When do men know if you're the one? 

A man usually knows pretty early if a woman is the one. That's if he is looking to wife someone up. Its important for women that want to marry know this, so she dont waste too much time being a girlfriend. Dont give all your vital years to the wrong man..😉

Men do not bond to women through sex. It's everything else besides that, that bonds them to you. (like your time, attention, the conversations you two have. Spending time outside the bedroom, along with that sexual chemistry is what bonds him too you! So if he only wants you for sex, then you are NOT the one‼️

Most men are willing to take whomever is willing to take what they offer. They truly are not willing to put the work in no matter how much they might love a woman. The minute she asks him to do better he starts pulling away because it means he has to adjust and men like being comfortable in their dysfunction.

When I met my husband we didn't do it until a year after and a half after we met. He never asked for it and he fell in love with my soul and my character over my looks and my body. We've been together for 21 years, married 18 years and have 2 kids together. He said if I gave it up soon he would have thought I was easy and he doesn't consider easy women as relationship material. Men before him wanted to do it on the first date and I refused and I was called boring. My mom and dad raised me to value and respect myself and protect my temple, which is my body and my husband and I want our kids to do the same when they're adults.

Respect is a huge deal . Thank you for always bringing the good conversations.

First of all , I appreciate what you're doing. Respectfully I disagree on many things , I see I'm not the only one by the comments. I don't think men even know what they want. They're constantly changing the goal posts. Ladies, we must just work on ourselves for ourselves. If a man comes along and you mesh well , go for it. If not, keep going. These days it's like finding a needle in a haystack. Stay encouraged but be realistic.

I’m sensing some bitterness and projection in these comments. Ladies, take the pressure off and just get to know a man. If you’re in alignment with shared core values and goals proceed forward. I think the issue is that because there is an initial attraction we skip the friendship phase discussed in this video. Most women tend to develop feelings too quickly, don’t let yourself go there so early. Don’t worry about the men with no standards and who don’t know what they want, they’re not for you anyway!

When I met my bf and our first encounter was at Starbucks. We sat and had a conversation about what we wanted and to see what we had in common. I told him no sex before marriage, he said he wanted to do that and we’ve been together ever since going on one year this month. We have a beautiful relationship and there’s respect for each other. We already went ring shopping😊

I'm thankful for men like you who have helped me to navigate today's men. I've avoided so much by truly listening and utilizing that which I've been taught.

My husband said he knew I was the one on our third date. He wanted to be exclusive on the second date and professed his love on the third date and yes I made him wait. We got to know each other for two more years and when he proposed I said yes! Get to know him, respect you, see who you are basically get to know each other.

Some men don’t actually love you though, they love the chase and they want to make sure they can get access to you, there’s a dude I met over 10 years ago who swears he “loves” me but when I ask him why he just goes on and on about my looks and how hard to get I am cuz I’ve rejected a few of his friends so really he doesn’t like me as a person, he likes the challenge tbh & unfortunately that’s what always happens, no one actually likes me 😂

I feel like this is only true for some men though (only saw first 2 mins). There are men who have turned down relationships with me because I told them I wanted to be celibate lol. Compatible values matter too.

They're also used to male family members not telling them a damn thing. Why do men start off with a hatred of women then have to grow to respect us as a gender?

I’m not sure I really believe men know who the one are, because as we see, men are not the best judge of characters. I think for a man to appreciate, cherish, and recognize a good hearted woman, they would have to be evolved and a person of integrity. Because so many men are lead by the wrong things… I highly doubt they are these great judges of character and have these deep self awareness. That’s is only a select few that go against the grain.

There are exceptions to every rule. I have a friend that had sex with her man the 1st day, they moved in together the following week. They have been together for 30 years now. Again, this is a rare exception. Some men will leave a woman even after she makes him wait and 'proves' himself. However, I agree that more women should keep their legs closed initially so they can make good decisions based upon character and consistency, not just sex. Sex doesn't bond a man to a woman anyway, at least not a mature grounded man.

It honestly just depends on if the man wants to settle down I do agree women need to value themselves and be choosy

Your my favorite RU-vidr right now! Thanks for this video

The way men had taken PUA courses then deliberately targeted the youngest women and those with the weakest community protections-- this advice is a dollar short, imo. Also, considering how some men don’t care whether their own daughter lives or dies and raise her with the message that nothing about her is valuable based on her skin color or hair length. I know because a friend told me, ahem, cough, cough.

Subconsciously you attract the wrong men without strong male guidance. Seems we all have to learn the hard way either way. It takes heartbreak to really learn. Blessings to all. 🙏🦋

Cmon ladies let’s make em get to know us outside of our flesh!

I'm a woman who wants mariage and a family. I don't do the "wrong" things. I'm constantly working on myself. I just get looked over. Why is that? If I'm doing what I should. Could that be God keeping me single? I'm confused lol.

You are so important to the community thank you

The woman is play hard to get and the man is immature. Because she was standoffish doesnt mean she has values. It just means she was standoffish. In regards to the man, why would you pursue someone who wont give yiu your number and also has a bit of an attitude. My boyfriend told me he talked to me because he liked what he saw. But what really made him ask for my number was the fact that he saw his friend ask to play a pool game with me abd though I had paid for the game, it joyfully accepted his friend's request. He said to him, that was an indication of my kindness and generosity. That's how you build initial attraction.

It’s just hard … I feel like most guys these days don’t even give u the opportunity , they just label u a fling off rip . At least that’s what I’ve experienced. I just stopped trying cause I shouldn’t have to prove myself to nobody

Yes respect and friendship first is key. ✨ great video as always

Men want what they can’t have. Always put him in the friend zone first

2:00 ehhhhhh I don't find that to be exactly true. Respect is earned different ways, you don't necessarily have to make someone "earn" things like your number in order to make a man see you as valuable. For that particular man it was the case but it really does depend on who the subject is. Some men might see it as you playing hard to get because you're stuck up and be put off, just a word of caution In general, circumstances make these things run on different clocks. The scenarios life places me in with a certain woman may make me see her as a potential wife faster than others purely because of things outside any person's control. Meanwhile, it may take longer to see another woman's value because I never had a chance to see the true her. That's just how life plays out, all you can really do until you "know" is ensure that the other half is pursuing you in good faith

Its all overrated

Correct analysis, wrong video. The first thing she said to me was, "Isn't it rude to stare?" It's also rude to respond in that manner. If a man is staring at me, I just awkwardly smile and turn away. First impressions are very important and they are an insight into the qualities of that person

Well I guess it's time to learn

Shumake, you should go on that show!

look for respect not love at first

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This is good, just subscribed… God Bless!!🙏🏾❤️

Thank you

Well said! Thank you for this message 💯🙌🏾

Vice versa when men WANT to give it up too fast it puts them in the same category also.

You are not the one. The end. No one is the one. And then we die

One is gonna draw the other,,,,,, That's Good

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Good advice ty

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Yes sir, Thank you for what god has given and your wife. Keep ot up. Blessings

Who ever is you cannot judge anyone without seeing fae to face

When I don't know the name and who he his he I don't know even when I had meat him

😂so true

This was gold! Blessings!

Taking notes thank you very much

Very 👍

Thank you

How do you get a man to respect you?

I met my wife the first time for a one night stand. The sex was good and we kept getting together and started to go out. Within the year, we were engaged. I call it the lust, like, love progression. We lusted together, found we liked each other, which grew to loving each other. Sex is the key that opens the door.

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