When You’re Old, Remember These 4 Things to Avoid Being Resented by ur Child & Ensure Happy Life

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Aging is an inevitable part of life, and everyone hopes for a secure and happy later life. However, not all elderly people get their wishes fulfilled. In this video, we share four essential principles to help you avoid being resented by your children and ensure a joyful and peaceful old age.
🔹 Have Sufficient Savings: It's important to save enough for your retirement instead of giving away all your savings to your children. This will ensure you have financial security in case of emergencies or health issues.
🔹 Have a Stable Residence: Owning your own home, no matter how modest, ensures you have a place to call your own and a refuge to return to, providing peace of mind and stability.
🔹 Maintain Good Health: Taking care of your health is crucial. A healthy lifestyle not only enhances your quality of life but also prevents you from becoming a burden to your children.
🔹 Live Your Own Life Well: Stay self-reliant and avoid over-dependence on your children for tasks you can manage yourself. This fosters mutual respect and reduces potential resentment.
Join us as we delve into these valuable insights, sharing real-life examples and practical advice to help you navigate your later years with dignity and happiness.
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@teresaromero8655 Месяц назад

Parents should NOT be a burden to their children ! Grown up children should NOT be a burden to their parents !

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Absolutely, you've highlighted a crucial point. It's important for both parents and grown-up children to strive for independence and mutual respect. Parents should plan for their retirement and take steps to ensure they're not reliant on their children for support. Similarly, grown-up children should take responsibility for their own lives and not become a burden to their parents. By fostering independence and mutual respect, families can maintain healthy relationships and ensure the well-being of all members. Thank you for sharing this insightful perspective.

@Coryraisa 25 дней назад

Beautiful points!!!!

@victoryamartin9773 23 дня назад

My grandfather had emphysema, so as not to be a financial or medical burden on his children, he committed suicide. My mother was pregnant with me, her first child. She was heartbroken that he didn't stay around to meet me. I've carried the depression for her all my life. Now I'm developing COPD. I'm living in a dusty environment and can't keep my house clean. My son is trying to find a way to bring me into his family life. I have reservations about living with them, because our lifestyles are very different. His terms would include my selling my house and investing in his property. I feel apprehensive about that. Of course I don't want to be a burden or take advantage of my children, even though the offer may be attractive. I'm just not sure we could get along together for more than a week! Then, where would I go after investing everything in him? Besides, I have another son to consider in this as well.

@Coryraisa 23 дня назад

@@victoryamartin9773 Wow, that is sad that your grandfather felt as if he had no other options but to kill himself. There is such a thing today as planning with your own income and having good health coverage so you can have professionals take care of your medical needs. And you do _NOT_ "have to" go along with what your son wants. You _do_ have other options, even if you are seriously ill. I suspect that it would be a bad idea for you to give up your home and to move in with either of your sons, who are not medically trained. Get medical professionals to help you with your medical issues. In many cases, you can have trained home health aides come to your home to take care of you.

@carolineg3079 8 дней назад

@victoryamartin9773 if you are having such doubts this looks like a bad idea.

@gloriaadu5485 Месяц назад

Thank you, i do hope older ones and young ones can hear this, i was a single mother of four. they all say good by to me. i struggle to get me a house. don't have much money. but i have a place to sleep, and a garden to plant. children are not very nice, these day. so we do have to look out for our selves. thank's

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you for sharing your story. Your strength and resilience as a single mother are truly inspiring. It's heartening to hear that you’ve created a secure place for yourself with a home and a garden, despite the challenges. You’re absolutely right-it's important for us to look out for ourselves and ensure our own wellbeing. Your message is a powerful reminder for both older and younger generations to strive for mutual respect and understanding. Wishing you peace and happiness in your home and garden. Thank you for being a part of our community.

@anneedmunds9025 29 дней назад

L@@BuddhaZenWishdom

@JJNow-gg9so 24 дня назад

Gloria, you speak my words. I only have one surviving child. He won't even speak to me?? 😇😇🙏🙏👵 I speak more with my two daughter's who have died

@Dawn-Songs 18 дней назад

Unfortunately children these days are influenced by the internet ,blogs ,videos etc and it all causes mass selfishness . Not all children are like it , of course , but the vast majority only really bother with their parent/s or grand parents when they want something and rarely consider if there is anything their parent/s or grand parents would like . The Golden Rule of the Holy Bible scriptures doesn't even exist in the thoughts of most kids . It's all about themselves . Yet it's no doubt how their parent/s raised them ... always putting them first (although I acknowledge that not all parent/s are good ones and their kids suffer because of it .) 1 Corinthians 10 : 24 Let each one keep seeking , not his own advantage , but that of the other person . Philippians 2 : 4 " Look out not only for your own interests , but also for the interests of others ."

@lorraineselolo9231 2 дня назад

I@@Dawn-Songs

@gevarakagevaraka5090 Месяц назад

I'm very lucky n blessed .I'm a government pensioner, have a good monthly income, my medical issues all taken care of by the government, no savings, living with my only daughter who doesn't expect anything from me, just take care of myself and have a relaxing time and I also have a responsible son who gives me money for my expenses, wants me to stay with him when I feel like it. They have children of their own who care for me, too. All these I'm enjoying is after all the trials and tribulations I've been through during my younger days. My children have seen me going through hell so they are making my life a heaven, before I leave earth.... Thank God! God bless my children, grandchildren, friends and family who have been a great support in my life. Thank my parents for bringing me up with an education enough to become a teacher, with the government which now pays me a pension with all the medical benefits. I'm truly grateful n blessed. ❤❤❤

@rashadahahmad9179 Месяц назад

@gevarakagevaraka… are you a Malaysian pensioner..?

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you for sharing your beautiful story of gratitude and blessings. It's heartwarming to hear how your trials and tribulations have been transformed into a life of comfort and love surrounded by your caring children, grandchildren, and supportive friends and family. Your journey serves as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the importance of enduring hardships with grace and determination. May you continue to enjoy every moment of this blessed life and may your heart overflow with love and gratitude. Thank you for sharing your inspiring message with us. ❤️❤️❤️

@mineandmine4528 29 дней назад

You must have been an excellent mom to your kids and have them your absolute best for them. The world needs more mothers like you ❤️

@philomenamagill700 21 день назад

Lovely story ❤

@gevarakagevaraka5090 21 день назад

Yes,dear ❤@@rashadahahmad9179

@claudiaangeline513 Месяц назад

1. Have sufficient saving. 2. Have a stable place/home. 3. Maintain good health. 4. Live your life well.

@sonalvora7933 14 дней назад

Thx for the recap. 😊

@darleenmcclung9615 11 дней назад

I don’t have an expectation of my daughter taking care of me, I pray that she enjoys her life, do well, take care of herself mind body and soul and all I hope is that she would want to spend time with me in her heart, not me forcing her to do so. I ask God to keep me as self sufficient as possible, healthy and able to live in peace. God can do all things.

@joniangelsrreal6262 Месяц назад

So true My husband and me are in our 70’s and haven’t seen our daughters in years not even a call or message … so take heed it does happen to good people… BTW in the early years we saved our money no vacations little extras Thank god we did as we are totally independent…screw them…!

@Fegga1955 Месяц назад

Same here,worldwide trend ,kids not caring.Still in shock

@user-eb8rb9rp9m Месяц назад

Yes mine are pushing me further and further away. I’ve decided to let them go. I’ll be fine. God bless them.

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you for sharing your story. It’s heartbreaking when family relationships become strained, especially after so many sacrifices. Your experience is a powerful reminder of the importance of financial independence and self-reliance. It’s inspiring to hear that you and your husband planned well and can live independently. Wishing you both continued strength and happiness. Thank you for being part of our community.

@pamelabrandner7532 21 день назад

I have 4 grown children. I'm approaching 70 and haven't seen my 2 daughters in 10 years. What the Bible calls responsibly towards parents, this world labels burden. So sad and selfish.

@rebeccahale322 Месяц назад

Grown children shouldn't burden their children either..

@joniangelsrreal6262 29 дней назад

What……? gibberish

@labab1048 22 дня назад

Heh?

@labab1048 22 дня назад

You mean they shouldn’t burden their parents?

@jollyjolly5633 Месяц назад

Best wealth to your children is parents keep their health good.

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Absolutely, maintaining good health is one of the most valuable gifts parents can give to their children. When parents prioritize their health and well-being, they set a positive example and ensure they can continue to be there for their children for years to come. Thank you for sharing this insightful comment!

@jeanb3711 Месяц назад

Good article for all us older parents

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you for your comment! I'm glad you found the article helpful. It's important for older parents to have guidance and support as they navigate this stage of life. Wishing you all the best and thank you for being part of our community!

@sallyclay1974 29 дней назад

I ran out of my stock money , in about 8 yrs. Now I'm on a fixed income. Its tough, but im not a burden. I have a section 8 voucher for a one bedrm, and am on long waiting lists, for senior housing, I have a grown daughter,in LA. I'm retired in Danbury , CT. I never ask her for anything

@BuddhaZenWishdom 28 дней назад

It sounds like you've faced some challenges with your finances, but it's commendable that you're managing on a fixed income without burdening others. Utilizing resources like Section 8 vouchers and being proactive about finding senior housing options demonstrates resilience and resourcefulness. It's also admirable that you're maintaining your independence and not relying on your daughter for support. Keep staying strong and persevering through these tough times. Wishing you all the best as you navigate your retirement in Danbury, CT. If you ever need assistance or support, don't hesitate to reach out to local community resources for help.

@darleenmcclung9615 11 дней назад

Hope all is well wit you and praying you get the place and space you need. 🌷🙏

@tommieleegilbertjr.3406 Месяц назад

A lot of truth in this article.

@lornahaynes7886 21 день назад

Thank you for this awesome advice 😁 Please God 🙏 ❤ keep me safe and healthy so l wouldn't be a financial burden on my children ❤ Amen 🙏

@snehalathanair427 24 дня назад

We should tell God -- the only saviour

@bahubalbaba7886 Месяц назад

If you don’t plan for a comfortable old age while young & working, then don’t expect OTHERS to provide for you.

@Fegga1955 Месяц назад

True,only had to raise sons in poor times.Thx for sharing

@user-lw1ou7ek2g Месяц назад

I didn't ask for your advice 😕😡

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you for your comment. You’ve highlighted a very important point-planning for a comfortable old age while we are still young and working is crucial. It's our responsibility to secure our own future, rather than relying on others. This proactive approach ensures we can enjoy our later years with dignity and peace of mind. Appreciate your insight!

@marilynmouton9818 Месяц назад

Thank you I plan not to be a burden to my daughter 🙏🏻

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's wonderful to hear that you’re planning ahead to ensure you won't be a burden to your daughter. Your foresight and consideration are truly admirable. Wishing you all the best in your planning and a happy, fulfilling future. 🙏🏻

@snowwoman2233 24 дня назад

@@BuddhaZenWishdom oh yes, and the remedy is MAID - medically assisted suicide for older parents in order not to disturb their adult children

@darleenmcclung9615 11 дней назад

The word burden is negative, I believe children that are engaged with their parents will do the right things in their heart, even those children that might have had a previous strain relationship.

@margaretsarben9682 Месяц назад

We must rely on GOD to protect us from all harm and danger and not people.Amen

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Indeed, placing our trust in God for protection is a source of comfort and strength, especially during challenging times. While people may sometimes let us down, we can find solace in knowing that God is always watching over us and guiding us through life's trials. Amen to that sentiment. Thank you for sharing your faith and perspective with us.

@josephyeo6966 29 дней назад

Yes close your eyes when you cross the road. Just relying on GOD does not work. You will not die because other drivers are alert and swerved to avoid killing you. If you don't believe me, try jumping into the lions enclosure and close your eyes and pray.

@shahinagovender2951 27 дней назад

AMEN.💙🌻🙏

@milaalinea7157 Месяц назад

Beautiful insights Sir for us Senior citizens to reflect as time goes by. God bless.

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad you found the insights valuable. It's important for all of us, especially seniors, to reflect and prepare for the future to ensure a happy and secure life. God bless you as well, and thank you for being a part of our community.

@jannawalters232 Месяц назад

Not too easy anymore, to have a lot of savings!

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

You're absolutely right. With economic challenges and rising costs of living, it's becoming increasingly difficult for many people to save a substantial amount of money. However, even small steps towards saving can make a difference in the long run. It's important to budget wisely, cut unnecessary expenses, and explore different ways to increase income or invest wisely. Additionally, seeking financial advice and planning for retirement early can help mitigate some of the difficulties in saving for the future. Thank you for highlighting this important aspect of financial planning.

@StormyMonday0896 28 дней назад

My parents didnt buy me a house or car. They helped pay fir an inexpensive wedding to get rid of me. No college, constant isults, treated like a servant as a kid. Then they think they are moving into my house and mommy dearest trues talking to me like I am garbage. Bye bye, no calls, went no contact.

@BuddhaZenWishdom 28 дней назад

It sounds like you've made a difficult but necessary decision to prioritize your well-being and boundaries by going no contact with your parents. It's essential to recognize and honor your own needs and mental health, especially in relationships that are toxic or harmful. Setting boundaries, even with family members, is crucial for maintaining emotional health and protecting yourself from further harm. Sometimes, creating distance from toxic relationships is the healthiest choice, even if it means severing ties completely. Remember that you have the right to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, even if it means making difficult decisions about family relationships. Surround yourself with supportive and understanding individuals who respect and value you for who you are. If you find that the impact of your upbringing continues to affect you emotionally, seeking support from a therapist or counselor can be helpful in processing your experiences and developing coping strategies. You deserve to live a life free from the negative influence of toxic relationships and to cultivate healthy, positive connections with others.

@danschwartz1950 21 день назад

Most important to forgive or you won’t be well.

@Di...747 23 дня назад

It's really hard to have savings to keep your children from resenting you when you're poor!

@user-gy5ps1mt7e Месяц назад

Be smart use mindset then heart' to end gracefully

@minajacobs8444 19 дней назад

Amen this so true about kids but there's a God that see everything and he provide this a other generation I was thinking of renting my place out own home and move to one of my kids but this video just came in time thankyou Jesus you just answ was confuse to what to do got my answ 😊

@rosarioargent8863 Месяц назад

Beautiful advice. For all of us. Its cut both ways. Thank you so much.

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad you found the advice meaningful. Indeed, these lessons apply to everyone and highlight the importance of mutual respect and understanding. Thank you for watching and being a part of our community.

@rajindersachdeva4452 19 дней назад

I totally agree 🎉

@Fan-zx1lz Месяц назад

Thank you for this wisdom. Health and Money must be taken care of from young age onwards then only one can live well into Old age.

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you for your thoughtful comment! You're absolutely right-taking care of our health and finances from a young age sets the foundation for a happy and secure old age. It's never too early to start planning and taking steps towards a better future. Appreciate you watching and sharing your wisdom!

@joycemcleod8249 16 дней назад

Wise words

@lordbyron3603 3 часа назад

I had to rely on my siblings and friends for a spell during my cancer journey. You can’t do it by yourself.

@akosuanelson-cofie2907 20 дней назад

God richly bless you for this. Very insightful and real.

@manjukapoor3055 14 дней назад

True and informative

@unkolawdio 20 дней назад

Yes master

@zenaidaalejos5896 Месяц назад

Grateful n thankful. N heaven bless you n that’s what I’m working on it with ur 4 complete advice

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Indeed, the responsibility to avoid burdening others extends to grown children as well. Just as parents should strive to be self-sufficient and not rely overly on their children, grown children should also aim for independence and not become a burden to their own children or family members. Each generation has its own responsibilities and should take proactive steps to ensure their own well-being while also being mindful of not imposing undue burdens on others. Thank you for emphasizing this important aspect of familial relationships.

@Steven-re7xt 23 дня назад

My kids begged, embarrassed, and borrower..never to return a nickel. I figure that 50/40s. It's time. To make it on there own. My kin folk don't see it that way. And constantly remind me what they think... Now I'm with out. I'm on my up. With out them. 😊😊😊😊

@gurbachansingh1869 13 дней назад

Good advice

@Evergreen945 Месяц назад

Very helful! Thank you!❤

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

So glad!

@leandrobaluyotjr5181 Месяц назад

Thank you for these essential & wonderful reminders for parents. More success to your endeavors.

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you so much for your kind words and support! I'm glad you found the reminders valuable. We're committed to providing helpful insights and advice for parents and families. Your encouragement means a lot to us. Wishing you continued success and happiness in all your endeavors as well. Thank you for being part of our community!

@garnetjaglal3308 24 дня назад

This may be true, but if both parents are alive, it takes a conservative approach by both parents to achieve this. A lot of times this approach causes major problems between the parents for various reasons especially the wife /mother.....

@melluques8475 10 дней назад

Saving? I had less than needed raising my kids🥺🙏🏻🕊

@Coryraisa 25 дней назад

Beautiful video!!!!

@BuddhaZenWishdom 25 дней назад

Thank you! Cheers!

@picture1238 11 дней назад

If you’re lucky you may have children taking care of you. But still it’s better that you have some money for yourself. Any extra money you can give them after you leave the world. Till you are alive definitely keep some money for yourself. This is very very important and essential for daily life. Especially health problems. Take care

@lindaduval8196 День назад

In Canada being elderly is a night mare today worked all our lives had enough to retire on. We Thought till MrTrudeau became our PM now we are struggling like every one is doing here except Liberal MP’S and liberal insiders

@mineandmine4528 Месяц назад

Parents do play favorites and give their assets to the golden child and the child that goes out of their way for them gets kicked

@aubreyj.tennant1123 Месяц назад

Yup!

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's indeed a difficult and unfortunate situation when parents play favorites and the child who sacrifices the most feels overlooked or unappreciated. Every family dynamic is different, and it's important for parents to strive for fairness and open communication to avoid resentment and hurt feelings among their children. If you’ve experienced this, it’s important to communicate your feelings honestly with your family. Remember, every family can learn and grow, and it’s never too late to work towards a more balanced and supportive relationship.

@renzo6490 10 дней назад

This country’s health care system is inhumane. Some people don’t have children.

@josephyeo6966 29 дней назад

Seems like more applicable to China.

@BuddhaZenWishdom 28 дней назад

Indeed, the comment may reflect cultural or societal perspectives that are more prevalent in certain regions or countries, including China. However, the sentiment of valuing life and considering the implications of abortion can be universal, transcending geographical boundaries. It's important to recognize and respect diverse cultural viewpoints while also promoting open dialogue and understanding on sensitive topics like abortion. Thank you for pointing out the cultural context.

@user-lw1ou7ek2g Месяц назад

What happens when you live with a son who's on drugs who depends on me to give him money for it , and if i don't I'm afraid he might hurt me in a drug induced rage 😢

@YaprakKara-wt8zc Месяц назад

I am so sorry for you:( God help and bless you.

@Lourdes-A. Месяц назад

Maybe you can move far away to another city and not tell him where you are going, then let him be on his own to support himself. You can also tell him if he goes to rehab and becomes clean, then you will consider helping him out financially to get his own place until he has some money to support himself. There are support groups for parents of drug addicted adult children. Try looking for one. If he does hurt you, or tries to, call the cops on him and file charges. Don’t be afraid. If he knows you are afraid of him, he’ll keep on harassing you and threatening you. Stand up and be strong. I’ve been there with one of my daughters, many years ago, but had to try many different things until I got my life back. She has been completely clean for 6 years, has a very good job and even lives in another state with her boyfriend. She has become responsible for her life and her bills- something which she never did while on drugs. She has turned her life around and is now on a complete health kick, even going to the gym several times a week. Don’t give up on your son! If nothing works, go to a prayer group! There’s power in group prayers!

@starbright1256 Месяц назад

Move away & he not know where you are. He needs detox, mental health & off his dependence on your funds. You are his doormat. Won't improve. Leave. Fast. You are empowering his drugs. You are feeding the monster. You are being used.

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

I'm deeply sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're facing. Dealing with a loved one's addiction can be incredibly challenging and frightening. Your safety and well-being are paramount. It's important to seek help and support from professionals, such as addiction counselors, social workers, or law enforcement, who can assist you in finding a safe solution. Additionally, reaching out to support groups or helplines for families affected by addiction can provide you with guidance and resources. Remember, you are not alone, and there are people who can help you navigate through this difficult time. Please prioritize your safety and seek assistance as soon as possible.

@StormyMonday0896 28 дней назад

Find another senior and move someplace safe

@vuyelwagxoko1266 23 дня назад

I don't a blessing of having children as I am not infertile. 😂

@MENSA.lady2 19 дней назад

Children ? Who said anything about having children.

@user-fq2ev3vb5i 23 дня назад

Bullsheet

@wenettehamilton7585 Месяц назад

Dont abort your children. Rule one.

@BuddhaZenWishdom 29 дней назад

The decision to abort a pregnancy is a deeply personal and complex matter that involves many factors and circumstances. While it's important to acknowledge the sanctity of life and the potential consequences of such decisions, it's also crucial to recognize that each individual's situation is unique, and there may be circumstances where abortion is considered the most appropriate option. It's essential to approach this topic with empathy, understanding, and support for those facing difficult decisions regarding pregnancy. Thank you for sharing your perspective.