Why do guys disappear then come back 

Meka, where are they? HaHaha

Meka B. I agree

Ok that's it, that's all.

Just Ask LAURA Lol!

LOL LOL

Lol

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👍🏻👊🏻 yup

Lea M mhmm

I know that's right!!

A guy may disappear if the pussy doesn’t have the best scent. He will wait a bit (disappear) to see if she gets it under wraps, then come back to see if it was just that one, or second time of a bad scent. If it’s stinky on the 3rd round, he’ll disappear for good. Hilarious! No one ever mentions this! Stinky VJ Gang! 🚫

saycheeze4mi You are very right having been in the military. Women can get a yeast infection very easily from not just stress but the bad water, food, medication or even some crap the military decided they needed to shoot people up with (vaccinations). People act as though it’s just that a woman doesn’t wash and that can be the furthest thing from the truth. It can be a combination of things. People that live in certain areas (regions [of the world zones]) also have to be particularly careful. The men can and do also carry odors. However because of the outward nature of the male body it’s really been noted that the male body is made for war and not a woman’s body. YES the males balls do carry a odor but don’t tell the men that. Even though there’s is made in outward appearance and easier to clean and ours is made in inward appearance and takes more maintenance somehow we’re supposed to keep smelling like daisies all day everyday. 😒

Noéllè yup but they don’t... he is right I was in sum thing like dat until I realize he was trying to get control

Lol

Right Ok! Get rid of them

Missy Lashae wrong!!!!

Amen 🙏🏿🙌🏿

damn u hurting hurting

Erin Wheeler that part. You are right, stay gone! Either deal with your issues. If I leave, I will usually stay gone, why because they usually f-d up. I state why I am done. So, umm, if they go and don’t state their issues, you obviously don’t need me. Just that simple.

yes it's me...You know just by meaning reading these comments that's the same thing I'm thinking too...all narcissist 🤦🏾‍♀️I just got of a bad marriage from a narc and I met this guy and he's telling me all the stuff you would want to hear but is doing this disappearing act and has made it a pattern at least 3X now and starting to think yeah I attracted the same person and now it's time to go no contact! 🙋🏾thanks for the confirmation

And maniuplators

sarah jenkins honey, yes

Yup

"Close the door and lock it." Like Derrick Jaxn says. I add "Throw away the key. HaHaHa

Kim Moss from one Kim to another this is my story too. He really got me with i need you in my life. How the hell did i fall for that ish

Kim Moss thank you needed to hear 👂🏽 this. Sometimes I feel like what I do wrong for him to act this way towards me. 15 months is way to long to play mind games and deceiving ways. Don't know why I really like the guy but I did. It's sad 43 years old, you would think that they're done playing games. But guess not. Getting over it tho

Kim Moss Thanks! For sharing

Kim Moss you was with a narcissist

Jojo True I believe there's low self esteem and insecurity issues too. Doing the pulling away act is their attempt to get some kind of control. It doesn't always work but they try anyway.

Jojo A lot of men just don't want to have to commit to one woman, period - it's how they are wired. A lot of guys will just stay like that - i.e., uncommitted and sleeping around as often as they can - as long as they can get away with it. These types don't stop this until they finally meet a woman who makes it clear she won't put up with it, AND she offers a lot that they can use in a woman - so they finally realize that they would be a fool to let this one go. Or, this kind finally stops when they realize they are getting too old to be out there, a lot of women will not want them anymore, and they need somebody to be with them as they age. You see this a lot in men that finally get married after age 50, and even older. So I'm serious.. this does not describe how all men think, but a lot of them. We woman have to learn - these kind of men are not like the average woman - they can easily do things with their body and heart, that would wear most of us out. Again, not all of them, but enough that we need to pay close attention, and be ready to bail when the signs of this are right there.. cause they won't take out a billboard and tell us what the game is.. we have to see it for ourselves.... XO

EXACTLY! The last two "men" I took seriously quickly fell down and away when they began to feel vulnerable. I could literally feel them slipping. Some men just don't know what to do with a hundred million dollars in their hands and I can't wait around for them to figure it out.

Jojo Realest comment of all

Jasmine Auriel yesss

Jasmine heard that. that's why I'm not dating. too exhausting.

Exactly, fuck all that💯

A guy may disappear if the pussy doesn’t have the best scent. He will wait a bit (disappear) to see if she gets it under wraps, then come back to see if it was just that one, or second time of a bad scent. If it’s stinky on the 3rd round, he’ll disappear for good. Hilarious! No one ever mentions this! Stinky VJ Gang! 🚫

Same here! I've given up.

OOO girl we are on the same page. I delete them immediately. No time for games!

Same. I don't even bother with the "who is this?" response.

@Smiling Angel girl if you don't say that!! 👏👏👏

That's the best method. If you don't hear from them within say 6 months maximum delete the number. How can they come back in assume that we are not in a relationship by all that time

And that's a way of controlling someone

ON THE MONEY!!! ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!!

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Peggy Roberts 1000% right about this!!

Thay too but sometimes it is about control. Narcissistic people ghost just to punish and invalidate people. There are a lot if RU-vid videos about it. The person doesn't always have rh have someone else but can do that and other things to control the dynamic and Express contempt and lack of worth through actions.

Facts

shayshep 2017 Or went on "vacation" as l heard someone say..turned out to be jail.

Yes and return when it doesn’t work out thinking we are stupid 😅

@@deniawiseone95 I don’t know why that cracked me up 😂

@@SummeRain783 🤣🤣🤣me too

Exactly it's best to ignore.

To Thineself damn😭😭😭

divanicole811 lol girl I’m the same way! I just disappear.. one guy even asked me if I’m still alive and plz call him back lmao never replied just blocked him and moved on

This is it.

Derek Jaxn? Really?

This is definitely 4 years ago before he showed us all his true colors.

This is what keeps them wanting you, when you become that real woman who goes about her business as usual when he steps out the door. My mom taught me, "love stops when they close that door behind them."

Nero Diamante nice! I feel the same way I’m a 90’s child but my mother always told me to respect myself and don’t chase man...

@@wowso4 Same here.

On point 👏👏👏👏

I'm the same way...

Wow what was his lame ass excuse?

Girl yes

LOL. I love this!

Agreed!

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NoeNoe82 lol grl

Earth Angel YASSS I love it and I’m now using it. Jack n box behavior popping up out the blue scaring us. Get yo @$$ back in the box 📦 😆 😂

Agreed.

@@adbc1f72 hahaha

Lol! Perfect definition! Jack in the Box! Only thing is, I would close and lock the kid if he tried it so he couldn't do it anymore.

Isabelle Layla I was seeing a guy and said something just making conversation, and he just stopped communicating. I think he really liked me, but he didn't say. He should've talked to me instead of just being silent about it. Women can't read men mind either. He said he liked me when we were in our 30s, go figure. I say it's his loss.

You don't want such an emotionally constipated man in your life trust me 

Isabelle Layla yes!

Isabelle Layla Yes indeed I've had this happen

Isabelle Layla bwahahaha

Delaw2 xoxo BOOM SHAKA LOCKA YASSS 💥 💥 💥

Amen!!!! That's all it is

Factual

Tried to replace and failed. Don’t accept being the constellation prize.

Kittyred how

No problem, I'm glad that I could help. Thank you for sharing your story.

Ew he's a douche . Douches belong in the trash where they belong.

Elaborate?

IluvJamila .. yep..or at least understand the game being played

IluvJamila This is kind of sad for those straight forward heart on the sleeve type people but it's true. If you don't play (pull away when they pull away, don't answer texts right away, when they try you stand up for yourself, walk away even if it hurts when they disrespect you etc) you WILL get played. It's almost guaranteed. This ish ain't for the faint of heart.

Robbie Jackowiak There's a book. It's called "Play or be Played". Great book👍🏼

Yesirrrr 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

do not date guys like that if u want. real date show them. i u want netflix and chill then fine.

Lyn, it's hard to watch them go here and there. But I've always been of the mindset. we're all free to be. That applies both ways. Someone who really cares. Stays.

Thank you

Thank you, I'm glad that I could help.

Chazz, when I first started exploring RU-vid. You were the first one that made sense. Now, after all these years. I'm educated. I keep coming back like a drug. I think it's because i believe that you are a good guy and your intentions are sincere. So, my friend you are welcomed.The thing about you is you are up on what's up. You've had a decent happy upbringing, and that means something important.

De Nada.

Victoria V still control no matter if its 50 females they comeback peep their head in to see if they still got you when they need you... when their low on supply so to speak. CONTROL.

Raquel Moreno Excellent description.

I M A QYN yep!

Thank you for sharing your story because you are helping others that read the comments while they are going through similar struggles.

askchazzellis Your welcome, and thank you

So he made you want him more by doing this?

No problem

Yes it is. They want you to chase them. My ex husband (from an arranged marriage) did this nonsense. I remember one week he just disappeared over something so stupid. I didn’t even care. In fact, I took it as an opportunity to sleep spread eagle with the bed all to myself. It was an amazing week. Everyone was so confused why I didn’t go after him. I knew he would come back and when he did, he was bewildered to see he didn’t get the reaction he expected out of me. I was not worried, I was not sad nor angry etc. I was just doing my own thing. He didn’t do it so much after that realizing it doesn’t work on me.

Block his number altogether.. no danger of temptation

A Hamilton A I did today...

Good. It’s never been a good idea to try and raise the dead

Lmfao just let em die 😂

You're welcome, thanks for watching.

Dudes pick these kind of fights because it gives them an excuse to ditch the girl they are boning, and go out to bone other women. He only comes back bc you allow him to get away with this and take him back for more NF & C. He enjoys sex with you, but you are not in a relationship. To you he is just a f'boy. See this is why we don't complain or try to change men - it is fruitless. Just hold to your standards, and if a man does not meet them dump him. So if you want your own man, you'll have to move on Sista. Don't go back - block his number - block him on the Gram and email. And next time, don't get sexual until after the guy introduces you to his mother/parents/best friends etc.. Also, don't have intercourse until he marries you... Stay strong Sista - XO

A Hamilton A Thanks for that advice. I honestly do feel that he is probably having sex with other women, so he keeps it the way it is so that it won't be considered cheating. He has me around his family, spends holidays with me, takes me on vacation, yet cannot fully commit. So instead of wasting more years on him, I should move on no matter how much it may hurt. Thank u!

Stock Starters You're right. Honestly, deep down I do feel that he cares but only to an extent. And I do not want a limit placed on how much a man will love me, or conditional love. You're right, if I wasn't doing all of these "wifey" things, he prob would have been gone a long time ago. Thank u. U both are right and I did need to hear that from the ppl on the outside looking in. Thanks guys ❤️

Amber Brooklyn Huge Red Flag-- if he's like that even with his mom he has no respect for her, or even you.

Amber Brooklyn omg! This is sooo True. Some leave because they have mental issues and can’t handle real life problems and don’t want to deal with them. So they just up and leave to get there mind straight. Not everyone has bad intentions. Some do it just to get themselves together.

Lisa Boothe best believe it thanks😂

Chai Latte Exactly