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Geoffrey thanks again for all your help here on youtube whilst i really cant afford to do the masterclass but i need to know something, whilst every guy here would like to know when but that is like asking how long is a piece of string? what I want to know is what signs i should be looking for? when is the right time not in a chronological sense but how to tell is she ready? thanks again
my gf of 8 years was like a wife to me. I went on her facebook and found nothing but she found out I went on it and blocked me on facebook and phone...
This video made me smile like crazy, and I've watched it 6 or 7 times today. The reason this video makes me happy, is because it made me realize that I've reached a point where I act and think exactly like this. I've finally begun accepting that she wants space, that I must give her the space to work on her emotions and process her thoughts, while I work in my own issues. I am willing to wait for however long it takes, because I want to better myself for the sake of me, to be a better person and father.
Hi Omnivore, Happy that this video have been so helpful in your situation… Once you understand why your partner needs time and space you can start the rebuilding process of safety & trust.
I hope everything is good and went well with urs. Just going through the same thing with my misso and it’s definitely devastating as I’m just uncertain about my future but everyday waking up and just trying to focus on myself has helped. I still overthink and get worried about it a lot but everyday I can see it get better and I’m being more happy working on myself and doing things I want to do
I just wanted to give an update - Me and her are no longer married. But it was a decision made in unison. We agreed that we had been drifting apart for a long time, and that we would be better suited as just friends. She still enjoys her alone time, and I am slowly starting to open up when it comes to dating. We are better friends than we have been in years, since a lot of the tension is now gone. And although this video, and Geoffrey's other videos, didn't end up saving my marriage, I have learned SO much that I will bring with me into a future relationship. So, thank you Geoffrey.
Space is key. After watching this I’ve come to realize and understand that I was focused on the outcome rather then to just give space and time. It’s been almost two and a half weeks since everything hit the fan but it’s been on the downhill for more then 4 years. I’ve come to the realization that I’ve caused a lot of pain and hopelessness for my wife of 7 years together for over 12 years. I’m now on the path of changing myself first and permanently. Your videos have been getting me through these past couple weeks and I truly appreciate all you do to help men help themselves. Thank you.
From experience: Do not be fooled……..she’s not coming back. Space means I have, or want to have ANOTHER guy. Why would you want space or distance from someone you love. Stop believing this “she’ll come back” nonsense.
@@cosmicmeat3277 I didn't get her back but, I learned what was wrong on my end of the relationship and his vids helped me gain closure. I'll be better next time is how I look at it.
I am in a LDR for almost 3 years but she said she needed space weeks back because she thinks that we couldn't make it together in the future. I really can't handle the thought of loosing her, I kept texting her and being just spamming her with reassurance and love. These past weeks I kept asking her to tell me how she feels whenever she is ready but she never did. After watching this video I understand now I should focus on myself and get ready for the result even though it may be bad. Even though I love her more than anything, but I believe right now I should just be patient. Update officially ended things 3 July 2022 She came back after 1 month but all she did was left again. I decided to move on because holding on to someone who already gave on our relationship is just causing yourself nothing but pain. Trust me cut off contact, she keeps trying to contact me but just focus on you now. Now I am working out daily and focusing more on my life, I feel a lot better about things. For all the people out there struggling right now with theirs. All the best to you and if it goes downhill then don't be afraid to focus on yourself, there's more people out there that will appreciate you. Everything will be okay.
Yes woman are weak they think they are strong. Go find a province girl in the Philippines that hasn’t been molested by western media and you will find a good loyal hardworking woman who will never leave your side.
I’m going through this now. 8 years together. She’s been gone for just over a week. I’ve made some big self improvements with the time with my job and myself.
Just to update. We ended up getting back together for a week now. She just started moving her things back in. She was gone in total for a month and a half while I worked on myself. I'm a lot better now.
Hey rob, i wanted to know something. So I've been dating this girl for 8 months now, we love each other soo much and suddenly because of some dumb decisions of my she doesn't want to talk to me,she hasn't broken up with me or anything but she doesn't talk to me and tells me not to text her,she hasn't blocked me and this posts sad stories on Instagram, but she also suddenly says i love you and i miss you?and to make things worse im the most anxious person i know, so it's really difficult for me to go through this tough time, I just wanted to know will my situation get any better? And can you suggest me some tips to ease my anxiety? It's so hard on me, i check my phone every now and then just to see if she texts me.
So I’m here a bit late, I made the mistake of trying to pull her back in after she asked for space and she came back temporarily but said she didnt feel attached, and it just didn’t feel right. So I told her that I respected that and if she didn’t think it would work I backed her up on the decision to end things. This was about a week ago and we’ve been in contact through text, and once in person. She says she needs time and I’m smart enough to not pour my heart out and beg for her back. But I understand I’ve handled some things poorly, and hope to restore what I lost
I was completely shattered when she said she wanted space, everything you’re saying is so true and I was so scared of losing her forever. But watching this really helped and made me realize that I just need to work on myself and have patience and respect her decision for wanting space.
I just started watching your videos and these are exactly what I needed thanks! I've been really miserable and constantly texting her solutions but I really need to give her the space that she asked for cause I was afraid and worried she will leave me. This is my first real relationship ever, and I hope this process goes well. Thank you!
@@GeoffreySetiawan Thank you soo much Geoffrey! My gf messaged me today saying that she misses me after we were in no contact for a few days. I kept watching your videos to not only help me feel better, but make myself a better person than I was before. Everything you taught me was 100% accurate. Thanks!
@@christopherkim1581 yea that’s what I’m wondering I been on break for 2 weeks my 4 year GF ain’t missing me at all she enjoys the free time seems like don’t pick a party girl idk if she’ll ever come back
GEOFFREY THANKS .MY QUESTION IS I HAVE DIVORCE MY WIFE AFTER 7 YEARS IN MARTIAGE . SHE NEEDED TO MOVE ON HER OWN . AFTER SHE MOVE OFF FROM ME . NOW SHE TIMES CALL ME TO HELP HER WITH THE KIDS .SHE WANT ME TAKE THE KIDS TO THE KINDERGARTEN. I DO NOT CALL HER I HAVE DECIDED TO DO NO CONTACT .SINCE IT WAS HER DECISION TO MOVE OUT FROM ME . SHE TAKE KIDS FROM ME AND SHE NEED HELP WITH THE KIDS HOW COMES I THINK SHE IS USING ME . I NEED YOUR HELP . EMAIL ME .THRU ASUM114@HOTMAIL.COM
Fast vs right ! It changed my thinking completely. Time heals all wounds and I must be a consistent positive presence during this time and understand if she is who I truly love then the time will not be bothersome and patience will be required. It is a true test of love and manhood in my opinion. Thank you for your insight. It means so much
I’ve changed for her many of times but after I get her back I go back to my normal self. 2 months ago I changed for myself for the first time in this 3 year relationship of back and forths. I thought things were getting better but she doesn’t believe that I actually changed for myself she thinks I’m just trying to get her back again. I thought I had her back and was gaining trust but now she wants some space. I think she jsut want time to really think if she’s willing to give me another shot. And if she can get past the resentment she has towards me. We’ll see what happens. I’m gonna give her some space. She said she still loves me and wants things to work but needs time to think if she can give me another chance and get past her resenent and trust issues with me. I’ve never cheated or anything like that I’ve just been a shitty boyfriend and I didn’t realize it for along time what the issues were.
The need to give her space is clearly a massive oversight for most men and sure it’s good to be a man and take the initiative but this only seems to work as long as the lady does her bit too and not just blaming the man all the time. Surely it has to be a two way process?
This is the realest advice I've heard on this topic. Way better than those "five ways to..." or "three texts to send..." articles out there. I'm glad I found your channel, my girlfriend of almost five years just moved out on wants to take a break, and everything you've described encapsulates my situation so well.
Yes i do expect my husband to be a good listener & not giving judgement when i said something . It really makes me reluctant to express my feeling to him.
Thanks again for the information. I really like the point that you say you need to improve yourself for yourself. I find myself understanding that more and more everyday. I'm finding this whole process more positive to me and becoming a better person. In the end it up to you to become the better person you want to be. " There are no shortcuts" and I wouldn't have it any other way
Is it okay to miss her while I'm bettering myself? Sometimes, I could be doing something in my day, and boom, all of a sudden, I wanna talk to her. Or I feel blue because I can't. Is that normal?
Some of the problems I find is that gossip between your wife/girlfriends friends can be very damaging. She has most likely spoken to them about the things which annoy her about you! As we know people tend to dwell on the negative points and not broadcasting the positive memories. Especially if her friends are not having luck in relationships and your wife/girlfriend tends to moan about her man to make her feel at their level. If Her female friends don't have children they are a bad influence, The ones who do have children but divorced are never likely to admit to your wife/girlfriend that they made a mistake. Also the chance of your wife/girlfriend telling her friends she made a mistake or swallowing her pride and changing her mind is also unlikely.
This is exactly my position. I found out my wife’s friends were talking negative about me and that had an effect on her. My wife admits that her friends are toxic and they do her no good.
Thank you so much for this video, everything you said I witnessed just a few days ago and thought I was on the right track but I was fooling myself and your right, she was suspicious, I understood why but it still frustrated me. I gotta focus on me. I don’t have to have the goal of proving it to her. That’ll just be the outcome. I gotta put my growth as priority for myself. Then she’ll see it. You taught me that today.
Honestly, anyone needing this video is better off without the person. Yes, all of it is true but do you really want someone you have to bend over backwards for who doesn't want you in return? Find a woman who wants you the same.
I personally don't understand the space thing but as I am going through it and watching this video I understand how important it is to a woman to have it and I've had my impatient episodes where I plead for her to comeback. I need to control my emotions, work on myself and give her space to heal and gather her thoughts.
I am so thankful for you guiding me towards this video Geoffrey. I will have to watch it a few times for sure to learn very well the concept. Thank you for all your great information, and great explanation on how to approach this type of situations. Stay blessed!
I came here because, as the woman in this situation, I'm struggling with his "changes" being sincere. I'm trying to figure it out, and the more we talk and open up to each other, the more confused I feel. Thank you for giving this advice in such an authentic manner, hopefully it will help many couples resolve their issues!
It's been six months and that's enough wasted time for me.I have no idea what,where,who ,when and have lost interest. I'm done with this unnecessary drama. I literally went through hell while she partied and picnicked.
Great information. Looking for the outcome instead of understanding the process makes a lot of sense to me. We sometimes just jump ahead wanting to get the results we want.
I had this friend who would perceive me needing space as me requesting for the friendship to end. He would send me messages guilting me into seeing how good our friendship is and how bad it is to walk away from it. And then when I try to explain to them what I actually mean and how it doesn’t mean the end. They would just give me a few days to a week of space where they continue to just share mini messages. And then after that small period they would come and guilt trip me that I’m not doing anything to fix our friendship and that I destroyed it! Sometimes needing space just means needing space. Not just from one particular person but from everyone. It means needing space to step back and introspect. To work on some deep emotions and deal with them. It means I just need silence to be with myself and work on myself. It’s just that. No need to take it personally and freak out about it.
I recently started talking to this girl and she said she needed space and which I have given her. I was hoping to at least reach out and wish her a happy birthday and see if shes doing any better. I think ive actually grown a bit because in the past i would freak out with other girls and go off the deep end, but with her Im learning to be more patient.
what if she had an emotional affair leading upto breakup and now she is with him...? he's successful, mild mannered, and they supposedly get along great and never argue and have tons in common! I supported the friendship because he was supposedly gay. Now hes confused.I supported the friendship and watched her drift away. Im 99% done with her. Cant allow her back in.
My girlfriend had asked for space and I was falling apart for the first few days and then I realized that I had been overwhelming her with to much love and attention and this space has helped me realize all of that and your video helped me lose my anxiety about the whole situation so thank you so much
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I did the same thing and now she has just presented the "we are going too fast" "I need space" message. If two people love other, hey can't you slow down and reset? Throwing away a great connection is stupid
@Sporacle super late but no I learned later she was horrendously manipulative and had a lot of learning to do myself. I'm now engaged to a different girl
I love your content. You are ensuring the path I am already on and that this is the time to work on myself and restructure my focus in life. I feel that I made progress and that I am more happy and fulfilled. However, do I try to take any actions to communicate these changes to her? We had no contact for a few weeks now and due to a kind of long distance between us, we do not see each other randomly.
The most powerful way to showcase your changes is by letting her choose WHEN to be curious, and HOW she wants to find out. If you decide this for her, it will de-value your changes a lot.
It’s been two months. I requested to give her space, was that wrong of me? It’s because I pushed her away due to self doubt and invading her space in a way. She had a lot going on personally for her. So I wanted to give her space to figure out things on her own. I want to reach out to her to take accountability for my actions because within these last two months I have been working on myself and some days I did self destruct but I picked myself up. The changes I made are permanent, I understand I can’t always be around or up under her 24/7 because she will feel suffocated in the relationship. I found enjoyment in doing things alone and enjoying my own company.
Great advice again, people forgot about something, if you were in a "healthy relation" (that exclud toxic relation), even if you had problably mess up few things. Be sure there is a lot of things you did right, and your partner is not stupid, at some point the "need space" will help eachother to reminder good things, cause when emotion are messed up, the partner who ask for space, at this point he/she see only negative things (including her/his trauma if partner need time to find him/herself). In the other hand, the one who have to accept that "i need space" feel he/she cannot live without that person. So when you wait few weeks or months, at some point, the water will remain calm again and at that moment you and the partner will be able to communicate again. If the relation wasn't a toxic one, be sure the partner will came back eventually, but eachother need first to work on themself. So trust your partner and give them the space they need, it whill just show how respectfull you are
my girlfriend says she does truly love me and wants to be together & doesn’t want to break up but she constantly goes hoursss without responding but post constantly on social media.. & says that she just needs space. i don’t understand how she truly feels, what does this mean???
This is definitely my situation I'm really struggling with giving her, her space ...she has admitted to me that she has been talking to somebody but she also said it's nothing...so knowing that that's what's making it so hard for me to give her space .... we been together for 18 years
@@dadunbar20 I am going through this right now. We've been together for a year and she says that her clinical, life, and a relationship is all too stressful. She said that staying w/ me means marriage + kids immediately (which I told her that we can wait) but I guess I missed the part where told me it was stressed and maybe I responded the wrong way idk. Any advice?
I've lost my partner and they have made it clear that they are never coming back. But I'm not giving up hope. I am going to stop worrying about getting her back and start working on myself.
Hey Pranjal, Work on yourself to become the best! Your partner and the external world will naturally see your changes… We have had many clients in our program that have made massive changes to re-attract their partners. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ru-vid.com/group/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU Client Review Screenshots: drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
@@GeoffreySetiawan I believe it too, but in my case as it was a distant relationship, my ex wouldn't be able to see how much I've changed unless I ask them to talk or ask them to meet or atleast let me visit them
@@clayallen4354 Nope, it's been 1 year now, never had the chance to contact her. Deep down I know she's never coming back but I'm never giving up hope because that is my choice and something I control.
This happened to me. She wanted space or a "break". We talked it trough she said she just needs time for herself to clear her mind and process her feelings for me and than she moved out from my house, took all of her belongings, told me everything will be fine. 3 days later shes dating another guy. This was a woman I was about to propose. I loved her sho much and she loved me for some time. We never spoke again since.
Hmmm. Great video and definitely on point! My Wife feels a break is needed but our issues are so fixable I said let's just take the necessary steps to fix things by making changes and forgiving one another for things. I have seen though she has entertained 2 guys back and forth on Facebook messenger so my thinking is a break would be to do just that and I don't agree with it but I know it's nothing I can control but I'm still praying and hopeful about the marriage overall. Im already working on myself but ofcourse we're trying to do a separation in the same home that we share a child together as well so it's tough to actually leave the home for either one of us.
May I ask how does it goes? My wife also asked for space after 24 yrs of married and I'm hurt so much. She can't talk the problem with me but she can talk to other guys during our "cooling of period"
Hey! So I’m currently in this situation, I’ve been seeing this girl for the last year now. We’ve spent most of if not all of our time together. She’s been recently going through some tough times recently and two weeks ago she asked me for space. I was being stubborn and selfish because this made me anxious and the more she asked for space the more I wanted to get answers and talk to her. I realized I’ve made a huge mistake, this was toxic and selfish and I regret it so much. I finally realized my mistakes and apologized to her and told her i’d give her the space she’s been asking and work on myself in the mean time. I really miss her and hope this relationship can be fixed, I’m wondering if it would be fine to message her and wish her a happy Thanksgiving as it’s in two weeks. Will this be okay? Or should I not say anything at all? Also, is it ever okay to contact her first after I believe I’ve evolved and bettered myself or no? I’m worried she’ll move on and not reach out first if I don’t as I really want to fix this or at least get a chance to apologize and get closure in person.
dw bro, it will be exciting for her to feel single again and talking to a new man. but after a little bit that excitement will wear off and she will miss you alot again. Just dont reach out to her she will come back
When you “give her space” she’s just trying out someone new. If it doesn’t work she may come back. If you wait for her, you are absolutely pathetic. If she moves, it’s over! Never let her come back. Have some self respect.
It’s been two days and this video absolutely pin pointed me to a T. This is so heart wrenching but I need to be have patience. I subscribed because your approach seems like the right advice.
If you are a homeowner and she asks for space this is where it becomes a whole different issue. I honored the space that she wanted, and financially I don't have the money to pay rent somewhere while paying my mortgage. Regardless I paid for an Airbnb apartment for 22 days. I am still maintaining my house lawn and pool etc When she is not home in the evening. So there is a timeline of when I am coming back home. After my rental is up and I have no more money. Either we figure this out and continue to work on things, or a for sale sign goes in the front lawn. We've been together 28 years, and if we can't figure out if we want to be together after that long of being apart we lose everything. So in my opinion this is where separation gets very complicated when you own a home together.
Hi Geoffrey, Great video and very helpful. I recently had a partner ask for a few weeks of space. She’s going through a lot and she and I both know I was not emotionally stable to be able to support her which is what I wanted to do. I suffer from Emotional Instability Personality Disorder and have been going therapy and counselling as she asked me to to try better myself to be able to support her and show her I’m committed to changing. I am just wondering how long is a few weeks? Also the fear and anxiety of wondering if she will come back after a few weeks or is she just saying a few weeks to soften the blow if that makes sense. Thanks for your videos and support.
The plant has died.She can have it. She likes killing things like relationships,41 year marriages, trust, communication, affection, loyalty faithfulness,the truth, respect and love. It's gone.
So I've been dating this girl for 8 months now, we love each other soo much and suddenly because of some dumb decisions of my she doesn't want to talk to me,she hasn't broken up with me or anything but she doesn't talk to me and tells me not to text her,she hasn't blocked me and this posts sad stories on Instagram, but she also suddenly says i love you and i miss you?and to make things worse im the most anxious person i know, so it's really difficult for me to go through this tough time, I just wanted to know will my situation get any better? And can you suggest me some tips to ease my anxiety? It's so hard on me, i check my phone every now and then just to see if she texts me.
So my ex is with someone else, but i find this helpful because right now, I'm working on myself and its been hard for me not to work onnthe outcome but im working on myself, I'll take your advice and give it time
I am making changes helping around the house, spending more time with my daughters and going to the gym. I feel real good inside doing this, but she’s not taking my changes well. She’s constantly saying after 18 yrs now you do this, is not worth it, I don’t love you anymore. Be happy yourself in your ways because I am looking for my happiness. She says many things that not only hurt, but make wonder if I’ll be able to eventually gain her back. Can you pls give me tips on how to properly answer when she says all this things, without pushing her back.
I’m in a tough situation. My girl and I have been together almost 7 years. We are on a break now but we still live together. I have nowhere to go. It is very hard to give her space because I don’t have a car. I leave and go for a walk and within a hour she calls and ask me where I am. She told me that we are more likely to get back together. It is very difficult but I love her and I have been working on myself and she is noticing.
have you tried not answering? let her wonder about you bro, she needs that space. when she asks what you were doing just tell her you needed some exercise. take up a hobby you can do outdoors and go do that. photography, painting/drawing, literally anything, just get out of the house and let her think about you.
@@aehrasyt yes I have not answered. One time I was gone for hours and she called me five times in 20 minutes. She got mad. It’s weird though because we still hug and kiss each other. It feels like we are not even on a break sometimes. I tell her I’m going somewhere and she want to go with me.
She broke up with me 3 months ago terribly angry because she said no marriage proposal, I begged and pleaded and did all wrong, the last time we talked was a month ago and now the quietness from her is deafening, how much longer
What if she’s with someone now? I don’t think I can get over that. The relationship wouldn’t work with all this resentment even if she came back. I don’t think she is coming back. Should I be moving on and just wait for the divorce papers and move on?
Geoffrey, you are so wise and intellectual. Although this video is meant for men, it also helps women reflect on themselves. Thank you for sharing your knowledge :-) you’ve given me a glimpse of hope.
Hey man! I need your help my girlfriend is asking to give her space a second time I really love her. She’s stressed with two jobs and I feel sometimes doesn’t mean to say some of the stuff she’s thinking when she’s stressed she’s always been affectionate in the past with me this is the last message she sent me after I got off a call with her “I don't think it's normal for ppl to not feel the same way and continue a relationship it doesn't make sense. I won't make a decision tonight. Just please don't call or text until next week I need to clear my head” so now I’m planning to give her space for like two weeks then message her unless if she messages me back! I need help guys do you think there is hope she will reach out to me? If anyone could get back to me soon that be great! Thank you!
This new age crap its like dealing with a child.. do you want to be here by my side or not.. total mental cases were are not phycologists. Cant deal iam moving forward, my time and love is just as precious and id rather give it to someone that wants it.
When she gets her nails done hair colored a bbl a new purse lying all the time shes finding herself shes done with you and is looking either to be alone and feel good about herself or to find another man .
Seriously such a comfort to hear just to here you talk. My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years and we were 17 when we got together, we had to move in together quickly because her family was moving away and she didn’t want to leave. So we stayed at my dads for 7 years and saved/ bought our house together and we have always been extremely happy. Everyone is super shocked to hear that she wants to part ways because we are know as the power couple and have been referenced as Marshall and Lilly from the show HIMYM if you know that one. But She wants space for us to grow and I’m terrified I just want to move back home. This could not have came at a worse time my grandmother passed away Sunday and we were all very close. I know space is what she needs I really want to move back home she is my everything.
Hey man, any updates? Also I’m with you 8 years since we were 19. Any way yea Geoffrey is the best one I’ve found on RU-vid especially for long term people. No playing ego games, just better yourself. And I’m in like week 4 of space and I think I’m finally nearing that point of not latching to the outcome. But that also scares me because then I’m like well then if I stop caring about the outcome does that mean that the relationship is over??? Because definitely not the outcome I prefer.. I’ll make peace with eventually and respect her decision but definitely not preferred… but yea I hope it worked out for you man.
@@Rbear266 yeah mine isn’t 8 years but year and half and idk we’ve been very close and we moved in together at my parents very early and now she’s want more space to do her own thing which I completely understand and I’m trying to do my own thing. But I fear I’m also too attached to the outcome and going to be too pushy. I’m just afraid if it’s because she’s falling out of love with me as she doesn’t know if this relationship is going to last but she’s made it some what clear that she thinks it’s because she doesn’t feel happy in the relationship but loves me a lot and wants more time to be able to do her own thing. I can only hope giving her space will work as I know jsut continually pushing like I’ve somewhat done previously isn’t going to work. Plus it feels super weird to go against what u want to do
@@nickc8656 well my girl just “officially” broke up with me 5 days ago. But has been reaching out everyday with weird messages about ‘look at this, I just want you to be proud of me’ which is confusing the shit out of me. But I’m trying no contact meaning not initiating but responding for now and might have to send her a message about like please stop sending me these messages because they are messing with my emotions. If we are broken up we are broken up
Hello , i have a problem. My ex was depressed for last two months and now she wanted to leave me. She was crying like never before. She said there is problem inside her and everything i do for her is perfect but she doesnt fell happy ( she said that she dont know where is the problem for this) should i contact her or leave her alone and just wait
Hey man. I really appreciated this video. So a quick synopsis. We had been dating for 2.5 years. I have a 3 year old son, and she is not the mother. The initial reason for the breakup was because she still hasn’t met my son, the lack of security I gave her and the drama that my sons mother can cause. She loves me very deeply and has thought a lot and wants a future with me but because of those three reasons she has lost hope that can happen. A couple weeks ago I wrote her a letter and we met up and I really shared my heart and I Believe she heard it and was very responsive. She told me the next day that if she was gonna come back she needed time and space. Although my situation has some specific details would you say all your tips still apply. Sorry for how long this is haha.
Ole i am in the same boat but the other way around. Honestly i could do what you did just to hear you out without disrupting the space she has asked for from me. Would be ok to share some thoughts on how to go about it.
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The girl that I’ve been seeing for almost a year suddenly went cold on me after we had a few fights. The last time I had contact with her was 2wks ago. I text her that if she needs space or a break I said ok take all the time you need at this time I’m gonna work on myself to be a better person. Her reply was “ im so sorry that im hurting you, that’s all I need is some time… thank you for everything you’ve done for me and my daughter this really means a lot” I’m hurt by this i truly care about her but I’m exhausted I’ve done what I can and I am working on myself for the sake of working on myself. My question is how long will she contact me? how long should I wait?, what if she loses feelings during this little apart? 😔
Absolutely amazing insight, thank you. I've recently been through a breakup where my partner said she needed to be on her own, and my first instinct was, "I need to tell her how I feel immediately and try and get her back!" Thank God I found this video - I'm now spending the foreseeable future giving her space, working on myself and how to become a better person in my relationships...whether that's with my ex or someone else in future.
Insightful...actually realization came much later..still processing the fact that "its always how long it shud take ME to unlearn-learn-to communicate-not ro communicate-react-not to react- face the battle inside"..detaching from outcome with positive mindset too tough..but may be the way
Your methods are different than most popular authors on YT. However, it feels correct... like in the heart and chest i trust this, not that it will work 100 but instead, its showing required attributes (kindness, patience, selflessness,etc) relationships need
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So I am going through this. But, I have no idea why. I have not been attached or needy. I have giving her her own time. I do know she is going through family issues and she has brought up kids, marriage and moving to the next step. She told me she felt like she is falling behind with kids. She is 24 and I am 30. Would that cause her to want space? I have told her to communicate with me when she has issues but she does not know how. She goes through self esteem issues also, eventhough we have been dating for 2yrs+. 🥴
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Man you are so right!!! It's been hard during this separation but I'm seriously trying to better myself without sabotaging myself, I'm still sad and I miss her of course but I want to be a better ME, everything you say is so true!! You are helping me so much
Good video, 4 weeks ago my wife told me we’re separating and she was gonna get her own place. I was devastated. But it’s also been a blessing because I was not there emotionally for her for years, I started seeking counseling and my eyes are wide open to the pain I have caused. I’m trying to better myself every day. If it works out for us great, but if not I will be a better person in the end. We’re still in the same house and her new place will be ready in 2 weeks. Yesterday I think was good and bad. We ended up having the best sex in years, we then had a great day shopping for her new place and getting lunch, we talked like we never have. That night she said this was a great day, but what will tomorrow be like, she’s still very much got a wall up and not sure if my change is real, but I truly think she’s starting to see I’m doing this for real, now the bad, having a day like that just really terrifying to me knowing she’s still leaving and complicates the situation. We shall see where this ends, but I’m hopeful, she’s been my best friend for 25 years.
@@Midwest31792 We continue at the same pace. We’re slowly getting to know each other again. She admitted this week she’s not sure she can ever forgive me completely for the past. But she also stated she is jealous someone new will get this new improved version of me. Right now I have to just keep doing what’s right for myself and building on my own strengths in life and hopefully one day we can find our way back to each other. I know she needs to see the other side of life and date other guys and see what’s out there. It’s hard and I try not to think about it, but if she doesn’t she will never be fully committed to our marriage if she did choose to try again. Yes it’s high risk for my emotional well being and yes it’s possible she could find someone else that gives her everything emotionally I never could, but then again maybe she wont. I have surrendered to the fact that it’s in Gods hands and if it’s meant to be it will someday happen. Everyday is tough and I think about my poor choices I made that caused this. I hope this helps man and I’m praying for you
