he says but how is video games an unhealthy coping mechanism

Dr K is changing my gender a healthy coping skill?

I am so lonely I need to look for some love. Not in the wrong places. I'm so lonely, why would someone make me this lonely😢😢😢

How are video games unhealthy?

i just inhale copium

Tfw no social support

,,How do you deal with stress?" I pray to Jesus Christ of Nazareth 🍷🗿☦️✝️

Lol poor animals. Lots of people are abusive to themselves and subconciously are abusive to the animals.

the thumbnail: "alcohol" lmaooo (dont listen to this comment)

This one was actually stupid lol yea just get a pet let them be stuck with the human who can't take care of themselves

i can't trust this advice. animals and meditation cause me anxiety.

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these arent as fun though

hey, at least I don't drink!

She's not paying attention to you

It's true. I got my cat because i knew i wouldn't be able to abandon her by killing myself. She's the only reason i live. She's amazing. Love you floof!