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All of what you said, especially in the first 5 minutes, hit the nail on the head. I've started to intentionally prepare myself for courtship and marriage for almost a year. I'm seeing a psychologist to deal with my poor attachment to my mother, I've improved my financial management, learning vegan cooking, developing my business, working on my health and self-care. I've also started reading books, understanding my role as a wife, etc. It's quite an exciting journey and I've definitely scared that I'm not even ready although I want a relationship. This video was really helpful and affirming. Thanks for this. I think I'll contact you for coaching at the end of the year. I'm also treating myself to a stylist at the end of the year 🤗
One thing I've learned is that celibacy doesn't automatically increase your intimacy with God. Your relationship with God requires intentions and commitment. You need to take the time to talk to God.
WHO ALL AGREES WITH ME..........STEPHAN , I WOULD MUCH RATHER LISTEN TO YOU THEN KEVIN SAMEULS, THE ANOINTING GOD PLACED ON YOUR LIFE DRAWS US TOO YOU.... NOT AWAY FROM YOU.....I LOOK FORWARD TO LISTENING TO YOU.....
I agree.Kevin Samuels is steering men in the wrong direction. Stephan gives advice from a biblical standards which ensure if we women and men follow will be of true high value.
No he's not hateful. Kevin keeps it real. Most women just dont want to hear the truth when they call into speak with him. Most women get silence when Kevin ask for their dress size and most are out of order when they explain their situation to him.
at 67 i did not think there was anyone out there for me. So I prayed for weeks. I was on an online dating app...looking at pictures. I kept going back to a pic of a man who's eyes just caught my attention. He did not look like a man I would normally be attracted to, but I couldn't get past those eyes., so I said "hello". That was 2 years ago and I continued to pray and waited for the next steps. He just followed along with what God told me to look for. Have never been happier!
I'm tired of taking the pen from God's hand and making the same mistakes. Sooooo I'll wait. I'm tired 😫...I'm getting older...about to be 37. I want to be married and have a family. God knows my desires, but I won't settle that's not in God's will. This waiting season...whew...Lord help me on this journey!!!!
Don't rush into getting married and wanting a family if God didn't give you e right man. Trust what I tell you because I been through it several times.
Girl, I'm In the same boat as you. I'll be 38 this year, still unwed and no kids. I have the desire but with each year it gets harder and I lose more hope. 😔
Yes patience is the key! I’ve gotten closed off from being let down so much Ive became celibate. I know that’s “ GOD” answering my prayers but it really give me anxiety sometimes not knowing what’s next. But FAITH is at play so I have no choice …. Thank u🙏🏾
@@MsBritanie73 ur absolutely right! I pray all the time and I pray for God to remove things that no longer serve me and I had a guy who I was dating and one day I just came to the realization I no longer wanted to give my body to him anymore. Something just came over me and I just abruptly ended things. I knew that wasn’t who god had for me I felt it so I did what was best for me ! ….
Galatians 6:9 - "And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." This hit my spirit as I was reading through a lot of comments. All is well folks.
I love how you explain things. I can tell that you are called for your role. I pray that God continues to keep you, help you, protect you, and provide for you in Jesus name. Amen
Stephan I just fell in love with you! I'm so glad I've found your channel. As a Christian woman, I really appreciate your incorporating God's word in your work. Thank you. ❤
I feel led to say the fact that you have an ear to hear proves you are an Amazing woman! If you're not already in a relationship I know God has a man of great Valor just like you in need of your help. Love you sis!
You better speak on "your not healing affecting your children." We dont realize the brokenness we pass to our children; the feelings of not deserving love; insecurities; and modeled poor relationships. I strongly believe thats the issue with black women not trust other black women; watching momma and auntie's relationships. I know pain/loss was an issue in how I treated my son. I was so scared he would leave or hurt me that I kept him at arm's length. I vowed to heal my abandonment issues, so I could love him effectively. One really has to take into account how they're hurts spill over into other relationships.
I was out one day and a voice told me to go straight home, but of course I didn't. I got involved in an accident that caused my car to be written off, thankfully I wasn't seriously hurt. So God definitely speaks and next time I will not ignore it..
It's frustrating when your prayers are bouncing off the ceiling😫😫😫! Some of us don't want to be like Apostle Paul. His lifestyle is not for everyone but for some it is. Just waiting on Jesus and believing on His timing!
In the beginning I was hiding in God because the hurt was so great. Now as my healing is taking effect, I'm learning more to have God walk with me, while still being still to listen to his direction.
A great question. Personally what I try to do, is focus on my hobbies and interests, for example I'll go out to do a paint and sip night, see a movie, go out dancing, etc. I do these things for myself. Don't hide away in your house expecting to meet people that way, but also when I go out, I'm not on the prowl for a man either. If the right man is there then I trust he'll approach me. There's nothing that I have to do to make it happen. I just focus on my own hobbies and interests and if I meet someone while doing that then cool, if not that's cool too. 😎
@@iluvhugh329 great advice Joy I will have to try and be more of an out person as I do sit at home cooking reading and writing! Lol besides walks in the park and church functions I’m a home body lol!
Waiting on GOD is definitely always best! I agree that you must prepare while you wait, which is what I’m doing. I definitely want to make sure that I’m completely ready before I enter into another relationship.
Sometimes I wish my future husband is watching and listening to what you saying, Your words are truly everything that both male and female need in their lives, they words of truth and words that leads us to the right path... O Lord can My husband be listening to this right now🙏😱
18 years no relationship. Never married never lived with anyone. I've taken all this time to work on myself - dealing with issues that impede my ability to trust I'm worthy of a relationship with a man that fits me. Im so tired of waiting....
Remember God's timing is the best so don’t give up yet! I pray you’re able to keep moving in faith 🙏❤️ and that you can receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you!
Continue listening to good counsel and do the work. I also listen to Janice Hylton. Great breakdown Stephen pray about direction. What next Lord so important.
I like to watch the entire video before I comment but I can’t stand it anymore. I’m not even half way through and I can’t believe my ears. I think this video was made just for me ! Unbelievable!!! Thank you Stephan
I really wanted to be married and a mother since I was a little girl.. I prayed and trusted God my whole life and guess what.. still single and childless at 43 so I took matters into my own hands and adopted.. gave up on the man and I’m living my best life with my son
But did you put yourself in settings that would allow for a good man to cross your path? This is not a criticism, its an honest question as im involving myself more in church...trying to do something. But deep down i fear i wont find and husband. Ive considered adopting in my forties too if i dont have a biological child. I think you did good.
After being single for many years, at the age of 43, I also chose to adopt. Seven years on I feel so blessed and fulfilled in role as a mother. I'm still single but I'm open to God's blessings and waiting on God for that person who is meant for me.
This is all great advice Stephan. What's frustrating is when you are fully prepared (healed, ready to be vulnerable, ready to provide for the needs and desires of you future spouse, ready to be submissive, ready to take on the appropriate role in the marriage etc) and GOD still doesn't connect you to the man that He has for you. I am ready to walk away from GOD. This ridiculously long and unnecessary continued wait is painful. Thank you Stephan. 🙏🏽🙌🏽❤
I sooo feel you Lisa. I am a saved 62 year old sista who is in your same boat, just saying! We are just lamenting about the timing. I thank Jesus, who is the head of my life, but......😫😫😫😫😫! Been waiting too long 😫😫😫😫😫🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️! He knows what we need when we need it!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you Stephan. I'm really trying to hold on especially since GOD has been revealing things to me about this man since 2009. I wasn't even saved until 2010 but God did bless me with a lot of things along the way. I cannot fulfill my purpose without being married and a lot of people are going to miss their blessing if GOD doesn't help me.
You say "be open to all possibilities" and one of the specific things you mentioned is a person with kids. Why is it so wrong that I, a woman w/o kids, desires a man with the same? Why is there such a push for those of us without kids to consider someone with kids? I want the experience of starting a family with my husband, not add to his already existing one. If he has kids, and depending on how many he has, it's not a new experience for him, even if it's with me. I feel like I'm settling or having to compromise for the sake of "having a man."
Omg I just got check by God through this video!! I needed to hear this & watch it!! I was feeling so frustrated this morning & just tired of “waiting” but God has confirmed even more that He’s preparing me to receive my blessings!! I trust you God & I ask you for direction & to show me what I need to do to receive this wonderful blessing. I thank you for your love & patience with me. Thank you for loving your princess so much. Thank you Stephen for this video… you are truly using your platform for good & to help others!! Thank you! 😍🙏🏾
Build a strong friendship with a man of interest first and foremost. You must see if his loyalty is correct and real in that regard otherwise he won't make much of a boyfriend and definitely won't be your husband king 🤴
Yeah .I did all that and saw all the red flags but still went on to have a relationship with him when he asked?Like ladies what the hell are we smoking.
Excellent video. Agree, waiting on God can get hard but I have come to realize that my lack of patience was my own desire to control every event and detail that happens. I have found that the best thing to do when waiting on God is to surrender it all to Him. Now, my faith lies in knowing that He will do what He promised, and God is able to do all things. Yes, agree I am no longer in the process of waiting. I am becoming my best version, healing, and preparing to receive my blessing in God's divine time, not my own time. I no longer try to rush life and events. I can just relax with the peace and understanding that whatever God has for me will certainly come in due season. My faith can move a mountain now and the process of waiting has certainly developed a better, closer relationship with God and that is certainly worth the wait ! Thank you for the video. Appreciate great content. Blessings, abundance and light always.
For those who want to learn how to hear God, please know that you must know His word to know His voice. He will never tell you anything that is contrary to His word, but if you don't know His word, how would you know what is contrary or God's overall character. Learn His word, not just a few scriptures here and there (especially scriptures taken out of context). Because God really does guide you if you include Him.
Ps. The man I’m praying for and the man I’m in love with is more like 5’2”. He said 5’5” but I don’t think so 😂 none the less I love him just as he is. No more no less 🥰
Elisha prayer academy is currently running a singles prayer forum but you first have to go through the prayer academy lessons before you can enrol in the singles forum. Based on the reviews people actually do meet their counterparts during/after they complete the singles prayer forum. It's a couple of bucks to join but I believe it is worth it.
Hello Stephan ! Don t know if you really read your comments or let someone read and respond for you. I just want to thank you for the such excellent and acurate content you deliver us everyday❤️🙏👌 I haven t been in a relationship for 6 years now and very glad i wasen t. Because i had to learn to be a high value women and heal certain things in my heart, so i could offer a man what i want to receive back in loving relationship. I m waiting for the best i can have and not settle for less. No intamacy for me if i can t have a connection with a man. Just by listening to your expert advice, NO NEED for help elsewhere ( without this, i would not know all i know now) . Thanks so much for sharing this content for us to learn, so greatful !😌❤️🙏🤗😌
Many possible relationships never happen because many must be in a relationship at all times, and when the right person comes along, the available one doesn't want to interfere. If you were an adult when you were hurt, also ask yourself: 'Who did I allow into my life to hurt me'?
There are a few questions you need to ask yourself. Write down nine positive characteristics you want in a relationship. Be grounded, stay in a positive mindset.🙏🎭🎬
First things first. Christ first. Walk in the spirit (Christ focused) not self (flesh) focused. Please believers all understand that you are in Christ and Christ is in you, it is by faith that the Holy Spirit will heal you. Aah no it is not our works it is Christ working in us. Please believe that it is ALL Christ. Philippians 2:13 “For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.” May we all rest in Christ as He does His work through us for His glory. 🙏 For those who are interested watch Gregg Jackson for gospel teaching. 🙏
Thank you Stephan 😘 I’ve been patient and waiting for three plus years now and I’m Happy and don’t mind waiting on God to help me through this process. It’s clear that my process failed me 🤷🏾♀️ so God is needed for me to get the right man and it’s time for my husband to show up 😜🤞🏽🙏🏾💪🏾🙌🏾💯
Really girl 3yrs smhhhhh i understand why you don't mind waiting. Thats not even a time compared to people waiting 10yrs plus. If you get there and i hope you don't wait won't be a word you even want to hear or use.
Stephan, this was amazing, amazing amazing, amazing and I pray that many women and men are listening and they will get it, because I know, I got it. Blessings my brother!
Walking and Talking with God, having a grateful heart and mindset prepares You for God's greatness. God will reveal and prepare you, but it does require work on our parts as well. Eph3:20 God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we ask or think. Thanks Stephan for your consistent Inspiration!😊💖💯💃
It's tough! While u are in the waiting room...... (& not hiding). You get to see some people ...getting married. Buying a house. Finding the job of their dreams. .....& u are waiting & waiting. It gets exhausting & frustrating. What I do know is that ... It gets easier to discard people that are just wasting ur time. & u get better at healing in areas and craziness that you wouldn't see if you'd be in the wrong relation! Sigh....
Personally, I believe that a man and woman hold equal roles of leadership, equally pulling weight in a healthy relationship. I don’t believe in one over the other in either direction.
It means work hard and do your best, and then rely on God. In Islam it is said: tie your camel and then rely on God. I.e. You can't leave the camel loos and go to pray and then expect tha the camel doesn't run away. Do your best and that what is required and then rely on God ... Also, one should always try to consult with God and ask God to lead us to the right direction ...
Thanks for this video, this message speaks volumes. Hard to be open when you're still hurt. I heard some important takeaways...writing a list to identify the place of hurt is a key factor to healing. In all my years of attending church no one ever said to identify the hurt. Just oh you gotta forgive. How do you forgive when the hurt and pain is so intangible, that at times it's not even explanable. I tried once to share in church but the condemnation that followed made me never to speak of if again. Sometimes its so vivid like it happened yesterday and other times its so distant that it can't be even put into words. Hardest thing is when its someone you trusted. And now your just suppose to forgive...hos is healing from throat level of pain, even possible. Knowing better and being better are two different things. Sometimes it's easier to not think or feel at all, that numbness rests in my Spirit instead of trust.
REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE MUST BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES BACK
Good advice Mr.. Stephan, and it's so important to heal and Thank You I'm a believer in God , and his word says ask for wisdom, understanding and knowledge I'm believing for My Boaz
Facts. Waiting on God we can never go wrong. When I pray constantly before God to send me my husband I know he will come through for me. Am also helping him to send me my boaz with my description of him. He says asked and it shall be given. Seek and ye shall find. Knock and the door will be open so his words am depending on
Test every spirit. A God sent partner will exhibit fruits of the Holy Spirit. Pray and fast when dating. Seek counsel from your pastors and trusted friends and family who are believers. These steps will bring you discernment in dating ❤️ I learned the hard way.
Wow, your words are powerful, remember that. Pay attention to the types of women you are attracting or you are attracted to. God does have someone for you, but obviously you need to work on your hurts based on your comment. Even if a good woman was in your presence you would think she doesn't know what she wants, she is like the rest. You will be blind by your hurt or cynical thoughts. Also, I want to say most times she will not be what you want, but what you need. So, yes you will be attracted, but she won't have all the physical features you want. For instance big butt, breast or even shorter than you. Seek God and all your desires more spiritually than physical will be given IF aligned to God's will.
@@nay9nay i've stopped years ago bothering with women and not out of hurt but actually health issues that there isn't a cure for. i was still trying to make it out when i could but my health issues became too much. when i was healthy which was over 20 years ago i met a lot of women that would overlook good men and chase the bad ones. since my poor health has overtaken my entire life i just go to work and don't really do anything when it comes to the opposite sex or anything else. hopefully i can get help to manage my health with the new doctor i am seeing next month so i can get back out there. i did notice by not chasing someone does bring people to you.
m, I wish you the best of luck with the new doctor. I know how important and valuable it is to have someone to really help. I was diagnosed with MS 10 years ago and I wasn’t managing it well; having relapses every 3 years. A situation forced me to move back to my hometown, where I was referred to a doctor who has been extremely helpful, to the point that I now haven’t had a relapse in over 10 years. So, you’re definitely on the right path. I know it’s tough, but waiting is truly worth it. I believe. I know that my creator knew the health struggles I would face. I definitely encourage positive thoughts and talk about yourself. You’re worth it!
@@nikam2298 thank you for the kind words. My sisters bf suffers from Ms too. It's horrible seeing him suffer from it. As for me I have gastroparesis, colitis, and gastritis. I am 6 foot 3 and weigh about 140 something lbs. People would look at me and thought I had aids or cancer. What makes things worse is not having any kind of support from friends or family. Being single too at my age makes it even more horrible.
I've been praying so long to TMH God to send someone who speaks about him like I do. Just to hear you speak of God with such love and respect has answered my prayers. God is truly so good! 💙 #GRATEFUL #THANKFUL #BLESSED #HUMBLED
God is the only one that will give us the right person and it's worth the wait. It's better than going out getting the wrong person to be in our lives. God doesn't want us to put ourselves out there because it's going to put a problem for us and women always run into the wrong types of men(I don't call all men, men), keep it with God.
If you ever have moments of doubt or unbelief (I guess everyone does in some way) that you are not doing what The Lord wants you to, doubt those doubts brother. Thank you so much man! The Lord has used you to help me heal from heartbreak and to step out and walk much more boldly! God bless you man! You rock!
You need to trust God which means be in position form that man when he comes be open to it while your working on you/doing Gods will Amen🙏🏾 I just need to love on me more I got everything else squared away
Wow, this is an on time word as I'm going through this right now 🙌🏾 Lol b/c I watched the original Karate Kid last night for the first time in a very long time ☺
Oh my gosh, this is alll so true. Hiding 🙈 while saying or expecting Him to provide the one He has for us. It's easy to use this when we have our guard up. Preparing ourselves is key! I feel God has been saying "Woman, what are you doing??? Go get ready!!!" He won't present our partner to us until we are ready. And if He does and we aren't ready, we will miss His blessing and His gift being given to us. PREPARATION IS KEY. ❤️❤️❤️
AMEN! Finally! Stephan, you’re so spot on, on so many levels! I have had many challenging relationships in my life, and been to 3 different therapists in the past 10 years. I have held into my past childhood traumas for too long and I’m ready to make the changes necessary to find the man God wants me to be with. I’ve been reading books, watching videos, sponging up info/things I can work on while I’m waiting. I first saw you on Lewis Howes channel. Mind Blown! The amazing questions he was asking & the answers you provided….I have gone back 2 times already to take notes. Your analogies & how you put things, SO relatable! So many lightbulb moments. With that said, thank you 🙏. You’re gifted, blessed. Thank you for sharing your blessings. Today I express gratitude, for you have given me hope. Stay blessed ♥️♥️♥️ Angela from Seattle
It’s funny, I watched this video about waiting no so much about relationships but about other breakthroughs. I’ve definitely had the whole “it is what it is mindset” and have subconsciously cancelled out the opportunity to find true love and a solid commitment after many disappointments in myself and others in different relationship dynamics. Many of the people around me are quick to say “I don’t want a relationship” but their actions always says otherwise. I’m not in denial about wanting a connection but I’m not settling for less nor will I sabotage what is meant for me just because they don’t have a specific preference I have which probably wouldn’t be a deal breaker. ❤️
Both ! I’m waiting on God to put me in the right place at the time in order to welcome and receive love; and I’m currently hiding from all the Mr. Wrongs that surround me.
I love hearing your Godly wisdom! I want to ask if you can do some videos on our walk with God. I know Godly men exist because you are here. I am growing in Christ and I see your relationship with him. I would love to hear you preach!
Sooo wise, thank you for this video.. waiting is preparing ourselves for the next step. And prayers are sooo important, God protected me for some very tough situations in past. I wanted so hard that things worked with my ex husband, that when all was over, it was a blessing in disguise. I saw all the truth, thanks God always 🙏🏻💯
THANKS, STEPHAN!!! 👍 YOU ARE GENUINELY CONCERNED ABOUT OUR GETTING HEALED THAT YOU DON'T CARE IF YOU ARE INSTRUMENTAL IN THAT PROCESS!!! 👍 YOU ARE MOST INTERESTED IN OUR HEALING!!! 😀 I HAVE A NEW-FOUND RESPECT FOR YOU!!! 😁 FOR THE RECORD, WE DO NEED YOU!! 💯 GOD BLESS YOU!!! 💌 🙏 👑 😁
Always remember that God's timing is the best and when you're waiting on God you're waiting on the best relationship that is for you. I pray you’re able to keep moving in faith 🙏❤️
Absolutely love this video 🙂🙏. It is so true not to ‘box God in’ and limit yourself because God KNOWS better than we do who the right one is, the one that speaks to our heart in a way that you’ll be glad that you chose God’s best rather than what you thought best. Often qualify takes time but it will be absolutely worth it. Settling will not.
