Women want: 1. What they don't have 2. What their friends have 3. Women covet what they see 4. Women want what they see other women having. ==> they will only want you if they they think 1. They can't have you + Another women has you and 3. Other women want you.
Agreed, my wife is quite honest on this... keeps her quite active :) and I make her Aware of other womens interest, not to manipulate, but that it keeps us both honest.... it works
Almost! There is a cut at 13:56. Plus he actually did get attacked by a few insects before that. Australians just don't feel most of the attacks because we are used to it.
That happened to me, 5 years later I was left without a home, car and had to start life over again. I won't make that mistake again and would rather d|e alone than move in with a girl.
One thing I notice about women is they place so much importance on social status regardless of any absolute talent or genetic wealth. I played guitar and learnt very technical songs which I keep hidden. When I show them to women they are half impressed maybe even annoyed sometimes as it contradicts their initial impression. Their faces only light up when they see if it has been liked by a lot of people or not, demonstrating that it is popularity they seek and not the talent that allows such achievements.
nobody burrys bodys in the forest, there are way to much roots, you go into the forest to avoid cleaning up after you choped the body up in little pieces. Trow the flesh and organs away - animals take care of them (you got no idea how fast insects get rid of organic parts in a forest) - and take the now more or less clean bones with you (crush them with a hammer) now you can disolve the bones in acid or burn them in a hot fire. Make surexit is a really hot fire and take a look at the next day, you don't want any skeletal remains. Specially teeth can be tricky Also burn all clothes you used there and buy new ones, don't forget the shoes! ofcourse this is all theoretical - i never really tried that with a compleate human
Women say they want something until they get it. Then they don't want it. They say they want a good person, but then they go with the obvious choice that isn't. Honesty is not a quality I have come to expect.
True. The "where-do-we-stand" speech is to be left to women. If you don't do anything wrong, it is going to be her who will naturally come up with it after a certain time. Masculine energy is free and moving. It's the job of the feminine to lock masculine energy down.
What I notice is that most males don't acknowledge that it's always a woman's choice to play either male or female role, so they need to be maximally flexible as well.
Haha... walking through those woods is representative of dealing with women. The scenery is pretty and uplifting, but you have to duck and weave as you try to make progress. You are always having to tread carefully. You are frequently jabbed by something sharp or pointy, and gasping and groaning is inevitable. You are rarely on stable ground, and bright sunshine can soon be replaced by storm-clouds and heavy rain.
"Dating market" says it all: nowadays the whole male-female relationship dynamic is just transactional... There's no room left for innocence and authenticity, only lust and power dynamics. In one word: disgusting.
innocence and authenticity are qualities that raise suspicion in our age. fair enough. to each his own but they'll bear the consequences of being 1 option of many. lol.
This whole process is like applying for jobs. Don't close your options and tell the truth that you have other options. Employers will offer you more if they have a fear of missing out on you mindset.
Exactly, I thought the same thing! Dating this days has the spontaneity and overall joy of a job interview. "Watch out what you say, keep your frame, don't trust anyone, don't sell yourself cheap". I prefer investing that kind of energy and commitment in myself and my friends and family. The juice ain't worth the squeeze anymore.
well relationships today are like transactions. no one loves like crazy anymore. that's why someone who is deeply in love with just 1 person and loves only that person is seen as weird. love is dead in the west. that being said, there's a whole lot of difference between someone who focuses on 1 person or depends on that 1 person.
the fact that you commented on a social media platform means you seek approval and actually do care. nobody watches an instructive video on a certain subject to remind themselve they don't care anymore
Wrong, u can’t EVER EVER EVER relax in a lock term relationship. It can be 5 years. 10 years. 20 years. If it’s with a woman, it can all end in the blink of an eye.
Your knowledge of female psychology and the female mind is incredible. You know so damn much about how they think and what's going on really got to commend you. I don't know how you obtained such massive knowledge but props.
I'm 54 years old and been in a single abusive relationship all my adult life. I've only just learned this stuff this year. What a waste. Thanks for your help and encouragement, man.
extremely well explained! I was definitely guilty of this in the 2-3 years of highschool when I started trying to date - exclusively pursuing one specific girl, for months, even though she didn't give me any particular reason do do so; simply because I decided I wanted HER and no-one else. Not only I didn't give myself space to pursue other girls - it was far worse! I actually rejected every single girl that WAS interested in me, because it clashed with my interest in my chosen girl. Later in college I got a little smarter, and then things started to go much better. The funny thing is, after highschool, I didn't think that much about the few girls I CHOSE but didn't succeed in dating. I thought a lot more about the girls I REJECTED, and how they were perfectly nice girls, and how STUPID I was to behave that way! LOL.
I'm really grateful for your videos Alex. Been the "honorable" guy my whole life and never understood why I failed to establish even basic attraction. Your insights allowed me to recognize past mistakes and to grow personally. I will never be the same - thank you very much.
If guys do this they are still stuck in blue pill thinking. They believe in ‘oneitis’ and the soulmate myth. They have a scarcity mentality too. They also think they are nobly and honestly bestowing their affection on a very fortunate woman and they are entitled to everything in return. They think a quality woman should appreciate them and respond. Its clear a lot of men have trouble with this, particularly if they self-identify as a ‘nice guy’.
The drawback is that this approach removes any incentive/desire for a long term relationship on your part unless you're into swinging and/or cuckolding.
A lot of men have trouble with this because they are brought up to believe thus nonsense by parents family and media we are to hard on men the cards are stack against us from the start. It is not in women's or society's interest to tell men the truth about love, romance or female sexual nature .
Its funny how youtube or Alex have set the algorithm to delete any seeming derogatory comment about those creatures. But those creatures were given the potential to become these monsters because of western society.
That’s the main reason blue pillers do it, but when I was blue pilled, I did it mainly because I didn’t want the girl to go out and bang other dudes lol
Same and I learned i need to be better now by making myself better and just having fun with myself and not be serious on getting a relationship, being in a toxic relationship sucks and damages you harsh man
That video was propably the one which made the biggest impact on me and I literally opened my eyes for the first time in my life. It was like waking up from the matrix, Thanks Aleksander!
Wtf, why haven't i heard this stuff before. Some awkward and very confusing experiences suddenly makes a lot more sense now. This video made me instantly more comfortable with dating now. Thanks man. Good stuff
If a woman likes you, she will let you know one way or another. If she wants to progress relationship, she will let you know one way or another. You as a guy just sit back, do the bare minimum, and thats it. Never ask a chick for kisses or more, because then you are turning her into a prosstitute, unless she is initiating it or giving you clear signals. If you want kisses, holding hands, or more, she has to be the one to initiate it to be legit or to be the one giving clear signals. Us guys want chicks to find us sexxually desirable, for them to find us yummy yummy, but us making the move on her is not the way unless she is giving us a clear sign or shes initiating it. There is no such thing as creating attraction, and this is a lesson that I learned the hard way by me thinking that I have to create attraction, that I have to make myself present in her brain by texting her first, starting many convos, etc. AND ANOTHER THING, if she is acting flirty with you, you have to make sure that she is really acting flirty and not just acting in a friendly/kind way (good luck differentiating between the two).
@@humanyoda women pick the men not the other way about they will give of body language to men they find attractive all comes down to ancient biology at work which we have no control over
@@humanyoda But she'll give the signs. You'll know. I only move after I've seen indication that that's what she wants. Sometimes they just straight up tell me (has been happening lately), or it's just very clear implications. No need to guess, or try to "create" attraction. It does not work. It could on a "right" moment because they are emotional and fickle. But it won't last, and once the click is gone she moves on.
They are not complicated when we realize they are far more instinctual creatures than men. These instincts developed and helped them survive the warlike tribal past of mankind where women would be captured like booty in war Their reasoning is emotionally submissive towards alpha males (ironically thats the type of man that is able to discard her at will she finds irresistible) or she is coldy calculating when a man she dont find attractive (a weak needy man) wants a relationship she will use him ruthlessly to get materialistic benefits
Been married 17 years now. I disagree on your dread game comment, well the first five steps anyway. Work to increase your desirability, and it will keep her attraction up. Now I wouldn’t cheat, but if the checkout clerk is attracted to you and your wife sees it, it will increase her attraction to you.
Been married 10 years and I totally agree. The psychology of attraction doesn't change just because you're in a long term relationship, you still need to maintain some level of game.
That is why I don’t rag on the pickup artists too much. Sure, I’m not going to try to get girls, but I can apply much of what they say to my relationship. 5 years ago, I was probably getting sex maybe twice per week, now it is about 5 times, and more passionate too, just from applying some principles taught here.
I've always said it myself that dating are the job interviews & that girl you want a real solid, healthy relationship with is the company you want to work for & retire from. Dating & the Job markets are similar.
Yeah, and just like the job market it turned into the gig economy. It has always been risky to work for a single company your whole life, but today that is suicide. They will fire you when you are old and unable to find a new job in order to hire two young wage slaves with your single salary. Same with women.
12:30 It is referred to as the 'sunk cost fallacy' and it is very common in life. The idea that you don't want your time or money to be wasted (sunk) changes the choices you would make. This is bad when it eliminates the best possible outcome or choice simply because "I've already come this far".
I think a good example is how the current ℓιrus is a hoax, but many refuse to believe in such massive deceit because they depend on the "system" whose controllers are trying to depopulate their dependents, or i.e. they are "already invested".
I'm sorry but even in a LTR relationship men have to keep women feeling that he has options. If you show full commitment at anytime in a relationship, you start to lose stock value. It's just how it is. Hate it, call it calculating, whatever. Why would you think that the female desire for someone who has options at the beginning of a relationship would magically disappear in 6 months, 2 years, or 20 years? Is it the ring? Is it living together? No sorry you need to always make your woman know that if she's not showing her full attention to you, then some other woman is quite happy to fulfill that role. I'm not talking about cheating, but linger and smile with a girl at the bar while you know she's watching. When she mentions it, she's going to mention it, give her a nonchalant "Hey at least you know your still will a desired guy." She doesn't know you really talked about the performance you just saw or whatever to get the girl to engage for a few seconds. Show up late a few times with weak excuses. Let the perfume girl put a little on you as you leave the store. Tell her the whole truth of why you smell that way, but be a little flustered. If not, she's looking for that excitement elsewhere, and stepping up because your stock is falling in value the more content she is at home. Contentment is boring, the string is just a string all of a sudden.
That's not true for every single person, I see it more as a spectrum, with rationale on one side, and emotion on the other, it happens to be that alot of women are more on the emotional side, and alot of men are on the rational side, but as always, there are exceptions
20 yrs ago an employee with near zero female experience went after a girl all excited--I tried to tell him: "Find one or two others as backups at least, your focus on Sarah as it is will certainly sabotage your chances, TOO FIXATED, you are way ahead of where she's at in her head." Didn't think of some of the other ways to put it as explained here. He was stubborn and came back all disappointed. He'd found THE ONE, lol.
i already realize this fact after some experience with girls even in my teens, like how I always suddenly got more popular with girls when I was actually seeing someone but for some reason it's hard to even get to talk to any of these girls when I was single. yet even until now, in my late 20's, I'm still emotionally incapable to court more than one girl at a time. I just have to know for sure that I have no chance with one girl before moving on to the other. it doesn't mean I'd rush it. I'd still work on making things flow naturally, but one girl at a time is my limit. trying to see other girl to boost my options proved to be detrimental to my overall emotional situation (including things outside romance).
What if she interupts, when some girl try to flirt with me, but then she flirts with other guys on my eyes and be like ...please, he just a friend, don't be ridiculous
You could interpret it that way, or you could be realistic and recognize that the testosterone effects within the man create this potential within him, and women are generally not that way. They approach relationships more like a transaction in the making. The man has to realize his weakness is his excitement. If he doesn't realize he is weak, then he will not have mentally prepared himself for the game. Think of actually going hunting (something that men might relate to). You don't walk into the forest and immediately begin shooting at the first thing that moves. No, you check what it is, yes, you are excited and want to shoot, but you hold back until the moment is right.
Thanks for shattering my world view. I mean it sarcasticly and honestly. The dynamics between men and women has so many layers with shifts and turns, it melts my brain. Thanks for sharing this.
Incredibly instructive video Man) Big thumps up for you mate. Those points you made were really brutally honest for me to admit. But yeah you are wright)
This initially annoyed me as I'm British, and will usually only date one person at a time, but on reflection I've taken this on board & will now try messaging other women on the dating site even while (initially) dating one...
Great dynamic point. This is somethg I messed up on so many times. I've have to check in too much, and have too conversation suggesting my over clingliness or knowing a women direction of the relationship. Its Very difficult to negotiate but even more difficult for a man the is raise to be a co-dependent from toxic environments. You have to learn to cut things off, start new, and move on.
You should do more videos outside. You can hear the bass in your voice a lot more. In the home videos it sounds like youre whispering sometimes. Thank you for putting out this kind of information! Keep up the good work Sir!
The time to prepare for an excellent LTR is before I have any kind of relationship. I observe way too many people invest their scarce time, energy, and money in becoming a wage or salary earner, but spending hardly anytime studying and learning what makes for great relationships. That seems so very strange given that in today's world chances are you could end up in a dozen different jobs over the course of a lifetime, but people invest hardly anytime at all in understanding the opposite sex?
Thank you, AG. Great topic and video. The outdoors setting is pleasant, I love the change of pace. There is a difference to be accepted here, between those not genetically gifted and those that have more expansive options, yet the theory remains sound. Yes, those less gifted must first pull themselves out of scarcity and into abundance before considering the pitfalls waiting should you dispense with a certain amount of stoicism and lose your frame in the initial observance stage of a pairing. This is why Self is the first step in the Pyramid of Grace. Sort yourself out first to arrive at a place of abundance. The fact is that you will be accepting a disadvantage if you try to build a relationship while existing in scarcity because you have no abundance to leverage, no security or safety in yourself, so how can you offer any of your abundance to her. Yes, using logic and speaking plainly can indeed backfire in the early stages of a pairing when you are still observing each other. Don’t ask for exclusivity or commitment, take leadership over demonstrating through actions, your willingness to share your abundance with her. Be the best deal for her, don’t tell her you need her business (she may be left wondering at the value of something obtained so easily.) Done correctly, it won’t be long before she starts to drop hints, subtle and not so subtle, that she needs to secure her investment in you via commitment. This is where your observance of her pays off - in recognizing the signs that she is needing this security. If she is not interested long term, then your observance of her should reveal that within, say, a month or six weeks - depending on how much time you spend together. Increased time together may well be the first signal she may be entertaining thoughts of longevity in the pairing - she is seeking to command the lion’s share of your time. Anecdotally, there came a time when I received a text (second or third date with a Woman) from another Woman asking if I was free. As my phone was face-up, my date saw this - oh grief, where hast though led me. She asked if I was seeing other Women, and so I told her. I said that I had no more control over someone pursuing me than she had control over other men interested in her and that this was a good thing because it makes each of us choose to be with each other despite the options before us. I continued that I didn’t even need to ask myself the question of whether or not she had other men pursuing her as it had nothing to do with me, those were choices she had to make. I told her she could reply to the text from the other Woman, but to please to do as she would reply to a suitor who texted her - she replied “Thanks for the invite, but I’m seeing someone.” I said that was fine and she sent it. We started seeing each other much more regularly after that and then it happened again some days later with a text from a different Woman, and this time she replied “Thanks, but I have a girlfriend.” Not so subtle a sign from her and we didn’t have “the conversation.” There are ways for this to happen naturally. The point is that observance is key - look for the signs and they will manifest one way or the other. Putting forth the idea of commitment before establishing, through observance, how you communicate with each other, is likely to feel like pressure to her unless you have both established that is specifically a sooner rather than later goal in your pairing strategy. It’s complicated, filled with nuance, but I submit that ultimately observance of each other will see you through. My best to you and yours. Looking forward to your next.
Instead of losing my mind trying to deal with ♀️, which is basically akin to taming lions, I chose to just NOT play that insane game, and go my own way. And I know I'm not the only one here. Oh, and Lesson 12 and 13 contradict each other. Being in a "long term" relationship doesn't magically change the ♀️ psyche, and it's contradictory to say that maintaining options is great before a relationship, but "immature" during one. What a flip-flop. Specially when in other video you said a ♀️ wants a ♂️ they fear. Also, the mind games from ♀️ neeeeeever eeeeeeend.
Just to let you know, Alex. I've disagreed with things you've said before, but I really appreciate the efforts you go through to inform others how the opposite sex thinks. You're doing good, honest work.
Thank for this video Alex, I can totally relate to this video from a previous experience, it’s so good to get clarity for this situation. Please keep up the great videos 😊
I've only ever dated one girl in my life, but when I did, that's when I had enormous amounts of female attention. I even had to turn down attractive women which was a very new experience for me. Now after she ended the relationship, and I'm single again, I seldom find a woman that looks at me twice. Ahh pre-selection, thou art powerful and hypocritical punch to the nuts at the same time.
false... at least in my experience. maybe this has validity when looking at huge clusters of women, but i fell in love with the traditional courting method.
This was a good reminder. I’m seeing a girl I really like. She has openly told me she likes me and isn’t seeing or looking for anyone else, but she wants to move real slow. So I’m taking it slow. But I never said I wasn’t still shopping around...so I am. It’s a good dynamic but feels a little odd. I guess I’ll just keep going with the flow and see if she wants to date exclusively.
Tyler, shes definitely keeping her options open. They ALWAYS are. Sounds like she likes you but you might be a little too available, too clingy and maybe you chat too much on texts and such. Most of your talking with a women should be in person. Dont be her male "girlfriend" always ready to text or Skype, and dont neglect your hobbies and/or friends.
Great video, also made this mistake, I said her I will not see another 2 girls, deleted tinder and co, because I wanted only to spend time with her. After 7 months she hasn’t told me the same and always said we are not together. At the end I wasn’t even sure she likes me anymore so we don’t see each other anymore. It would be great, if I had seen this video one year ago…
It's like girls are going to a vegan 🥑 restaurant ordering a steak 🥩 and expecting the waiter to calmly serve it, instead of going to a steak house. (Changing a man) For men the rules are different, when they order food: - Men can't order food, when they are hungry (too needy) - Can order food, when they (pretend) they're not hungry - Get better food, when they start comparing restaurants - Get unnecessary free food, when they had food already I'm tired of women bringing up commitment, when I'm just not looking for it. I'm tired of women wanting to change me into a person, that I'm not. I'm tired of not showing affection, just to stay interesting. I'm tired of women wanting me to be less attractive or to give up. I'm tired of having no feeling of genuine connections.
@11:07 That's funny, I'm not sure if this is the more "masculine" side of me or whatever But when someone says that it puts me off Like shouldn't it be obvious who's the better person for you? Either I am or I'm not, ya know? When someone says that it just feels like they're stringing me along Probably added with the fact that it sounds really indecisive and that's honestly just not a quality that I look for in a partner.
I love how the dating scene has a scoring system for men and women, call girls and guys low quality and high quality, and all these terms that make dating as a whole sound like buying and selling products. It's very sad and disappointing. Glad that I'm not participating. Good luck guys. You'll need it. Also, if these points are valid, then the world is an even sadder place than I thought.
@emulouspoint But at least not every single human being acts and thinks this way. I'm fine with just being close to the ones that aren't like that. The so called 'weirdos', the people who are 'not normal'. We can generalize and think in stereotypes, create statistics as much as we want, but there will always be that one or two outlier, that one or two who break the norm and don't act like people expect. So...as sad as the world looks, I'm glad that it's still a very beautiful place full of wonders...you just have to look at the right places.
aint that the truth. we can behave in a non-expected way yes and not the mainstream ideas and look for places to go to as individuals. Its great I agree... as there are exeptions always ..however like he said it in the video also: you gonna have to play these (ridiculous) games anyway to have any company at all basically and Im talking about company that respects themselves and works for game of status in life, looks and goes for good things, challenges, passionate things in life /good quality life in themselves and others around them. These people who work for excellence in life or at least towards something with passion and respect. these people are like high majority part of the se.xual market place games. outside of it, with experience, I know theres people ready to relationship, but that life they offer to me is disgusting usually, often poisoned with "be the insurance policy/security/income for my kid of the other hot guy and her choise of this" or "be the nice guy friend who gives validation so she can elevate her selfesteem and go for the hot guy meanwhile". This does not match standards for a life worth living to me. So yes there are places , beautiful places in the world where relationships happen that are not the mainstream but anywhere as a guy/ man someone goes, he must know these things if he wishes to have any sense about dealing with women /girls and why logic and honorable behaviour does not make his wanted results for guy. especially a guy who is working on it all the time. we live in , and have lived for long time allready, a se.xual market place world. it is just now men rising to say it aloud so it makes sense to be a man and rise above the maddness and crazy missmatch between what boys are told/raised to be as guys/men and how real results come.
happened to me, your words are too accurate i pushed too quick instead of waiting for it organically.. except for her stipulating that I had to give up my other options (wanted monogamy instead of polygyny). so i had to cut it off once i realised the predicament i had myself into. show too much in the beginning, you lose your bargaining power in the end. thanks Alexander
Alex, I kinda like how sometimes you make your videos outdoors, especially in woods. Different backgrounds and settings can be refreshing especially when we're talking about topics such as these.
What you say here I think is true in dating, but it is not if you get married and is in a serious relationship where you have children with your partner, at that point I do think women appreciate not having competion from other women and find it honorable for her husband or the father of her children to be loyal and not play the field.
