Allowing myself to get involved into relationships, which will not be good for me although my whole being anticipates the tragic potential already in forehand and then as second level of escapism; developing limerent feelings for another person as deactivation strategy to escape the first level escapism. What can I say: The pattern is repetitive...I'm an escape artist in hell who always only escapes the actual self made misery only to reenter the next one without the ability to break the cycle. 🤍Epiphany🤍
Getting into other people's mess and trying to make them understand while I don't follow what I preach, for myself. My another mode of escapism is taking a lot of work at once and then getting overwhelmed and do nothing. Procrastination. Day dreaming would be another thing, imagine something so big and then take no action, then get jealous for how others are doing so well while I sit here wondering about big big plans 😂
This is unbelievable timing... I was just thinking about how I am finally putting myself first in some areas, and you post this video. 🤯 I escape into creativity - arts, crafts, and home projects. ❤
I decided to let go of all of my toxic relationships, and now I have exactly 2 friends. I have been really sad and upset about that, but this video helped me realize I did the right thing. I might be bored now, but new, healthy friendships are right around the corner! Thank you for this encouragement!😊
I almost feel i lost touch with my inner warrior, I remember at one point I was really into planning my future then things happened and I don't know when, maybe because of getting too much involved with others, my life became about them, their plans, dreams, hope. Wenzes you're helping me to regain my power as an INFJ.
So thank you, really. I'll keep trying over and over. Even if i keep failing. It's very hard to not get entangled in other people's mess. This deep inbuilt quality, like an arrow always tends to point out but slowly I'm trying. It's really a choice, and a choice has to be made. Again and again. Consciously
A break up made me lose touch with what was most important to me, like poetry and other beautiful ways to celebrate life. We tend to pick up other people's opinions and make them ours.
@themountainandthesea4121 with all due respect, is it just possible to contact an INFJ like you? Just want to know how other INFJs struggle and find ways out of this life. It's way too difficult sometimes to feel so much and not be able to tell others how deep it can be.
I have released all toxic persons from my life ( so called "friends" and most family)..I am no longer tolerant of "chaotic energies " of others around me...I choose myself and I am absolutely loving it. I have peace, emotional stability, firm boundaries , greater sense of self , loving my alone time, ( no boredom for me ) I do feel younger than I did 5 years ago...Moved across the country to a place without knowing anyone. I felt at home instantly . I am embracing meeting new "high vibing" people and my new future...Feeling so blessed by this experience ❤
My elderly mother died a month ago. Then 12 days later, I was terminated from my full time job. I’m Looking at “what’s next?” I was at the point of ‘satisfied with what I had created’, as an INFJ and HSP. But the job became very hostile - and I couldn’t take it anymore and underperformed. I’m continuing to be true to my INFJ self and moving forward. Just don’t know where yet.
I really needed this, thank you so much. My escapism is love, and I keep attracting people who can't love me back. I already decided this year to start choosing myself, and being okay with the boredom and loneliness. This video confirmed I'm on the right path
I’m 47 now! I agree it took me a lifetime to get to this place! I don’t look for other people sorrow anymore. The boredom is Peace and Peace of mind is the most valuable commodity on earth! I broke up with my girlfriend, ex communicated my whole family, I have no friends but I feel so fresh so good! After experiencing this level of peace. I could never go back!
Thank you, Wenzes❤ Your voice is the opposite of defeated-- you say "We're different and moving forward into a beautiful future called 'My Epic Life!' C'mon, here's HOW..."❤
WOW! I can't believe how spot on you are. I put myself into hermit mode, forced myself to endure the boredom. It turned out that I was able to focus my energy on what I needed to be doing. I'm unstuck, still moving forward, and that vision I've had is taking shape so much faster than I thought possible. Thank you so much for you content. It's so nice to have someone that speaks my language!!!!
Yes hemit mode can be good. I also try to focus on things I have put off and just get it done so I can move on. After completing tasks it feels so liberating and gives me incentive to do more. With breaks of course.
Thank you so much Wenzes - every video has helped me to get out of my house and start making a real difference. This one is again spot on.... the boredom first....the selfish feelings of prioritising my life....and finally the joy that comes from accepting the challenge but not using all of my energy in the process. I am almost unrecognisable compared to a year ago, I will be forever grateful to you 😊
WHEN THE INFJ FINALLY STARTS CHOOSING THEMSELVES 1:36 #1 Boredom 3:29 #2 We wtart appreciating what we've created so far 6:32 #3 We start building up energy 9:07 #4 We start taking action towards our epic life 10:14 INFJ FUNCTIONS #1 Introverted Intuition #2 Estroverted Feeling #3 Introverted Thinkng #4 Extroverted Sensing 12:08 #5 We finally feel excited about our own life
I just run away, almost literally. I'll find a huge amount of relief from just disappearing/hiding from people and going off and doing my own thing. Not sustainable, though :/ Recently started putting myself first and all these things seem true, minus the boredom part for me, even though I can understand that as well. For me, it's more of a fear thing. It does explain why I've been having more energy and excitement in my life recently. I also wonder if this is why I've always felt soooo exhausted all the time since I was a teenager, so much to the point that I actually had a sleep study for narcolepsy done. Turns out I don't have that, but this could explain at least some of the tiredness (I hope!). Great video! The amount of validation and understanding is overwhelming (in a good way) 😊
Yesterday was my last day of college. I could continue with the human services program, but I choose to end so it I could focus on the goals that I want to choose. I want to make music, and build a professional RU-vid channel, and I didn't have the energy do those following the older opinions of "getting a real job". I have many skills, experiences, and identity work that I want to see actuated, and I'm taking each painful step towards my better till it's overlayed with reality.
Thank you for this discussion. I've just left a pretty bad marriage where I was manipulated to fix problems, meanwhile I was too busy figuring out the chaos between the lines in the mask that was cracking for the person I thought was supposed to be my partner. It took a little push, but I chose to walk away from the marriage and not come home anymore. It's been hard moving forward with the divorce, but I must focus on myself and focus on my path forward to be truly free. I also have a pretty hard time to stop numerating through the deceptive situations that my partner either lied, went back on their commitments to the marriage, or the times she cheated on me. I must get my head out of the fog, and focus on myself, then look for the prize ahead of me which is my own happiness.
One thing I see happening is that when I reach out to help someone they insult me and put me down. I don't wish them harm but all sorts of bad things happen to them. It is like since they kicked me out of their lives they became cursed and paid a huge price. It has happened so many times I almost wish it would not happen to them but it still does. It is like something is protecting me and anyone that crosses me becomes cursed. Weird for sure. Not that I am complaining. God said let vengeance be mine and I live by that.
I couldn’t said it better ….I Experience the same protection for my kids and myself….I also strictly believe that vengeance is the Lords and the Lords only….🙏🏻🦋
You are so brilliant in your analysis, I’m very appreciative of you’re channel, thank you, and best wishes and love to you and my fellow INFJs, keep well keep strong all,of you
This is pure genius and makes perfect sense. It also explains a lot. I've always felt better -- and done better -- when I align myself with the energy forces around me, instead of trying to resist them. Thank you for putting this video together.
The beginning of the change in my life involved each one of these five points, but especially number two - beginning to appreciate what I had created already. It had been done sometime back, but had gotten dusty from disuse. At that time I promised myself that I would (1) make a major behavior change - especially in verbal responses to rude things people said or did and (2) work out a flexible strategy to remember my commitment. I can't say that life became perfect after making these choices, but it was certainly easier to cope than it was before.
Just this last year, I feel as though I began taking the "training wheels" off of this exercise and as it has continued to become second nature, all I can say is: FACTS, FACTS, and *MORE* FACTS*!! Two things have truly stood out. One has been seeing how this ties into a scarcity mindset and learning to embrace the beauty of letting go in the sense of being beholden to no one but confident in creating my own vision in the space that was opened. The other is how much more patient and full of grace I am for other people when i first nurture that patience and grace in my own inner life. Absolutely wonderful!!
🎯 Key points for quick navigation: 00:30 *🌟 Once an INFJ chooses themselves, they must embrace the initial feeling of boredom, signaling a shift away from constant external focus.* 01:59 *🌱 Choosing oneself leads to an appreciation of personal accomplishments and a newfound positive outlook on life.* 06:20 *⚡ By prioritizing self-care, INFJs begin to build up and conserve personal energy, allowing for more sustainable giving.* 09:14 *🚀 With increased energy and clarity, INFJs take decisive action towards manifesting their envisioned life, focusing on personal goals.* 12:34 *✨ Finally, choosing oneself leads to genuine excitement for personal growth and life achievements, creating a cycle of positive reinforcement.*
Exactly now I only work on my art. I've been copyrighting my artwork for 5 years of absolute boundry building and not boring life, but lonely.. getting used to lonely becomes awesome!! You don't want dualism or interruptions.. now I'm having a huge gallery installation and my book getting published.. no no you won't feel excitement.. You need to be humble.. I think board is the wrong word.. your going to loose people..I know what you're saying I quit huge corporate job to just do me . You're choosing lonliness... do not think you can focus as a true infj.. if you want to focus on you go through the pain then excel in your vocation
The shift happens when you realise you have everything you need to be happy. It is the world which taught us that other people are a 'need' whereas they just are a 'wish'.
