At the age of 50, just found out that my mother is a narcissist 😢 and my dad might’ve been one too. My inner child is dying for a warm and loving motherly hug. Started my healing journey and hopefully I can get the peace of mind.
I too am 50 and you could’ve written that about me. My entire life I’ve been searching for someone to give me that motherly love. It’s exhausting. My mother was completely self-absorbed and more concerned about making herself look like an amazing successful person when in reality it was all a façade.
The worst part is when people (family & outsiders) tell you how great your mother is, and how grateful you should be so you feel so guilty and crazy for the pain you experienced. I've had rose-tinted glasses for so long, but I would have deep-seated resentment and anger whenever I visited my family of origin.
My mother is a narcissist and I've been begging her for love as long as I can remember. I'm sick of letting it ruin my adult life, thank you so much for being here for us and for telling me what I needed to hear.
Okay you're an adult now and you have resources available to you that were not available to your mother while she was parenting you. There is a embarrassment of riches of online experts in their field talking about all this stuff, there is a plethora of insight that parents of yesteryear just didn't have so start owning your own stuff.
@@formerfundienowfree4235 you wrote all that just to prove that you lack the ability the reader. unfortunate you’d project in a youtube comment section.
Hey, I feel you.. I have the same scene too… I am slowly climbing that abyss with the help of these videos.. really Terri is very nice and helpful.. ❤I wish we all had a parent this nice for real…I am finally realizing what I missed and trying to grey the present and ignore all that Shiite coming my way
I needed this, desperately. I'm 37 and my mother still effects me to this day. I went limited contact a few years ago. Im to the point of cutting off all contact with her completely. It's a heartbreaking, life-impacting thing to have a mean, delusional, gossiping "mother" Prayers for all of you that have found yourselves here ❤
I’m 29 years old and I’m just learning that my mother’s been abusing me and my siblings for our entire lives. I can’t stop crying. It’s so traumatizing you realize that the person who was supposed to protect you is the person who has been harming you all along. My mom would put us down and belittle us and make fun of us. My mother used to call me fat and ugly and make fun of me to my siblings. If I cried, she called me “too sensitive”. She always made me do what she didn’t want to do and would say “If you don’t do this then you don’t love me” and we were forced to do so many things.
I can relate to that 😢😢that just was my mom i don't consider her as my mother to me is the apposite she called me skinny ugly unworth living she wished i was never born
@@user-q2Rftt8Actually we do choose our parents on the other side before we are born into this current incarnation. I have chosen to reincarnate many times and I choose my mother in this life to learn how to stand up for myself. In my prior life, I chose a mother who died in childbirth when I was young. I have chosen @busive parents in my other past life as well. When I first heard about this, I thought no way, but as I have gotten older and had many dreams about my past lives, I have found this to be true. The soul can chose all sorts of hardships in varying degrees, to learn from when we are here on this earth. For example, a soul could choose an easy life or a hard one, or a life that’s easy at first, but hard later, or vice versa, a life that’s hard at first but easy later, like my current life now. There can be repeated themes that a soul chooses to endure through many incarnations to grow and learn. Blessings.
I could never find a mother's day card. All of them said things like "You're so helpful, caring,loving, there for me, and on and on. I would be lieing if I sent her one of those cards. I am 46 years old and have just now ended all contact with my mother. I now know she only cares about herself. She has always cared only for herself. It took me 46 years to realize she never loved me and she is a horrible vulgar woman.
Same! I would always get the simplest one I could find, because the majority of them described a relationship that I never knew with my mother, and I'm not one to lie about something that has affected me so much. It's nice to see I'm not alone in this.
Knowing that healing is possible, lifted a the weight of an elephant off my chest. I can... breathe without wanting to cry, for the first time in the longest time. I hope my fellow hurting sisters can find the same relief. I will do my best to pass on this message. Thank you Terri, I love you. x
This is very hard. Calling out the narcissistic mother has repercussions. It is better to move in silence and move out and move on, and setting up boundaries. Take heart. Things will get better.
I agree with comment above. I have gone no contact with mother and my minion siblings. I have had to grieve, feel the anger and sadness. But sfter 60 years and attracting narc partners in my life, I finally figured it put. Its tough, but the journey is enriching and we are strong enough to survive snd thrive. 🤗😅
In my religion, cutting out blood relatives is forbidden. Also, having the mentality of cutting everyone out will leave us with no one in our lives. I think the matter depends on the closeness of the relationship and the circumstances. In my case, if it’s a non-essential relationship, I generally move out in silence. If it’s an essential relationship, I distance myself and put up boundaries. Also, in my experience now, and having had the time to reflect, I realize that most people are not narcissistic. Rather, they have narcissistic ways of dealing with and reacting to problems. We all have some of these qualities. Anyway, I just wanted to put the message out there that cutting everyone out has not been the answer for me. It took a lot of inner work to overcome my own codependency. Now that I have a better grip on that, other people’s behavior has a less impact on me. Also, prayer is essential for safety. Hope this message helps someone.
I wanted to come back here and update further because I am on a path of truth and recovery, and this requires me to speak the truth. As I mentioned earlier, cutting out people has not been, and is not, I believe, the answer. Rather, it is to look at our own actions and reflect upon ourselves. As I said before, most people are not narcissists, rather they have narcissistic ways of dealing with things. Often, this happens in response to something in our own behavior, because we too have narcissistic tendencies, as everyone does. The best action is to correct oneself instead of trying to call others out. There is a time and a place where calling others out is appropriate, but that is almost always in the minority of times. Majority of the time, the correct answer is to correct oneself. This is a long and humbling process, and really takes an honest heart to be able to look at something and realize honestly within ourselves where we went wrong and how we had contributed to the situation. Often, correcting that aspect alone resolves the situation. Life is a difficult and humbling journey, and often the problem and solution starts and ends with us. I’m not speaking about situations where flagrant abuse is going on, rather about situations where we are equal actors and players. So, take heart and do the right thing. It is hard, sometimes very hard, but it does lead to the peace and harmony that we all so desperately seek.
The gap between the way you wished you were loved and how you actually were treated is directly proportional to the depth of love that you feel both then and now. You are not too sensitive. You are simply more so
The predators are laying in wait for the wounded women I want to heal my innerchild so much, this episode is most helpful, your mssg of empowerment is appreciated.
The word mother is always associated with a feeling of warmth and nurturing. I envy my friends because I have actually seen their close bond and even when she scolds them it's ok because she always has that loving tone. Whereas my mother has always insulted and humiliated me, she says the most hurtful things, I don't think I have ever been hurt this way by anyone even during the worst fights of my life.
@1:09 admit it is true @2:26 Questioning @4:47 mourning /give up the idea that she will change @10:20 3 Qs *who does this person remind me of? Where have I felt like this before? Why is that dynamic familiar to me?
Thank you so much for this video I needed to hear this! Especially me being a pregnant first time mom with a daughter! I definitely do not want to continue this painful cycle. IT STOPS WITH ME!
The "gleeful" story of humiliation! My mother started mine when I was three days old, and she took me home from the hospital and started feeding me on a strict schedule, with strictly-rationed amounts. (This all changed to complete on-demand feeding when my brothers were born.) For the rest of her life, she would always relish telling anyone who'd listen about how I'd cry even after feeding (hmmm, maybe I wanted touch or attention?) and how she called the pediatrician and he said, "She's just a greedy little pig." Sixty years later, I wondered whether he had ever said that at all.
What a nutcase not to feed her own newly born child. “Greedy little pig” for a child?! Wtf. She has a scarcity mindset and is frustrated she can’t provide you with what you needed. She’s embarrassed by her own incompetence as a mother. I hope you know you were totally wronged in the stupidest manner in this situation. Please don’t react in any embarrassed way of she brings that up again. It’s not even funny, just stupid- displaying her own incompetence and stupidity like that
Growing up... I adapted Nick and Sharon from the Young and the Restless as my parents. I even wrote their names on a paper and submitted it to my teacher. I always wonder why I did it. Funny enough I used to watch the show (idk y I was allowed) and now I see y I liked them and y I'd wish for them to be my parents. The power of the subconscious. Thanks Terri.
My mother died when i was 1 year old. took me a while to admit that i have a mother wound, even though it wasn’t her fault. Thanks for the video, i feel like i can begin healing now.
I'm blown away!!! You really know how to get to the root of trauma. It's deeper than depression, deeper than anxiety deeper than ptsd suicide and so on. These type of issues are very crippling. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
It is so hard to accept and realise how I was treated. I remember mother saying to me don't call me mum call me my first name!! 😮what kind of mother does that!! I love hearing my son call me mummy. Thank goodness for my mother in law who mother's me❤ thank you for your videos! Really eye opening.
Absolutely mind blown! Literally had an epiphany during this video. Had to stop to breath then finished watching. So deep! So simply explained! Thank you! Loving you back, beautiful soul! 💗💗💗
I lost my beloved mother at age 8. I have lots of wounds & grievances from my blood aunts and grandmother. I just had an epiphany that I think this wound belongs to them, my desired 2nd mothers. I'm 34 and it is soo heavy going through these wounds & several others. You're doing God's work, thank you. I've shared this with an online support group of MDs, motherless daughters, particularly loss at an early age 🙏💓
Yeah where I felt that the other elders take the responsibility to take over the mothering role when she passed on and they did not. How do we give it to ourselves?
Thank you so much! These specific mother wound videos came up on my home page the very day my mother was being hurtful and mean. I’m almost 50, and it hasn’t ended. I’ve been exposed to this all my life. 😞😢
I am witnessing you with compassion and sending love your way ❤️ (I have a few new mother wound episodes coming out next month, so stay tuned in these were helpful!)
At 62 I still find myself looking for my mothers acknowledgment and recognition😢😢 yearning for her love and compassion. She was abandoned by her mom, and I’ve tried talking to her and acknowledge her pain, but damn I’m the daughter, and I desperately need my momma😭😭
This video had me tearing up because it spoke to my soul. I needed to hear that I am loveable. My mom was a jehovah's witnesses who refused blood to my brother and sister and they passed away!
Living with a Mother Wound is so hard. I’m a 33 yr old mom to 3 boys and 1 girl. There are moments when I hear my mother in me when parenting my own children. Even though I feel guilty and shameful afterwards. I try to give myself grace knowing that I’m aware of it, and taking accountability for it and acknowledging it with my kiddos. It’s hard raising them knowing that my inner child is still needing to be fulfilled. I’m blessed that I have a husband who’s understanding and willing to be on this journey with me 🥹💜
I don’t know how to thank you except to say thank you, thank you, thank you for the explanation of a mother wound and that I need to take a look at all conflicts with family brothers, sisters and my mother in that light. It is such an emotional realization. ❤️
It is emotional. But letting go is liberating. Not allowing myself to be manipulated and used. There's a part of me that wants to scorn her and a part of me that wants her to figure it out on her own
A few days ago my bio"logical" mother blamed my husband for my anxiety and panic attacks (when he is the only reason I have my sanity still) that I get whenever I talk to her and told him that I was born like this! The irony is, we are 2 sisters both with anxiety, both have gone seeking professional help!! P. S I am so thankful for this video,so eye-opening and releafing. From now on I'll try and be the good mother to myself :) thank you once again ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for this. Wow this makes sense why when I got a mentor and started reading books of the women I admire, my mother lost her cool because “she’s enough for me” 🙄 here’s to continuing to mother myself 🙋🏾♀️
This helped me reaffirm and understand some of my mother’s issues that still affect me somehow at almost 50 years old. I have started to speak up for myself to my mother and have gotten some apologies. I wish you could be my therapist Terri Cole, not many therapists speak so clearly, directly with pure empathy , engagement and love you have! Thank you eternally!
God Thank you! You have said what has been going around in my head for the past 40+ years. After the beatings from my brother who was 8 years older than me ...for 3 years I was beaten constantly starting at 10 yo ... my mother encouraged it...denied it when I told her about the beatings ..and yes, was gleeful about it. Thank you for your series. I will be watching and healing myself. The repeating realities are drowning me at my career and work.
Thank you for posting this! I wish I had seen it sooner. I’ve felt guilty for keeping my children away from some family members and keeping my distance. Now I feel free and know deep down I’ve made the right choices for my family. I just wish I had made them a lot sooner. ❤️
Wow thank you so nuch for this video you brought me to tears!! Wow you have 💯 my whole life w my hurtful mother and to this day it is still going on I am done and going thru such a huge healing!!! In the name of Jesus AMEN 🙌🌱💫✨🙏
I never had kids because of what they did to me. As a kid, I knew that history repeats itself and I couldn't take the chance of doing something fucked up to my kids, so I never had any. And I was right to do so because my sister has 3 kids and she did to them what my mom and dad both did to us. She took on both roles and her oldest hasn't talked to her in nearly 5 years because he was sick of her drama. That could've been me had I had kids. So glad I never had any. That has been the best decision I've ever made in my life. By far.
Amen!! I did the same thing because I knew I didn’t want my kids hating me... thought process way back when. It was a good choice for me. Now that I’m older it’s crazy how this mother wound does in fact impact me and I have had zero contact with her for years. Zero contact since I was a young teenager.
I am almost 50 and I never had kids either. And never married because I kept choosing the wrong man-children. Many say I’m patient, stern yet loving and would of been a great mom. Sometimes I think about adopting an older child or teen but I’ve never been financially or relationship wise Stable enough so I’m not hard on myself. Just wasn’t meant to be I guess or not in the Universe’s plan. But I still believe one day I will marry someone who is ready for a serious and loving relationship.
If parents can't be good parents, they have no business having children My mother was extremely emotionally abusive to me as a child and continues many of the same behaviors. I will accept that she had no business having me. But I forgive her for her poor choices. I am mourning the loss of a mother I never had. Now, I am healing these wounds.
Thank you Terri for this wonderful therapy session 😉. It is indeed a hard path I am on. Both parents narcissistic mean mentally ill abusers/users. And 3 brothers that I also had to cut all contact with as they were very irrespectful, mean and verbally abusive too. But God sent me those unbalanced people so I can evolve and become the best version of myself and mostly so I can love myself! I am now almost 60 yrs old, and I have healed I would say at 75%. For now, I feel there will always be a part of me that wishes that things would have been different. My old - and soon to die - mother is the worst of all. She has been dividing everyone in the « family » so she can control us better. She is continually doing a smear campaign on all of us. I have removed myself completely from her life since July 2023 and in a lot of ways feel so much better. I fo not miss her at all. I am grateful for God’s help and support in that transition. I know he has sent you again today- I had discovered you many years ago. God bless you Terri!
I protect my kids from my mother because everything you said. And she does turn on them like she did me. As long as I do good she's in my corner. Once I make a mistake she doesn't know me or she calls me sensitive, unacceptable
Very helpful and appreciated. I am in therapy now for a couple of years and it has been established that my mother was one of the 6% of the population - and suffered narcissistic personality disorder - and I wore blinders my entire life - trying new strategies to make things better - until she threw me into the trench, full abandonment, when I challenged her (finally) because at 97 - after my stepfather passed away - she surrounded herself with sycophants who were ripping her off and I worried for her health and safety. One of them sent me his naked photograph and when I protested - she accused me - falsely - of attempting suicide and I was trucked off to Bellevue to prove my sanity. Then she wouldn't see me unless I went to a psychiatrist and became a "properly medicated: Stepford Daughter - and she had her attorney and she herself kept trying to intervene to see of medication was being prescribed. Luckily for me the psychiatrist I see was ethical enough to prevent their meddling and not answer their questions - and it was obvious to him that no medication was needed. I am putting forth so much detail so others can see how bad it can get - despite (and becoming enmeshed was my own fault since my brother and father had died and I was afraid) serving her needs my whole life. So healing seems an uphill battle at times - and emotionally difficult - but worth doing - because I would like to know what it feels like to be loved and to love. I would like that in my life.
Thank you! I literally have experienced all of those same reality repeats... and what rings especially true to my heart is when you said if you’ve become a mother yourself you begin to know and realize it all... since I became a mother what I experienced is that I started to question my own childhood experiences and started to see them in better light, and at the same time also my very “previous” friendships started to have problems and crash down because they have really just been the same kind of relationships with my mother, and since I started to realize my mother wounds and start healing, the wrong relationships/friendships also went away. It’s never easy to lose friends but I guess it’s inevitable for the process of healing as well. I hope like you said we’ll become better mothers ourselves along this healing process.
Letting go of the attachment to wanting her to change feels so hard but also clearly such a necessary part of this process. It’s coming to terms with that emptiness that shows up in that letting go of my attachment to her…the grief you mentioned. And I feel a freedom in that. The emptiness is the space in which I’m recreating myself. Very helpful video. Thank you.
FINALLY something really helpful. Most specialists go on and on analysing or describing the problem in depth, and then they describe their own traumatic experiences or other people's experiences (the experiences of their clients usually) in great detail, but they somehow never offer any serious solutions even if they assure you they have healed themselves and all their clients now feel better. Vague clichés like "so start loving yourself more" (but how?) are usually the most you get after 30 minutes of opening old wounds. Your words really touched my heart, and gave me specific answers and directions, thank you!!
I didn't have to move out, but was told to get a full time job in summer months. From then until 18 I worked 60 hours a week. On my one day off , Sunday , I'd get woken up with hoover at the door really early, to get out of the house and 'not be indoors all day's. I feel your pain, was never wanted. I then of course saved enough money, and left the country at 18 to live with my maternal grandmother who was lonely and getting old. I believe my mother claims to have been unloved by her mother, it's a cycle I do not want to pass on to my son. Leaving was what saved me, my younger brother is 40 now and already displaying npd tendencies
Thank you so much. Theses two Mother Wound episodes you've provided have been so clear and valuable to me. Recently I have uncovered my inner child and mother wounding. I was not overtly neglected or abused, but my mother was not able to be present for me and provide an essential foundation. I have identified the patterns further with the help of your first video and now I clearly know how to work through these and create a new future for myself. Deep gratitude and blessings to you Terri.
Thank you so much Terri for your sincere efforts in helping people like me who were terribly impacted by narcissistic mother and infected with severe mother wounds. I'm turning 37 this year and it is just recently i learned and understand through watching your videos what i have been through in my dark past with my narcissistic mother. I am starting healing myself now and i realized that its not easy, its very difficult picking up the broken pieces of my life because i really was broken into pieces severely because of what i experienced with my narcissistic mother. I want to say that, i can feel the sincerity, the genuineness of your efforts in helping individuals like me. I love your videos.Thank you so much Terri!
Can you just be my mom ?! Lmao. Thank you so much for the videos you post. I’m unable to afford insurance or trauma therapy out of pocket, so these really help me. You’re a freakin rockstar for helping so many people ❤️ I can’t say thanks enough!
Oooooo god this is sooooo true I have no words... it even hurts to listen to the truth . If I only had you as therapist 10 years ago....it hurts but I am healing🙏🏾 thank you ❤️
🙏 thanks Terry you have put in words what this painful wound has done to me. Thanks for your love and will to “mother us” ❤️🥰 blessings and I will continue to see more of your videos.
Thank you so much for this video and for your work. Tonight is the first time I have ever seen any of your videos, I am grateful they popped up in my suggested viewing. I really needed to hear this today. I went no contact with my entire family of origin 3.5 years ago to get away from my narcissistic mother and sister who is just like my mother, they are so narcissistic and abusive that it’s actually dangerous to be in contact with them. This choice to go no contact has been good for me in many ways but i do still have rough days and feel like I am trying to rebuild my entire life after having my old perception of things shattered through unbearable and unending trauma when I was in contact with them, some days it’s so heavy. My healing process has happened in waves and cycles and today was on the rougher side. I needed to hear every single word you said, you touched my inner child heart. Thank you so very much. I’m definitely subscribed! 🙏🏾💛✨
I am so glad you are here and that the video resonated with you. I am witnessing you and sending you strength. I know the process can feel slow and rough at times, but there is also hope.
Beautiful. You've made me aware that I and my friend both have mother wounds. He's a golden child with narcissistic tendencies, I am the scapegoated ignored child who trusts no one. We are both attempting to be loved. He only withholds, I patiently wait, and so does he. It's insane. Now I get why we are locked into an impossible relationship. Thank you. I think that now I can move forward without the stress of seeking his openness. I just never looked at him as withholding his love, just as my mother did. She was mean, not an overt narcissist. I'm not sure what he is. It doesn't matter because he is too fearful to love. I know that I have been because I did not understand the M.W. permeates one's entire life on a very deep level. Your insight into the MW is accurate and profound. Many thanks ❤❤
I just find out about your videos and I release that you are the mother the kind and compassionate one that im craving 😢i feel so much love in your eyes just no word would describe it❤
Thank you kind sister. Love you for this. I have started to love me, and forgive my mom. I wish I could have her back with me to have a lovely mother/ daughter chat. But sadly she died 23 years ago. After a lifetime of upsets, I often wonder what they were all about! All I had to do was love her. Huge regret! I understand everything you’re saying. Shame it took me until nearly 65 yrs old to fathom it all out! Better late than never! I do have a loving husband now. Helps a lot.
I forgive all who have wronged me, to begin the healing process. The inner child must heal in order for the adult child to heal. There are many books available, one great book is "the journey from abandonement to healing" by author- Susan Anderson
Oh my God Terri! This is definitely my mother. I am 47 years old and she stills shames and embarrasses me in front of my children and grandchildren or anyone for that matter! She recently did something that I talked over with my therapist and YES his advice was similar to yours. I am also often drawn to similar relationships in others who are just as critical!!!
Hi Terri, thank you so much for this is something I really needed to hear. The thing is I feel guilty and disappointed. I’m now 30 years old to look back and think about all the issues from my childhood and thus explains in more details on why I’m who I am today.
You're so welcome 💕 I think your disappointment is valid and makes sense. But this self-knowledge can also help us change. You have so many years ahead of you in which to build a beautiful, flourishing life ❤️ AND it's important that we mourn the childhood and upbringing we wish we had.
I’m honestly so glad I came across your work! You’ve seriously helped me get a lot of perspective on my relationship with my mum, thank you for helping shed light 💡💕✨
I've realized that all the woman on my mother's side experienced mother wounds. They have all healed what they lacked in childhood with their children, but then do other things that hurt their own children. For example, my grandma was absent in my mom's life so she was always present in ours. However, she was overbearing and very critical of me and my sister, and I grew up feeling not good enough and seeking approval. Our relationship is healing, but its been very turbulent.
Oh my! Thank you for this as well! Wow I really needed to hear this today. You once again truly validated how I've felt all my life. I have had so many unhealthy relationships of all kinds and I've really been working hard on that. Last year I had the unexpected joy of meeting an amazing spiritual mom who has in a short time helped me start to heal in so many ways and it's just her being her loving and caring self and not necessarily doing anything in particular. Just being the complete opposite of my bio mother and all the 'moms' I've met along the way who just seemed to want to control me. I will now count YOU as a virtual 'Mom' of sorts. You have an amazing aura about you, and you invoke a calming and soothing energy every time I listen to you. I'm working as hard as I can in therapy (since I was 12, now 35) to heal from my childhood abuse and mother wound. No one can replace her, but I know I'm worthy of the love and tenderness she never gave me (at least I keep telling myself that anyway). Thank you AGAIN for what you do, Truly!
🙏 thank you. Been having consecutive dreams of being shamed by my mother for seeking intimacy from men who have not been good to me. It’s all messed up, but I have a platform to start healing this mother wound.
Terri Cole Real Love RevolutionTM over the past couple of years I fell my mother betrayed our relationship. I was only three when my parents got divorced and my mom did come from a harsh family which we don’t talk to some of them anymore. All my life I felt misunderstood when she actually knew what I been throughout my life. She is very judgmental critical and when she talks to me when she uses a strong voice that half of the time I’m always like did I do something wrong. I am 28 and this has been going through many years 🤷🏻♀️
Thanks for this vidéo! ❤❤❤you made me cry at the end...Healing is so hard but I’m trying...To start to love myself is the hardest part of it...I have tried psychotherapy and hypnotherapy, but I was overwhelmed with guilt every time I told something about my mother, I felt so bad and shameful “criticising” her ...I’m 56 now and I know I must try to change 😊👍🏻🤞🏻
Thank you Terri you have shown me more than anyone eve has...right now I'm self-destructing and I don't know how to stop it. I hate the way I feel and I hate that I'm hurting the people who I love the most I just don't know how to stop. I'm working with over 40 years of abuse from my parents to my ex-husband and ex-fiancee. I love the man that I am with but I am destroying him and I don't know why...please help
I'm witnessing you with compassion Daphne. You are not alone in this. I suggest finding a local therapist or counselor that can help guide and support you through this healing process.
Go to counseling and work thru how u feel if you really feel he's the one for u and dosent display any of what you experienced in the past of abuse please don't loose this person and let the past win
If we are better now that will somehow change things .. wow that really resonated with me .. I’ve been in therapy for a few years .. I really thought if I healed myself .. my mother and I could have the relationship I always yearned for .. I was holding so tightly to that belief because letting go means I have nothing ( it’s always just me and her ) I don’t other family members.
Thank you. I know I have this wound, but I have a hard time seeing my mother as unloving or narcissistic. She isn’t. However, the wound is definitely there, and it continues to come up in my interactions with her. It’s a little bit complicated, I guess. 🤷🏼♀️
I see you. The wound might not have the label of narcissistic but that doesn't mean it isn't there. You deserve healing and healthy love. I am sending you light.
Terri Cole Real Love RevolutionTM I spent some time unpacking this today. Key words were “she does not believe in me.” And I believe it stems from her own low self-esteem - a wound passed to her from her own mother. It’s beautiful healing work you are doing. I am holding you in the light as well. Thank you 🙏
