This obsession women have with height blows my mind. "Guy number one is 6'3, an alcoholic, and makes 18k a year working at an adult video store. Guy number two is 5'5, a volunteer fireman and cured cancer." Girl: "Oh geez... this is so hard..."
Yep, the fact that they have to think “so hard” tells us everything we need to know. 5’5 wouldn't even get a shot to show that he is an amazing dude. Whereas 6’3 guy would be blowing her back out before she even realizes he's broke or an alcholic. Even then they will say, “I can fix him” “I can change him” I know I said I wanted a guy that is loyal and pays all the bills, but this guy is 6’3!
Numbers do not reflect reality. What I mean is that these women see that height and automatically presume low status and attractiveness. But in reality, if they were to meet in person, they wouldn't have such a negative view of height. It's a societal pressure that only exists online. Women and men always settle for less than what we want. Otherwise, short dudes would never be married. Take it from a short dude who has had positive experiences from women.
Two things I would love to see from this channel… One: a male version of this exact video Two: an interview of different successful, long-lasting married couples and see what they did to get there Other than that, keep up the great work!
It’s interesting how Courtney liked this comment and yet we STILL haven’t gotten a male version of this type of interview. Because I would happily volunteer.
Trust me as a content creator if you do a video about a but what male thing and nobody will watch. There's a reason why her biggest videos are delusional income women.
I’ve been pushing for having older people and people who are married for a while. I really hope she does this. I would like to see more than just women in their 20’s.
@@jltgp6221 vetting people takes time, so does scheduling, and shooting. I'm sure there are plenty of not very self aware people that would like to answer questions.
As someone who hasn’t been in a relationship before, this is shocking to me. All the women said “nothing wrong with divorced with kids” but none said that for relationship newbies. Only one had enough curiosity to ask why the man hadn’t been in a relationship, but there was absolutely no exploration of that. No “if X reason it’s fine, but if Y reason it’s a hard no” kind of thing. All this does is reinforce the assumption that women see relationship-less men as completely undateable, which exacerbated the bitterness those single men have towards women. There are a number of reasons a man may not have been in a relationship - maybe it took a while to establish himself, or he’s coping with neurodivergence, lives where there aren’t many single women, is overcoming abuse, maybe he got in trouble with the law as a teenager and missed out on learning how to date, hasn’t found anyone he likes, etc. Some of these men (myself included) work their asses off to overcome past hardships in the hopes that they’ll one day be literally _eligible_ , but with this kind of not-even-a-second-glance dismissal out there, it’s time SOMEONE took up the cause of these men. After all, any man who can rebuild himself is equipped to help build up others, and has a much greater appreciation for fundamental values than someone who was advantaged and always attractive to women.
I will say it from this perspective. Women like confidence. Women like experience. And they certainly want what other women want. If you are still alone, even if you have good traits, they will wonder why its like that. A divorced man, is a guy that was valuable enough for a woman to marry him That is basically why women hit on you waaay more when you are in a relationship than when you are not. Its like, "if she sees something in him to be with him, then it must be good, and I want that too" The guy that is alone, specially most of the time, not between relationships, must have something unattractive to women that makes him be alone There is also the fact that they dont want to lead the relationship. Most want men to take charge, and teaching how a relationship works to the man, makes him unattractive and less "manly" Not every single woman will think like that, but I guess the majority will
@@marianogigahertz9212 yes, they choose failure with baggage over a fresh start….. it makes selection the perfect girl for you much easier. These women aren't the types for you.
I like how most of the women were afraid of losing arguments with the lawyer 😂 Even when guys win an argument, they still lose, so it doesn’t matter, truly.
@@gameon2000 It's about pride. A lot of gals, especially the pretty ones, have a huge ego. So if they lose at anything, they hold onto that since they're not used to not getting their way.
Not unless you say something they have absolutely no comeback for. Like when my mother told me to stop spending money on model kits (which I enjoy building) and instead to spend my money on what the other kids were using their money on, I asked her "So you want me to spend my money on alcohol, cigarettes and drugs?" She just walked off. Or when my sister once told me that 'women are always right,' I fired back with "If that's the case then what happens when two or more women each have different answers to the same question?" My sister didn't say anything and just gave me a glare. Both instances, I knew I won because they never tried to convince me or disrespect me.
This should be an eye opening video for all the fellas out there. The vast majority of women will date a guy with less going on in their life if they are very attractive. A woman who has a high attraction to a man will put up with a lot and make all kinds of excuses for them. A high attraction will overrule everything and logical thinking goes out the window. All men need to better themselves for themselves. Don’t do it for women. If a woman won’t see your true value just walk away and never look back. Never waste your time trying to convince her that you are worthy of her attention. She either gets it or she doesn’t. Walk away and mean it. Never contact them again. Have self love and self respect. Have a great day.
Yeah, the most of these segments I'm watching the clearer it's becoming that bettering yourself for the sake of catching a woman is a fool's game. As you said, there is a serious PASS/FAIL setup running through their minds, where certain attributes are auto-PASS while situations that indicate a learned, successful man lead to an auto-FAIL if a narrow condition isn't met. The number of women that would choose a significantly poorer partner (and likely less educated) so he could tower over her is no joke. This is like men preferring women with feminine bodies and voices vs more masculine ones. It's a HEAVY bias in favor of that physicality.
The first time I lost a fight to a guy shorter than me was a huge learning experience. Never underestimate anyone and never estimate anyone by their physical build.
Agreed, but that is because guys basically choose who to pursue (and try to win over) while women are pursued so they get to choose who to say yes to... on the bright side, guys do not have to worry too much about dealing with obsessed unattractive women.
Well said. You can ask them all the logical questions of what they WOULD do, and they'll give you the most logical answers that make them sound wise. But when they're in the situation with a man, all that matters is how they feel at that particular moment, all logic is out the window
I'm 28 and I live with my mom. It's such a tough conversation to have with people (not just dating life). I'm an engineer; I work for the US government. I have no worry about money at all. But it's tough to explain that my culture is huge. I also help out a lot around the house. My mom was an immigrant too so she has no retirement. I'm trying to pay her house off before 65. And I pay her car and phone bill, and buy her nice things (last gift was a stove). Lol usually I don't even get that far into the conversation before they ghost me. 😅
This right here is a huge blackpill for ethnic kings out there with cultures like this- I feel for you. Even many women of your own community don't want the "hassle" of multi-generational living anymore while expecting the men to just drop their parents on the curb. It's shameful. Best of luck ryan!
By my opinion the real reason women don’t like to date such a man is because they are selfish and don’t want you to share your resources and time with your family. Also they don’t like the idea to be close to your family. So don’t worry they don’t hear your story. You will see no difference at all.
24:20 I've told this to my friends a million times. If you are good looking enough women will throw out all standards and requirements for you. (edit: case in point 29:35) If she doesn't find you attractive she will expect you to be literally perfect in every category. That's why when you hear women say “the bar is in hell”(when discussing standards) or “I'm raising my standards” It's because she dated the 8, 9, or 10 who didn't do shit for her, didn't pay for bills, didn't pay for dates, didn't do chores, was a cheater, etc. She had ZERO standards for that guy. She doesn't realize she only had access to the 8, 9, and 10’s because she had no standards for him. The moment she adds standards she loses access to those men. Some will hold out forever waiting for an 8, 9, or 10 that meets her newfound “standards” others will “settle” and make that man's life a living hell for not being an 8+
Man #1: HE is 6'3" A serial killer who enjoys torture and setting fires to orphanages. Man #2: He is 5'8" a neurosurgeon who volunteers on weekends at soup kitchens and donates a lot of money to build orphanages. Woman: Ooh this is a really tough choice to make.
That is the reality. It doesn't matter if you ridicule it or not, that's what we have to deal with. You have to feed yourselves this shit. You have no choice but to accept reality. Either you get FKIN BIG and make up for your small stature, or you keep trolling on the internet like losers do, losers behaviour.
Women will ALWAYS think they can fix the 'hot' guy. ALWAYS. Doesn't matter about the number of women he's slept with or whether or not he's cheated in the past. Doesn't matter if emotionally available or loyal. Doesn't matter if he can compromise or not with her. Doesn't matter if he's financially irresponsible (as long as he MAKES money). Doesn't matter if he has previous baggage (i.e. unresolved anger from divorce, kids who are struggling with the divorce, etc..)- THEY CAN CHANGE HIM! Encourage the chubby guy to tag along with her to the gym and teach him to make healthier choices? NOPE! He won't change! Take him shopping and pick out clothes that look good on him? NOPE! He won't change! Exercise, nutrition, and style aren't core beliefs. They aren't permanently ingrained in a person, like personality or loyalty or the willingness to look at someone's point of view. That's why the same 20% of all guys rotate through women. They won't change because they don't have to. If you're not cool with them, they'll just find someone else. The guy of average looks will almost always value a woman more than the 'hot' guy will.
I don't. I cant fix anybody hot or not. I don't ever go for the hot guy because it is too much stress. I sleep with them but that's as far as it goes. All my relationships have been with normal, sweet guys, hard working guys, most women wouldn't never go for. Don't put us in the same category. By the way some of them cheated and went for the slutty, std ridden girl instead of me. They had a good woman but choose the whore. It works both ways but it's all a blessing in disguise.
The second choice between a good looking guy with kids and an average guy with no relationship experience reminded me a lot of job interviews, where employers want someone with years of experience for an okay-ish position, so they won't hire a new graduate. It's like, how can I even have experience when no one wants me😂? Worse thing is, once you are in your mid 20s, you dont really want to date someone young (18-21) because they are childish but no one your age wants you because you don't have any experience. So you will likely have to settle for someone without experience (so probably folks that are young) but you don't want to and if you do it's looked upon as being creepy after you are in your mid 20s. Life is kinda funny🤣
It is social proof. I am 30 and have only had one girlfriend, though it didn't work out after a few months. I've been on many first and second dates but they fizzled usually because the woman I saw didn't feel attracted to me. I think women really feel comfortable with you if another woman has approved of you in the past (or even present). Even though I would not care at all if a woman I was seeing had never had a boyfriend. I would actually prefer it and find it endearing.
I love hearing all of these women fight for the 8s. Courtney: What if he’s an 8 but has absolutely nothing going for him? Girl: but maybe he DOES have something going for him. There’s more than what meets the eye. Maybe he’s in school, blah blah. Lol This is why it’s easy to trick women into thinking you don’t suck. Another great video.
a 'guy who has something going for him' is just a "guy who has something going for him", but a mystery box could be anything, it could even be a "guy that has something going for him"
Can we do a 10 year followup with all of these girls and see who they end up being together with? I personally have asked different females about being bread winner and they all said they don't mind. But they all ended up marrying someone who makes more. So I am quite interested to see who these women end up with.
@@ERACLAB I work with a ton of high earning women. They all say they wouldn't care and in their minds, they are being truthful because they are thinking of a guy that is a 10. However, these women aren't 10’s as much as they believe they are. So you end up seeing a woman that's a 4 in looks having to “settle” for a guy that's a 3-6 in looks and that 3-6 guy better be outearning her. Alot of this takes place subconsciously. The women I see having the most difficult times are the high earning women who are 8-10 in looks. They want men that are literal perfection and higher earning. They can casually date/situation ship with those top guys but they can't keep them.
@@ERACLAB I was speaking from my own personal experience and the people I have talked to. I am guessing the range of people's salaries based on company name + job title and that's what I am basing it on. Every single married women (100%) I personally know have husband who makes same or more. This is true even for women who make 6 digits. The same trend does not exist for the men I know. I also do not know a single lower earning man who married a high earning woman (0%).
I’m betting 90% of these girls will end up being single moms and/or divorced by their mid-30s. At which point they will settle for an average guy who they wouldn’t even have considered dating in their 20s. Their expectations are so far above reality it’s hilarious.
I’m definitely not a 9 but I lived with my parents to care for them through their last years; I was making 65k at the time and paid my own way. Mom feared retirement homes and she made my promises they’d never be in one. Both passed peacefully at home; just a few months apart…
Respect to you Kevin C. Certainly a 10 on a different scale. Many people climb the ladder of success, only to find when they reach the top, that it was leaning against the wrong wall! What you did for your folks was priceless! 👍🙏
Live on the Arizona Cali border Jesus a 1 bedroom here in Arizona with nothing included is about 1100-1500. And a home 2-3 bedroom goes for around 330,000-500,000$ and the hourly pay for most jobs has been the same & gas is like 5$ a gallon now. I start hvac installs next week starting at $18 hour top pay goes to like 45$ but still
Not surprised that the women picked the guy who's an 8 but is divorced with 2 kids over a guy who's a 5 with no kids. Men with kids aren't baggage when it comes to women, but a divorced woman with kids is definitely baggage for a man especially one who wants to start his own family.
It's all about the money... If you can afford a woman with two kids, being divorced... Why not banging and impregnating another one if you got the money for that shit...
Courtney this is such a great video on multiple levels, it’s funny and entertaining. I think why these interviews work, is because you choose the right people, they all have great personalities! This was fun to watch!
I love that all these women are single and approaching 30 and _now_ they want the loyal guy. They still want him to be 6ft, not living at home, handsome, charismatic, etc. Then they're going to nag him endlessly about why he's only making $55k...
Seems like these are all girls who went to college. They don’t usually do well in relationships compared to women who didn’t go to college. They all have good paying jobs so they don’t need a man to take care of them so they have “fun” in their 20s and all of a sudden they’re 30 and can only get 50 yr olds.
Everyone is entitled to have preferences and standards. If they are unrealistic, it’ll cost you down the road. While men are more reasonable than women with regards to standards, it is also very applicable to them. What you want and what you’re able to attract are not necessarily the same thing. Most of the time, they are in krass contrast.
Courtney cmon, you know asking these women means nothing.. do it in reality. Get 2 men like this and setup a place where we can SEE how the women react and behave around them. You know what would happen.
Only videos that matter are the women who make videos of them using tinder and being 100% truthful.. Women can come on here just lie to not appear shallow...
@@giorgosdro7059 The women basically showed that. It was refreshing for me to see that the women were just as stuck on attractive males as men were stuck on attractive females.Why some people have a problem with that I don't understand.
Whether it's a first relationship or your 30th you still have to learn the person if you're trying to be serious. I think guys would prefer a girl who hasn't been in a relationship before. Only thing that scares me about that is when they get it in their head that they're missing out having only been with one guy. But being able to be their first everything....well there's something special about that. Just like with anything in life the more time and energy you put into something the more rewarding it can be.
It's funny seeing the women rationalize in their minds why they would pick the lawyer over the plumber, and the answers end up hilariously skewed because they know why they're picking the lawyer. It's the prestige surrounding the job title as if they tell their friends they're dating a lawyer it's favourable amongst their peer group, but if they say they're dating a plumber their friends may looks down on them. Not trying to come at these women, but you can see the processing in there heads as they try to justify their choice.
The question about a guy living at home really surprised me. There are many reasons we might live at home. For me I do seasonal work, so I'm gone for a big part of the year, and I help take care of my parents. Very interesting and enlightening video. Gives me some hope, haha. Keep making videos like this one, Courtney! I love it!
in life reasons still VARY we have BILLIONS of people and there's a MINIMUM of ONE reason FOR LITERALLY everything with LITERALLY everyone LITERALLY every time AND place PERIOD
It isn't just that. Think of it like an intuition based point system, any woman has her own threshold for the number of points she has to see to risk a relationship. (Btw we men do too but that's not what this comment is about). Having one's own place is a proof of competence (+1point). It just means that the man has to make up that point somewhere else. Ie skilled work (+1), or high social standing (+1), or sheer charisma (+1). WARNING: as I said at the start this is intuition, very few (>1%) of women keep a conscious score card, but when actually meeting someone the mind adds and subtracts based on new information.
Yay, now we have a better understanding of the desires modern culture has imposed on woman, desires that will change and woman have no control of.... they will change like the wind, it just depends what's popular at the time.
Wow the 8-with-two-kids vs 5-average-invisible-no-relationships was probably the most shocking set of answers I've ever heard on this channel! 5:26 She doesn't want the responsibility of "teaching someone how to be in a relationship"... but is willing to be a step-mother when she knows she's not ready. I'm guessing she has no intention of actually being a good step-mother, because that would be a MUCH BIGGER responsibility. 20:26-20:44 Not a significant amount? 95k vs 45k is literally more than DOUBLE.
Haha teaching someone how to be in a relationship from modern women who can barely hold together a single monogamous long-term relationship without either cheating, monkey branching to a "higher value" male or self sabotaging the relationship out of mental illness. I'd love to be schooled and taught how to be in a relationship by these women who judge and grade mens value based on your penis size and bedroom abilities hahahahaha Jesus christ
Doubly so when some said they dont judge a man who has made "mistakes" in his past but hold it against him if he hasn't had a relationship before. Maybe that perpetual Bachelor out there has dodged the bullet & Can seek his purpose instead of dealing with females who would rather fix a man who makes "Mistakes" lol
"Wow the 8-with-two-kids vs 5-average-invisible-no-relationships was probably the most shocking set of answers I've ever heard on this channel!" Agree, like what? Hell for a lot of men it'd probably be a plus if the girl has never dated before, while a single mother/step-children is a dealbreaker going into nightmare territory for many regardless of the looks score. Apparently for women not having been in a relationship before seems to be a huge dealbreaker. Really blew my mind TBH.
Interesting what is considered baggage to women. Divorced with 2 kids is less of a barrier than someone who has never had a relationship. Meanwhile I figured someone who has never had a relationship is a clean slate and I can start fresh with her. Idk maybe I’m just idealizing it, but I don’t wanna raise some other dudes kids at my point in life
That's the thing, alot of the things that we want in a woman will not be attractive in a man. Women prefer: tall guy Men prefer: shorter girl Women prefer: someone that weighs more than them Men: someone that weighs less then them Women prefer: a guy who has been with many women Men prefer: a Virgin. Or a girl with low body count
That was interesting to me, also. I would have thought it would be flipped, especially since some of them seemed reluctant about kids. Very interesting.
If I were a women, I’d go with choice 2 for that question because I would love to teach a man how to be in a relationship with a woman. Plus, since the guy’s a 5, they would give me their undying loyalty.
@@M0b1us_118 thats what i thought too. option 2 is a clean slate and the two can grow together into the relationship, without bringing in any past experiences, including expectations from good memories or baggage from bad trauma. but evidently thats not what these women say they want (when asked a question while being filmed for a youtube video at any rate). kids are a whole other issue in and of itself, (someone who adamantly doesnt want kids will not be attracted to the divorcee with 2 kids no matter what) which is why it surprised me that its such a bigger deal than someone who is inexperienced.
Lollll seriously. My husband is a general contractor, can do it all. And also has a degree in international affairs and is one of the smartest people I know!
Personally been in both blue collar and white collar jobs, as well as uni and also trade school. I can honestly say, that most of the people I’ve met in university are nothing more than “educated” idiots the vast majority. Hate to say it but facts are facts. Not much originality there. Seen far more intelligence and ingenuity from men and women in the trades. Also, there’s no guarantees in life that also holds true for income no matter what profession you’re in.
No, intelligent maybe, educated no at least in Europe: you have to be intelligent and well educated to have studied law and finished your studies (as a an or as a woman)
They say they’d choose the shorter whose in shape but when they’re out at a bar, club, gym are they going to give the 5’5 guy a chance or are they going to immediately overlook them and see the 6 + guy? I think we all know the answer
They will not. Same with the great in bed question. The 5’5 guy would never get to show his powers in the bedroom if the 6’1 who is a 9 was showing interest.
@@freudianslip2192 Exactly. I've seen it countless times when short/unattractive guys are hitting on girls. A lot of girls do give them a chance until a better looking guy comes along and then all their attention is gravitated towards the more attractive person.
Bear in mind, penis size also factors into this too If you are over 6ft and not massively endowed, then expect the majority of these women to laugh in your face, bullying, body shaming and immediately going running back to degrade, dehumanize and publically humiliate your penis size to all their equally skanky skeevy penis size girth shaming obsessed weirdo friends. You could be 5 foot 5, but as long as "you're packing heat downstairs" as these women outright vocally state, then "don't overlook all short kings"... Just the ones with smal dicks of course, overlook and bully them to mental illness and suicide for what they can't help about their bodies, as thats funny to us women right, a warped, normalized, socially acceptable culture of dehumanizing men based on their penis size to sexual ability.
@@MarylandGuy-ey3st Even that is not going to work for turbo manlets regardless of anything. And manlets need to compensate through being ridiculously good at other things.
Most of them where being disingenuous. For example, most of them picked a guy who was loyal and made 45k over the guy who made 500k and wanted an open relationship. But they all realistically would not date either of them
victoria and sami are the types of girls i go for. type of girl i could really get on well with and laugh constantly. down to earth, not judgmental. perfect.
I feel sorry for those guys who have never been in a relationship for whatever reason (life dealt a bad hand, introverted, social anxiety etc) that second question shouldn't be hard because of the choices... Just screams to me "damned if you do damned if you don't." Edit: thanks for the likes and the comments, read them all, glad to see I'm not alone on the thought process behind that second question. I'm just disappointed at this point.
Late bloomer here, didn't hit stride until I was 32. No previous relationship. It's still possible to get girls, but I seriously have to max out my shoulder-waist ratio, dress great, groom well, and finally have a solid enough job. Was chubby and broke before that
That's pretty much me. I've been in a few relationships, but they've all been short-term. I dread questions about past relationships because I know the girl will judge me for it. Funny thing about that question is, none of them asked WHY guy #1 is divorced. He could be super toxic, and always the one destroying his relationships. Is that really the guy they want?! I think in EITHER case, you should judge someone by who they are NOW, not who they were in their past, and how they treat you now. There's nothing to say in either case he wouldn't be right for you.
Very interesting how negatively the women reacted to the hypothetical man who was a five and no dating experience. The women would rather raise someone else's children than work and communicate with someone who has no experience dating. Given how Courtney and even other women previously questioned have said that inexperience is not necessarily a red flag, I was very surprised by those responses.
Yeah that's really odd too me. I'm my current gf's first boyfriend and we've been dating for over a year and a half. Sure there's some times where I don't think she thinks about certain things in a relationship that I would expect someone with experience to think about like initiating physical touch, and giving compliments, but for anything I felt wad lacking, I just communicated with her in a respectful and calm manner asking if she would consider it as it would make the relationship better for me. This is reciprocal and I've told her to do the same thing which she has, and it's been pretty smooth sailing all and all. Tbh I'd rather have someone who hasn't been tainted as they might have trust issues more easily and hate men cause one guy screwed her over
I found it hilarious when one girl picked a divorced guy with kids and backed it up with "I don't judge them by their history" but avoiding a guy because he has never been in a relationship is... you guessed it - judging him by his history (or a lack of one).
Yeah that's surprising that women don't choose a relationship that they can mold. Bcs they're gonna try to do it anyway. ... maybe that's why it isn't a differentiator for them, bcs they're going to try to mold their partner anyway.
I completely disagree. Never having been in a relationship is an indicator that something may be wrong with them. Or rather that other women ruled them out for a reason. Divorced, on the other hand, means they were picked by someone before and things just didn't work out.
@@erichermann1226 Dating has just never been a focus for me. Always had other things going on in my life. Trying to branch out more though. I swear I'm a mostly normal person 😆
It’s great to see that these women actually recognize the baggage that comes with being divorced with kids. Yet, they would never be shamed for not wanting to be a mother to somebody else’s kids.
Your channel is so cool. I'm a psychotherapist and have some clients who really need this type of content. I'm indicating to them and learning a lot with it. Thank you!
The woman asked, "Why haven't you been in a relationship already?" I have been asked that question and it's hard to answer because I hate the answer. I am 5'-5", started male pattern baldness in my early 20s, and didn't break triple-digit weight until my mid-20s. I've always been smart, gregarious tho introverted, creative, and artistic. Although I am fully self-ambulatory, there is a visible disability that caused skeletal/ muscular stunting, everything works. Females were just willing to even hold hands as my hands are the size of a 7-year-old's. I asked a woman why we could not date and she replied, "Because you're a cripple." I dated a woman with a child for 8 years and had proposed marriage a couple times. She never outright said no, but was not ready. Eventually, w/o warning, she got engaged to a man 6'-4", 260 lbs, a newly recovering drug and alcohol addict. I asked why I was not acceptable and was told that "people like you can't make babies." Turned out that I can but he is completely sterile. What I would ask of you, Courtney, is to ask your ladies questions about men with disabilities, and how this affects their relationship and mating strategies. Currently, I am 68, living alone, creating my art, and socializing with no illusions of any future romantic relationship. I am interested to learn more about what has contributed to this not uncommon calamity.
Damn, reading your post, it must be hard. I'm not going to lie to you. Being in your shoes is a fight, and every day is a war just to survive. The fact that you've come this far and lasted 68 years, you have a stronger mental fortitude than most people could handle. You can take that with you to your death bed, because most people would've killed themselves, I know I would. You are strong, don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. You may have a physical disability, but your mental fortitude is that of a Titan. I'm not being sarcastic or snarky, I mean this from the bottom of my heart. I applaud you for your ability to stay strong.
This format - real-life opinions combined with trade-offs - is a great format. More of this, please. Would love to see something similar about first (or early) dates, like „guy who pays for dinner“ vs. „guy who is well groomed“ or „immediate sexual connection“ vs. „very smart and thoughtful person“.
The ladies had some good answers on "plumber vs. lawyer", IMO. I loved the "guy who knows how to fix stuff in the house vs. guy who would win all our arguments" perspective. LOL!
I like these "Would You Rather" segments but sometimes I really want somebody to ask Courtney Ryan some of these questions just to see what her answers would be.
Her boyfriend is wealthy, self made, taller than she is, not overweight, and doesn’t have kids (as far as I’ve seen) so that basically answers the questions
These 'would you rather' videos are very interesting. I suggest trying a 'would HE rather' video in which the ladies say which woman they think the guys would prefer.
I liked how progressive a lot of these women were. It was clear that a lot of women in the video didn’t prioritize height and they also were okay with being the breadwinner. they would just prefer a partnership. That follows the standard of 2024. We’re all equal and a relationship is a partnership. However, a man or woman who stays home to take care of the kids is still contributing to a partnership. We love progressive thinking.
@@MikeyP109 unfortunately they do. My age bracket is a bit higher (35+), but as I have never been in a relationship... no chance at all. I'M tall, good job, more or less in shape. ..but no chance for a second date
Lol I kind of agree with this. Does it help to know that all these girls went to college? Perhaps a girl who didn’t attend would be a better candidate for dating material.
@@fischersfritz468 yeah, I’m 36 & now divorced. So I’m curious how women 30+ feel. Maybe 26-29. Could care less for girls 26 & below. Too young for me.
damn this feels like a job interview. You want to be in a relationship? well you have to have been in one already ... how will that ever happen like this
really nice video. I like that for the most part they weren't answering quickly. They took the time to think about it and see the different possibilities of each answer beyond the parameters of the questions. would like to see more like this with different groups of women. Really interesting.
It's surprising how guys and gals view issues differently. If a woman had never been in a relationship, it would not be seen as "why has she never been with anyone" or "does she have issues" to NEAR the same extent. That doesn't mean that 10 times out of 10, guys wouldn't judge, but there would be far more acceptance from guys on that front.
I agree with this comment. I dated a 4 or 5 Asian girl with a nice body who never had anything serious before. Needless to say it was the worst relationship of my life and completely one sided. Never ever dated anyone more selfish, entitled and neurotic
I moved back home at 35 to help take care of my mother when she was dying of cancer. Now that she is gone my father is going downhill and abandoning him makes me feel crazy guilty. That being said I am single and just turned 40. Living with a parent is super embarrassing to tell people and really really hurts your dating options. I do not make much money but on the bright side I am now debt free and have a pretty good-looking bank account for those in my socioeconomic level. (I am guy number two at 19:11 ) Just sucks the everyone assumes you are some lazy stoner who does not work if you live with family.
The hot Black woman with the glasses who has her own place is SPOT-ON. The '9' guy who's living with his parents is likely caring for them, and, besides, if she has her own place, what does it matter? Very smart and well-adjusted lady!
Let's be real - most of these women would actually pick the 6'2" guy and try to change his habits. At least he's got potential, whereas the 5'5" guy is never going to be both tall and fit.
and if the guy doesn't have an attractive face, that is least a 7.5/10, they won't want to be with them.. What is with men assuming women think a dude is attractive just because he is over six feet?? This is total BS as I am 6'2 myself, and I never have women naturally interested in me on dating apps without me leading every convo I have and I would rate my face a 6.5/10... Average looking face for men in todays dating market are totally invisible unless the guy is leading with money and is perfectly fine being in a transactional relationship
@@Chicodon008 I am at least a 6 in the face since I have met women before off the app. This isn't possible for men below a 6 in the face.. Regardless, stop assuming people are lying when you have 0 clue. If you don't like what I say, don't reply
Many women view shorter guys as less masculine. Plus, they don't want their kids to be short like their father. Also, if the taller guy makes less money than her, she feels that gives her a certain amount of power over him, at least in her mind.
@@MountaineerChemist10 girls are all over my buddy who’s 6’ 3” and he’s not all that talkative or out going. I’m 5’ 8” so I know how it is. It’s just how life is haha
@@GoodTimeBikes I had a good friend that was 5'7 and an 8 or better in looks and girls would talk to him and not even look at me. It was like I was was invisible to them. No matter i never had a problem getting girls. That's just rude as hell tho. He started getting after them for doing that.
Exactly. The 9 who lives at home with his parents is more than likely a care-giver who's supporting his parent(s). What's so bad about that? He loves his mom and dad. Surely, that's a GOOD THING?
I doubt these are their actual opinions on it though because in someone's real actual dating relationship life it's not just ok he's an eight divorced and has two kids yep I'll date him surely there's gonna be more to it than that and there gonna be more than just three traits
Oh these women aren't honest... U think they gonna be honest when there's a camera pointed at them and thousands of ppl watching? U want honest answers u gotta ask a girl when she's drunk, or when they're faceless in an online chatroom
@@hkay3127 my point is that doing would you rather is not a great way to find out someone's actual views on something it's like asking someone would you rather only eat pizza or hotdogs but what if I actually like both of them and I don't have preference for one or the other a better way to do it is asking questions like in your dating relationship life what traits are you looking for in a person what traits would you prefer the person to have what are some traits that you might not like or prefer but your like eh I'll still date him etc etc etc
@@garypierce7380 I kept a lot of not so good people out of my life. I do not hide from life. I have never had any desire to be a parent. And I would never forgive myself for passing some really bad things down to them.
It's sad that people think a plumber isn't as intelligent as a lawyer. In skilled trades, we do trigonometry and have a natural intuition of physics and geometry as well as the ability to run a business... a lawyer is simply a master of language, and there's a quote about language from Richard feynman: "You can learn the name of a bird in all the languages in the world... but in the end, you've learned nothing about the bird except what other people call that bird"... point being that learning languages does not mean more intelligence. Intelligence is a measure of ones ability to solve problems, which is what every skilled trade is.
Is a 33 year old man who is currently living with mother and brother but they are both disabled and he is currently keeping a personal promise he made to his father 23 years ago before they closed his casket, a good enough situation and is not a deal breaker for still living with his mother? I'm asking for myself and not a friend.
"I don't want to have the responsibility of teaching someone what it's like to be in a relationship. You have to do this. You have to act a certain way." - You're not training a dog. You don't have to teach someone how to be in a relationship. You don't have to teach someone how to act. If that person is a normal human being, there's a good chance they know how to act. Some people are simply shy and lack self confidence.
I'm consistently surprised by the reasoning behind their answers. Side note: I'm 5'3, healthy, and fairly symmetrical. I have been turned down more by women shorter than me because of height, than women who are average height or tall. It always perplexes me. Besides being unable to dunk, or have a long jab, I don't have any issues with my height. I always feel like short women have more insecurities about height than short men do. I've thought about it a lot.
The back and forth along with the rationalizations of these women is amazing. The few negative traits these women claim to prefer came with some version of the cliché, "But, I can fix him". I've always called this the female version of "white knighting". It's funny; there's a reason Courtney has never had a male version of these questions. We all know what answers the overwhelming majority of men would say if given a similar quiz.
HAHAHAHahaha, what's the point of asking woman these super difficult questions when they're going to throw their panties at face tattoos by reflex anyways!?!??
It’s pretty common for women to believe they can change a man. The only way that happens is if the man wants that woman bad enough he will do those necessary changes. Never the other way around.
Blonde short girl is a guys dream; she’s progressive in her thoughts, willing to compromise but knows her standards and herself, and is willing to be an equal partner in a relationship. Being willing to put in the work to make a good relationship leads a good man to want to do as much as he can for her, knowing he doesn’t necessarily need to, but because he wants to. Leads to both sides wanting to make each other happy, and making life better for both
Courtney your interviews have always been great and somehow are getting better. Thank you for putting these together. The questions are great, your follow-up is phenomenal. It would be cool if you had one or two older women. It would be good to see how a 40 or 50 year old woman responds. Want to see the generational differences, and life situation differences. All your women are pretty early in building careers and families.
The girl in the black with dark hair was so amazing (except the tall...I'm not over 6') Really! What a girl!!! What a great video!!! I would love to know more about these girls.....
The first question and it already concerns me. I am 5'5 and it is nice to hear that most women prefer the self care over the height. And I understand the 6 ft girl, this is a bit too much of a difference for me too :)
@@bilalali7336 you could have good charisma, and you can also be the exception. Point being women lie all the time with questions like that. If they weren’t lying they wouldn’t be single. There’s plenty of dude who match their ideal answers.
@@babas0997”plenty”? Nah that’s pushing it. The ideal guy they all want is rare, we’re talking past the top 10% without question. There are far more men who are 5’5 than there are 6’3. These are statistics that they themselves don’t even know of. If anything, women on average would rather have a tall guy with no charisma than a short guy with charisma just off natural selection
@@bilalali7336 but you have to have your stats maxxed out at 5’5, which sounds like you do. The taller guy will still have it easier tall else being equal
I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a woman who uses the number rating system when choosing a partner. My wife and I have been together for 42 years, and we agree that that type of behavior is insensitive and demeaning.😒
Yeah but how else can you convey to someone the level of someone's physical attractiveness? Numbers are simple and everyone knows the 1-10 scale, from least attractive to most attractive. Alternatively, you'll have to manufacture a scale like: ultra ugly, very ugly, ugly, below average, average, above average, attractive, very attractive, ultra attractive. And you'll have to explain the scale every time. It quite simply isn't efficient.
@@mrdouche9172 I understand your point and would add that it's all subjective. Beauty is TRULY in the eye of the beholder! I've never had much respect for any of my brethren who speak of women like this, and I avoid them. No, I don't have many men friends, I'm good with that.
@@TimJohnsen57 Not really. Beauty is for the most part objective, with some subjectivity sprinkled in. There have been numerous studies and it's been shown that some physical traits are widely more preferred than others. A short, fat, bald, ugly dude with zero chin and a crooked hawk nose for example isn't going to be anyone's first pick, or second pick, or even third pick etc. That's just reality. Sure it's possible that you might be the most unattractive person in existence and out of 4 billion women one might find you somewhat attractive, but that doesn't mean you're attractive, that just means you're ugly. And the probability of ever meeting said woman and also being attracted to said woman is astronomically small.
@@mrdouche9172I read an article about one such study. It's true that subconsciously, we find certain traits attractive and not others. Just look at photos of people in the 1800s', and look around at the people today. If the man in your example was rich, he would probably have a pretty wife, lol! I'm talking about consciously expressing that "rating" to another person. In my opinion, that activity is shallow and shows that the people who engage in it are more interested in appearance than substance. I mean how would you ever know if you let the ONE get away because they were only a 7 and your require an 8 or above? And what are you going to say to your people, "I'm still looking till I find an 8 or above?" Or, "I found a keeper because they are an 8+"? If you can't get past looks, how can you engage in conversation? That's the best way to learn about a persons inner beauty. I've met a couple very attractive people in my life, that as soon as they spoke the things they had to say, they got less attractive real quick. We are all different, if only slightly.
@@TimJohnsen57 Well of course if the guy is very wealthy, he can get a pretty wife. But I was specifically talking only about physical appearance and beauty. Not sure if it's a 7 or an 8 or a 9 or whatever, but a threshold of physical attractiveness has to be met in order for someone to be interested in a person romantically. As a man who has known many men, the vast majority of guys prioritize looks and that's just reality. I know it. You know it. Everyone knows it. It's biology. Good character and conversation skills are important, but only if the sexual attraction is there. If it isn't there, it can only be friendship and anything past that will most likely never work out.
"Why have you not been in a relationship?" meaning, I am most women, and I cannot think for myself. I need other women to select men for me. And I have NEVER actually considered how dangerous this could be! THIS 👆 here, is one of the DEEPER reasons why some good single men do not truly take women seriously. Hence, why they can endure being single.
Woman #1: She's a 10, but a high school drop out. Woman #2: She's a neurosurgeon with a degree from Harvard but is 270 lbs. Men: Omg this is so hard. Guys, stop making fun of these women. We sound just as ridiculous "on paper". It's not their fault or our fault on why we like the things we like.
From how I've seen Sami answer across multiple videos, she seems so much more level-headed than most on these interviews. Hopefully I get the opportunity to meet someone like that one day.
I think it would be neat to open this up, maybe have guys answer virtually the same questions just to help reveal the core differences. I'd totally be up for submitting my video answers for the cause.
I think it is very great to have a group discussion because it helps relieve the fact that not all women is all one womon. Everyone has their personal opinions on their life partners, but this is helpful to influence common likes. As a single 32 year old, I so wish for you to keep it going lol. What about a guy who drives or does not? Someone who cuddles or keeps their distance?
The woman at 5:10 says "he doesn't know" and 5:35 "having the responsibility of teaching someone how to be in a relationship" What does that even mean? A relationship is not an "act" or a new way that you need to start being. You should simply enjoy your life and share it with another person. There is no way that you need to start acting now that you're in a relationship. The only difference between a partnered relationship vs. normal friendships (relationships) is that you share more intimate time with your partner. "He doesn't know" is so sad. A person thinking that they have to teach another person to have human interaction is extremely sad and a little narcissistic. I'll continue watching the video to see the rest of the questions and responses, but it's crazy to think that the people in your videos are normal, everyday people.
Well I agree with those women for multiple reasons. Friendships are not like romantic relationships. The way you communicate is different, expectations are different, skills to maintain a relationship are different, the level of vulnerability is different. If it's your first relationship there are probably many thibgs you don't know about relationships.
@@ines3770 putting on an act or portraying yourself in different ways to please other people is not genuine. Be yourself and allow attraction to happen. Treat everyone well. Don't change what attracted the person in the first place by going into "date mode". Be your real self always.
@@antigravity420 You don't act exactly the same way with your parents, at work or with your friend. Chances are you don't show up to your office and go " yo what's up my G" to your boss and you don't go out clubbing with your father and you do not seek familial wisdom from your best friend. It doesn't mean you are putting on an act, it's just that it's a different relationship dynamic. In a couple, the level of collaboration is much higher than you have in any kind of relationship. So yes, you need to learn how to be in a relationship : you don't live with your friends, you don't have kids with your friends, you don't have shared finances with your friend. A friendship is not expected to be exclusive etc. Learning how to behave in those situations and knowing what works best for you in those situations is of upmost importance. People who have never been a relationship may not be used to have to answer to someone. May not be used to plan their life while having to take someone else into account. Fights can be more intense in couples and some words are more triggering said by a partner than a friend. It's through trial and error in relationships that you learn those things. While I was myself discovering relationships it was okay to discover it with someone else. But I don't have any patience for it now, I want someone who can be direct but tactful (something many men don't know how to do until they get their first girlfriend), someone who knows they're not supposed to do important purchases without consulting me first, someone who knows what their love language is and someone who is aware of what is a trigger for them in relationships.
@@ines3770 I'll be honest and say that I only read the first couple sentences that you typed instead of the whole book. The answer is, yes, I treat everyone as well as I can, including my family. The people that I work with all get the same natural person that everyone else gets. I'm not putting on an act for anyone. If you are going around acting like different people, you might have a multiple personality disorder, but I'm not a doctor, so I can't give you medical advice. I'm one man, you get one genuine personality.
First Q... hight vs fitness... now if 5'5" guy got injured and could not workout (or worse had a family tragedy, got depressed and lost his athleticism), he'd be dumped by most of these women. Shaky foundation to hang a relationship on 🙃
I’m 5’4 150lbs and shredded. My wife is 6’ 130lbs fit and toned. Very Happily Married 15yrs. Ive never seemed to have a problem getting girls taller than me. It was just a matter of finding the right personality. I never stayed with a girl if I knew it wasn’t going to work and God blessed me with a beauty inside and out 🙏 Love your channel CR
I definitely think this group of women provided the best feedback for the "Would You Rather..." series. Some of the other episodes got semi-cartoonish, yet this group totally made the most of the question by exploring the potential context while also holding firm to their (grounded) preferences (e.g.: not wanting kids, wanting somebody with similar means and intelligence to avoid you feeling lesser than, etc.). And this I personally find attractive in a woman, so bonus points to most of them. (I have one exception.) If anything, the only blind spot I saw was about the guys living with parents. While the context for this was explored thoroughly, they were still seeing this issue from a middle-class post-WWII American lens. We as a country still very much have a G.I. Bill frame of bias, as if somebody living with parents is failing at life. Yet, this wasn't the case at all before America pulled in all that money from World War II. If you go back to early 20th Century, it was commonplace for multi-generational households. It made the most sense financially and kept a strong family dynamic. Currently, if you look at renting vs purchasing property, you can see at times a 2x monthly increase to rent (vs purchase) similar properties if you're a single male (or female). Worse yet, many people get caught in a repeating pattern by renting, because they can't afford to save for a purchase due to the increased monthly bill. With the cost of living increase vastly outpacing the average income increase, it's become more about humbly playing the facts of life than being a 30-something burnout that hides in mom's basement. The multigeneration living rate is roughly 4x in the past 40 years, per Pew Research (2022). And the percentages are higher for immigrant families than American-born families. In fact, socioracial status in general is a factor as well, with Pew reporting a 2x increase in non-White multigenerational households. (Unfortunately, no direct financial or immigration connection was assessed, which is a huge disappointment IMO.) With that said, I still firmly believe that a man should be waiting to seriously date if he is in this process of saving while staying at Dad/Mom's place, unless he finds a woman with a background in multi-generational households. The bias that exists in not fair for either party at this point IMO, as there's still a lot our society needs to accept about sub-issues like pooling family finances and the rent vs purchase pitfall. Instead, I think he should keep grinding and only get back on the dating scene after securing that property purchase.
Most men I've met who still live at home into their mid 30's have social anxiety issues. Not trying to be judgemental, but I often find that the family dynamic in those types of households is very codependent and not healthy
@@zeus-ow8li That's a good point, but I'd also ask what demographics are at play. I think if it's more of a norm culturally, the less you will see that social anxiety. Ultimately, a deal breaker comes down to how much growth is being made at home. If they get stuck in their own ways, living at one's parents house at such an age may very much be a disaster in wait. But if growth is happening or family traditions are being observed, it's not much for which to be worried.
Only the girl with the cross around her neck was decently attractive.. I would rate a 6.5.. The rest were average or below average looking to be honest.. Especially for women willing to show themselves online for a video like this
@@robschannel6223 It's also hard to believe any of these women answers even if they think they are telling the truth.. Reality is, if these women were good with being a 4/10 with a good personality or even a 5/10average guy, they wouldn't' be single despite their non desirable looks
Be tall 6-0+, be rich, be fit, be a bit of a thug / felon / criminal, be famous-ish, be anybody but average, stable, reliable. and for f*CK all - never be the nice guy
These videos with the girls are really enlightening. Personally I am torn between whether or not I ever want to have children. One girl here said she does not want kids. I am interested in Courtney asking girls about kids, whether or not they want them. How would they approach men on the stance of children. Whether they have them, want them or not.
Don't even try to think about this. Women will change their mind. You could be with them for 5 years and all of a sudden they decide they want kids. Worse is if you say no and then she goes off birth control without telling you and ends up pregnant anyway.
I am 64. Go to the gym 5 or 6x a week. Am close to achieving 10% body fat. My GF of 18 years passed away 2 years ago. This is all new to me. I just am looking for a good woman. I want to be able to learn new things and grow. My kids are all grown and good citizens. That is important. This is very difficult. God has a plan for me.
It is so great to see that women all have different opinions on things, the internet can make you forget that not every woman has the same values and beliefs. This is refreshing.
A wise man once said don’t listen to what a women says pay attention to her actions. There’s a boat load of evidence showing that what a woman says and what she actually wants are too different things.
True, I wouldn't call it a problem, though. While the opposite of who they say could still attract them, this tells us what their specific values are. It helps you make a choice ONLY amongst these specific women, because you can know if your values and goals line up with theirs.
