The key to big returns is not big moving stocks. It's managing risk in relationship to reward. Having the correct size on and turning your edge as many times as necessary to reach your goal. That holds true from long term investing to day trading
As someone who is an introvert, I have to argue with her assessment. Being by myself is my happy place. I can socialize and talk to anyone and get along with everyone. But at the end of the day all I need is a good book, a movie or a video game and I'm perfectly content and happy. Being around people for too long is to me, what isolation is to most people, torture.
Wouldn't alone time for introverts be DOWNTIME. I always personality test out EXTREMELY INTROVERTED. I would however, agree with her that too little "OTHERS" destroys even healthy extreme introverts. Yet, gimmie lots of alone time. Play too seems more "brain lightening up" to me with "OTHERS" as long as that radical competition balogna gets outlawed. God made one human who can jump the highest, make the highest % of 3 pointers, procreate the most desireable currently beautiful children or be the perfect physician. And only one Son of Man through which Paradise can be ANY body's. ALL that makes competition, even comparisons unneccessary. Even WRONG.. OFFENSIVE to The Creator, Who is incapable of mistakes, incapable of not Loving or incapable of allowing INJUSTICE to endure. Once in Eternal Paradise, each one will know SO MUCH more than those pitiful littles.
4:35 Adaptability is the key to a prosperous life. 9:10 On Dolphins 10:28 P. O. D. 10:36 Play [have fun without rules]. 12:17 Others [meaningful connections]; Social connection is a basic of life 13:55 Downtime [sleep] Rest and Relaxation is the basic of life 15:38 Look deeply into nature, and then you will understand everything better If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper.
I thought in order to play rules were necessary. Sure the rules can be played with but it seems as we grow up its the very rules (limitations) that make games interesting. If you're playing chess, its not fun if your opponent breaks the rules. In essence rules give life a sense of meaning.
When I was about 9 I had been aggressively unkind to one of my playmates. I thought this was very 'macho' & manly of me & I went in & boasted to my dad about it. He said 'you shouldn't do that' . I looked at him with surprise & possibly a little disappointment showing in my facial expression. He said 'Do unto others as you would be done by.' I reflected on that long & hard & ever since I have been a kind & considerate person. DADS ARE SO IMPORTANT ! My dad was big & manly, he had fought through 2 World Wars. I would not have taken that advice from my mother. .
Our stress does not come solely from a lack of downtime to many people. Most from unable to achieve personal greatness. Lots of people struggle with living, making money to put food on the table and having a roof over their head. The speaker speaks from her own personal view which is helpful for those who shared the same living situation with her. As the Director of youth and Child Life admin, she does not have trouble making enough money to raise her family. And that's where stress come from in life for many people.
teresa chase Sorry for your losses. My condolences, Teresa. Social media helped a lot of people to remedy in situations alike and can bring connections to you. Facebook, Twitter, and online communities such as forums and chatrooms.
Binbin Li. Thank you. im in several fb forums for greive and some on health. it does help when you start to loose faith in the doctors. have a blessed night
Binbin Li Yup.. this talk is meant to solve rich peoples existential problems. The rest of us were too stressed out wondering how to pay next month's rent to pay attention to this video ;-)
Binbin Li Land, labor, capital, management abilities are the factors of production. too bad that most who are in the labor barely can afford to P.O.D. Or put food/roof on the table/head. Some ideas master/servant, wise/not so wise, set up, hypnotized into doing something, labor is always minding the interest of other 3 factors, and the other 3 is ordering the life of labors!! Worked your way out! Its fun, challenging, pod your way out, its a maze, humans find ways, that makes us humans or not it does not make us less humans!!!
On point. I step out to connect with society from time to time and just as quickly I retreat, like the ground hog: five more months of winter. The problem, it seems to me, is that people have been extremely conditioned to abandon what makes them special as individuals. They see movies, they act out the movies. Individuals have allowed so many agents of conditioning a free reign in their lives, and they come out uninteresting, boring, extremely shallow and a sheer waste of time and emotions. Where is the attraction in that?
P. O. D. - Play (have fun without rules). Others (meaningful connections). Downtime (sleep). If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper. Good night ;)
Thank you I was starting to think that maybe Ted talk actually pay these people and by the minute. I'm not sure if they have to feel a specific amount of time every time but after the five minute Mark I was like a dab debility and took you 5 minutes to say adaptability
As interesting as that is, many people work more than 40 hours a week and still live in poverty. Many people who live that life cant P.O.D. and put food on the table or raise kids or live in a decent shelter. Instead we struggle til we die. Poor people cant adapt because of a landslide of obstacles that keep us down.
Many of us are single moms not by choice, and are exhausted but trying to stay focused and positive and trying to rebuild our health, not stressing as much and have to get rest when given the chance and the thing that helps me the most is staying connected to my Authentic friendships and just finding something to laugh about and staying positive.
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@@willzill538or your partner turns out to be extremely abusive after having children, and you become a single mom due to protecting your child- good choices.
I completely understand what she's saying about adaptability. I agree with her, 100%. I just don't care to adapt to most of "this world" we have now. The way I have found peace, which may be different for everyone, is to adapt by not going with the flow of globalization. For everyone, it's a different adaptation. I hope everyone finds theirs.
I love the concept of adoption to me it means not only assimilating the influence of the current environment into your life but also being true to yourself attracting authentic people people who elevate you and make you see things from their perspective thats a profound human connection and adaptation to me
Thank you! So true! Some of us have to become ill to learn this. I'm not sorry to have had the chance to wake up, but it cost me a lot of time. I hope to encourage you to take charge by letting go of all the things that don't serve you and humanity. Love your life!💞
There are gems within this talk, but I’ve never liked Legos, even before they had rules. I have lots of downtime; I think it gives me too much time inside my head. For me the most healing thing is gratitude. Our speaker has so many accomplishments that must feel great to talk about in public. Seems to me this talk is more for the Haves than the Have Nots.
So, live a porpoise driven life? Got it. As a physician treating syndromes of ADHD and associated anxiety, depression, this is one of the most salient presentations I’ve heard.
As a political prisoner that went through torture physically and at some point emotionally and mentally, the salutary confinement was the worst aspect of being in prison for me but yet my skills in adaptabilities and imagination helped me somehow not to break in pieces or lose my integrity or my believes .
We all want the best of life for ourselves and loved ones.Watching this I was forced to reconsider what I should strive for and how! Profound presentation but then so obvious- this is a must watch for anyone who wants an awesome life!! Fantastic!
What a wondrful talk. Thank you so much Dr. Shimi Kang. Everything I have been thinking about for years have been very concisely related to your talk. I am so impressed with your delivery. Respect! x
With all respect to the fact that people watching this come from diverse situations I found great value in her comments and learning. Society does glorify work, and there are also those who must work many hours just to get by. In either case would it not be ideal to have time to be creative (play), socialize, and have downtime? How we get there is often the more difficult question especially when options seem few. TED talks rarely answer this type of question due to time constraints, but it allows us to exercise our own creativity in solving our own problems.
How do we become sufficiently adaptable? Simple: prioritize health and play! Dr. Kang makes a great case for this approach, for those who haven't fully realized its value, yet.
OUTSTANDING! THANK YOU. Everything in balance. We are an unbalanced culture, out of touch with our nature. She is so right. I am a baby boomer and have led a rat race life for too long ... overworking to achieve something is even creeping into my retirement. I need more real play time!
Superb...my take away from this video...When I played I found new Passion...When I connected I found new Purpose...When I rested I found new Balance...So true..
Isn't it funny? We got washing machines, can reach any point in the world within 48h, got internet (imagine communication before electricity) and numerous machines working for us. Yet, we have less time than before.
Apologies for all the ranting and negativity in the comments below - I think this was one of the best TED talks I’ve seen in a while, well constructed, delivered with authenticity and left me feeling more compassionate for myself and those around me. Thank you for all your hard work in this area and for sharing your story. You should be very proud :)
If you have to pick one thing it's not adaptability it is understanding; adaptability comes after understanding. Without understanding what you need for you, what do you adapt to? And really if you break it down further it is love, love is far more important than anything for us, but love for all is not realistic but understanding is as it only requires you to understand you and once you understand you you can give love.
I have been saying something similar for decades, of all the courses we teach and learn, of all the things we know and master, the one thing we arent taught is how to be "happy". And imho it should be taught every year of school, and if wise we should continue this "study" throughout our lives. For now, if your not "happy" as much as you would like, then you can try focusing on this....do what you love, or love what you do. If you have an interest, a calling, anything your drawn to then GO TO IT, you only have one life, we must use it wisely if we want to be wise, and life fullfilled lives. If you dont have any interest currently, then focus on learning to love whatever it is you are doing, even a job you hate can be turned into one you love i assure you, and imagine the power you gain when you achieve that ability, nothing stands in your way after that, then your/ we are, truly free. 😜😊✌👍👋🙏😀
In my opinion the reason why nobody teach how to be happy, is because the happiness is coming from INSIDE ! Or at least should be... if not you are unhappy what ever you do with your life, like carrier , families, wealth, etc...
Adaptability is a great way to survive, but not great if you wish to thrive. Napoleon wasn't a great general because he could adapt to his setting. If you want to get up from the table never having lost any money, but also not winning any either, than do everything you can to make sure no one notices you were even there. Just adapt. If you don't want anyone to hate you than adapt socially. No one will hate you. In fact, they'll likely forget you were ever there. Adapt. If you never want to get fired, then adapt. You never will. You'll also never know what it is that you could have been in life other than a guy who was never fired. To be the person you are, you must stand firm in who you are when the temptation is greatest to adapt to something else.
Good observation. My synopsis of your objection is: Adapting to WHAT? Kang offers her adapting with the POD solution to address going overboard on goal-setting & stress. (War is the most complete justification of goals & stress, so choosing Napoleon was the most extreme example of being notable that you could choose, but I get your point.) Perhaps an apt continuing question might be, "What *IS* the "person we are"? Are humans merely a product of their culture and ways children are raised? Or can we adapt (by using POD play, others & downtime) to CHOOSE what values and convictions we "are," might want to "sponsor" or "represent," (and hopefully embody and demonstrate in inventive, practical ways) despite our original conditioning? Hopefully, a person would not get too focused on the "OTHER" section of Dr. Kang's POD idea, sacrificing what we discover is true for ourselves during the "PLAY" feature of POD. Experiencing the effects of how we act and responding to balance our efforts in real time *is* adapting. In a perfect world, this usually generates prioritizing convictions and goals that come from experience, without abandoning any advantageous features. However, I have experienced those limitations you outlined above in being "too" adaptable by not really being deliberate enough at arranging my priorities. For awhile instead, I made "Adapting" THE priority and suffered the effects you describe! But I was able to recognize what was happening and hit the "refresh" button. I'm hoping you are still able to respond...!
Kristopher Scott all things in moderation, dear. Also, one must use common sense to know when to apply particular concepts. She's refering to the epidemic of stress, anxiety and other emotional/ mental disorders that have developed as a result of people not thinking for themselves when it comes to life in modern society. She's not referring to EVERY SINGLE aspect of living life and obviously not war
This works if you are working in a meritocratic environment. It doesn’t work if you are working in a dysfunctional environment where you expected to adapt to inefficiencies.
@@muddyshoes4517 Dr. Shimi Kang referred to bacteria, plants, animals (particularly dolphins), large and small businesses, corporations, humans, governments, empires, raising kids. That sounds like nearly all of life to me. In my experience, a great deal of stress is born out of struggling to conform. It is often as simple as being empowered to be great the way we are. As I said, if you get good at adapting, it is a great way to survive (nearly anywhere). But if you go where you are appreciated instead of just tolerated, you will benefit much more.
@@En8el Adaptation has its place but cannot be 'THE priority' as Dr. Shimi Kang emphasizes. Instead, prioritize your goals and you will naturally adapt accordingly. Without YOUR true goals, you can have all the play, interaction and rest you want (as many of us already do these things to some degree already), but without a prominent focus on what we want (our goals), we are left with stress and little to show for it. Do you have goals and the dedication to follow them is more the question. Think of it this way: What if we'll have stress anyways? What if eliminating stressors from our lives with all kinds of made up new skills (packaged as acronyms) do little more than serve as a temporary break from the stress? What if the stress isn't going anywhere no matter what and this is simply as good as it gets? If that's true then maybe it's more about finding the thing(s) that make the stress worth it. A specialist selling a book on RU-vid isn't likely to tell us what that thing is. We'll have to answer that for ourselves and when we find it, instead of compromising in order to adapt and survive, we see these things through for better or for worst. A great man once said, a person with nothing to die for also has nothing to live for (MLK Jr.).
14:19 "Stress is the #1 health epidemic of the 21st century" - World Health Organization Coronavirus Covaid-19 : Hold my beer 12:18 Others, this explains perfectly why a lot of Americans are having a challenging time being quarantine during the stay at home. That lack of social connection is some people nuts! This was a very worthwhile TedTalk, especially during these pandemic times.
Bruce Lee has a quot that goes "if you put water in a tea pot the water become a tea pot, if you put water in a cup the water become a cup , be water my friend" this TED talk really help me connect with this quote
Very good, very simple to understand, and, as a dolphin admirer (I spent 8 - 10 weeks studying whales and dolphins 1975 with a class of 4 - 5 year olds and I learned so much about dolphins, and from my class), I love the advice here.
Each and every theory related to stress releasing is applicable when we have enough money to pay our bills. Causes for my stress won't go away until I have money.
She talks very slow but somehow when you do 2x faster it is still perfectly understandable without spending any effort. I think she really is trying to talk slower consciously She probably thinks she will be understood better if she talks slower.
Interesting watching the POD discussion in light of the pandemic lockdowns when we weren't allowed to play, we were kept in isolation from others, and we were bombarded with stressful messaging through the news and social media. Our well being was under attack from all angles. Isn't it clear as day what our governments were doing to us, the people?
Someone else is using Tedx to learn English? I was using Tedx to learn English however I'm wacthing this because is incredible like I can to learn diferents and usefull things.
Excellent presentation and thought provoking topic. Appreciate the efforts of Dr Shimi. A humble suggestion- I feel like audience can get the best out of all presenters if TEDx can allow them some buffer time rather than asking them to stick to exact time frame. This allows them to dedicate 100% of their talent in delivering the presentation than being equally concerned about the timer running.
We are living in the world where everybody wants to be productive. But deep inside productivity as simple as we think. Play, work and rest these things are the essence of our life.
I am in a uncertaintly about my future life, but i write my thoughts in the diary, my reasoning about different themes. I worry about that i don't make money now, but want start to share my thoughts in RU and EU language. They are deep in understanding this world. I think, that i many time to relax and rest, but all this time i studying and thinking. May be what i don't spend my time for preparing to exams in the university is consequence of the fact that the traditional method of studying isn't my. I live for my pleasure, but my pleasure is a science, calithenics, improving in social communications, psychology, shearing knowledge, ect. Really, may be other forget how to be a human...
Listening to this TED I feel confortable: play, other, downtime. I would say: connection. And I like that you don't insist with the sentence: "we are rewarded". Because we're grown up watching out for punishments, hence for guilt and shame, and looking for prizes. Freedom, authonomy and connection grow with free playing, with unconditional love experience, experiencing how our life gets enriched, how we can help the other have a marvellous life, as Marshall Rosenberg says.
I definitely like her view on the one skill being adaptability. Looking at today, or at ancient history, that seems pretty evident. After that, she's basically promoting her mental treatment/development theories about the importance of taking it easy.
solitary confinement is involuntary! setting oneself apart and having full control over oneself has no deleterious effects on the human. instead it can be a source of strength. being alone not same as being lonely!
Not true, we are naturally social. Hormones release she talked about is true. U isolate, u lose everyday social skills which is d bedrock of our society.
> being alone not same as being lonely! Yeah and solitary confinement is not the same as setting some time aside for yourself. Absolutely ridiculous comparison. I love how many people in these comments seem to think they are so different from others because they like time alone. Newsflash: EVERYONE DOES. Just not for prolonged amounts of time
Neurosciences have excellent pieces of advice to improve everydays' life. Each time l listen to a neuroscientist he's full of very useful knowledge and common sense to better people's existance.
Workaholics love showing this badge... In the meanwhile these workaholics are bitter, disconnected from others because they feel so superior. It's total denial as they are ineffective & inefficient without soft skills and a sense of humanity. They are completely unaware that they are denying themselves and others the love that makes everything it touches flourish.
adaptability is still related to our childhood though. Whether it be abusive households who keep adults stuck survival mode or parents who coddled their kids and never let them fail or experience set backs that might be what Shimi is referring to as a good childhood. Either option makes you more rigid and less adaptable.
I was listening to this as I fell asleep and thought it was a great speech. I had to shake off my sleepiness when I heard she was giving prescriptions for pot (which really disappointed me). I'm so relieved and amused to find out it wasn't pot...
The one skill is the ability to adapt to ones environment. Some great tools of adaption are playing(fun activities), having meaningful connections with others(people who recharge you, see you, hold space for you, etc.), and downtime( rest and relaxation, meditation, stress alleviation).
i don't have the neuro chemicals of happiness and positivity. Everyone and their mother make me feel bad about myself because i don't believe in the power of positive thinking. One friend told me 'Too much happiness is being broken like too much sorrow. Balance is necessary. '
Those who genuinely research and conduct scientific studies have much to say about common sense actually being based on science or mere conventional wisdom w/o scientific validation (e.g. merely adapting to fit in with a majority even if the common sense is completely irrational and scientifically invalid) lol (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻
Thank you! Some of my observation: “P”-when I am not crafting, I don’t feel as joyful; O”-despite my fear of interacting with coworkers (especially toxic people), I find overall that I enjoy interacting with my coworkers; “D”-I feel guilty for my downtime, including 2 week staycation, but I am recouperating from so much stress and being under the weather. However, when I am at work, I am the least sick person. What she says makes sense.