Men who ghost or come in & out your life are EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE. Cut✂ him off as soon as the games begin. Since he wanna play👻, treat him like he's dead. Showing him is better than telling him. DELETE, BLOCK, & MOVE ON!✌🏽🙌🏽
Well said...I was ghosted back in novembet last year and mistet reappeared sept this year. And baby my cut off game amazed me. Didnt even break a sweat!
One time I was talking to a guy and the last time I spoke to him he was talking about how he got addicted to drugs again and almost overdosed so then I said oh nah I can’t fuck with that I’m not interested and he never messaged back so I thought he died. A yr later he messaged me apologizing for ghosting me and I was like 👀 I thought you overdosed and died bro and he was like that’s fucked up you would assume that, you shouldn’t assume somebody died if they don’t text you back 💀💀🤣
Yes I had to do this mind games not with that men in their 50’s grown boy tried to have mask like he had it together. I can’t settle told him silent treatment when you set boundaries an my expectations as Queen.
Going ghost is the fastest way to get blocked. By then I already forgot and moving on with my life. One guy pulled that a year ago as we both agree for a phone appointment at 6:30 p.m. and he never called. I just deleted the text message thread and went about my business and weeks later he tried to send in a message. Went on about my business. "Got tuh go !" (Tony Gaskins voice)
She was wasting her time. If a man wants to be with you in a serious way he is not going to disappear for that long. He thinks she is s pushover and doesn't take her seriously.
He seems like he gets upset when he doesn’t get his way. Keep it moving sis. You’re determined & thriving. You’re better off waiting for the right one. 👏🏽👏🏽
I 100% agree with you Tony! I couldn’t help but laugh when you suggested she burn her phone next time he contacts her 😂 I don’t understand why a lot of ppl like to play mind games either. If someone ghosts you, have a mental funeral in your head about that person & move forward! I couldn’t see myself taking a guy seriously who comes in & out my life as he pleases. Hell no! I have too much dignity to let these fools play games with me. If I go no contact on somebody, it’s bc I’m DONE. So if any guy ever ghosted me, I delete & block him off anything & everything and cut my losses. Too many ppl in this world to only stress about one person who did me dirty. One thing about these tables, they turn! 💯me settling for less than I deserve is basically telling God I don’t trust he has better for me! The devil is liar!
Exactly, some men just be trying to play preschool games, with the in and out. Cause when I ghost somebody I'm not coming back. I meant that ghosting 👻👻
Yup. Bc of you Tony, I told a guy (who disappeared) that I would not reach out to him anymore. I stuck to my word. He reached out a few days ago (after 6 weeks). I responded (bc he reached out) but I pretty much let him know that I'm done and wished him luck. I only knew what to do and had the courage to walk bc of your teaching Tony. Thanks!!
I was messing with a dude and he ghost me for two months, I reached out because I had deleted him on FB and felt bad and that’s why I reached out. After, two month we met again and I thought we were good and last Wednesday, he stopped texting back. So, I guess he is ghosting me again. At first, I was kinda hurt, but I figured it out that it was not my problem and it’s on him. I try to find out if he was ok, and didn’t respond. So, bye Felipe.. lol
This is a great way to see a man’s true colors. Closed legs brings clarity. ✨ Side Note: I didn’t know Bumble was set up for women to make the first move. Ugh! Lol
@@officialwatchamber yes I used to be on all of them as well!!! Like literally ALL!! lol Thank God I am free from online dating. And yes will definitely keeping my legs closed too hahaha
Mannn no disrespect to the sane military peeps out there but I’m here to say I have been treated poorly by 2 ex military men I dated. Love bombing in the beginning, then moodiness & ghosting. It hurt like hell bc they seemed so cool, convinced me they were ready for a relationship but the minute they weren’t happy they got quiet and gas lighting, no talking. That stuff is a form of emotional abuse. Never again. I had to do the work to see why I might have allowed that in my life & focused on my emotional health.
Take it from me. Leave him alone. His PTSD will get worse if you continue in the relationship. I was married to someone with PTSD in the military. You do not want them problems sis!
PREACH!! Your comment is confirmation. My ex is a military veteran with PTSD and he was the worst nightmare to deal with. Any time you try to talk to him, he throws temper tantrums, yells and acts irrational. Awful person to be around. Thank God he's gone
This sounds exactly like a Scorpio I dealt with. He ghosted and I didn’t reach out because I specifically said I wasn’t going to tolerate ghosting and lack of communication.
I’m really enjoying my single season and have no desire to date yet, but I still haven’t missed a video in six months! Tony is thee best coach out here! The most relatable, sincere and humorous! 🙏🏻🙌
For some reason, narcs are attracted to me, so I'm never going to try online dating. I know that's where they hang out 😅 I've heard some real horror stories 😳
I knew from the first time she said he caught an attitude and ghosted her she wasn't sleeping with him. That's how these men do. She need to gone bout her business.
I love this man 🤣🤣🤣 everyone needs a Tony in their life! Every time Tony reads the email it’s almost like we react the same way to the same parts. I spend most of my time saying , “Molly you’re in trouble girl! “ or “ really 🙄”....
I think he was trying see if the two weeks was going to make her desperate to come off it. He also thought making it exclusive she might come off it. So when they saw each other after and she still didn’t come off none he said okay. He not in a place to wait or he don’t see it in waiting on her. You’ll be on the roster.
I sometimes find myself fussing at myself when I hear these things and realize I did the same thing. But the great thing is : it’s never too late for a fresh start. Thank God for being spared , no kids no stds. And start OVER. Don’t look back 💚
This is why I stay nice and single. Was married for 14 years to a man with mental illness, divorced for 11, went out with a few guys in these years and all of them a hot mess. Lol. I enjoy my peace, health and sanity. ✌🏽 Thanks for the great advice, Tony!
Two minutes in I was like somebody’s sexually frustrated 😂😂 and he’s fresh out of a marriage, prior military and ptsd...BIG NOPE. At least for me... alright I’m back to listening 👂 lol
Men do approach you even with your mask on lol. I started a new job and the men are always flirting with me even with my mask on lol. This guy wanted to see how I looked without my mask lol.. he started smiling suuuper hard when I pulled my mask down lol. So yes a man can tell if they are attracted to you even with your mask on.
You'd think they'd be happy to find a woman that is a challenge & not giving it up easily. Just shows that these emotionally unavailable, "fresh out of relationship" men only use women as sex objects. I think the Lord sent this video to me cus I've been going thru something similar and I thought I did something wrong n didn't imagine that not having sex early enough was the only "offense". These videos have been helping me understand men a lot.
Ex military, divorced, goes ghost, on line dating, and he's cranky??!! Lots of red flags. Lesson 1: do not on line date. 2. Cause you grown and you gonna do what you want, don't go to one that uproots the natural order. 2. Keep legs closed 3. Out of town, get a hotel. 4. Watch red flags 5. Grab your purse and don't play the fool. Got it!! Thank you for your wisdom, Tony!
Just because a man gets divorced doesn’t mean that he’s over his ex wife. It’s too soon for him to move on to somebody else. And I’m in the Navy, 16 years Active duty for me, I’m a female officer. the Navy offers plenty of mental health options for people whether you’re active duty, separated from the Navy without making it to twenty years, or retiree.
I think this email is a testament how dating should be done, especially for women. Yes, there was little mishaps here and there, like him ghosting her once before and she gave another chance. We shouldn’t aim for perfection. Rather aim for effectiveness. Therefore, it seems to me that she is a grown woman and she was in control of where she wants her relationship to go. And most importantly she didn’t reward him with her body. That’s the game changer. Hopefully more women will be inspired by her. I know I am.
I am 41 an empty nester and single. I tried online dating for the first time last year, what a joke. I deactivated my profile. Online dating sites are all the same a total waste of time.
Girl he using you and live with a woman you’re doing what they aren’t willing to do he’s a playa and uses every woman he encounters he mad cause you probably asked for a commitment. don’t settle for crumbs when you can have the whole loaf of bread..Love yourself
I was on a dating site I was talking to a guy over a year find out he lied to me about his name like wtf I have no desire to date rn I’m a celibate & loving myself
Thank you so much for the videos and advice! Tried online dating for the first time and prayed about it and decided to get off and let God bring the right man into my life. Online dating was a unique experience because even though I put down that I am 40 a lot of young men would try to match with somewhat inappropriate comments. So this video is perfect timing. Thank you so much for helping us understand men!
Wow, didn’t even notice the ring 🤦🏽♀️ but “Apple cider vinegar mixed with witch hazel & bumblebee honey” 🤣🤣🤣 Thank You TG for the 3-5 videos a day. What a nice treat, we will watch all!!
Hi Tony Gaskin you right telling the truth. I gor ghosted & was upset @ first but thank the lord God had my back. Im healing each day he was not apart of my destiny.
GURLLL.. when she said she ain't gave em none.. my heart rejoiced and I had do stop and do 50 kegals.. Yaz yaz yaz. We got us a point on this one.🖤✊🏿🙏🏾🙌🏾💅🏿 Standards up, legs closed, and the eyes are on the prize...
This is a wounded man that is emotionally unavailable. I'm going through something ialmost dentical. Tony Gaskins, I've watched many relationship videos from many different coaches and you are my favorite.
Thank you Tony. I am learning a lot with you , and on the plus side you always make me laugh . The truth stings but you give it a little twist with your sense of humour. I learn and laugh- best combo ever!
Thank you Tony for adhering to GOD. You Share Truth . And The example that you set. I hope GOD continues to Rain Blessings upon you and your wife and your children. I greatly Appreciate the Advice you Share! Letting the Holy Spirit use you. I've Experienced alot in my dating world and all that you share is HELPFUL! And Self-Explanatory! Thanks