This is true.. especially since men have always been the one to go out and fight the tiger. Even though women also go out now. It's still not the only option. While for men going into the world is what a man must do.. so it's understandable he wants to come home to some comfort.. I think it would b good for men to also learn what comforts women. Bec it would increase their own likelihood of getting more of it!
@@kerynl.sanchez9891 Yes but not daily. To me being childish is how to relief stress and forget the reality for a bit. If you roll eyes about it, your man will be either a neutered slave or a emotional cheater at least
That's why I divorced my wife. She told me multiple times I wasn't more important than anyone. I was like low on her list of priorities. I asked her then why did we get married. She said bc I love you. That wasn't love. That was being used
Sounds like she saw you simply as a bank/wallet. I sincerely and genuinely hope that you didn't have kids with this woman. Because, being so low on her list of priorities, she will project this onto any kids you may have together, believing your much needed time and access to them is a low priority, which will not only be devastating for yourself as a father, but will essentially rob those kids of a stable father, and transfer those beliefs onto the kids, meaning they will act the same way towards their partners in the future, destroying their relationships and marriages.
My wife treats me like a King because she is my Queen. Normally respect is earned but in our relationship it's given. We know our roles in our relationship and that's what matters
I can only speak about my own feelings as a woman, but that is how I feel about my man. My love for him is complete, and because of who he is inside, not really about what he does or has. We are not perfect but we have managed to communicate well throughout our time together. We both have worked on our own baggage, gaining and purging over the last 27 years, and seem ready to get serious with each other after the roller-coaster of life we have all now endured. I value honesty and so I would not tell him he is my home unless I truly felt that way. And he knows this. I do tell him and his low self esteem makes it hard to believe. Other women lied. So did other men. I don't know just why he inspires this in me, but surely other people feel this deeply too. Perhaps the work I've done to heal and love myself makes me able to love someone else. Hard work ahead but we are worth it.
In a civilized society where everything is given to people by the men who created everything that we have a woman can feel like she doesn’t need a man. We are so advanced and civilized that relationships and family is irrelevant and that’s why women feel the way they do. Unfortunately, this is the agenda of the globalist elites as they move us into the fourth industrial revolution and society 5.0.
Sadly the younger women are more guilty of this but not exclusively- Chris Rock said it so well, "only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. Men are only loved on the condition that they provide". Women don't make men feel like they have value and are loved and with so much expected from them to not feel that we matter, that's a dagger to a man's soul
@Bro Jackson a good man should receive both from a quality woman. Do you want your kids or your parents to just respect you without also loving you? If you're cool with that then more power to ya
@Bro Jackson love is not an emotion it is an action. Men are emotional too they were just taught not to show it. Respect is earned but when earned incorrectly can lead to fear and hate
@prettylittlelashesox and maybe because he wasn't loved unconditionally he cheated. We don't know but what he said is still true for most men in America
@prettylittlelashesox but you or I don't know what went on in their relationship, truly. We weren't flies on the wall. But I've seen many men feel the way he describes it. We can go back and forth, well he did, and she did but the truth is a lot of men feel this way right now. Why do you think men who are successful are opposed to marriage. Of course there are other factors but just being viewed as a paycheck is a pretty shitty feeling wouldn't you say?
I feel this way about my husband. I hope he knows it by my words and actions. But sometimes the validation doesn’t come from the woman they have to know it from within.
That depends on his love language. might wanna figure out what that is and then do what you can to facilitate that. and validation helps. you like to be reassured every once in a while. men do too.
For my husband I gave up city living and a 2000 ft² of home to move on to a piece of 5 acre property in a mobile home and the first year was hell but we made it. I did this so he could open up his own business and live his dream of working on boats and running a Marina. For my sacrifices my husband makes sure I want and need to ask for anything at all. As much as I miss having more time with him seeing him happy means so much more than I can explain but his smile is worth it ❤️
@@draydawg852 I was speaking about women in general, not just the content creator. However, I don't claim to know a person's heart or mind, whether they are man or woman. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt because I'm not a judgmental narcissistic hypocrite. I don't like when women look at me and just assume that I'm a player or gym rat or fuck boy just because I love to show off my body... We are all human. So until someone shows me that they aren't actually genuine through their actions being out of sinc with their words, I do not make such bold assumptions about them such as you do. I hate the "who hurt you?" argument but It does sound to me like you are jaded and bitter because you have been burnt beyond repair in addition to having never experienced a woman who was actually down for you. I have taken for granted several women who loved me, and I have also been taken advantage of by several women who didn't. So I know that both sides of the argument have merit. I understand that a woman's love for a man is conditional and not based on his character or morals or anything idealistic like that, but rather based on her respect for you as a man. That's not women's fault. That is just how God or nature designed it. I'm not mad about that and neither should you be. My point was simply that if a woman has proven herself to be down for you, through all the bullshit, after you've lost everything, broke down in tears, or lost a fight, job, money, health, etc, then she deserves to be treated like a queen. It's not simping if she treats you like a king. The content creator may be fake about it and just a grifter as you claim, but that doesn't take away from my point. To take your position, I would have to assume that there are no good woman out there who actually love good men, and I know for a fact that's not true because of my experience plus basic logic. The logic that says that there is an exception to every rule. I am in no position to judge this woman from the other side of a screen. And neither are you. If you want to be pessimistic and cynical, then that is your right, but in my opinion, I see that as weakness. Because you're avoiding getting let down or hurt again by not giving anyone a chance to hurt you. I'm not saying your a bad man or person, but you clearly have some work to do. We all do, but you have to detach your emotions from your thinking. Because even if only 3% of women are truly women of God, they do in fact still exist, and I will let God be the judge of that. I don't make assumptions about people and what's in their heart. That is for God to do. I suggest that you pray on it and not rely on your own understanding. Because there was no reason for you to respond to my comment in that way. Your point was out of relevance with mine.
@@luvr381 you think that most men haven't considered that? It's called being optimistic and fair. I remember when she got mad at men and tried to shame us for wanting younger women... Well she is a still a woman after all. That doesn't make her a chameleon. Unless you think all women are just liars and fakes, then you have no reason to assume that she is a grifter. She hasn't done anything to prove to me that she is anything like femsapien or Tomi Lauren for example... You should wait until she does before your make such bold claims. Maybe I am missing something that she did? I'd like to hear your reasoning behind your accusations
@@patriarchmike good comment, but hey man, don’t feel the need to show off your body. Women shouldn’t do it, and men shouldn’t do it in a scandalous way either.
When you get older, you leave your parents. When your kids get older, they leave you. When you find the right person, you're with them til death. Damn right they should be your priority.
Personally as a man, I do not want to matter more than her children. My number one goal is to see my children taken care of and loved fully, I would want that for hers equally. If I ever acted against that, I would want my partner to know it is time to help me get my mind back on track. Having said that, those within the household must take priority over those outside. No different for me than her. My wife comes before my mother.. but ideally my wife would understand if a parent needed assistance that may temporarily take away from our household in some aspect. I would offer her parents the same respect. If she invested in my kids, what deeper show of respect could she offer me?
I may also differ in my opinion from others because I don't trust that health issues may not take me "early" which has shifted my priority almost fully into the next generation. In 10 years, I can accomplish much more for them than myself. If she's like-minded they'll have an ally that would likely survive me. They have a mom and she can never be replaced. But to have an additional nurturing woman who knows their dad's mind and heart? That's thinking and asking too much of this world... fun to dream though.
A man who matters to me can matter as much as my children, but it's my sole job to look after them, protect them and care for them. I can give a man a bunch of love, loyalty, commitment, care and show him he matters to me, AND also maintain my responsibilities as a mother. If he has children I would never expect to outrank them as number 1. This isn't a ranking system. It's supposed to be a partnership. I'm not for coddling children and giving them everything all the time, but I'm also not down with emotionally abandoning them because I meet a guy who matters to me either. This is a rare occasion I'd have to slightly disagree with one of your posts. Still enjoy and appreciate your content though 🤗
Sarah I found the right person and we matter to each other. We are intentional with our time, energy, love, and presence. We speak well of each other and know we are doing the best we can. We don’t judge each other and she knows everything about me and I about her. She’s strong, but is tender as well.
One of the few reasons my five-year relationship came to an end recently. In the end, her family was always more important. To her credit, she had the humility to admit it.
To big of a gamble 80%Chance she will pull the plug and take you for everything to the point where alot of men contemplate annexing themselves and some do. When the court takes away so much money there's nothing livable left to survive on. Just a bad deal . If you put a marriage contract out in the business world nobody would sign on.
I don't feel that I deserve to matter to a woman more than her children. *Maybe* more than her parents, but definitely not her children. I definitely want to feel that I'm important to her, that I matter as a part of her life; but I would never want to take her child/children's place as #1.
Yeah than you can’t lead a home and your always gonna get taken advantage of. If your going to take on the baggage of dating a women with children, you for damn sure better be priority #1
It took me a while to find out my gf was a TOTAL MOMMY'S GIRL! Mommy's girl will break up or divorce you just because her Mommy said so. She will let her mommy wreak TOTAL HAVOC OVER YOUR LIFE and care more if her mommy got what she wanted without a care how bad you got screwed!!!🥺
Mommy's girls and Son husbands are the absolute worst! you should have learned that in grade school in woodshop class or when you learned the alphabet. lol
To clarify. The needs of the children being met is priority as they are unable to fend for themselves. That is fair. However, the children shouldn't be placed in a position that they drive a wedge between the parents. Those children are going to be gone within 2 decades and all you will be left with is eachother. Don't allow children to be in the middle of that relationship where it will fall apart once they are moved out. Allow them to revolve around it so they can more easily break free without push the parents apart.
Ive felt this from the bottom of my heart but I always thought I was being selfish for putting my husband above everything else so I kept it to myself.
She's just so daggum beautiful and level headed. I will say this though, I don't feel like I should matter more than my lovers kids. Maybe everything else though..
Sarah you are such an intelligent person. Very skilled in your art. So many topics but so many truths! I would swear I was talking to one of the guys, as a true compliment! Respect!
I am a man… and every video you put out speaks to me… this one is absolutely true! And every woman out there is like my kids are the most important in my life… while I understand that… you don’t choose your kids… you hopefully won’t be there for their entire lives… but you do pick your man like we pick our woman! And you are the most important thing in our life! Because the right woman makes everything else the way it should be… you have happy kids a happy home someone to confide in and spend your time with… someone to build with and fail with… but we want to be the most important to you! Because you are the most important to us… how important are your kids if you leave a good man and take his kids? Make them have less… make them want more… yeah maybe he pays child support… but he’s also paying all the same bills you are and you just forced a situation that is worse for everyone… now there are those guys who don’t deserve to be everything… but there are those who do… who get walked on… who get depressed… who feel safe with you and show weakness and now you don’t love him anymore…everyone is watching all these “perfect” relationships on tv… and looking at all these people best moments on social media… it’s all fake! And a man who puts you first! Because through you everything important to him is taken care of! That’s the most real thing you will ever find!
I agree with about 90% of this. The only part I disagree with is that I just want my women to make time for me around our children, but our kids come first. And as a husband I'd be willing to do everything in my power to do the same for her.
I was raise by my father, he said children always comes first. I am happily married and my children do come first because they are little and they need us both.
Children are a gift from God that teach us about honor, respect, awe, and loving unconditionally. A marriage however is far more important- it teaches us about the covenant that accepting Jesus offers. Ephesians 5.
@@judyperri9496 Totally agree, the children need to see devotion and love of the parents towards one another as a model for the relationships they will be in
Idk if I want to matter the most. I just want to matter and know she has my back whatever may come. I'll stand up for you, face the world for you. But I need you.
This post has major red flags for me. I want a partner, not some obsessive to worship me. I'd suffocate with someone like that. So Ill pass on this videos advice.
My husband has all but one of these and he knows this, I’ve always been up front, I actually even had a convo with him when we were engaged about how if we are to get married and have a family of our own, to me that means that we, husband and wife, and our children are now our immediate family and everyone else is now our extended family (doesn’t mean you have to “back off” or lessen any relationships) but that means he comes first in my eyes and I come first in his eyes, once we have children however, they will come first, obviously once they’re older it’ll be different, but while they are younger, they are almost as high of a priority as my marriage. I know our kids won’t have a family if the marriage isn’t solid so that’s why I say almost..
Oh this is tough stuff. I agree. And, we are all not perfect. And this is why people staying together in relationships is so dang hard! Because we all want to be “treated correctly” great content here
If I knew women like this existed 15 years ago my choice of a spouse would have been very different. A Queen in flesh not a feminist pest! This woman's husband is the luckiest damn man on the planet!!! 😳 Raw uncut truth!!
Nailed it! We want to be number 1 in your life! And if we are truly number 1, and we will know if we are, we will help you take of all the other important things in your life! Remember the vowels: “forsake all others!” We don’t actually want you to forsake anyone, just put your guy first and we will fight the world for you!
I can see why that happened. But, I don't think it best as avoiding life's pain can also lead to a fruitless life. My religion states that it is better to have a wife and have sex with her than to be single and live in sin. Not being condescending at all btw. I'm not not strong enough for abstinence....
Christian men don't have that option. As a Christ-follower, I must remain celibate when not in a marriage relationship. the Bible says that the sexually immoral shall not inherit the Kingdom of God and I take that very seriously.
The greatest compliment I've ever had was from my wife when she said she would move away from the area with me if it would mean losing me ..... doesn't sound such a big deal until you consider that her relationship with her mother who has been there for her throughout her life in very difficult times is as close and loving as any mother and daughter could be.. For my wife to leave the area and not see her mother every day is truly a huge belief in me and us. I thought I couldn't love her any more than I do already...... but I found another level of love... I will gladly do anything to keep her happy..... she gives me so much I'm devoted to deserving her
I never expect my significant other to put me before their kids or family. I seek out loyalty. I am a simple man but loyalty is a forgotten word. Its all about What have you done for me lately. Personally I couldn't careless. Nothing of value that anyone can provide me at this point that I can't provide for myself.
@@robertl4 I think is the opposite, it’s a book written by men for the benefit of them. I suppose god is male too since he only takes care of men. Women are sold, raped, use as merchandise and that’s okay according to your book, nah, thanks!
Women nowadays are sooo focused on posting on Tiktok and worshipping themselves not to mention crying out loud for equality and being "independent" it's impossible to even approach them heck even have the guts to show interest 😑
You are so Right all I come across now a day are users they want what we worked for but don’t bring anything to the table other than a one night stand to see what they can get from you in the short term
You can matter equally, but no more than the children she birthed. It seems most men just want to be idolized and and have their ego stroked daily 🙄 You need to be at their feet telling them how great they’re doing 🤦♀️
My take on this topic of Him matter more then her children is that she'll be by your side with discipline given that it's not abusive. And if the two of you have set up a date night that she sticks to it doesn't break the date night for the kids even step-children. And that through your actions a woman can show how devoted she is to you, while still being a devoted mother, sister, daughter, friend and Boss/employee.
My take on this topic of Him matter more then her children is that she'll be by your side with discipline given that it's not abusive. And if the two of you have set up a date night that she sticks to it doesn't break the date night for the kids even step-children. And that through your actions a woman can show how devoted she is to you, while still being a devoted mother, sister, daughter, friend and Boss/employee.
My take on this topic of Him matter more then her children is that she'll be by your side with discipline given that it's not abusive. And if the two of you have set up a date night that she sticks to it doesn't break the date night for the kids even step-children. And that through your actions a woman can show how devoted she is to you, while still being a devoted mother, sister, daughter, friend and Boss/employee.
My take on this topic of Him matter more then her children is that she'll be by your side with discipline given that it's not abusive. And if the two of you have set up a date night that she sticks to it doesn't break the date night for the kids even step-children. And that through your actions a woman can show how devoted she is to you, while still being a devoted mother, sister, daughter, friend and Boss/employee.
My take on this topic of Him matter more then her children is that she'll be by your side with discipline given that it's not abusive. And if the two of you have set up a date night that she sticks to it doesn't break the date night for the kids even step-children. And that through your actions a woman can show how devoted she is to you, while still being a devoted mother, sister, daughter, friend and Boss/employee.
@@rogerdixon1069 That stinks for sure. I speak from some experience and I had to "put my foot down" about finances. Too many brothers or sisters have " investment projects" they want to do at our expense and that had to end fast. How I abated any real threat of leaving me was by marry her there and not here, Buying and documenting her property there, and saying if we divorce it would ALL have to be sold. That ended any divorce threats quick enough. Most of her divorce threat are generally pms related anyways. Some gals go nuts during that time. The rest of the time we are fine. Anytime any even remote threats come up I just smirk and say "no problem." She knows what I mean. Can't really be weaponized.
Common, noone in their right mind would say their significant other matters more than their children. I'm a dad of three and my children are by far the top of the list of things that matter to me, followed by 12000 blanks and then my wife. And I do hope my wife feels the same, otherwise I might have to consider a divorce. I would literally die for my kids. I would also die for my wife, but just for our kids' sake, they would be f*cked without her, she is the best mother I know.
My take on this topic of Him matter more then her children is that she'll be by your side with discipline given that it's not abusive. And if the two of you have set up a date night that she sticks to it doesn't break the date night for the kids even step-children. And that through your actions a woman can show how devoted she is to you, while still being a devoted mother, sister, daughter, friend and Boss/employee.
My take on this topic of Him matter more then her children is that she'll be by your side with discipline given that it's not abusive. And if the two of you have set up a date night that she sticks to it doesn't break the date night for the kids even step-children. And that through your actions a woman can show how devoted she is to you, while still being a devoted mother, sister, daughter, friend and Boss/employee.
My take on this topic of Him matter more then her children is that she'll be by your side with discipline given that it's not abusive. And if the two of you have set up a date night that she sticks to it doesn't break the date night for the kids even step-children. And that through your actions a woman can show how devoted she is to you, while still being a devoted mother, sister, daughter, friend and Boss/employee.
you only get one soulmate. you marry into more parents, have many children, but theres only one soulmate. if she's not the absolute first on your list right behind God, then your marriage probably isn't the happiest. no one's saying that the children dont matter
First wife cared only about herself, .married to her for 14 months, second wife was selfless, put me top on her list, allowing me to focus on keeping the family secure, we've been married 43 years, have 4 secessfully married children that tell us that they want a marriage like ours , and 7 healthy well adjusted grandchildren . I don't know a lot about love but I do know respect!
My goodness. My husband should hear this. Just about every single month visiting his parents had me crying from insults they spoke to me even around their son. I was raised not to disrespect elders and I stayed silent until we got home and I shared how I was so hurt by what his mom and dad said about me. He would be clueless and immediately say that I was being too sensitive and his mom didn’t mean it the way I took it. He even told me I needed to find in the Bible to prove to him that he is supposed to put me first above his parents. So 23 years of that almost every month, I ended up realizing things were better if I never said anything about any of my feelings. Even my happy feelings were put down. I know that I put him first in all things so much so I lost who I was before we got married. 23 years of pain used me up so it seems. I am rebuilding my life though at 47 years old and looking forward to the money I deserve that is half mine. I look forward to going back to school and becoming the best version of myself. It’s a blessing to get divorced from the abuse. I am becoming the husband I deserved for so long. Meaning I am taking care of myself. Sheesh I see so many of these shorts for the women to understand mens feelings and I relate so strongly. It’s heartbreaking and no one should have to go through this. I was out and about today and I just wanted to give all the men a hug. But I got afraid that I would have a bunch of proposals and I’m not ready for that. Lol. So yeah umm. Thanks for reading. Sorry so long.
I'm sorry to hear that you were treated that way. I was similar in opposite. I treated my wife like a queen and I was the one who got run out. This woman who does these videos has done a great job and I hope that many people get to hear it. Unfortunately most RU-vid watchers are male so she's "preaching to the choir". I wish you the best in finding someone that will treat you the way you deserve.
I can understand this. His ride or die queen. It’s what we want as well, a best friend with all the extra benefits. We just communicate our needs differently.
Yep, we're simple in the purest way. We don't ask for much. Of course we will provide & protect. We just want to be loved & respected for what we bring to the table, literally.
100% correct! I didn't know this 40 years ago when I started out with my wife, but I did know that this beautiful woman always went out of her way to let me know that her love is absolutely unconditional. She would love me if we're broke, if I get fat, if my face was grotesquely disfigured in a fire, lol, etc. ...as long as i truly loved her, and we are together, she said shewould always be happy. Her actions made it clear to me every single day. Always having my back. Not trying to change me because she loved me faults and all. Faced with this, I couldn't help but fall more and more in love with her as each day passed. It gave me the feeling if such freedom. I don't need any other woman. I don't have to worry that she wants another man. I never stressed once about that in 40 years. We've never walked together without holding hands to this day at 63 years old lol because she wi Wont let it happen. Her friends would scoff about the way she let me do the things i loved without headache. "I'd never let my husband do that!" ...now they say she's si lucky taught! Oh what a great loyal man you have, always publicly displaying affection and love! You two are so cute!" My wife would say to herself "duhh"... you busted the guys balls for years, and now wonfer why you're just the ball and chain to him. Lol keep up the great work, take it from me, you are so bang on...even if I didn't know it before you said it. Lol
You nailed it. Dated someone last year. Short lived but at first thought this is it. Finally. Problem was, her grown ass worthless kids, needy grand kids and her job! Especially the job. Fell apart in 3 months flat. Broke up with her on Valentine’s Day 2022. She just didn’t understand why. Even though I explained those exact problems. It ruined me for anymore trying. I am 56 and will just remain single. Much easier.
