What Society Says To Men- Helly Shah | Spoken Word Poetry 

feminists should take note; THIS IS what a strong woman looks like. strong enough to take a stand for humanity ,not just separating agendas.

This is called a feminist. Someone who clearly fights for women's rights but gives a shit about men too. A good person. Clap it up.

Girl, you're one in a million.

As a young man in my early 20’s this video hits hard. I’m pretty stoic and rarely show emotions around friends and family, but this video had me in tears.

It's so ironic how these things are taken much more seriously when a woman is talking about them in third person than when a man is talking for himself.

The ironic part of this video. If a man were saying any of this, everyone would be calling him an incel and a creep.

She is standing for us when no one is standing for us 🥺🥺🥺.... "Thank you" is a very small word for you Helly 🥺🥺

2:59 “A man is a human too” hit me hard. It made me realize that when someone tells you to be a man, they are contradicting themselves because by extension, they are asking you to be human.

"When Kevin committed suicide, he wondered. Who would cry?" Felt that hard

"When Kevin committed suicide, he wondered. Who would cry?" Right in the soul with that one.

I haven’t known a single woman whose opinion of me didn’t sour to some degree when I showed vulnerability. Whether physical, mental, emotional, financial… I actually got more pressure from my mom to “be a man” than my dad growing up. The only ones I really share my emotions with are my homies. Cuz their respect and care doesn’t just come and go.

I just want to hug this woman and cry As a 16 yo life already has got to me like Im 40, having 2 failed suicide attempts that no one knows about, always in battle in what i should do and what i feel like doing,what society wants me to be as a person ? A man needs to be strong ik but I can only handle too much as a person,my father can only can handle too much as a person "oh are you a child?" "Oh you need to grow up" thats what ppl day to me when i do something that i like those are the toxic words everyone says ppl think the society is male dominent its truely not like jordan peterson said: most ppl who commit suicide are men, most ppl who die in wars are men , most ppl who do wrost in school are men, most ppl who are in prison are men Should i go on ???? Where is the dominence here ? Do women like to suffer ? Do women enjoy getting hurt? Im not against femenism but i think the wrong type of it are making men weaker and weaker heck even men themselfs are bowing down to that toxic idea This type of feminism is making men look like monsters that are enjoying hurting women that simply is not true And just a reminder Im a minor If im getting hurt from this wrong kind of feminism then adults are screwed And women dont care why they should ? Why tina over there needs to know when she mocks me in front of my friends thats enough motivation for suicide for me Why should my mom care about my dad coming home at 2 am and having work crunches Why you should care about your brother having no gfs ? A guy slaps a woman in the face "This man is disgusting" "he should burn in hell" HE fucking HE is what they say before understanding wtf goin on Little they know that the woman cheated on hus husband 5 times So if you have a husband or a son or a bf or a brother or a friend Just open uo to them a bit and you will know how much a man can cry

It’s gotten so bad that we need a woman to speak for us, because we aren’t allowed to speak up for ourselves.

“Men drop dead at 55 from 5 decades of not being able to admit a puppy is cute or that they want a cookie” -Bill Burr

As a man, I wish I saw this video much sooner. In 2019, I left my home and forced myself to live in homeless shelters while hopping around to 2 different cities here in Canada. Some nights, I was sleeping on the streets of these unfamiliar cities - one night was on my 22nd birthday. It was a very harrowing experience and I've scarred myself. Why did I do this to myself? Because I felt compelled to brutally punish myself - this is what I deserved as a man apparently. Because society constantly gave me the message that I had never suffered enough to cry, that all my problems were trivial and invalid. The last person to give me that message happened to be a woman - and that was the first time I had ever tried opening up about my problems to anyone. She told me I had nothing to worry about because I live in a first world country. It broke my heart. I had never been given a space to speak about the issues in my life before. So my message to the world was "You wanna see me burn? Okay then, I'll make myself burn." I am now in such indescribable emotional pain, even though this happened 3 years ago. I have not recovered, and probably won't for many years. All I can say is, we are blessed to still have women like Helly.

She's standing up for us. It made me almost cry. I think she deserves a freakin award, like some human rights shit.

Nobody speaks for guys like this, all respect Boys we need 24/7 protection on her, she is a rare one

The fact that us men could not say this ourselves without being marked as sexists and creeps just shows how and society has got these days, thank you Helly Shah

iv'e not felt love in over 9 years,yet i felt every word of this video. thank you

Now that's who u call a real Queen 👸

Guy:*Helps A Woman* Society:SIMP Guy:*Helps A Guy* Society:Gay Guy:*Does Nothing* Society:Pathetic

"A man will get his first flower when he dies." I felt that.

She's the kind of hero that this planet needs

A real women will always appreciate a real man , period

It's nice seeing a woman talking about men like this

She's not the hero we wanted, She's the hero we needed.

To be a man is to endure our suffering through dignity.

We live in a strange world , but it’s nice to be recognised once in a while

Some women say “be a man” and then turn around and say being a man is toxic

“This is not a debate about feminism or a million other isms, Instead learning about kindness and empathy” best words in this video

"It's not just ok to be a MAN, It's necessary" - J.P

As a woman who always stands up for men, this brought me to tears

“When Kevin committed suicide he wondered ‘who would cry?’” *Dude that hit too close to home*

She protec She attac But most importantly She got men’s bacc Edit:thanks for 1 thousand likes lol that’s awesome

Man, this makes me feel a lot better, I spent the entirety of my grandmothers funeral holding back tears. I couldn’t stop myself felt very embarrassed. This really shouldn’t be this way, thank you for standing up for us. Also you dropped this 👑👑

Best quote for me "We need to liberate our souls, from what it is to be a he or a she and see what it is to be you and me." So much compassion and empathy in just that one sentence.

I hate this bc I was expecting to be annoyed from another “feminist” that just trashed on men, instead I got hit with emotions and shed a few tears at 6am bc I cant sleep. Thank you

I don't think any woman ever spoke this highly about men in public.... Hat's off to you Ma'am ✌️

When she said men also cry and society thinks men don't cry. My heart melted that time I mean.. just tears came down from my eyes when she said that.i have huge respect for her.

This women is so cool. She is an inspiration to young girls like me. So many times my brother and I have heard about double standards and in reality man or women we should treat each other equal. Women should be allowed to fight and men should be allowed to cry. We ALL are human, we ALL have ideas and desires, we ALL feel emeotions. We should not let the past define us, do not let idiots past actions define an entirety or a gender. Men nor Women are born bad we were raised in a society or experienced an event that taught us that. Let’s be better, not keep these stereotypes of men just because that’s what we hear. My brother is an amazing boy and he should not be thought of as someone who is greedy, who is automatically a cheater, violent. He is kind and smart and treats me with so much respect. I hope in time we learn to treat and think of both man and women as people and not their genders. Good job standing up for both genders girl 🎉❤

Guys, we need to protect this one. She’s rare. Edit: wow

She stands up for us when no one asked her to. Fellas treat her with love and respect bc she is the hero we didnt know we had.

Most women don't understand a man's pain and sadly I believe fewer care. Society doesn't understand or care. But this lady does and she tells it like it is. From all of us men thank you.

For the crying thing. Cry when you feel the need to. Don't be ashamed. But cry with a person you love and trust. And cry with someone who understands. After you're done, understand why you cried, and with the calm that comes after crying, what you can do to not cry about it ever again. If they are tears of joy, then cry whenever you want my man

Being a man can mean so many different things, for me it’s when I was told by an 90 year old ww2 vet “being a man ain’t about crying or being scared, it’s about being terrified and sobbing while still being able to stand for something good and to Protect those you love, that’s being a man” It was a few years ago at an ww2 event but I wrote down a few of his “quotes”

Sometimes the youtube algorithm does wonderful things

you are a queen. you deserve a crown. this basically changed my view of the world.

you know there are the golden bunch of women that actually understand this is one of them

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Careful, she's a hero.

We need such type of poems in our textbook

This gender equality thing has become a competition between men and women; trying to decide who suffers more, who is better, who is evil… I wish we could do like her, standing up with each other and trying to understand the struggles of the other gender.

Wow, a feminist that actually believes in equal rights. Finally. Edit: why did this just blow up lmao

Finally, someone who understands. Humanity needs more people like her

I won't comment praising her for what truely good she has done to remove those misconceptions 😭. But what I can really do is give her a subscription ❤️.

this is the content this society needs!! glad someone came up

“Real men don’t cry” - While swallowing that lump in my throat and struggling not to cry I realize I’m victim to this.

Careful........ she’s a hero Edit: the sentence I said was a meme, I intended it be taken as a humorous joke, while you guys can’t even take a joke, hero or heroine but this comment was meant to be a meme!

Just for all those out there, you have no idea how much a hug, a simple compliment, or even a nice comment means to a man. I was given a flower by a woman when I was buying groceries and that I looked nice. That was 21 years ago and I still remember the day.

This made me cry, thank you so much for this. It was truly beautiful and I cannot thank you enough

“Be a man, said the father that was never there” Damn I felt that hard

*“Careful, shes a hero.”*

Been a man for 20 years, first speech that got me teary eyed

As a man once said "She is the chosen one, she will bring balance"

*In dying breath*: ''She is.. the chosen one''

"Men only matter if they can provide something first"- Chris Rock

The passion and accuracy she has is real and spot on.

Not only is this a very heart-touching and compassionate message, but rhymes and rhythms are so natural and fluid. This is what poetry should be. Thank you.

And not a single toxic feminist will remember a word of this.

"men don't cry" I do cry but in the darkness when there's no society to shame me and say "be a man."

This is refreshing and enlightening. We as a society need to unlearn these ugly expectations we have had for men for so long. Men are humans too. ❤️

People need to hear this, OUT LOUD.

the fact that she's from india makes this message so much stronger. Edit: holy crap, this blew up and I didn't even notice. good job youtube notifications... xD Now for everyone not getting the comment: In most parts of India womens rights are pulled to the dirt. Rape is widely accepted, if you have a higher position in politics, buisness or health care you often get weird looks and the "traditional" idea of women keeping house and kids in order is often seen as self-evident. So for her to stand up for men's rights takes a special bit of courage and, in a way, intellegence.

A woman defends men of the society. Social media pseudofeminists : *surprised pikachu face*

Damn this almost made me cry. Great to see that there are still people who understand.

This made me cry my eyes out. It is hard to be a human, male or female lost in the world not knowing exactly where and how you should be in almost every way. Strong words.

When my first wife ran away with her boyfriend, and left our 3 year old child with me, I cried. A lot. And then I got back up, and continued the mission. I finished my M.A. Got another job, raised my kid, till she was 17. She got into a good college, made something of herself, has 2 kids now, with a good husband. And my ex called me up, not long ago, just wanting to talk. And I just said "no". Gosh that felt good. Like the guy in the Truman show: goodbye, and good luck.

Whenever my “feminist” friends try and start shit about men having it so easy. I always say the scales are not tipped they are broken everyone has it rough.

The most perfect description. Thank you ma'am

Very good speech, I as a man hear someone in front of the door and get fear as an automatical reaction, that they could hear the video.

Strong women have the ability to stand up for themselves. Stronger women have the ability to stand up for everyone.

She is standing for humanity and not separating genders, take notes feminists

so much strength in her speech. Beautiful, I will share it everywhere

Men should cry, but no need to cry in front of others, men need to be composed and strong. Everyone says, especially women, that men should cry and show emotion but the moment they cry and show that emotion, subconsciously and consciously they seem pathetic to them, especially to women. Now some moments merit you showing emotion to your partner like if someone dies or something really horrible happens, you can cry and be embraced, but there are so many damn things that happen that do not merit crying in front of others even if you feel bad. Now, it's not that we can't rely on others and get help, we need it, but in our own way, a dignified way.

If I wasn't such a man I *might've* cried.

Love this. What’s sad is that it takes a woman to say this and she’s heard, but when a man talks about this he’s silenced.

The thing is, rejecting feminism doesn't help. Not all men and women grow up the same, but if you deny a patriarchy you deny a century-old system. I think men and women should be equal so I understand women are disadvantaged in many ways still.

Thankyou from the bottom of my heart! You appreciated me share my feelings and now I'm proud to be a man.

The problem is when people sees a man slapping a women, they will defend her without hesitation. And when a women slaps a man , then the question is ' what did he do to her that she slapped him'.

"shave his non existing moustache" I felt that

You hit all 5 points. Thank you for standing up for us when it feels like I can't stand for myself.

Honestly, I love that more and more people are talkin about this.

On a serious note: shes not a feminist shes an equalist. I dont know if thats a real thing but it makes sense

"A man will get his first flower when he dies." that hit me so hard

I am a transgender man. I was born with "female" genitalia and therefore everyone assumed I was a girl and I was raised under societal norms which were considered "female". After struggling for years I managed to come out and live as my true self, and the moment I started passing as male and society started treating me as a man I was like "WTF? This is how men are viewed and treated?" Having only known the thetreatment as female I had not realized how much men are discriminated against on so many levels, especially emotionally and no one sees it. I am still very happy to be able to live as a man. I am a feminist, I am 100% for gender equality on all levels and I aknowledge that women face many challenges that men don't. What many people don't realize is that men face a lot of challenges women don't. And you only really see it when you have experienced both sides (which few people do). Men are vulnerable, they have many battles to fight on their own, their feelings are often are not taken seriously. I teach kindergarten and I know for a fact that the feelings of boys don't differ from girls. They cry just the same until some asshole tells them they need to stop, they carry around dollies and take care of them until they are told to toughen up and leave that to the girls. They are scared and shy and vulnerable until the aknowledgement of their very identity is threatened and they start hiding for fear of being riddiculed or not taken seriously. And the worst part: society is still blind to it.

I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my RU-vid channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤

“careful, she’s a hero”

This is real equality, when everyone can acknowledge the problems and struggles of each other and be kind and empathetic about those struggles

The sad but beautiful thing about this is that message will be better received from the lips and voice of a Woman . I appreciate us Men I appreciate Women . Yaw are my Sisters and Brothers and yaw will always be . Be there for one another .

this is beautiful