So true...grow/fall into love first, get married, then give up the cookie. Ladies, sex should be the last thing you give to a man. He needs to earn it and your love first. Love yourself first, become healthy, healed, whole, confident, and be about your purpose. God will send that man to find you. There is nothing you have to do when God is is the mix, He is all knowing and doesn't need our help. Peace and blessings to you🙏
If he thinks I am easy on first meeting me that is his problem, he cannot put me in the category with other women. That is such a turn off when men pre-judge women. Immature boys think this way.
Dasani605 yeah the average man is. I have male co workers who are average and they talk about how easy it is to get sex and to get it on the 1st date. Even when they tell the women that they are looking for more than just sex they say the women insist on having sex. I knew these men well and they were looking for a special woman so they weren’t players. Plus I can tell from my own dating experiences that men get sex easily. The last guy I dated and have known for 8 years told me I was the only woman that made him wait because usually he gets a woman in bed after about 1 week. I also have female co-workers that give up sex on the 1st meetup or within the 1st week of meeting a man.
@@lcjones4682 Some women are not looking for a relationship and show love by pleasing a man. It don't make them a hoe, they don't know any better. Birds that flock together stay together. It's like 10 women to 1 man. If all 10 women say no, let's date and maybe 3 or 5 dates, you can come over. Some men would change and maybe settle down because not all men will date every woman he meet or wait for sex.
Amen! Thank you Tony! Men won't think you are a loose booty if you: 1. Keep your legs closed 2. Set Strick Boundaries 3. Come to the Table Like a BOSS! Be Blessed!🙏❤🦋
Close my legs Set boundaries (strong boundaries)💪💪💪💪💪 Pay for my own meal but if he insist I am not going to feel guilty of not giving up my virtue (No cookies) at allllllll🍷🥗🥘 And drive my own car🚘🚘🚘🚗 And sleep in my own bed 🛏🛏🛏 GOT IT!!!!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗😘
@@myramilton1833 Tony isn't saying pay for a date you're invited to. Just offer to show your independence because typically the man will say no anyway.
It’s a sad state of humanity when men think it’s strange that another man is faithful to his wife .. And this is why Hell is continuing to fill up with these men and with the women they sleep with outside of marriage
Yoooooo my man gets played at work for being faithful to me cause every other dude at his job be smashing chicks on the job and go home to they girls but my dude too thurl for that he laughs at them cause it’s like wtf is the point of a relationship if that’s how y’all gonna run shit but that’s just how our world is
We are living in a "hook up" culture, so most people (men and women) have no standards. It's time (been time) to reintroduce standards to our community.
Most men treats relationships as if its a burden, married men IMO are the most thirsty, they act as if they are in bondage and needs to be freed. LOL. I'm very attractive, but abstinent for over 17 yrs. At this point I do feel hopeless, scared and will most likely die with cobwebs. It should not be this hard. I'm over it!
Tell a man upfront if you choose to date, you want to honour God and lay off sex, sexting, nudes etc and see if he stays. Before you go on ANY date, ask how many women he has slept with. If he has a high body count, dont even bother seeing him. Some lie but you will see from the way he conducts himself, also, these days, a lot of them dont feel the need to lie. If you start by choosing quality men, you will eventually find a quality man. What's important is you choose to honour GOD and HE will bless you. He is a good father.
ebonie shenece GOD BLESS YOU SIS!!! Hang in there when the times get tough. Trust GOD, pray much. Read your Bible. Submit yourself TOTALLY to GOD. He is the way, the truth and the light!!!! He will always sustain you. Remember GOD Strength is made perfect in your weakness!!!! Corinthians 12:7-10.
ebonie shenece I have not been sexually active for over 5 yrs. now!!!! TO GOD BE THE GLORY, for the great things he has done. I am a BORN AGAIN virgin. Praise JESUS, through his blood. I have had sex before so at times it can be trying to STAND here! However, but GOD he keeps and sustains me through it all!!! I was in a relationship for 3 1/2 yrs. and me and that man never had sex, never laid together, never came close, never saw each other exposed!!!! GLORY to GOD!!!!
Dania Morris GOD BLESS YOU!!! Pray much, read your Bible much. Totally submit yourself you body to GOD as a living sacrifice holy and pure!!!! GOD will take care of you. He will sustain you!!! Do not believe the lies of the devil. Stand on the word of GOD continue to STAND!!!!!
I’m not ashamed to say that I have been this woman! I thank God that I have healed from past insecurities that have led me to be desperate. Thank you for this it was well needed 💪🏾🗣‼️
Yes bro you right alot men get enough of women after having sex 11 time. When I was playing in the field and operating from my brokenness got enough of a women after had sex one time and move to the next women. But that's why come your page get knowledge and approve so I can become and be a better man daily. And got couple of course to.Allot facts in what you say.
@@Ulzannghome Yes that was how who use to be. Yeah Jesus must be coming back sooner then we think lol. Alot people cant admit when was living or where they went wrong. But only get better is to admit where you were at so you can know where your heading to . So look back and see where you been
Ladies let keep God first spend time with God and yourselves forgive yourselves and continue to learn, heal, grow and make better good positive changes. Come to the table with your standards and boundaries like a boss and if he dont like it tell him good bye dont waste your time. Every men is not worth our time and body keep legs close wait until you ready for the right man God has for you. Dont allow no one to disrespect you and dont disrespect yourselves. Dont ignore the red flags its for a reason pay attention. Stay focus on your values, worth, goals and dreams. Tony you right thank you always keeping it real i needed this. We need to hear the real truth.God will always show us who people really are. God bless all.😁👏👍
Yes indeed. I notice the comments (right comments) that mention God first and God as the lead has the least thumbs up. It's no wonder so many women are having trouble, and they will keep, until they understand God comes first and then the blessings/real men.
@Deatrice Brown I see what you're saying... Sometimes I think they are being so lazy. I have had a couple ask me on dates via text & they never called and spoke to me.
Because they can text multiple women at once but actually picking up the phone requires their full attention on a conversation. If all he do is text he may be overly occupied. I see my brothers and co workers do it all the time. They texting two at once 🤦🏾♀️
Funny thing is, years ago I told "friends" I'm good all by myself and they saw I live up to it and they tried to ridicule me (could I be a lesbian....ahhh NO!) NOW, they're looking at me in a different light because I'm not ran thru, worn out and men know my history of not being a jump off, being easy and I get that respect from men that they really dont get.
A man becomes a MAN when he is submitted to Christ. And knowing Christ is what can keep him submitted to one woman. No man is worth having until he knows Christ.
At this point, it’s just better to remain single. Too many games being played and too many hoops to jump thru just to TRY to be in a relationship with someone. Ain’t nobody got the time or emotional energy to deal with this nonsense.
@@TonyGaskins yes! LMAO! @ 22:05 I fell out! 😂😂😂 Nah, keep giving it to us just like that, straight no chaser! You can't sugarcoat with grown folks. Lol
You are definitely speaking truth! We have to understand that we have the power to control where the relationship goes! Thanks Tony! Always good knowledge!
This message is so powerful. Anyone who loves the truth will respect this message. I will be sure that me and my husband teach these things to our daughter. Please continue with these everyday messages, I appreciate them.
Lord have mercy! I’m over here shouting, Preach Rev!! Women tell me all the time they have to give it up to keep a man. Yet they fall in love and the man fell in lust! Best phrase thus far. Thanks for all you do for us Tony. 🤗🙏🏽💯
I disagree about the dates. I won’t feel guilty if he asked me out. My time is precious and I’m worth a meal. If not I can take myself out to eat. It’s not that serious. A thank you kindly is all he will get. I’m not paying on no date. That defeats the purpose. And trust I won’t feel any shame. I’m too old for the bs
Thank you Tony 🌟 Be Blessed.. This is now on point ..I remember when I was younger and would go out my aunt would always tell me to make sure I have money in my wallet (purse) to get home ...I never let people drop me off (?) in front of my door ...and if I never had a problem if I had to pay for my dinner....there are people who don't even believe I live alone because I do not invite them to my home... I saw some comments on a YT video where the women were saying that they were not going g to "help" the man by paying for dinner etc .. and I felt that they were totally missing the point ..and here you are explaining WHY women should want to be ok paying for dinner etc ...especially if you are dating ... I am a woman in my 50's now ..and these things still apply. ..
A lot of generalizations about women. That’s the problem with men. Not all of us fit in ONE box. Blame it on the woman instead of men taking responsibility for their erroneous mindset and disrespectful actions.
Charlene Beasley I would agree to some degree . I feel as a general consensus, there isn’t enough education out there for men to teach them how to be men and fathers but there’s plenty of information for women from women and men on how to be a woman . I hate that it seems as though we need all this education when it’s men that should be willing to receive and give this information to each other to hold each other accountable and to lift their fellow brother up . But I’ll say men don’t like to be told what to do . 🤔😉
@@beauphomasterpiece3795 This is the realest comment on here. The biggest problem I noticed is these "pick-me-up" women who keep enabling these men. The sad part is they get disrespected too.
Been there done that. Now I know better. At some point I felt like I sold my soul to the devil. When you know better you do better! Lesson Learned. Great Video!
you can get it back by repent that's Happened to me God set me free with a prayer of repentance. I ask God to disconnect me spiritually,emotionally and mentally. He did it for me.after I did that I received God power.remenber the devil come to still to kill and destroy..open your eyes and stay bless...
I do love the keeping your legs closed though. Since my divorce I feel that’s easy. I also agree with meeting them for the date. It’s some crazy men out here for real
Yes Tony....this so true number game. So ladies do not depend on a man even if he throwing you a couple of dollars. If you’re able to provide for yourself, take care of home 🏡, not looking desperate, then you will definitely stay off your back. Some men don’t care about your feelings, some men are not in all that passionate love ❤️. Some men are about that pimping mind game. Stay focus, and pay attention to your surrounding. Be Blessed, Be Safe.
Man, real talk! Y’all women better listen to his words & listen CLEAR!! A man will always do what you allow. THANK YOU, for your wisdom & just being 100 with us..
Tony ... man you so country .. but I respect you and I have learned a lot from you . I can’t afford the courses just yet but the fact that I can take nuggets from your video is priceless. Since implementing some of your techniques (setting boundaries) in my online meeting profile I don’t get as many dusties as i use to . Also when meeting I have offered to pay my own and I feel proud about it and gives me a sense of control in this dating thing. Now I am seeing someone who says things like us and we (referring me and him) when he talks about the future and his plans, as well literally wanna do things to make me happy. Takes genuine interest in me and the things I’m interested in. I feel like it’s authentic and may go somewhere however my boundaries and standards are still in tact . There’s absolutely no sex talk ( as with previous men which was an absolute turn off) . He talks and expresses his desire to not only date me and only me but to also court me . He drives to see me with no problem (an hour) . He’s physically to my liking and don’t have a gang of kids . He’s expressed through our conversations how knowledgeable I am ( I be quoting some of your advice in our conversations) Also Me: in my head (God let this be real and give me strength to keep my legs CLOSED) I’ll admit, it’s been a while since I’ve encountered a man like this . His character and actions sounds so promising to me however it’s been a while since I’ve been courted . So I don’t even know what that means to be exactly. To be continued....
I don't know you but I'm happy for and it gives me hope. You sound like a good woman that deserves to be treated well. I hope all continues to go well for you.
Tameeka Harris thank you it’s been a long time coming . I was really getting weary because of the culture of “having a man” just to have a man and the continued questions of oh, you don’t have a man yet ? It was hurtful because I wanted one but I did not want a man just to have a man if that makes sense . I want something of substance . I’m not seeking validation by having a man on my shoulder. Thanks again for reading
@@beauphomasterpiece3795 Yw and I totally get it I feel the exact same way, because once you're a women of a certain age ,people act as if something is wrong with because you don't have a man. Substance is a must and it's almost impossible to find but I haven't given up I'll just keep working on me .
I have never felt like I owed a man anything just because he took me out on a date. I am fully open to receiving from a man without a guilty conscience. I like him and he likes me, there’s nothing wrong with it.
With this last guy I was dating, I had boundaries/ standards in place.... however, he told me my standards were to high... 2 months later, he left and started dating someone else 😖🥺
I been stopped whining over situations that I have control over. When a man act like he too busy to call at a decent hr only at night I wont never answer than, watch how early the phone calls get lol
Good thing i have no guilt. I don't owe nothing from a date. My time is enuf of a transaction. The fact that 9 out of 10 men use 'prison exploitation tactics' is pitiful...those same 9 out of 10 that KNOW you a Boss Woman will only attempt to pilfer and manipulate you with 'Business Opportunities'...Juggle you between business associate and potential mate.. ..Those 9 out 10 not gonna mature..They character poor to begin with...Im hoping to sift out the 1/10 Man who knows a High Value Woman and who doesnt covet money and be happy and prosper together...
Yes yes YES! So unbelievably true and articulately SAID wonderful,wise sister. I could never phantom how some women's self esteem to be so low believe they owe a man access to their temple even after a thousand paid dinner dates. Your temple is literally priceless according to God, so I never resonated with that low level thinking either. The no good men would just have to stay mad🤷♀️. Also speaking on your amazingly well said exposure of the 9/10 men motives you are so so accurate! I guess we are supposed to be naive and pretend that men don't have agendas set in place when they first meet us. Placing your value to thrift level thinking you can change a man by cheaply bargaining yourself(which in essence what this new age feminism is truly about) isn't going to turn his intentions pure. The right, responsible, righteous man(a.k.a A REAL man) WILL court you properly and won't even allow you to lower yourself even if you wanted to like suggesting to pay or help him in his presence. It's sad so many women here never seen such example of a proper man and believe all of this settling/compromising for less logic is normal. I pray God helps them see the light.
I am a Lyft driver. My customer invited into his house to see his bedroom. I didn't fall for that one so instead he offered to take me to a movie. Too little too late. He already showed me his hand. What a dummy.
This is my favourite tony Gaskins video. The message of coming to the table like a boss and not being desperate is absolutely necessary. Learnt so much in this video.
