Nah i respectfully disagree. If she reached out after you made an effort to keep it going. Don’t be a fool. Keep it kind and casual, closed ended. Let her really spill it out - once you hear the words, i miss you and i made a mistake, that’s when you can make a choice whether you want to consider it or not. Listen man, don’t initiate a meet, ever!
I agree once he said that I was like Mmmm ion think that's it chief cause then that jus comes off too clingy still & puts the ball in her court then BOOM the power you got from no contact goes out the window
I agree. They are contacting to feel you out. As long as you are not shutting it down or ignoring her, she will eventually hit you with the "can we talk" or the "you have any plans today/this weekend. I wouldn't initiate a meet up.
She left me for another dude. Caused me great pain. She texted me two months later asking for closure. I blocked her number. Then she called me two times from blocked caller ID.
@@DNikos7 exactly bro. That was the hardest thing to accept is that she was already messing with dude while I was pouring my whole soul into her. Karma is a bitch.
After I found out she had a new bf, I told her we shouldn't be talking then,it's disrespectful, and basically I cut the convo short ,and then said that, I'm happy for her and wish her well. Ended the convo there, I've kept her number ,but I deleted the chat from my side so I don't have to see it when I go on WhatsApp. It's basically reverse phycology, you're pushing them back to the other person, and not reacting,but also respecting yourself.
I'll never get why guys go back to women who have dumped them and started hooking up with other men. Anyone who does that has no self worth. I'm not saying you shouldn't reconcile, but there's a small window for this. Also, if she's left you for someone else- why people. You're better than that.
You always hope they’ve learned there lesson. But the sad reality is they don’t learn until they try to come back and you reject them. Women can’t handle the rejection.
Gave my last two exes the break up they wanted, went in to NC for a couple of months. I reached out both times, extremely casually. Both very happy to hear from me. Ended up getting back with one of them, very nearly got the other and that story may not even be over yet. Space, time & NC is the only way.
She left me for being needy n stuff and wanted friendship i declined. after about a month of being apart she texts me “hope your good” i responded casually and no response two days later at 3am she says “you up?”i was of course asleep at i responded at 10 casually “was sleeping whats up” and no response. 🤷🏽♂️ than a mutual friend told me that she asked if i was seeing anyone and curious on how i was. Im over it in a way but just kind of funny how i think shes realizing stuff lmao Dont give up people stay strong and stay mysterious with your ex
Ignore breadcrumbs from your ex. Otherwise it will appear you will answer to anything. Only answer to substantial texts. Those 'u up' or 'what u up to' texts don't need a response from you AT ALL. Unless they have already expressed desire to meet up/make up.
Thanks man!! I just bounce back and forth of thinking about her from time to time, dunno why but it’s been 4 months since the break up and you’ve helped me a lot man!!
15 yrs together…9 yrs married with 2 kids…man I am doing all the not-tos Calling, texting, asking to see her. We didn’t speak for a week and she reached out to me. I should’ve kept it brief but it was like as soon as I told her how much I missed her she started playing games
What's up Kyle much love from New York I love your content bro your definitely on point we spoke through email and definitely gonna be booking a session soon I'm in a jam right now
@@coachkyle81211 It goes a long way. I was watching your videos back in august when i lost my relationship. Took all of your advice and got her back, but recently broke up with her again because i didn’t feel the same. You’ve helped me and a lot of other people more than you know. Thanks again!
Unless you deserved it - if someone breaks up with you move on. Don't go back, don't try to improve yourself so you're good enough for them, nothing. Move on and be happy it ended. Wasting all your energy on this person is a total waste of energy and certainly won't make other potential (better) mates want you.
I think it really depends on what she did… fellas if this girl cheated on you and you have proof it’s going to take a miracle from god to hear from you again never take that kind of woman back have someone damn self respect…
My last no contact only lasted less than a week 😶. I'm usually the one breaking no contact because we have a kid and a half (one on the way) together. I didn't contact her from Sunday morning......she reached out to me Friday night (last night) while I'm having drinks and dinner with friends. Asks if I want to go on a date this weekend and I told her I had to work this weekend (I'm off work today though). She wants to make our break up about her. I'm keeping it about our children (my step and biological). Im watching these no contact videos as all of this is happening and making me remember what led to the breakup in the first place. So now I'm getting over it because I've done this for years....validating and sheltering my wife. And she's still the same person I met 10 years ago in August. I love her still. But I'm over wanting to be with her again.
How you doing now man ? I’m in the same boat.. separated 2 years but we have a daughter.. life would be so easy if I never had to speak to her again, but cause of our daughter we are always in contact.. what can you do
My ex broke up with me on NYE because I didn’t break covid rules and travel 2 hours to her mums house. Ofc, I told her to piss off, if you wanna break up, break up. I regret this. We’ve been broken up for 2 weeks and everytime NC was broken it was toxic as fuck. I’m on a journey. If she reaches out I’ll update, if she doesn’t, I’ll forget this
@@GG-sn4uk Oh boy this was so long ago. 9 months later I think I’m still blocked on all forms of social media, not heard from her since January. She got into a new relationship in March-April I can’t remember. I think honestly I got over her completely at that point, I was completely emotionally out about June. 5 months to get over her.
When my breakup happened, I did no contact and it lasted about 130 days. I thought I did the work but I really didn't. Anyways, I went back into no contact and it went 520+ days. Now after this long, I no longer cared about what happened. She reached out to me in a round about way. I replied back very friendly and asked how she was doing. A few days later I invited her to meet and catch up, do I invited her to dinner and a arcade. Why? Because I wanted it to be light and fun. I wanted to treat it like a date but not. So I looked my best, had dinner, cracked jokes and played pool and avoided the past. Because if nothing else, I wanted her to leave with the memory of just a good time and fun. I also did this with NOT expecting anything out of it. If it's meant to be, it'll happen and if not, I had a fun night and I'm still doing me. Nothing has changed, except that I had 2 hours of texting and a dinner. I'm really indifferent and in a great place mentally.
Ex girlfriend contacted me after two weeks of no talking saying she would pay me back for all the money I gave her to help her out but it would be October. I told her the day she broke up with me I didn’t care about the money. Help
Posted this on another video but my story goes like this: We were together 8 years then broke up and stayed apart for 3. We kept in touch during the breakup and stayed civil, but never spoke about our personal lives. We never figured we would get back together, so what she did was her business and I didn't want to know about it. Then finally she messaged about seeing me and we started up again. Everything seemed different in a good way. She was more open and relaxed, it felt like we moved on from so many of our past problems. Then about a year in, the old "her" started creeping back in. Hiding her phone, being secretive about who she was spending time with, and outright lying. Lots of excuses for not wanting to spend time with me. About another 6 months go by, and she dumps me again thru a Facebook message. She could never do the hard stuff face to face. And she is with someone new already. I doubt she will ever come back again, but if she does I have to be ready to say absolutely not. I love her but don't want to go thru losing her ever again.
Doesn't worth the effort guys. After 2 years of relationship, she just doesn't "feel in love" anymore. She messaged me 2 weeks after that, to meet up. It just used me in order to move some of her stuff and then not talking with me anymore. In a few months I planned to marry and had plans for future kids, just for this to happen now. Sincerely, I'm happy this happen now and not later. Don't forget, you have value, don't let anyone make you feel like shit or worthless. 🙃
I haven't heard of my ex-fiance for six months by now. At this point, I don't think she will ever come back. I noticed that she unblocked me few days ago on whatsapp, but since she hasn't spoken a single word I won't talk to her. There are too many women in this world for us to spend our time with one that doesn't like us anymore.
Just found out, she was sleeping with a guy from the second week after breakup. He was there all along, she just wanted to fell good and say it was not cheating but it was. Glad I dogged the bullet.
@@cipryan96 you really dogged a bullet. I also thought my ex was cheating on me, she left me during the covid quarantine. We were still dating when I started to notice that she was deleting our pics from her social medias, the relationship status on her FB had been hidden. I had to call her in order to make her confess that she wanted the break up. I found her on Tinder three months after, that's why I'm not 100% sure that there was another guy at that time. But feel lucky, you deserve someone better.
I somehow broke the no contact today as on the 4th day my ex started calling me frantically as she was havubg panic attacks even though she had monkey branched to another man just after a week of breaking up and was with him since last 5 or 6 months. I had to chat with her for a while and although now I realise that it was wrong on my part but had to calm her down and make her realize that we need to live separately and accept the absence of the other person since she took a decision and moved on. She wanted me with her as a support or friend but I refused and made clear that it's not me who has to come back but her as she left me for someone else. I will have to restart the process again and ensure it sticks coz she would suffer emotionally since our' was 11 year relationship.
Dude... if someone tried another person and realized they werent better and came back to me who in their right mind would take her back? Thats a huge red flag to me and I dont think they are worth a genuine persons time if they are jumping from option to option.
can anyone tell me how to respond to this text from my ex Iv sent many apologies and this is what she had to say "This is the only sincere text I’ve received!!! 😂🤣 At least part of it... actions do speak louder than words n by far you haven’t done a dam thing to show how truly sorry u are!! 😂🤣😂🤣 I told her I don’t talk to him anymore!! N she doesn’t even have to ask y. Cuz she knows who n how I am!!! For me to cut someone off takes a lot n it must be hella bad!!! It is what it is... Trust me... where there’s a will there’s a way!!! things can’t be better cuz ur still showing u haven’t changed for shit!! It’s like the same shit diff day with u!! N u sure as hell don’t need to see me in order to be sincere!! Ur still full of nothing but excuses!!! 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️😂🤣 I don’t see u being able to do anything any different when or if u see me!! 😂🤣😂 but anyways"
Help please. I was doing great and wonderfully in No contact moving on etc. Until my ex contacted me Accusing me of talking crap behind his back to a mutual friend.....which was not true. I felt tempted to prove him wrong so I broke no contact ...I evenatually did prove him wrog...but now what???
They’re just happy they got a reaction out of you and you were defensive… it means you still care… they got the validation they wanted. Just ignore him. You gotta pretend like you don’t care.. your ex is unhealthy. Move on to someone healthy
16 years relationship and wife started getting weird after I blew up last new year at a woman who was the second person to spill drink all over my white shirt. I realise I did break my frame which I normally never do. Anyway if thats worth divorce then I welcome it after 7 months of her treating me like less than dog poop. Have struggled with it massively but 5 months on and grafting in the gym, I can finally say its over sweet cheeks and I'm allllllll good 👍 have had small, meaningless contact jut she's so guarded and bitter I just can't deal allow negative vibes in my world anymore.
+masculine energy do you communicate with your ex while they with someone else? Mine has reached out, seen her multiple occasions I have done some improvements but it still doesn't quite measure up to the new guy. Please help do I respond and try to meet her or do I just ignore? I've got the message sitting in my inbox for a few days now.
Bruh fuxk that other dude he ain't YOU remember that she either come back & realize what she missed out on or she don't & they stay together either way if that's the case then that's the case she wasn't for you bro
Negative. If she wanted space, hooked up with someone else then thinks she can come back I say no sir! I would never touch her again because she WILL do it again.
Alright so she hit me after a year of nc, we talk for al little bit and she disappears ( leaves me on read ). Obviously I am not reaching out cause I feel like she wants me to chase her, and I am not going to do that. What is the best thing to do in this situation? Apply no contact again and keep talking to other people and focus on myself until she reaches out again? Thank you.
What if she wished me happy birthday during no contact? I keept it breif and Said thank you and then she dissapered again. Its been 1 month of now contact now. She reached out briefly just to say HBD and now shes gone again. This is so hurtful. ????
Your supposed to ask a question back and then ask them if they fancey a phone call. Keep the call brief and ask if they wanna catch up in person. They aren't feeling attracted enough to chase you and don't feel like you want to talk to them because you haven't tried to carry it on. Last thing they want is to be rejected
@@j249 mine wrote me HB after breakup 3 months NC and I said thanks but told them I don’t want to hear from them anymore. I feel like being too friendly will give needy vibes and if they (hopefully) ever do come back at least I know they really want me. But maybe I’m wrong and I totally blew it ….
I’m with my girlfriend almost 3 years 1 years long distance and she damped me and cheat on me and she call me after 1 month and she said she can’t not have sex with others what that means and she wants be fwb and I’m still heeling and I can’t not talk with any girl think only about her any advice almost 3 months feel pain all night
What happens when it’s only been 1 day since the break up and I went into No Contact, she text me to say please drive safely as we are going through a storm, they was 7.11 this morning it’s now 16.12 and I’ve not replied back
So she dumps you. She contacts you and YOU ask her out. Pretty much giving her the power again. Sometimes they comeback to see if you are still interested and nothing else. Once she realizes that you are, you just gave up your power. Pretty beta move. To each their own I guess.
I dumped mine in the middle of watching my brother die on zoom. The day before he passed I heard from him several times. But the Fay he was dying I didn’t hear from him at all. That was a painful blow to me and I understand not everyone can deal with death. But I can’t come to terms with his lack of Empathy
Just say you can talk about the past and what happened but later, you wanted to just catch up and see if you 2 can still have fun first, because if you 2 can't have fun together still, then what's the point of talking about things
She kept going hot and cold and I told her I can’t deal with this anymore and that I want to work things out now or never or I’ll move on. And she ignored me and covered my msgs with sad sticker gifs so I’m pissed but what can I do.
She just texted out of the blue with a paragraph now saying she likes me back but she’s misses the old me and I only care about myself? I didn’t respond but now I’m stressed out again
@@mcmproductons I would say that you should catch up and doesn't have to mean anything or go anywhere but you can chill and see how things are, if things go well maybe you can see about taking things slow and seeing each other again, if not, then you wish her the best
He sent just a "Good morning dear" ....Messaanger message. I was chasing him... he pulled away and dropped a bomb on me after kind of bread crumbing me. I have alot of strong emotions for him. What do I do? He said after ending things (because of the complicated situation) that he wanted me in his life!!! I told him his actions would prove that, because he's only been words , no action. How should I respond , should I ignore and hopes he reaches out again?
You said it yourself, watch his ACTIONS, not his words. They always speak for themselves- a man who wants, will. Listen to that beautiful intuition as well :)
She just texted me asking about some random wedding,wanna know if im going.i don’t even know if I should text her back. Honestly i don’t wanna text back.
