WHAT EVERYONE GETS WRONG ABOUT THE INFJ 

My age & the type of past I've lived considering I'm still a kind person. Also people sometimes think I'm a complete softy & push my buttons, then wonder why the beast came out to play.

@@joselozano0528 Thinks that's apart of our personality type as I've had similar situations regarding that 😂

The most common misconception non-INFJ’s have about me is they don’t understand how my actions stem more from my need for integrity than out of any need to please them. Yes, I like to please people as much as any INFJ but I am an INFJ TYPE 5 wing 4 so, with me integrity with my own thoughts and mind is EVERYTHING! I suppose if people understood that even then they would regard that as a little stingy and a bit selfish…but I do feel living in integrity is living up to my highest good…it’s not what I do for others that I want them to appreciate, I just want people to appreciate themselves and be the best versions of themselves and how they were meant to be…people get pissed off with me all the time presuming if I told them what I thought they could handle it…I try to let people think whatever they want, but help where I can and give advise only when they ask and can handle it…yes, people think I say things” out of character” all the time. Whether, we are people pleasers or not it goes with the territory for all of us INFJ’s 😂

Saying that I'm shocking people by just telling my opinion. This never happend. And I don't know where all that stuff in this video comes from (experience or internet), but this content here keeps it pretty vage. So, I don't know where this impression or expression of "being an Infj" comes from, but I don't feel related to it, cause its so generic. And I tell this as Infj Ni Ti domininant. To everybody who reads this: Please do your own research on cognitive functions to figure out, which type you really are. You can find stuff at CPS or OPS, here on RU-vid. Both are highly to recommand, if you want to discover your true personality. Thanks.

It seem's ironic on first glance that the INFJs, the judger's, are not judger's in real. It's not ironic actually, it's about knowing what stand's behind the word's. Language is a paralel reality, that doesn't always match the other existing one's, so we have to decode it and that's the main thing that people can't understand about us. We live in Plato's world of ideas, world of abstraction's, but most people live in the world of concrete thing's(+ or -) and they expect from me to be an easy label for them, „plus“ or „minus“ and that's where they fail. The other thing that most people can't understand is the introverted intuitive proccess itself. We are like an iceberg's like you say and because we are introverted intuitive's we don't like to show ourself's first and we think that because we can see some thing's other people still can see them and that's where we fail. The thing that we all have to be aware of is that complex failure thing. Other's do fail, but we fail too.

Yeah, man! I am the type who measures 10 times and cuts once and get it right the first time. People trip out about be a "worrier" and "overthinking" when they have no idea what's going on inside. Now, I have changed and force my self to show what I'm capable of despite being passive and modest. Which is working great.

hahaha loved it!

I get people that are caught in lies yet they’re still saying why you worrying calm down when I’m calling them out on repeated lies

It is them who worry ;)

Exactly! People think I'm anxious when I'm absolutely not. I do overthink and overanalyze stuff a lot, but I'm truly NOT an anxious person. That was even confirmed to me by a psychologist when I took some tests, and she was almost shocked to see how little anxiety I exhibited.

Same me at work 😂😂🤣🤣 they’re always asking me this.

It happened to me so many times

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We are magnets for Narcissists

Well said!

I think that this is a sentiment shared by many Fi-Ni & Ni-Fi users and other Fi users, to an extent. With regards the cognitive INFJ, as they're Fe-Se divergents, the 'self' is involuntarily very much externalised. As a cognitive ENFJ (behavioural INTJ) there is a tendency in the MBTI community to perceive conscious Fe users as 'putting on a mask' albeit this perception generally comes from conscious Fi users. Fe is not a mask; Fe can simply, ascertain everyone's objective & subjective perspectives & accommodates accordingly; the self is therefore inextricably linked to that of the 'other'.

Went to an meetup with other INFJs. It was interesting. We shared similar experiences but we were each different.

@@RW-gw7zi That makes sense to me. Even identical twins can have major differences. Still, it seems a cool thing to experience.

Every INFJ is being differrent, and there are subtypes. But into a crowd of INFJ, we've would understand each other much better, than into a typical crowd of ordinary ppl - hence feeling lonely into a group, much more than being physically alone...

Just our mirror presence threats

I guess lol

Because if you force someone to do something the change won't click. they won't understand why.

Buwhaa ha ha! The INFJ secret police will be paying him a visit some time soon.

But no! Really? Take over the world? I can't think of a worse punishment for me, personally😂.

@@handleguy who better then the infjs?

@@handleguy I'm looking for people who know how to use an arrow for my infj army.

This is what I've learnt to do: 1. Choose me. I choose to address what I feel will give me peace. The world will not end. I'm not any less irrelevant despite the roles I play in people's lives. It won't make a difference unless the person chooses for it to. As such, I only address what I personally feel will have great repercussions in the future. 2. Honed discernment. I've learnt to know whom and what to address. I only speak on matters and address what matters to me, what could actually matter, and would make a difference. 3. Accountability. I hold people accountable for their actions and speech. I'm all for win-win as long as everyone else is. The moment I experience selfishness or any self-motivated actions; I shift to holding people accountable. Lately, this is actually my default. I'm only open for win-win if I sense you are. 4. Humility. My experiences have taught me that free will is a powerful force to contend with. Choices determine outcomes, and each individual is liable for theirs. I'm only as relevant as the role I'm meant to play in a person's life. My value is only as high as their perception of the value of what I have to offer. This has helped me stay focused on the things that actually matter. So where in the past I believed who I am mattered to the people I'm interacting with, now I focus on the role or part I'm playing. Who or what I want is irrelevant. This also frees me from the expectation that what I do counts. 5. Set boundaries and expectations. In situations like yours where my role is clearly defined, I set boundaries and expectations. That's also why I take accountability seriously. I don't know if this is personal to me or an INFJ thing; I only address things once. As such, it's pertinent people know the score. This makes it easier for me to take action on things and hold people accountable where necessary. As you highlighted, most people don't care about win-win, so I hold them accountable instead using our already discussed expectations and boundaries. 6. I honour my boundaries and decisions. Once I set a boundary or make a decision, I honour it. Even if a person's behaviour or circumstances change, unless I have changed my mind about them/it; I stand by my original position about them/it. I give myself the honour and space to determine what the changes mean to me, and what I want to do about them. Relating these to your question: In imbibing these principles, I find myself taking action more than being the one always addressing things. Over time, the people around me have learnt to respect that I only address something once. So when they see my attitude towards them adjust, they recognise what happened. As a result, when I say something once, they take it seriously. On my part, I only speak on things I know I can't accommodate. These are generally few and far between. I'm increasingly finding less reasons to have to address things.

@@faridaashu5505 thanks for the thoughtful tips! I’ll take some time to read and ponder on it! Thank you!

@@striderwolf687 you're welcome. I'm glad you consider them thoughtful. A lot of times, I come off as too real, borderline disillusioned. Personally, it's been key to finding peace and finally living life on my own terms. I hope you figure out what works for you best. That's the most ideal outcome you could gain. Take care and be kind to yourself.

@@faridaashu5505 for sure! You put a lot of thought, time and effort into it. I’ll likely need to read it a few more times. Thank you! May you be blessed on your travels and have peace.

@@striderwolf687 thank you. You're welcome and amen.