1. Everyone has bad days 2. This will get better 3. I understand what you're going thru 4. You just need to snap out of it 5. Think about all the good things in your life
@@qcompressed1409 the emotions that you feel/felt could be completely different from theirs. They probably won’t agree with you saying you understand anyways. You should probably just avoid saying you get it when you might not and they might feel like you don’t.
Can anyone suggest me a way how to support my boyfriend.. i mn i don't know how to do support in this kinda situation.. whatever i do everything seems pointless!!... And i can't afford to leave him hurt.
Watching this because I have depression and want to be there for other people so that they can have what I wish for Edit: I didn't expect this to get so much love, thank you for the nice comments ❤️ Edit 2: im doing better now being honest i was overreacting
Thank you for that, my parents are very old school and tried helping me through my stages of depression when I was young. They said all the things you just mentioned. To all the parents reading this, know when my parents said those words, it only made me feel worse because I felt that know one understood what I was going thru. If your child is telling you that he or she feels depressed, you need to act quick. You need to get a therapist and you need to talk to your child more. EVERY PARENT SHOULD WATCH THIS
Thanks for sharing and I hope you are getting better and out of depression. As a parent, I said all the above to my son, who is suffering depression. Would you please let me know when you were young and depressed, what would you like or wish to hear from your parents?
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Cassie's Vlog oh my I too am depressed so I can tell you it really helps if you tell them that you love them and that you charge about them. Also do any adults know he is cutting? I hope this helps sorry if it was a waste of time.
1. Everyone has bad days 2. There’s people who don’t have food 3. Let it go 4. Things will get better 5. Cheer up 6. It can’t be that bad 7. What you need is to go through a real tragedy to gain some perspective 8. You really think you have it bad? 9. Quit being so Overdramatic 10. It’s all in your head Those are all things I hear a lot. They just really piss me off.
My sister recently sad that "you have a HUGE problem with your way of thinking" It was really hurtful.... and than my mom and I argued, and she sad "when have you became so sad, you were so happy when you were a child, bring out the old you" (basically this one is sucks) and another often used, when I feel irritated and im not happy "oh here we go again!! Why should you ruin the mornings.. Always!!" damn.... those words makes my heart hurt...im not even kidding..
when when they snap for no reason and you ask them whats WRONG they just yell and say go away, and we try and tell her everythings ok and she should not be affraid to speak but shes just so antisocial and hiding herself. all i want is her to communicate thats ALL.
Thank u so much this was really helpful, My friends are going through depression and sometimes I say it with get better but now I know I'm not supposes to say that thank u so much😭
My brother doesn’t want to be around me too much anymore. He said he can’t handle my depression. My heart is broken. We are so close and I don’t understand this.
My sister's told me the same thing i understand your pain mate I'm lucky though if I didn't have my boyfriend and my cats I'd be contemplating suicide NGL do you have anyone else in your life other than your brother?
I like to add that number five actually makes me feel worse. "Look at all the good things in your life." makes me feel like it is wrong for me to be depressed despite all the good things, then I feel ashamed, ungrateful and weak.
@@Sharonamy I would say it makes a big difference if the affirmations are said by yourself, not by others. Like you say when in the deepest of your depression you see everything very grim, positively meant comments from others may be taken negatively. If you are able to say it to yourself you are already on your way of recovery.
This is me! My mom is going through a terrible depression. I know that she is not in a good place right now, but I have failed to be there for her in the ways she needs because I have been too caught up in my own depression. How do you make it up to someone when you've let them down like this? How do I push past my own depression and help her?
my boyfriend is having depressive episodes again, he lives far, but i really want to help him out and hug him tight rn, he's not replying to my messages but i understand since communicating can be tiring sometimes when youre feeling down but i'm really worried and i want him to know that he's not alone :(( i wish i could just teleport to him and help him feel better
i have same kind of things im dealing with the person im with rn any idea how i can deal with it, she has shown less interest chatting with me and im sad for her if soo plz tell me it would help us a lot
Typically the one who isn’t depressed can also feel somewhat guilty or responsible and say something like along the lines of “do I not make you happy”, or “do you not want to be here anymore”. Probably one of the most unhelpful things a loved one can say but very common. The fact is that almost nothing can “make you happy” when your depressed, and nowhere is a place that makes everything better. The best thing you can do for a depressed loved one is show leadership, with actions not words. Run them a bath, plan a meal out, use your vision to plan and arrange things to enable a normal life. A depressed person lacks the vision to decide what they want for breakfast let alone big life solutions, so take care of those small normal life decisions for them
God loves you. God says "I will never leave you nor forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5) Jesus is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24) What a friend we have in Jesus! 🙂🥰❤ Jesus says 'I am The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.' (John 14:6) 'For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him, will not perish but have everlasting life.' (John 3:16) (Eternal life with Jesus in heaven / paradise versus eternal hell and damnation for all who reject Him. 'God saved us not because of righteous things we had done, but because of His mercy...' (Titus 3:5) 'Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy, He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.' (1 Peter 1:3) Jesus Christ left all the glory of heaven and came down to earth through the vehicle of the womb of Virgin Mary. When the Holy Spirit came upon her, she conceived, even though she was never with a man. Jesus Christ was Fully God, Fully Man. Jesus Christ lived 33 years on earth. He healed the sick, caused the blind to see, the deaf to hear, the lame to walk, cast out demons, even raised the dead! Jesus Christ chose to suffer and lay down His life for you and I on the humble wooden Cross, for our sins (moral wrongdoings eg lies, stealing, selfishness, unforgiveness, hate, jealousy, greed, lust, adultery, murder etc etc). He laid down His life for all although He was perfect and sinless. He knew no sin, did no sin, in Him was no sin. He was the God-man who reconciled sinful man back to God (who is Holy, Perfect). He was the Representative of Man, as the Perfect Sacrifice, for God's holiness cannot co-exist with sin, and necessitates a Perfect Sacrifice as sin offering. This is so that Man can now come freely to God to HisThrone of Grace to receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. God loves man (whom He created) and this necessitates the Son of God, Jesus Christ, to be the sacrifice to reconcile man back to God. It pained God the Father immeasurably, but it was the Only Way. 'For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.' (Romans 3:23). 'For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.' (Romans 6:23) HALLELUJAH! Jesus Christ was brutally tortured, given stripe after stripe on His bare body using the Roman whip with ferocious hooks attached to the whip, that clawed out His flesh until He could see His own bones, and no sliver of flesh was left. He became so disfigured His face knew no form. He was spat upon, mocked at. When the time came for Him to depart earth, He said 'Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.' ( Luke 23:34). He had no bitterness. He was at peace. Jesus Christ became obedient unto death, even death on the Cross! The worst form of punishment of that time. But God the Father raised Jesus from the dead after 3 days! PRAISE GOD! He is now seated at the right hand of God the Father in heaven. HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE! I KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF JESUS! 3 YEARS AGO, ONE MORNING WHEN I JUST WOKE UP AND MY MIND WAS STILL BLANK, I LITERALLY HEARD A VERY KIND VOICE SAYING TO ME 'HELLO, CHILD OF GOD!' IT WAS INSTANTLY THE RECOGNIZABLE VOICE OF JESUS! THERE WAS NO ONE AROUND ME OR IN THE HOUSE! I WILL NEVER FORGET SUCH A ONCE IN A LIFETIME PRECIOUS ENCOUNTER WITH JESUS HIMSELF! 🥰❤❤❤🙏 I PROMISE IT'S MY MOST UNFORGETTABLE, PRIZED, SPECIAL AND PRECIOUS EXPERIENCE! HALLELUJAH! HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE! JUST AS THE WORD OF GOD SAID. EVERY WORD OF GOD IS FLAWLESS! I FEEL A DUTY TO SHARE! KEEP YOUR HOPE IN HIM ALIVE! 🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👍👍👍 JESUS WAS OBEDIENT UNTO DEATH ON THE CROSS. AS SUCH, GOD THE FATHER GAVE HIM THE NAME THAT IS ABOVE ALL NAMES! THAT AT THE NAME OF JESUS, EVERY KNEE SHOULD BOW, IN HEAVEN, ON EARTH, AND UNDER THE EARTH, AND EVERY TONGUE ACKNOWLEDGE THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD, TO THE GLORY OF GOD THE FATHER. (Philippians 2:10-11) JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON A SECOND TIME. ON THAT DAY ALL WILL SEE HIM, THEN ACKNOWLEDGE TOO LATE THAT HE ALONE IS LORD OF ALL. DON'T WAIT TILL THEN TO RECEIVE HIM. IT WILL BE TOO LATE! IT'S TRUE, TOMORROW IS NOT GUARANTEED. RECEIVE JESUS NOW. PRAY TO JESUS SAYING "LORD JESUS, I REPENT OF MY SINS. COME INTO MY HEART, I WILL MAKE YOU MY LORD AND SAVIOUR." IF YOU DECLARE WITH YOUR MOUTH "JESUS IS LORD," AND BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART GOD RAISED HIM FROM THE DEAD, YOU WILL BE SAVED. (ROMANS 10:9) IF YOU DID, ALL HEAVEN REJOICES!!! 😇🥰🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤HALLELUJAH!!! GO TO A BIBLE-BASED CHURCH, AND KEEP GOD FIRST PLACE, NO MATTER WHAT! GOD HAS AN AMAZING PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE! MAY YOU REACH THE FULLNESS OF YOUR DESTINY AND HIGH CALLING IN HIM! ABOVE ALL, MAY YOU INCREASE IN THE KNOWLEDGE AND REVELATION OF GOD HIMSELF. GOD BE WITH YOU 🙂🙏
And what then to do of the torment, the torture, the grief, the regret, the guilt, the darkness, the rage, the hopelessness, the hell, the rape of my soul? God has truly forsaken me. I am no longer a believer.
My "best friend"mocked my depression, i think it got worse y all, i hate her for this, fuuck why i should go throught this alone?? I hate them why it feels soo cold my heart hurts so bad
I have depression...but I am watching this cause I found a girl on ig who post depression quotes ..and when I talked t her she's depressed and I wana be there for her as much as I can..t make her feel better..cause I know how worthy it is having someone t listen and make u feel better..i dnt have someone t talk to..but at least I wana be there for those who need someone t listen
My dad just can't bear to see me tired, even. He comes in saying things that I already know and find obvious but can't, at that moment, do. Things like you "have to react", "you have to rationalize it", "when I was depressed, I forced myself to go to the gym". It makes me feel even worse. Well, his mom died of depression after losing her daughter (his sister), so he has clearly developed a trauma of sadness. Which sucks for me.
I'm having a hard time. My older brother is above 30 years and has been depressed since childhood due to an accident. I've always tried to cheer him up but lately it has gotten worse. He lives at moms house and is isolated. This depression has now been spreaded to my younger brother. Both live in the same household with my dysfunctional parents. They don't want to make changes or take a leap out. I feel like giving up on them now because it is too much for me to bear. I've had my hope up for almost 20 years without any changes
Poor guy.. Ptsd make you depressed and anxious without knowing why. He need to get to the root of the problem . He is lucky to have a lovely brother that care for him
I don't mean to be rude but your brother needs to move out, living with toxic dysfunctional parents makes things 10000 times worse in terms of dealing with depression trust me
#5? If you’re a Muslim follow the Hadith listed below 27- وَعَنْ أبي يَحْيَى صُهَيْبِ بْنِ سِنَانٍ ,قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ الله ﷺ: عَجَباً لأمْرِ الْمُؤْمِنِ إِنَّ أَمْرَهُ كُلَّهُ لَهُ خَيْرٌ، وَلَيْسَ ذَلِكَ لأِحَدٍ إِلاَّ للْمُؤْمِن: إِنْ أَصَابَتْهُ سَرَّاءُ شَكَرَ فَكَانَ خَيْراً لَهُ، وَإِنْ أَصَابَتْهُ ضَرَّاءُ صَبَرَ فَكَانَ خيْراً لَهُ. رواه مسلم. Abu Yahya Suhaib bin Sinan (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "How wonderful is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this applies only to a believer. If prosperity attends him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him". [Muslim]
even as a person who has struggled with severe suicidal depression (caused by my schizophrenia), i’m scared that i’ll say the wrong thing to my best friend, his depression has got so much worse and i want to be there for him ❤️
I know as a teen we tend to want to help friends with mental health problems, but this can be detrimental to your health if you behave like their 24h therapist.
God loves you. God says "I will never leave you nor forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5) Jesus is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24) What a friend we have in Jesus! 🙂🥰❤ Jesus says 'I am The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.' (John 14:6) 'For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him, will not perish but have everlasting life.' (John 3:16) (Eternal life with Jesus in heaven / paradise versus eternal hell and damnation for all who reject Him. 'God saved us not because of righteous things we had done, but because of His mercy...' (Titus 3:5) 'Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy, He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.' (1 Peter 1:3) Jesus Christ left all the glory of heaven and came down to earth through the vehicle of the womb of Virgin Mary. When the Holy Spirit came upon her, she conceived, even though she was never with a man. Jesus Christ was Fully God, Fully Man. Jesus Christ lived 33 years on earth. He healed the sick, caused the blind to see, the deaf to hear, the lame to walk, cast out demons, even raised the dead! Jesus Christ chose to suffer and lay down His life for you and I on the humble wooden Cross, for our sins (moral wrongdoings eg lies, stealing, selfishness, unforgiveness, hate, jealousy, greed, lust, adultery, murder etc etc). He laid down His life for all although He was perfect and sinless. He knew no sin, did no sin, in Him was no sin. He was the God-man who reconciled sinful man back to God (who is Holy, Perfect). He was the Representative of Man, as the Perfect Sacrifice, for God's holiness cannot co-exist with sin, and necessitates a Perfect Sacrifice as sin offering. This is so that Man can now come freely to God to HisThrone of Grace to receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. God loves man (whom He created) and this necessitates the Son of God, Jesus Christ, to be the sacrifice to reconcile man back to God. It pained God the Father immeasurably, but it was the Only Way. 'For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.' (Romans 3:23). 'For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.' (Romans 6:23) HALLELUJAH! Jesus Christ was brutally tortured, given stripe after stripe on His bare body using the Roman whip with ferocious hooks attached to the whip, that clawed out His flesh until He could see His own bones, and no sliver of flesh was left. He became so disfigured His face knew no form. He was spat upon, mocked at. When the time came for Him to depart earth, He said 'Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.' ( Luke 23:34). He had no bitterness. He was at peace. Jesus Christ became obedient unto death, even death on the Cross! The worst form of punishment of that time. But God the Father raised Jesus from the dead after 3 days! PRAISE GOD! He is now seated at the right hand of God the Father in heaven. HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE! I KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF JESUS! 3 YEARS AGO, ONE MORNING WHEN I JUST WOKE UP AND MY MIND WAS STILL BLANK, I LITERALLY HEARD A VERY KIND VOICE SAYING TO ME 'HELLO, CHILD OF GOD!' IT WAS INSTANTLY THE RECOGNIZABLE VOICE OF JESUS! THERE WAS NO ONE AROUND ME OR IN THE HOUSE! I WILL NEVER FORGET SUCH A ONCE IN A LIFETIME PRECIOUS ENCOUNTER WITH JESUS HIMSELF! 🥰❤❤❤🙏 I PROMISE IT'S MY MOST UNFORGETTABLE, PRIZED, SPECIAL AND PRECIOUS EXPERIENCE! HALLELUJAH! HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE! JUST AS THE WORD OF GOD SAID. EVERY WORD OF GOD IS FLAWLESS! I FEEL A DUTY TO SHARE! KEEP YOUR HOPE IN HIM ALIVE! 🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👍👍👍 JESUS WAS OBEDIENT UNTO DEATH ON THE CROSS. AS SUCH, GOD THE FATHER GAVE HIM THE NAME THAT IS ABOVE ALL NAMES! THAT AT THE NAME OF JESUS, EVERY KNEE SHOULD BOW, IN HEAVEN, ON EARTH, AND UNDER THE EARTH, AND EVERY TONGUE ACKNOWLEDGE THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD, TO THE GLORY OF GOD THE FATHER. (Philippians 2:10-11) JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON A SECOND TIME. ON THAT DAY ALL WILL SEE HIM, THEN ACKNOWLEDGE TOO LATE THAT HE ALONE IS LORD OF ALL. DON'T WAIT TILL THEN TO RECEIVE HIM. IT WILL BE TOO LATE! IT'S TRUE, TOMORROW IS NOT GUARANTEED. RECEIVE JESUS NOW. PRAY TO JESUS SAYING "LORD JESUS, I REPENT OF MY SINS. COME INTO MY HEART, I WILL MAKE YOU MY LORD AND SAVIOUR." IF YOU DECLARE WITH YOUR MOUTH "JESUS IS LORD," AND BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART GOD RAISED HIM FROM THE DEAD, YOU WILL BE SAVED. (ROMANS 10:9) IF YOU DID, ALL HEAVEN REJOICES!!! 😇🥰🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤HALLELUJAH!!! GO TO A BIBLE-BASED CHURCH, AND KEEP GOD FIRST PLACE, NO MATTER WHAT! GOD HAS AN AMAZING PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE! MAY YOU REACH THE FULLNESS OF YOUR DESTINY AND HIGH CALLING IN HIM! ABOVE ALL, MAY YOU INCREASE IN THE KNOWLEDGE AND REVELATION OF GOD HIMSELF. GOD BE WITH YOU 🙂🙏
Oh god if someone said the last one I would probably break down crying thinking why am I having a bad decade I’m such a disappointment why am I even breaking down it was just a stupid sentence. Nice vid 👍
Ask them if there's something more you can do to help. Different people need different things at different times. One thing I think would be helpful is offer them a quick call to start the day/set the tone, on days that you can?
@@archiesimpson5172 I’ve seen your comments and you are very ignorant. Depression is not “life” it is a mental illness. When you are depressed your brain is physically different than a person that doesn’t have depression.
@@janaelove Let me give you a run down of all the diagnoses I have received in my adult lifetime so you can get a better perspective of my "ignorance": MDD, GAD, SaD, OCD, and, finally, BD 1 with psychosis. I've been given pill after pill from the time I was 20. I will be 50 at the end of next week. None of these pills worked in the long term and the psychosis was thanks to the effects of long term use of Sertraline, not because of anything diagnosable. It has long since been proven that those who suffer from "mental illness" don't have brains that are any different from anyone else. To suggest otherwise makes your comment ignorant, not mine. I'm frankly sick and tired of hearing that people are incapable of working past their traumas; that they are helpless victims in the battles of life. I don't like that people are beholden to a system that doesn't really understand what is going on with them; who hand them a diagnosis and a scrip and send them on their way. I hate that they are being told that they have an illness that they can never escape from, and that will haunt them for the rest of their lives. All this does is take away their agency and add to their despair. They think that they are finding hope and understanding, but they're not. They are just being pathologized and plugged into a system they can never get out of.
this is a late response but, show them you’re there for them. assure them that they can come to you, show them love, show them you appreciate them. listen to their problems and give them advice. make yourself available for them and try to make them feel like they’re special. my boyfriend has severe depression and i always try to let him know that i need him. that he’s not useless, that he’s worth it and that he’s loved. if they don’t feel like you’re trustworthy enough to talk to, then obviously you’re doing something wrong and you need to better yourself first if you want to help them
So those are five things that you don’t say what are five things that you do say to someone suffering from depression my husband’s been suffering for many years what do I do?
“This is all your fault!” “How come other people are doing better than you?” “You’re doing this to yourself!” “God already made you perfect and you’re ruining yourself!” Are just some of my personal favorites thrown at me growing up.
Oh my goodness. My entire family could benefit from this. People have good intentions but I’ve had long term clinical depression concurring with situational depression and most people use the phrases verbatim. Thanks for the message that might help someone else out there suffering from depression might be better encouraged by those that really do mean well
Thanks for the video. My girlfriend has pretty bad depression and anxiety. I don’t deal with this stuff as bad and definitely not as often. It is sometimes very hard to communicate with her. This helps out a lot. Thanks again.
Im living the same situation, and she is currently under medical control so we can't currently meet. I dont really know how to help her but I want to stay near her
„Take a look at Sarah. She took the same medicine for depression as you are getting now. She never complained about side effects and after 4-5 months, she was able to perform on a high level again“. Comparing one random situation to another is so stupid and puts pressure on you.
I have an older brother that suffers from anxiety and depression. I had tried numerous times to ask them what they need or if the even want to seek some help but I get the same response always that they are okay..What’s draining to me is the more I comfort them as well the more they are comfortable Doing nothing letting me take charge of everything around the house it drains me and my energy sometimes. Idk what else to do.. he hasn’t even been taking care of he’s diet or health and not being able to even get out of the room.. I feel like I’m stuck on a loop
This is helpful but this now arms me with less word ammo on what TO say to a depressed person. Everything NOT to say were all my "go-to's" to try encouraging all the negativeness I am given in depressed conversations!
@@janaelove I'm not invalidating his feelings. I've lost several family members myself, including both parents. What I'm saying is that this is not MDD. It's a natural response in his situation.
I wish people could understand. The things ive told that will forever stick with me by a loved one when i tried to open up...were "cut me a break. I dont want to deal with this." "Comforting you is like comforting a child." "You will never be loved by anyone." They dint get that these stick with us..we dont forget these words..we only remember them even more when we are feeling down
"Doctor Phil" said ,on national TV in front of millions, this to a depressed person:"You just need to snap out of it" and received a round of applause from his audience.
I don't actually know if my ... well exboyfriend is going through depression, but I'm thinking it might be it... we broke up couple days ago when he opened up about his feelings. He didn't want to hurt me anymore. After we spoke, the next day I wrote down the signs/thoughts that he was talking about and... even though we broke up I still love him and want to help him through. If he opens up to me again I don't want to make a mistake by saying these things... I just want him to feel happy again.
I know I am late to this video. But, what if you actually know what they are going through and the other person in normal circumstances would know that? I'm a person who has dealt/is dealing with clinical depression and the closest people in my life know that. The person who is my closest friend might be dealing with the same but even with my own experience I really don't know how to even try to help. I am there for them when they need me, however they have a very different character and are usually dealing with stuff in a completely different way than I am. I did ask them to tell me when and if I am doing something wrong but I worry very much about them and I just don't know what to do. Are there any tips from anyone, maybe people reading the comment section? I have an appointment with my therapist where I want to ask exactly that but... It's a few days off and things are bad.
Me too. I need help on how to help her. I really want to be able to do something about it, because her parents are only making it worse, and aren’t taking her to get therapy or anything. I’m not even sure if therapy is what she needs, I just don’t know where to start.
Big help. Thank you. I have a loved one who has episodes. I always feel like I’m doing something wrong. Thankfully I’m not doing these five things. Although once I did say “snap out of it” and frankly that was ridiculous in 4-5 years of hindsight!
Believe in Jesus Christ and you will have Everlasting Life, to believe in someone, you are convinced that they are true. If you Believe in Jesus Christ, you will be Saved by Grace Alone through Faith Alone in Jesus Christ Alone, John 3:16, KJV. Once you are Saved, you are always Saved, John 6:37, KJV....
I have existencial depression, should I send this video to people around me ? I am afraid It might sound like I am begging for attention, but I just want them to stop and leave me alone. Sometimes I think they fed on my misery.
I broke up with my gf because she was depressed. I tried for 9 months accepting the fact she would give me something back for my care and affection. But it doesnt work as i got depressed and stressed as communication was just gone. I have no idea what works. I didnt ask any of the above mentioned questions mentioned by the dr. I have no idea how to live without expecting anything. I think i am pathetic human.
Thank you for that video! It really struck a chord with me. It`s an acutest broblem of our time, so I`d like to share some ideas on the issue. When it comes to a deep depression, the major thing to get across is that it is not a person`s deliberate choice to behave in such a way. It is a serious mental condition when a patient simply cannot help feeling frustrated, ashamed, and indifferent all at once. They are just incapable of sweeping aside the desperate thought that there is no way out. Hardly could healthy people understand such behavior and often do their best to prevent depressed person from sinking down. Trying to be supportive, they resort to all the suggestions, mentioned above which often come to no good. Though coming with good intention, such attempts might only amplify the toxic thoughts, circling in a depressed mind. There is no point criticizing such person or getting overemotional during a conversation, because it tends to make them block out of the world and resist surrounding people willing to lend a helping hand. Avoid patronizing comments at all costs. Otherwise a depressed person would simply get protective and shoot down any further arguments, compelling or not. The best thing to tackle the problem would be first and foremost to face the fact that it IS a psychological issue that requires special approach. Obviously, a treatment isn`t easy to come by, but what you could do is to make tactful suggestion to talk the problem over together. To struck a chord with them, make hints that in their state it`s worth sizing any opportunity to get out of this hole. They need to realize that one of the most effective and possibly the fastest way to root depression out is to find an occupation, which can help to regain purpose in life. Actually, a job or at least hobby do make a great contribution, as it brings order in life and creates responsibility. Thus, let them keep in mind that instead of endless ruminating on the hopelessness of the situation it`s better to get their act together and rise to the challenge.
im trying to help this girl that i ve actually met online and we've known each other for like a month or so by now....and i really REALLY like her, and at first i thought that she can t even stand me cuz she would left me on delivered for hours sometimes even days, and if i m not texting her she is not texting me....like at all, i m always the one that is trying to talk to her first and that s why i thought that she cant stand me, but bcz i really liked her i decided to text her like a huuge fucking novel in wich i expressed my feelings and all that and she told me that she likes me back and tried to reasure me and everything and ofc i was happy then cuz the moment was so sweet and cute cuz we were both nervous but after that nothing really changed she s still leaving me on delivered for hours and if i m not saying anything she s not either. She suffers from depession and some messed up shit happened to her and i m always trying to be there for her as much as i can but she s not really leting me help her....and i don t know lately i just feel like i annoy her and that i m like a burden and she s only talking to me out of pitty. I don t know if that s the case or i just need to give her a little more time so yeah hahaha like i really need somebody that s a little more experienced with this type of things to tell me kinda like what s the case. Because i really like her and i would love to help her but if what she s doing are just like "signs" to make me realise that she doesn t like me i should probably move on. I don t know if of this made sense or not hahaha...help a desparate soul pleasee 🥺🥺😂😂
Hope you're still here and got better, and that no one can understand you is not completely true. For sure, no one could ever feel the way you do exactly or tell what you're going through in detail. But people still can understand some aspects of life that you're also experiencing and help you with them. So, don't give up yet, there's still hope at the end of the tunnel
I'll add, "just be positive", or "try to be positive", or any variation of that. It's similar to the last two mixed up. When people said this to me, made me feel worse and kind of bitter. It's like a slap in the face. Ok, do you think i want to feel like shit añl day, no energy, anxious, not wanting to go out of bed? It makes the one depressed feel guilty. How can i not see positivity. It's a complicated subject. I managed to be out of a really really bad patch. For years, with substance abuse and in rhe end contemplating suicide. But it can be gone. No meds, in fact, i don't recommend psichiatrist for a lpt of reasons, that i won't explain in a comment on youtube, but they onñy mask some simptoms and not solve the problems, and you have a half a person for ever. Psicology on the other hand it is helpfull, but the dificulty is in finding a good psichologist for YOU.
Thank you for this video! I've been struggling how to make a reply to my friend. I admit that I failed to give good responses to them, I just hope I can help. Can you please make a video where you list down what things can we say or reply to depressed people? It would be very helpful. Thank you very much and God bless you! May we all get to know God who can fill the voids in our hearts. May you receive salvation from Jesus who is able to save and may you have a relationship with Him as He is coming sooner. May we be found in consistent repentance and obedience to God's Word.
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I wish more people, especially my family would watch this. I am constantly being told to "just get over it". I'm like " Oh shit, just get over it. Why didn't I think of that. Thanks for that great advice" yet inside I'm thinking how much I want to take that bottle water they are drinking and shove it down their throat. I have a brother who is constantly telling me to get over my pity party. Of course I then start thinking maybe I am having this 20 year pity party. I try to educate them but they don't want to learn. I just know that I can't keep going like this. Something has to change.
Never apologize for your feelings/emotions. How you feel at the time is how you feel, no one else. If someone doesn't respect that, that's on them and move on to help yourself.
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my RU-vid channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
Well it all the things i tell to my husband. But I also get depressed with his depression and actually I was depressed for years in my life. Now, when I height I’m back on track he leads me back to depression and I just don’t know what to do. I’m so tired of this life. I try so hard to be happy and every time there is someone who brings me back to unhappiness. Sometimes I think that maybe it’s not the surrounding but me and it’s my fault
I have depression But my best friend doesn't care And just say "go medicate Tell it to your mom" And cussing at me, go back like nothing happened I want to break our friendship but She's only my friend Im going just ignore her for days.. (correct my grammar If u may)
Being diagnosed like literally medically diagnosed depression and everything else I could make them understand it's not something that could be fixed mental breakdowns and traumatic events in my life some of it made me numb some of it didn't I dealt with it most of my life anybody that I ever lived with as a roommate but it's not like we're always suicidal and sad and you know all the time. I hate the way they tried to make us out to look like has nothing to do with drug's or any of that. So many times I was threatening situations that literally i could not comprehend that it just broke my mind. And then years and years of torment and torture psychologically it makes you want to not be attached to anybody anymore for someone to tell you they love you but just to put me through horrendous horrible psychological damage whether that was a short amount of time Or a long extended where they convince you that that's the only way you'll ever be treated just have to accept it because I've experienced that you seen it so much with other people psychological things that I wouldn't do to another person subconsciously unintentionally. And then dealing with the painful being overactive there's things I would like to do but it's too strenuous for my body. Etc okay well I'm not bipolar I'm not schizophrenia and I really wish they would stop with that misconception has nothing at all to do with drugs or alcohol I don't know who keeps thinking that making that out I'm just saying I'm not in recovery from drugs and alcohol I don't know how that's constantly being wrongfully confused with my account none of that is on my medical none of that is on my record none of that.
My best friend almost like a brother to me is going through severe depression.. I barely get him to talk to me about it as he keep isolating himself but when he does, I mostly listen to him and try to tell him he'll be Okey and I tell him that I love him, sometimes I go over to his house and give him his favourite snack or a small gift with a written note and I once again I tell him that I love him But I never felt like I'm making him feel any better.. It doesn't show.. Please help me understand what is the best thing to do In this situation Please help!
My beautiful amazing adult daughter has just been excepted to Purdue University for classes to help ppl with suicide and drugs addiction. Last night she was drinking and called to say she wanted to kill herself and felt as if she didn't belong here. I didn't handle this call well at all and now I need to figure out what not to say so I don't make the same mistake.
What you talk about is indeed very invalidating and alienating. I would add that It should be applied to most interactions, start by acknowledging that you probably don't understand to begin with, you're either in the dark and your suppositions are likely wrong, seek to understand the others situation and perspective before giving any advice, accept that your advice may be wrong, be humble about it, and never judge.
Wasn't really helpful. What is it we SHOULD be saying? I doubt there is anything anyone could say, even the most empathetic person could say, that would help in any way. So, give us some 'do's instead of don'ts please.
How about I help you with anything . I’m next door feel free to call anytime . Next I was doing free light gardening for my elderly neighbor . Take out the garbage . Bought some Amazon plastic colorful flowers for the flower pot outside looks like spring in the winter .
I’ve been told to just push myself to get things done, just push through. And I try, and then get so frustrated I end up hiding under the covers crying. I’ve been on Social Security Disability for Chronic Clinical Depression since September 2003. I’m on a 6-9month waiting list for a new therapist. I’m looking at depression workbooks on Amazon to do until I get an adequate therapist, I’d love recommendations from people that have used workbooks, please give me some insight on this. I’ve been to many therapists so I do have first-hand experience knowing which ones I’m making progress with and which ones are making my condition worse. The one therapist that I loved the best helped me to the point of where I happily got things done. But she moved on.
@@Robert-po9gw I was placed on social security disability by my then psychiatrist while in the hospital after a suicide attempt. I had been heavily medicated with antidepressants and the psych-meds that at that time (August 2003) went along with the sometimes up to 8 different pills daily. I was also working an unbelievably stressful 70hours a week at an increasingly difficult job 6yrs up until that hospital stay. I don’t know how to get on disability, all I did was “just sign here” by my then psychiatrist. I had a different psychiatrist at the county health department after I was on “Cobra” between work provided medical coverage and disability provided medical coverage.
Spoke to a friend, breaking down emotionally, in so.much pain at 3am not sleeping and the first thing they say is "this guy on a podcast just decided he wasn't going to think negatively anymore and he just didn't allow himself to think negative thoughts and now he's better" I felt so angry. So are you saying I'm this way because I just haven't been thinking positively enough??
Close your eyes in a cold dark celler. Remove all hope and love and add sickness headaches nausea no appetite just nothing for as far as you can see. You feel worthless can't make friends or maintain healthy relationships. Suicidal thoughts entice you. That is my depression life for 45 years. The only way 'in' is if you truly love the person. And that love will penerate the dark and will guide you to the right response. Sit with them, put your hand on them and don't look for words. Your love will download into them but only if your love is genuine. Don't say one negative word or criticize. It's just to painful. Good luck.
Most of these (as a person who constantly struggles on and off with depression) just add on to it. Especially the “think of everything good you have” because it’s not like they are choosing to be that way, and thinking of the good things only makes them dive deeper, cause why would you feel like this with a loving family and nice house etc. One thing every person struggling with depression is trying to answer is “why”. A lot of times following this why question will lead to nihilism which just makes things even worse, cause then you’re questioning your beliefs and morales on top of being in a depressive state. The best thing to do for someone who you might think is depressed is to give them a good day: plan it ahead of time but don’t give them the option to opt out, if they won’t even get out of bed, set up everything for them without being pushy, make it easy for them. Do the things you know they like doing, and give them a type of purpose, no matter how small, so there is some sense of accomplishment. This won’t cure it but it will help.
You especially want to avoid toxic positivity such as telling someone who is depressed to "smile" or (worse) "it's a big beautiful world out there" which really isn't helpful at all. Furthermore if you tell a depressed individual that "things could be a lot worse" they might throw it back at you and say "things could also be a hell of a LOT better too!"
In a dual teacher home growing up, you get overlooked. You find something you love doing, then seizures stole it. You have been a disappointment ever since. Why does tomorrow bring anything worthwhile.
Welp I just said nearly all of them to my boyfriend. what do I say then?? He's stuck in bed for a week and I dont want him to lose his job, we are already missing his income for that week. I can't support us both on my paycheck alone. I'm so frustrated and it makes it hard to be sympatethic. He doesn't believe therapy will work, we have no funds for therapy, what the fuck am I supposed to do now? He doesn't know whats wrong with him he just says he feels extremly sad. We have no big struggles, life is better than it was before and now he's being like this risking to lose everything we build up for years. I'm picking up all the slack of work, house choires, shopping, cooking, clean up and trying to make him feel better wil good food and snacks. I want him to freaking snap out of it or he will get an actual reason to be depressed. I don't know what to do.
