When They Pull Back… 

He’s talking about horses but I’m just here applying all of this to my personal relationships😌

This is one of the greatest camera angles I’ve ever seen on a RU-vid video, mad props

As a 34 year old black guy from “the hood” as they would call it, I don’t know why I find this channel so interesting, but I do.. I love the wisdom.. Much can be applied to many aspects of life and not just horses.. Thank you

This is great advice for life outside of horses. I like the part when he's talking about not controlling people when they pull away, because it's often a sign to people (and animals, they're smart too) that you're controlling. Overall awesome messages for life!

That message came at the right time in my life i got someone pulling back and my instinct was to grab. But i see and understand to just let them pullback. I appreciate your channel sir

Broken ribs don't hurt as bad as a broken heart. That needs to be a t shirt. That is words of wisdom

Needed that piece of relationship advice. Recently made the mistake of tryin to correct a pull back. Ended up causin a run away. Appreciate it, brother Dwayne.

“Horsemanship is a thinkin’ man’s game and you’re always thinkin’” No truer words! Thank you!

Awesome advice. I never chase anyone. I always do my best to set the situation up so everyone is comfortable. I loved your intertwined story about the horses pulling back and relating to people. It makes sense to not chase.

Yes, many years ago my dad loosely tied his horse with the reins to a heavy iron fence about 6 feet tall... My dad returned after phone call and walked up to the horse... The horse could have been napping... This horse was an experienced cattle horse an old settled horse that anyone could ride... this horse drug the 200 lb or more heavy iron fence across my dad's body, my dad who was in his late 60s survived, bleeding from a concussion... he was very fortunate blessed to survive.

We need more men like you. Enjoy your videos.

I’m a 70 yr old woman in South of England. I love listening to Dwayne. He’s a wise man. And so relaxing to spend time with. Thank you 😊

I love this man. Peace and prosperity y’all

I had a old horse breeder tell me about the rope halter , I had a colt and that's what I bought for him and I named him major, it's a fond memory. Thank you D.

Hi DeWayne, I’ll keep this short. I don’t have horses but know enough about them to smart about things. I farm with my brother in WI. He has horses, both riding and driving. Thoroughly enjoy your videos and your philosophy on life. There’s always a lesson or life info to learn from your stories. Thank you again and keep them coming.

Opening up to families may turn out to be one of the best things you guys have done!! You and your wife have the patience and personalities to make some folks really happy and comfortable and they will learn at the same time. It's a win-win! So glad to see you guys are doing well here in Wyoming! I'm coming over the mountain to meet you folks some day soon! Take care.

As a kid we were given an old cranky ranch horse that wasn’t fit for ranch work anymore. On delivery day, we climbed on and the young lady that was helping deliver the horse led her around for us and quickly got a massive bite on her arm. This horse came with a new pretty halter (web & buckle type) and matching lead rope with a brass snap. We learned pretty quickly that she knew how to break snaps just for fun. We ended up using a rope halter with either a permanently attached rope or a lead rope with a bull snap tied on with a bowline knot. She tested the new setup several times but eventually cured herself of ever doing that again.

Crazy the wisdom that comes from horses. Love these videos, keep it up!

Thanks Dwayne. Some great advice on horses, and on people too - I created one of those situations today, at a car park, when my car door slipped out of my hand and (gently, actually) hit another man's car. He was inside the car and got angry and wouldn't listen to anything. and I apologized several times... but had to let go. This was prior to listening to you - there was not much else I could do anyway... Hope I will have the chance of having you teaching me about cigars - and horses; and life - one day, despite I have given up smoking many years ago. Keep up your great work. You are authentic, and the world needs more people like you - sharing stories.

My dream in completing my master's degree in social psych was to see a place where families could go to experience the feeling of working together. It's actually quite rare these days. We are a sick nation and in deep need of family support groups. I am pleased to hear of your new offering. Happy trails from SE WI.

Sir, I know nothing about horses (although I love horses and animals). But I am an avid follower of this channel because you help me understand life and connections with others. Thank you for this vid and its timing in my life. Just...thank you.

I’m not a horseman, but I’m an artist. The scene here from your camera’s perspective looks like it would be the basis for a great painting. I guess I better rewind a bit and get a screenshot for a reference image. Thanks Dwayne; your demeanor and knowledge are valued even beyond horses.🫡

Finally found your channel. You are the friend or mentor people always wished for going through life. I looked for you channel for 3 days as so many people use ur content.thanks Dwayne

Sir, you talk about horses but the insights apply to so, so many different areas in life. Absolutely brilliant ❤️❤️! Your vision and understanding is just admirable

Excellent content! Thank you sir! Your school sounds amazing, I’ve only admired horses, never ridden one, but what a wonderful experience it must be! Best wishes and happy trails! 🌅🦉

You are so right that prevention is key, when we ultimately set up our horses to fail by creating a bad situation that inevitably can result in a pull back. I've been around horses all my life and so should of known better when today I created a pull back situation that I could of easily prevented. So I went to check the fit of a new saddle on my wee mustang mare who is only been broke for 18months. I went to swing it up on her without the saddle pad and I didn't have a very good grip of the saddle and knew I didn't but thought I'd get away with it. I didn't and it landed awkwardly half across her back which caused her to spook and pull back. Now this wee mare had pull back issues in the past that we have gotten predominantly over to the point she will quiet happily stand tied up, but if she spooks at something right by her, she will still pull back. But my point is that I screwed up here because I was too complacent and caused her discomfort and reason to spook. She has never reacted to gear being put or thrown on her, so again I was not expecting her to react like she did. But horses always give you a reminder from time to time no matter how good they are, that they are still a large animal that are inherently wired to take flight. But this was all my fault and I was disappointed in myself that I created the situation to make her pull back. Also never be "she'll be right mate" cos chances are it won't be. Thanks for the great video. :)

I believe I could listen to this man talk about any subject and it would be interesting.

When somebody wants to get upset and leave I let em know to close the door on the way back in, because they'll be back...

Perfect, I seen the human comparison before you got to it. Spot on again. A couple of “friends” freaked out the other day, tied to their trauma, I sat like Buddha, they can’t keep it up forever, then leave them to themselves

I don't know a thing about horses, but I sure do love listening to this man. Love the wisdom, love the videos, love the channel. Thank you Dwayne!

I like todays content on both levels. People and horses. Like you Dewayne, I’ve experienced life some and have seen a thing or two. I’m still learning though. You’re never too old to learn! People: pulling back or pulling away, you’ve got to let them “have their head” much like the horse. Maybe the time apart is needed. Maybe they need to be kept “at arms length”. Maybe there’s a lesson or two that needs to be truly experienced to truly learn. Maybe I’m the problem in this instance. Just keep in mind that as you do reach out later in time with an open mind. Horses: I think we’ve all dealt with that one jughead who’s going to try it on you, pulling back. Sometimes fear builds on fear and pulling back is what makes sense to the horse at the time. A goggle-eyed, solid paint mare with 4 stockings was my “problem child”. After breaking a halter and several lead rope snaps we switched to rope halters and never looked back. Like you, I’d rather teach to stand still with a lead over my arm as I saddled or whatever and even better teach them to ground-tie. Anyway, the old goggle-eyed mare even managed to break loose with a rope halter when she managed to break the welded on Dee ring off of my aluminum trailer. I lost it. She regretted it. I regretted it more since my response was not the right one. We both learned to come to terms but, as you know, it took a while. I’m reminded of a book I read that an old school veterinarian wrote of his life years ago. He had a horse in his younger years that took to pulling back. One day while he was out hunting strays or something. He pulled up to rest in a cool spot of trees that happened to have an 8’ deep creek in it. He decided to tie knothead up to the closest tree he could find to the creek allowing space for the horse. As expected, knothead decided it would be the right thing to do and pull back to the end of his lead rope and do what all knuckleheaded, pulling back jugheads do. As quickly as the rope got taught he pulled out his knife and off went the horse into the creek. He said it broke him of pulling back….

This is an awesome channel. My son (21) got me tuned in. I’ve been watching for a while and have this adventure on the to do list.

It takes 2 to fight, if someone pulls back, dont fight back, No fight :-) To Forgive is to Forget, Just Love Each Other, We All pull back from time to time, not every trangression is a hangin' offense...

I love the vacation/ visit option. What an experience ❤ thank you for your wisdom. One of my faves

'When you've done everything you can do but hell still comes for breakfast' 😂 great saying Dwayne...regards and respect from England

This topic got my attention. Great information. Years ago I bought land with the fencing and gates completed. I did an inspection before buying the place and made needed corrections. The main gate to a paddock had a cutoff telephone pole that the gate swung from. I had tied my horse to that pole and some spook caused her to go nuts. She snapped that telephone pole off just below the ground level. I was amazed that this relatively small horse could do that. Digging down to replace it I found the problem. Although there was a large concrete base at the bottom of the pole there was a 2 inch wide hole drilled completely through the pole. That’s were it broke. My mistake was trusting that the pole installer understood. Luckily she wasn’t hurt. But I became much more aware of what could happen in the blink of an eye. Never knew what spooked her but the spook wasn’t the problem. Lesson learned.

Thank you for this Dwayne! I appreciate your wisdom and advice in keeping my sweet 9 year old mare and myself safe. I keep a rope halter on her even when riding in case I need to take a break, but rest assured I’m going to be more discerning now where I tie her. Trying to catch a loose horse is never fun.

I see it in all the comments but I'll still say this is a marvelous example of a man.

I did ministry to hardcore criminals for well over 25 years. I learned in my B.C. life that when someone quits coming around don't go looking too much. You probably don't want to know what they're up to. No doubt a sharp knive is a must in my setting also

I'm 54 years old and have lived in the big city all my life. As a kid I was around horses because my grandma had a farm but we were never taught anything about them. Of course we were only around these animals when visiting the farm so my exposure was limited. I used to think that I was good with people but, here I am, mid 50's divorced and have come to the realization that in fact I'm not very good with people. Been watching your videos for about a year and you've convinced me to start saving a little extra money so I'll be able to sign up for your course one day. Not simply to learn a little about horsemanship, but to become better equipped in applying these lessons with my fellow human beings. Should have done something like this many years ago. I'm often brought to tears when watching many of your videos. Thank you for taking the time

I was wondering when the horse story was gonna lead into the human equivalent story. Son of a preacher man.

If you're reading this comment, salute to you bro 💯 i hope you win in life!

One of my dogs is just like a panic horse. Been trying to train her to walk, not run. She would tug so hard. So now I calm her down by just stopping and letting her wonder why we stopped. Then I praise her.. if she starts walking calmly then I give her a lot of praise. Took 3 or 4 harnesses, but she was gonna hurt her throat otherwise. Also have a relative going through a nasty divorce.. I’m the guy he vents to.. for hours and hours. I just let him talk, even if it’s the same talk I’ve heard over and over. He’s in panic mode big time. It’s mentally exhausting but I know in my gut it’s helping him, knowing that not everyone hates him. I dunno. I watched to many of Dwayne’s videos lol Great content as always. Learned something new 👍

That property is just beautiful. I hope you’re enjoying your new place.

Thank you so so much Sir I’ll see ya at the school next soon :) manifesting it big time

Thank you Sir,. Much needed and very helpful today. ✌️

Ya know? One of the best information videos on horses i have ever seen. These animals are smarter than most people. We never own them. But I see things a might different than most.

Love this one! got one that has pulled back a lot got him at 7years old and this has been a learning experience for me try not to ty him in less it's absolutely necessary once he's been risen for 10 or 15 minutes it's over he won't do it

Although I come from a completely different background, different country, different age, I know nothing about horses, I thank you for these videos, they somehow speak to me. I happen to watch them from time to time, and enjoy them. Would be nice if you shot some videos while you go out and do stuff, your everyday life. Thank you, again.

Love the metaphors!

Thank you sir

Appreciate your wisdom, Dwayne. Can’t say the same for horses.

I really love the scenery look so peaceful and beautiful also the Tempus is one of my fav cigars 🤙🏼

My job for 50 years ( yep I'm old ) was problem horses, often spoiled or horses with holes in their training. For bad ones that have learned to pull back as a way to get out of work, use two leads, one short like normal, the other long threaded through the halter over the shoulder to a crupper on the rump, crupper is of course on the tail and is padded well. There should be NO metal hardware on the lead ropes at all. If you have one a surcingle can stabilize the rope in the girth area on the top of the shoulder, and the rope should be able to slide through a ring or the handle on top. Both lead ropes tied to a solid post. Make the long one a tad shorter so they hit the end first. There should be no chance of the object you tie to of breaking or coming out of the ground. Tie a little higher than you would normally. When the horse sets back hard they pull on that crupper and believe me they pop forward and two or three times of self punishment stops the pulling. All you gotta do is watch and stay out of the way, and keep a sharp knife on ya. This way you do not have any poll damage, which you can do with any halter tied hard and fast. I've made a habit of using my old hay twine as a loop on all my hitching posts and horse trailer ties. Accidents happen, be proactive and set yourself and your horse up for success.

I like this guy

These horse lessons are amazing

Thanks Dwayne

Applying this to my relationship.

Have you made a video on how to deal with hard times in a relationship? Especially times when it might seem like the end? Asking for a friend...

Lol! Reminds me of starting my 1st horse. He was taught extensively to give to pressure. However, on one particular ride, I tied him to a pretty big dead tree about as big around as a volleyball. Being it was shedding season, he decided to scratch his neck and shoulder against that tree and sure enough he got the tree rocking and snap! It broke and fell. He was sad he lost his itching post but just stood there in bewilderment.

I like that you have a cigar

I can’t thank you enough for these videos Dry creek wrangler school! Thank you for this video

Big acrylic jars with air tight lids make excellent humidors as well. They are see through too so you can watch your cigars in their little habitat

I have never had a horse with two good halters and two solid lead ropes that could break that doubled up combination. That includes one 1/2 Percheron mare that probably went 1400 lbs. and could tear up halters left and right. A horse pulls back and I'd lay into them with a buggy whip. When they jump forward and slack the lead ropes, leave em alone. Always worked for me and I don't recall having to repeat that exercise more than a couple of times on any individual horse.

I have TWO large coolers I use for my cigars (for 3yrs now). When your Bovada packs dry out soak them in 'distilled water' for an hour dab them dry and you're back in business. I learned that from the Cigar Obsession guy, works great.

My best friends were horses growing up. They are so intelligent

Love your videos boss

Lots of people nowadays shut their brain off. Having the right tools is essential. Knowledge is priceless.

Always have the sharp knife handy. My riding buddies have laughed at me for being a knife toting old lady. That’s okay. I don’t leave home without it. Another great video to be shared.

Thanks for all the hindsight!

Great video Dewayne

Another awesome video, brother!

"Hell still comes for breakfast "

Sound wisdom, hopefully your words will help others avoid some bad wrecks. Lord knows I've had my share

There is a branch of my family that keeps to themselves pretty much, I have another branch that shares their lives. I accept both branches as they are, for our part, just being loving and available to both. This family peace does requires a little faith, hope and love though

My daddy’s favorite horse had full freedom and never left our property

pulling back is all of polarity effects, worthy thoughtful.

Thanks, and God bless you

Good video.. work with a bunch of younger guys/ gals that could really use your insight with horses… We were doing trail work & leading horses & some of these folks tied the lead rope to their belts… I tried to suggest they just make a bight in rope & tuck it in their belts… they looked at me like I was insane… one day their horses will set back & jerk then to ground… maybe they’ll learn then… I didn’t get this old doing stupid stuff around horses lol

Notification squad here!! So happy to see a new upload!

Please name the new school next year, “City Slickers”🤣

Wow, Dwayne, that is a great idea of you having a Wrangler experience options for people who don't have horses. You would have to include some outdoor steak cooking evenings A longside with cigar telling stories.we would have to bring you some cigars to try.

Great topic, sound advice.

I grew up in Massachusetts and we even had a sleigh it was awesome

Thank You I am grateful to learn from you Blessings to you and Great Luck 🍀 to you and your family and everyone so it is Thank You Father ❤️🤴🏻🦁🦍👊👑

Evening good sir always good to see your videos🎉

thank you for your wisdom uncle

You should publish a book about your experiences and wisdom so the world can also use that information

Thank you for sharing man

I personally believe care is the most important facet of life. caring for yourself is just as important as caring for others, and if we take the time to note this balance inside of us, we can act mindfully in evaluating how much of ourselves we’re capable of giving outwards at any given moment, and the times when we need to pull back and look after ourselves before we can extend a hand again. our happiness needn’t rely on how much we have or how much we lose. to me, self satisfaction with one’s quality as a human being brings more happiness than most things that i may “lose” by being kind to someone. sure, some could see these acts of kindness as objective inconveniences to oneself, but… it’s worth it. i like being kind. i like seeing others happy. and it’s a small sacrifice to see others happy most of the time-most of the time, being unkind takes more energy than being kind. i wish for everyone to look within themselves and find that part of them that feels lacking, unfulfilled-and see how giving to others and effecting positive change on the world in the smallest of ways can do the most for our own self esteem and satisfaction in life

If you teach them about poll pressure where they know how to lead up well they will understand being tied. All good advice, thanks for sharing with the general public. I've seen some bad stuff because of unaware folks.

Not only is this city girl learning a lot about the nature of horses, because of your correlation between horses and humans, I am learning a lot about humans. The field of psychology has nothing on you Mr. Dwayne.👍🏼💪🏼😬

Grass hoppers appear out of no wear!" Moths grow as big as bats!"

Oh. Horses. I was hoping the title was a metaphor for women disengaging in a relationship. 🤣

I needed to see this video tonight

This reminds me of the kitchen advice of allowing a dropped knife to fall to the ground- NEVER go to grab it because you might grab the blade. Try to make it so there isn’t a situation where a knife would fall in the first place, but if it falls, let the knife fall, assess the situation and respond once it’s stopped moving

hells coming to breakfast, from my favorite Eastwood movie, outlaw Josey Wales, thanks and God bless.

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@16:00...truer words were never spoken.

"broken ribs dont hurt as bad as a broken heart"