Below I have written an update to the demonetization drama of my last video. I didn’t want to dedicate a video to the subject because that’s not why people come to this channel. They want to hear about evolutionary psychology, dating advice and gender differences. However, I’m sure many people want an update so I thought I would address it here. To begin with, I have to say such a huge thank you to everyone for the outpouring of support. It was overwhelming and extremely touching to see everyone standing with me. I definitely did not expect so much appreciation. Nothing I type will get across the massive gratitude I feel. I felt so low but by the end of the night, you guys made me feel like one of the luckiest people alive. I asked for financial contributions and you guys delivered. As of writing this text, I have 324 patrons supporting my work. It’s more than I ever dreamed. You cannot believe how much gratitude I feel. In addition there were a large number of paypal donations and some of them were VERY generous. You amazing individuals know who you are. Thank you. An unexpected bonus was people taking the opportunity to express what impact my content was having on their lives. So many private messages and emails. It’s so wonderful to get to know my audience at a deeper level and really helps with motivation. To answer the question some people may be asking, I will absolutely still be making content. I was so disheartened at the mass demonetization but now after seeing all this support and receiving all these new patreon donations, I am more inspired than ever! You guys saved the channel 100% and I am so grateful. I’m here to stay. As of the time of writing this, the amount of money pledged monthly over Patreon is just over 75% of what my last months adsense revenue has been. That is definitely enough to maintain the channel and it is a much more reliable source of income than monetization. That stability is extremely valuable. I no longer need to stress over the monetization of every single video and can focus a lot more on content creation. Again, thank you everyone so much. Having said that, I understand the need to diversify the income sources of the channel so that my financial situation is not so precarious. Many people have given me suggestions and I have heard them all. I will not take this 2nd opportunity you have all given me for granted. I will work hard to make sure the channel has more stability going forward. I am not a big technology guy and so Cryptocurrency has been a bit overwhelming to me. However, I recognize now that my reluctance to learn is a liability and that I must get better informed. I have been asking advice from people I know and educating myself with videos. Likewise with alternative content platforms. I’ll admit, in the past when I looked at platforms like bitchute, I thought it was a long way off being a viable competitor to RU-vid. However, I have looked into the many alternatives that people have suggested and I see a lot of potential. I don’t want to make any rash decisions but I am considering many options. What probably has me most excited is the website ThinkSpot, the Jordan Peterson one. I have done a lot of reading about it and I think it might provide the stability I’m looking for. Unfortunately it’s not public yet. I have put my name down for the closed Beta and am waiting to hear back on whether or not I am accepted. I’ll keep everyone posted. It was also so nice to hear people say that they understood my financial needs and that they didn’t mind if I plugged my Patreon or accepted sponsorships for my videos. I regret to say that I may have underestimated people in this regard. I didn’t know everyone would be so understanding. I am still reluctant to mention Patreon too much but I think I will start including some text at the bottom of the screen. It will be towards the end of videos and easy enough to ignore. I will also rethink my policy on sponsorships. People have said they don’t mind a little 15 second plug if it means they get to keep enjoying the content and so I’m going to be more open minded about that in the future. I have a couple of potential partnerships in the future pipeline. Nothing guaranteed and it may take a couple of months to sort out but you may start seeing sponsors on the videos. Regarding Patreon. I understand some people are reluctant to support a company that treated Sargon of Akkad so badly. Many people still made individual donations to my PayPal, for which I am extremely grateful. A lot of people urged me to sign up to SubscribeStar. I haven’t done this for a couple of reasons. Back when the Sargon incident occurred and Sam Harris, Dave Rubin and Jordan Peterson left the platform, there was a lot of talk about the creation of an alternative, which seems to be this upcoming ThinkSpot. I kept waiting for it’s arrival and then sort of forgot about it, until the demonetization a few days ago. While I strongly disagree with how they handled the Sargon issue, their politics aside, I personally love the Patreon platform. The interface is really simple and easy to use and it gives me so many options. There are community posts, private messages, data and analytics and the ability for me to post 7 different types of media. I have been on Patreon for 2 years and have really enjoyed their platform. Like I said, I don’t like their politics but I can’t pretend that I haven’t loved their platform. Even though I do intend on making ThinkSpot my permanent home, I still foresee a place for Patreon in my future. I completely understand if you don’t want to support them as a company. Hopefully ThinkSpot will arrive soon. Last of all, let’s talk about RU-vid. Like I mentioned in the video, I have been in contact with them. Once you get over a certain number of subscribers, 25k I think, you can live chat with a support person. I really feel sorry for the small channels who don’t even have this option. Anyway, I told them about the demonetization and they said they would look into it. In the last video, I mentioned I had a video about the 5 reasons women choose jerks that I wanted to release. Will all of the support on Patreon, I wasn’t going to wait for monetization. I was just going to release it anyway but as of 15 minutes ago, I discovered that they have reviewed it and the video has been monetized. Victory!!! However, it seems as though my newly uploaded videos are demonetized as default. Guilty until proven innocent. Sucks. Not all hope is lost though. In my emails back and forth with RU-vid, they have told me that because my channel has over 10k subs, I can ask for them to be manually reviewed before they are published. Unfortunately, there is no guarantee that the video will be monetized after review or that they will get to it in time. Having said that, this is a better outcome than a blanket demonetization. It’s a massive setback for sure but not a complete disaster. The important thing to takeaway here is that I was foolish to rely on Adsense. I see that now. That’s why I will be considering sponsorships and moving to a paid subscription based model, through Patreon/ThinkSpot. Through those platforms I will be releasing exclusive content. My regular content should remain free to access for all. I am sorry that I had to drag everyone into all this stuff personal to me and my finances. It’s not what I want to talk about so hopefully this is the last time I ever need to bring it up. I want to end this message once again by thanking everyone and expressing my gratitude. I am so appreciative for all of the money and support you guys have given me. I won’t let you down. www.patreon.com/alexandergrace
It's 100% ok to do a personal video every now and then. You seem like a genuinely nice person that actually tries to help people, which is also why I didn't hesitate coming to your Patreon. You do good in the world, so we want to see you do well as well.
Ehi man, do not surrender. This channel is one of the most important ones on youtube and on the net in general. Every man in the world should listen to what you say and learn how things truly work
And just so you know, ads ARE playing when I watch your content. Two ads total, the last one was for TicketMaster hawking the musical "Hello Dolly" in Dallas.
Her: OMG I love you (in her mind waiting to hear it back) Me: I know. Her: That's it, I am leaving you! Me: May I help you pack? *Her taking my clothes off*
@@muhilan8540 maybe twice a year but I'd rather show her through my actions and let her say it first. if you do say it first, she will lose respect for you because she heard those words all her life.
My ex loved my bad boy attitude until she left me for a rich guy. He buys her whatever but he is dull af! Needless to say, she now watches lots of soap operas on her expensive large TV.
My gf always tells me to be nice to her and be more available and to stop being arrogant. I ignore this because if I begin to do what she requests, then she will inevitably stop feeling attraction and breakup with me. Which proves that women don't know what's good for them.
as a woman I can tell you, she will not want to take that much longer. I had a boyfriend once who was just like that, abs I broke up a few months and 1000 chances later
I don't class myself as a "Nice Guy" or a "Bad Boy". I pride myself in being a good person. Let these women make bad decisions and just move on to the next one. No need to get in your feelings about female nature. They don't know what they want until it's too late for them.
Your multidimensional personality is too complicated for us. Please limit yourself to a paper thin stereotype to make our lives easier. Thanks for enabling our superficiality!
Exactly. Just be yourself, and just be a good person. You'll weed out the women who aren't worth your time anyway. If a woman is attracted to you, she will be attracted. (You will know the signs. Calling to see where you are, flirting with you, hanging out with you consistently etc). If not, she's not. (IE flaky behavior, excuses, ghosting, left on read.) Simple. Don't be someone you're not. I have tried that, and I have missed out on a lot of quality women. Being on both sides of the nice guy, bad boy spectrum won't allow yourself to be your most authentic. Know who you are, and just focus on your purpose. Stand up for yourself more to abuse from women. It's not a jerk move to defend your boundaries. It's called self respect. Good men, stand up for themselves. Women are like a fan base. You'll get haters, and you'll get admirers. You don't waste time on haters. You'll get who you want, and if not so be it. Your personal happiness is more vital to longevity.
Ironically most jerks ive seen aren't that good looking, average at best, but they have hyper masculine energy, whether he's faking it or not, the PERCEPTION of him is more important then who he actually is and what he does. I've never had an issue with women choosing jerks...my issue comes in the back end..when those same men who they love knocks them upside their heads, cheats, leaves them with a baby and emotional taints them...NOW its MY FAULT and every other man has to deal with that instead of HER taking accountability for her choices...
the thing is the "faking", even the faking can be bad meaning bad-acted but women still buy it man, it's unbelievable whereas men around already figured out that he doesn't really mean it ;)
Go after other kind of women. Those women have serious psychological issues and you don't wanna be around them. They're not even that good at sex, man. LOL. Value yourself and then search for worthy women. I know, that's about 10 or 5% of women out there, but valuable men also comprise like 5 or 10% of the population, so... Go figure.
It depends on the needs of a man. We need women to help us live (from birth). We need our mothers to nature us and teach us how the mind of a women works.
My 10 year old autistic/adhd son hates boredom too. I'm starting to see women as autists and it makes me feel less confused about their behaviours. There are a lot of very clear comparisons between autism and womens behaviour. Edit: typo
If every person, men and women, better acquainted themselves with the company of their own self in silence and introspection without constant distraction. 90% of these so called “gender war” dynamics would disappear, fairly quickly too. I imagine if the internet/social media were to somehow turn off for a while, we as people would naturally return to more balanced favorable virtues and standards that actually work in society.
My ex gf dated a guy who financialy depended on her and cheated on her. They were together for 4 years. After that we dated and I was a good guy to her, never cheated, tried to satisfy all her needs, and she dumped me after 8 months.
@@technoloverish That´s definitely true. But I mean this in context of dating and here I think it´s women who often say one thing but do the complete opposite.
@@BenK. Yeah, I still think it happens with both genders fairly evenly, at least in my experience. But in all honesty, my experience is that most people, whether male or female, are pretty honest in the context of what they want in a relationship. I think that the idea that people in relationships are frequently dishonest about things is something that is perhaps a bit exaggerated by movies and tv, especially romantic comedies.
If it weren't for the overpowering force that is our sex drives, majority of men would consider women as a terrible investment of our time. I don't consider myself as a "nice guy" or a "good man" I'm a free spirit. I don't have the time or patience to deal with the wishy washy, ever fickle thought process of a woman. Honestly it all seems like a pain in the ass. Not knocking this video because this is extremely educational. This should wake up any sane man into thinking, "Are women really the prize when they're capable of causing such strife?" Women be crazy. I would rather be bored than very annoyed, when I'm bored I'm at least in peace. Drama causes stress and stress is bad for your health.
Same, I would have considered myself the nice guy growing up and of course struggled with rejection. I did have one long term relationship until I started getting the whole "you're not as spontaneous like before" routine and broke up but overall that was an enlightening experience on how women work. That and the more recent surge in feminist propaganda and obvious displays of hypergamy screwing over scores of men made me realize the same that women aren't worth the trouble. I can understand this video being helpful for guys who are still clueless about women's true nature, but I would hope rather than help guys become "successful" with finding a relationship and fall into the traps that come with it, the vid shows how it's pretty much a rigged game through and through. I can reign in my sex drive and be satisfied with porn, what I'm really waiting for is the inevitable advent of the sex robot industry because I think many guys, both the nice guy virgins and chads will realize that those are better than the real deal with all of the trouble that comes with women.
@@tomemery7890 I'm good mate, I don't fap more than what I often hear is the average, and I don't believe it's healthy to blue-ball myself. No judgment on others who do though.
@@buldren0101 Fair enough mate. I also fapped a normal amount but thought I'd give it a shot anyway. My world hasn't changed but I'm learning a lot about myself and I feel more masculine and in control. Anyway, all the best.
@@tomemery7890 Glad to hear you feel it has helped. I think it all comes down to one's personal choice, and I just personally don't feel like it's for me. Like I said in my original reply comment, I think I do a good enough job of managing my sex drive while avoiding potentially risky relationships with women. One slight change I'd make to that comment though is that I would not invest in a sex bot under the condition that laws are changed positively for men in the various courts where they get screwed over. I doubt that will happen anytime soon due to human nature leaning towards gynocentrism, but either way I think I have set up enough precautions for myself going forward.
I've dated women after they've been with a string of dickheads and they are absolute train wrecks. Ask her , if she's dated a string of bad boys before you , avoid !
Another reason is: its the female fantasy - Taming a bad guy. Ever wondered why pirates, warewolves and vampyres are most popular female tropes? What's most empowering for some women is not having a good life with a good guy, but setting a bad guy straight - making him good again. The story of salvation is extremely romantic to them.
Women's train of thought is super backwards. They like the challenge of turning bad boys good, but then they don't like the men that they changed and they leave them. It's like a cat that mercilessly tries to catch a string of a yarn ball, but gets bored after it's successful and just leaves the ball.
@@ShadowbannedAccount we also do the same thing unfortunately because it's how our brains are wired. the herarchy and ladder is never ending in all civilizations. when you master one thing you tend to want to move on to the next thing. That's why marrage was originally created to put a stop to that so it shelters the child in a much more stable environment so they can be raised. Committing is all about going against your own impulses and desires to put aside wants to what matters most, the kid.
This is called the Florence Nightingale syndrome. Extremely unhealthy behavior, still taught to many women, consciously or not. Being the eternal caregiver, providing solace and comfort, etc. Only the guy has not been building the British Empire or fighting the enemy, he has been sitting through meetings all day. And she is likely working full-time too. There is no more place for Florence Nightingales in this world, except for genuine medical reasons.
it does, many men at the top of the ladder are somewhat bad boys. Whether they are the boss of the company - needs to be rough and work his workers hard to get results. Or rock-stars which are bad boys by default. Yeah it's note a completely universal thing, but it's quite common.
Agreed, boredom is Zen, boredom is peace. Granted we all desire excitement in our lives but drama isn't a good way to generate excitement. That is what women fail to understand.
Bill Hicks Exactly. If you’re on a roller coaster your entire life then you’re going to get bored of roller coasters quickly and you’re going to get sick!
@@brianmachado4533 You're lying if you say you never get bored, but im not talking about boredom consuming 24hr/7 days a week of a whole schedule, but interesting activies always seem more exciting following suit after periods of boredom.
A woman who is afraid of boredom, who must be constantly entertained, is never going to be happy with you. Adrenaline, like other chemical dependencies, requires an increasingly higher dose of danger in order to elicit the same chemical high, so you will have to constantly one up yourself or she'll go find someone else who gives her a rush. That's no better than dating a girl who does meth.
@@jaynet1539 Fascinating. About a decade ago, a woman ditched me because I wasn't "adventurous enough" and married an enlisted navy guy who was supposed to drag her around the world to exotic places. Interesting how, no matter where you are (Euros or Dollars) their appetite knows no quenching.
Underrated Comment! I truly believe women HATE me because i am kind of spiritual, i am quite handsome and work out a lot but they always seem to lose interest because they know i dont accept bad behaviour.
I remember in high school hanging out with the "jerks" and learning about the 'abusive theory' 😉 "Dude.. the MORE you treat them like S the more they want you"😈
@stephen kroll .... This sounds correct... Just insulting women seems too simplistic. Do you have any resources to point to learning how to do this jerk behavior correctly, without pushing too far?
sean shindelbower-totally agree with you. I think even the definitions are blurry. I am a nice guy in the sense that I always try to be nice, but that doesn’t mean I let people walk all over me. Does that not make me a nice guy anymore?
Nice guy, like nice girl refers to a set of dysfunctional learnt behaviours that once you dig deep are not actually that nice. Many of them are actually narcissistic.
Prepare to have your mind blown: When a woman is with a jerk....she always has a reason to leave him. This has the paradoxical effect of making her feel "free" to do anything she wants. She can cheat on him, and feel 100% justified in doing so (you know, because he's a jerk who wasn't there for her emotionally). And she can stay with him, and be empowered by the fact that she is a patient and strong woman who is always working to improve her relationships and domesticate her man. When a woman is with a nice guy.....she feels "trapped" because he is never going to give her a reason to leave him. Welcome to human psychology 101.
Women leaving. This seems to be the problem. Hypergamy or just boredom. I think once we took motherhood and family out of a woman’s purpose, she now turns inward and doesn’t know what to do with herself.
Prepare to have your mind blown further: Women can afford to be irresponsible and use men for sex because they know that other men and society will be there to catch her when the consequences of her irresponsible actions come home to roost.
@@thedetective9522 It actually makes a lot of sense if you think about it. I agree though it can be very confusing but at the same time it essentially boils down to being less needy and being more independent which we all know to be attractive traits.
"...all men are assholes" - My fiancee said this, out loud, in front of me, with witnesses, about two weeks before our wedding. Biggest red flag ever and I missed it. I blame the alcohol.
@@asresbenayalew3092 Stayed married for three years. One thing after another until I couldn't ignore it anymore. Divorce. Her place is not in my life anymore. Haven't seen her since my dad's funeral. She tried to hug me with her current husband standing next to her. I took a step back to avoid the hug and said, "You really need to stop disrespecting your husbands."
És de Portugal? Acabei uma relação no fim de Fevereiro, pelos vistos ela deixou de gostar de mim porque eu comecei a mostrar as minhas emoções depois de ela estar sempre a dizer que eu o devia fazer. E ela achou que eu era fraco e não era homem suficiente para ela. Depois de acabarmos a relação começou a mandar mensagens a insultar-me, dizer que sou nojento e até chegou a dizer que provavelmente a violei, apesar de isso nunca ter acontecido e não fazer sentido nenhum. É altamente manipuladora e mentirosa, e está a fazer novos amigos a armar-se em coitadinha enquanto diz mentiras sobre mim. Sempre fui um gajo respeitador e isso nunca me levou longe, o que me levou a estar com ela porque me parecia uma pessoa minimamente decente... Estava enganado
Another factor: I have been told by several women to my face that they went for the bad ones because, if the relationship went bad, they would not have to blame themselves for being the ones at fault. But them, being responsible and accountable is rare among women after all. Also, there is indeed the tendency for women to find men to "fix", but that's a no-win situation. If a man indeed gets "fixed" by her, she'd come to realise that he's not the one who was attractive to her to begin with. And if he cannot be "fixed" then she'd cry foul.
I literally got the hottest girl of my life by criticizing a book review she wrote online, after I had initially complimented her reviews. Then, I ignored her for two months. My behavior confused, challenged and intrigued her. Within an hour of meeting her in person (yes, she traveled across the country to see ME) we were having crazy sex, and continued to do so for the next year and a half.
Alexander, you will double your RU-vid subs if you focus on visuals that express the part of you that just liked this gentleman's comment. In other words build a personal style in life and also on camera (dress, background) that reflects that reflects the thoughtful go getter/go get her part of yourself that just tagged this man's story.
@@alexandergrace5350 I'd have to go through my old correspondences to see the timeline of events and find any further corroborating material. Give me some time, and thanks for asking.
This is probably a big contributing factor in the whole "The girls I don't like love me and the girls I like don't even consider me" scenario. When you aren't into someone you come off as distant and disinterested whether you mean to or not - which (from what I have noticed in my life) is indicative of being a 'bad boy'. This stuff is incredibly interesting. BTW: sorry about the demonetization issue. I wish I had the means to help your cause. RU-vid has become incredibly fascistic as time goes on. I am a little scared to see how this trend progresses (no pun intended). Keep up the good work Alexander. Hope you write a book someday.
First woman I ever fucked didn't even blip on my radar when I first met her, from that day on she made it her life's goal to procure my attention. I've taken from this experience and focused my energy inwards towards self betterment and leaving little to no energy reflecting outward where women will take the attention for validation of their good looks. If I don't validate them then they go out of their way to procure my validation. And that's how I get them in bed.
@@TheRixtah1 that's not a "get laid a lot" strategy if that's what you're implying, only a handful of sub 7 girls will go after you out of nowhere like that unless you're ridiculously attractive, most of the women you're legit interested in have enough distractions that it's up to you.
The negative emotion thing is true. How many times have I heard a woman talk negativity about someone and about how much she doesnt like that guy only for her to later on sleep with him. If she doesnt like him(as in "hate"), she will think about him a lot more. The more you think about someone the more you are drawn to them
A female friend of mine who is in unrequited love with a mutual friend just slipped out something similar in our convo recently. Guess what, she was the one who initiated the friendship. If she really hated his guts, why befriend him in the first place? That's just a load of crap women say after getting rejected.
Think of it as an addiction. It has been hypothesized by a lot of psychologists that people with high-conflict personality disorders are actually addicted to the chemical rush they receive from conflict and/or danger (depends on the disorder). That said, I'm inclined to think high-conflict individuals prefer negative drama because it enables them to respond and perpetuate the cycle of drama, providing them a continuous drug supply, whereas good drama tends to just be a sudden spike that disappears almost as quickly as it arose.
Not true, my ex never had to work, had nice cars, clothes, traveled all over...but life was to easy so she was bored and needed to create excitement through drama
Her / Women - I just want a nice guy...... Me: Great - tell me about your last boyfriend Her - He was an asshole, he never listened to me, cheated on me, forgot my birthdays, would disappear all the time, we always fought, sometimes he was even violent; we were together for ## months / years Me: Great - I am done here. I have a moto ride to do. I have lost count the number of times I have had this conversation. Sod off ladies - you could at least come to the table with an original line of prattle.
Was talking with this chick back in 2014 .she had told me she was with this guy for 13 years .he was a dick even broke her nose .she kept coming back because everytime they made up he promised her marriage ..her sis was with a guy for 7 yrs at the Time who was pulling the same stunt
Very insightful. I used to believe that everyone should be themselves and find someone that is kind and appreciates that. It was naive, and maybe it's the challenge, but now I feel inspired. I've accepted reality and am ready to become a better man for no one else but myself.
theree is somthing missing.... "good looking" jerk ... more u look good ... more u can be a jerk ... are u not good looking .. try to be a jerk ... this will not help xD
The better looking you are the more you can get away with. Even all her bullshit tests! She wont launch them all at you like she would with an average or ugly looking guy. A rule for one and a rule for another
I think the good looks are a given when analyzing the dimension of behaviour because you have to unify all other factors when you want to study a variable. If you don't already look good to her, there's not much to do that's going to make her attracted to you.
True! Would you happen to be a psychology student? But yeah.. to simplify it is a true statement in understanding what type of girl to not get involved with.
I think bad boy shows the confidence,and give some 'evidence' of "i don't need you, i have other girls who want me" type of mindset of high class man. So it triggers competitive emotion in ourselves,"getting good partner".
@@sumwhatkeezy thats not true, not at least for me. I've been in a relationship for the longest and ever since i've gotten into it women almost avoid me compared to how the acted before
lets make a mind map what women are looking for what they want in a man: confidence, strength, dominance, status (in whatever field that is considered important e.g. money) what feeling that man gives her: a confident man gives a woman so much pleasure and a good feeling i cant even count all of it strength both mental and physical proves the male nature and makes the woman feel more womanlike dominance, i guess dominance raises the man's value in her eyes, but not only that, it confirms the male position and the female position, the womans natural state is that of voluntary submission (not to the person but to the natural hierarchy) you can see that in women getting f during sex or being the receiver in general which is in contrast to male action-driven behavior.
My opinion is that it's mainly younger women who go for the tall, good looking jerks who aren't particularly successful. Later as she reaches around 23 money and social status ARE usually important to them. If the bad boy has few friends and inadequate finances their previous experiences will tell them a one night stand is the only thing they should use him for.
@@muskokamike127 Depends on the area you live to some extent. I'm from a fairly well off place, when women here see their friends getting all the perks associated with marrying into reasonable wealth they usually want the same. Of course there are plenty of exceptions, and some believe they can 'change' the loser & so stick with him even after the naivety of youth.
@@muskokamike127 Definitely happens! Here in the UK we've still got bit of an unspoken class system, girls from middle class backgrounds will happily bang a working class bloke who ticks all their ever changing boxes... But they'll rarely marry down.
Can you imagine the amount of energy and time that it takes to constantly bouncing a womans emotions around to keep her entertained, for the rest of your life...
Quick game tip for guys at the bar. When you into a conversation with woman at a bar or social setting, and you are having good conversation, and the eye contact is getting stronger and stronger. Right when she looks at you with those starry eyes completely look somewhere else. Like just completely act like their is something behind her. And do this for like 10 seconds then return. Trust me she will chase you like hound chasing steak on the back of a pick up truck.
Probably the same problem men have who say "awesome" every other sentence. It's young people today, clueless, ignorant, largely stupid. There are a few exceptions. They stand out in the crowd.
Actually, both men and women these days aren't getting "knocked up" or having a whole lot of sex in general. It often seems that way because of what is shown in movies, tv, and pornography.
I find Alexander's video's so informative and true. And at the same time, they depress the hell out of me. The more I learn about women, the worse I feel about the future.
You say that woman are more emotional, and that men are more logical. I used to believe this, but I've since updated my beliefs. Now I believe: *All humans are mostly emotional.* The way most human thought works is that we make an emotional decision, and then rationalize it SO quickly, that it feels as if rational thought is taking place.
Yep. And this is why I believe that all people should take formal logic classes and do rigorous proofs in high school. Mathematical logic has 0 emotions, something is either right or wrong. People have a vague idea of what 'logic' is but no understanding of real rigorous logic. Doing proofs really sharpens your mind and you can instantly spot fallacies and other problems in arguments
@@bullymaguire2061 nah you def can but I agree people have a different baseline starting point. When I took logic in school id get 80s without even studying. Some brilliant students would get 90s though. And others couldn't grasp it and would completely fail. However, if you sit long enough with even those individuals that dont have innate logic things do begin to vaguely make some sense. Unfortunately in day to day logic/ve emotion we are guided by our genetics and in humans that is often emotional but we rationalize our emotions after like the op mentioned.
I completely agree with you on this. All beings are emotional. It’s just that men are generally more wired to find it emotionally unpleasant to be jerked around left and right from glee to misery to ecstasy to boredom. I don’t know of a single man who enjoys that. Men may enjoy the sex of a woman who thrives on drama, but I know of no man who enjoys the drama itself. The only one I know who does is gay, lol.
I must be a man then, I hate the idea of being with someone who makes me feel insecure and unsafe. I've been happily married to my angel of a husband for 4 years, and thank God for him every second.
You are what you call a unicorn. I personally hate the idea of having to constantly fight for a woman's attraction, even engaging in undesirable behavior like getting into fights. I just want peace and quite. Plus, with a woman like that you feel like you are just renting her. It's like a sales job where one bad month could mean the end of you, you are always restless in those situations, like your job is never truly secure.
Hey Alexander, I wish you the best in terms of supporters in Patreon: watched your video about it yesterday and it was pretty gut-wrenching to see a brother demonatized and ostracized by RU-vid just because of RedPill mindset: it's the same that happened to the RedPill forums on Reddit Hope you have an awesome day, much love
Back in the day, women were often not allowed to choose who they ended up partnered with, and their virtue was guarded with some ferocity. When the time came, her marriage would be arranged by her father. There was probably a good reason for this.
To add on..it also sounds like these girls depend on a man to make them happy or feel things....but wait, doesnt that destroy the whole, "we don't need a man to define our lives and happiness"?..if men can entertain themselves why cant women?..
No. 1 reason is authenticity. The bad guy is authentic. I didn’t even realise I was one until I got into a serious relationship with a girl (a so-called high-quality woman) and made her cry and grieve almost every week through my words and confrontations. I wasn’t doing all of it on purpose, just being genuine and direct with her and telling everything like it is. Even after all this she has started respecting me more, giving me more attention both emotional and physical. She is now the one chasing the relationship and I have even threatened to walk away multiple times, not because I was cocky, just real. I honestly do not care if she walks away and if we both end up together or not, never bring up commitment talks and it is a liberating feeling
This was a very well thought-out video. I wash I would have had this info in my youth. In other news, I smiled at a pretty girl at the grocery store today and got a quick smile back! It's always nice to get affirmation that you aren't as creepy as you think you are.
My dad abandoned me when I was two. I am now married, a stay at home mom (but do paid work on the weekends) at 26. I personally think it was the influence of Christianity (going to church) in my teen years that changed me into someone that was able to form a stable relationship and a good marriage to a nice guy in my early twenties, even though I'm not religious anymore. One thing I learned was to have more self respect so I understand your last point, and I've always viewed women who wanted jerks as having some inherently wrong with them that was rooted in childhood -- I never understood it Edit: don't think it helps much that today's women were raised by baby boomers (I think they're the worst generation of parents for many, many reasons)
Dads are so important. Ive met a lot of mental cases who had absent or abusive fathers. Sounds like you are a lucky exception thanks to Christianity. Yes the boomers were atrocious.
Fluffy Stag Beetle Hey Fluffy lol. Okay, well the Boomer Generation is from 1946-64. They were the children of the so-called Greatest Generation that lived through the Great Depression and WWII. After living through tough times, they tended to give their kids the best of everything - to spoil these Boomers- which led to a very narcissistic, hedonistic culture. The Boomers were the generation of birth control, psychedelic drugs, radical feminism, legalized abortion, etc. When these Boomers became adults in the 80s, they bought into the feminist mantra that women could have it all: motherhood AND a career. So they threw their kids in front of the TV for hours, left them in latchkey programs or dropped them off at daycare. Many kids were pumped full of drugs to sedate them and make em more manageable. Divorce, of course, was rampant, further hurting the kids. Who paid the price for this child neglect and abuse? Generation X of course, who raised another spoiled, entitled generation known as Millennials. This is, in a nutshell, what happened to American society after WWII.
Fluffy Stag Beetle for a very enlightening video on the baby boomer generation and how they led the destruction of American culture, i highly recommend ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-OvSDIbikprY.html
I reviewed my experience and found it pretty true. women I met often tend to like some superficial , pretentious and selfish guy who lacks self awareness. this question troubled me for very long. after watching you videos I realize it might be the women's problem, they never understand what a honest and genuine men mean to them and think superficial and selfish men to be better choice. this is actually something good for me to not related to them and literally erased a lot of trouble for me
@@CytotoxicTrev yeah, women prefer jerks are for jerks. but men don't appreciate jerk, and I don't want to be with someone who has poor judgement and low standards
Man at this point, my commitment is far to precious to be a “Prospect” I’m the blessing, I’m the full package and i choose wether I’ll bless you by passing my genes to you.
I once was a so called nice guy, but after sending my younger years in the friend zone I just gave up. So I day I decided to pretend to be a bad boy on a date. I'll just say it went very well. After that day I started to get what I wanted from women. And what made it worse, is I stared to treat even more bitterly because the way I wanted to be with them I couldn't be. I had to create this alternate persona of myself to get what I wanted. I had another absolute change once again. I was in my late 20s arguing with an old gf. I hadn't seen her in a about a year. She told me about her new bf how happy she was. This after she accepted my invitation to my place. We argued about the break up. After a year and she was still upset. Why? Because I chose a blonde girl over her. But suddenly in the middle of the argument I had had enough. I said something horrible to her. No about her but effectively something to the extend of "I can have you right now if I wanted." but what I actually was said slightly more crude. Mind you, she had a bf at the time. She was angry and yet despite what said, after I said it she was shocked and we were going at it not a minute later. I was so taken back by this second revelation. The pure disrespect I showed for her and not even a minute later we were in the bedroom. I thought to myself, how crazy that was. How cruel she was to her boyfriend and how cruel I had been to her and yet ... There we were. After that I realized just how far we have collapsed as a society when it comes to relationships. I told myself never again. And so far I haven't. Im 33 now. And I doubt I'll find a good girl. But i know one thing about myself. I'm not going to hurt another.guy by taking his girl. Lord forgive me.
Don't beat yourself over it man! I did the same thing years ago to a super nice guy. Was drunk with his girl and she called and broke up with him so we could make out and she wouldn't be "cheating." Crazy. I felt bad but man she was mega hot!
Love for males: respect, presence and care; Love for females: codependence, drama and unrealistic expectations. Also: I, as a pretty intense and emotional guy, I absolutely HATE drama... I'm naturally kind-hearted, sometimes I act like a jerk, but only when people manipulate me, and I don't like to be manipulated. People who generalize are just ignorant, and that is FACT; I'm a male victim of abuse, and that has changed me a lot. It also made me figure out that you CAN'T change other people based on your perceptions, something that apparently, most of the people I know - both males and females - don't get.
@@CrossingTheStreetArt Oh, it is... I'm nothing special as a guy, but apparently girls have started to notice me and flick around me because of my mysterious aura. Any time the traumatized part of myself comes out, they stick around as if we had sex 2000 times in a row. It's crazy. I'm putting all my effort into getting rid of that side of myself, and they stick around only for that and whenever I happen to be respectful, they get bored and leave.
@@Thenewbronzeagecollapse It's similar with me. My female coworkers joke about how tall and mysterious I am since I barely talk at work. I honestly just don't think many of my thoughts are worth the time and effort of sharing with most of them aside from some jokes to make work more fun.
Omg! Thank you for putting this down so clearly. It makes so much sense because if I look back on my relationship with my ex quite a few years ago I created all these emotions in her. I was not a "bad boy" per say but not a "good guy" either but all the points you stated I would have used them in one way or another.....omg.... The biggest thing is that after the harsh break up I feel like I have none of those traits anymore.... Can one be truly empty?..... I wonder if I can find myself again.... Anyways thank you Alexander for another awesome video.
Great video. As one of the "good guys," I was confused by the paradoxical nature of what women say and how they act. Thank you Alexander, it finally makes more sense.
Wow this video was very succinct and well structured. Tbh I don't think it was as big a problem as some people were making it out to be. This channel is great, impartial and very well researched and I wish you all the best with building other forms of monetization since YT screwed you. Men need to hear objective red pill material which isn't ignorant or charged with other agendas.
I was a nice guy, until a coworker my age who I was close with told me "you're a great guy to Marry, but I wouldn't want to date you". This one sentence changed my life forever. I became "Red Pilled" before it was a thing. Since then, I have not been able to respect a woman in a relationship. This one person set in motion the rest of my decisions regarding women I date. I'm still a nice guy to women who are my "friends", but the poor women who date me will get cheated on every chance I get. Thanks ladies, you made me the "jerk" I am.
@@TNJ-gn2gv Wrong. Nice guys who become jerks do so very reluctantly, because in the final analysis, in order for any man today to get young hottie chicks, men have to exhibit jerk traits.
There were a lot of girls my age in high school who I used to put on pedestals but would not give me the time of day but they would drop their panties for older drug dealers every chance they got. When I got to my thirties and ran into some of them after having left at 17 and moved across the country, they are mostly single mothers (either on welfare or living with their parents and 60 lbs overweight) and their attitudes toward me changed and they really wanted my attention. However, I tell them the same thing: I'm glad I never got mixed up with any of the girls from back home because they would have just held me back from achieving anything. Then they smirk because they know it's true because the tables have turned and I am the prize now!
Number 5 is waaaay true. It’s also a good template for understanding humanity. “How could I deserve pleasure and nice things when I’m such an unworthy person.”
I totally agree, it's all that most women are after to, and those type of guys are incapable of having feelings and love. It definitely does not define a real man, just some poser trying to impress
Your channel is the only one (beside „kurzgesagt“) who in my eyes deserve the notification bell icon to be clicked on! So thankful that someone like you is representing so many of us and who‘s brave and smart enough to take a real stand
Another reason for choosing a jerk: People want what they can't have. Another reason: We fall in love not necessarily with who's best, but with who's most familiar.
The whole time through the video, I was thinking of #5, and then you eventually got to #5. When you meet someone, you really don’t know them. And then even after several years, you still don’t really know them. All you know is you. And sometimes you don’t know yourself. Such is life.
I've already known some of this things and I'd like to learn more from you ,but in my opinion,the more I learn about the human nature the more disgusted I am .
Honestly i am always a nice guy and get quite a lot of girls. But, I do think I am quite clear where my boundaries are so I don’t let them walk all over me. I think that is important. And being good looking is quite a big factor also.
This is why saying ~ *“We shouldn’t hook up. If we get together, there will be nothing but drama. Your friends will be constantly talking about it.”* ~ works like nothing else. On the surface it seems like you’re presenting a negative and pushing her away, but deep down this is exactly what she wants.
Amen, brother! To the women who say 'I don't owe some nice guy my affection just because he does good deeds for me' I say 'OK. fair enough. I can accept that, but when you need a shoulder to cry on, call up that bad boy you're so attracted to, when your car breaks down in the middle of the night and you need a ride home, call up that bad boy you're so attracted to. And when that bad boy you're so attracted to beats you, cheats on you or gets you pregnant, don't call up that 'boring nice guy' to come save you. He doesn't owe you that ,either!
Interesting video with a lot of great arguments. Great watch! At the same time, I think the point about authenticity, why "bad boys" are more readily seen as authentic is due to the fact that "nice guys" have a tendency to apply "covert contracts" - that is, they are often nice with the expectation that this will get them something in return. Something that isn't voiced. A "bad boy" may is more likely to voice what they want, so that, even if it goes against the woman's beliefs, he still comes across as more authentic, because he's got less of a hidden agenda.
I agree with most of what Alexander talks about on this channel. It's wonderful and interesting to hear his analysis of the woman's psych. I agree that women tend to be more emotional and men more logical. However, I can't believe this bad boy thing. It must have some truth to it since so many men complain about it, but it just wasn't my experience. I married such a respectful guy. He asked me permission to hold my hand for the first time for heaven's sake! And I can't be an exception! The only girl I know who is attracted to bad guys has daddy issues.
Great video! One of the things that I don't think you can discount regarding this topic is the rather critical factor of the approval of friends in picking partners with women either. One of the leading indicators of whether a woman will choose to be in a relationship with a man is whether she thinks that the man is desireable to her friends. And in so doing, the guy who is a lot more unpredictable or charismatic holds a lot more of the markers that would be salient to one of her friends in a random chance meeting. Those bad boy traits which would come across as probably low (or high) key flirty are things that would earn the friend's approval, thusly making the woman more likely agreeable to enter into a relationship with the guy. Good guys, it's a lot harder to "advertise" character and virtue in a chance meeting. So it won't play well in any short-term friendship approval meeting.
