Can you recremate someone? Can you cremate two people together? Does a crematory charge more to cremate cremated remains with a body? Kari Northey, a funeral director, explains...
What a cool idea!! My sister and I are in the process of disintering my mom and brother and moving them where we live. They are currently in the same grave, but different vaults. Since my mom is going to need a new casket, we are going to be placing my brother (he was a stillborn) in the same casket as my mom. When I brought this idea up to the funeral director in our state(we will be moving them out of the state where they are currently), he thought this was an absolutely fantastic idea.
I don't see why one would do this when you could just buy a bigger urn and then mix them. For a funeral home to charge for this is outrageous to me. I would like to think they would do the right thing and encourage the family to just co mingle the ashes once the second body is done.
My question is ; why ???? Couldn't you just get cremated and then mix the other remains in with your ashes? I am having a hard time understanding the thought behind this . Something to ponder. 😞😞😞. Enjoyed the video as usual.
It’s ceremonial mainly, similar to how you might want your stillborn son buried with you when you die some people want to go into the retort with someone they hold dear.
Good morning Kari....hey for those who may have teen drivers in the family...please keep them careful when roads are bad or icy....we had 4 teen girls in a car Sunday evening on I 80 not far from me...road was snow covered and slick...the 17 yr old driver lost control and hit a semi , spun around and was hit again by a second semi....2 girls in back seat were killed...other 2 critical....the mother and others were in a second car following behind and witnessed the accident that killed her daughter 😓 truly an unthinkable tragedy.....2 beautiful girls 15 and 16 now in their caskets awaiting burial..... again make sure your teens stay safe in bad weather conditions and hug your kids every day as you never know....thanks....
Laura, exactly what I was thinking. Just add the newly cremated remains to the ones you already have. Just have to select a new bigger container. Why pay the crematory more?
Guess you are right but the whole thing sounds ridiculous to me. We've had people request to put pets/peoples ashes in the casket and also mix two cremains in one urn but never recremate someone with a new cremation!! Two each their own. Hope your new home is coming along as scheduled with all the bad weather we are experiencing.
Have you considered writing a book? I would buy it. I purchased a book that another RU-vidr wrote about the funeral industry. Two actually and they were both really good. You seems very articulate and have a way of explaining things that is easy for people to understand. Maybe if you have the time that's something to consider.😬
limeyosu2000 I love Kaitlyn! She is one of the first Ch. I subscribed to way back when I first got on YT. Love her! Watching her videos lead me here. I read both of her books they're amazing. And hilarious.
Sherri Spicer right? She's got almost 22,000 subscribers. I would buy one. I know it's a lot though. Writing a book isn't an easy thing to do especially if your Time is limited.
@@jessica07xbox Yeah,I just think she's the best n all ways.I would LOOOVE a book from her.I know her x is limited...BUT.....SHE'S the 1 that ruined me.Lol
Maybe I’m not understanding this...why wouldn’t you just place the remains of the first person in with the remains of the second person AFTER the cremation of the second person opposed to recremating them together? Or am I just not understanding?
Hi Kari, I have never thought of that one before, that was a good question for someone to ask about. Hope you have a lovely day. Love from Nancy in Scotland x
I recently heard of a place called memorial mausoleum in Alabama. Apparently, it closed but they left some bodies there. How do things like that happen?
amazing video like always Also I wanted to tell ya my brothers ashes have been put into ink and I got a very small butterfly on my hip I didn't know that was possible then at work I was told you can have tattoos with the ashes. We have lost so many people in the past 5 year's it's been hard but know I have my older brothers ashes with me forever
@@KaritheMortician I paid a total of 250 the tattoo was around 50 and to do the ashes they had to have papers notarized and a doctors office sign off I was healthy enough there is a higher risk of infection. Do you have twitter or a way I can contact you
Hi there Kari . I feature NamUs unidentified cases on my channel . I am really interested in knowing how that is dealt with on the embalming/funeral home side of things ! Love your channel by the way !! ❤️
Another winner Kari:) too much hassle I think....just intermingle cremains in a single larger urn....but I respect wishes of people who want to pursue this....
Very interesting Kari! Ok, now my question is, if I have a green burial, can my cat's creamains be sprinkled in with my body? Sans the urn that their in. No, I don't have plans to be creamated myself. Just wondering...🤔
Wouldn't it be easier to just get a companion urn or make a larger urn to put the remains of both in the same urn. Are there times of putting more than two people in the same urn? I realize it would take a much larger urn, but is this legal?
I'm a little confused. It's my understanding that cremains are basically sterile, and I can spread them in my front yard if I want. So, if my partner wants my cremains included with their body when they are cremated, as long as the Funeral Home knows about it, why would that lead to a double charge. At most they should charge for an extra plastic bag and cardboard box if no other container is provided.
What’s a metal disk? Am I missing something? When you said there will be two metal disks and it’ll raise a red flag. Random thought; can people be buried in their backyard? Are there laws about that? We just had a fence put up and my concern was that when they were digging the fence posts that they would dig too close to our beloved cat who died recently. Then made me think, well what if someone who lived here before us buried someone? FYI fortunately they didn’t dig too close to our cat and he wasn’t disturbed.
Elizabeth M - it’s a metal disk/ID tag that stays with the actual body during cremation, and metal won’t burn. Avoids risk of wrong ashes being given back to loved ones. goo.gl/images/v7zPFv
Wow, never heard of this before. I am going to have my pups ashes with me after death but don't feel a need to have them recremated with me. (Also, happy snowy Tuesday from your tricity neighbor! 😊)
Oh wow, that sounds a bit kinky but hey, guess it should work. Thanks for the video, just wish it was longer than 2 mins, I could listen to you for hours :)
Kari, since this has been brought up, I have a question. In NY, a new law allows your pet to be buried with you (saying here the human is NOT cremated), provided they are cremated first. Never understood this. Since decomp is decomp, why would the dog need to be cremated first? It's not like there is any chance of infection or disease spreading once buried. The 2 bodies will both break down the same. Say I'm 200 and my dog is 100, how would it be any different than burying a 300# person? I'm curious to hear your expertise. Thanks and love your videos. 👍
I'm not Kari but I'd say it's actually not legal for a animal to be buried in cemetery for human remains and also funeral homes and cemeteries don't allow pet remains to be buried together.
@@josephbennett3482 thanks but that's why I asked because NY now allows it, but only after cremation. What's the difference between an ash dog and a whole dog if they're in the same box? That's what I'm trying to understand.
@@Rob-kv1sj I'm guessing that if the human body needs to be exhumed for examination by a medical examiner or death investigation team the casket and body would be contaminated even though the cremated dog is in an urn. Most funeral directors and cemeteries won't allow Human and pet burial because of that.
@@josephbennett3482 thanks, that does make sense. Meaning zero disrespect because I have no idea what your background is, I am hoping Kari will respond also.
@@Rob-kv1sj oh no it's fine your not being disrespectful and also I'm just a normal ordinary person who loves everything about medical or funeral services because I think it's so interesting how the funeral business evolved over the centuries. but I did take a certified nursing assistant course during high school so I did get some experience in the medical field a little. And as for Kari she will respond to you at some point but it might not be for a day or two until she gets a chance , she usually does get back quickly.
I often wondered about that... To each her or his own, but wouldn’t it be more practical after someone has been cremated to just take the other’s cremated remains and mix the two together? You should only have to burn once: twice won’t make you more dead 🤣
Kari addressed this but as someone who dealt with cemeteries for alot of years ....we had a family who had a full casket burial but placed an urn with cremains in the casket....this was on a single grave...we were commissioned to erect a single upright monument with both the name of deceased as well as the name of the cremated deceased....we went to get approval to set the memorial and the cemetery said hold on a minute....they were unaware of the casketed urn....that family had to explain the second name on the memorial and disclose that to them and was charged a double interment in a single grave even though the urn was in the casket ....be wary of how you handle these situations 😀😀😀 btw this was a large corporate cemetery....$$$$ If you plan on placement of a memorial with names of casketed cremains that are buried with your loved ones please check with cemetery on how they treat these as to their policies so you don't get a surprise.....thanks and God bless....
Hmmm that's serious greed!!! Smh. I just read this after commenting on someone else's comment & figured that the cemetery might inquire if you had 2 names on the monument & need paperwork for both the deceased but since it's one plot, one vault & casket there shouldn't be more charges. That's awful to hear
@@MissUnderstood-yi1zm yup....if I ran a cemetery ....I would probably permit it if the family disclosed it to me....to me the money was already made on the interment of the deceased...I find no harm in it but the additional name and dates threw up the flag....set memorials for many years and could tell ya things ya wouldn't believe about some cemeteries 😀 all money driven$$$$$$ shame....
So Kari if my husband dies first and wants to be cremated. I don't..When I die I would want his ashes buried with me. Is that an extra cost to do that? When you said slipping remains in to avoid cost. It just made me wonder what type of cost is involved if you want to do this.
I'm obviously not Kari but I'm pretty certain this is 100% fine to do & no added cost would be incurred. Only difference might be if you wanted to put his name on the headstone too then it might cost more but then I suppose that would raise the question, does the cemetery then need additional paperwork done accounting for his remains along with yours? There would be no need for a double plot or vault so unless there's a documentation fee, I'd think this would be completely doable without charges
The "slipping in" of pet cremains I believe was stated because in some states for some reason, that wasn't considered legal so it was one of those "if we don't see it, we don't know" type of things.
Embalming question - you mentioned in your prep room tour that you shave the faces of everyone so it helps the cosmetics sit better. So what about bearded men? I absolutely love my husbands beard and would be gutted if it had to go 😢
I think technically yes they do if there is any surviving relatives who they need to attempt to contact for the disposal of the remains or for if the person or family owes burial expenses but if they can't reach anyone the funeral home or state will take charge of the remains and dispose of them if nobody can be found.
@@KaritheMortician thanks Kari for backing up my answer to her question , I knew what the requirements are because my family's friend who is a funeral director told me what she is required by law to do with remains , she did my dad's funeral services after his passing on Dec 23 ,2015 I don't know if you remember about me speaking with you about it in one of your past videos.
I can see the loosing a limb but recreamation previous ashes NO. Like why waste money on that. I like other options on just taking the ashes and mixing them together yourself..
Recremated together? Sorry, this is too much togetherness to me. Set the urns together and solve the problem. Or, find a larger container and combine the two. My opinion only.
I am trying to wrap my head around this. As Laura said; “why”? Maybe for partners, to go through the final experience together? I don’t know and I will be contemplating this for a while. Mother with son’s ashes; you put me through hell, now you’ll burn with me? To each their own, I guess.
Just wish to leave the dead alone dont touch them,dont cut them ,burn or whatever else thats done to them. I still believe a person can still feel pain after death. 2nd there has been too many documented reports of people not really dead,yet are pronounced dead, cause they could not feel or hear a faint pulse or heart beat. People have awakened up in a mortuary in a freezer,on the table just before being cut open and buried alive. This just wants me to go hide and die in peace without being touched and buried. We have new medicines doctors and hospitals are using,that have not been thoroughly tested,that if someone had a heart attack or stroke and died,all that meds they put in them,seem to have the capability of bringing them back to life hr or so later. There should be a longer protocol to wait longer before officially declaring them dead. A 48hr wait room to put them in hooked up to heart and brain monitor,to make sure they don't come back to life before heading to the freezer,and getting cut opened for ebalming. Another i think should be done is equipping caskets with wireless ir cameras with audio to monitor incase they come back to life buried underground. Thats the most horrifying thing i fear. Being buried alive.
There are laws in place so that doesn't happen. Where I live the wait time from death to cremation, is two weeks. Forms from doctors, hospital / hospice facility, the state, funeral home, and sometimes the ME must be signed, which takes time. Decedents go to a care center, aka cold storage facility, until time of cremation.
You know, centuries ago, being buried alive was common enough that some towns used to have a room where dead bodies would be put just to wait for some sign of decomposition to start in order to make sure the person in question was really deceased or not. You need to stop thinking of caring for the dead as this violent horror. Watch some more of Kari's videos. There are several great morticians here on RU-vid and instagram. Do you think Kari would ever be violent or violating to a corpse? I don't think anyone here would think so. These people are some of the most kind and compassionate people you could ever know. The reason why those stories of people waking in the morgue or stories of greedy funeral directors make the news is because they are so rare(the news also loves to fill us with fear and disgust so we will stay tuned in). Most people either believe that when our time is up on this earth, our souls leave for a whole new spiritual realm(Heaven, Paradise, etc) or that we don't have souls and it's just lights out. Either way, you probably won't be aware of what is happening with your now useless bag of bones. I believe in having a soul, so when I pass, I'm going to be too busy reuniting with my mom, my grandparents, and my babies whom weren't born alive to care about my body anymore. Death is scary because it's a journey we can't be sure of. But it is a journey we will all have to make. Dont spend your life miserable and in fear of the end. It's a blessing every time you get to see a new day.
Just get embalmed , you won't be buried alive after that.😉😉. Sorry , I shouldn't joke about someone's fears , but it is a little silly. Doctors and nurses and mortician know when people are dead. A camera in the casket ????
