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Thank you for your help during my grief. I lost my husband four months ago. When planning his memorial, I happened to read what people did during the pandemic and I realized that a very small intimate gathering would be best for us. And in looking back I cherish the memory of such a personal memorial with just close relatives and a few friends. This is a very complicated and lonely journey. Again thank you for letting me know I’m not alone.
I lost my two sons. Both killed-the elder-37 old by a car on a pedestrian crossing, the younger- by three volunteers in a rehab center...Only a year and 10 months after the death of the first son, I am totally alone. No words to describe what I feel, three months have passed. Smashed and thrown into a deep dark mine... I have watched all you tube content on greef... starting with russian language segment and now english...I am clinging to any speks of hope to get out of this mine. I have got my life sentence... changed is not a word to say what I am now.Maimed inside for the rest of my time of life
I lost my husband 6 months ago, grief has been my constant companion. We had prepared as much as is possible for his death but I did not think about where this would leave me. I went to a therapist friend who helped a great deal in my grief work. It is like a huge trauma. I try to do what is best for me now and what my Charlie would be proud of. We were good friends as well as being married. Each day is different but I want what I do to honor this wonderful man. So much has opened up. Thanks for your help and guidance. The videos got me started and help me along. I can do this.
Thank you my Dear Jo , it's a God doing I found out your video, I lost my husband on the 23rd March 2023 he got a cardiac arrest he passed away with his workers while doing his work in the garden no symptoms he was very healthy he drives himself the car No sign at all of any sickness that he will passed away all in a sudden I was not with him I was out of town for my work .I am really shattered till today I keep crying every day I feel the loss the hurt the sadness will never go away from me . But your video your word's really help me to ease my pain every time I start feeling sad & cry I quickly opened your channel and listened to you it's give me so much relief I just couldn't not express how thankful I am to you it's a God doing. God bless you always 🙏
Hi Jo. I find your videos very helpful. My ex took her life in April. Grief and I have been on intimate terms ever since. Am grateful for your generous insights and encouragement. Thank you!❤️🙏
I'm Just at such a loss for words with all this grief work I can hardly think let alone clearly. I've been blindsided by a train it's complete chaos in my mind with all these lost emotions and then the what ifs and now what I'm supposed to do? Nothing prepared me for this I'm not happy about it and there's nothing i can do now. The FOUR I"s idk i just miss her every day she was only 40 this life is so crazy. Thanks, Jo for the kindness. I wish people didn't have to deal with stuff it's really so awful.
Hello. I lost my husband seven months ago.....he was 53. I understand the "confusion" and back n forth. What helps me when my mind races is to take a deep breath and remind myself of self care. I cn no longer take care of my husband nor he me. So I need to focus on me now. Me is my priority and all the racing thoughts are not helping. One day at a time; one minute at a time to fix ME. Anyway, I hope this will help some. Please just take that deep breath to calm your racing mind.
I just lost my husband six months ago, he was 49. I don’t even know what to say, I just want to join the conversation by sharing that I too am in deep grief in this moment.
I’m a year into this grief journey and there are days I still can’t believe that my husband is not here, how could this have happened? I have been working hard to get through each day and unknowingly, I have touched on these four I’s that you have spoken about. It has really helped me get through. I still have a long way to go but I am beginning to have some hope. I have to somehow make peace with the fact that this is my life now and grief will be with me always.
Thank you, dear Jo, for your ideas and suggestions. İ find it helpful. We should connect with are true selves and express everything we feel. İt is like cleaning physical wound. Otherwise it gets infected and can kill us in the end. Take care people, wish you all peace in mind and heart, this is long and difficult journey for all of us. Big hug from SE Europe
In 1.5 years I lost my mother, friend, favorite uncle and both my dogs who were like children to me. In the middle of the lockdown periods that allowed me to receive little (physical) support from others. That made me more hardened. Now, after watching this video, I feel it's time to soften. To take my grief seriously. The idea to really take time out in the morning by starting a ritual was born. From now on I will very consciously dwell on my loss. Because the chaos I keep ending up in my head and feeling brings me so much extra suffering. Thank you very much for this. I live in the Netherlands, but otherwise I would come to your practice. Glad I found you online. Good and warm to everyone who reads this.
It seems as if by some magical synchronicity the things you say resonate exactly with the problems I am feeling. My desire to augment my feelings of isolation, to turn away and become MORE isolated is at the core of things you are addressing in the talk I have just watched. The thing is, Jo, that though you may caution the grieving against becoming so ‘for the rest of their lives’, the current of this flood I am being swept away in is really too strong for me to swim against. I don’t think I am in a place where I would contemplate taking my own life, but I certainly am in a place where I feel that my life now is sufficiently meaningless and permanently painful and disorientated that I can cope only like a zombie with most day-to-day matters, but really have little hope of things changing. It’s a good day for me when I am not too tired or lacklustre, or sore in heart that I can perceive things around me without having a sense of only half of me being there,and my old loves, my little dog, all swept away leaving a Hell which may well be of my own making, but gives me constant emotional and sometime physical pain and stress. Too many ghosts. I just don’t see future scenarios at all. ❤I just want to be numb and not hurt anymore. Thanks again for your lovely counsel. Edward.😢
Please know that those who are going through grief know and share your issues. But please try to see one tiny positive each day, flowers, sunshine, birds singing, a person you pass who you could smile at and say hello. Is there a support group you can join in with ?? I hear you…sending you a hug from New Zealand
My loss is my DEFACTO partner of 24yrs telling me he no longer in love with me, loves someone else who he wishes to spend his life with. He is 73 and I am 72…very hard to face the future knowing your going to be alone, no family here all in UK or Australia. Feeling rejection, betrayal etc. These videos help. We are still in same house as we can’t do much else until the home is sold. No close friends near me..just aquaintences.
Thank you Jo, this is very helpful. I have a question someone asked me the other day and I wonder if you could address 'preparing for grief' when you know a loved one is very sick and their days may be numbered. I lost my husband last July and my little corgi crossed over last Friday, so now I am going through another level of grief with a pet. Your videos have given me great comfort.
I have a huge issue with the intuition portion of your advice - the spiritual is not a realm that brings me any comfort whatsoever (it’s more likely to trigger anger over the religious and spiritual bullying I’ve lived through). I do not have a belief in anything supernatural. What advice do you have for someone in my shoes?
