We open up about with what we know now, if there is anything we wish we had learned sooner. Real fam, is there any decision you would have made differently knowing what you know now?
Her Story Please don’t let your fear overcome your true desires. I stayed in a relationship for TOO long and while I don’t regret the learning experience I regret the time I wasted on this undeserving person, time I can never get back. Each second you unhappily spend with this individual is a moment you can spend treasuring someone else. 19 years is a successful run at a relationship, don’t chalk it up to failure just because it’s ending. Some things are meant to be momentary and life has a way of showing us the expiration dates if we look with a strong mind + open heart. Sending you love and light on this journey of yours.
So true ..... Wouldn’t it be great if she met someone n felt that peace n comfortable enough to want to have a kid (I’ve seen it happen many times) & god willing that relationship last forever .....while Freddie’s falls apart with that gold digging husband stealing manipulative hussy baby momma he’s with now --wow...sorry that last part just slipped out 🤨😉😜
Sarah I mean who WANTS to see their friends divorce!? She’s doesn’t live with them so of course she’s gonna be anti-divorce! But I’m sure once she found out the relationship wasn’t good she supported her friend divorcing
but maybe she needed it to become the person she's supposed to be and to make her stronger/realize her worth. Bad things happen to undeserving people but they always come out stronger in the end.
Key quotes from both parts: "You really truly don't know a person until they don't get what they want" "When someone shows you who they are believe them" And "Sometimes you find yourself when you get lost" 💯🗣
If I'm gonna be honest... one thing I wish I would have known sooner is : Sometimes it's ok to realize that... just because I'm nice to everybody doesn't mean I have to be friends with everybody ! Because me being 17 now I'm looking back in hindsight and I'm just now realizing there were lot of moments where it didn't matter who the person was, they could be treating me like trash & I would STILL jump over the moon for them ! I think I HAD too much character to the point where I didn't let myself take a step back and be like : you deserve way better when it comes to these friendships , you know it , so act on it ! And not just friendships but in any relationship in life
yes, that's definitely how I felt...like I had to be nice to everyone and any indication that showed they noticed me, etc made me think "okay, this is good, we're friends" or like it was a point system.... I'm 25 and I still try to be courteous and kind, but I personally don't care about all of that anymore. idk if we're not friends or not...I'll be the best me I can be and keep it pushing. I don't have time to care about stuff I may or may not have done right or wrong to someone I don't know to have you see me in some certain light. Life becomes a lot less stress free that way :)
Full circle moment how Adrienne traveled to Paris by herself to figure out if her 1st engagement was the right decision but ended up marrying husband in the same city years later
Has anyone else prolonged their relationship because your family really liked him and you didn’t want to disappoint them by breaking up with him? That happened to me, my mom was angry at me until I put her in her place 😂 “I’m not happy!!!!” Then she let me live!
Edlyn_Lopez This is why I don't introduce anyone to my family EVER...because people will disappoint you and embarrass you. Good for you for standing up to your mom. It may not have been easy but it had be done. She was wrong for being angry at you. Your happiness should be her first priority.
Glad you were able to seek happiness for yourself. Always take care of You. No one else knows you better than you. Since no one can live life for another be careful to live for yourself.
Girl I was in a relationship for 6-ish years. It was only the last two years I realized it wasn’t gonna work out. Everything looked perfect on paper but I wasn’t happy. And my family adored the guy...it was really hard but I broke it off even though everyone thought we’d get married. And I ended up in a really great relationship and it was worth it!
Girl YES THIS! Was with a perfectly sweet guy for four years, we were engaged and everything and my family ADORED him. But I just knew it wasn't a fit for me. And I was mad at myself for that. Who says no to a man who treats them so well and is such a good friend? And my family was also frustrated with me. But I just knew. I was wasting his time. I held out and prayed for answers and tried to see it..but I couldn't. He will make some other woman feel like a queen one day and she will love him the way he deserves to be loved. But you can't marry somebody who only feels like a friend to you. When I met the one for me it hit me like a lightning bolt. Don't settle.
I don’t think Tamar was necessarily wrong. Saying yes to a proposal does NOT mean you have to say I do. The engagement period is a time to think and make sure that person you’re marrying is the right one for you.
Yep this is true. I'm glad Adrienne called off the engagement. Some women won't because they're either in denial thinking things will change or they're too shamed.
I just left a relationship. The guy kept making demands on me and wanting me to conform to his way of thinking. Every day I felt like he was chipping away at my total being. I cared for him at first but I was not willing to lose myself in him. I have to be true to myself and who I am. He would say you are a beautiful person but if you did this or that or said this another way. I was losing my voice. No relationship is worth that. I am already enough for the man that God has for me.
Dude that was very honest. I know I would have been too embarrassed to tell that story but she is strong and using her platform well. Someone will benefit from what she said.
"Sometimes you find yourself when you get lost." Thank you God for never forsaking us, for still wanting us and leading us back to reality. Sorry but when Jeannie said those quoted words, it just took me back to my spiritual journey.
Now THIS is THE REAL! I love conversations like this. I also just had this wake up call. So true ladies. Thank you for allowing us into such a deep and painful authentic space. You are beautiful and deeply appreciated.❤❤❤
When Jeannie said sometimes you find yourself when you get lost, it reminded me of a Jhene Aiko song where she says "youve gotta lose your mind just to find your peace of mind".
I feel Jeannie’s pain, and I have never seen Loni be so honest and pure. I’m loving this conversation and the atmosphere here. I love these types of conversations.
Hands up Loni, thank you for saying that its normal its not being foolish, on my experience I hated that I wasted all the time & effort.. but yes its true that after giving ourselves room to breathe we see that it was important so that we learn & that we just also appreciate our own efforts to do right even if its just now
You find yourself when you get lost!! So powerful and true. Hang in there Jeanie I'm happily divorced too and regretted getting married from day one. Divorce really shows you what you married!!! Never again for me.
I think Freddie stayed in the game too long and then got frustrated with not getting what he wanted (a baby) . I think he waited too long and formed a resentment towards Jeannie and cheated. That’s why he doesn’t really care about her feelings now
@@crissoa however, as humans beings we are allowed to change our mind n we do that alot. He waited 10 years then he couldn't fantom it no more. Someone could say, well, she told him but honestly , how many women have said they don't want no kids n ended up changing their mind?. Kids are a big deal, even Adam said it, it can be a deal breaker in a relationship. Relationships are also about loads of compromises. Maybe they should have paid more attention on this aspect first before getting into marriage
@@judgeright2292 absolutely. People do change their minds. However, it was not his place to go into a marriage and stick it out with the hopes that she might change her mind and carry his baby. He had the luxury of getting forewarned which is more than most men do for women. He decided to be stupid. Who knows, she might change her mind and carry a black man's baby.
I honestly think this video highlighted alot of thoughts woman have and excuses we give ourselves to continuously take bad behaviour from a partner. Thanks ladies!
Wow so real Ade and Jean! I felt like I lost myself when I left for Ireland for study abroad but then I found myself. Nothing will ever take away how important those times were.
One thing I wish I knew was that I’m different from everyone else and don’t think the same as everyone else and that is ok. I am valid and worth loving for exactly who I am.
I ended up watching part 2 last.... sigh!! When I tell you I needed every bit of this conversation and real ness!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️. Y’all are my big sisters in my head.
Loni can sometimes be so vulgar, but real; I love it! 😂😂 I understand what Adrienne is saying. I think it's the same thing for some women who stays with men because of the money.
Yeah I believe she was trying to illustrate that the ring made all the s*** she went through worth while.. this is not football where you get pain inflicted on you in order to "win" a ring. Us women have to value ourselves more and stop this cycle it is ruining and destroying our children which is the new and next generation... hence the production of "millenials" that are the new generation of adults now.. we just have to do better😔
I see what Adrienne’s saying, a lot of women push themselves deeper into situations they know are wrong for them cause they feel that validations comes with certain titles. Side bar: society also gives props to women with those titles that they don’t give to women without them, regardless of how they got there.
What I love about this show is not only how real these ladies are but how much they uplift and support each other. That’s so rare to find in talk shows with different personalities. Stay strong Jeannie ❤️
I kind of know what Adrienne went through. I was with someone who I loved spending time with for the most part, but I started to realize that they were embarrassed to be seen with me in public. We could only go out during certain times and to certain places where there wouldn't be a lot of people we knew. I felt guilty for wanting to leave, I even told myself at least you guys have fun, at least you have someone. But then I realized I was starting to internalize it and believe that I should be "hidden" and I started to accommodate the fact that they didn't want to be seen with me. So I started to distance myself. I still feel bad now for distancing myself but I know it's for the better.
ADRIENNE WHAT YOU DID IN PARIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WOULD DO! When going through a really hard time I like to be alone & just pray to God & seek His guidance. ♥️
For Adrienne I completely agree with her 1,0000 percent because wether you’re going, you NEED TO & HAVE TO be alone and spend time with yourself for you to get your thoughts together and say to yourself “is this what I really want for myself?” “Did I make the right decision” “will I be happy?” It’s those questions in your head you constantly have of reassurance that make you realize I made a terrible mistake, this is where God himself speaks to you and let’s you know that I GOT YOU and I will show you what you are deserving of and what is for you. And God really shows that to you and it may scare you but it’s that type of scare that becomes a realization.
I wish I knew that those I thought were my friends, were never really my friends to begin with..I wish I knew that it's not necessary to try & please everyone all the time. I wish I knew that, not because we are related, that means that I have to trust you & have a relationship with you. I wish I knew that I don't have to settle for someone, just because I want a relationship even tho they don't really love me & I'm just good for right now until they meet the one they really want. I wish I knew how important your education is, & to take school seriously so you don't have to study later in life to try & get further. I wish I knew not to be wasteful with money & knew the importance of saving...
From someone who wasn’t raised religious and never really got the chance to develop a passion for scripture, I really love hearing them talk about their relationships with god.
I can definitely relate to what Adrienne said about her first engagement because I just got out of a 4 year relationship and put up with a lot. I thought because he wanted to marry me and asked and gave me a ring that it overshadowed everything but she gives me hope that one day, somebody will come and be a better match for me,.
Jeannie is such a blessing! That's a strong woman right there. She's going to get through this and the outcome is going to be amazing!! (Succes is the best revenge) she is a really sweet genuine kind person and she looks absolutely stunning and beautiful 🙏🏽
Real truths, real emotions, real people. That is what makes this show so great! You girls are a light! Thank you for shining and for guiding the way for us women to feel empowered and get through whatever life has to throw at us!
Necee Bash felt the same. Left work and everything and move to another country for a year to work on myself. Did my post grad, met new people and expanded my horizon and got back stronger. Do it sis, Europe is majorly safe.
Hey ladies, I am Kgatelopele from South Africa and I just wanted to let you guys know that I love and admire you all oh so much. I lost my mother 5 years ago, when I was 13 years old and as a result was never able to receive teachings on love and life from her. Watching your show every day has been like receiving those teachings. I have learned things such as "two wrongs don't make a right", "when someone shows you who they really are, believe them", "it is not what you say but how you say it" and so much more. I am so grateful for your show, it has helped me and guided me in ways I cannot even begin to describe. You all show so much bravery, courage, strength and wisdom and you truly are God's gift to women all over the world. Adrienne, I love and admire you so much especially when it comes to love. You were so brave to not only believe but act on the fact that you knew that you deserved much more when it comes to love. You knew who you were and what you stood for and that shows so much strength. I am 18 years old and have never been in a relationship, moving forward I will always remember your bravery and apply it in my love life (but don't worry, I will still let go of some unnecessary filters!). Jeanie, I love how you always see the good in people and how you judge people based on their character and how they treat other people. I especially love your relationship with Mama Mai and wish to have that with my daughter one day. Loni, I truly admire how determined you were to get that engineering degree even when that teacher of yours said you could never. I aspire to become a cardio thoracic surgeon one day and you have proven to me that you can do anything you put your mind to, regardless as to what people around you say. Tamera, I love how kind-hearted you are and how you show grace in all that you do. Your discerning spirit is one that I truly wish to obtain so as to hopefully block out unnecessary pain. I thank God for this show, and pray that it is renewed for many more seasons in the near future. Thank you guys so much for sharing your stories and beliefs, you are not only inspiring women but young girls such as myself. Remain blessed with light and love Yours in Christ (remember this one?!) Kgatelopele
I'm currently lost and trying to find myself. No ticket to Paris, but I've noticed some changes in my life I didn't orchestrate and I'm wading in the water right now, waiting for Jesus to walk past.
i am so happy and proud of Jeannie for not falling into the pressure of having a baby. you know deep down when something isn’t right, and i even feel a sense of relief for her that she didn’t have a baby with Freddie. she really dodged a bullet.
Jeannie is such a light... so positive, some may find her energy annoying, but it’s actually really beautiful that she’s so loving if you look a little closer
Oh wow. I literally feel like I’m sat with my girls in my bedroom having an emotional talk. The real is really THE REAL. Literally. Love all 4 of the girls. Sending Jeanie lots of love and hope she feels better soon 💕
This has been one of the deepest conversations ever,they were actually addressing me.For me I wish to have known that I don't need everyone's approval on whatever I do/would like to do;been really frustrated in life because of this and I do regret.
I wish I would of known that not everyone is a true friend and that eventually people will turn on you so don't just give your trust or love to just anyone, there's a lot of people you think have your best interest at heart but end up finding out how much they envy you and it's sad specially when you been friends with these people over 10 years.
Yup! No matter what they tell you or what kind of face they put on!! Prayer & the word of god is key. Ask God & he'll show you! Give him your all! It's so powerful how God works.
Wow. Adrienne really get it 100% and open and deep. I LOVE The Real! I love when they talk about deep stuff and are vulnerable. They don't always have to be vulnerable, but its amazing!
Watching this made me realize that all those times I was doing prayer walks (to get out of my parents house) was exactly what I was supposed to be doing. All those times I felt in my gut there was something more for me and it took believing in myself to actually trust that gut feelings...was for real.
Israel Houghton is really making Adrienne happy... you guys are awesome. this show is great, you guys are always making an impact daily . God bless you all
I feel so grateful when you ladies let us in and show us your vulnerable sides. I relate to it so much and feel better after I watch these type of videos!
I liked this episode, my thing is to this day, I don't know what my own identity is, I was told that I'm disabled and I couldn't take care of myself. When I block out all the negativity I receive from my own family, I'm successful at accomplishing my goals. I have yet to find the REAL Bryan. Maybe I should truly give everything to Jesus Christ and let him take me on that journey to find the REAL Bryan. I lost my dad last year, he was not a role model that I could look up to, so I'm lost for finding my purpose in life and who the REAL Bryan is..
