What is Ego | Dr.K Explains 

Oh boy. I watched like 10 videos of him and so far every single one has been extremely informative and entertaining at the same time. Man, this channel is a goldmine.

"When I am taking a dump, I am no different from anyone else." Doctor K - 2019

Makes me think how money is tied to ego because it's all about the future

He had 45 viewers. How much he has grown, haha.

When he talks I swear to God I feel like all my failures are completely okay and life is gonna be alright.

Damn this guy helped me realize i am pretty freakin egotistical, even tho i dont act like the normal word of ego, i act like i have no ego so that people will like me, man i have shit to change

"But if all I am is a dude who's taking a dump, no one can take that away from me." Just an amazing quote.

"I'm not any better or worse than anyone else." This is such a critical and difficult thing for people learn.

I found it fascinating when he talked about the ego of twitch viewer count "I have to be careful, right now I have 45 viewers" knowing where Healthy Gamer has reached nowadays.

crazy to hear dr. k talk about having 45 viewers and seeing the chat move so slow compared to him being one of the biggest streamers on twitch in 6 months. the power of psychology and aoe healing

this is genuinely the channel that has had the biggest impact on me since i started watching youtube a decade ago

discovered you after watching the video with Reckful. Great stuff, youre helping a lot of people

Ego is a protective mechanism Ego is all future oriented. To reduce ego, good exercise is to be in the present. To increase confidence, good exercise is to just do things away from judgement (spending time in nature is a good one)

Best Dr. K quote yet: "Ask yourself, who you are when your taking a dump. Do you have a net worth when your taking a dump?"

If u find this helpful it might be a good idea to watch this again a couple months later, some things aren't fully comprehensible at a first look, even when it seem to be clear u may need experiences to reinforce those ideas and actually believe them. Just an advice. Love the content it is very helpful

Calling someone talented is probably just as devaluing as calling something easy

i'm just a guy.... watching this on my phone.....while sitting on a toilet....taking a dump.......feels good.....in more than one way!

One of my favorite things since watching this years ago is the study where they put cameras on monkeys that live on top of a mountain. They were on a peak and when the sun rose, all the monkeys stopped their grooming, their foraging, everything they were doing to stop and stare at the sunrise. Like 9 monkeys on camera all did so. And the researchers watching the livestream also did the same, and then after a few moments of shared experience, realized they all did the exact same thing together. In that moment, monkeys and humans were one. It was an entirely shared experience of value. There were no individuals or species in that moment, just the miraculous daily moment.

Man, I've found so much of this out through traumatic events throughout my life and reflecting on them...typically the level of these introspective thoughts only arise in the healing that happens post-trauma. People should really take everything he is saying to heart. These lessons can help skip a lot of pain and give you tools that are applicable in every facet of your life.

does playing minecraft count as going into nature

The CEO he's talking about has to be Papa John

Lol the guy in the background picking up important life lessons.

So being a man taking a dump is something no one can take from me eh? So be it. I am hereby Lord Deficus, taker of mountain dumps, and he who sits upon the Iron Toilet.

Wish I found out about you sooner, thank you for doing what you do Alok!

9:25 Is he talking about Papa John? 0.0

10:05 the Indian accent is fighting back 😂😁

I think one should make a distinction in the case of refuting positive reinforcement because context also matters. Say i told someone that i'm insecure about the way i look and he starts complimenting me afterwards. That's certainly not going to help because you're going to question his motives thinking he lies out of compassion. Things change if compliments come without the person having previous knowledge about your struggles. That's not to say that an insecure person isn't going to focus on negative remarks more then he does on positive ones. That's probably generally true.

Excellent content man. I think that every gamer/streamer/person should hear you out. In my opinion, Ego is good only if it's covered. A friend of mine through he is the greatest and smartest, until he start realizing how much is he actually missing from the picture. He is a lot more humble now... You have to let ego go at certain point, unless you want to go crazy.

Every generation needs a leader and teacher, I see you as that and more. Others and I are truly grateful for what you do.

I had the wrong understanding of ego and 'living in the moment'. thank you.

why is it so easy to access the rejected side and so hard to access and project the confident side.. is it purely conditioning?

The best thing that I got from that video was that you've started with 45 viewers. It made me realize that I may be able to achieve something in my life one day. It's funny as since I had found your channel I've never thought "damn, that dude had to start somewhere". I was just thinking you were always popular. Thanks for staying with us all that time, you are really doing what you like and as other comment said, you haven't changed, only the quality went up.

When I compare old doctor k style to new doctor k style. I think they're both helpful in different ways. I think it would be helpful if this style returned occasionally. Because it covers a wide range of issues.

My ego problem is now regarding dating apps. If I dont have a bunch of people like me (even if I dont like them) I feel like im an ugly person, even despite the fact Im literally only looking for ONE person. Its made it incredibly hard for me to do online dating for that reason because I start having a rollercoaster of an experience. "Im so hideous nobody wants to date me" or "OMG THIS PERSON LIKED ME OMG IM NOW MORE VALUED"

With the way he describes “the mask,” I’m assured of the meaning in the song “Beneath the Mask” from Persona 5.

The dr.k's channel like gold+diamond mine I watched over 100 videos of him and it completely changed my life.❤ Imagine what coaching program of him is going to do with me😄 One day👌when i made money and practiced english a lot to have real conversation, i will speak to him personally. For mostly appreciation❤️‍🔥⚡thank you dr.k

Wait, you guys are becoming aware of other people's nuanced opinions? No wonder I'm still a virgin

I really enjoy and find it helpful to tell myself things are easy, but yea, I HATE other people telling me that!

Any ideas on more "judgement-free zones" besides nature or what that might look like?

Definetly my new favourite channel!

But how to get confidence in dating, because you can't date without someone judging you. The only way is to start without thinking but like that's the first time you date you're gonna be horrible and your confidence will decrease even more. So how to get confident in the domains where people judge you?

11:34 what he had 45 Viewers back then

"I am a dude who just takes a dump" is now my favourite quote

Just some questions for you: What is the relationship between high emotional intelligence and confidence? Or high emotional intelligence and ego? Could the development of extremely high emotional intelligence lead to a natural kind of confidence that isn't egoic?

Rick and Morty really took the idea of "But if all I am is a dude who's taking a dump, no one can take that away from me" 10:40

Is the ego just the pain/reward centre activating in the context of perceived identity?

9:23 “You can’t do this to me… YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I SACRIFICED!?”

9:28 This smile tells me his patient was Papa John lmao

19:15 "You think I'm a fuckup? I can get behind that." The way he delivered that had me cracking up😂

"I dump, therefore I AM"

Doing things that you are afraid of is also a very good thing becoming confident. Confident is essentially trusting yourself. If you think about it, only selfdoubt and anxiety is keeping from beeing confident. I mean if you are a person who isnt very confident, then you will often have very doubtfull thoughts... The best thing that you can do is to weaken those thoughts. Try to memorize as many bad/negative thoughts you may have and write them down. Then you ask yourself these questions to each negative thought that you have written down: What is so absurd about this belief/attitude? What disadvantages will I have physically/emotionally/spiritually if I hold on to this belief/attitude? What advantages do I have if I free myself from my disturbing belief pattern/attitude? How does it feel when I imagine that I have already freed myself from this disturbing feeling? Try to answer them as best as you can and then go act and do the stuff that you were most afraid of. When you start answering these Question honestly you will cripple your selfdoubt and anxiety, then it becomes way easier to do the things that you are afraid of. And after that you will be rewarded with great Confidence and inner peace. Believe me i did them a long time ago and still do it everytime i sense a negative thought in myself. Now, iam so confident that i literally do NOT care what other people who don't know me very well think of me. And iam someone who had a realy bad case of social phobia and depression. I also came to a point in my life where i wanted to end it, but thats a very long time now and i came so far on my journey that iam so thankful for every minute on this planet. Just try it guys everything is possible, believing is key. 😎😎👌👌

11:30 45 viewers WOW

I'd like to figure out who I am ASAP 23 now. I want the rest of my life to be healthy and happy, and spread both of those out to as many people as I can.

Saw this channel while I was watching Gorgc. Been really helpful in understanding people's behaviors including mine.

I'm getting used to having Dr K's face on my computer screen

That's feel so right. I don't feel bad but because I sacrificed my life for my mom. I feel like I have no value to be loved and don't find it valuable to cultivate relationships.

"Who's taking a dump?" "I AM"

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:29 🧘 *Ego, in Sanskrit known as "Ahamkar," is the false self, often tied to external roles like job, nationality, or relationships.* 02:51 🤔 *Humkar activates as a protective mechanism when facing rejection or negative emotions. It distorts perceptions, creating a false narrative to shield from shame or discomfort.* 07:08 🌅 *Living in the present is a way to move away from ego. Activities like watching a sunset or even a simple act like taking a dump can help detach from external identities.* 10:34 💼 *Building identity solely around external factors, like a job or external validation, can lead to crises when those external factors change or are threatened.* 13:48 📹 *For streamers, the challenge is to create content without letting the number of viewers define their worth. Developing a healthy identity beyond external validation is crucial.* 16:57 🔄 *Rejection sensitivity dysphoria, though not explicitly defined clinically here, is discussed as a phenomenon where low self-confidence can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy of negative interactions.* 19:13 🔄 *Low self-confidence may lead to a negative cognitive bias, where positive feedback is discounted, reinforcing a lack of confidence. Addressing this bias is crucial for building self-esteem.* 19:27 🔄 *Rejection Sensitivity Syndrome is not about actual rejection, but the belief that only rejection is appropriate. Building confidence in oneself is crucial to overcome it.* 20:39 🤔 *If you feel confident but handle compliments and insults the same way, it indicates a lack of true confidence. Confidence is multi-dimensional and should be unbiased in receiving feedback.* 22:30 🤷 *Body dysmorphia, especially in bodybuilders, can be challenging to treat. The distinction between ego-syntonic and ego-dystonic behaviors is essential in understanding psychological issues.* 26:30 🚫 *Calling something "easy" in the context of building confidence is devaluing and implies incompetence. Confidence is not easy, and labeling it as such overlooks the individual's struggle and challenges.* 28:16 🔄 *Self-destructive behaviors can be ego-syntonic, where individuals believe they are doing the right thing even though they are harming themselves. Recognizing self-destructive patterns requires self-reflection.* 31:24 🌳 *Building confidence involves challenging oneself in ways where external judgments are irrelevant. Spending time in nature, engaging in activities without societal expectations, can contribute positively to confidence development.* Made with HARPA AI

Two thoughts. 7:09 btw. First finishing up some thoughts - K’s thoughts in the world of your room is so hopeful and ego boosting (maybe in a good way) because he didn’t go to uni immediately and hit the ground sprinting, he waited 8 years improving himself and then achieved great societally valued success. It’s hope to do the same, a return to the ego and the self-image of intelligence and the future thoughts of life that go with it. That leeway’s into thinking about the ego more broadly, from the ice cream shop. And what to do with that. Also, in imagining talking with a therapist about an important concept, you can understand that there would be discomfort in an idea for several reasons, and you could think of all sorts of reasons and rationalisation for why the ideas cause discomfort. But I think a main one is not being able to know how to think about an issue. Not knowing HOW to think. An example is imagining being on Twitter; your brain can so quickly calculate the surface level ‘right [opposing] move’, the system of logic and the values are made so clear. But the automatic right move implicitly and tacitly has to accept these assumptions and premises. You so quickly accept premises. Standing back from this, if, a year later someone writes the authoritative book on the matter, and writes it well, then ‘know’ how to think. You could be getting the feeling that you don’t know how to think. Also back to that Athene video, that perception of ego (as a cv) orientates what you want to do in life, and so now it makes sense, DESPITE the existentialist questioning, to question your ego.

Just adding that picture on thumbanil could be different this is red guy called Stańczyk is in painting of Prussian Homage in 16 century what he is doing as Painter intended His worried face shows doubt that the homage will mean victory in the long run, and he is making a gesture to repel bad luck. Cause in future this country that was doing homage is one of the countries taking apart Poland and ending it's independence.

11:53 is it possible to not develop this part of the brain? I as a child accepted that no one will ever like me and that is it actually their problem and that I dont really care. Had some amazing friends since then and still do. I just feel like I dont really care what they think of me, so sometimes I do some stupid shit and they are like: "you are such an idiot" but in a good way and they still like me. This not caring what people think of me, gives me so much freedom to express myself

I just found out about this rejection sensitive dysphoria thing and every single thing in the list of symptom like stuff match exactly with me

Dr. Alok is a godsend for gamers and everybody who needs that +1

I wonder if Dr.k, since his climb in viewership, has had struggles not to identify himself with his/theirs channel and foundation.

Did you know something about "Stańczyk" on thumbnail ?

Part of the squiggle on the right lines up perfectly with the fold of the curtain

Ego = the way others perceive you. Best common denominator so far that encompasses what you talk about. Or realisitically at least the way you care and imagine what others think of you. Mantra : "I don't give a damn what others think".

Dr. K > JBP

So if you receive a compliment, but it's a compliment that you think isn't deserved because you think you can do better,is that from a lack of confidence?

You say it’s easy, I say you don’t understand nor have you experienced what I’m experiencing.

I wish we had propper nature in Belgium

What is the name of the thumbnail painting?

3:48 Unless you have no ego and blame yourself for everything.. thats very destructive

so depression is when you even beat your ego the self protecting gear?

I'm just gonna chill and take a dump after watching this. Thanks doc

8:21 Dr. K's friend: 🤣 Dr. K: Not funny Dr. K's friend: 😐

i love that thumbnail picture, anyone know how to get it?

This video inspired me to take a dump! Thanks doc🙏🙏🙏

Don't we need ego though... I don't want to be just a person taking a dump so to speak. I want to be motivated to develop more identity. Forming more of a concept of "who I am"...my personal "identity" is what fills me (ego) but also what *motivates me.... So how do I divorce from ego when it's literally the fuel for life? Anyone relate or can someone give me insight on how to not have ego and have genuine personal motivation?

ego isn't your enemy, ego is your edge

I love you Dr k, keepin it real in cyberspace

I mean I knock compliments and insults down lol I dont really accept any of them

33:49 so thats why trains says to go to a forest and become a furry

@healthygamergg talk to dr. Jordan Peterson @jordanpeterson and Samantha ravandle please @sssamantha

this stroked my ego a bit

"Behind every mask, is another mask."

he has helped me so much he doesn’t even know. just know people appreciate you man!!❤️

im addicted to dr k videos

Thanks man this vid really helped me me

Apple users got a heart attack after seeing the thumbnail

अहंकार

Rejection sensitivity syndrome - That sounds familiar. I guess I have it on some level. It spoils my game time, and I'm basically dropping off my controller and keyboard. I still am not saying that gaming is the problem here, but it's over other parts of my life. I have no friends, and social culture here is bs, so try to do anything without alcohol... I'm confident with executing plans and going along, but not really being in front and first. I can't start conversations really, at least couldn't in school, but I've always known that adult people follow some basic rules in conversations, and uphold basic levels of respect for others as part of the egoistic mask, for whatever reason. If they see me really worthless or not worth of the time, they wouldn't do even that. Usually I would see the points that would either point at either them being in hurry, or that they think they are big and buff. I would like to find that confidence to stand before those people who carry inflated egos. It has always been something I've never understood, and something I've been somewhat scared of. I feel bit nasty for thinking about playing around with the size of my own ego, but that shouldn't matter right? I was like seven or eight when I first time faced someone that had built up some sort of ego for themselves, who was same age, and they used it to just insult me, and to just reinforce their own ego. I was ok with the insult, but I didn't understand why would someone do something like that to someone just to inflate their ego and started crying. I have some level of dysmorphia, and I feel either fat, or something that has never changed, and my body has changed its size multiple times. Im not so worried about my body, but I can't really think it's any different. What I think it is that it is fat or lower mid.

I like the subtle advertisement for Planet Fitness at the end. What a shill! /s

Hi Dr. K. Thank you for all the help and guidance you provide to people, but i have a question. Context to the question: You talked about living in the present, don't think about the future, dont think about the past. I understand this, focusing on the past leads to regrets, remembering the painful moments and often overall sadness, in terms of future, you are thinking about what it is you need to achieve, that you didnt achieve, what it is you should do but dont feel like doing now and you beat yourself about not doing it and how it is going to hurt your future and so the way to be happy should be, to focus on the present. I was wondering though, the example about the streamer you said is she was enjoying streaming, then stopped enjoying it (probably because of the dopamin reward system adaptation right?) but she stayed streaming because of ego and the overall social role and identity she created around it even thought she did no longer like it. Actual question (or rather questions): So in this situation, in your opinion, what should she do? stop streaming and focus on something else that makes her happy? You said watch the sunset, do something that makes you happy. But what if everything that makes you happy does not provide income for you? How are you going to live? Or what should you do in a situation in which basically producing stuff (creating value) is not enjoyable for you, only consuming stuff does? For me personally, i know just-about what i want in life, but i dislike any vehicle of how to get there and therefore seem to be stuck in a same place.

Can't believe he was at 45 viewers

o kurwa elo stańczyk

Can you do a video on how to go about the process of finding a therapist. I’m an artist and architect but I feel most Therapists trend too much on an average nominal NPC therapy. David Lynch famously said that therapy has a tendency to quell creativity. He thus turned to TM. But i also realize maybe that just worked for him.

The person in the background took a sip of milk after you started talking about taking a dump.😂

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Cool that you have chosen a very popular polish painting as a thumbnail. If someone wants to read about the background: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sta%C5%84czyk_(painting)