What Was It Like Being "Outed" Before You Were Ready? (r/AskReddit) 

All of these therapists outing people should be Sued and fired.

2:09 fun fact: its literally illegal for a therapist to tell other people about the info you gave them

That dad who replied “Don’t drink and drive, love you.” made me honestly grin.

i was around 12 when i told a friend at the time i had a crush on a girl. immediately said "EWWWWW" and ran to tell one of the adults in the daycare we went to. the adult was very concerned(not in an accepting way) and said that maybe i just have an appreciation for female beauty. Yes, Anna, I do have a very deep and very not straight appreciation for female beauty.

my cousin outed me as pan to my parents and i got lectured about how i can’t like girls because i need to have children. and now i’m both infertile and a lesbian!

People in the past : “by 2020 we could have flying cars” Reddit robot : ‘reads bi as bee’

Let’s go through this one more time kids.. IT IS NOT OKAY TO OUT PEOPLE WHEN THEY ARE NOT READY TO COME OUT.

To people who don't understand why we need pride: This. This is why we need pride.

Nobody: Text-to-Speech: She found out I was *bee*

I remember one time was when I came out as transgender to my parents (ftm) and they were accepting at first, but, instead of it getting any better, it just went downhill, and, it actually put me into a depressive state for a various amount of time. The gender dysphoria makes it even worse because on top of people either mocking me or using my gender against me spitefully, my mind is constantly telling me I can never be a proper male, that no one believes me and will always assume that I'm a girl, that if I tell the people I trust they will hate me, that if I accidentally refer myself by my dead name or female pro nouns, I'm just lying to myself, and I'm so used to people calling me my my dead name I'm worried I'll just forget and lose faith in myself, the last little structure holding me up breaks down and it could trigger me, possibly making me fall into a deeper depression or make the gender dysphoria even worse. I don't even know if other people just like me are feeling the same way. I really just feel like sh!t. Wow, this is the first time I've actually vented my feelings-

It really angers me when parents do things like throw kids out of the house because of their sexuality. It’s so petty. There are much, much worse things your kid could be than not being straight. I’m glad to see that there are more and more stories of people being perfectly okay with it. Progress is being made, even if things still have a ways to go.

First three stories: *nice, wholesome, wonderful* Fourth story: *dumbass therapist breaks the law and becomes responsible for physical and psychological abuse*

I'm so sorry to those that got outed by others. That's not right. Sexuality is such a sensitive topic especially when you're LGBT+ in a world that actively marginalizes LGBT+ identity.

Heyo, just a reminder to the "+" members of the lgbt+ community, just becouse you dont have your own letter or someone forgets the "+" in lgbt+ do not feel less valid! Love to all of you!

video: she was emotionally and physically abused... the music: 💃💃💃

Never been all that comfortable when talking about sex. Middle school sex ed was Uber awkward for me. I always remained quiet and void of commentary when friends in highschool always talked about "getting laid" or "doing it." Never gave much of a straight answer when they asked if I had any plans to get a significant other to smash them. After highschool it made me irritated that the Mormon side of my family made me pressured to go to college in a nearby very Mormon college town because no doubt that it was there that id find the perfect someone to start my own family with. Ever since middle school I never saw the point of a relationship just got sex. To me the point of a significant other is to have someone to cuddle with and be there for you, etc. Flustered, and since i live under a fucking rock without much knowledge of the LGBT community, I went to Google. Asked things like "why does the idea of intercourse gross me out." "Why don't I feel sexual attraction like others." And like a silver lining the word asexual popped up. Looked into it and found out it essentially means that you want a relationship for the love not the sex, and you feel romantic- not sexual- attraction. Looked into asexuality more and more. Didn't really worry about my search history cause my phone is locked and my parents can barely navigate their own phones. Well my nosey cousin gets a hold of my phone, figures out my passcode, sees my background. Shows my aunt, who then calls my dad. At this point I'm fucking 20 years old so I have all the adulthood freedoms I could ask for. Well my dad finds out. My extremely Mormon dad. Finds out. That id rather be a genetic dead end then spreading the word and love of Jesus and contributing more members to the religion. He doesn't attend anymore but he's still devout to the book of Mormon and the Bible. I'm expecting a whole new kind of preaching, God spoken lecture. But he just looks at me, like I just turned water to wine, and pulls me into a hug. Turns out he's relieved I don't plan on being a rabbit breeder like every other woman in his family, cause his mother and my mother both had severe birth complications that nearly killed them both, and he doesn't want the same happening to his only daughter who has a double chance risk for it. He'd be more than happy to be a grandfather to children I adopt when the time comes for that.

Outed myself to a guy that I have *ALL MY CLASSES* with, by accident. He said, "Isn't Ariana Grande pretty?" And my bi ass responded with, "Yeah, but she was so much hotter with red hair." without even thinking. He then stared at me with wide eyes, like a deer in headlights, while my face turned super red, as I stammered, get this, "I'm only half gay!" In the middle. Of. CLASS! He probably already forgot about it, but that haunts me at night, right when I'm about to fall asleep. 😓

school "guidance counselors" suck, the conversations are supposed to be confidential unless they mention wanting to off themselves and are in desperate need of help. As someone who is still in school i dont risk guidance counselors even though i desperately need to talk to one but am too afraid she'll talk to my parents.

When I first came out to my mom she took it really badly. Her and my dad were both very concerned about my "decision" but my mom especially was worried about what other people would think ("what will I say to [insert relative here]?"). It really cut deep and for a long while I put a lot of emotional distance between myself and my parents, especially when discussing my then-girlfriend. To an extent I understand why she was worried, people can be really cruel sometimes but there wasn't any need to tell anyone, y'know? Fast forward a year and my parents had made a ton of effort to show me they accepted me for who I was. Meant a ton to me, but it wasn't perfect and I was still bristly on the whole love-life topic. One day my mom casually mentions to me in the car that she told her sister (my aunt) a funny story that involved me and my then-girlfriend. I froze, and asked her if she had told my aunt i was dating a girl. My mom said yes like it was the most natural thing in the world, and then I asked if my aunt was cool with it (she was). I ended up breaking down into tears in the car, not cause I was scared but because I was relieved that my mom wasn't ashamed of me. When I explained that to my mom she broke down into tears too and told me how much she loved me. We had to pull over on the side of the road and ended up being a little late to our destination but I hold onto that moment so tightly. It's been two years since I came out to her. Most of my extended family still doesn't know because I'm certain there are a ton of homophobic people in the family tree still, and I still can't shake the distrust I get sometimes when she or my dad ask me about dating, but I'm ridiculously proud of my parents for how far they've come, and how much they're trying. Figured I'd share my story, just as a bit of proof that not every coming out story that starts off badly ends the same way. It *can* get better. Get yourself the support you need but don't ever feel like you have to stop being you.

When I came out to my brother he said, "I'm going to tell all of our friends and there not going to want to hang out with you anymore." He did, and they didn't care

21:55 "My aunts can both die in a fire." A N D I L I V E B Y T H A T

"How do you feel about homosexual marriage?" *_... It's Gay._*

(Note: I am a female) It was actually kinda common for people to be LGBT in my highschool. At the very least, it was accepted by everyone I had met in the school. Ever since freshman year, it was this kind of unspoken thing, but I think everyone that had a class with me at any point during highschool kinda knew I was gay. I would bring up my own past relationships if my group was talking about past exes, and no one batted an eye or questioned anything when I casually mentioned my ex girlfriends It was a refreshing environment to be in, considering the horror stories I've heard from other schools, like in this video. It wasnt treated as a big deal (well, besides our GSA, but that became a mess by my junior (11th grade) year). It was casual. Sometimes I'd get straight up asked if I was gay by people I had talked to a few times and it was more of an "aha, I knew it" moment for them when I said yeah. Some of the "popular" kids were LGBT as well.

So, when I was 14 I thought I was bisexual, so I told my closest friends and they were cool with it. That was a few years ago and now I've realized that I am actually a lesbian. Cool. I told my two best friends but didn't tell the rest of the group. A few months later we were at a party, outside chilling with some classmates and my best friend. I don't even remember what we were talking about but this other friend (who I hadn't told I'm lesbian) said "yeah she's bisexual". Everyone was willing to ignore it, besides of this one asshole that was like "really? Are you bi? Are you bisexual?" And my bff and I were looking at each other like what the hell do I tell him and this one other guy saw me uncomfortable and was like "he actually wants to know if you want to make a threesome with him" and I said "even if I was bisexual you are the last person I'd make a threesome with". We laughed it off until like half an hour later he told everyone he had something important to say. When everyone was paying attention to him he looked at me and said "but are you a lesbian". I was pissed off and told him it was none of his business and a girl told him to stop being an asshole and the conversation just moved on. This is exactly the reason I didn't want to tell this friend my sexuality but here we go, now everyone thinks I'm bisexual

Nobody: Nobody at all: Not even the Bi ppl watching at 2am: Voicebot: " *B* "

The story with those therapists.. Why are all of the school therapists just fricked up??? I have counselling with a school therapist and I. Just. Don't. Like. It. The story with diary.. I write a diary in a different language that my mom doesn't understand lol

I feel like sharing my story, it's actually quite hilarious. I invited my "friend" Over for a sleepover. We talked for a little bit and then started making out and doing it. Then my mom being the mom she is came into my unlocked door (oops) and saw us both half naked making out. It surprised us both. She stared at us for some time and then I said "oh yeah mom I like girls. I'm gay. She then said oh ok and left the room, I was and still am in college at the time, so it wasn't like I was only in high school

I outed with my school, and my English teacher is one of the most supportive teachers in my class, as she hosted the Gay Straight Alliance in our school. Everyone is accepting and I overheard the vice principal appreciating how progressive us students are when it comes to trans rights.

The aftermath was amazing for me. My parents are super supportive, and they always expected that I'd turn out gay (they always joke that I dressed up as bob the builder for the first 2-3 years of my life, classic butch). We live near a city, and my dad's side of the family are all extremely rural and disconnected, think Springfield-under-the-dome type disconnected. When we went to visit one time, I came out to my older cousin and told her I was dating a girl. So, we leave and a few days later my aunt and uncle call in a concerned fit and the first thing they said to my parents was "You know your daughter is gay, right?". My parents took no shit, their response was pretty much, "yes, so fucking what?". It sucks that I didn't get to come out on my own terms but honestly my dad's side of the family are the type of people to leave their kids with a babysitter when their husbands are home so their opinion of me amounts to a little less than the 10 year old Witness girl who knocks on my door to "convert" me.

My mother outed me to my father and I was hella pissed. I spent four years trying to be able to trust my mom, and she blew it. Shes told my sensitive business to people before, but that was the last straw.

I would never forget how my brother outed me as bisexual. My whole family was in the kitchen, and we were talking about regular things. Suddenly, I don’t know what brought my brother to admit this, but he said to my mom and dad that I was bi. Now, my dad is homophobic, so he was a bit shocked. He then goes and blames my friends and mom’s side of the family for me being bi. Not that intense, but I still get angry about it from time to time

When I was on my way home from school one day in 7th grade, some guy yelled 'if you are gay and you know it clap your hands' and I was the only one that clapped...

This happened yesterday. I was sitting in PE, when the popular girls walk up to me and ask, “Be honest. Are you a lesbian?” I said no because about half the school doesn’t approve, even though I’m such a tomboy that people just kinda know. They say “It’s fine if you are, S (who is one of their friends) is bisexual.” I say “I’ve always said no because I know people don’t approve. Yeah, I’m bisexual.” They were fine with it, then they went and told the whole class pretty much. I know how Monday is gonna work and I don’t like it.

“But dammit I wanted to come out with a pun” a man of culture

A piece of advice I heard to respectfully react to someone coming out to you (because I know some people sometimes aren't sure): mirror their energy. If they're telling you in a private and serious tone, assure them that their secret is safe with you and that you're glad they trust you enough to open up about a topic they're not sharing with the world. If they seem emotional, respond with emotion/devotion and let them know that you support and accept them for every part of them, including their sexuality, and promise them that you'll stick by their side. If they're nonchalant and breezy as they tell you, don't make a big deal out of it either. Just let them know that it's okay and, if context calls for is, simply continue on with the conversation. The way in which someone comes out can tell you a bit about their own feelings towards their sexuality and being outed; whether they're open about it, whether they're usually accepted for it, etc. Just match their energy and validate them. Also remember: coming out is not an obligation. If someone doesn't willingly come out to you, don't get angry at them; there could be many reasons why they didn't. Just respect people's decisions (and of course their sexualities) and move on. Coming out shouldn't have to be a big deal, but because the world is full of bigotry and inequality it's unfortunately not always an easy thing for some people to do. To those who are already doing their part to create a supportive environment, thank you for making your community a better place :)

Im gay but my parents straight up told me “you’re to young” Edit: thank you everyone for your storys and support. It means a lot.

I was outed by a girl who overall hated me to my entire catholic school grade and my guy crush. I got his number to clear shit up but it backfired, he showed it to his parents, who then showed it to the nun principle, who then called in my mom with prints of the apology. Then I did the dumb thing which was to threaten him through Xbox message and then my dad found out.

As someone who's been outed as trans and bi (both times by my mother) can confirm, it's not fun and it's no one's choice but the person's if they want to come out or not.

I was outed to my mom when I was 14. She went through my phone and found out that I’m bi. She told me that it was just a phase, that I’m too young to know what I want. She’s accepted me by now but it isn’t fun being outed.

4:17 "I found out she was bee" Did she ask OP if she liked jazz?

The first two were so wholesome, I'm gonna cling onto them for the rest of the video before shit hits the fan

I'm straight, but there's a small chance my mum thinks I'm gay because I've never told her about a guy I've dated (in our culture, you only really tell your parents if they are the one you're going to marry, and you're also not expected to date around either - just find "the one" on your first go which is insanely problematic but a whole other story). She's also been incredibly homophobic in the past, but recently she was lecturing me about something and said "what happens when you bring home a boyfriend...or girlfriend?" which is the first time she has ever said this so looks like she might be warming up to the LGBTQ+ community after all. Everyone is capable of change, after all.

One of my friends told me she was gay, and has gushed about the girl she has a crush on in the past. About a week ago, she mentioned that she was going out with a guy friend for Valentine’s Day to our class, and the girls were making fun of her, and saying that it would probably become “something more”. Since she didn’t debunk this by telling them she likes girls and not guys, I tried to help her out by saying things like how girls and guys can be platonic, but like I said, she did not take the “easy way out”. She ended up thanking me later, and I could tell that for whatever reason, she didn’t want to tell them. Based on these stories, I’m glad I didn’t spill the beans, because even though I think that these people would be accepting of her, my friend had reasons not to do it herself, and I managed to catch on to that.

In high school, freshman year, I told a girl that was my best friend at the time that I was gay. We got into a little argument because she was mad I was making more friends. So we argued & then out of spite, she outted me to some well known gay kid who was so jealous of me. His gaydar knew I was gay, but once he found out forsure, he immediately told everyone in high school. I remember one of my friends told me while I was getting ready for school in the morning, “You do know Justyn is telling everyone right?” And my heart DROPPED. Sure enough I went to school that morning and when I mean everyone, EVERYONE came up to me asking/telling me, “I heard you’re gay is it true?”, “justyn is telling everyone that you hooked up with carlos, is it true?” “I always knew you were gay but no way!” And I denied it all at first because I was shitting it, I wasn’t ready! I was having so many anxiety attacks that day, literally trembling. Then on tumblr everyone was asking me “did you come out yet?”. Of course I got some hateful comments as well. Mind you I haven’t told my family anything yet. However, they were very skeptical because everyone on Facebook kept commenting on my page saying,”We love you Miguel! I’m here for you!” And all this crazy support from everyone. I wish I could see the messages. It made me so happy but still scared shitless. So my family was asking, “Miguel, what’s with all these comments?”. I didn’t have the balls to tell them in person, so I literally made a coming out RU-vid video (that’s still on my page rn if you want to go see it) that I shared onto Facebook so everyone in my family/friends could see. I think someone asked me to make a coming out video on tumblr too. Anyways, It was so crazy and life changing because at the time, RU-vid would allow messages. I was getting tons and tons and tons of messages from people from Brazil, Mexico, Europe, EVERYWHERE; talking about how I helped them be who they are because they saw my video. It was so touching & insane. I remember I even made money off of that video because RU-vid emailed me to monetize my videos multiple times because of how quick my views were growing. It was such a crazy time of my life. Oh, & fast forward to 2019 (was 22 at the time) I worked at a gay bar. So, get this, Justyn came to my job and apologized for everything said. Explained he’s so sorry, he was trying to get my attention in the worst way possible, he was jealous, and oddly enough, he was proud that I tried to fight him after everything because I really stuck up for myself. Damn I’m crying :( lmao that was a crazy year for me. If you read this, thank you. Felt good talking about this after all these years. Getting flashbacks of everything.

Holy. Shit. My sister overheard me talking to my friends about it and decided to tell my Christian parents, luckily they were really supportive, but damn I still hate my sister for that

*walking to school bathroom when I run into annoying friend* Me: hi Him: hi Him: when are you going to come out as bisexual Me: what Him: we all know Me: really? Him: wait what you are Me: yeah Him: oh I thought you were a lesbian lmao We are not friends anymore.

When I would get in trouble, my mom would take my phone and look through literally everything. Photos, games, messaging, search history- you get the point. My best friend and I had been on the topic of sexuality a few months before because I was still kinda tripping over it, I considered my self bisexual at the time and we were just figuring ourselves out. A day or two after she took the phone and I came out of my room she confronted me in front of my grandma, she was super pissed and all three of us had a spiel about how I was wrong and how that stuff was wrong and how I think I know everything, blah blah. Not a few hours later my grandma and I were talking and she said something homophobic, I tried to explain to her that its not wrong and that nothing in the bible said anything against it. She continued to insist that I was wrong, so Yeah. That's how I found out I have a homophobic family.

My own sister outed me, I ruined my relationship with my parents for quite a while

Earlier today I was browsing Instagram and I found a gossip page for my school. It's basically where people submit tea about other students at our school and they are posted on the page but the person who submitted it is kept anonymous. I saw a post that one of my classmates who is a male was actually born a female and is a trans male and is taking testosterone. I don't know if it is true or not but it is not okay to out someone like that. OUTING SOMEONE IS NEVER OKAY.

Once i came out on tiktok, and the next day my mum told me that her friend told her about it. I started crying because i was like 11/12 and wanted to come out when i felt safe. The next day i went to school and my best friend acted like she didn't know me. I realised later on it was probably her who who told mine. Now i have anxiety and trust issues :')

I am incredibly lucky to be an openly trans bi man in every situation. My parents are wonderful, especially my mother. My teacher sends me texts about LGBT+ events and makes gay jokes with me. Not everything is perfect, but it's pretty damn good in comparison to a lot of these stories.

This makes me more pissed about what happened in “Love Simon” and I think anyone who has seen it knows why (heteroflexible; consider myself on the fence of just ally or part of the LGBT+ community)

My brother outed me. I had told the whole 6th grade slowly and my aunts and uncle . i wasnt ready to tell my mom yet. My brother said that "its about time i tell her because its been 2 months sunce i tild him. I said no then he walked downstairs and told her she asked if i was sure then she said she already knew. It turned out good but i still dont tell my brother anything anymore

The wholesomer ones are really welcome.

My “best friend” told the whole school right after I told her that I’m lesbian (she is popular) I’ve been getting bullied ever since 😃

I got outed at college last semester. I'm at a catholic university (bc it's one of the 37 schools w/ my program. I'm in an accelerated 5 year BS/MS physician assistant program in case anyone is wondering) so I had my reasons for not wanting to come out. So, I had a finsta where I let my closest friends follow at the time (and who already knew I was bi). When I got to college, a few girls asked me if they could follow my finsta, and I said yes bc I wanted to make friends and I felt like if I rejected them it would be rude. So apparently, I made a post in like... august 2018 mentioning a past girlfriend and the word got around the dorm. My roommate found out (who was my only close friend). She didn't' take it well, and I really didn't expect her to because she comes from a very small town that has a population of about... 150 people total. She graduated from a class of 23 kids. She also expressed how she didn't really respect trans people. But anyways, I digress. She proceeded to tell me she felt manipulated by me for not telling her (she didn't have instagram so she found out from other people) and I calmly told her I didn't have feelings for her and never looked at her in a sexual way to ease her a little bit. I also have a boyfriend (and she knew this). She then proceeds to stay in another girl's room for 4 nights before our thanksgiving break. When I come back, the room is arranged differently and she put up a curtain down the center of the room to divide us. When I walked in and saw it, I threw my things on the floor and ran back to my dad and cried in his arms for about an hour. We had a lot of conversations, and when I told her how I was upset about the curtain and she cuts me off, turns to me and says: "Rachel you destroyed me. I lost 7 pounds this week because of you. This curtain is for privacy." (she has IBS btw so I guess she couldn't keep food down. Idk I don't really care cause fuck her). But yeah... that scene literally sticks out in my mind. And in that moment I knew that nothing was gonna change. I requested a room change after the semester was over. But I had to spend two more weeks with her. I had to spend FINALS with her. I slept in the library and this place called campus ministry (another study room w/ giant beanbags) almost every night cause my stomach literally dropped every time I had to go to my dorm. So... I somehow survive my first ever finals with all of this unwanted stress and go home from break. I'm in a new dorm now, so that's cool. But I just found out from other people in our program that she was going around telling people I had a crush on her and that she felt uncomfortable sleeping in the same room as me because I would sometimes look at her weird. So basically, *I* was the one outed and *she* decided to play victim! Nobody in my dorm talked to me during this incident, and the people that used to talk to me stopped during those three weeks. I thought it was because people thought I was disgusting for being bi, but it turns out they thought I was a pervert. So fuck my freshman roommate. I hope she rots in hell :) Edit: She also was pretending she wasn't homophobic. She kept telling me I should be proud of who I am and that I should embrace it cause it's awesome. Well, actions speak louder than fucking words dear. You can say you're not homophobic, but that doesn't mean you aren't... sorry this is very salty, it's just really fresh since it only happened 3 months ago TL;DR I was outed at college and my roommate put up a curtain while simultaneously telling people I looked at her weird and had a crush on her (even though I have a boyfriend currently).

I sort of accidentally outed a classmate in high school. He slipped a note into my locker about how he felt about me, with some risque language. I'm actually gay too but at the time I was still working things out so I wasn't interested in a bf. I didn't qant to confront him directly over it but didn't know where his locker was, so the next class we had together I went to his desk before he arrived, placed the note facedown, and wrote "sorry, not interested" on the back. But apparently one of his buddies stole the note of the desk because I heard a couple guys he usually hung out with giving him shit about it

My local professional community is very religious, and most networking is done through the church and I'm super worried about people finding out I'm gay. The only person who found out in my life wouldn't talk to me for a month after finding out lol

Not outed as gay, but as trans So like I was 11 I think maybe a few days until my 12th bday. My dad wanted to go through my ipod, I ran downstairs and said no because I had like a year's worth of me figuring out my identity and another year of me out as a trans boy on Quora. He thought I did something illegal because I was hiding and didn't want him to go through my phone. I told him I didn't want to tell him and that he was making me uncomfortable. I told him I didn't want to tell him and then had a mental breakdown. I then told him that I might be able to tell him over text because my dad doesn't take no for an answer. So I went him a picture of a trans flag. He was curious and asked me what that was. I texted for him to look it up and he told me to just tell him. I basically just said I'm transgender and soon followed up with "I'm pansexual too" (I am gay now) he then found me in my hiding place and then he had this big talk "ew kids your age have sexual attraction? So you'd basically have s*x with a person just because they are nice" and later "why didn't you tell me that you THINK you're a boy" "I am a boy" "you are not done puberty yet how do you know" " and the reason I didn't tell you is because I heard my uncle say something trans phobic the other day" *proceeds to tell be that my uncle's wife only dated two guys before him both of whom have come out as gay* *also dad telling me that if anything changed I could talk to him*. Then six months later I got a phone from my mom. I love using Pinterest. My dad asked me if he could look at my phone's settings then went into Pinterest and clicked my profile. My name was under Elijah so he then proceded to tell me again that I could talk to him. he then asked me why I chose a biblical name. I told him that basically every name is a biblical name. But even now he mockingly calls me son and still calls me she. TL;DR Dad forces me to come out as transgender then criticises my name choice and misgenders me

It's so weird being scared to come out to one parent and knowing that the other would be fine with it. I came out to my mom a whole year before coming out to my dad and what is really messed up is that she was the religious one! She's not supportive and doesn't really understand why I would like girls but it also isn't a problem for her. My dad had no reaction to my coming out and I still don't know his opinion. But the MVP of my family is my big brother who was the second person I ever let know that I liked girls, he was and is very supportive and I talk to him about dating issues all the time

my mother heard a rumor i was bi and threatened to send me to conversion camp, she yelled a lot and said i was a disgrace and i had to convince her i was straight so i can still live at home and finish high school. this all happened my freshman year of high school

Was outed my freshman year of college. For years leading up to this I had struggled with my sexuality, going from crushing on a girl at one point to crushing on a guy another. Spent years trying to figure out if I was gay or straight, thinking I was some sort of freak (wasn’t even ok with the idea I might be gay as I grew up with an abusive and very homophobic father who’d use gay slurs on me as one of his favorite ways of verbal abuse). I graduated high school and that summer before college I came to learn about bisexuality and it clicked that I was bisexual. Would take about half a year to come to terms with it. So by January I’m finally comfortable enough with myself to explore a bit and be ok with everything and I set my tinder preferences to both guys and girls. In February the one gay guy in the fraternity I’m pledging to comes across my profile, he proceeds to screen shot it and post it on the Facebook page for the active members. Wouldn’t find about this until August when I activated and was added to the Facebook group. Was livid and came to hate the guy who outed me. Came to realize they were all cool with me not being straight, a few weeks later they outright asked if I was gay or bi. Told them bi and they were cool with it. Occasionally they make light hearted jokes about my fluid sexuality, but are for most part cool and accepting. So I’m out to all my friends as bi, but am still in the closet to my family and will always be unless I start dating a guy. At that point I’ll come out and say it, but my sex/romance life is none of my judgemental family business especially not my d-bag father. For the gay guy who outed me, doesn’t matter if your out and proud, everybody’s experience is different you don’t know what other people have been through some people come from families that are generally unaccepting of that or have struggled for years to get where they are. No one has a right to out anyone even if you yourself belong to the lgbt+ community yourself.

see, i'm an out and proud bisexual, and due to that a lot of people have come out to me in confidence about their sexualities. i keep my damn mouth shut whenever that happens since, while i'm out, there is exactly one person i hide it from and i've come out a few times to incredibly bad reactions (that i expected). i'm not gonna put someone else through that because i can't keep a secret.

i was outed in my new school in september. now not only everyone in these town knows so i need to make sure no homophobes bring my family into it but also i suffer from bulling the whole time (nothing to serious but couple of times my classmates was throwing stones at me ) (p.s. i live in crimea so yeh there a lot of homophobes here)

My ex outed me once, to the ENTIRE school that i was trans. (I'm still under the trans umbrella, nb) I told her i preffered he/him at the time since i did, and she told everyone she could "Yea so this is my boyfriend and he's trans" Ma'am, i dont like being outed. Anywayd we ended up breaking up like a month after dating since she was getting physically abusive

outing people is just so wrong ethically and in some professions, also illegal (doctor-patient confidentiality)

My friend outed himself before he was ready. He had some minor surgery and was under anesthetics, and after you wake up you're often still a little dizzy and talk pretty much non-sense. Well, my friend looked at his parents and told them he's gay :D Fortunately tho his parents aren't homophobic or anything so had no problem with that at all... just asked him if it was true a little later when he came to his senses which he confirmed.

The father at 18:45👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I guess this counts. My parents aren't really very religious, but they aren't atheis. They were always supportive. I was (and still am) very close to my sister, and we're also twins. I came out to my sister about being bisexual. She promised to keep it a secret, because I know my parents are supportive of anything, but I had this fear that this would change everything. After a few months, I was just casually having a chat with my sister and mom. My sis out of the blue mentioned about my little 'secret'. My mom wanted to know what she was talking about, and she told her. I was literally crying. I was more than relieved when she said that it's ok to be like that. Still haven't told my dad, but I'm still gathering up the courage.

My mom told me she thought I was a lesbian when I was twelve or so, I tried for 13 years to prove her wrong ("I'm not gay, I might be bi, but I'm not gay!?!?!?!?! - 'dating' a ton of guys I despised) only to come to the conclusion at 26, that I am - in fact - a lesbian. Thanks mom.

Oh my god, I was outed to my parents from my cousin, but I never actually told Her. Basically, I told a friend at school that I was pansexual, she told her brother, her brother told my cousin, then my cousin told my mum. Luckily I wasn’t disowned or anything, and my parents are learning to accept me more, but it was really shitty and I didn’t want them to know. Now I have major trust issues lmao

My mom told my homophobic grandma that I had a girlfriend, I ended up struggling to keep myself composed as I convinced my grandma I only ever made jokes about marrying my friends but was in no relationship with anyone. I tried to talk to my mom but she just was like "I didn't know it was a big secret screw off" except she knew my grandma was homophobic and didn't know I was bisexual. I no longer tell my mom anything.

in summer of 2019 my dad found and read my diary, days after he came into my room while i was on youtube and asked me if i liked girls. we both started crying and he said "it's not what i wanted for you, but i love you anyway", he also asked if my best friend at the moment was the girl i was dating and i said yes. after that he seemed very sad about to the point that my mom noticed so she asked him what was wrong and he told her everything. she then came into my room, also crying, saying things like "what have i done wrong? is this a punishment from god?" and she basically got really bad, to the point she stopped eating for a week. days after they sent me to a therapist in hopes that i would notice that "it's just a phase". they made me break up with my gf over chat (and it was casually her bday as well ✨) and tpok away my phone, they also prohibited me to read queer books and fanfics (tho i never stopped). now we're fine, but they act like none of that happened and that im straight now, they usually say things like "when you get a husband...". it's very annoying and terrifying, bc it's inevitable some day they'll find out i am still a lesbian, and i don't wanna see another reaction like that again

My brother outed me to two people. First my (favorite) cousin. Her response was “so what? people love who they love” and then she showed us some funny videos she found on Facebook. Second was my mom, she was and is totally fine with it. I cried bc I wasn’t completely sure how she would react, at that time I’d heard all the horror stories of kids being kicked out of their houses for being gay or getting beat up or getting sent to a camp (I have anxiety so my mind always goes to worst case scenario first) and I just wasn’t READY, I was like 14. It was supposed to be my thing and I could’ve done it in a way that would have been a lot nicer and more memorable than me sobbing on the couch over my health homework and my mom being horrified that I thought she would disown me for being gay lmao. I still haven’t completely forgiven him for taking that experience from me and I probably never will but hhhhh it’s fine. I still love him. I came out to my dad by sending him Ally Hills’ coming out song lol. It was fine, not as great as with my mom but not as bad as I thought it would be.

I accidentally text my papa saying “omg Hwasa from Mamamoo is so fucking hot” he knows that mamamoo is a girl group since he bought me their albums and he told my gran because he was proud of me, my gran told my mum and thankfully they were all proud of me and made a rainbow cake for me on my birthday

i always said to my sister and stepsisters “haha i like girlinred” because it was funny they had no idea what it meant and one day we were talking about lgbtq stuff because my sisters friend came out and i slipped out what ‘girl in red’ actually meant and they were like “dont u like girlinred?” it was funny tho

Well me and my gay friend was talking so I came out to her. She accidentally mentioned my crush was a girl to my other friends. Luckily they were cool with it, even my super Christian best friend. No one else knows yet lol my parents keep asking me if i have a boyfriend yet tho

My dad found out by snooping through my phone messages remotely by logging into his computer when I was in middle school. Read my texts. Seems rather obsessive. Don't even know why he did that. Next day goes "so... what's your relationship with X?" And I just laugh and say "wow. You read my texts again. Well I'm bi (at the time, thought I was, now I'm just gay lol) He then proceeded to tell my mother. And my grandparents. *sigh*. I don't like my dad

I don't know about other therapists, but I did went to my middle school therapist and she was super cool. She was very reliable and every time I'd be afraid she might tell or do something about my situation, she reassured me that everything is okay and that she keeps everything I tell her between those four walls. It was really nice to have an adult to tell. If I wanted to talk to my mom about my dad's aggressive attitude and actions, she would discreetly defend him and I'd just be even more pissed he treats especially her badly. So my therapist really helped me get over with that. And she was really understanding with the fact that I thought I feel more attracted to girls rather than boys and told me it's normal. At some point later, while in a normal conversation with my mom I don't know exactly what we were talking about (probably about relationships) but I remember I accidentally outed my self (in a way, I actually thought I was bi) saying that I don't really like boys that much. She was like "are you sure? Nah you can't be a lesbian" at that point I was like ups that wasn't my plan, she then told me and she still believes that "it's just a phase" and that I'm too young to realise it. I was kind of understanding, I wasn't exactly sure about that either and I just thought I was bi. But in the same evening I accidentally told my mom, my dad overheard it and came to the room and said gross things that made me super uncomfortable and then I simply went to my room. I heard mom telling him that he upset me and he simply said something like" eh she'll get over it, I wasn't serious". He was really annoying and aggressive those past years. But now he is an okay dad. He's no longer aggressive for literally no reason and I'm happy for him. Still trying to figure if I should stay closeted about the fact that I'm into girls completely. I don't know if it's to early to realise that but still...

I'm so glad that my parents are the most trustworthy people I can think of. After my sister came out I knew that when I found myself they would support me. Fast forward a year or so and I'm hanging out with my now BF and we are cuddling on the couch and my mom notices. After my BF leaves she says "I thought you liked girls," to which I replied "I can still like girls," and I haven't explicitly told her I'm pansexual, but I'm happy that I know both of my parent's are okay with my sexuality even if I haven't told my dad yet. TL;DR: Mom saw me cuddling w/BF but she's fine with it. PS: Hearing about all of these stories where people get kicked out of the house for not being straight really ticks me off and I hope those parents know their child is better off without them and their negativity :) PSS: If you or someone you know is contemplating self harm/suicide the suicide prevention hotline is: 1-800-273-8255 I don't care if anyone reads this comment, I just wanted to share my story on this ridiculous video with ragtime piano playing while a British robot reads some of the most depressing stories I have ever seen/heard and potentially help some who are in a hell of a lot worse situation I am in. Happy Corona everybody :)

ansolutely terrifying. my heart dropped when i found out someone had outed me.

19:36 ...ouch. This one hurt to read the most.

Got upset at a dance and couldn't explain to two of my friends without coming out, and they made me explain. I wasn't in any form ready for coming out, but it happened. One of them already thought I wasn't straight, so that helped Funny thing is I mentioned years later to a few housemates of dancing with a girl and making a mess of myself because said girl was pretty, and much taller than me, and one of my friends "no homod" me. I wasn't out to either of them, but still...🤦‍♀️

so i was dating this girl, (im a girl) and i have three older brothers, two of which are homophobic 😬. people at my school knew i was dating this girl, and nobody in my family knew. some boys at my school really hated me for who i was dating, not cus i was gay. this boy we’ll call john, had a crush on me, so he decided to tell my brother (luckily not the homophobic one). he thought my brother would be mad and that would be revenge for me, but it turns out my brother pushed him away and told him to quit telling him shit he doesn’t care about and that he still loves me. john comes up to me later and says “i told your brother and he says he doesnt support”. of course i had no clue so i was scared to go home. i did anyway, and my brother acted no different, so i just let it slide. the next day john told me what my brother really said. that was two years ago. now i’m a very out gay and all my family knows, and my homophobic brothers even support me. sounds weird but we’re just really close soo they just support me, and i think theyre more comfortable with the idea of gays. :)

TW Self Harm my cousin once outed me to my entire family (8 people at the time, now 11), when my friend was over my parents went into my room and started saying stuff like "You've liked boys your ENTIRE LIFE, peer pressure is a thing.", "they/them is just a trend", "They/them is only plural" I cried myself to sleep and I cut my arm that night (it was minor tho)

Me with a closed door with a girl over:”Ughhnhhhhhhh!” The girl I have over: **fake moaning really loud** My grandpa: “ERIN!!! THEDA AND MARY ARE YELLING AND MY HEAD HURT!” My mom: “she is lesbian with a girl over” My friend: “UH UH UH UH UHGGGGNNNNNGGHHHHHH” Me: “Mary shut up!” Her: “THEDAAAAAAAA~” My mom: **walks in** Me: **messed up hair and blushing** Mary: **smirking Evilly** My mom: **slowly closing the door disappointed** Me: “Mom this is not what it looks-“ My gf: **jumps in by window and drags me back** Me: “mom Ashlynn is gonna kill me!”

I’ve told my family 3 times and they’re still asking me if I have a gf

This video is giving me real bad anxiety cuz I’m not out yet

When I was 13 I was in love with my best friend who was a girl. We both liked each other and lowkey flirted. Eventually my mom found out about it and forced me to cut contact with her or else she was gonna do it for me. The last thing I told her was "I'm sorry, I love you. Goodbye." I'm 21 now and I'm over her but I'll never forget what my mom did.

It was terrifying. I was outed without my knowledge. When i was 13 i told a few close friends that i was gay and at some point 2 of those friends started talking about me in an xbox party that had other people from the school in it. What frightened me was that i had a cousin in my year group who could've told their parents who could've told my parents before i was ready

This video gives me the power to THROW HANDS

Therapists are supposedly bound by laws of confidentiality. Outing your client is immoral dangerous and highly unprofessional.

6:30 - "God that hurts to read colon". I think it hurts the "readee" more than the reader.

Someone who was outed before I was ready here: I had a crush on my best friend and kept it a secret from my parents for a while. I just wasn't ready yet. One time I was hanging out with some other friends and I brought them over to my dad. One of them, who was actually really supportive during the period where I had a crush on my bestie, brought it up discreetly. My dad picked up on this, and as we were headed home asked me about it... Thankfully I have a really supportive family (and I also had gotten a slushie from the gas station we stopped at.)

One time a guy said “I have a girlfriend” to someone else and I said “I wish I did” I hadn’t mean to say that out loud lmao. Thankfully the guy was the only one that heard and was cool with it, he just said “I support” and gave me a thumbs-up. I was hella worried he’d tell my parents or something but we haven’t seen each other much since then and we just kinda never talked about it again. His support made me ecstatic tho :)

When I was younger I thought all people deserved respect I now know that I was wrong racists, M.A.P.s, and homophobes/transphobes these “humans” don’t deserve respect. Things like being gay, trans, or a poc those aren’t choices the things above are.

Subject Matter: Serious Music: Doo-doo-dee-da-doo

i told some of my friends that i was a lesbian, some days later i caught one of them outing me to one of the popular girls... two hours later mh whole class knew😑

I once had a lesbian friend. She told people she trusted. We were told specifically not to tell ANYBODY else. Especially this one girl which she had a crush on. Well guess what one of the people she told decided to tell her crush she was gay. I was more annoyed than she was.

*My sister is constantly trying to out me to my parents (I don’t think they even believe her) even though I am nowhere near ready to come out as bi (not gay). However my mother tells her that it doesn’t matter whether someone is gay or not but I don’t think I will ever come out to them. I also keep on telling her that going around calling other people gay means that she is insecure about her own sexuality (And most likely closeted herself) and that usually shuts her up.*