What to do when you meet a girl you like, you start talking and texting each other back and forth, but she takes way too long to respond and text back to you.
I BROKE up with a girl I was dating for over a year because 7 days past on a text . I gave her the time and place to meet me and asked if she could be free. No response after she agreed to meet me at first. She was watching my stories too. So I let her go. She had 7 days . BYE 👋
I'm glad I watched this video. I had this situation in my hands and I'm glad I didn't make any mistake. I just wanted some encouragement and now I got a text from her. Imma take my time to reply. Thanks dude
It's a good video. Thank you. Especially at the 3:05 mark. I think we all can't help it when we WANT them to respond quicker. My biggest pet peeve however is when a woman says they don't want to play games with you, and then they proceed to do exactly that. No one is ever honest these anymore.
That’s how they are immature overgrown children... it’s funny because they have mouths but don’t use them for the truth but for a lie and other things..... their lost a women who’s has no accountability is a danger to your life... these women think it’s look to cheat and hot girl summer... but they all have to pay for what they do.. as we all do but when they look for a man who can be their it’s going to be to late.. when she begging for her life it’s to late... everybody doesn’t like games me personally I don’t care you’ll never hear from me again but that’s not the case for everybody
If I text girl and she does not respond the same day, I'll forget about her. We're all equal and If you do not value my time, forget it. Why be stress out with nonsense. Making a person wait, 3 or 7 days it's very disrepectful.
When i first saw this video, i was thinking you're gonna talk about some sh*t like a lot people do. But you're sooo objective that it makes me feel so understood! Because people don't understand that i am not a social media person. I can use RU-vid or watching some videos on social medias without texting anyone at all. And when you're pushing me to respond to you quickly, I'll feel soo pushed and will definitely lose interest! It's not that i am playing with your feelings or something. It's just that my life doesn't turn around my phone! I never check out my phone every single minute to see if someone texted me or textes me back. I'm not that kind of person. And when i feel pushed to respond quickly, i automatically feel smothered!
Social media has completely ruined the dating scene too much diamonds mixed in with the dirt makes it impossible, think it will have serious consequences if it carrys on.
If a girl double texted me as a guy it would be a green flag but it's different for women becuase they have an ultra abundance of options and they are hypergamous so they don't want a man who puts them on a pedestal whereas men love if a woman puts them on a pedestal.
I like this approach, give them the benefit of the doubt. I'm seeing a girl and out of nowhere takes her two days to respond to a text. Women have their phones glued to them. She responds and apologizes and says some stuff came up. I was ready to just ignore her and move on, but I'll respond and just significantly reduce my investment.
@@camels9654im currently dealing with this situation. Been chatting to this girl for a while and seemed like she was interested. A few weeks ago she gave me her number out of the blue (i didn’t even ask for it) we were texting quite well and now this weekend she just ignored my text for a whole day now. I dont know if she is playing hard to get, giving mixed signals or just doesnt like me at all. But why give me your number in the first place😭
That's exactly what you should have done from the moment you were ready. Move on if she is not meeting your social and emotional needs. No man who values himself should ever chase a woman. You love, you get hurt, you learn, and then you become weathered and wise. Don't repeat the same mistakes.
On some days women's interest is just lower. Just do your thing and let her get back to you at her pace, in 99.9% of cases there is nothing wrong and she'll go back to normal if you just let her be till she starts missing you and her interest goes back up because you're not chasing after her.
That way of thinking is so stupid and naive it hurts. Yeah, she will eventually get interested more out of nowhere and reply more often. Sorry but if she likes me, she has to be honest to her feelings, the "women's interest is just lower somedays" is total bullshit if true love is there.
@@ProtoIndoEuropean88Women just operate differently to us. Don't forget they have monthly periods so their emotions are always going to fluctuate dramatically. Not saying it's an excuse for women to lead us on but I've definitely noticed they are more romantic some days than others
What is this simpshit lol. She either is busy or she wants to see if you keep on textning her like you dont have a life. Guys nowadays give up to easy, if she rejected youre date invite, simply wait a week or two then hit her up again. No big deal. When you block her number you just showing her that you are a weak obsessive guy that have to have a girls attention all the time to feel secure.
I don't think this is a good advice, I just say straight up "we have to respect each other's time and if you're not capable of that then we can't be together" guys, don't try to be with a girl that doesn't appreciate you and makes you wait ages for a reply
That's true but different people have different ideas of what "ages" is. For some dudes that's a couple days, for others they have a problem with a couple of hours. No doubt that a girl will make time for you if she's truly interested, but it's also the case that the delay isn't always personal. Some people really are just not great at texting people back..or are just in the middle of something more important, especially if they barely know you yet. But let me repeat myself: no doubt that a girl will make time for you if she's truly interested, but that's no guarantee she's going to drop everything every single time just because she is. And sometimes guys and girls try so hard to pretend to play it chill that they lead the other person to believe that they don't care..instead of just being in the moment.
I will give her the benefit of the doubt and do not panic. See how things develop. Do not invest more than she is investing in the interaction. Keep it light and fun.
But by giving the benefit of the doubt, she could be interested in someone else. That's why it's best to be clear I dont need to wait three days for a message and play that game.
I get nervous when my contractor doesn't get back to me in time. If you have someone that is bad at responding. BLOCK them. They are not interested in you and worst don't respect your time. Secure women will respond or even tell you they are tied up and will get back to you. Like business. If you are dealing with a bad responder, respond with a block and find a better one.
Same with my gf. She takes hours and days to reply. It's getting annoying cause it's happening for months now. And I habe that feeling that she does it on purpose. She replied 3 days later again. Now I'm gonna make her wait 1 week
@@paul8513 I tried my best and did everything for her. She broke up with me 3 months ago. She did it in the worst way she could. She didn't tell nothing, she just ignored my messages and never ever answered again. It's been 3 months. But I got the sign and didn't text her again neither
Good sign she is talking to other dudes and hiding from all of them to not notice is when her WhatsApp has 'read' blue ticks off. That's the big major key.
Well i just kicked a girl who wanted to date me. 2 times she needed more then 5 days to reply to me Now i told her that i dont wanna date her anymore. Girls its disrespectfull and i dont care what you have to handle if you need 5 days for a response you dont value the other Person enough And guys please start to kick girls earlyer out of your live they are not worth the energy you are putting in
It's true mystery to me why anyone would respond or even remember to respond in 5 days. Either you respond right away or the same day if you want to talk to that person, or you don't respond at all.
The ad which played before this video was a guitar video tutorial hosted by James Hetfield. While she takes her time responding, i'll hang out with Metallica. (Except Lars - i'll ghost him).
If you ask me, I am ok with 5 hrs to reply but I got several 1+ days delays with fake apologies that she didn’t see the messages. What I would say is if she’s not thinking about me at least once to see how I’m doing she’s not worth it.
NO! I completely disagree with you. You should NOT give the benefit of the doubt when it comes to finding a wife. If she has reasons for not responding sooner, she will say so if she is trustworthy and genuine. If not, that should set off alarm bells; and a man should be ready to cut it off at the earliest next transgression. Set a communication boundary and communicate your social needs. If she cannot meet that, move on ASAP, self-respectfully.
the thing is, if i follow what you say to avoid being desperate, and they just leave, what do i do. suck it up and move on? they just have zero mutual interest in me back and theres ntg i can do but find another?
If she takes more than one day… she is probably not interested… I usually give women 1.5 to 2 days if they don’t get back to me like this gentleman said don’t do nothing…the only thing I do is delete the message…if a woman is really interested in you they will get back to you in a reasonable amount of time especially nowadays as most people are tied to their phones!
You put girls on pedestal too much. No one, especially women are not crazy busy like men working over time, providing, repairing, renovating. Respect yourself as a man and finds valuable women not child in girl bodies. Respect each other time!
Giving someone the benefit of the doubt for no longer than a day is not putting them on a pedestal, it's simply not taking everything so personally just because her life doesn't revolve around you yet. Granted, I'm saying this under the assumption of this being a girl you've pretty much just met. A girl you've established a relationship with routinely taking hours to respond, that's a different story.
What about a week for responding to a text? I still did nothing, because while she did Apologize and respond to my text with detail, she never followed up with any question to continue the convo. In my mind her reply didn't warrant a acknowledgement of her text, but she did earn a week of silence as i just did or better. I got no time for them games
I think the problem is many guys are messaging the same girl that's why the pauses especially now days can be cause for concern hard to find a girl who isn't talking to many guys now days
Of course. Any guy who ever talked to as many as three women at ones knows how time consuming and confusing it can be. Imagine an average girl messaging at least 4-5 guys at a time.
That's why her level of interest is important. If she has a high attraction for you, you go right to the top of her list above the other guys. If she has a low or mid-range attraction, you become the backup guy(s), slow response, reluctance to make herself available for a date. Only pursue women with high interest!
I waited for her respond within 7 days but she didn't respond,she just saw my texts and didn't reply anything. thats it bro, i'm completely done with her this is completely disrespectful behaviour.
If I text girl and she does not respond the same day, I'll forget about her. We are all equal and If you do not value my time, forget it. Why be stress out with nonsense. Making a person wait, 3 or 7 days it's very disrepectful.
@@tamborafinawhat are you expecting a girl that's not interested in you to do? Genuine question. Would you rather they reply with "Sorry, I am no longer interested?"
Send the text, forget it and if she replies, then she replies. I do not dwell or think about the text I sent. My ex gf who is married took 2 weeks to reply but her texts are long and detailed.
He always texts me first and last and the chemistry been over the roof between us suddenly he stopped texting me yesterday and I never double text just this once and i sent RIP.
For me i dont really care whether a girl replies in time or not. U reply or not reply i dont care and I wouldn't just text back again until she replies
@@80skid83 she makes you wait all day because she had work. If you expect her to prioritise you over her job then you're just a dumbass. Plus, some jobs don't even allow phones.
@@80skid83or you can just text when you're available to and not turn it into this tit for tat game. Not everyone that takes a few hours to respond has some slight or lack of interest in you, especially if she barely knows you yet. Some people quite literally do work during the day then have shit going on getting settled in for the night. Not to mention the fact that playing these kinds of games is the very thing that can push some girls to play those same games back. "9pm", what are you, 14yrs old? Read the situation at hand instead of having these concrete rules. The resentment over someone new having a life that doesn't revolve around you every hour of the day is immature.
I don't know if you have seen the movie Ghosted on Apple TV. I will not say much about it, (spoiler alert) but a guy gets contact with a beautiful girl. He sends a lot of texts. No reply for days. She has a very good reason. She is a spy and has been busy with really bad guys. I don't think it's a big chance a girl you contact with is like her in the movie 😅. Another good reason is if she is ill. When I get ill I get really ill. Can barely eat. Don't barely know where I am. If she is like that, that is a good reason to not reply for days. If she really likes you she will let you know she is busy and will reply to you later. If she forgets to reply later then she is not into you. You don't forget a person you really like. Most people use their phone all the time. Best you can do if she takes forever to reply and never text first, is to let her go.
Nah theyre on their phone 247 they are either not super interested or they dont want to seem to keen.. but if they always message back within the day or next day and agree to meet up always then your golden
I give her an hour max. There is zero excuse to take over an hour to respond to a text that you read as soon as it came in. If the girl you’re texting show’s evidence of her leaving her phone in another room at times or has met you before leave her phone at home. Then you can make concessions for the limit to up to two hours. But 99% of all girls have their phones attached to them at all times and have seen your message straight away. But at that moment she has decided that you aren’t that important. That type of attitude should never be tolerated by any girl. Only invest your time and energy into girls with high interest in you or all you’re going to end up doing is spending money on a girl who had no intention from the beginning of ever sleeping with you or having a relationship. Women are the biggest time thieves.
@ cmmontrose1469 You’re trying to justify low interest in a woman. Yes those reasons you listed are possible. However that isn’t the reason she hasn’t called you. When she does reply 24hrs later she hasn’t listed any of those excuses that you’ve just mentioned. She’ll act as if nothings happened and expects you to go along with it. Like I said before only deal with women with high interest. Life is so much easier that way. You can’t negotiate interest with a girl she either likes you or she doesn’t and isn’t going to wait 24hrs to contact you back if she does regardless of what is going on in her life. Delete the number and keep it moving.
@ cmmontrose1469 If Brad Pitt or George cloney sent you a text message. You wouldn’t wait 24hrs to respond back to them no matter what is going on in your life. And if you say you would then you’re clearly lying. The reason why is because women with high interest in a man want that man to know as soon as possible that they are available and interested. Not to lose the opportunity to get with a high value man. A woman with low interest in a man will have a maybe attitude about everything. Playing games and not being flexible or available. Wether it’s sub consciously done is subjective but one thing is for sure. When a woman is interested in a man she will move heaven and earth to be in his orbit.
F the impression. Bottom line they are using you for their own attention. Call them out on it and move on. Know sending them a f u text means they are already gone. Might as well let them know before you leave that you know what they where doing from go. Using you while she go and f another dude and when she is done she wants you all over again for her own selfishness
If a girl is taking multiple days to respond but she is still responding to your messages. It means she is talking to another guy or multiple guys at once, and you are the backup plan. How do I know? Because my ex did this to me before we got together. And I found out she was hooking up with somebody else before she met me for a first date. After we met for the first time she dropped the other dude and I never had this problem again. She texted me almost instantly every text.
They don't perceive you with much value, therefore they don't invest much. You either can call them out showing weakness and that you care about the ignoring (wrongly done) and decreasing her interest even further. Or you can text days after with something cool you are doing, so you show that you don't care about the ignoring and maybe increase her interest, also indirectly that you still think about her, so you are attacking the root (the interest), and not the effect that low interest causes. So maybe she will increase her interest over time or if not you have to move on. If you are ready to do so, let her know a clear deadline where you won't be accepting to receive messages after (not to long, this hints your value, if you put one shorter than she is answering you, she would be intested in what do you have that she doesn't know to value your time more than she does) 1. Don't increase her ego or lower your value with "i'm hurt messages aka what are you doing that you don't answer" 2. After hinting your value to her, confirm that by setting clear limits where if she wants to get something from you, she should be playing by those rules. And you have to make that be respected and make clear that you leave if she didn't pay attention to the deadline, accept to forgive if she asks to, but don't make that usual. 3. Look for the other options already, you will be better with girls who already have interest in you. You can hint that awell to the girl if she crossed the red line of limit you have set. She doesn't care anyways, but it would definetly increase her interest to make an additional effort to keep you.
Honestly the best thing to do with me personally is to not be needy. This guy rarely texts and I’m okay with that because I’m still working on myself. Plus people don’t need to jump into anything to soon because if you’re marriage minded and jump into anything too fast 99.9 percent of the time it will probably lead in divorce. I’m a woman but like watching these videos haha
Hey since ur a girl, please let me know: if I meet a girl thru online dating app, how many days/weeks should we text each other online before i ask her to meet on a date?
@@DanielMendoza-su3eiI met a woman online earlier this year and we met about two weeks after meeting online.. Don't wait longer then that it's much better in person.. Texting should only be for setting up a date..
@@Jman21UKhow is someone focusing on themselves first a problem? You'd rather a woman rush into dating you even if she knows she has traumas and/or money issues she's self-acknowledged the need to work through on her own first? What alternative did you have in mind?
This is really a red flag that the guy has way too much time on his hands... Busy people often cannot respond to non business related messages during the day. There are times I even have to ignore client texts for a couple hours till I'm done with my current responsibilities... Time is valuable and everyone rich or poor gets the same amount per day
Tbh its because i'm busy with another option I find more attractive and want more. It means theres someone else higher in ranking than you. OR if not then I simply don't care for you in that way, the way you do for me. End of. If i want someone - I TEXT THEM. Simple as.
Yup, and that is why I don't text girls back that take longer than a day. If they don't care enough, then I'm good, I'm better of with someone else. So when they rage/panic after I don't reply, it's probably because neither me or the options she might have prioritized panned out for her.
@@Atius8 TBH I wouldn't respect a guy who continued pursuing me even whilst i mess him around. If i lose the the 'other guy i really want' - i'd return to the one i'm slow texting/messing around - just to keep him for emotional needs, access to dick, someone to speak to/shoulder to lean on - all whilst continuing to pursue other guys i properly want. Fellas KNOW the signs when you're a backup option. Even if she settles for you in the end - its only until someone else better comes along. Because i've already lost respect for you, when you continued to pursue me after i messed you around. And before then, if i was slow texting - you were never at the top of my list anyway. Just being honest.
rookie numbers, i have one who takes months Seems when she feels too close, despite not having met and being very LD, she abruptly vanishes, or perhaps plays a game to see if I will chase her to another service last i heard from her before this weekend was before wuflu in the west, clearly the current excuse to contact me She's been on delivered for a couple of days now, as i didn't notice it for hours, and now not sure about replying
At minute 4, you seem desperate. Definitely not recommending. Successful seduction and dating is based on abundance of your mindset, if you have this mindset you won’t even bother.
Depends on the situation. If it's an established relationship, that's a perfectly healthy conversation to have. Dumping someone the second they do something you don't like is reflexively immature and isn't developing yourself for anything long term. In any relationship, there's going to be disagreements and attention oversights - immediately moving on from the slightest transgression just because you have options elsewhere isn't exactly a commited relationship.
Met a girl at an engagement party on Saturday. We flirted a lot, she even took pictures on her phone and then got my number to send pictures on WhatsApp. Followed me on Instagram the day after too. We danced, walked over and kissed me on the cheek randomly. Now, I tried to build a rapport whilst sober before I set the date and she’s showing dry and no interest responses. Guess I’ll move on. Edit: also providing replies within 1-9 hours. Feels too awkward to ask for a date.
This is all too familiar. Besides being generally / naturally fickle, an intoxicated girl's behavior says little about who she is and her interest level once she sobers up. When it comes to any party, I would recommend talking to girls as early as possible before they get drunk so you can who they actually are and their real response to you. Then, excuse yourself before they have a few too many. And of course, don't forget that once you see good level of interest and respectable follow through, there is an option to call rather than text and ask her out, which is still so much more compelling.
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