What to Do When Someone Is Suicidal 

Watch the rest of this series and more from Dr Judy: bit.ly/3oV563g *If you are feeling depressed or contemplating suicide, please contact the suicide hotline number in your country (listed in the video description)*

When they seem calm they've made their decision. Ask questiions! 30 years of practice. I was lucky i had radar for this.

What you´ve missed to talk about in my eyes is that there are people who´re already severely traumatized and have also been traumatized by the psychiatric/medical field who would become dangerously suicidal by the threat of any intervention or evaluation. I know I´m not the only person who falls in that category. One time I just wanted to open up for the first time and talk about my suicidal struggles without being at risk of hurting myself at all. My new therapist at that time didn´t listen, ended the call and immediately called the ambulance to my place and guess what, I´ve almost been dead when they arrived. Not because I wanted to kill myself but because I was so desperate for being retraumatized that it was the only thing I could do to prevent it. I still remember how I struggled to do it and how unbearable the pain was because I wanted to live. This is almost 15 years ago now and I´m still chronically suicidal on an everyday basis. And I´m still here. I now have a trustworthy therapist who doesn´t force anything on me (he would have had to several times by law but didn´t) no matter how suicidal I am and I wish there would have been someone trusting me and really listening to me before. Because someone being there, really caring and being warm and loving is the best antidote to suicidality you could possibly have.

I was with them until the last part of the video. I have been on the receiving end of trying to voice my struggles with suicidal thoughts, and then having the therapist immediately call the ambulance to keep me in the hospital for 3 days. I won’t ever make that mistake again. Now I just never talk about it. I just wanted to talk and I was met with forced imprisonment and also to have nurses tell me that my scars weren’t that bad. If you threaten to call 911, then don’t be surprised when people don’t open up to you until it is too late. I also think it’s ridiculous to leave it up to any random person to make the judgement call as to whether or not to call 911.

THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS I NEEDED THIS I HAVE BEEN SEVERELY DEPRESSED FOR OVER 8 YEARS I WAS HORRIBLY ABUSED BY AN OVERT NARCISSISTS THIS PERSON DESTROYED MY SELF ESTEEM MY SELF WORTH I BECAME SUICIDAL.. I WAS HAPPY BEFORE I MET THIS PERSON I DON’T EVEN KNOW THE MEANING OF BEING HAPPY I ISOLATE MYSELF IN MY BEDROOM .I HAVE LET MYSELF GO. THE WORSE ABUSE EVER IS NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. IM SO GLAD I HAVE AN APPOINTMENT WITH A LIFE COACH SOON. I JUST WANNA GET ME BACK......

From experience, I will say do not ever call the police unless it is an absolute last resort. Here in the USA we have a horrible system in place for people in suicidal situations where their loved ones call for help. Those police officers who are “trained” to help will not take you to help in a dignified manor. You are handcuffed and taken away in either a police car or an armoured type vehicle. I’m sure this “treatment” has led many to take their lives rather than be subjected to this humiliation again, especially if your neighbors see the police taking you away in handcuffs. Or even just police at your house. We need a better system to help those who are in mental turmoils. I will NEVER reach out for that type of help again nor will I ever be put in an institution where they just want to pump you full of drugs only to find that those drugs are super expensive at the pharmacy. Our system sucks here

Wish I had seen this 3 months, before my brother committed suicide. Hopefully this helps others to never have to experience the grief and regret for failing to get the help so desperately needed.

You cant tell anyone you are thinking of suicide or they will lock you up and give you pills that don't help. Hospitals can make things worse, not better. If you really feel suicidal, don't tell anyone. I've tried since I was 16 to get help. Im new 60, and it had to be your decision to keep being in pain, or make the pain stop.

A very sensitive subject indeed, but so important, this should be discussed more often (not necessarily just in this channel), thank you 🙏🏻

Dr. Judy is an excellent psychologist. I give her much respect. She explains everything well. She is articulate and she really knows what she is talking about. She is beautiful and confident. I am a big fan of hers. 🙂❤️

Sometimes saving them doesn't make them better, it just prolongs the pain of their existence and they resent you for keeping them here.

Thank you for this, I’m hurting everyday so much. This will help! Love all the help you provide ❤️

You all TRULY put your heart into what you do. Thank you for the conscientiousness and the thoughtfulness. 😔🙏🏾♥️

This is really important to know!

Thanks for spreading awareness on such an important topic 🙏♥

This video was very needed for the world to hear. I hope many lives will be saved now. Please do a series on this.

❤ Thank you for this practical, kind and very insightful info. 🙏

Just one thing .. I would like to say that I have been looking for help and it's very hard. I'm not far from going over . I'm here watching this and barely have enough single on my phone to do so . I'm on a mountain with nobody around . I have no family or friends to help . I have nowhere to go and no one to call. It's to the point were I will have no one even to carry me to the hole in the ground . I can bet that I won't even be found for so long that I feel bad for the person that does find me . So I think that people should know that there are people that truely don't have anyone to help .I'm already done but I think that it should be easy for someone to get help .. not make them wait for over a hour to talk or. Fill out paperwork and then it's just to see if you qualify for help . It's not helping . I'm proof of it . Our life is already hard enough . Why make it harder .

'I'm here what do you need right now? Let's call someone so I can help you. This is a great video. We can practice and we can put the crisis numbers in our phones.

the fact that i'm watching this to know how to take care of myself and my own suicidal episodes because i'm the only one who ever took care of me since i was born

Watching this to help myself nice

While this is good advice in part, there are many scenarios to consider in personalities and situations. Focusing on the positives does help. With depression, it is all negative. There is no light at the end of the tunnel (it's just a train not daylight). Most people are good at something, highlight it. Self esteem is very important and half of the battle with depression is that. Building confidence in one's ability in crucial. Unfortunately probably the biggest detraction is the American health care system with the lack of funding for mental health and social awareness in general. Labelled Socialism and yet it has so many social benefits leading to employment and paying tax. Free counselling by professionals. Doctors psychologists and psychiatrists not amateurs in parents who in many ways are inept in dealing with these matters. It requires empathy and understanding requiring valuable time that so many just don't have.

Been 2 years now can't remember how being happy feels like...just an empty shell on autopilot waiting for my battery to run out...

Thank you.

This lady knows her stuff (as someone who was in that place for many months recently). The sad reality though is that, at your lowest, most reject you - especially if you've always been a "rescuer" (eg at 10:00). I told my mom and she said "Oh God, no, don't do THAT to me AS WELL". Great vid.

My brother passed from suicide. I don't believe anything could've saved him except truly knowing that he's wanted here no matter what! Even if things never improved in his life or never contributed anything at all to life. He was so incredibly broken after doing so much good. That's the only way for him to have chosen to stay here. SO Unfortunately, I (or anyone else) didn't know he was going to do that, and therefore, to let him know that before it was too late. 😢💔

I guess I will check the other videos but telling an adult that it won’t always be this bad works about the same as it does on kids except the response I got is “I’ve been telling myself that my whole life and it hasn’t changed. I’m done.” So that was a big miss for my situation. Also I’ve been told by them that the only reason they haven’t done it before is fear of messing it up and just mangling or disabling themselves rather than actually dying…. I’m still trying to learn even though this is not new to me at all

Yes.

As an Aspie child I had developed a suicide plan by the 4th grade. It was a child's plan, from a child's misunderstanding of how human families work. I figured if I could just wait until I graduated high school it would be like a fish going out into the world, that no one would notice that I had disappeared from the world. I fantasized that I could go out into the deep forest, dig a hole to secret away the act and off myself there, erasing God's mistake from the universe. Of course this actually would have been a horrible fate for my parents, who would have spent who knows how much time, money and worry wondering what had happened to their child. Fast forward 60+ years and although I don't feel suicidal, I do at times wish I'd just slipped a noose around my neck and ended it there and then in the basement. Because in weighing my life in the scale I've realized that the juice just wasn't worth the squeeze. I also understand why Aspies have such a high suicide rate. Sorry, I just needed to purge that. My question is: Therapy can help with things like avoidant personality disorder for most people. What about if your underlying condition is autism?

A cry for help or attention? I'm elderly and I'm not wanted. This is so hard Noone talk to.

TW I’m starting to recover from the really bad,,,,, but it’s more scary for me because I feel like I have more energy to follow through with my plans. I want to to my story,,, it might help someone who is trying to help loved ones. I often don’t tell people how bad it really is

I know someone who starts to drop suicidal ideation comments when they are not getting enough validation or have been dismissed by someone important to them. Over the three years it's made me lose all the compassion and I am no longer able to care if this person lives or dies.

beautiful mrs..Dr Judy

This made me cry. :) it's such an authentic video.

I hate to ask this. But I might need a visual aid. Like a bulleted list or queue prompts. I struggle with audio processing so it would help a bunch.

Ty for PET Team 911 info!

I'm dealing with this right now. Why did you post this today? I'm sure about alot of people are dealing with this. I hope I'm successful. I know, i know hard that this is a real problem in my life, thank you for the help, esp from you Judy.

I am an advocate for mental health

I remember this onetime when i was a kid. i'd written " i want to die " on the wall then my dad saw it and he was like " try to get hit by a car ". I felt silly after that 😌

Can you please make videos on Mentally ill pregnant women such as bipolar women and what medication works best full term with little to no problems to the baby

So, my husband has expressed some suicidal ideation lately but my counselor and our medical doctor said not to probe his brain and ask him questions about his mental state. My counselor said it may put thoughts in his head that he wasn't thinking about. Is that true? Because Dr Judy appears to be saying the opposite. I dont know if it matters but originally I asked my husband if he was suicidal. He didn't bring up the subject himself. I realize that you cannot dispense personal counsel to us but that seems like a broad general conflicting subject that could benefit a broad number of people. I would love to hear your or anyones take on this! Thanks

Fuck i need more than this. I need more insight.... Member here going to look for more....

Her shoe dangling cured my suicidal thoughts 😍

O boy , Got help me, I don’t know what to do anymore, I tried to help, but my adult child sabotaged every attempt and will not admit it when he is confronted by medical professionals

This entire discussion is geared towards parents of suicidal. Kids! Guess should have changed the title to that! That doesnt help us parents who are the suicidal ones bc of losing a child unexpectedly after 34 yrs of being their parent nor the pain and anguish it exacerbates the myriad of health issues we're already dealing with along with new ones that continue to come! Depression and anxiety sure dont help either of these problems! Having a spouse who could care less and another daughter not living w you who constantly berrates you and yells at you and doesnt know how to treat you with kindess, understanding and respect sure dont help the big picture either!!! There's no other family left to turn to...all the ones who cared and showed love are in heaven! Wouldnt anyone rather be there than this hell on earth?! I know I would! Wish is was a simple thing to do but unfortunately its not...😭💔

Me realising I've been doing this right 🥺

6:15 What amazes me the most here is the ability of this here interviewer to focus on the question list he has prepared while having such an exquisite Asian shoeplay goddess such as Judy Ho, performing one of her delightful dangling shows

I wish they would lower that picture about 4 -6 inches. Its driving my ocd nuts.

Is life really worth it!

When I asked a Friend for help because he was "bullying" me by being mad at me for not giving me certain information on why my ex left me, I told him that i am having serious thoughts on taking my own life and i was asking him to not be hard on me because I was having a rough time. He attacked me and told me that i am a selfish Prick for thinking about suice. Because I only think about myself and not for my friends who lose me. I sunk deeper into Depression... One year Later i was doing okay again and now i am asking myself what I did wrong? I asked another friend of mine who dislikes the first guy. I asked her if he is right... Is it selfish to commit suicide? And she said "Yes". And even after i am well recovered, this question is still bugging me. Was I selfish when i wanted to commit suicide? I felt like a wandering corpse, and still do today in some sort. So.. Is it selfish to commit suicide?

Maybe it's a European perspective, but I find it not very kind and empathetic how she talks about this topic. It's judgemental and stigmatizing how she phrases things, constantly referring to 'them', as if people with suicidal tendencies are that bunch of personas. Saying how 'stupid' these ideas are, as if she has no compassion, understanding and experience in accompanying people who go through this and the severity and reality of it. Her suggestions are party disempowering and controlling. If anything, people with this experience to have suicidal phases don't need more stigmatizing. Plus I find it irritating that someone talking about this is tipping back her stiletto heels, as if she's on a cocktail dinner (yes body language speaks). I loved the 'philosophers tube's adressing of this topic helpful, as well as Patrick teahans work, who is so compassionate and kind. Be kind to yourself you out there.

I had an online friend I knew in highschool that I was about to start something with go the suicide attempt route. Now looks like she was either bored and messing with me or someone stole her account to do that. Either way, hope she's well or on the path to wellness, people I barely know attempting suicide hits me hard

I find it self centered. Who decided that you "help" people by caging them in a place they don't want to be in and that society's self persuasion that here is good and anyone who wants out is wrong is sanity? None of us decided to be here so if we want to free ourselves from this physical prison we should be well within our right to do so

I wonder why there is no discussion about chronic pain patients or patients with terminal diagnosis with suicidal ideation. Seems like they are only discussing the easier side of the conversation.

I think the title she have mentioned and be renamed “ children or adolescents …”, what about people who are 20 , 25 , 40 , 50… do these same rules apply … I don’t think so

Very simple problem if someone doesn’t leave your property when you command them to do so. It’s called trespassing.

me watching this for myself LOL

Here's a good question: What if someone has plans to end their life - but those plans are _not_ triggered by depression, but rather logical reasoning? Myself, for example.

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What I'm getting is "killing myself is my backup if all else fails." ???

4:27 Judy Ho’s shoeplay becomes the star of this show henceforth

Why psychiatry obsessed with suicide prevention if there is life after death

2Corinthians 4:4 In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them. Matthew 15:14 Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch. 2Timothy 3:13 But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and being deceived. Galatians 6:7 7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 1Corinthians 1:18-21 18For the preaching of the cross is to them that perish foolishness; but unto us which are saved it is the power of God. 19For it is written, I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and will bring to nothing the understanding of the prudent. 20Where is the wise? where is the scribe? where is the disputer of this world? hath not God made foolish the wisdom of this world? 21For after that in the wisdom of God the world by wisdom knew not God, it pleased God by the foolishness of preaching to save them that believe. Revelation 3:15-20 15I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot. 16So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth. 17Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked: 18I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see. 19As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent. 20Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me. Matthew 7:20-26 20Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them. 21Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. 22Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? 23And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity. 24Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: 25And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock. 26And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: 2Thessalonians 1:8 In flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ: Philippians 2:10-11 10That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth; 11And that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. Acts 5:42 And daily in the temple, and in every house, they ceased not to teach and preach Jesus Christ. Mark 1:15 And saying, The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe the gospel. Luke 13:3 I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish. 2Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. Acts 16:30-31 30 And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved? 31 And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house. JESUS CHRIST IS LORD. ONLY JESUS SAVES.

You are the problem.

i might take you seriously if you dressed more professionally.