When You Lose A Parent To Cancer 

Cancer always happens to the most beautiful, amazing people and it’s SO unfair.

what people don’t understand about cancer is that it hits your whole family. since my dad got cancer, my whole family has never been the same. my dad had brain cancer and he wasn’t acting the same. our whole family just didn’t talk to each other the same, it was always stressed. when the doctors gave us hope that things will get better, you cling on to that hope, and then bad news comes again. it’s a whole rollercoaster of emotions. my dad was the main breadwinner so money was tight, but we still had to go to the hospital to receive the best treatment. there are so many things to worry about. we don’t come from a good financial background. we lost so much of our life when my dad passed. Cancer just eats at you. All our family traditions just don’t exist anymore. We don’t eat on the same table and everyone just grew apart. This hasn’t even touched on what my dad went through himself. I cannot imagine the pain mentally and physically he felt. I never ever wish cancer on anyone. Never.

To everyone who has or knows someone who was lost to cancer - YOU ARE LOVED. YOU ARE SEEN. YOU ARE HEARD. YOUR EMOTIONS ARE VALID. 🌻🌻🌻

I lost my mother and father 6 months apart. Mom had breast cancer and dad had skin cancer. I was only 14 and went straight to foster care because I’m an only child with the rest of my family lost to cancer before I was born. I was diagnosed with skin cancer at age 25. My family has lunch syndrome which is a chronic cancer syndrome because it occurs on both sides of my family. I’m giving life everything I have for my husband and I have 2 little girls. I’ve lost a lot. Yet gained so much. I’m thankful for every day.

I lost my mom this summer and she barely even had a fighting chance because it was pancreatic cancer and in the span of two months it took her. The whole time we were in the hospital it was like she wasnt even there because the tumors in her were hurting her so she was all drugged up on medicine and sleeping and we were only there with her in the hospital for 9 days. I’ve never heard of cancer killing someone that fast and everyday I wish there was something more we could have done, I wish I would have died instead of her and it hurts so much everyday being reminded of her and not having her I wanted her there to see me graduate high school and college and get married and have kiddos she absolutely loved babies and puppies and now its going to hurt so much if I make it to those milestones in life without her

One more day, one more time One more sunset, maybe I'd be satisfied... Miss you Mom! 😪

*just want my mum to live forever :(*

lost my mama to stomach cancer in 2010 and there's not a day that goes by that i don't wish i could call her and tell her how everything is

i don’t think words will ever be able to describe what cancer makes you feel and go through..

i lost my mam almost a year ago, after 6 years having cancer...i olnly can say: you never know, you will ignore the signs, because you dont want to believe your loved ones are having a bad time...just give them all the love you have

My mom has cancer and she's my whole life 😭😭😭 I love her more than anything in this world and can't imagine my life without her😭❤️Please tell your mom that you love her right now❤️

Hey, my name is deanna and when i was 8 years old my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. Now i am 11 and i still miss her everyday. But when you cry for them, it makes you and whoever is gone sad. My dad always says that when you feel like dying, just remember that even if there is a thousand people in heaven that loves you and you love them, there is someone on earth who would spend the rest of their life with you. So just remember that even if a terrible thing happens in your life, there is a lot of happiness in the future of your life!

I lost my mother to cancer a month ago. When we found out she got cancer again and it was advance I was so mad. I was applying to transfer to a university, just got a new job, taking four STEM course and three required a lab. It was so hard, it was an emotional rollercoaster, not only being my mom's care taker, but having to focus on school and reject schools you've gotten full rides to since I wanted to be near my mom . Seeing her get sicker doctors giving us some possible hope, to her taking her last breath was something that I'm dealing with and learning how to cope. It helps to cry some days. Some day I feel good, and then theres day when I feel extremely sad I was fortunate to spend her last hours she had, she wasn't conscience -but I spoke to her in the hospital. I had a conversation with her even though she couldn't respond. Told her how I remember all the things we would do growing up and how vividly they are in my mind. I gave her a hug and a blessing then told her if she wanted to let go she could. That I would be okay and I'll take care of my dad and continue to study the career I selected to help people. Two to one hour later she passed away with me I cried for 30 minutes straight. She took her last breath and she was gone. Both male nurses felt so sad they really tried so hard to keep it professional... I'm still dealing with her loss. I was really close to her. I write down all the things she would tell me when. I was sad or mad. I found her old letters she would write me back when I was in middle school and sincr people would bully me. She did her best to make me feel better. I miss her. I really hate cancer more than ever. I hope everyone who is dealing with a mother's loss heals. Or any loss. It's not easy. My boyfriend tells me there's days when you feel good and then you remember them(his brother passed away) but they live on through you. It will hurt less. So I hope we can all heal slowly but surely and always remember our loved ones.

I just want my mum and dad to live forever

*Man, if I could have 1 wish granted...*

This is super hard to watch, I lost my dad to liver cancer when I was 8 and even now at 27 it's still so raw. Loads of love to everyone who has been affected by this hideous disease ❤️

I lost my mom in cancer too. It’s really hard to live a life without her. It’s been one month since I saw her, spoke with her. miss you amma

Losing a parent is a pain you never get over, only time allows a person to deal with it somewhat, but the feeling of loss is constant. It's now been 10 years, & I miss them just as much today as I did when they passed...Watching a parent agonizingly suffer is horrific. Cancer is evil

My mom is the strongest woman I know and she will forever be. She's fighting with cancer now for several years. My parents told me recently that the doctors were surprised that she actually got so far. A tumor in her whole leg, then in her lungs... She always got through it. And she never lost her humor, her happiness or her bright mind. Life was never easy with her, life isn't fair. It really isn't. And Now the cancer is in her spinal cord. We made our house wheelchair-accessible. Never thought we could do this so fast. But there we are. Last week my dad called his friends and built a whole carport in a day. Because my mom wanted to see this before... You know, I always tried to trap this thought in the very back of my mind. The thought that the person I love the very most maybe won't see my graduation. She maybe won't see me growing up, finding a partner, all those things that... You know... A mom should see. I just don't know what I will do without her. Right now she is here. For as long as she can. Life is so precious. Mama, egal was passiert, Ich liebe dich

My best friend's mother got cancer when we were in middle school and died within about two years when my best friend was 15. I loved her mother and honestly I thought of her as an aunty, she gave me my first alcoholic drink when I was 14 lol. I came from a poorer background and so when she would take me shopping with my best friend and her sister she would always buy me something so I wouldn't feel left out and take us all for dinner and pay. I always adored their family, still do. I got the call when I was in media studies class, I had been wondering why my best friend wasn't in school that day, then she told me her mother had passed away that morning. I just burst into tears immediately, I cried so hard for all of them, we cried together on the phone for some time. I told my teacher through sobs what had happened and asked if I could go outside to talk to my friend, he didn't know quite what to say and just nodded. That evening I went home and cried several times on the bus back, I got home, I shut the door and ran to tell my mother. I could barely speak because I was crying so hard by the time I got to the kitchen but I managed to tell her that she had passed. She immediately burst into tears just like I did and we held each other really tight and cried for them for some time. My best friend's mother was a wonderful person and literally hundreds of people turned up for her funeral because she was loved by everyone. She had such a profound effect on me even though I only knew her for about 3/4 years before she passed Me and my best friend are 27 now and her and her sister will be getting married soon. It sucks for them that she won't be there and I just find it so sad. I could never begin to imagine their loss and their pain, this is just their story from my perspective, and her memory will live on in all of our minds forever. The last time I saw their mother in the hospital she was skin and bone and when I hugged her goodbye I could feel all the bones in her back. She hugged me really tight. Before I left, she whispered to me while we were hugging, to please look after my best friend and made me promise to take care of her. I promised. I will never break that promise.

I lost my dad when I was 15 years old. I was standing beside him when he closed his eyes forever. I remember going to the kitchen and watching through the window if the world had stopped, because for me time had stopped. I couldn't feel anything. I just stood in the kitchen as my mother and older siblings where in his room with the paramedics and looked through the window and the world was moving on, the birds flew in the sky, the cars were driving by and the children were playing outside and I just stood there and couldn't believe it. 13 years have passed since then. I am a teacher now, I love my job, I care for my mom and just tomorrow we will go to his grave to make it beautiful for fall. Life goes on but the pain will always be there. Some days are better and I enjoy my life but other days are so hard and I just feel lost and I would love to smell him, to talk to him, to laugh with him... I hope he sees me and I also hope that one day we will meet again. I wish you all the best and good health for you and your loved ones! ♥️

i want my dad to live good forever

Cancer is not fair, cancer is a fight in which there's not much you can do to fight back except for the countless medication and years of suffering. I really hope they develop a vaccine or anything..

My dad has cancer. It’s metastasized. This was really hard to watch. But also, good to see that these people are going on after. My mind can’t wrap around going on after my dad dies.

Mom is currently with cancer, which sadly cant be cured... :(

I lost my mom to breast cancer when I was 13. I’m 17 now and it can still be hard at times. I remember her telling me she was going to be around to see me graduate high school. I don’t really remember a time when she wasn’t sick. I had to grow up really quickly; me and my twin brother. I remember when I realized things were getting really bad and I was in denial for a lot of it, assuming that things would get better. I remember being painfully sad when I’d start to forget little things about it

My mom passed away 9 years back..i still remember the day we lost her..and i regret everyday that i couldn't be there for her more. Be there for her.i was 17 when i lost her..i really thought she would be better..but no..i was wrong all along..it still feels like yesterday when i touched her lifeless body.the warmth was gone.. All i can tell otehrs is that be there for them.spent time with them.laugh with them, cry with them.all they have is you.seeing you might be the best thing for them throughing this agonising pain... I hope each of your loved ones be cured... And those who lost , they will always live in our heart.. I miss u mum

I lost my beautiful mom to breast cancer December 31 2015.She was my everything, my best friend in this world.She watched me take my first breath and I watched her take her last.Her breast cancer had metastasized to her bones, liver spleen and eventually to her brain.I know she is with Jesus now.I miss you so much mommy.

My heart can’t handle the sadness. Not today buzzfeed bye

Lost my dad a year ago from lung cancer at 17 years old. I miss him every single day and life keeps getting harder without him.

Just lost my dad in September and this hits pretty close to home. I'm sorry to everyone going through similar situations.

My dad passed about 4 months ago, he had a tumor in his leg and two months later we got the news that it spread to his lungs and that we had to think in days because of how fast it was growing. My dad made it for another three weeks before cancer took him it still doesn’t feel real and i don’t think it ever will i hope noone has to go trough the pain of losing a parent and goning trough the pain that cancer brings with itself

I had just turned 13 when I lost my mother. You’re not alone.

I lost my dad this summer to a melanoma (skin cancer). He initially got the melanoma removed in 2008 and went back to the dermatologist every year to get it checked out. He was then cleared in 2011.. Up until the start of this year when the doctors discovered unusual spots on his lungs on a MRI scan of his kidney.. During those 10 years, the cancer has spread to his lungs, then his stomach and also to his brain, which made him have seizures which were eventually fatal. He died 4 months after discovering the cancer had spread.

My mom battled cancer for 7 years. She passed when I was 21 pregnant with my first child. It's been 12 years she's been gone. I miss my mom so much

Thank you for sharing this. I'm 24 and I lost my father to aggressive oesophageal cancer last year, only four months after his initial diagnosis. He deteriorated so fast, with many complications. It's still very painful but I feel comfort from talking through it and listening to other peoples stories. I don't feel so alone knowing other people have felt the very distinctive grief of losing a parent to cancer, as unfortunate as it is. Sending love to those of you who have lost parents, and also those of you whose parents are still fighting

This was really brave of them all to share their stories with us

My dad has pancreatic cancer at 61 (I’m 23) and we found out June this year. He got two strokes in his brain this past week. He’s currently paralyzed in his right side of his body and understands a lot, but can only answer with a yes and no. Seeing your big and strong hero becoming so weak, while also being aware of it and having a big guilt about it is the most heart crushing thing ever. I wish I could take his place.

I feel sorry for everyone who has had to lose someone to cancer. That is a very tough thing to deal with.

Im 26. Lost my dad 3 weeks ago he was 62. He had cancer for 10 years. It first started in his colon then the last couple of years it spread to his lungs and thats when he started getting really sick. I miss my dad. It feels good to read these comments because I feel like im not alone😢

I can connect to this so much. I lost my father when I was 8, I'm 15 now. It was a hard journey, and I know he's watching over me. My dad impacted me in so many ways and I just wish I had the chance to tell him "I love you" one more time.

And I probably shouldn’t be watching this. I am now crying. Lost my dad to pancreatic cancer last year.

Virtual hugs to everyone who has lost a parent /parents when young. We will be okay!

My father had cancer, I watched him suffer until he died. I was 5 I didn’t think he was gone I never said good bye.

My father is dealing with cancer and God I just want him to live for me..Please pray for him

Cancer is horrible, it took my moms life 10/19'. It actually took her life before it ended it. She battled for 14 months, treatment started out bearable and then became brutal. The medications caused many side effects, like fighting a monster with smaller monsters that wreak havoc on everything. I can't even begin to describe the amount of pain from regret I experienced when i realized I would never be able to repair a strained relationship. That reality set in hard when I stood over her casket crying like a baby. The support I had from friends and family helped me tremendously. Work became like therapy for me as i really enjoy what I do and come across a variety of people on a weekly basis. When i see a woman appearing bald with a bandanna on, I just want to Bear hug the hell out of them! Let them know you love them, no matter how hard it might sometimes be....

I lost my mom to breast cancer only two months ago... the things they talked about; the denial, being gentle with your family members, but especially the part about the little things, like talking to her about life, put a knife in my chest. Grief is intense, but at least we all know they are out of pain.

i just lost my dad today, i miss him so much but i know he’s not in pain anymore

I lost my dad to cancer when I was six. It's been a struggle every day since and even before that because he was always so sick. I turned 16 a few days ago and I'm about to get my first tattoo, which will be his favorite song lyric "here comes the sun" ❤️

My mother passed now 6 years ago from stomach cancer. I always uses to visit her in the hospital with my father but i didnt spend Time with her I was sitting there just watching TV. Now i wish i would have used that Time to talk to her. I wish i could have told her how much i loved her. Now i nearly have no memory of her bc i was 8 years old. It makes me so upset that i cant share my life with her. I just want to say enjoy every moment you have before its to late.

Thank you for this video! I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer this past March, and a lot of what these 4 spoke about I've had similar experiences, so thank for sharing

I'm 17, and my mum passed away due to secondary bowel cancer 3 weeks ago💔 Watching these videos helps to make me feel less lonely. Thank you Buzzfeed♥️

My mom went through a bout of breast cancer this year thankfully she is ok

I lost my mom to cancer a year ago ... she was only 58 and I was 20.... it breaks my heart ... I miss you mom

when you loose a parent you say hello to them every day

I lost my mom when I was 12 to breast cancer that had spread to her whole body.

This hit me right in the feels. I miss my dad everyday. I can relate to the girl who lost her mom at 15, because I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer at 15. I remember crying so hard because I got my class ring in the mail the day after he died, and all I wanted to do was show it to him. I think about how I don’t know if I wanna get married because I won’t be able to have him walk me down the aisle or dance with me... There’s a lot of firsts he won’t get to see for me, and that breaks my heart, even after 4 years.

I want my mom and dad and friends and family to live forever

I feel so sorry, I hope a cure comes :(

I felt it in my soul when my dad left that voicemail. It's like I knew before he told me by the way his voicemail sounded. My heart cracks a little more each day leading up to his death 😢💔

*I wish people lasted forever but we all know our dreams gotta end...*

Lost my mom to a Brain Cancer.. its so heartbreaking to watch someone that you like dying little by little over time.. Hopefully we will discover a solution to this thing one day.

This hit me hard💕 lost my dad to cancer 5yr and my mom to complications after her stroke this June..so those out there, it does get better but u have to push through.

I really needed to watch this. Tomorrow is my mother’s birthday and we are going to celebrate her life forever. ❤️

man who is cutting onions

This is completley relatable my mum was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer in February 2017 the form of caner she had did not produce symptoms until it was too late. When she was diagnosed it was at stage 4 she died in a hospice a month later. I felt my world had ended I needed more time. My mum died on the 29th march 2017 she left behind 5 kids and 3 grandchildren she was 55 years old still worked full time and loved her life was healthy and looked after herself. I remember her telling me that she wasnt afraid of dying and to tell my 2 sons everydag how much sheloves them and that broke my heart. As of now I can talk about her to my 2 boys about memories we have of her about memories of when I was little . I thought my mum was indestructible and that she was always going to be here. What I myself miss about my mum is her smell, her laugh, her smile, but most of all I miss my mum. My siblings and I are all at different points of grief but we are there for each other we wont get over this but with each day I cope a lot better.

I lost my mother when I was 15. A little over 3 years ago. I didn’t expect the depression to hit me the way it did. But I hit rock bottom things that she wouldn’t have wanted me to do I did. After a long battle, I appreciate what has happened. I wouldn’t want her anywhere else but where she is now ... and that is with God.

my dad is going through stage 4 cancer. I hate that he is so angry and depressed and scared. I just want him to be pain-free and happy.

Lost my dad a year ago to Cancer. He called me everyday- everyday! And I took it for granted... Now he’ll never call me again. Cherish your parents, you FAMILY!!!! It’s not forever!

I lost my mother last year due to parotid cancer and I miss her everyday .She was my hope and she was the most beautiful person I have ever met .I wish if the diagnosis would have been made earlier accurately she would have been alive.

I lost 3 of my family members to cancer in my 11 year life I lost my uncle when I was 1 then I lost my aunt to bone cancer when I was 9 and I lost my great grandmother to lucymya when I was 8 I miss them a lot and they will always be there for me.

Unfortunately my dad passed two days ago cherish your time and say what you need to say time is precious

My deepest condolences... Sending all the luck, love, and best positive wishes to everyone xxxx

Hearing them explain their story made me realize I had everything in common with them. My dad was my best friend and when my family found out he had stage 4 cancer. I was the only one that didn't cry. I think it's because cancer doesn't mean guaranteed death so the optimistic side of me was like we good. As my dad good worse and was bedridden, I didn't talk to him that much. I look back at think wtf was I thinking cuz I would pay for that time back. I wasn't even there for when he went and it haunts me every day. I loved him so much and I never really told people that my dad died except for my closest friends.

I was 15 and she had ovarian cancer. She meant the whole world to me and not to sound like a cliché but she was my best friend and I talked to her about almost everything. I remember coming home from school after two weeks of me denying that it was getting worse and my dad telling me that the doctors couldn't do anymore. All my aunts and uncels came to say goodbye over the course of a week.Then it was over. I always had issues talking to my dad because we are so different and I have never felt so alone in my whole life before. I miss her so much and I wish I could just talk to her again, her her voice, ask her questions. I miss her.

We all wish our for our parents to live forever but wishes won't always come true 😪

I know how it is to lose a parent to cancer I was 9 when this battle started. there were the first month were we drove an hour back and fourth everyday for 2 months then he started to lose weight look different not feel well. I’m now 12 but celebrated my birthday without him I always had the older father (66) but that never stopped him from loving me but I miss him and always will. Please love your parents before it’s to late 😭

Love this. Im just starting to share my own experience & journey of life after losing my mom to lung cancer. Its so hard. This video shows that so many share my story, my pain & my will to go on living. Miss u mom!

I wish my dad would live forever...

it was really nice to see a video explaining the feelings, especially the denial and not knowing, surrounding losing a parent to cancer, its nice to know you are not alone, thank you

I cried my eyes out. You're all so strong.

Lost my mom to cancer when I was 15. Hardest thing that’s ever happened to me but it sure did teach me so many things

my dad passed exactly one month ago today from stage 4 non-small cell lung cancer.. he had it 7 years prior but beat it.. I’m forever thankful he lived those extra 7 years and got to be able have an amazing 16 with him.. but I sure do miss him so so much . 💔

As someone who lost his father when he was seven, I always wish I could speak to him about my issues troubles or just normal things and get his guidance

I got Breast Cancer very young in life at 26. I’m not nor have I ever been married or a mom, but there’s nothing in this world that I would LOVE more in this world than to be a mom. But this video is the reason that keeps me from my dream. I don’t know how much time I’ll have and there’s just too much uncertainty. Also, will I pass this horrible disease genetically because I am a carrier? My heart breaks for each of you but I hope you feel that from a parent point of view because as much as you were worried about them, they were worried about you. I don’t have to be a parent to know they thought about you more than themselves in the end. My love to you all and thank you for sharing your story. ❤️🎀

recently i found out my dad has been having lung cancer symptoms and i’ve felt so anxious about what his diagnosis will be on friday. coming to his house on a wednesday evening and over the weekends is what makes me happy.

My little brothers aged 20 & 22 have now lost both of their parents. Our mother 6 years ago, which was sudden, one day she was here, the next she wasn’t. Now they have lost their father from lung cancer. It is absolutely crushing them. I’d give anything to take away their pain and anguish. They still lived at home and I can sense how scared they are to not have either parent to help them, guide them and be there for them in their times of inevitable need. I’m so worried how this is going to affect them

I just lost my mom to cancer nine days ago. What I wouldn't give to hug her one more time and tell her how my day has been.

My dad died last Christmas when I was 18, the hardest part was the fact he thought he was going to be missing out on being apart of my life. Life happens and it’s hard. You have to accept it and treasure the amazing memories.

*I want my mom to live forever*

I lOST MY MOTHER... 2k17 on Valentine's Day... "Leukemia" and still 💔 till this day..

I lost my dad to lung cancer 7 years ago. I was 25 at the time and up until he got sick, I didn't even think that something like that would happen to someone I knew and loved. Up until then I had only lost one grandparent, and I didn't really have any other friends or family who I lost, so I wrongly believed I wouldn't have to worry about that sort of thing for a long time. I found out he was sick about a year before he passed away, and because he already had a lot of lung problems he knew it was going to be a struggle. He had radiation therapy, and in the end it was actually helping, but while he was in recovery he got pneumonia and didn't survive. It was such a shock too, because I had been out to see him just a few weeks before (we lived in different cities), and he was doing really well. He got sick again so suddenly, and it was a matter of days after that. It was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through in my life, and it leaves a hole in your heart that never heals. It's also leaves a permanent fear in you, once you see how quickly the disease can consume someone.

To everyone who has parents Please be thankful and say U love them and hug them and appreciate them 😭 because u never know what will happen they could be alive one day and can be gone the next

I lost my mother to cancer and it was so sudden yet so sad. Losing a parent at a young age is different for anyone because you need your parent to be there for life’s important moments, my mom never even saw me graduate middle school and I graduated high school last year, but she was my best friend!! When my family was not speaking to us I felt really sad and alone. She literally told me this months before she died that even if family hates you and they don’t want to be bothered with you anymore just know that mommy still loves you and most importantly God will always love you!! I will take that to the grave and those words soothe my heart. I miss so much mommy RIP!

Life will throw a lot of things that will stab you maybe even literally. Loss can make the person who experienced it will grab their soul and guilt them. Healing will come, it’s life, and we can’t change that, however we can still change, heal and get better. Have the confidence in knowing that it will be okay at the end because it will.

I lost my dad in 2014, he got diagnosed with colon cancer in August and he passed away in December, I never thought it was going to be so fast, i wasn't prepared. My family has never been the same since that happened. It's hard to see someone you love dying slowly. My advice is to love people who surrounds you, you never know when they're going to leave without saying goodbye.

I lost my father a month ago to cancer... I never left his side, he was always a strong human being I will always cherish him forever.

I’m so sorry for all your losses and thank you for sharing♥️

I lost my mom 2 weeks ago I'm only 13 years old from cancer I know she Still here with me I love her so much She ment everything too me I feel I'll Never love anyone as much as I love Her she she was that person which u Could talk too within a few minutes And she well make your day she talk To people within a few minutes even All her life I love her so much I can't Express how much she means into One comment I will never forget the Time I spent with her 😭😭😭😭😭

I also lost my mother to cancer. Even after knowing that she only had a short time to live, her death still hit like a truck. You will never be prepared for a death of a loved one.