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I don't think that I will be able to justify investing my emotions much into relationships anymore. Sure, I'll be fun to be around. But I'll never have faith in "I love you," anymore. And regardless of how seemingly great things were today. I will treat it as the last.
This happened to me twice. It is just as painful as someone dying. The worst part is if they leave for another person. I do not care anymore since it has been done to me 2 times now. I know this man isn't this stupid.
I broke up with him because I thought our relationship is toxic...I haven't forgot him for a day in the past 6 month. I want our relationship back, but I know it is impossible. I am depressed and I have noone to talk about it. I am dying slowly
1yr is not even close to long term. You dont even know everything about them. Spend 20yrs and have them tell you they love you in the morning and leave that night.
mine proposed and told his daughter id be a step mom. she was so happy we planned a family trip and a romantic getaway. two weeks later he cheated and dumped me. moved a new woman into the apartment and told his kid that was her new step mom even though they never met. never let me say bye. i feel like im the avoident one now because i’m scared that anyone can leave me at any time i cant feel safe anymore. i followed your videos to win him back and i regained my confidence and learned that i deserve better. he learned the grass isn’t greener now he wants me back i don’t want him anymore. he met someone horrible and got scammed.
Three years together and out of the blue he's ghosted me for over three weeks and counting didn't even break up with me just disappeared with no warning
Five years together and out of the blue he does the exact same thing. Three weeks and counting. I just hope I will stop counting the days at some point.
I’m going through this right now 😢 fiancé is ghosting me after 5 years of being and living with each other. He recently had to move for deployment and I waited and supported him for 8months ..only to have to him go radio silent and ghost me. This really sucks. I thought he was my one.
At what point do men grow up and stop with the "grass is always greener" BS? At what point do they just appreciate when they have a good, healthy, stable woman who loves them?
I totally understand where you're coming from. I'm not sure about your particular circumstance but self reflecting is also part of growth. Maybe you have made some mistakes that he didn't like or it was something constantly dragging him down environmentally or in the relationship that had an effect and vice versa. Or he could've just been a shitty person. In my case, although I seen the red flags I still loved her and she left bc I gave too much attention. How are you doing now?
@@mr.k3322 Hi, thanks for asking! I'm still healing. My mistake was I made myself too available and affectionate to someone who does not want to be loved or reciprocate. Pretty sure he only wanted seggs, convenience, something temporary, or long distance even so that he would not feel threatened by the responsibility of closeness. I'm afraid of getting hurt again so I'm trying to take things slower. I kind of don't even trust myself anymore.
@@lindsay3793 you should heal and obviously deserve better. I'd say to date for a longer time before getting into a relationship. Also of it helps just learn to enjoy your alone time doing things that you liked before or add things to like bc if you aren't able to you'll always miss the moments with your ex in that time. I'd say healing is not caring about their presence just like how they felt when they left you not to focus on the good memories instead to focus on the way they broke up.
I found my almost ex-husband to be highly self-indulgent on his loner hobbies, he’s just so independent. Funny thing is, he’s a complete man baby. He will refuse to participate in decisions aside from where or what’s for dinner. He was his own rockstar at work, where he spent the vast majority of his time. He acts as though he’s half dead when he gets home and fails to interact with myself or our 18 yr old daughter.
My first love broke my heart 22yrs ago, came back into my life 7yrs ago, apologized, said he was young and stupid, promised me heaven and earth, and how he is never leaving again. It took a while, but I trusted him again, only for him to dump me again. I hate myself for not believing him the first time when he showed me who he is. I feel stupid for allowing the same person to break my heart twice. I have done nothing but love him with every fiber of my being. I am beyond heartbroken. I feel like my heart is being ripped out of my chest. I feel sick, i feel broken😢😢
I went through the same exact thing, with your situation occurring about 2 years before mine. In my opinion, you were probably dealing with a narcissist. It’s a subject I knew absolutely nothing about. My ex fits the bill exactly with all the same patterns.
If the soul is confused, wounded and traumatized it is better to let 'spirituality" go for a while concentrating on down to earth issues. Solving the actual issues.
Mine walked out after 12 years won’t say why he said to give him a week to think about it and he would let me know. We have never spoken that was 10 months ago
I’m of the firm belief that the no contact rule should be used to put grow your ex, not to make them miss you. I ended my relationship with my ex of almost four years together. The union was quite toxic. I knew that I would walk away but I took time before doing so.
Hi Chris, This helped me. It also saddened me, because it seems that the end is highly likely, because it's so easy to meet at least one of these criteria.
Just got cheated on, my girlfriend of 6 years out of nowhere just broke up with me last week. in just one week already moving out she got new apartment. Like she planned it.. i dont understand anything.. last week we planned our vacation to italy next summer, had a romantic weekend in her familys cabin..
Wow! Chris! That is the most comprehensive look at this topic I have ever seen! And I think all your points are really true. Thank you so much for putting that together for those of us still struggling with how and why it happened. I think I have an anxious attachment style. But so did my ex. He was always very jealous of any ex boyfriend (now platonic guy friend) I talked to. The funny thing is, he's a super confident guy in most other areas of life. So, hmmm.....I never thought of him as having an anxious attachment style in the relationship. So your video has been a real eye opener and I think I will watch it every week just to remind myself that it wasn't all Me. ❤️🙏☺️
Just moved to a new city last year with her then up and left me with the crib and block me on everything been alone the last 10 months I have trust issues now but still think of her
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5 years. We have a house and have been engaged for 2 years or so. 2 days ago she turned around and told me she doesn’t love me anymore.. I suffer with OCD and tbh I would take a bout of that any day then what I’m currently struggling with..
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
11:27 "no more layers to peel back" Otherwise, it is also a sign of the lack of intimacy: if you have intimacy, new and new layers appear, the bond deepens and the arousal of "newness" doesn't that big of a role. Imho, it is completely natural to be like that, it is a stage of relationships. It's froma arousal to love. First, it feeds off from curiosity, than you see, what you have and can decide whether you would like to tie yourself to that person or not.
The man I was with has a avoidant attachment style and I asked him what are we. he started saying things that sounded scary. I broke it off because I felt it was his way of saying go away. I took him at his word. I really surprised him though which really surprised me because his words were suggestive of gaining distance
Ohhh same experience here but for me it was 3 years as best friends and we do no contact for 2 months and he told me that he love me and i daid i felt the same way but after a few weeks and we're good he pushed me away.. exactly like number 5 on the reason, the it's already 1 week now he completely avoid me and he stopped everything which make me crazy but whenever i watch chris video and other coach in attachment style I'm learning a lot...i just hope and pray i can easily move on 🙏
@@Smokillo He once joked about my overnight bag was so big that you could stuff a body in it (cut up of course). Also that I should get away from him as fast as I could and that he is evil and that I could be evil. NEVER had he insinuated such things before and we had been friends for 5 years. I just felt uncomfortable and unsafe and I broke it off with him. Normally he was kind, considerate and thoughtful I just felt he was trying to scare me off and it worked
I don't hear yall talk enough about people in long term relationships with an avoidante like 7 years plus and there were a combo of things that lead to the break up including anxious behavior from one partner and all the wrong actions were taking after the break up and an effective no contact can not be implemented first because there's a kid involved and she uses that as a reason to call or text even while in a rebound relationship, plus the one partner who's trying to get the avoidance partner back did not know about these videos until 6 to 7 months later. How can one still implement an effective no contact in such a unique situation?
I have a question with the no contact rule. What is the advice for when you are going through a break up whilst living with a ex. We aren’t able to move out of our house for at least 7 months as locked into a lease along with the financial aspects it isn’t feasible at the moment.
I have a question: I'm going through a breakup with my husband that i have been with for 17 years. We have 2 beautiful children together. He loves out children as much as I do and very much apart of their lives. So naturally I see him all of the time. I officially moved out to my own place, but my question is, how do imploy the no contact rule as we coparent. I try just to text or call if it is regarding our children. I love him so much still but very much at this crossroads you talk about. Half of me is pushing myself to move on and the other half wants my family back? And seeing yout videos, he sounds like an avoidant for sure. Any advice on how to navigate a break up while trying to coparent. Thank you.
As an anxious attachment I am offended at your ridiculous representation of us. Changing an entire number and standing outside the toilet door worried they are texting someone LMAO, that is NOT anxious that is a little cray! As an anxious attachment style myself never have I blown up someone’s phone ever, in fact yes I’m anxious but I would never show them this. I will hold back , and see where their priorities are before investing completely (yes even though on my end I am secretly freaking out) but all this commotion you are talking about lol that is boarderline stalking . Thais Gibson explains anxious attachment perfectly , this was not it!
Really good to have interesting hobbies to avoid someone feeling like they know everything about you. Also... if someone thinks they know everything about you, I'd have questions about their self-awareness
@@solochica81 I learn something new about myself most days, so if someone thinks they know faster than that, they must not be learning anything about themselves
I got told so many things its unreal, i work full time and she is disabled but added more on her plate doing homeschool and more church activities etc. But yet she wanted to go do more but without talking and planning which is needed cause I work. Anything and everything was a excuse plus very toxic half the time trying to discuss stuff
I've just been dumped by my boyfriend of 8years and his reason for dumping me was because I'm going through the menopause and his past girlfriends became violent during their menopause and he's not prepared to go through all that again and that i also didn't appreciate his cooking. I'm confused I've never shown any indication that i would ever be violent towards him and I always said thank you to him and told him I enjoyed his food. So I don't understand why he dumped me. I love him so much it hurts to be apart. I'm at the moment trying the no contact rule but it's really hard. Is there any hope of us getting back together
Even if he wanted to get back together, i wouldn't encourage you to go along with it,, He will find another reason to bail especially since the problem is "always" his partners, and not him, or use an excuse you can do nothing about eg the menopause or how his exes were during their menopause,, I used a mantra to help move past the pain, "One day, I will think of you and feel nothing",, With time, I started believing it and when he asked to meet, i felt absolutely NOTHING,, I hope this helps 💐💐💐
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
