What if I had to START OVER in lolita fashion? 

Losing all of your lolita makes me think that maybe people with big collections should get their collections insured. Take pictures of everything, save them and then look up prices online and screenshot those to go with your photos. This way the issuance people have documented ownership evidence, and values for each price.

My daughter is just getting into sweet Lolita style, and after watching a bunch of your videos we took your advice! Ordered her first JSK, shirt and cute tights from Devil inspired, shoes and a beret from Amazon! Her theme is mint and white. I’ll post a photo of her first cord when it arrives in a month or two!

Hunter lolita makes me imagine an army camo coordinate. I'm in favour of it

Oh man. I had to do this. I had to start over. My pipes froze in my house and then exploded and let me tell you red dresses against white dresses. the colours bleed. everything was destroyed. Get home insurance on your collection, take pictures, file them with a rough estimate of worth, then put it at someone elses house. Learn from my mistakes lmao.

The advice I was wrong about video helped me as a beginner. And looking at the Lolita Animo, and the Lolita Guidebook on Tumblr was incredibly useful

...is that a Kylo Ren mask in the background? 👀

Something I Think that should be covered is what to do when there is no comm in my state. I run into this issue when it comes to finding meets and often have to travel out of state which makes it hard to keep up with fB groups cause I'm not in there state.

I'm Gothic Lolita and gosh, I feel like I start over everytime I get dressed up again, discovering some new way to wear something ×////×

3:21 PayPal is not fee free at all. AFAIK they don’t charge for having a balance, but they take huge fees when paying someone in a different country via PayPal. I learned this the hard way >.

I am not into dressing wholly Lolita but I have to say, in watching your videos and through you, Lor, watching others.. The way your community coordinates, accessorizes and does makeup is inspiring and has inspired me to view my own wardrobe and makeup differently. I try different things with my own outfits and makeup (having a whole pink day, with shoes and a flowery dress and pink eyeshadows) And It's just been wonderfully fun. I'm not sure what the whole point of my comment was besides that I guess you've inspired someone beyond your community to look at their wardrobe and makeup in different ways! :)

I would start with a simple, older BTSSB floral JSK because that's my most versatile piece I currently own (and they aren't too expensive). I'd then get some low heeled pink shoes and off-white blouse and legwear and get some floral hair accessories.

I would buy petticoats again, and then go ham on buying tons of cute ankle socks. When I started out I never had the right socks! So silly of me.

I just love all dresses from Infanta. They are like a mix of sweet and classic and I can't Think of what would I do without them. I am yet new and I only have 3 dresses but I am so happy! My bf, friends and mom are helping me get new stuff each birthday or christmas!

Whoa, the idea that I'd somehow lost my collection is way, waaay too upsetting. Having said this, the lessons I've learnt from my mistakes and generally over the years I've been in the fashion are that: 1) an adjustible hoop skirt is one of the best investments of my frilly life; 2) I love skirts and getting a skirt first would mean being able to put together casual coords really quickly with my non-lolita stuff; 3) lolita socks are my self-professed addiction and I can't just give them up; 4) focus a bit more on cuts that flatter my figure instead of on prints that I like, as this makes me overall much happier when I wear lolita; 5) Meta is love, Meta is life, accept them into your heart and be your best self. :P

I'm not a lolita (oops), but I would go for blouse + skirt (and of course petticoat, very important) because that's the combo I go for all the time. However, I would also think about sewing. I don't see a lot about handmade lolita, but that might be an option, can't it???

This really helped me feel encouraged. I've been a fan for years, watching your videos to learn in my budding ita phase. Over the years, I fell away from my drama heavy community, and outgrew my dresses. I still love the style and am rebuilding my collection, so this is perfect timing! Thank you for all your passion!♡

Im still just getting started in lolita i bought my first dress and petticoat 3 months ago(actually you and tyler inspired me to get into lolita) i just bought my first brand piece and the first lolita dress i fell in love with when i started looking at dresses (angelic pretty’s dolly cat op in the black colorway) Im also going to my first meetup next weekend which is lol a high tea 😅 Thankyou for inspiring me to join this subculture 🖤

I would reinvest in a solid colored JSK and basic black blouse and a white blouse. So easy to add accessories to!

as a beginner this video has been super helpful! i've been interested in the fashion for like a decade and i'm finally taking the plunge to start. got my first brand jsk 5 months ago and my petti came in today (got the melikestea one from your recommendation). i don't think my first coordinate will be ready for a while but your videos have been super helpful in the meantime ^^

omgg the idea of having to rebuild my wardrobe is so stressful lmfao but i guess the first thing id do is try to find pieces that can also go with styles i already wear, so if i buy a lolita skirt id want it to match stuff from my fairy kei wardrobe so its easier for me to get started again

I have never bought any lolita-specific items. I own three handmade JSKs as well as one skirt. I have two petticoats: one is handmade and the other is altered from a long wedding petticoat I found at a thrift store. All my shoes are from thrift stores. Most of my blouses are from forever 21, H&M, and thrift stores. About half of my jewelry is handmade. Most of my hair accessories are handmade, and I also own handmade wrist cuffs. Socks and tights are all from target or forever 21. You CAN wear lolita without spending a ton of money as long as you have a sewing machine (that you know how to use) and an eye for good pieces.

What a great video! I was surprised at some of the answers, but I really love that you answered them honestly. Your choices were very logical! While I hope this scenario never happens to anyone, if it does to me I hope I can make good choices over my emotional-based ones ; c ; Thanks for sharing ♡

Newbie here! I did actually check out devilinspired because of your previous promo and I'm now waiting for pieces to be shipped for my first coord

My first two items would probably be a blouse and the squirrel party jsk by bodyline. I know there are better quality dresses out there. But it's one of my favorites. I would then work myself half to death making a new petticoat. Because I'm not going the leg avenue petticoat route again. And I can spend a million hours and less than $30 if I make it. Then I would buy some shoes via aliexpress since I've had luck doing so. (I suggest asking the community for links to actually decent products before throwing $ at aliexpress though) And I would by my super cheep striped socks that everybody hates but I love. Striped socks are life. And I would buy a nicer brand headbow in a plain but complementary color to the jsk. And I would spend about $15 on the floofy fluff wig that I love. After that, I'd look on Etsy for a couple pieces of jewelry. Or I could spend an excessive amount of time making everything except the socks and shoes. But I suppose making everything isn't exactly new lolita friendly. Re-building a wardrobe and building one for the first time are two different beasts. And having different art skillsets from the beginning vs not being able to put a button back on can make a huge difference in your lolita experience.

Thanks, Lor, this was very helpfu! I am working on putting together my first outfit, was just accepted into a community in my area (yay! ) .I found The Blouse of My Dreams, but it would need to be custom-made to fit me. And I am willing to wait a long time and pay extra to obtain it, I'm just leery of ordering something being custom-made overseas. I see the wisdom in getting something quickly, unfortunately most things I see don't come in my size! It's been very frustrating, fortunately my sewing skills are decent where I might be able make some basic garments 😭😭

Thank you for sharing your insights to us. I am starting to build a wardrobe and plan to try lolita when I finally save up.

Loving the editing, feels like a news report

I am in love with fashion and am really choosy about what I get because I have very specific visions, I feel like 60 for a basic dress, of good quality and comfortable fabric is a fantastic price especially when you take great care of your clothes

Thank you for your petticoat recommendation, I might finally find one that I trust getting (and in my particular waist measurement) as a first time Lolita buyer 🥰 I'm so excited to get my stuff but the waiitttt... So now I'm binging Content haha, great vid to re-watch!

Oh this was fun! Do a video about what you wouldn’t rebuy, or what’s not necessary when you are starting out next!

What if I had to START OVER in lolita fashion? Me: Cry

I really loved this video. I really like how you spoke about how much the community meant to you although it does make me kinda sad because I can't really experience comms - there is a comm near me but it's not super active and most of the meets are in a city which is local to me but still I would have to get a bus then a train and it could take from 1 hour and 30mins to 2 hours. I understand that this is not far for many people in places like America but for England (and for me) this is quite far to go to meet people that I have had little to no prior interaction with.

Well that makes sense about the lolita fb groups denying people to join because they don't particularly wear lolita. I remember a year or two ago I tried joining a lolita group on fb and they denied me because I didn't wear lolita. It was frustrating to me because I love lolita fashion. I have since I was 12 and I'm 22 now. Its one of my favorite things to talk about, look up, admire, and dream about. I even purchase Gothic Lolita Bibles from time to time when I have the $$. I have the knowledge and the love for it... But the thing is for me I'm very very uncomfortable with my body. No matter how much I love lolita, I can never get comfortable enough with myself to purchase any of the actual pieces. So when I was denied from joining the group I got frustrated, but I understand now. Their just trying to keep it a safe space. I know someday hopefully I'll be okay with myself enough to wear lolita(maybe give it another 10 more years lool).

I just went to Devil Inspired and you're on their page! I'm geeking out! Although I know this video is like a year old...this is a hot tip! I'm getting started actually...kinda...yeah.

Heads up folk. You don’t need a ‘brand’ wardrobe to wear Lolita! Common misconception woo~ If I lost my wardrobe I would just remake it! I only have 2 bought pieces (both are still available to buy too, I’d buy the blouse but not the dress) from years back and the rest (10+ dresses) is handmade. I’ve learned a lot over the years so the fit, quality and construction would be better so it would be a win win. I would be pretty sad to loose my wool coat though.. I even made the buttons on that thing 😂 it’s hideous and glorious. I do feel thats a point of contention for me, not having a brand wardrobe and the pressure of not being a ‘brand’ Lolita feels a little exclusionary in the main communities. (Yes I am in the sewing communities too, everything is so chill there in comparison) It’s less so a problem now but the attitude is still there. A year ago I met this Lolita who sneered at me and said ‘oh. Yes. I can tell it’s handmade’. Left a really negative impression so I never bothered to look her up after the event. Met her again recently at the same event, in the same coord she’d snubbed previously and she asked me to make a dress for her... it wasn’t good enough for her last year 😅 10/10 wouldn’t work with lol. I don’t even think she recognised that we had already met haha

I've had a petticoat a dress and some shoes for a few years ago I finally decided to start actually wearing Lolita and I'm so excited! I have a cart on taobao ready to order! Time to become an actual Lolita!

I want to start but I have no money at the moment... hopefully soon! This was very helpful, thank you!

This was very helpful I'm not new to the community but I'm still learning ( I've be wearing it for 2 years ) so thank you... also the PayPal idea is perfect, I would have never though of that 😊

Big thankyous for making videos that are just great to watch and listen to. You are such great company that I find so helpful and relaxing. Two things we share - your hatred of Facebook and your love of that beautiful Orchid accessory on your left temple. Following and love from Canvey Island in the sunny U.K. Maxine x

The lucky pack with the dress, socks, headpiece, blouse and bag. is great for beginners and build themshelves up from there. Gets them the idea of the quality and what to expect for later purchases. I didn't knew about it but people that are currently new or curious would try this and later on become more involved. I think this needs to be addressed to people! I hate Facebook i got rid of it years ago and you feel better when it's gone out of your life.

I think this has been the most helpful video I've found so far. I admit I'm extremely overwhelmed trying to join the community it's why I've put off getting my first piece for literal years. Being in a midwestern state in the us it's really hard to find people who are lolita and plan events. (Though I'm going to the yearly anime convention in full lolita one of the days during summer.) Having the idea that possibly getting an op first instead of trying super hard to coordinate for the first time. Also I was hoping maybe in your beginners guide you might be able to address being color blind and having issues with matching colors and how to help that, I havent been able to find that much info or advice on this topic and I think it could really help alot of people. I know I could just stick to one color or do gothic but I'm a sweet lolita at heart. XD

You’re wearing your new, cute bear hairpin! It looks really good on you!

I lost the contents of my house in a flood, including a lot of my gothic and vintage clothing. I had to list the value of what is lost, but even with a list of everything we lost (a bathroom, kitchen, lounge, sewing room, office and more things with all the furniture, electronics etc), we only got £10k. For perspective, the couch we lost cost £900 by itself, by the time we’d replaced all the furniture and electrics and essentials, there was nothing left to replace my wardrobe and I’m starting from scratch. At first I found the fresh start as a positive thing, but as time goes on and I’m assembling coords, I keep thinking “ah, I can use my XYZ coat/vest/boots” but no, I can’t, because it got destroyed, and it’s really triggering to keep thinking about it all the time. Moral of the story, make a wardrobe itinerary with PROOF OF PURCHASE/PAYMENT, even a PayPal transaction receipt counts!

I’d honestly cry if I lost my wardrobe 😭 I’ve been collecting for so long, so I honestly would start by looking at the jsks that I got when I first started like my older btssb one aha

Thank you for this video! it's so informative and helpful! You make wonderful videos!

I think Lolita fashion is so beautiful, I would love to get into it and this video is a huge inspiration to chase that! Stay lovely ❤️

i actually am kind of thinking of restarting my lolita wardrobe... just haven't worn the fashion in well over a year & just moved to a new city with an active comm. basically just trying to fall in love it the style again & redesigning the kind of outfits i want to wear to suit who i am as a person now.

Can’t wait for the beginners guide ❤️

If I started over it would actually not be that bad, I would be able to aprouch it correctly from the get go, and possiblely have gone to that one event for lolita (that I missed) that was held in my state which would have been my only chance at finding a comminity.

I'm really new to lolita and just bought my first jsk and have plans on how to grow from there, but I don't know how to find an active community in my area. Something that I would really love to learn about is how to find a community or how to start one. I would like more opportunities to wear lolita with other people. I hope this is not too much to ask. I really love your channel.

Yoooo I never thought of using Paypal as a savings account! Thanks for the tip!

As someone who collects (read, hoards) make-up the idea of losing my entire collection makes me want to cry, ditto with my collection of band t-shirts and Pusheen stuffies. I'm trying to think how I'd rebuild my wardrobe if anything ever happened to it (although I'm a Goth) and it's so hard.

I thought you were going to say your beautiful tama collection. Noooo that is the first video of yours I found and got hooked. But I get it gotta do what you gotta do.

I can't wait tell the next Lolita horror story ep

I'm so looking forward to the beginners guide bc I seriously need help😓🙏 But ur videos have helped a lot and this too!💖💫 keep up the good work🌸💜

I think that once I told to a lolita that one of my dream dresses was Squirrel party from Bodyline... Months later she sended me a text where she said that she could buy the dress for me and I can pay to her later... Omg I felt sooo blessed. She got it in pink, now I own it, I really love that print ❤️

Thank you for this🙏 it helps a ton for beginners like myself 😁

Luv this video and luv you Lor! 💖

The diamond honey gingham dress is so cute!!💖💖 I wish it came in a bigger size 😭

I wanted to be a Lolita so bad when I was like 14 and I still never forgot my only half ironic dream dress... does anyone remember that doge dress

I really want that lolita coord check list! but sadly, the shipping tax to europe is NUTS, so i'll probably never have it :(

One piece that I always seem to wear that I could rebuy if I had to restart my wardrobe would be a veil.

I am a hunter of many styles, I get an absolute thrill and buy almost exclusively second hand for sustainability reasons. I have no friends to hunt for though and that makes me really sad because I get such a kick out of helping people.

This video was super helpful!

Hi, I was wondering if you had any advice on where to shop for tall lolitas? I'm 5ft 11 and find it hard to find anything that fits. Any advice would be really appreciated. Thank you for all the awesome videos xx

How do I find Lolita communities in the Midwest? Also I am planning on making a floral jsk, are floral patterns considered Lolita?

The bit about paypal should be followed with some caution. Paypal works great as a payment and transfer service (generally), but you absolutely should NOT treat paypal as a bank. It's almost a guaranteed thing that they'll seize accounts with "too much" money in them - reports of this have varied from a few hundred to a few thousand. You should always take money out of your paypal as soon as you receive it, and *never* store money in your paypal.

I’ve been tip toeing around Lolita since highschool and just never fully jumped in. Recently decided to search more cause it coincides with a cosplay. You’re right to hate Facebook, the groups are intimidating to newbs and not very active in any hobby (Larp, DnD, or Lolita) in fact the only active groups I’ve found were for anime conventions and that’s just a lot of memes. Also step one is search the word Lolita on every social media/google and then bash your head on a desk when you realize your sub genre isn’t as popular so it’s harder to buy. Yay ouji!

holy crap im early LOORRR ILYY

im pretty new to all of this but really really want to try and start to specifically dress in ouji fashion (rather than general lolita with dresses and all bc god would my dysphoria spike if i did) and i was wondering if anyone knows if the places to get pieces for it would be the same as overall lolita or if i should look somewhere else? Or some specific basics that would be needed for it i guess!

High key support for you, but i do recommend fashion history! Lol and high-key a cute black dress for one time olala moment if you question me.

Does anybody have resources for US plus sized lolitas? I'm a US 3X, and I have yet to find a resource for the fashion.

I'd be so sad if I had to rebuild my wardrobe. It reminds me that I really should go through and date / photo catalog everything of importance in my wardrobe in case of fire or natural disaster so I could claim homeowners insurance on it and get that money back to begin rebuilding. But there's some dream items where I found them for steals when they normally go for much higher prices or some pieces are rare. It would be heartbreaking if I lost them. I would probably go to Sweet Mildred and get an OP, petti, and some accessories, or just make some of my own or go to some other artist alley and convention vendors who make things / resell and see if I can grab things from them to at least get a coordinate or two put together. I like supporting fellow indie designers/artists, so knowing that a friend or someone I know made my first new pieces and helped me get back would be a lot more special to me than just buying something cheap elsewhere just because. I could also buy some cute fabric from some etsy sellers and make some pieces as well. When I started I was all about Bodyline (Taobao wasn't super big), but now I'm really more supportive of indie designers as well as the big brands. Then I'd go through and make a list of all my dream items, items I had in my wardrobe that I loved and begin searching for them again. I'd probably also go through Lady Sloth, Bunnyhouse, Glitter tale and just get blouses in all the colors I like to coordinate with. Then go through Cotton Candy Feet and Bodyline just to get some shoes. Maybe one big pink and a white bag in a heart or basic shape. For socks, I'd initially do what I did as a newbie, and just hit up sock dreams for their basic OTKs. I'd also be more on the lookout for buying full brand sets that include headwear and when possible, socks.

Another piece of advice I'd like to toss in is try to, if you can, get one "convention proof" main piece. That is to say a main piece (OP or JSK or Skirt) that is sturdy enough to be worn anywhere. Everyone defines this a bit differently in terms of what materials they think are tough enough to count as this kind of item, but the over-arching concept / point is to have a main piece that you don't worry about and that will remove any and all excuses to not wear lolita. Of course in certain event situations it's not appropriate, but a lot of Lolitas do limit themselves out of concern for damaging their delicate dresses and skirts when it would otherwise be a perfect opportunity to wear the fashion in public. Another way to define a "convention proof" main piece is that it might not be very sturdy, but it is something you would not get upset over if it became damaged. This might be a piece that didn't cost very much, or that was handed down to you by another Lolita because it was a little too well worn to sell on lace market. For me, personally, I ended up finding a handmade OP that I bought partly because it was affordable, but largely because it was made out of an incredibly durable material that I had as a slipcover once years ago. That sofa cover had survived a dog and a toddler amazingly, so when I saw someone had bought the same base fabric to make something out of, I knew I could wear it to any convention without worry.

Such a good video!

Ooooh I'm excited for another horror stories episode ;3

Hey Lor, I'm plus size and have trouble finding anything tailored to bigger girls. I have a pettie coat, but the closest thing i have to a dress is a Hell Bunny cute dress. So far off the mark. Do you have any advice for the chunky kids? :)

I noticed that lolibrary is incomplete in terms of newer, brand releases. Does anyone happen to know why this is?

What is the name of the song in your end card?

I’m curious, can a large Lolita closet be insured in anyway?

OMG, the first meet up I went to was actually a picnic meet. 😊

I see the new gaming chair!!

Weird question but what's the song at 10:08?

Does anyone have advice for a kid who wants to start lolita because I think I might grow out of my dresses before I can wear them.

Your dress is so cute.

Do you insure your collection?

What would you recommend as your first dress if you lived in a warmer and humid climate?

My parents don’t really want me to have any social media accounts. How can I get connected with a group?

Does anybody know any lolita communities that are regularly active? All the communities ive joined usually aren't active that often and dont have many people in it

it's neat to be in love with your clothes so much that you care if it all burns down.

I lost my entire lolita collection alot of rare pieces that arnt made any more like old school AP and btssb, shoes, socks usakumyas EVERTHING! I lost my lace market account too. My ex was really abusive and one night I had enough after he hit me in my face hoping I would fight back but I didn't, I packed my daughters things and my work clothes and left. I had to leave my clothes and lots of memorables from my childhood. He hacked into my phone and changed all my passwords it was a mess! Its been a few years now I assume he sold all my things on the fb group that we were apart of. We shared a fb because he didn't want me to have my own. I haven't worn lolita since. I have cried when I thought about it but I try not to think about it. I'm just happy me and my daughter are okay. I still do love lolita though. I have 1 usakumya pochette that took because it was my purse at the time and I love it so much!

This was really helpful. I have watched your vids on and off for a bit and TODAY after watching this vid, I just bought my 1st peice. I went to devilinspired.com like u recommended looking for an OP but I love mermaids and I found a mermaid jsk that made me change my mind😅. Still gotta get the rest for a coord but I'm excited for it to come.

I ordered from Devil Inspired but it didnt go through. weird.

I really wanna get into Lolita preferably sweet but I'm really young so I need to ask my mom to buy stuff and im scared to ask for a lolita dress 😂 I have a petticoat for cosplay already but the dresses are 😳 so pretty but soooo expensiveee

Instead of a petticoat (although i still am planning to get one) i went for an adjustable hoopskirt because my area is hot

Lolita newbie here, is brand really that important? Is it a quality thing or do they just tend to have nicer looking dresses? Sorry if that sounds condescending I'm just curious.

Hunter lolita's unite 💖

Has anyone ever used lolitastylefashion.com I legit found a dress that I want but I'm unsure about the website...

I don't fit the measurements for the brands to the best of my knowledge. I would probably end up sewing most of the pieces and purchasing things like the petticoats and accessories.

... all I heard was converse with Lolita and I died a little inside xD