4 Things That Make Men Seem Creepy To Women 

If you continue to chase after a woman when it's clear she isn't interested, that's definitely creepy and borderline stalker-ish. However, a woman who doesn't like a guy yet gives him the impression that she's into him because she like the attention she's getting from him is a toxic and immature woman and is the type of woman that guys, rightfully so, have a problem with in the dating market.

In case you're in a hurry: 1. She thinks you're unattractive (doesn't mean you aren't attractive to someone else) 2. She's uninterested and you continue to chase her 3. Obsessive behavior (like blowing up her DM's) 4. Inappropriate comments / sexual harassment

One of MY personal favorites is when I used to work at a retailer, I'd greet a customer (Hello, how are you? or Hi, need help with anything?), and the immediate response would be an abrupt "Sorry, I have a boyfriend!!!" 🤦‍♂ You just walked into a place of business and declared your attachment to someone else SIMPLY because an employee did their job and greeted you or offered assistance? Makes perfect sense, skippy!

I'm a 68 yrs Black American and this segment is GOLDEN. GOOD WORK.

Seriously, we've become so overly freaking sensitive these days. Whats just as bad are those who constantlyneed an ego boost. 2022 was horrible, we need to do better in 2023. If she isn't interested, just bail! If she says she has a bf, BAIL! If she isn't responding to your texts, FREAKING BAIL!! Start small, go out once or twice a week, meet them in real time! NO MORE PEN PALS, TEXT BUDDIES, DATING APPS, ETC.

1. Be ugly 2. Be short 3. Be poor

Wow! Married guy here who wandered onto this video because it looked like an interesting subject in my RU-vid feed. What genuinely great advice this woman gives. There's no ego in it at all and it's coming from a good place. I also really enjoyed reading through the comments. Although people have had their struggles in the dating scene, it's so refreshing to hear honest accounts. Hey, we're all flawed and most of us are trying our best in life. What more could you do or want? As I've told other people in the past, I much prefer to be around good-hearted flawed human beings than "perfect" people.

I'm a woman. Just came across your channel. This is sooo refreshing!! I think there are for sure a bunch of "creepy" WOMEN out there who are vindictive, mean and really mentally ill. Men deserve BETTER. Alot of women have ... really terrible beliefs about men. I had some too, when I was younger...thinking all that men want is sex, big boobs etc etc... However, I got a job, where I am often the only woman, or maybe there is one or two other woman, and about a dozen or two or three dozen men are on the job. Women... you all have some really really wrong impressions. I've come to not fear or be extremely suspicious of men - at all. They are wonderful!! They have a much better sense of humor and they are WAY more in touch with their emotions than they are given credit. I love and adore all these men. Respect. Respect yourself and they will respect you. Respect them, and they will respect you, and love you. ❤️

There are a lot of creepy women out there as well. 1) Stalking 2) Clinging 3) Feel like you have a relationship with her friends and her, or in-laws and her, or both 4) She needs a sugar daddy or has daddy issues 5) She tests you too much at the wrong time: 'stands in front of the TV during a big game' and wants to distract you 6) She is constantly insecure 7) Women who constantly try to change men or make men feel they are the problem.

I had a woman who kept using me for a dopamine release. Every month or so she kept using me for conversation and then would ghost me. Id ask her to link up to hang out and she wouldn’t answer me. Then I’d leave her alone and she’d pop up again and again just to say hey. So I now ignore her cuz that’s toxic and immature of her to do. I realized some women do this because they get a kick out of attention and want their ego stroked. Be careful of these attention demons.

I have been through this a lot. In middle and high school girls called me creepy out of the blue all the time, and it was so annoying because I never did or said anything creepy. Yeah, I wasn’t the best looking, I was 5’5 and overweight (reached 191 pounds when I graduated, but lost 14 after that), but I tell you, a lot of people will associate anything out of the blue with creepiness when they don’t find you attractive.

I'm autistic, and so I don't deal with ambiguity very well. So, I've adopted a pretty simple approach. If I make a request, and the answer isn't yes, the answer is no. This would be a good policy to follow for any man pursuing a romantic relationship with a woman. If you ask her out, anything other than an explicit yes means no. Just walk away. Either she actually meant no, or she's a crazy person. Either way, you are better off pursuing a relationship with someone else. What if she says no and really what you to chase her? In that case, don't walk away. Run. Because she's special and not in a good way. If a woman can't communicate her thoughts clearly, she not ready for dating. She's not even ready to be an adult. One other thing that should be added to the creepy list is catcalls. And this goes for both men and women. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman walking up to a man and asking him for a date. But when I was younger, and only moderately attractive, I had two different women yelling from their cars at me. They both had some complementary things to say about my rear end. And one of them offered me sex. Not the kind of gal I would want to take home to meet my parents. Yeah, women can be creepy as well. My advice for women who want to make the first move is to be clear and to the point about what you want. But don't be vulgar about. Ask for a date, but don't ask for anything else until after you get to know the man a little. For goodness' sake, buy the man a drink and have a conversation with him before you try to jump his bones.

I'm 61, so I've probably been there, done that. The worst rejection is being told 'you creep me out'. I was so shy in school I couldn't even talk to a girl if attracted to her. Patience is a must in today's world. I did ask a lady once if she needed a hug. It was meant to console and not meant in a sexual desire. That hug was the beginning of a 16 year relationship. I like the advice I hear, here. 👍🏻👍🏻🙏🏻🤗

Courtney does have a number of videos that talk about how so many women just "can't find a good man these days" or otherwise seem to just have trouble in dating relationships. The kind of woman that Courtney describes in point #1 absolutely deserves any difficulty she might encounter in the dating game. Guys, any woman who calls your normal (non-creepy) behavior "creepy" to boost her ego is T-O-X-I-C and immature. Do a 180°.....fast.

There is a question that change me in a 180 degree , "Can you date yourself?" Analyze yourself and honestly ask yourself if you can be with someone that is 100% you, I could not so I change a lot of thing in the last 3 pasts months.

I used to think I was creepy before I watched this video. I really did not think people would go to great lengths just to be liked and have a relationship. I do not think I know the bad habits many act on. Thank you for opening my eyes.

I live in a town where women seldom dress up. I saw a woman in a store that was very nicely dressed up. So I said, "Excuse me but I just wanted to tell you I think you look amazing." That was it. I wasn't hitting on her. I didn't ask for a phone number of even try to make small talk. My intent was only to give a compliment where I thought it was due. She called me creepy. So... I just don't give out compliments anymore. It is not worth the time or effort to be nice to people.

The reason the signals are confusing is because I've had girl co-workers tell me about their dating experience and sometimes they say, "So and so didn't try hard enough" or he gave up too easy. So we don't know if she is saying no or testing us to see if we give up too easy because if we give up too easy, then men come off weak. So the conundrum is, if you approach aggressively, then you come off creepy and if you give up too easy then you didn't try hard enough. What I find crazy is even average looking women in CA play this game; that is, they want to be aggressively approached by men because it gives them an ego-boost and attention. So they will make you chase after them and then say no, just to crush you because it makes them feel better, that they are wanted. I'd say 8/10 women in CA are like this. These are the women who never find a date and end up holding out into their 30s for the perfect man.. lol.

Thanks for being reasonable and giving solid advice. Def use the “don’t be creepy” tips for my professional life. I’m already married and don’t need to accidentally become the office creep.

You’re right. Far too many women think too much of themselves and label any guy who they don’t want to come onto them or even look at them as creepy. I’ve had to deal with this my whole life.

I totally get the hug thing. I had a friend who believed that hugs were for women and handshakes for guys. He was always hugging attractive girls at work. And you could see them cringe everytime.

1 not making six figures. 2 a 9 to 5 job. 3 asking them out. 4 existing.

Stop blaming men. No matter what you do or say, if a woman isn't attracted to you she will automatically think it's creepy. If she finds you attractive, you can do or say the exact same thing & it won't be creepy. Period!

Just remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder..to me beauty starts from within. When you say some guys think you’re beautiful and some think you’re ugly. I judge women on their heart rather than just their appearance. Looks fade..kindness and true love thrive.

How to not be creepy. Step 1: Be attractive. Step 2: Don't be unattractive.

Added advice: #1 reading the room and self-awareness. If you failed to read the room you can come off as creepy or weird #2 Having desperate vibes will come off as creepy if she isn’t into you #3 At parties, don’t approach from behind. Approach from the front and don’t immediately touch and have a good attitude.

Makes sense I asked a female friend if its about behavior vs looks that makes a man creepy or not. She said yes. Its about the behaviour vs how he looks

Powerful video Courtney thank you. I put this woman on a pedestal briefly and the next day I saw she did not respond to my morning text. So I didn’t text her for two days and she didn’t text me for two days. It was the best move I could’ve made. I sent her one text message in the afternoon two days later and just called out the shift that happened in our last conversation two days ago. And said I didn’t think this was working out. She agreed, and we parted ways amicably. It’s crazy how easy it is to be off putting. But I wasn’t in the creepy department and it’s because I have been watching these videos and learning so much. It was painful but I felt really good about how I handled it.

Saying hi, I get called a creep. I quit trying make eye contact with any female when talking to them, I look in a general area past them. Being ugly makes me a creep. I am married and have zero interest in any female, yet I am creepy for even attempting to be friendly or just a half smile. Even my daughter's friends call me a creepy old man because I won't even look at or acknowledge them. It's quite confusing... I am a creeper for looking in a general direction of a female, saying hi, or not even look at them? I don't get it...

The first point was super valid. What a Chad can get away with won't fly for a majority of guys so don't try to copy some of the stuff they do. Some of the best advice I ever got was to stay focused on whatever you're doing in the moment and be yourself. Also don't stare at women or elbow your way awkwardly into a social situation. I think those are two of the biggest mistakes the average guy makes.

I can relate to what you're saying, when I was a teenager, had some older guy constantly at my workplace (this went on a long time) who almost every time I was at work would follow me around and stare at me, never say anything. I was so creeped out by that. I'll never know but would assume the guy wasn't totally right mentally. When you told your story about the gym and the guy touching you that is so disturbing I'm sorry you went through that. Can only imagine if the dude that was stalking me touched me.

I have a co-worker who was just standing there in silence and staring at me while I was filling up my water bottle. He stood there for a whole minute just staring at me, and when I finally noticed him, he scared the crap out of me! When I called him out on this, he acted like he didn't do anything wrong. I told him the next time he does that, just say hi instead of standing there and staring at me and scaring me half to death. Since I've known him for a while, I didn't think that he was doing anything wrong. He's probably bored and decided to pick on me instead.

I think a lot of perceived creepiness just comes from the man being nervous. I've been watching a lot the RU-vid channel More Plates More Dates, and he seems to agree with that theory and his proposed solution is exposure therapy. You stop being intimidated by women by approaching women until they no longer make you nervous and you start coming off as normal. He is probably right, but his solution is more easily said than done for most men today.

I'm college, there was this girl that always complained this guy wouldn't leave her alone. She would go out with him for a bit then be distant with him. One day, I was tired of her complaining about him, so I asked, "Have you ever told him to stop texting you and that you are not interested in him"? She sheepishly looked down and hesitantly said no. Me and my friend looked at her and said that's why he keeps going after you!

My genuine apologies to the women out there for anything creepy my fellow men have done to you! It is such a shame that some men cannot understand how risky it is for women in the dating scene or even in general. It really is a sad state we are in when a woman can't feel safe in public during the daytime and in some cases in her own personal space. I hope every one of you finds a man who will respect you and realize how lucky he is!

There's nothing better than being called a creepy stalker by one of your university classmates publicly in front of your whole social circle for responding to 2 or 3 insta stories in months or years. Not even knowing that you sent does messages and received no answer. By someone who you actually thought highly of both personally and professionally. You try to fit in and make friends and that's what you receive being ignored, and being in total social isolation or called names. There's nothing better than having those two words play over and over again in your mind in an endless loop until you're inches from doing something stupid.... People do not think how damaging they can be even with a few words.

Guys, just remember; at the end of the day you are pretty aware of what is and what isn't creepy, I'm sure more than you expect. If you are respectful and understand when to back off you're perfectly fine. If she still finds that creepy after you do everything right, that's on her and it's a problem she has to work on.

I run at random women at night. I don't get why they only run with me for a few minutes and then hide.

Not being attractive/ugly. That about sums it up.

On the flip side for the 2nd point, there are women who think men like the chase when we actually hate it and we want to know women like us or naw. I ain’t wasting my time with you, Becky!

I don't approach women because I fear being seen as creepy, I don't approach them because I don't want them to see me as being not self confident. There is a huge difference. Plus, at my advanced age, why bother. My sexiest years are far behind me. Yet, women 40 years younger than I still show interest. Don't know why, they just do. Not all of them, obviously, but way more than I would expect...

You will be labelled creepy if they don't find u attractive, if u r a 9 out of 10 you can say anything and they will accept it. Women love the play of words, they think it gives them power.

I have to say that giving hugs to people you just met, or even kisses in the cheek, is very common in the latin world. However, you would regard these gestures as a form of politeness, rather than a genuine personal interest. As long as you dont make any further move, you wouldnt be creepy.

I’ve always been self aware of giving girls their boundaries. I always keep my distance and once it seems the conversation is going nowhere, I just give a friendly goodbye. I then wait to see if she wants to continue the conversation, if not then that’s it.

I would add one more thing. If you ask a woman out and she says "no" and give you a reason, 99% of times it means that she isn't interested in YOU! It doesn't matter if she says she's not ready for a relationship, she's busy at work or her hamster died. She's just being nice and tries to avoid potentially awkward situation by telling you "no" without making it personal. Appreciate it! If a guy she finds genuinely attractive asks her out she will make herself ready for a relationship, find a time to meet him and forget about her hamster;)

Wish I new this list back in elementary. Being Autistic and having a communication disorder *unable to register Subtle cues. I've been called creepy all my life (smile, laugh, look) basically lived as a hermit in result of negative feedback over the years. Your chanel and videos have been Very helpful thank you 😌🤝.

No woman would like it at all if we called her a crazy person, or worse, simply because we were not attracted to her. If we simply didn't have the spine to tell her we are not interested in her exclusively. Or, like all women seem to do, didn't give a clear answer one way or the other JUST IN CASE we changed our mind some time down the road. Apparently what is good enough for them isn't good enough for other people though. They can dish it out all day, nonchalantly calling guys creepy, potentially destroying someone, but they don't like it when it comes back around.

The average U.S. woman is 5' 3", 175 lbs and no one finds that creepy?

Men are only viewed as creepy when she is not attracted to you. Thats all it is. If she is its not creepy. Not complicated

Before you even got to that part I was just remembering this one particular story from years ago. At this restaurant pub this young girl who couldn't have been any older than 18 was getting hugs from all her friends and this guy who must have been in his mid 30's at the time and thought he was being smooth says to her "where's mine?" Which of course she responds "I don't know you!" And then with his ego bruised he walks off mumbling "she wasn't all that great anyway". It was a very awkward thing just to be in the presence of.

How did it come to this in society where there is a certain amount of seconds of looking at someone, yet not looking at someone at all is classed as creepy as well 😂might as well walk around with a garbage bag over our heads

everything I do is “creepy”, I just ignore women entirely.

Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words. If someone is interested in you, you’ll know. If someone isn’t interested in you, you’ll be confused.

I am so afraid of seeming weird or making a girl feel uncomfortable that I have often let the opportunity to get to know attractive girls or simply have a pleasant conversation with them pass by.

It's so weird when I see male dating coaches talking going in for a kiss or being real handsy on the first date. I feel like they are setting them up for failure.

Good topic. When my wife and daughter go to the gym they tell me about "creepy" guys. They don't mind the look with a smile or wave. They say the "creepy" ones stare or workout by them and look repeatedly but never smile or anything. I tell them guys do either because they like what they see but are insecure about approaching or they want you to acknowledge them to get your approval first. It's interesting hearing their point of view.

There aren’t enough ways in the world to express our thanks/accurately capture how we feel about you and your vids, Courtney. You are a godsend.

Thank you Courtney for your videos, 🙏 Good Job👏👍 It's always a RELIEF to know you're not the only one experiencing something NEGATIVE, but it's a trend/phenomenon. Since the inception of online CHAT, I was noticing the younger generation shying away(less skilled) from FACE-TO-FACE conversation/socialization & it was ALARMING to me; nowadays it has gone to the extreme I believe dating APP was a FAD & people are less enthusiastic to use them for various reasons. So people are left nowhere to turn to & formation of relationships are in DANGER. Slowly but surely people are coming to their senses & returning to old ways, which for centuries before internet, human beings used to meet each other -- IN PERSON. Programs like yours can be a great CATALYST to make this needed transformation to save human race. Please keep up the terrific work🙏

I kind of knew not to do these things all along, but it's good to get some formal confirmation on it. Thanks for all your advice!

Oh and the "she says she's not interested" bit is also a bit tricky because they will say "I want to play hard to get to see if he's really into me" and other games. And then they complain that men are cowards because we take "no" at face value.

@courtneyryan thank you for what you do, truly. You’re a calm reasonable caring voice in a sea of obnoxious loud sleezy influencers yelling terrible advice in our faces. You’re a gem, and you hold a lot of value to anyone lucky enough to come across you

I think it’s quite sad that a guy can’t have a normal interaction with a beautiful woman without being classed as creepy. I think beautiful women might assume all interactions are a guy coming on to them when sometimes they might just be being nice or helpful.

It's so refreshing that a Woman can acknowledge that the "Creepy" label is just becoming too wide spread to those that don't deserve it and are actually just trying to get along in the World the best way they can. Now mind you I am the first to admit that there are those that just don't get this whole interactive thing and just keep on going without realizing the bad impression they are imprinting on Women. But Ladies..........Try not to blanket every guy as Creepy just because he might be awkward of under confidant!!

As a recently divorced man in his late 40s I feel so lost in the dating world. Your videos are helpful, it's very confusing out there And I feel so much has changed in the 15 years I was married.

Hahaha man that was pretty good. I've seen so many guys do this sort of stuff. On a bus one time... there was this young (early 20s ish) woman that had been taking my morning bus for about a week, at that point. I always sat in the very back, so i had a perfect view of this interaction. One day a guy that also took that bus walks up to her. She's sitting in the front, on the right, inside seet of the two seats. He approaches from the back. Sits down next to her, instantly blocking her exit. First words out of his mouth. "I notice you when you started taking the bus last week, and have been trying to think of what to say to you." Very next stop 30 seconds later. She says, well... I gotta go. Pushes him out of the way and gets off the bus. He didn't even say much else to her. But, it definitely came out the wrong way as she got off the bus a good 30-40 min earlier than normal and it was -30 degrees C outside the bus. Next wasn't scheduled for another 45 min. She never took that bus again. Gentlemen. If you are a young guy and you want to cold approach. Run the lines past an older male, or younger female friend first. Screwing up an approach ruins it for other men. My approach? I talk to every woman as if she's a married lesbian construction worker. I couldn't care less if it leads to anything more.

15 years ago when I was still single I got a girls number. She smiled and laughed at my jokes so I thought things were going well. I waited a day and then called the number. There was no answer. I left a voice message. I waited and called the next day thinking I must have called her at a busy time. Nothing again. I was such a naive young guy that I just thought there was something wrong with her phone or that she was busy. I kept trying every day for a week until she finally picked up and told me to stop calling because I was freaking her out. I just couldn't understand why a girl would give me her number and then ghost my calls. I figured she'd give me a fake number or tell me "no" if she didn't want a call. I still laugh at how clueless I was at the time.

IT'S NOT ALWAYS US. My recent experience: I had a gym crush that would frequent the same days as me during the week. We never really spoke but we would make eye contact and smile at each other from time to time, and it was just friendly. One night when she was waiting for my machine, I saw it as an opportunity to finally chat with her. Before I could even offer her the spot and say hi she acted really rude and put off by me, to sum it up. So It turned me off and now I don't even look in her direction but the catch is this; for whatever reason or narrative she imagined, her whole clique at the gym now treat me like I'm a creep even though I just tend to go, focus on my training, keep my glances discrete if at all, and I deliberately ignore drama or people that exhibit attention seeking behavior. I'm an attractive guy, with good social skills, I'm friendly, approachable, and I have a good understanding how I'm perceived, but sometimes I get treated like this for no reason and I don't understand why. IT'S NOT US, IT'S THEM.

Another solid rule to follow: if you’re unattractive, any advances will be seen as creepy.

I think we all wish there were more Courtney’s in the world.

I am 74 years old and have been married for 54 years... todays women scare the crap out of me!

Whenever someone acts nice, the conversation goes to me selling multi-level marking products.

I don't approach because it's 2023. My question is why women are not approaching? Be empowered and do this...that's what it means to be empowered.

The hand on back in passing can feel "creepy" but is often practical especially while navigating crowded, high energy spaces. People in crowds can unexpectedly move into someone else's path or gesture erratically which leads to all kinds of unfortunate interactions and misunderstandings. People are dancing etc. A gentle, momentary touch to signal your presence as you move through a space is gentler than a shoulder and can help minimize any number of much more uncomfortable situations. It can even ( often unintentionally) lead to organic meetings as the person whose back you briefly touched looks at you and realizes you just helped them avoid backing into waitstaff carrying a try or something.

1. Be attractive 2. Dont be unattractive

A lot of guys here are interpreting the idea - that you can only get a positive response from complimenting a strange woman if you are attractive - as something wrong and messed up. But the way I interpret that is that women don't appreciate compliments by men they don't know, but will excuse it or respond less negatively if the man is very attractive. We all operate that way. 90% of us are more likely to excuse negative behavior when it's exhibited by people we find attractive. It's very understandable and most of us are guilty of this.

Thank you, Courtney! Of all your videos, this was the most meaningful to me! This is because as an older True GENTLEMAN, I find more and more that everything has become creepy to a woman, except a guy with a fancy car and has lots of money. I dress impeccably and keep myself well groomed. Up until now, my cars have been beat up looking, but they are mine and paid for! Next week, I will be buying a convertible Camero in excellent condition. A real head turner! I will be seeing what difference that makes over the next 3 months. I will let you know what difference that has made then. Again, thank you, Courtney A lost and lonely 58 year old True GENTLEMAN.

Thank you Courteney for giving me a woman's point of view on this. I worked with a female who had a lot of bad days at work. Overwhelmed. Verbal. She would sometimes talk for over an hour when I clocked out about problems. I listened. Something I'm told is much needed. Don't try to fix it. Just listen. One day I delivered her mail at work. I heard crying. I asked if she was okay. Her back was to me and I came up to her and my hands touched her shoulders. She screamed "don't touch me!" This scared the hell of me. I was utterly confused. My act was out of concern and compassion. I wasn't trying to make a move on her. I got fired. Since then I've learned that I can't touch people at work on the shoulder, male or female. After my wife died I got full on body hugs from at least three members of management, only a couple of months prior. To say this is frustrating is the understatement of the year. I come from a small town. My family, my friends, my church hugs, touches, shakes hands, pats on the shoulder. It's a gesture of friendship and compassion. Nothing more. After my story got out people come up behind me and place their hands on my shoulder asking me if I'm ok. Their way of saying I did nothing wrong. It would be funny if it wasn't so serious. I'm blindsided by this.

I discovered this channel 2 days ago and watched dozens of videos, that help me a lot improving my bad character traits and habits, as well as building my self-awareness. What I have to say is that serious, sincere and helpful women with depth of character like Courtney are immensely valuable for our society, while being the ideal wife material we should have in mind... Keep up the good work!

I've learned if I stare I don't have a prayer or a chance in a million years. Micro stares are even worst.

i was familiar with the phrase "REJECTION BREEDS OBSESSION" but after listening to it i think "OBSESSION BREEDS REJECTION" courtney you are a pure soul sharing the real content. cheers.

being ugly, being broke, being short, or being shy. it has nothing to do with what you say or do, but everything to do with how SHE see's you

*The difference between being creepy and not being creepy is largely how attractive you are.*

I've heard young women say this from 18 to 30ish...label men as creepy just because the men showed attraction to them, but weren't attractive to the recipient.

I've seen girls say that it couldn't be further from the truth that girls treat guys they don't like as creepy, then explain that making small talk when she isn't receptive is when you should just forget she exists and walk away, but on the contrary, explaining a scenario when a guy did do the wrong thing doesn't mean that girls never treat guys creepy merely because they didn't like them. A lot of guys are concluding this, so you can't just say they're coming to these conclusions in a vacuum. You have to actually act in accordance with your words. I'm frustrated that merely for happening to make eye contact with someone multiple times just by happenstance, girls at my work have concluded that I like them when I don't, and I swear I can see the wheels turning in their heads and then they start looking at me more and hanging out near where I work for no particular reason, making me feel like I have to be a robot every time I walk past them to discourage this. Then they start talking to me and one of them even told me she is afraid she'll never get married again. I told her not to think that way but I knew she was trying to manipulate me into dating her. WTF! If I pulled that move, I would have been treated like a creep. As a result of this, I saw a pretty girl at the DMV just a few days ago, she made eye contact with me when I just happened to turn and look right at her. I've been scolded for thinking things meant more than they did, but for some reason this doesn't seem to apply to girls. Out of an automatic trained reaction, I then not only didn't look at her again but even sat far away from where it would have made sense to sit which happened to be near her because I didn't want her thinking that I was being creepy just because I made eye contact with her and then happened to sit nearby her. This has made it very hard to start trying to smile and say hi to girls when they are receptive to me and I do like them. This is discouraging! It's like its a one way road, they get to do it but not me. And a lot of girls that I liked have treated me like a major creep for doing a whole lot less than this girl at work and others have done.

I'm 5 foot 5/ 135 pounds and make a average salary. I used to get laid in my teens and early 20s because I did a bunch of drugs, sold a bunch of drugs, went to bars/parties, and had a rebellious attitude. Ever since I stopped going out much and keeping to myself, occupied with hobbies and such. Crazy women love a reckless guy, and now that I'm less reckless, I'm just kinda a abnormal fellow lol. I get it, I don't look hideous, there's a video of me on my channel. It's 5 years old so I'm ten pounds bigger but I was 125 pounds then lol. I give up, too much work, not enough reward.

Lol.. if men have to be told not to feel strangers up.. Dating might be the least of your worries.

In late November, I was at a football game, sitting at the end of a row. A woman (probably mid-thirties) sat next to me, on the steps. I mean right up against me. A total stranger. We made conversation . We held hands a bit, then she got up and continued down the steps to the concession area. On her return trip, she paused again where I was sitting and there was more hand holding. My male friend said to me “You really do make friends everywhere you go.”

If the guy is a Chad then he's not a creep.

The 2nd point is so true. If she’s uninterested or if she rejects you, just move on! Read her body language or the words she says to you. Don’t chase her, it makes you look weird, obsessed and desperate.

when I worked at Walmart I was at the self-checkout paying for my lunch break snacks and I told the woman waiting to use the self-checkout next she could go ahead and set her items down on the stand, "I'm just waiting for this thing to print my receipt"...! she calmly said; "...yeah I could do that, I could knock you down and run you over with my cart"...! I thought "boy, this woman is kind of creepy"...? Lol's

*This is well-thought out and considerably accurate. *Also to consider is either avoidant and/or anxious attachment syles. At times, can be highly insecure. *Also to note is intensity. When a male literally states he is intense, then believe it.(This has personally happened to me in real life and social media) *In psychology, this can be linked to Psychopathic tendencies. *However, if there is a realistic connection, then time will tell.

Being yourself with a sense of humbleness. Being loud and annoying will label you as "loud and annoying". At work we get new people all the time that try to overly impress within the first 5 sentences of talking. Sometimes its fuxking creepy the weird stuff people blurt out while doing that.

I personally think women with loads of tattoos and pop rivets in their nose are creepy.

One thing to consider is that Courtney is an introvert giving an introvert's perspective. If you're dealing with a woman who's more extroverted, she might be more open to some of the things--like establishing light physical contact early on, or flirty/sexy jokes--that Courtney feels are a hard "no" in the early stages. Both perspectives are valid of course. This is why men really need to work on their ability to read body language and understand word selection and voice tone, so you can pick up quickly on what's working and what isn't and adjust appropriately. Because if you treat the extrovert like you're dealing with Courtney, she'll think, "Oh I guess he's not interested," and if you treat the introvert like the extrovert she'll think, "Ugh he's so pushy"

Courtney, you are truly a paragon of excellence when it comes to dissecting behavior between men an woman. You set a shining exemplar for all to aspire towards. Your content recently is truly eye opening, and I hope your name is spoken with reverence and admiration by all who know it in this niche. Don’t want to exaggerate but you are truly a veritable hero, a beacon of hope and inspiration in an often dark and troubled world.

Interesting concept: creepy is specially about uncertainty - a potential misalignment between behavior and intentions. A scary person isn’t creepy (it’s just scary) and a harmless person isn’t creepy (just harmless), but creepy is when it isn’t clear which is which, and the uncertainty of that seems to triggers something deep and ignite a fear response in women. Which sucks for guys who can set that off, but is probably an evolved and useful response for keeping them safe.

Good video. I think men have been gaslit into thinking showing any attraction is creepy. It’s good to know a list of behaviors that you can avoid, to boost your confidence that you’re not creepy

Makes sense. Number 1 is true and all but just as she pointed out often it's hard to know. My rule if she says she can't go out for whatever reason like "oh I'm sorry I'm busy" I don't try again unless she suggests another time herself.

i used to overhear complaints about being hit on from women. so i just stopped approaching them.

Women expect men to be perfect in every way, to say the perfect thing at the perfect time, to have confidence at the right moments while also being vulnerable at the right time. To be instantly interesting, to not be awkward at all and to pick up on every single signal, to be so secure in your level of attractiveness that you should know that being coy or seemingly uninterested is actually playing hard to get. Dating in the modern world seems so insincere and robotic. Probably why most guys these days would rather do shit they enjoy.