Why do GIRLS HATE YOU if you CHAT UP GIRLS IN JAPAN? 

When I was in Tokyo I told this cute girl her dog was cute in Japanese. That worked way better than I expected. To the point I wasn't mentally prepared for it lol. So my advice is just try being a friendly person first and see how that goes. Don't come in hot and heavy or you'll creep her out. You are a complete stranger at that point, you know.

It's a good PSA at the end that there needs to be context. Also a few of the folks mentioned this but there are lots of people with dark businesses who randomly chat up ladies on the street.

Me: "can you tell me how to get to Shinjuku Station?" Japanese woman: runs away

I believe there are the "healthy" chat-up and the 'mendokusai' ones. So I think it depends on the person, ocasion, place, context... Even so, if everything favors the "healthy" chat-up and you are being close/conservative and making yourself a hard person to interact with, then... =/ GG

Things change if the man is attractive, otherwise he will be labelled a creep

Thanks for this video! Western men get mad when I say I don't appreciate nanpa 😅 I'm glad I'm not alone on this.

The two girls one with glasses are lovely

I think it would be interesting to see how older women would react to some of these questions

1:15 wow this girl's voice remind me so much Priss from Bubblegum Crisis anime...I hope she'll consider a dubbing career in the future because she has a great voice

Moonie Cathy Cat little of the topic! i felt i was been chatted up by some of the locals due to the colour of my hair and where i came from i was approached many times while in japan and they would ask me where i was from I absolutely loved that and respected them for asking me that,Very unexpected experience!😻😻😻😻😻😻

When I was in japan I didn’t really chat up strangers. But if I needed directions I would try and ask someone with my little japanese. I think since I started with japanese they kinda knew the barrier wasn’t to thick 😂 can’t imagine flirting like that though

how much of it is direct vs indirect? for example "do you want to go get coffee" versus "would you like to have a coffee?"

Idk why it felt like Cathy is the kind of person who I'd scream hysterically in excitement like "OMG IT'S CATHY-CHAN MAJIDEE YABAIII" when I see her on the streets and we're gonna have a little bunny hop together and she'd be a fun person to have strawberry soufflé or sundae together on summer evening. 😮😂🎉🎉

So what is the proper way to approach?

I guess we just need to do the Jim Carrey in the bar scene in Dumb and Dumber and just "put out the vibe"

Complicated 😢😢

to this day, i dont understand dating. why are men supposed to make the first move? girls get chatted to so often, they are just annoyed after years of getting hit on, and another point is that men are usually bigger and it could be scary sometimes, depending on who trys to flirt with you

I'd say big busy cities are not very conductive to on street chatting up in general. You're busy, in a hurry, in more compacted spaces and people are just hustling about. I can imagine mid sized cities, like Kyoto, Osaka and Fukuoka where the pace and hustle is a bit less intense just might be better. Applies in general. LA wasn't great for that either and I'd say shared events are definitely more desirable for that. With how crowded Tokyo is, can't imagine that helps matters.

Hi, Cathy. Do you come to Japan often? Um...Your hair. Hair good. Yeah.

The french guy was so scared to tell the truth about which guys in france are getting agressive and are the problematic ones. 🤣 Btw, it's the same troughout whole europe, just saying. The reaction of the girls showed what they really were thinking when a good looking guy that can speak japanese would approach them. The mask can not hide everything. 😂

There's nothing wrong with chatting up with strangers in the street. On the contrary we should re-learn to do that, learn to be more human, more open and not judging so fast. Japanese people could definitely use some of that. Propagating the idea that it's wrong and bad, that you will receive hate unless maybe it's done where it's designed for is a very "journalistic" conclusion to pass, CathyCat.

It doesnt Matter if she doesn't speak English.i will learn to speak her language if she's willing to teach me as I'm still falling in love with her!🌸🌸🌸🍁🌻🌻

Wonder if any of the nappa boys tried to chat up Cathy

It is not like I talk to other people anyway....

Without even watching your video (yet.. sorry ;P) I'll say it. The way to meet nice girls is NOT to "nampa"(pick-up) but just to be nice and funny and friendly to all around you. Good people will pick up on that, and naturally want to talk to you. The problem is getting the opportunity to be with nice people... there has to be some social bond, absolute strangers will just walk past and never know you exist.

I was never the type of guy to chat up girls on the street until coming to Japan. A lot of it was just to overcome my fear of rejection. Nanpa used to be more open and accepted in the 90s and early 2000s but younger Japanese girls, particularly Gen Z, if they’re the typical girl they don’t like it so much. Much of my interactions just start if I get a look from someone or if I’m on the elevator. It should feel natural. I still get nervous tbh but often we both end up having good conversation even if we don’t exchange info. Tried dating apps like Bumble but I only get a like once every month (literally 😂) and an actual match once or twice a month. Bars can be expensive. So with how things are in Japan and my lack of popularity on dating sites, I’m rather stuck with chatting up girls at random or going to bars. Really helps shy people to get over that wall though. 😉 Cafes are good too. Much more calm and relaxing than the street.

Not gonna lie this is very sad. No wonder birth rate is declined so much in Japan.

For Japanese women in Tokyo it’s apparently not acceptable to be "easy" on a street during daytime. But it’s acceptable to be easy at night at an izakaya by getting drunk to death and behaving obscenely. Japan is amazing

"Even if he is handsome, we cannot communicate, soo..." - Stop the cap lol They absolutely WOULD agree to chat with a guy if he looked like Brad Pitt or Leo DiCaprio, or whatever their "perfect" image of a "foreign guy" is in their heads. So I call 100% BS on that response and it was mainly to avoid risking to make themselves sound "indecent" or smth of that sort. That aside, problem with meeting on the streets is that I am ONLY able to see what she looks like, I literally know nothing about her. I am ofc speaking as a guy who is only interested in something meaningful and in a quality wife material types, not one night bedroom fun. She could be the most gorgeous mythical creature to ever exist on this planet, yet with the kind of baggage that makes it practically impossible to build what I am aiming at. Most people that we are surrounded with when we go into a public space probably are not suitable for us when it comes to anything meaningful, be it simple meaningful conversations or actual deep connections and relationships. If it was THAT easy to find somebody you are compatible with to build something in the long-term then everyone (or vast majority of people) would be doing it and we see that it is clearly not the case. In case of Japan, this can be a even worse due to the terrible work-life balance culture. I think the best thing for guys to do is to simply stop worrying about these things too much and be more focused on their own goals and purposes, but at the same time keeping their eyes open. Men with a purpose are always attractive regardless of the culture, but looking and smelling good while doing so can also take you THIS much further in that avenue though, so be mindful of that as well. Opportunities can present themselves sometimes in the most random and unlikely situations. I am going to Japan for 3 weeks in October. I am definitely gonna have my hands full as it is due to it being my first ever trip there and such, but I will see what I can find out and discover on my own once I have my boots on the ground over there. :)

This comment section is full of incels, did any of the top commenters whining about "How are you supposed to get a date then?" actually watch the video and what the women were talking about? This is specifically about nampa. They literally talk about guys who spend their entire day chatting up every single woman at major train stations or places witha lot of foot traffick, hoping that one of them is gracious enough to give them their LINE. And this happens to pretty much every woman in a major city at least once a week, if not more. Imagine you are going about your day, just wanting to go shopping or run errands or meet a friend and you have to battle through 5 guys with the same stupid-ass opening line of "Hey onee-san, you are very cute" or "Oi, nee-san, you wanna play?" and the danger of them actually following you for minutes. Yeah, doesn't sound that nice, does it? They are objectified in 99% of the cases and have good reason to believe that these guys' intentions aren't exactly the best - it's strictly about sex and nothing else. People (not just women) are more open to being approached in a space of shared interests. It's far easier and makes people feel far safer if someone approaches you trying to talk about a subject you both are clearly interested in and not just because they think you're a piece of meat to stick your dick into. Actually wild that some guys do not understand this and immediately feel like the entire female population of planet Earth threatened them.

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My old pops told me, never chase a girl, let the girls chase you. And frankly, it works wonders. Don't be a creep guys, have self-worth for yourself.

Funny how you never see Japanese girls doing the same to guys.

For those who think they're being delusional, Cathy is asking them about "chat up", which means randomly talking to a woman on the street. In Japan this is a big no no as that's what human traffickers and stalkers do. This is not how you find a date in japan. Japanese women date within their social circle, friends, and co workers. It's a conservative society.

No wonder the population is in decline.

You didn't need the "IN JAPAN" part of that video title.

How are boys supposed to meet a girl then ? Japan is definitely special, never fails to surprise me

Here in the Netherlands, I absolutely dread being chatted up or even talked to here on the streets. It's a huge bother and they will not leave me alone if I ask them to. I've even had it happen a few times where the guy got aggressive towards me.

You’re using the word “Nanpa”, which really means “hitting on” and “pickup”. Not quite the same as chatting up, which can be a soft, indirect, friendly, exploratory way of expressing interest. I think you’re misrepresenting here.

No wonder dating and marriage are dying out in Japan. How do these women expect to meet someone?

What on earth am i reading in this comment section ? Pretty sure you wouldn't fix the birthrate with just chatting up.

Wait. How are you supposed to get a date in Japan without actually being able to "chat up" a girl? If you're just limited to dating in friend circles, that's a losing game 🤔

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I mean if it’s a creep then definitely a no go. But if it’s done right , it’s gonna benefit their population

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I guess a Man just has to be a Mind Reader, so he can find out which one he is to the Girl BEFORE he talks to her... "Attractive to Her" = "GOOD" "Not attractive to Her" = "BAD" No wonder so many Japanese Guys would just rather stay home and watch Hentai... (Sadly, a common theme in MOST, "Westernized" Countries). ;)

Its all good that's why they got soaplands over there

Seems like everyone in Japan says they cannot speak English. It is taught in schools from 3rd to 12th grade, but no one can even carry on a simple conversation. Talk about a total systemic failure. Why does this continue decade after decade? What a waste of time for the students.

Between vegetarian boys or herbivore men, and super shy girls... I fear the Japanese people will be facing extinction in about 100 years, Or at least be an endangered species.😢 Makes me sad.

I love how in other videos I watched they were complaining about guys not approaching them lmao. Good to know women are as brain dead over there as they are in the west. What are you supposed to do then just stare at them from afar? I love how "flirting" is thrown in with being creepy and following them lol. That's not flirting, that's being a stalker wierdo lol.

They sound like lounge lizards.

Can someone please explain what chat up means?

Maybe that's another reason their population is on a decline.

So this is why the birth rate is so low on Japan?

Me love you very long time. 😂

And they say western women are easy!

Negative population growth in action action

Feminism taking it's toll everywhere, I've said in past videos it is a problem the way guys act around women in Japan, but unless you're attractive, you're a creep and just want one thing if you try to approach. Not like women can have standards and accountability.. Dating and the dating environment is dead sadly.

These girls play so many games. Men’s actions are much better aligned with our thoughts. 😅😅

This video shows how much more beautiful Japanese women are compared to white women

This explains the low birth rate,and lack of family. Good luck in your search girls....🙄

Japanese tourist revenue and inmigration rate: 📉📉📉📉📉📉 😂😂😂