Arrested for DV to move his new GF in and take over everything you've worked for your whole life for after putting up with their shit for a lifetime. They NEVER contributed to, and NEVER be a father or family man. Beat and then have the kids arrested for what THEY did?!?!? Beat me and kick us out for the new supply?!?¡. I'm OH.. Hell NO. Then NEVER take any accountability?!? Yep I raised my boys 1 a Dr. 2 career AF. I have been thru hell along with a narcissist Mother. I can be done. Have Strength my ppl. Pray and look for God. He will sustain you!
I can' t help but feeling compassion for people with this kind of overwhelming fears. So good luck to all narcissists with getting help and improve their lives!!!
It is best to have that kind of compassion for them. We may still have to leave, when the abuse and neglect becomes too painful for us to take. It helps so much to heal from the pain of it all, if we can also understand that they have a lot of pain too and they didn't mean to hurt us on purpose. It is a personality disorder and there is deep pain and dysfuntion w/ that person. There are too many channels that make narcissists out be scheming, plotting monsters, out to mess w/ us from day one. That is grossly incorrect and dehumanizes them. Too much misinformation out there. It does more damage to the victims of abuse in the end to see it that way.
This is what my compassion led me to what I am today. I kicked my ex narc out 7 months ago. But thanks to him I now found out that my parents are narcs and why my childhood was a nightmare! My hope died and hope was my fire in this body. Without hope I don’t want to stay in this world anymore. The humanity in this world makes me sick and tired and it’s not worth fighting for anymore, I’m done. People around me doesn’t understand and I’m bound to stay by a promise to my beautiful son. They don’t understand that they are talking to a damaged shell. Every day is painful and I just want to end it, but I’m bound by a promise… Be careful with your compassion!
@@jennielai2459 Yes, be careful w/ your compassion and don't let it be weaponized again you, or to make excuses for abuse against you. Always have compassion for yourself first, then you're more healthy and whole to see clearly to have balanced compassion for others.
I blocked her for one week because she accused me of cheating then I got back with her to find another person in her life she insisted that he’s just a friend anyway she became cold and distant I thought it was love but it wasn’t she said we could be friends so I refused I know she has issues with being rejected I was codependent on her then she devalued me and treating me poorly I got out to leave but I don’t know why I got back then she triangulated me with the other person I came to her apartment one day to find her new boyfriend in her bedroom of course she said her daughter was in the room but I could tell she’s lying I stormed out of her apartment to go to work once I got out of work she was barked right outside my workplace she tried to get me back I slept with her on the same day then I realized since I’m being triangulated with the other person I decided to block her and went no contact she still parking outside my workplace but I really had enough even though she has a new boyfriend she still wants me in her life but that’s it I’m done:(
Please be done. I had a similar situation. My spouse of 10 years was cheating the last few. I kicked him out, and while still w/ her, was trying to kiss me one night. Flatly refused, gave him hell. He tried to pretend he was just being friendly. No, not when you're swooping in to try and kiss me on the mouth. That's not like a little comfort hug. Anything to feed that bottomless pit of an ego. I know they have an illness, but my feelings are coming first now. I was devastated enough, and you likely are too now.
On being humiliated (hehe)... this Wednesday on Valentine's Day (2/14/24), I am handing out a seven-song album of original songs to over 100 other coworkers, which includes a song specifically about workplace bullying inspired by one particular narcissistic coworker's actions. I have no idea what to expect. We'll see what happens hahahahaha
I told the narc I'm still married to I plan on filing for divorce I told him face to face you will never be perfect and you are a sinner I said it over and over to his face I know it was a blow to his ego I always stood my ground against him couldn't control me at all I have gone no contact.
Their need to be high status is so true.. I like medieval re-enactment and he always said I looked like a clown and he won't take part unless he gets the clothes worthy of a king. I wanted to work on a suit as a little bonding project but he just opted to put himself 5 thousand dollars in debt for the "best of the best". He lost the house and job my family got him when I broke up with him after I got sick of all the cheating and abuse. Lets see how he holds up on his own.
My ex is into another guy and doesnt want me. I asked her if she wanted some sexual attention and she said no. I know im stressed, gaining weight, high blood pressure, but still want to be with her...and to top it off, i have a gf right now. Im truly messed up. Was married to my ex 20 years and she left me 2 years ago. Didnt know about narcissism til last year. Omg. Im trauma bonded....
It sounds like it. It's so hard when you lose someone you've been w/ that long. Was w/ my ex 10 years and even though I had to kick him out for cheating, it was still like losing my right arm for the first several months. Six months out now, it quite a bit better. That sounds rough that after 2 years apart, and you have your own gf now, that you are still that attached. What makes you think she's a narcissist and how are you holding up now?
Why don't they feel the bond breaking? We were married for 14 years. I was severed off from him against my desire to be. I get treated like a deadly virus. What happened?
He found another woman and you were the obstacle for him to be "happy" again. Crazy brain. Has nothing to do with you, they have to get rid of you as bad object. They are mentally ill - seriously. He never saw you or knew you, he is not aware that you exist as a person. He talk with little doll of you inside of his head at all times. Nothing is real that comes from his mouth. To understand more listen to Sam Vaknin videos. They are gold standard. More videos you listen the more you will get healed. And from my experience - one happy day will come when you feel in full control over him and situation. O glory day! You will see him as a little dangerous puppet and you will kick him in his ... when he comes hoovering. You will feel great :) It can take time, you have to work to better yourself and you will laugh at him as the fool he is. I was in serious trauma for about a year. When I discovered videos about narcissism I took full control back and I protect now myself. You will go from victim to warrior. They world will be at your doorstep. You were 10 000 more worth than narcissist. Also, Narcissist chronicle videos are very helpful. Best Luck and fight for yourself.💪💪💪
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Micromanagement and contol is what he needed to feel superior by making me believe i was small. Calling me dumb and neive by either through actions or underlying hidden words to devalue me. He did alienated me from our daughter and zhe went to live with him. It hurt me but i didnt want her to feel bad for her choice, i knew what he was doing, she hadn't a clue. When she was 17 + months he actually pationed for full custody lol. Well, ill tell ya, i didn't show up for court that day. Wow, he couldn't believe it as in his long text of how i didnt care to fight for her. What a dumb dick for not seeing how i was done having him use her as his pawn yet once again, right up until she was close to being legally an adult. She was already living with him for 2 yrs. He did it to punish me. But he only made a fool out of himself.
Does exposure or figuring out a narcissist is a narcissist humiliate and embarrass them? If so, why? Because they feel their skills at keeping the mask up were poor?
I think it would depend on how fed up they are w/ their dysfunctional life. NPD is a painful disorder for them, and they tend to know they are different and something is wrong w/ them from a fairly young age, or at least catch glimpses or fear there's something wrong. It's not all grandiose and big ego hits, there is also deep periods of shame they fight and it's shame we can't fathom.
Get them some help. That's a sure sign that something is very wrong. When it shows up young, there's more chance of getting them good help. It might be OCD, might be narcissism, but it's always something wrong.
No but I meant in general, not necessarily the one(s) in our personal life. And I don't mean sorry as in accepting and forgiving their behavior but sorry for why they are the way they are. Hope I make sense.
I told the narc I'm still married to I plan on filing for divorce I told him face to face you will never be perfect and you are a sinner I said it over and over to his face I know it was a blow to his ego I always stood my ground against him couldn't control me at all I have gone no contact.
Absolutely correct sis I am the-same I never gave my ground to him at all we will always drag it to wherever he wants it even dore I never new what I was going true I would always ask him what type of person that he is never happy and even if you are happy immediately he comes around you your happiness is gone you just find yourself in a mix of a fight now I use to leave a space for him because of my Son for some times now he wants to use that space for his manipulation today I have made up my mind I am good totally no contact with him to find my peace
