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I was set up on a "date" by a good friend's bf. It was not a date. She brought her friends. And i don't mean to meet me and go off on their own they joined us. And we barely talked. They went shopping. And ignored me the whole time. We went to mds and expected me to pay. I declined and told her i would if we hang out and not 5th wheeled me. She said her friends come with her everywhere. And if i don't like it, I can leave. I laughed and said ok. And walked off. She freaked out on me. Called my friend's bf bitched about how rude disrespectful and all bad about me. And i told him the truth. He freaked out on her. And broke off that friendship. It was a mess.
I have 3 from my college days, way back in the 80's. Guy I sat next to asked me out. I agreed. Then he started telling me how his car had a bunch of great places to hide booze and drugs that the cops would never find. Never made it to the first date. Next, a guy from another class saw me at a mall food court and barged in line ahead of me. "Let me order for you. That's what men are for." While I was too stunned to speak he ordered for me - and him - and waited for me to pay. I just walked away. The last I did find interesting and nice. We went to a steakhouse and had a good time. When he pulled his wallet out his pocket his wedding band fell out and hit the floor. Without skipping a beat I told the waitress, "Separate checks, please!"
This gets asked frequently so I’ll TL:DR it…She went Karen after eating most of her scone (coffee date) demanding a refund and calling corporate. Begged her to stop, she refused, I apologized to other patrons and staff and was told by them, “It’s not your fault. Police are on the way and you can go.” I hung my head, embarrassed, and walked out.
A guy asked me out for a romantic bike ride along Lake Michigan in Chicago, or so I thought. It ended up being me frantically trying to keep up with this speedster riding like he’s in a triathlon. He finally loses me after 3 MILES and I realized I didn’t have my phone or purse on me and rode back alone crying with shame and panic. I then became near hysterical when I was unable to find his apt building in busy downtown Chicago so I prayed and finally found it, out of breath and sweaty, my asthmatic baby lungs aching..ugh it was hell. He was in the lobby absolutely clueless as to what went wrong..🙄
OMG... as a cyclist, that's just horrible. It's rude to "drop" (leave them behind if they can't keep up with you) anyone you ask to ride with you. If it were going to be a romantic bike ride, I'd take it slow & easy.
While I went out twice with this guy, there was no third date. My mom had set me up with a blind date with the guy who repaired her refrigerator. The guy was about 5'1" and bald, which didn't bother me, but what did bother me was that I'd made it very clear that I wasn't looking for a physical relationship. He was, and he tried to get me to change my mind. For our second date he picked me up at my newly-purchased mobile home, and I invited him in to see the place, and he told me, "You invited me to see your house. What else was I supposed to think?" when I reminded him that I'd told him I didn't want a physical relationship. My mother was aghast when I told her what happened - she told me he'd taken a shine to the picture of my older sister that was hanging on their living room wall, and she'd told him Sis was married but that I wasn't, so he'd asked her to set up a date. After we'd stopped dating he'd occasionally call and ask me if I knew anyone who would go to bed with him. I asked him to stop calling, and he did, so there's that.
As an ace girl, I relate way too much with this story (idk if you’re ace too or not, but in both cases, I hope you’ll find someone that respect your choice
Not even a first date but here we go: I was at work and started chatting He was a pretty nice guy to chat with so when he asked for contact info, I gave him my snapchat. First day was us getting to know each other. He seemed a little clingily, but I chalked it up to him being young and not knowing I need my alone time, so I explained to him that I'm an introvert. Still spammed me til he went to work and even sent 3-5 messages then. Second day: *After sending me a snapchat I didn't ask for (not the problem just context) where he looked like a wide-eyed serial killer* "Hey would you send me a picture. I just want you to be more comfortable with me. "
Before I was in a committed relationship, I used to date many different girls off of POF. I had one main rule: If when the cheque comes, the girl reached for her purse to split the cheque, I would definitely be super impressed. If the girl wouldn’t move a muscle; I’d ask her to contribute towards a cash tip for the staff. Either way; I’d cover the whole cheque every time. But the girls that think they deserve to be wined and dined without carrying their own weight would always “drop down from my eyes!”
I'm female, I always offer to pay half as I don't want him to expect s£x in return. But saying that someone made a good point. Women pay a heck of a lot on getting ready to go on a date with you. Hairdressers, nails, tan, facial, eyebrows, perhaps a new dress. It's astronomical the price we pay to go on a date. I hope you appreciate the effort next time you date someone!
@@vmm5163 I disagree V. Women do most of their intricate make up for themselves and other women. Most men don’t care about designer gear on the women, but women pick each other apart. A fake bag or a style from last year from across the room is noticed by another woman in a look. In reality, most make up, clothing and gear that women spend their money on, it is for other women.
Even if the invitation was, "let me take you to dinner" (which, to me, implies I am their guest), if the date is clearly not going well I *insist* on paying my own way. Taking advantage makes me really uncomfortable.
He was very rude, bragged about how much his father made in stocks, made me get up and make him coffee to wake him up this was on a first date and then when I was talking about saving for a car he laughed at me and asked what kind of jalopy would I ever drive I didn't give him a second date
Almost any time my ears stories when it comes to dating it makes me think about another story. I had heard about a BF that got ditched by GF because she want to hang out with her girlfriends insisted that he come along, only to actively ignore him throughout most of it, actively distancing themselves as if he was some sort of creep but then when he decided to leave, basically their phones were blocked but they were posting on social media that they were enjoying themselves only till later get an angry call and text from his GF that he left but I kind of saw it coming.
I think I've seen that story. IIRC it was an AITA post. OP's GF invited him along somewhere and they all treated him like he was a creep. GF basically ignored him and only talked to her friends. OP finally ditched them all and went back home to watch a football game, and the GF finally texted him asking him where he was after two hours or so, then got angry when he told her that he went home.
During the height of the pandemic I went on a digital date with a guy where we played Sea of Theives while voice chatting. Not long into the date he asked me “So does this mean I can call you my gamer girlfriend?” I told him to take me on a few more dates first (super glad I wasn’t on camera), finished that date and never went on another date with him.
The guy I once dated was talkative when he talked about getting therapy for his anxiety and depression (which is a good thing and I was supportive of that). However, for the rest of the date, I was pretty much carrying the conversation while he grunted his responses. In the end, I had to make up a fake emergency to escape the date.
Husband kept interrupting me and I had to bite my tongue with each conversation. Divorced him almost immeditately! How rude do you have to be with your wife of 23 years without talking to her? And I mean every single conversation.
I really hate it when people use some UNKNOWN ABBREVIATION of something OBSCURE not everyone knows about and then DOESN'T EXPLAIN IT! Like everyone automatically knows what some random letters means with zero context, and maby someone will know what their talking about.
@@standupstraight9691 Really bro? I think you’re the one who watches stuff that’s too tame, because there’s some really scary and disturbing movies out there. May I suggest ‘The Human Centipede’ or ‘Saw’.
The self driving cars are so much better guy is hilarious to me. Name ONE computing device designed for the mass market that is manufactured to last more than 5 years? On new vehicles, what crap breaks down first? The electrical components. Self driving cars are cool and have their place, don't get me wrong, but we thought blimps and hot air balloons were gonna be the next hot shit 70 years ago. Doesn't matter how smart the computer is if human economics are behind the design and material manufacturing.
After a few dates, a woman became what seemed to be my girlfriend. She used, betrayed, then painfully abandoned me. I decided never to speak to her again nor of her to anybody. A few months later, I decided to try to date again. I went on a date with a beautiful woman that seemed nice the first date. However, I never asked for a second date. I remembered that my exgirlfriend was also beautiful and seemed nice our first date. After that memory, I promised myself to never allow myself any possibility of what happened with my, "exgirlfriend," to ever happen to me again, even if that means I never date again. True to my promise to myself, I have never dated again. I never spoke to the second woman I dated in my life, ever again. There was never a second date nor explanation. I learned a painful lesson from the first woman I dated. I almost forgot it but remembered it when I went on a date with a different woman. I will never date ever again. The benefits of a girlfriend are not worth the risks nor the negatives associated with having one.
@Lee-Anne Stevenson I have found that for 1 good human fhere are 99 bad humans. She controlled her friends. She, then, led me to believe I needed friends because it was good for me. These, "friends," did more damage than she did. This is why I Wil no longer be getting friends, nor a girlfriend, in my life. I do not need a repeat of those previous events. She is controlling my actions in a very positive way. I turned a horrible negative into a learning experience, which is always positive if used to protect one's self. If I attempt to make another girlfriend and friends, then I would have learned nothing. If one does not learn from their mistakes, they are destined to repeat the same horrible mistakes. I learned from my mistakes. She did, indeed, control that and still does. But i will not be thanking her for my learning experience.
@Lee-Anne Stevenson Even if you are correct, I have adapted to living without others in my life. I am so good at it that regressing back to dependence, seeking companionship, and seeking a mate, will only violate a very smoothly operating life strategy that I have got extremely good at executing. However, I still believe there are far more bad people than good people. This belief has made it extremely easy to maintain my life strategy. Reversing this belief would make my life strategy very difficult and rather uncomfortable. Thus, in order to maintain optimal safety, happiness, production, and self-reliance, it is imparative that the belief that most people are bad must continue to be believed. Have you ever thought that you may be the exception and not the norm? Perhaps the majority may be the exact opposite of you. We may be a lot more rare than you may believe. Perhaps you and I will never wrong anybody, ever. Can you be sure others will be that way?
