I moved to Atlanta7 years ago. I'm a middle age black man. You are right, feel like I can live my life more free than I ever could at home in St. Louis, MO. I am the black sheep of my family. Most men in my family are in to sports, chasing women, and have only obtained a high school diploma. Several men in my family dropped out of high school. I wanted more out of life, thus I graduated from both college and medical school. I am Board certified physician. I often felt like I had to dumb myself down to fit into my family. I later realized that regardless of what I did they would never accept me. I am glad that I moved to Atlanta. I work at a prominent hospital here, and I am a member of the Gathering Spot. I see lots of straight, educated, single black men here. Good video.
I agree with you when you spoke about having good higher education and your family does not support your education and treat you so badly. I have encountered the same experience from my negative jealous minded siblings. But I keep moving on until I achieve my educational goals. Just remember you will find what you need wherever you move to because God will make sure you
I lived in St. Louis for almost two years and I hated it! I lived in Atlanta for 12yrs had to move and now I’m in Nebraska 😂 making my way back down south! Government job hence I travel…
this is a breath of fresh air. a realistic and practical view from a woman. I love dating in the city, so many beautiful women and I never believed the rhetoric that it's a lot of "city girls" here. I've met so many wholesome black women that aren't like anything the internet describes.
I like your personality and this video. But in terms of statistics, if a man is on the down low, are they going to answer correctly on a survey. Many of these men are in denial. As a result, the data is most definitely skewed...And, I am always skeptical about the results of published stats. Atlanta did not get that reputation for no reason...ijs. But what I got from your video: Keep an open mind and don't give up. And, that is actually a great message.
You said what I came here to say! Those statistics are very off and can’t be taken as fact! Personally I have only live in Atlanta for 5 years and have came across several, hell, a PLETHORA of DL men who only felt safe to tell me because we were in the same spaces in which they knew they were safe in. I’ve seen A LOT! Married men with thriving careers and all, but DL. & as far as the ratio for het-men and het-women being equal, that’s far off too
I usually don’t like the whole parasocial relationship dynamic an audience or individual has with an influencer or celebrity and all that but watching your videos are sooo healing and positive but also humbling and vulnerable (in a good way)- just all in all good, sincere vibes it feels like I’m having a talk or listening to the advice of an older sister I never had. Keep up the work!!
There's a difference between bashing and having a preference. Not wanting a man who has had male partners is a PREFERENCE. But for some reason people are always quick to say someone is bashing or homophobic all because they don't PREFER that in a partner(not saying you were doing this, just saying it occurs). I agree that you should provide an open space for those conversations but then the next question would be how long is he going to have you wait before revealing that? You deserve to not have your time wasted either- so making this clear from the start should also be respected without being accused of being closed minded or bashing.
So many facts stated. I’m with you, I’ve had a pretty good dating experience in atl using the apps as well. I only resonate with masculine straight men. I don’t even think about “down low” men.
I needed this mamas thanks for sharing ❤❤. I literally just got of the phone with a good friend, having a convo of many topics discussed in this video. I needed. Totally mind blown, perfect timing✨
I'm a gay male, but there were so many things mentioned that helped me look at things differently. Love is love, and we all need to be open to learning, discuss our hurts, and work together to progress.
Wow, so much good advice! I love your videos and although I got married at an early age it's nice to hear the perspectives of young ladies as I have a daughter that maturing in this world. I thought your perspectives shed a different light on what I've heard about ATL men. Good luck on your journey and I hope you meet someone as beautiful as you!
@@Jerrard1983 folks not down low in ATL? Come on, it’s literally in the stats. To even think that there isn’t down low men out there is ignorant. Based off your comment I’m assuming you live there so be safe. Regardless ATL had one of highest cases of HIV in the USA. For such a small city to have the highest cases that says a lot already
@@tricallyourmama Correct I live here and I'm telling you a lot of these women are open to dating bisexual me. DL is a thing but it's not the boogeyman it made out to be in other parts of the country. People here just don't give a fuck which is why the rate is what it is. I don't know how to describe it any better to make the comment make sense to you. Everybody Phucking everybody here.
@@Jerrard1983 I get it…not saying you are wrong. Whether it’s DL or women sleeping with bi-men, there is a HIV epidemic over there. It’s just crazy to know how small the city is compared to major cities like LA which I live in to have the highest numbers of HIV. I’ve been to ATL plenty of times to know the size of the city so it’s a scary thought. Be safe 🙏💪
Soooo I live in Atlanta and nobody is saying “all” these men are down low. It is, however, a fact that so many of them are that you absolutely have to watch your step. That said, you cannot use alternate statistics and then claim to have debunked a stereotype. First, you confirmed that you were speaking to the heteronormative Black dating market in Atlanta, therefore using a population toll of how many men and women of no specific demographic live in the locale does NOT reflect your claim. Furthermore, utilizing a poll of identifying alphabet community members literally has what to do with those on the DL? That’s a whole contradiction. When Black women complain about the availability of datable or marriageable Black men out here it is very specific to who is unmarried, not attached to several baby mothers or endless sex partners including men, which is a special cherry on top for Atlanta men. It isn’t incumbent on heterosexual Black women to rethink masculinity to end up denying what we want (like-minded and principled Black men). The effervescent presence of this community out here perpetuates its spread, which inevitably affects those outside of it when we’re in the same physical space. While that might read as a desire to not see the existence of said people, that isn’t the case. Rather, you cannot fault people for not being able to trust a sullied dating market. You’ve also left out other very important caveats to what Black women complain about when it comes to finding love out here; the high level of prostitution taking place (which discourages monogamy in a group of already trifling men), the extracurricular lifestyle many relocate here for (which further crowds up the scene), the ongoing impact inflation has on this city and how that effects dating, etc. etc. Nothing but love for you, but please understand that this lackadaisical approach to discussing anything on general communal terms is dishonest.
I keep hearing about the down low men and hiv. I lived in Atlanta years ago. It has changed both for good and the bad. Sounds like Atlanta has become a little L.A. Don't know if it is a good idea to sit in front of the camera with your legs wide open.
Love your content! But I’m sorry to say that part with the statistics on equal amounts of men and women is false and the statistics on DL men is false too! Ladies and gentlemen please BE CAREFUL out here in Atlanta! I’m speaking from experience. I just so happen to be a “safe place” for a lot of these DL men due to circles I use to run in and I can tell you there are a PLETHORA of DL men (they have their own secret society here in Atlanta), more of them are sexually fluid than they are straight !!!! Be careful but also please respect those that you don’t understand as well ❤️
Nobody saying that, "Every single man is gay or down low." But more than half of them are and everyone is saying that bc perhaps it's true. Hopefully you don't find that out the hard way.
Dating in Atlanta be confusing due to superficiality for both men and women. (Entertainment got ppl confused) Women come here wanting / thinking a masculine man is a lil baby, future, hood dude making scamming money but in reality a lot black men here work and have real jobs and those are also the percentage of guys being slept on cus those jobs are not respected. Men always have options so if someone look better cooks better or whatever just as long as the opportunity is there it will be hard for him to settle down with one person.
That’s the thing b 4.5 % identify as gay I’m telling you without a shadow of doubt most don’t identify in fact that the reason the word 10:22 downlow is Invented
Lol that's my first thought, too. Of course they don't identify as gay, they're dealing with internalized homophobia but still out here sleeping with guys.
You may want to put down Satans jeweled crown . Jesus ( aka the Lord )has someone for you he will require you to pray & helieve him for while he prepares you to be a wife as you get to know and grow more intimate with and like Him who loves you and died for your sins
@@enyonamagbemadzo8684 I be feeling like men are objectified as a wallet these days. Whenever I hear about men it’s always the worse case scenario where do y’all be meeting these guys?
@@blessarieswomen that don’t like you will see you as that. But women that genuinely like and respect you won’t view you as just a wallet. In fact, they almost hate asking for anything because they don’t want you to see them as a burden
I'm pisces rising lol I don't like dating apps I like meeting people in person anybody can be who they want online lol thought about atl but it's to many trans there smh
Damn girl... I was aleady subscribed but had no idea you were in Atlanta. Well if I ever see your fine little chocolate self in person, you're definitely getting hollered at. 🍫 🤤
I truly believe certain women are poor with how they view money. If a man spends large funds at a moment don’t mean they are a drug dealer or scammer the idiot spending his check for the weekend. That’s not fast money
thank you for the advice I had a bf for 3 years and he was filipino I hope hes not one of those lying gay men here in Atlanta some gay men be trying to get woman so I think thats why and most men gets jealous and tries to keep woman to himself and away from other men weather shes pretty cute taken separated or not he will find away to flirt with her and bother her and most men just be hitting on other woman without asking her if shes single or not sometimes the man thats crushing on her (taken separated or not) wants her to cheat on her separated boyfriend \ husband men do that when they're jealous and some dont like it when the girl they chase after or that they like get rejected some men dont leave woman alone or back off when she tells him that shes taken or that shes in a separated relationship be careful when your in a separated relationship with someone cause a jealous man will pop up and try to pretend that he was your boyfriend and he will try hard to make you cheat and leave your current boyfriend even if you're separated he will try to make you cheat only cause hes jealous and men will steal the relationship that you had with your first partner \ love cause what if her first love comes back and some jealous man is calling himself trying to date her when shes separated and taken?
p.s women do the same thing too not just men woman be stealing other woman's man when he is in a separated relationship she will think hes single then she starts flirting with him without asking if the separated boyfriend is single or not men do this as well jealous men dont ask a separated girlfriend if shes single he checks her out or whatever if he finds out that you were in a happy relationship with your first love he'll get jealous and angry he will pretend that he was your first love and he will also think that hes better than your first love and sometimes the jealous man thats crushing on a girl whos taken or separated he acts like your first boyfriend some men will find ways to make separated or taken women cheat on their man that they been with please avoid these type of men and woman the jealous man will try ways to steal your relationship you had with someone most of them tries to copy off your first boyfriend for exp: dressing like him acting like him talking like him etc and he will pretend that he knows your first boyfriend when he never met him before
