And yet I get flamed by my own family for giving it to people who clearly needed it more than me. I just want everyone to be happy and fulfilled with their passion and I get laughed at for suggesting how to acheive it. Money is literally a tool
Thank you for the video, Wenzes. Very inspiring as always. Here are my personal notes in case someone finds them helpful: "Dear INFJ, Once you allow yourself to start caring about money, you will allow yourself to add more good to the world. Pursue abundance. When your cup is overflowing, you will feel SO much more compelled and capable of being a blessing to others. Take away the emotion from money. Don't make it mean more to you than it has to. Money is simply energy. Transferable energy. Money is not good nor bad. Money is only what you make of it. Having more of it allows you to shape more of the world in a way that you see fit. Unless we attach goals to certain energies, they can often have negative connotations. Let's remove negative connotations to money by setting SMART goals: - Specific - Measurable - Achievable - Realistic - Time-bound"
The whole concept of money always felt fake to me, till I became my own boss and forced my self to make money. Still today I find it very uncomfortable yet comfortable. It’s amazing how much the INFJ looks like a type 4 of the enneagram, specially the sp 4
Play the game people. Despising the Te system does nothing but you poor. Get financially educated and you will find how to get financially free from the Te system. You have a great mind for making wealth and having freedom to do what you really want in life. Good topic. 🙂
I don't think money itself is evil, but the rentseeking behaviors of those who have the most of it are. Everything is on subscription basis these days and all for the purpose of harvesting the labor of regular people. No investor is interested in producing or building, just flipping. A nuclear family has little to no chance of home ownership, time ownership, and the ability to nurture children at home. I don't mind staying poor if it means I can raise my son to be a good person.
09:30 that's a very valid and useful point to people who have been groomed to self-defeating selflessness. Right on. Pro-tip: we squander ourselves in service of the unworthy because mothers with postpartum psychosis (wish for the child to become "unborn") groom kids they don't kill (SIDS) to essentially kill ourselves for them. Don't think so? In your earliest memories of sleeping as a child what sleep position (which may have persisted until your first pregnancy or a significant injury, like mine until double hernia surgery at age 46) do you remember being your most frequent : side, stomach, or back? Yup, that's because it's a defensive posture against a scowling or menacing mother. INFJs wouldn't be INFJs without that. Stomach-sleeping doesn't cause SIDS, it predicts it. The absence of ocular petechiae just means pushing a kid's head into the pillow is preferred over manual strangulation probably because the kid's not looking back at them. Is what it is. Spend your money on yourself and let one of their other kids take care of them. That's who's going to end up with any remainder property whether by favoritism, tortious interference, or fraudulent conveyance anyway. No, of course it's not about that. Until it happens. And you realize you got played. Turns out autistic naivete / gullibility is a groomed trait. Told mine she better find someone else to call if she didn't want me to stick her in the nursing home with the most complaints. Maybe that's what's sigma awakening refers to. Regulatory violations change but yes I found the one with the most to be sure I could. And she still stalked me for 4 1/2 years ("just cutting through"🙄) only having the Jehovah's witnesses take over for her (which they actually did by handwritten letterwriting campaign) because of quarantine.
I've never care about money since I'm a child, I've been living my life like I don't need money at all, when I do have money I just give it to someone who's in need not only money but anything that I have, the thing is I just don't give it to just someone, I give it to anyone whom I think is "deserving" to have it.. I does this things because, I know my self that I'm capable of making a lot of it if I want to... And by this this year, I'm going to test it if I'm really capable of making a lot of it... If I can do it, then the people around me will be the one who's going to be rich... ??? I wasn't born in a rich family.
@@walecznypegaz3584 well played bro.. lets keep in touch with each other, maybe we might be of help to each other someday.. maybe we can Just be exchanging advice we learn from our experience...
For me money is a means to an end. I want my ends to be able to do more than just wave at each other. I need enough money to pay my bills, to purchase needed items like food, clothing and a roof over my head. I don't hate money or feel like it's a bad thing, it's just how money is often used that can be bad. I don't need money to buy designer clothing, bags or shoes; those things don't make me feel more worthy, or better about myself. I neither want to be rich nor poor. Both of those scenarios often have negative consequences. I respect money and what it can do for you and others, but I don't love it.
I recently stumbled onto your videos and you make a lot of sense. I have my own business and for the last 4-5 years I've been sabotaging it because I have 1-2 years worth of money in the bank. I agree with setting goals, something I've been good at, I still am. But for the last few years I've really lacked taking action. Even now I'm watching your videos instead of working! Any suggestions?
When a dollar bill sees me coming, ie, a job, it will develop wings and fly away. This seems like, maybe, a lie, however I've never been without work in fifty years. I've attempted to thwart the wings of money by working overtime. I did this as an experiment. I would more often than not be surprised by an auto breakdown, unexpected IRS bill and lean on my bank account. It never mattered. When I was able to invest $36,000.00 in the stock market, the housing market went south and that forced me to withdraw money from my stock account. I never could win.
Thanks for this much needed video. I enjoyed listening to your views on this matter. And specially of your constructive suggestions. As an INFJ i felt money is a great teacher! I have a typical INFJ relationship with money. I treat it with care and spend without thinking when it helps the most but don't keep chasing it and always strive to create meaning (at times without earning) but keep an eye out when I may start hitting rock bottom...
So true, I can from very humble beginnings and very poor country. I have helped many of my family but they hate me because they regard me as being now bad as having more money. I decided to cut contacts as they’re trying so hard to make Me feel guilty for achieving so much more than people like me in my circumstances. I’ve done incredible things on very little I have to work on. I just spend on what I enjoy and sometimes I catch myself wondering how on Earth someone like me can afford that? Wait? Who is ‘someone like me’ ? Yes I’m some Part of my brain I’m still that very poor student who couldn’t even buy bottled water in the hot sun in the city. This is the mentality I worked so hard to get rid of and I’m succeeding. Someone like me is now able to book lovely holidays, live in a house in a very decent area , someone like me holds and get offered top job, someone like me now spends and earn the same as people like those has money. And that was a game changer! No one makes me feel Guilty or bad anymore for achieving so much. I deserve all the riches in the world and being a magnet to my desires I have really understood. When I have more than what I have now I would be like you Wenzes sharing my life lessons to people especially those with generational trauma that’s keeps them in scarce mentality. My friend says I should write a book about my life and how I have overcome so much, maybe one day I’ll do that!
I don't really care much about most the things a lot money can buy as in I don't care much about fancy cars, clothes, restaurants or even travelling. But I like the options that having money / resources open up in terms of living life more on my terms and being able to simply say "no". Ex. it's really nice to have enough savings to be able to tell my current boss to go shove a pile of dirt should it become necessary. 😂
We have to remember in what sort of environment we live! It's not us who likes money It's the environment that enforce us to have money in order to survive. I don't like money and definitely not in this situation we live in! It's used against humanity to keep us down and under control, that's what money is,but again, we need is in this system in order to survive, so spend it well and make a saving!!
Yeah, in this day and age, I have been wondering what I should do. I have never really taken my talents and shown everyone, including myself, what I can do. Of course, I would only want myself and people closest to me to know the full extent, but I have always known I have allot more potential and no one else sees that. When I was in my depressive Ni-Ti loop state, I wasn't able to come out to show anything. I'm still have no idea what the best thing for me to do is. I do actually want to make more money since this world has gone to hell in a hand basket and started to rase all prices for everything. I don't care about making too much, but at least enough to be comfortable living, and to actually live by myself. If I can make a little more than that then that would be great, especially for my family and friends. I guess it is time, I'm tired of living unfulfilled. Major changes need to be made. I have an ENFJ sister and father, an INTJ mother (never realize for quite a while) and an ISTP friend. I would like to do something nice for all of them.
My view on money is actually not that bad. Maybe because I grew up always not having enough. I could still ate 3 times a day but it was controlled. Controlled in way that it needs adjustments. Basically, lessen it in some days. I don't dream of becoming super rich though. What I developed from that experience is to save money. To always have a back up. It's more on preparation and the means to survive. When I have like saved more than I expected, it gives me some kind of assurance that I won't starve, my family won't starve and we have something to use incase of emergencies. I usually don't use my money unless needed. It is how I could save that much. Since, my job relocated in a place that you have to spend more. Transportation is an example. I could barely save anything now. I think saving became my second nature because I could somehow still save but not as much as before. I'm talking about coins. It's not that much but better than not having anything set aside. I still won't change my lifestyle even if I have the money. I'll focus more on convenience and comfort. Appearance wise, just a normal average person that doesn't like attention. Not very eye catching. As an INFJ, I never liked bragging or showing off. I'm a very lowkey person.
What a timing! This video is so relevant to my current situation and you have no idea how many times I have watched it and also listened! I think it’s first time leaving a comment here! Thank you!!
I was litaraly just talking about this less than an hour ago with my close friend. He asked me if I had ever set a goal with saving money and I told him I have never really thought of it like that. Your videos are always epicly in tune with me. I have litarly been saying outloud in recent hardships, "what do I need to hear Wenzes?" And everytime a video of yours relating to my situation is the first suggestion when I pop open my you tube. I appreciate your help so much and I feel like explaining a little bit about myself to you, Wenzes, I would be able to get some very wise insight. Thank you so much for helping us all. Your are an angel!
I was almost a millionaire but my ex wife drained my bank account in the most toxic and manipulative way. I am now broke and a single parent yes i have full custody of my kid, infj male here. :)
You can't help anyone till you help yourself. Another thing I could run 5-4 idiots from the neighborhood and be the go to guy. Yet I don't. Why............. 🙏😇 /🏴☠️\ What I do care about is "Just Do The Right Thing." You got that right that "Energy and Karma."
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That do be true. The reason I want to make more and more money is so I can work less and less to enjoy the financial freedom, to be able to work 10-20 hours/week and with the rest of my time to enjoy my hobbies and friends/family. That's about it and it's easier than I thought, it just requieres time and patience because competence and vision was never a problem.
I used to be like I don't care as long as I had just enough to get by. Had no idea my view was negative, thought it was neutral😅. Growing up, my parents gave me a better quality of life than they had but some of the scarcity crept in. They argued about money despite having it. It made me be like I don't want to argue over it so if I just have enough (not too much) it won't be an issue. My perspective has changed a lot in the past couple of years. Having to take a major cut from working at a university to working as an essential worker while in grad school...I was grateful to work. I realized it did not serve me to work harder and receive less. Also, money is needed to help people! When I had a lot of money at once, I would give it to others or just spend it. So now, I prioritize money as a way to help myself and help others. I am grateful to finally be in a job where I do help others (work I was doing for free as a volunteer for several years). I actually make more than I ever did and now finances are more of a priority for me in regards to my future, my family, and my financial legacy. I am playing catchup now and aim to go FIRE in the not-too-distant future.
I look at money as a powerful trading tool. I don't look at it as evil. I don't make it more then what it is but I also don't look at it less then what it is. I learned the history of money and what it was ment for. It is just a tool for trade.
Yes yes yes!! Money equals opportunity. Money is a tool and it's only as "good" or "bad" as the heart of the person who's holding it. I have been financially poor my whole life, it's what I'm familiar with. I know how to make do. Which is all great except my needs and my family's needs are growing and changing. I don't want to live in this same place forever. I don't want to be desperate. I realized I had a money block due to the belief that I couldn't manage more money. I only knew how to deal with a small budget. The idea of having "too much" money felt overwhelming. It felt like I would have more responsibility than I could manage. I also worried about transitioning from my current income to different sources. Worried that I would be in over my head. I stayed persistent in securing multiple sources of income. I'm currently donating plasma which is giving me some much needed reassurance that I have the money and the power to change my circumstances. My finances are still fluctuating, but I feel secure knowing that I have this ability. Once I started getting more money, I realized how much easier my life started getting. How many things started opening up. That I could actually go out with friends. It's easy to stay in this mindset of continuing to build wealth because I always want to improve and this is improving my life ! I also never want to be desperate; I've been there and I don't like it. INFJ are already vulnerable, we don't need to add extra vulnerability by being in a place of desperation. Also, having enough money to be comfortable does not mean you stop working. It should make your life easier, but you should never stop striving for more. Once you have enough extra income- invest it! Start having your money work for you. Kind hearted and compassionate people should be the ones with the most money because we will put our abundance back into the world and give to those in need.
I never really had a problem with money until depression hit and that was just with spending it. The real problem came when someone doesn't seem to think my life is worth much if I can't make my own money to take care of myself. No offers to help pay for a doctor to get better - just I need to get a job that I can't even perform anymore so I can pay for it. Now, I just haven't even wanted it much anymore.
I am crying while watching this as it so applies, About a year ago I told myself to live my job/career as if I won the lottery. It does' not mean not expecting pay and benefits due in my position, but that I am willing to stand up for what I believe in. So far from the days from living in workman hotels by the week I once lived in. If you cannot live with a like for money, at least like how it allows you to live and be around those who motivate you. I know where the homeless hang out in my area, but I am allowed to enjoy the fact I have the power to change things versus things (circumstances) changing/molding me. It was not always the best version of me. Embrace the value of how money can facilitate you in a focus of being who you are meant to be...just like every other gift you have.
lol hehe we are talking about money but sure no problem i love pizza too i guess we gotta work extra hard to get that chicken mushroom chessy pizza 🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤😤😤
Do I have a complicated relationship to money and wealth as an INFJ? No. Not as much as I did earlier in life. I manage money even better now that I'm older. I really don't need to be wealthy; I just need to live within my means and save up for a rainy day. I also own and drive older vehicles because I'm a mechanic and I maintain them really well. No new truck payments. I'm an old soul. I like older stuff.
This is true. I have fear of money, and I hate talking about it, I hate spending it even. It's true that I associated money with people who spend it recklessly for such brand bags, and cars etc. but if I change my perspective, for me, having money means I have the power to help who I want to help. :>
Denise Duffield Thomas has been my favorite and really opened my mind regarding money as a positive force, and I think her approach would do the same for most infjs
Money is a very necessary tool,or asset, or whatever you want to describe it as, but it is very necessary to have in the world we all live in, so if as INFJs, we have some predisposed aversion to it, then that is something we should seriously take steps to overcome! Great advice! 👍😃
Money has never been a problem in my life. I have always had more money that I could spend, without being obsessed with it. Two years ago, I started a stoic experiment of voluntary poverty living a much cheaper life and drastically decreasing my working time. The only reason why I'm thinking to go back in making more money is to be able to give to charity in the measure I did before.
I agree. 💯👍While working on my job, I've been tracking my salary every pay period so I'll know what my annual salary is for the year and how much I'll need to surpass once I start my online business. Money isn't a bad thing, it's what we do with it that matters most. Some people use it for good, and others use it for the wrong reasons.
I used to literally not care about money. I just lived with in my means and saved for things I wanted while working as little as possible. Things like buying a new car a new house and fancy things were never a thing for me. I was always after learning what I was. Now That I learned, I am now doing infj things. It does help if there is a windfall and all of a sudden you have money and land that you didnt even earn, just inhertited. but because now im at another levvel. I dont wanna go back to living in a shed or a car. And I feel like I can use what I have to somehow help others even if its just a few. IT still is not ANY easier if you HAVE lots of money in fact it gets more complicated. But as a sigma infj hyoka myself. I like to learn how to really ustilize my powers and that might be sovling difficult problems with out greed.
Money is an uncomfortable subject, but it is important to know how to handle money. I was raised to save money for emergencies and for the future. As an Independent women money is important to me as a retired adult. I love to spend on nice things and enjoy my passions, but save also. It is a tough mindset because we never have enough money to do the things we want unless we work around our budget
I felt suffocated just looking at the subject… I recently found out about dyscalculia which complicates it because I’ve spent 50 years learning how to find more sustainable resources. Now I’m in a position to start living an upscale feral life I’ve been planning for years…hopefully a money manager will see the vision and want to partner with me 🙏
I wish I started liking money instead of being to unbalancedly spiritual. I'm seriously planning to become a buddhist monk, I just don't see any other goal that could be more rewarding. My monk acquaintances in top monasteries in Europe tell me that I seem to be very advanced in knowledge (probably 'cause of wisdom accumulated in prior lives), and besides, all financial problems would be fixed, for monks cannot have money of their own, they live on simple almsfood they get from laics in exchange for spiritual guidance and advices on how to live rightfully.
This one explains the importance of money a most common sense and practical way. I agree that money can give us freedom to have the things we want, and it. Can help us to plan our lives better - because we have the wherewithal to do it with. It's a nice feeling to know that we are financially solvent and have freedom to meet our needs with surplus left over for what we want. (Saving some is great, too! 🙂) It's been my experience that when I treat money like a good servant, it works well. If I obsess over it, then it becomes my boss and that never has a good outcome. How each of us handles money is very personal, but the important thing is whatever we want to do with it, it should be effective and relevant to what we need and what to do with our lives. Good video. 🙂
I started loving money long time ago and I welcome them in my life as an INFJ, however I did not have the luck to have a well paid corporate job and everywhere it was the survival mode, toxicity, predators, did not have where to go, could not stay at my narcissistic father's house, there was no shelter, no possibility to earn and save money because I had to remove myself physically from every job as it was narcissistic, so not able to pay healers or therapy to help with things keeping me from being confident in qualified jobs, my own home, coaches, there is no escape, the ancestral trauma is hard working as slaves in third category job.. so the thing is not to accept money in my life but to have freedom to align with my purpose.. how to proceed towards one's dreams without having money?
Excellent video Wenzes! I hope to get there someday. Things are finally looking to be getting on the right track with a new job I'll be taking at the end of this month, that pays a fair bit more than my current one, and some other stuff that's going on. Hope you are having a great day and weekend my friend! 🙂🌹❤👍🏼
Money is energy. I like that discription. My inner G is my inner gangster lol your right. I need to start making more money in order to help myself and help others. Thanx again, Wenzes. From wence you came...😉
For total transformation on how to view life and money, read- 'Your Money Or Your Life', by Joseph Dominguez. What value do you place on your life energy?
Do I hate the responsibility that money shows for? Is the personal sacrifice boss of my disdain of money? My $$$$$ is being sacrificed to a .1 % savings account during 20% annual price inflation...... Wenzes not wrong....
I DO love pizza! 😆 OUT- Standing, Ma'am! Sigma-ESTP mode: Gotta do it. No other option. Physical world=Physical needs...As well as- ALL ELSE! SYNTHESIS. Trackin. God Bless you!
