What It’s Like to Be Asexual in the Dating World 

I have the same problem....

I wish you the best of luck and I truly hope that you find someone who will accept you for who you are. I came across this video by chance and I genuinely thought I'd spend the rest of my life being single. I now have hope :)

This is very true. It’s something that most people cannot even wrap their brains around let alone accept. I’ve been called a liar. Been bullied, guilted, shamed, & pressured into situations that I didn’t feel atall comfortable in. Our culture in USA is overloaded with sex. I believe our #1 export is porn which would be a very telling point to anyone about our society and values. I’m glad I found this channel bc up till now I’ve not been able to meet any like minded folks.

I'm some kind of gray-A guy and nobody will date me either.

Any update?

How is this supportive?

sydandtaytum i find that a very interesting question.

a lot of women don't come when with their partners, so discovering your own body and what you enjoy can help.whatever you are going its OK and its normal. just do what you feel comfortable with.

sydandtaytum I can relate to this. Glad I am not the only one.

That wasn't a question and I don't know your gender but I'm going to assume female/ vagina having person. It's actually really common that women don't orgasm with PIV intercourse. There needs to be other stimulation like with the clit or nipples. Even then that might not work with a partner so you should find what works for yourself and then tell your partner what you like. If you've tried many masturbation techniques, toys, etc and still can't orgasm, hit up a sex doctor. Qualified sexologists btw, not just anyone calling themselves a sex doctor. Asexuality isn't as simple as someone not being sexually attracted to others so there will be no sex whatsoever. There are workarounds. Some asexuals don't want sex at all, some still masturbate, are willing to use toys on their partners or do sexual things, others will have sex on occasion etc. so it depends

raynarayskye no she came out at 26

I AM ASEXUAL. I WANT THIS LABEL. I FEEL I HAVE A COMMUNITY WITH IT AND PEOPLE TO TALK TO WHO FEEL AS I DO. that is why we label. to form communities for those to connect with one another who feel the same as those in that community. hopefully you understand and accept it.

For a sense of community and belonging. To easily find others similar to yourself. So you can easily tell someone about you in one word vs sentences and paragraphs.

So I can march in the streets carrying a sign and protest for the rights of my (insert label) group. Liberals just aren't happy unless they can complain about being victimized.

I feel labels just further divide society. I think they are used more to identify those different then you then to help you identify those who are the same. We spend so much time pointing out our differences instead of our similarities. It's no wonder there's so much tension in America today.

This label isn't new at all. Humans label everything. Its great to have a community that relate.

Kolleen Maxwell Very true! However, the only reason people talk about this more now, is merely because if, let's say, I get to talk about this with someone I'm attracted to, he will say that I'm making it up or whatever else. Raising a BIT of awareness helps us not feel invalidated or like there's something wrong with us. It took me decades to realise what I am when it comes to asexuality, I thought I was broken and felt depressed. Then I saw that...there are others out there...like ME!!! Saying things I felt all my life. It is life-saving, SANITY-saving to see you are not alone. I know it's hard to understand what it feels like but it is an actual thing. I love and feel extreme need to care for another person, cuddle them, kiss them...but I don't feel lust. I have tried, even thought about taking testosterone to help me feel lust but I would be going against my nature. I feel nothing looking at a man's genitals. I appreciate the form of his body, but have no desire to hump...does that make sense? Probably not and it's fine. To me, it's bizarre when people act like horny dogs, I cannot relate but realize it is a natural thing also. Anyway, just wanted to make it a bit clearer, hope you have a lovely day.