What Clothing Should I Bring for my Dead Loved One for Burial? - Just Give Me 2 Minutes 

Thanks for clearing that up Kari! I struggle everyday with the question: "Should I wear pants today?" Well, at least today that made it easier! 🤣😍😁

Hi Kari! I just want you to know that I'm so thankful for you and other people like you that take care of our loved ones with such respect and dignity. Also, by educating the public about what you do, I know for me, it has helped in my healing with the loss of my husband. God bless you, sweet lady. I know you've had a rough year and I wish you peace, health and happiness for 2022 💖🙏💖

There's also an incision for the embalming. I found this out when I brought a beautiful outfit for my mom in her favorite color of blue. But instead of saying no they made it work, by putting it higher up and drapping it a certain way. I was quite impressed and she looked lovely.

When my mom passed away, the funeral home was wonderful about letting her wear her most beautiful outfit. It was a black and shiny silver formal outfit. It had short sleeves and her arms were beautiful in it. Fortunately, she didn't have any marks or bruising. Her silver hair matched her outfit perfectly.

We buried my Dad in his dress green Army uniform. When I took everything to the funeral home I had an awful panic attack because we had forgotten his underwear. Thankfully the funeral home director helped calm me down and told me they kept new underwear on hand just for that reason. Dad had a heart attack and I spent 4 days in the hospital with him and refused to leave him or my Mom. I was going on about a week of no sleep. I’m so thankful he put his uniform together with all his medals etc. I stared at them hanging in the closet of my now room for many years knowing that the next time he would wear them would be his last time. Thank you for doing this video. It helps so much to be prepared. Daddy’s funeral was pre planned. All I had to do was add music and write his obituary

I remember picking my Grandpa's suit, shirt & tie, mainly because I just needed to get away from everyone for a few minutes to absorb & start to process everything that was going on (prolonged illness & he passed at home, that will be 30 years January 2nd). Mom, Grandma & one of my aunts came in, agreed with what I had chosen then pulled out his watch, underwear/socks & wondered if they needed shoes or not... Of course with Mom, we took up her dress but forgot the underwear, apparently, the funeral director said that if they don't have underpants, they will just use depends under the clothes. This is why it would be a good idea for funeral directors to leave a card with the families when they do removals listing what to bring with them to the funeral home when they come to make arrangements if they're planning on having a viewing because with my father in law, I called & asked 'what do we need to bring with' & wrote it down as the secretary told me.

You are funny sometimes, I know that you are ask such simple questions, but I’m sure it’s no surprise. There are people that just don’t know and maybe haven’t experienced a death that they have to bring in the clothes. I got the clothes for my mom and sister, I even ironed the outfit for my mom. I picked out jeans, long sleeve shirt and her biker vest for my sister. My sister was a victim of domestic violence and with all the trauma she had, she had the plastic undergarments on. I truly love your videos and it has help me to make a decision on what I want for myself at the time of death.

One of my favorites. Yes you need pants!!!!! My brother was a Type2 Diabetic for 35 of his 53 years. He had to wear a prosthetic shoe because of part of his heal was removed. We got Jerry’s clothing to take to the funeral home but I refused to take those shoes. He had to wear them when alive but not in death. Keep up your great work! We love all of your videos!

I've noticed a remarkable change in how families want to have their loved ones dressed. 50 years ago, men were dressed in suits & women in fancy dresses. I would inform them that short sleeve or spaghetti strap gowns exposed too much & that high neck dresses, blouses, & shirts would look better. FH's would offer burial shrouds (open back gowns & suits) for sale for families whom didn't have the time to shop. Whenever full couch caskets were selected, I would ask families to bring shoes, panty hose & socks since the entire body is usually on display. Today I'm seeing more people dressed in T-shirts, basketball/football jerseys & ball caps. Nose & lip rings are becoming more popular for those with multiple piercings. Styles & trends have changed.

I loved the outfit me and my aunt picked out for my mommy! She looked like she was going to a party! All she was missing was a clutch purse! She looked absolutely beautiful in it! The funeral home staff did a great job on her! Me and my brother kept whispering to eachother “She looks good!” The magic these funeral staff can work! We forgot the bra and panties for my mom but they had us covered!

Hi Kari! Could you do a video more on caskets or “casket shopping”? Take us through the showroom show different models and prices, legacy boxes and tubes ets. How they lock, the gasket/no gasket controversy, handles , hardware etc. Mattress, pillows, blankets, just run the gambit if you could.Caskets can be works of art and I don’t know if enough time is spent on them especially since we only see them maybe 2 days and it’s taboo to start examining it during a viewing lol. Thanks Kari! If anyone likes this idea give a thumbs up to show Kari we are interested!

When my best friend passed away, the shirt that brought up to the funeral home for her, was somewhat see-through a little bit. You could see the bandage from the autopsy underneath it. The funeral home never said anything about it. I kind of wish they would have that way her shirt could have been changed.

I have a sad story. When my Dad's biological mom passed away the funeral home told the family that they needed to take the dirty clothes they brought up there back home and bring her clean clothes to be buried in. The same thing happened when his bio sister died. I'm blessed my Dad was raised better.

Hi kari.....we put my brother in a steeler jersey and our director loved the sweatpants......easy up.....anything goes today........Kari, a very merry Christmas to you and hubby and the girls and your entire family😁😁😁 GANG PRE PLAN WHEN YOU CAN......Merry Christmas to all the subscribers😄

Absolutely! This was an easy to the point explanation of why some garments are needed. I could go into details, but you've kept it very concise and to the point.

Thank you for the wonderful info!👍🏼 As always, very informative and necessary! Happy Holidays! Take care, be well, stay Safe! 😷🦋❤️🙏🏼

My dad always wore bib overalls and flannel shirts. So when he passed and we where going through his cloths to find something for him to wear when we got to the overalls that’s what’s we picked. He had a snotty sister who we knew we would have an issue with so on the day of the funeral I went straight up to her and told her what we did and nipped it in the bud. No issues then. He looked like himself and that’s what we knew he would have wanted.

Interesting behind the scenes details. Great video!

When my mom passed last Jan I was asked to bring clothes and bra and underpants. I gave her mine as couldn’t get in senior living as quarantine for Covid. I also have her a dress I had never used that I bought for my daughters wedding. It was teal lace and lovely. She looked beautiful. It had 3/4 sleeves and her arms were swollen but not hands? I didn’t think of sleeve length. I did notice neck of dress was pulled up more also. Did a lovely job on hair and nails all free of charge since I didn’t see my Mom during her ten months on hospice due to Covid regulations in senior living. Forever indebted to funeral home for kind care to mom and us

You make the process very understandable and you add kindness and compassion. I lost my mom December 15 and death is so mysterious and frightening. Thank you for easing my concerns and fears. I really enjoy your videos (considering the subject matter!) Thank you.

Awesome video and yes that top portion is long and A LOT can be seen!!! P.S. PLEASE bring pants!!!! 😊😊❤❤

I don't know why, but the country song from the late Joe Diffie comes to mind. "Prop me up beside the jukebox if I die" "Fill my boots up with sand, put a stiff drink in my hand"

Thank you Kari......have a Blessed holiday.

Hi Kari , you could do an entire video on different styles of dress and some dressing situations that stand out to you---and all different customs ---Merry Christmas --Happy New Year to you and your girls--and please stay safe and healthy.....!

Great info Kari

Good morning 🌄🌞 and merry Christmas 🌲⛄ and I hope you have a wonderful new year

Another good video. When my Mom passed we had no viewing. She was wrapped in a blanket like a baby. She looked wonderful when my aunt and myself requested to see her when we were making funeral plans.

Thanks and right to the point. The only time I have seen a full body viewing was when a priest is laid out and pope John Paul ll

Very useful information.

Absolutely beautiful!! 🤗

I don't want to wear shoes for eternity. I'm not going anywhere, so shoes would be goofy, and everybody knows I'm normally barefoot in most warm months. I noted that on my "Open When I Die" list. (See Kari's video titled "Open When I Die", from about 10 months ago.)

I love to sleep in my underwear because I have hot flashes, once my viewing is over and before I go in the ground, once nobody is looking, can I be stripped down 😆. I'm claustrophobic and I hate sleeping dressed so being buried terrifies me.

Good morning Kari, it’s so fun to catch you live. Can you tell me how to handle family members who might not agree with what final arrangements I might want?

Merry Christmas

*NO BRA!* Best news I've heard all day!!!

Merry Christmas Kari

Our grandmother shown us the dress to be buried in. We were young, about age 14. 48yrs before she died.

I went to a visitation of a friend and his shirt was untucked. Probably not a big deal but he looked strange to me because he always tucked his shirt it. I mentioned it to his his widow and she called the funeral home and they fixed it. Funny how little things like that can make a huge difference.

Can we talk about the different types of shrouds

When my mom died my sister and I went to Mom's closet to pick out her clothes. We picked about 4 dresses before we found one that was clean (the others had been put away dirty). So it ended up being one she wore but didn't like much due to the colours. Then we couldn't find a bra for her but found a slip. We figured pantyhose didn't matter and totally forgot about panties! And trying to find shoes that weren't falling apart was impossible so she got to be buried in her slippers. Totally forgot to send her favourite lipstick but sent a photo so at least the mortician had an idea how to do her hair and makeup. Sometimes it's a struggle.

My sister was pissed cause my dad gave the funeral home a outfit OTHER than what my mom had requested her to be buried in, I was sorta in a daze so such wasn't a concern for me but the outfit he picked was a little LOUD in colors for a burial

Very helpful

Hi Kari - thank you for the great videos - you do a great job presenting interesting information on a topic I must admit still creeps me out a bit...and I'm 68 😊 Thought you might get a chuckle from what happened when my dad passed. It may seem disrespectful to some but that was never the intent - we had to work with what we had...and I still think my father got a kick out of it because he was always joking, making off the cuff remarks that would send me into fits of laughter - a lot I still laugh at to this day. So my mother decided to not have a viewing for my dad (just being honest - that was honestly a huge relief for me anyway). So we pick out clothing - suit, shirt, etc. - everything we thought was needed - and sent it off to the funeral home. My mother always liked to keep busy so we went ahead and gathered his clothes and donated them. The day before my dad's funeral the Funeral Director called and said they needed pants (trousers). When we sent the suit - we thought there were pants on the hanger along with the jacket...but no - we didn't realize that. We had to think fast - no time to shop. I produced a pair of clean jeans from my suitcase - my dad was smaller than me so we knew they would fit and took them to the funeral home. So my beloved Daddy has pants and is resting wearing a pair of "Just My Size" (you know, fluffy girls ' pants) ladies jeans. 😊

That was so cute. “ And we do need pants.”

Hey Kari can you please notify me when you are live i love watching your videos

another great video you do need pants 😂sending a big merry christmas to you,your family

I forgot pants for my moms viewing. I didn’t think about because the curtain. Lol the funeral director called me. I was so embarrassed I didn’t think of it.

A few yrs ago I went to a viewing for my love one and he had short sleeve shirt on

Hi kari good morning you'd think people would just use common sense. That's a beautiful casket

Only delay we had was getting a slightly bigger t-shirt to make life easier, Andrew went in t-shirt, joggers, dressing gown and slippers, t-shirt said I put ketchup on my ketchup. But we had no viewing, that’s very common in uk.

Very informative as always, Thank you. How come sometimes people seem to lay down really low and flat in a casket, and sometimes they seem to be propped up somewhat? IMO the latter looks much better. Is it personal choice? Is the casket bed cranked up less or more? Do they put the head more under the pillow sometimes?

Hello I like this video it is good and interesting four me to watch becouse it is about a bariel.

If anyone buries me without jeans, sneakers, & a W.A.S.P. concert tee... I'll be coming back for them!😁👍 💖 🤘

I live in Kentucky and they made us bring undergarments we had to go buy underwear because my dad was incontinence he hadn't worn underwear for years

I know ALOT of funeral homes here in AL where I am they WILL NOT let u give them used clothing. They require the clothes 2be NEW unless it's a service uniform or school uniform 4a child or teen. Why Is that because I don't see y it would have 2b brand new🤷🏾

Kari or anybody .I know this sounds like a silly Question .I get the cloths and pants thing. But what if they want to use there Birthday Suit instead ?.We where not born with Cloths im sure that's a Sure why not its How he/she rolled. Reminds me of the Song Got to be me .

I have been to viewings where they were wearing just a hospital gown with a blanket over them but they were cremated after not buried.

Hi Kari, and Happy New Year! I'm pre-planning, and I know I want direct cremation. I understand a cardboard box is customary. I bought several (more then 2) meters of pure cotton cloth to be used to cover my body, leaving my face exposed so my adult children can say goodbye. I will discuss this with my funeral home and arrange with them how/who stores the yardage. Have you had any requests like this (A drape or winding sheet instead of clothing)? If so, I'd like to hear about it. I pray your New Year is fulfilling, healthy, and better than last year. I've been there, a single mom with 3 children, ages at the time were 16, 12, and 10. It took a lot of work (and counseling for me) to maintain balance in my life and have a safe space to vent. I'm a grandma now. I do not contact my ex, I've forgiven him & moved on. I promise it gets better with time. I was fortunate to have a great job, and wonderful kids. Take good care of you and your sweet girls. One day at a time, Kari. Hugs from California.

Have you ever had a family bring a kilt for their loved one to wear? And if so, how do you help the decedent put on a garment like that, that wraps around the lower body?

Kari, what if the person wanted to be buried naked and there will be no viewing at all or closed casket? I never thought about that issue until several years ago when my wife and I were having dinner with another couple who were friends of ours. Earlier that day we had gone to a "wake" together and we started talking about such things. The lady said burying corpses in clothes is foolish because it's a waste of clothing and "we all look alike to the worms anyway." She said she was going to be buried that way. we all laughed but she said she was serious. She is a tree-hugger hippie chick but I never thought of it since until I just saw this. Do you ever get requests like that?

I already have my cloths picked out, underclothes socks slippers , sweatpants and a sweatshirt, maybe cremation not sure

My family better remember my boxer shorts & they better color coordinate with whatever suit, shirt & tie that I'm wearing or else somebody is going to be haunted lol 😉

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The funeral home that cared for my Mom insisted I bring her a bra. So I did, but thought it was odd

You made me laugh, thanks.

Fascinating and entertaining (seems strange to say) channel. I just wish you could be a little clearer. Does my loved one need pants? :) Thanks for your videos.

As a ww2 reenactor, youve helped me decide not to be cremated due to my uniform and kit when i pass. However, seriously,- do you think an undertaker would know correctly how to put on my German M-43 uniform and gear according to regulations ?

My FIL was buried in his Superman pajamas.

My uncle’s brother was buried in a racing suit since one of the things he did was racing cars.

well... streaking while dead is out of the question?!?! lolol! what did ray stevens wear? he was the one who performed a song called "The Streak"! never mind I guess he wore pants???

We don't have caskets we have coffins and they are not the same So we do need pants and other garments

Back in the day,deceased were buried in shrouds.Don't know when,who started the change. Much more part of who they are to use their favourite clothes,underwear,socks,shoes,don't you think ... 🙂

Absolutely definitely bury in Long sleeves. I think it looks awful to see someone in the casket in short sleeves. I think it should be a requirement by the funeral home. Just my thoughts.

Is it true,that if clothes are brought that are too small they will cut and let out the garment to fit. If a garment is too big it is taken up with pins?

when my dad passed away we sent with the funeral home a shirt, pants and underwear and they called and requested we bring a pair of socks. I don't understand why the socks?

I have a weird question. After my husband was embalmed and in his casket, when I touched him, his body almost felt like it was full of sand. I know that sounds bizzare, but that's the only way I can think to describe it. Is that normal and if so, why? Thank you 💖🙏🥰

Hi you might not be able to explain to me because I live in UK but when a person is buried and grave digger has filled grave and the grave after a few days has sunk would that mean coffin has collapsed sorry for asking this x

OK I’ve got a strange questions just curious I know you have to have clothes for the viewing but do you have to have clothes when you get buried another word before you get buried can your family take your clothes off where your naked I guess I had a friend asked me that question so I’m just curious

The question should be why wouldn’t you need or put pants on your loved one.

Do u have to buy clothes bigger than them

The. Underwear is a must,tee shirt and panties, I was told it was the law ,in life my daughter wore diapers,I bought pretty pink underwear..with pink tights ..🎀💖🎀💖......

How about religious clothing requirements?

Just leave me in whatever I had on when I pulled the trigger?

If the funeral home supplies clothes does the family get charged

What kind of clothes do you refuse to putt on a body.

I helped the funeral director, apprentice, & I, dressed my Mom. She wore a beautiful black suit/skirt, they said no bra. I put pullups on here knee high nylons, & Packers scuffs, that my siblings never knew were on her. Being a hair stylist, I did her hair. A friend made a satin scarf instead of a blouse. Even without makeup she looked like a queen. I went early as the funeral director had to take her to their other funeral home. The meeting prior to this, was terrible. Youngest sibling paid nothing. 2 were upset as after awhile the funeral home started to add interest. They called & very nicely said they had to. I said, well it's business & of course you should. That was 2013..... No money is ever given for cemetery decor. Needless to say, we don't speak. A lot of Mom's family members are in the same cemetery. I do about 15, grave spots. It's very peaceful & I enjoy doing it. My sweet cousins, prior to spring I ask what colors they want. They always say everything you do is gorgeous, pick whatever you like. They are gracious ladies. Dressing Mom was probably the most peaceful moment I had with her. The funeral director asked if I wanted a photo with her in the prep room. I said yes, not appropriate for a smile. I stood by the cart & just looked at her. It's priceless...... your talks are all great ....

So crazy you even had to explain this to people. 🤣🤣🤣

Why the much higher neckline?

Burial shroud good enough for me. I hate suits.

Me: "I'll wear pants when they're put on my cold dead legs!" Kari: "Yes"

I now know that one must have pants! Has anybody been buried in shorts?

Now I'm going to have nightmares about zombies in their underpants

Hello what istate in america is this video in.

Pants!!!

How did you know my tiktok algorithm gave me a video the other day about someone refusing to bring pants to the funeral home?

when my Mom died this summer , she wanted to be buried in her nightgown. The funeral director insisted that she had to have socks on ,Mom never slept in socks !

SOS - Send Pants!! - SOS

You want to laugh. I hear it in your voice

Who in their right mind would try to bury their family without pants 😞😂

Pants! Pants! Pants, y'all!