What is Loneliness? 

Hi Lynda, with reading your comment I just wanted to wish you well, I hope times haven’t been too rough for you. God bless

Yes, indeed 💛

I am sorry for your loss, i hope you are doing well

Hi Lynda. Thanks for sharing part of your story. Peace be with you.

therapy is still important. if you think your counseller is not so great then change him. go to another counsellor. but don't try to deal with it alone.

That’s so true!! I agree

I understand your pain, you are not alone. I hope youre doing well.

Hey. Personally, I think introversion is a healthy thing. I'm fairly introverted myself, and I'm glad of it, because it means I- unlike a lot of people I've met- most definitely will NOT put up with toxic/ unhealthy "friend"ships just for the sake of avoiding solitude. I go for quality over quantity! And If I have to choose between superficial chit-chat and solitude, I'll choose solitude, because I've never found solitude lonely. Maybe that's because I grew up very connected to nature, with not many other people around, so it feels "normal" and peaceful to me. I realise this isn't everybody's experience. Remember that Loneliness and solitude are two VERY different things. Loneliness ( and I'm quoting Carl Jung here) is not caused by lack of human company, but by *not being able to communicate the things that are important to us* . This speaks so loudly to me, because it's usually amongst groups of people that I actually feel lonely. Perhaps you relate to this? If so, no need to worry. It's only because you value the *quality* of the connection over the *quantity* . This is a healthy thing! It's why you have a wife whom you are able to consider your best friend. I think it's beautiful ( and NOT ridiculous!) that you have a wife that you consider your best friend. That is what I'd love in a partner! I suspect that many others envy this too. Sure, some people are genuinely just very social beings. They are who they are, and that's ok. But you are who you are too, and that's equally ok! Not everybody with a buzzing social life is as happy as you might think. Some people surround themselves with other people; distractions; buzz- as a way of avoiding themselves; their truth; their authenticity. So long as they keep avoiding their true selves and remain dependent on others to define who they are, they will never learn to trust themselves let alone know themselves. I suspect that THIS would definitely make a person feel lonely. That kind of loneliness simply cannot be cured with indiscriminate human company. Please be glad and happy with yourself that you're able to discern a meaningful connection from a superficial one. I'm trying to not come across too preachy here, but please try not to compare yourself with others. I feel that this comparison might be what is exacerbating the feelings of "loneliness". Nobody's life is ever quite what it looks like on the surface. Instead of envying those people that you think are so lucky to have such social lives, try to appreciate the wonderful family connections you speak of here. They are so precious! Not everybody has those. Maybe try to spend some time in nature, too ( if you don't already). I've had some truly amazing, expansive moments when surrounded by nature. I can't explain it with words, but it's like I *find* myself by *losing* my*self* . Anyway. Sorry for the loooooong comment! Your comment just reminded me of how I felt not so very long ago. I just wrote what the me-back-then really needed to hear! I hope I didn't offend you in any way. I wish you all the best, regardless! Peace.

I go through the same feelings of loneliness. I see all these great friend groups and I don't have that either. I try but I too wonder if I drive people away by choice or just my personality. My loneliness is different because I don't have a significant other so I am also alone most of the time.

Its nice that your wife is a good friend to you, I would love to have such a relationship, I can only hope...

@@3leggedsharkkickssurferinballs This really helped me, thank you

I can really relate! You are not alone in feeling this way... best wishes to you

Very well said

So true, and well said.

Amen

K Forest love your profile pic btw x

Paul Thompson That little thing? Well it’s actually a mock of what I saw as typical but I love the universe anyway lol

K Forest yes that little thing. Im going to subscribe to your channel because of its beauty x

Paweł Blakiewicz his sister passed away some time ago, a drunk driver hit her..,May she continue to rest in eternal peace.

@@harjireza oh man.. I'm so sorry for Andy. He is a living proof that meditation doesn't take away your emotions and change you to some kind of zombie. Thx for reply. Andy if you read this - take care. And thank you for your hard work on headspace👋

Yeah, not the ideal recording setup. But still nice environment.

g19m75c it’s a natural response to pain. Pain aversion. In other words, you would take your hand off of a burning stove pretty damn quickly

@@Jerrybk6 ya I can see the physical reason but the feelings are different right?

Well, he said he kinda felt something like loneliness once, lol. Still what he says is true.

He lived in a monastery in a silent order. I bet he felt quite lonely.