Not at all, I’ve experienced this because a whole friend that I confided in dropped me because I slept with someone he knew and refused to get with him too. Like what?!
Ok heres my take on it: its not just you, and yes i can identify as a straight woman. Number one i think you are an easy target because you are attractive, and so with that, comes pretty privilege and all the side effects of that. Seems a large percentage of men gay or straight are ruled by testosterone, and if you’re attractive , kind, and like u said “sheltered,” so of course they will go for it when they have a chance. Like who wouldn’t right!.? Lo lEven when they know they have no chance, they will still try. It’s annoying in many ways because you can never feel out if someone is genuine or not. However knowing you can have almost anyone you want, i mean is that a negative really? So id say with the privilege also comes a lot of power, you just need to learn how to wield in a proactive way, and be extremely up front with people telling them they will never have a chance. They can choose how the interaction goes from there after being told that.but you’re not alone, i think the actively looking for sexual partners is a human thing or maybe a man thing % wise! Lol
Lol. And you really think it’s just YOU?m and the gay community? Wtf💀 You’re so full of yourself, stop dreaming. Either you’re gay or not, it’s about YOU!
regardless of sexuality or gender, if ANYONE-- _especially_ someone I consider a friend--puts their hands down someone else's pants without their consent, it's ALWAYS weird and inappropriate. I'm sorry that happened to you.
It's crazy how this can go both ways, because it's always the straight guys who have girlfriends and kids that tend to slide in my dm and assume because I am bisexual that I want to hook up with every guy when that isn't how sexuality works...
I think the problem is mostly with (mostly) men thinking they are entitled to sex. The way some of my gay friends and straight women talk about men is very similar. The constant pushing of boundaries coupled with the current hyper sex positive attitude I think is the main culprit here. Gays complain to me both about hook up culture and polyamory becoming too prevalent, but I know most of the people who think like that are scared to be problematic or more introverted.
I 100% get it. I do think a lot of guys (both gay and straight) will use "friendship" as a Trojan horse to get with the dude or girl they want but were too scared to be honest with from the get go. It's one thing if over time a friendship organically develops into something more, but yeah, "friends" can suck.
please protect yourself online too because there might be genuinely creepy people trying to trap you not trying to scare you just dont trust people. i wont even go to 'houseparties' alot of the time if a man invites me that seemed 'too interested' it seems like a trap ¬_¬ even turning people down which i can tell like myself you would!!! its an awkward encounter. stay safe as your rising status rises!
thank you gorgeous! yeah that’s true but the only reason I went there is because he told me that it’s going to be a big party with many guests.. PLUS, he & his husband were portraying such a loyal marriage on their profiles so I truly couldn’t even imagine what was going to happen 😭
Yeah..these dudes put up a hella shirade to get Vitaly to come to their house, what a fuckin couple of manipulators! I mean...this kinda shit could happen to anyone they know or have newly met. How far would they go and where do they draw the line...if any?
I'm so sorry you went through such a traumatic experience. My friend, a gay man, has talked about this exact thing. He's mentioned a lack of accountability in the gay community of when things like this happens. Also good on you for talking about this. From my understanding, it's not talked about enough.
As a gay myself, I used to think it’s because they were highly sexual but now I just think it’s how they manage their low self esteem. And anyone who doesn’t want to have sex with them is the ultimate blow to their ego.
There was someone I once worked for who tried to hit on me because he saw in a gay club. And then got mean af when I didn't return his feelings, as if I was obligated to :/
its a straight/bi girls reality too ! :P we like gay men as friends for that reason!!! its safe and we know the friendship is real and not just them trying to ' get in there' O_O !!!! i have had more men interested than females in my life so i absolutely know they aint trying to ' groom me' yes im gonna use that term xD!. My sex drive is not that high and i don't ever crave it from friends. im taken at the moment and have been for a couple of years! but when single thats never been the case ( of being high sex drive ) so i understand when you say its uncomfortable when you think its a genuine friendship >:[
So not gonna lie, as a gay man I’ve noticed this to extent myself, but I go out of my way to avoid those types of friends. I don’t party anymore, or hang with people who party. That cut back the casual hookup/ dating requests from friends big time. You just gotta keep looking. Maybe meet a gay guy who’s in a long term serious monogamous relationship like me. Idk I feel ya though but you’re what like mid twenties? That might just be a younger person thing too.
I agree with you 2000% the amount of friends that have tried to hook up with me, or the amount of my friends that have all slept with each other, is baffling
I can absolutely relate, Vitaly and I'm so sorry you have to go through this constantly. Unfortunately, I feel it's even more common here in LA, especially with the rise in open/poly relationships. My husband and I have been fully monogamous for fifteen years and have yet to find other gay couples who don't try to sleep with us and it gets so awkward. Like, 95% of our friends here are straight lol. You're not alone. Keep putting up your boundaries. It's never okay for others to make you feel uncomfortable.
@@vitalyfortherecord Aww thanks for sharing your journey in LA. And yes, we've been busy at Universal Studios for Horror Nights. So much fun. You should go if you haven't. Looking forward to more of your stories/videos. ♥
Totally relate 💯 don’t let any negative comments about this topic (because I’m sure there will be) bother you. It happens to people who are kind and blessed with looks, there’s not much we can do about it unfortunately
I am not part of the “elite gay” community, but for 40 years I’ve read about either affluent gays or attractive gays or most likely the combination of both where everyone sleeps with each other. Since I am not a member of any of these groups, I am relying on RU-vid or articles. It seems that alcohol and other addictions play a major part. This is not just US. I know a guy from Toronto who counts all of his besties from is sexual partners. He goes to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, every year and sleeps his way through those friends. Know your boundaries and keep them with you when you’re challenged.
@Krishicher there is nothing wrong with sleeping with your friends. We should not be shaming people like that. I have slept with a few of my friends, sometimes that was our first encounter. We met, did our thing and we happened to enjoy each other to the point that we became friends. However, and I agree with most here, that should not be the norm. I have gay friends who I find super hot, but they told me from the very beginning that they are not looking to hook up, so I respect their boundaries. Yes. We might flirt, but I would never, in a million years, touch them inappropriately. Is just not right. I also blame media as it depicts the standard gay twink, just going around and sleeping with everyone without consequences. Finally, I find interesting about your comment on thr elite and attractive gay. I wonder if my experience is different because I'm not the 6 feet, six pack, gay guy. I'm more of a bear and hence people around me are more respectful and kind.
Vitaly, I agree with you 100% about male friends ALWAYS wanting more. That's why I only have gay male friends. Not because I think I'm the hottest woman on the planet... but because this has always been my experience. Seriously, every single straight male friend I've had throughout the years...always wanted more from me. Although I've strongly discouraged it. I've even had straight male friends ask me out, knowing I was in a relationship. A lot of MEN have no respect for genuine friendship and only think with ONE THING. It's their loss ruining a genuine friendship with Vitaly though. Because he makes one hell of a friend. We've been friends since 2016 and he's always been supportive and real. He is so far from being "narcissistic" or "self centered" in admitting his experience. If anything, he is the polar opposite of a douche bag! Vitaly thinks he's not a hottie when in reality he's hotter than most average men out there. Vitaly is stating facts and I can relate so much to his experience. If you have a problem with this, You might want to take a good hard look at yourself? Maybe you're the "friend" always wanting more? It's really pathetic tbh and I feel like more people need to be truthful about this sort of thing. I'm sorry but maybe you are the ugly friend wanting more? Or you can't handle the truth of the matter? Either way, his experience is valid and his honesty is so refreshing. Love you Vitaly, besties 4 Life! -Breland (Your mutual pretty friend) 😂
Omg. It's like that feeling of being a girl and getting really excited because you meet a guy who apparently """"""JUST WANTS TO BE FRIENDS"""""" -- and then a couple of months in they gotta hit you with something creepy and suggestive and be typical and ruin everything. UGHHHHHHHHH.
Vitaly, never ever ever meet some strangers alone or go to their houses, give them your phone number. This will happen to you all the time. People will take advantage of you and your kindness. Promise me you won't do this again. Even though they say that they are your "fan", because they are not. They are people who are disrespectful jerks.
I think it is good that gay friends can sleep with each other casually and keep being friends. I think the world would be a better place if it was the same for straight friend groups. That being said, expecting it to happen (instead of just being open to the possibility) is rather creepy.
I find your post very interesting. I am a gay man who has many straight and gay friends. I respect everyone and I respect myself enough to NEVER cross boundaries. Whether I am attracted to my straight friend or satiated with libations. What I'd like to propose to you is delving into the situation where a straight guy automatically assumed I want to hit on him or make a move on him because he knows I'm openly gay. I and many gay men have been up against this one. And had to face the straight person getting upset with me. In a situation where I had to leave his premises. Despite what you like to think gay people are not out here to recruit, to seduce, to lure straight people. Once I know you are straight. We are good. Besides there are soooo many gay men out there. I DONT need to go barking up the straight tree.This post as far as I'm concerned is filled with stereotypically aggressively heterosexual behavior. I just want to say. Please stop perpetuating these unrealistic stereotypes based on your isolated experiences.
It may be seasonal affective disorder. When the seasons change it can cause depression and lack of energy. It always depresses me going from summer to fall and fall to winter. Winter to spring and spring to summer, I get happier and a boost of energy. Getting outside in the sun definitely helps me. When I lived in the Midwest, US and there was no sunshine for like 3 months straight, it would really drive me crazy.
LA can be a lonely place! I feel like this is why gay men and straight women/lesbians can lift each other up in friendship. I'm so sorry this has happened to you.
It's funny though, seeing guys who are at the height of their youth complaining about getting too much attention. In their 50's they will be complaining about not getting any attention and being rejected left and right. You should seize the moment. As the song goes, "when I was young, I never needed anyone..."
First, your hair looks great! Secondly, to answer your question about your gay friends wanting to sleep with you: we used to call this the "gay handshake" (and sometimes still do). Sometimes people get drunk and their inhibitions get the better of them. Or they're just horny or curious. My advice: do it or don't, and don't feel guilty one way or the other. And yes, there is genuine friendship in the gay world. I have a bunch of guys I've known for decades (I'm a bit older than you!).
omg that’s actually crazy you kinda got set up like that by people you considered your friends ! 😭 maybe start making that boundary clear in the beginning that you don’t want to hook up with your friends ! in my friend groups some of the guy just hook up with each other which i don’t mind, if that’s what they like! but i totally get it sometimes people don’t understand that not everyone is down with that. it’s def a different experience for gay men vs lesbians. none of my friends have ever tried to hook up w me but im also the only openly lesbian one lmao 🤣 alsoooo i love your korn shirt ! i saw them earlier this month and it was awesome
@vitalyfortherecord I truly think that if you tell them that you don't want to hook up and you are looking for just friends you will find them. Might be discouraging in the beginning because a lot of gays will say the same but they will try to hook up with you. Anyways, but trust me, we are out there, the gays that can be friends without having to sleep with you. Also, I would recommend meeting i public places with new acquaintances. I have a rule that I don't drink more than one drink on our first meeting, so that I don't act like a tool and also to show respect for my new friend.
Truth. I may have a husband now and live that domestic life, but honestly the cure for staying out of all that “feeling used” drama was us both starting a RU-vid channel (this is a viewer account but we have a different channel that does vlogs and food/restaurant reviews) and since I do all the editing and all that photoshop for thumbnails and all that jazz, I spend much more time at home working on the channel and don’t have time for all that drama that goes on because I’m busy on building a channel. Seriously… the cure for staying drama free as a gay man... Find things to do that keep a boundary between you and others’ drama and find worthwhile things to keep you busy. That way you aren’t tempted to put yourself into that drama. Especially because friendships with deeper meaning should always be supportive and not transactional. Also to add… gay friendships are a lot like RU-vid subscribers and the algorithm. You want those in your life who are there for your content and “you” and not just artificial numbers that just click subscribe and don’t actually watch or engage with your content.
I’ve had the same experience so many times, I’d have to use two hands to count. It’s actually so frustrating realizing someone has plans for your body before you even know. The omission of truth and placing you in an isolated situation, plus alcohol? That honestly deserves jail. I’ve had so many women leave me in rooms with their bf, or wait until I’m vulnerable to touch me while I’m asleep bc they got me drunk. It’s sad. Even having female friends who are pansexual or queer like me, always plot on me or can’t wait to use me to please another MAN. I wish going into year 30, this wasn’t what people my age were still doing. It’s worse. I’ve met older women who did the same. It’s so depressing. I don’t wanna be friends or romantic or have fun. I’m too afraid! So I completely understand this. And I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I’m like 4 hrs from LA so I wish I knew people who just wanted a real FRIEND. 😭 like hang out with me friend lol, we’re ALL so tired of this!
We've come this far we're not going to let shame control us. Many of us have a similar experience, including myself. I don't have to worry about being sexually assaulted or objectified with my straight guy friends. Keep sharing your stories everyone. 💛💥 Paul
Vitaly this video was much needed as a gay man myself I thought I was going crazy I am 27 and I have yet to find a real genuine friendship with another gay man.
I'm gay as well, but I would never, EVER think of sleeping with my friends or as potential partners, not in a million years. My gay friends feel the same way too. I think you've probably been through some really unfortunate experiences, and it’s truly sad to hear about them. Don’t let these past experiences stop you from connecting with other gay men or from building friendships within the LGBTQ+ community. There are definitely people out there who are also looking for genuine friendships without other expectations, just like you. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of finding the right people who respect your boundaries and are on the same page. Stay open to meeting new people, and you’ll find friends who genuinely appreciate you for who you are.
If someone advances and i dont want it i make it clear im not down and move it along. Thats gay culture. I hate prudes and how weird people are about sexuality these days. I dont relate to it. People are very dramatic but i feel like its also about ego.
This is sad. I think it depends where you live. It should not matter but I think it's does. Me and my spouse have been together for 27 yrs and we have had a group of friends for almost as long. Single and couples and none of us have slept with each other. Some of my friends are extremely good looking guys but that friendship means more to me than anything so I would never jeopardize that not to mention my marriage to my man!!! Good people are out there it might take more effort in LA than upstate NY where we live. Good luck to you.
You know, I think it’s good you’re talking about these things because I bet behavior like this is, more or less, “normalized” in the gay scene. I think it’s important that you’re bringing attention to it and calling it out.
Yep 10000% . Its why i have almost no other gay friends which makes me sad, because it would be nice to have friends with similar experiences as gay man.
Honestly I can relate with your story so much. You're not a douche like you said you are just telling the truth and I feel sorry for that you have to go through that. I also struggle a lot to get to know people, because of these issues and I really wish sometimes everything would be less superficial and focused on sleeping with each other.
Hi Vitali - no, you are not alone. I have exactly the same problem and it bores the sh*t out of me. I wish I could say it gets better, but I am quite a bit older than you and it’s still happening. That is not to say that I am some hot gay god. It’s just the gay culture. I am thankful for my straight friends, but I am very disappointed because I am definitely not straight and much as I love them, I want to have some friends in my life that are going through the same thing I am. Good luck - i’m with you in spirit.
I think when alcohol is involved, people do things they otherwise wouldn’t do. I’ve been in numerous situations like that BUT the next day, my “friends” always apologize. There are those though who prey on people this way. They suck. There is such a thing as genuine gay friendships. However, it’s difficult as one person may fall for the other….just like in straight relationships.
Your experience is the experience of many dudes including myself who have a shred of morals and respect for boundaries, some things you just DO NOT mix. I share your experience, and it is why i simply cant be friends with gays at all, I have yet to find a gay guy that doesn't want to at some point fool around.
Listening to this made me realize that I'm not weird. I want an emotional connection with the other person before going any further. It took me many years to figure that out. I have been called a catholic altar boy, and other things not printable. Stay true to yourself.
💯 this happened to me with my best friend who was also my roommate who I looked at as a brother nothing else, unfortunately these situations exist don’t feel bad
yes! as a lesbian this has happened to me when trying to date women on an app the bisexual ones just wanted a hookup or me to be a third in their relationship with a man for some fetish thing on tinder! the lesbian ones were mostly taken and looking for friends. the former happened to me three times. i gave up after that and that was about a year after the pandemic. that said, i've had a long time friend that i dated as a young teen (a woman) and we've reconnected in our 20s. Been friends into our early 30s and we realized we had a soul connection even if its not romantic. It's been great! Don't give up! No matter the sexuality some people just use sex like a dr*g and love isn't in the equation sometimes. BTW I enjoyed your vlogs with Slava, please include him in your videos someday. He was was hilarious!
If you are interested in more gay men who have problems with lgbtq+ random hook up culture (since this has been a thing since forever) then get yourself acquainted with writer and HIV/AIDS activist Larry Kramer. He wrote a book called ‘Faggots’ in the 70s about this topic. But for women in a straight world this is also an issue. Every guy I meet up with tries it too… it hurts because one is more than just a body and the trust is betrayed.
I think that's a one-sided perspective, hon. Most of my friends are straight, but that's because there are more straight people in the world than LGBT+ people--they're ten a penny. My experience with them is that they sleep around even more than gay people, especially lesbians. My guess is that the ones around you don't share much of their personal lives with you. Many of mine have, and they sleep together often, even at work.
I'm not sure of LA as I have never been there, but I live 45 minutes north of San Francisco. I have friends that I don't sleep with. Is normal to flirt as a gay man, but I usually keep my boundaries. I don't get pressure from my platonic friends. However I do know what you mean. I have tried to make friends that they expect me to sleep with them for me to be their friend. If I don't, well, I don't get invited to the parties, events, etc. I'm okay with that to be honest. Anyways, I think you should keep open to thr idea that there are gay guys out there that if you tell them that you are not in terested in sleeping with them and you are genuinely looking for friends they will respect that. Hang in there.
I'm really not sorry to say this if it offenses anyone, but a more obsessed community than the lgbt one, I've never seen in my entire life Everything spins around sexual intercourses, especially in groups, zero protection, sick fantasies and I'm here only hoping to find someone chill and to settle down for the rest of my life. Applications are definitely not the place as the temptation is 100% and people fakely search for a relationship only to have more "fun"... I guess we're born in the wrong generation
Hmm... As a gay guy, I have lots of gay friends and we don't want to sleep with each other. Once you're in the "friend zone" you stay there. Also, if we aren't compatible then I don't even think about my friends sexually. For instance, if you were a total top, I might be attracted to you but if you're a bottom or versatile, nope. Anyway, I'm cursed because I prefer straight guys. Oh well.
I totally understand and I understand your frustration. You are not alone. It seems some things have not changed in the gay community apparently. You just wanted friends. It is hard to make decent friends in the gay community. There are decent gay people out there. That is sad this happened. It is sad because it is insulting as well. What happened to you happened to me years ago more than once. You just want to connect with people like you. It is understandable. I am glad you and roommate worked something out in reference to your living situation. Please take care.
Just tell them no and give them some time.... what you aren't remembering is that they probably moved on. If they ignore you then you know what was up. If they are mad you need to find less insecure friends. I hit on friends but honestly it was just a mistake not a conquest or huge let down. You are very attractive but that's not always everything especially for guys who have played the field enough. Some guys want sex to mean more so you hit on friends but it isn't always a deal breaker just loneliness. If you were in small town then watch out but it's LA there are millions of options for gratification or validation
Happens to everybody, it happened to me a lot too. I got a hit on a lot by everybody when I was in my 20's. I still am Lol, but on Grindr only with my outdated pics. Just say No and move on...Yes, it's uncomfortable to have to say no when it seems so obvious that you're not attracted to them. One time I went with a guy who was a friend, yes, it was awkward. Even more cause he used to be an escort and I had to pay for the service. It was a good transa though.
I’ve never tried anything like that with gay or straight friends. It would ruin the friendship. Gay guys and straight guys have tried to do stuff with me and I’m no longer their friend. It’s men in general though
i think it has to do with a lot of factors such as the city you're in and the culture amongst gay men there, since it can differ from city to city. My honest advice would be to find queer communities instead of only gay men because those communities tend to be more diverse. and a community can hold people to a decent standard. i also think a lot gay men can be just as objectifying as straight men and can put you in dangerous situations so building friendships in groups is so much better. i totally think you can find people that are queer and have the same interests as you online or find group meet ups that center on your hobbies/interests that's where the regular lgbt folk are because it isnt only gay men that drive pop culture. Los Angeles doesnt have the best reputation for true friendship too 😭 good luck!! im a first time viewer lol
It's not just you, been dealing with that all my life. I've never had a gay friend who didn't come/want to come on to me, it's abusive and borderline predatory. It's disheartening to say the least, I'm not even good looking😂😂😂. I live in the deep south and get labeled a pickme by the gays for hanging out with predominantly straight men. Ironically my best friends has always been a queer women, every single time. No sexual tension there haha. I've made peace with it I guess. But I wish there was change.
This seems to be a very American/LA thing... 42 years on this planet, living in 2 continents (Australia and Europe) and I've rarely experienced this amongst my friend groups... It's because you're hot, babe. It's unfortunately "pretty privilege". Time to find some girlie besties
Unfortunately homie, that's the reality of being an attractive guy... Sorry that you or anyone in that matter that has to deal with such an issue, but it's the world that we live in. Protect yourself, and know the world that you live in.
I've slept with all my gay friends. I consider it bonding done correctly. Oh and also, you are great looking and so it's not hard to see WHY they want to sleep with you. Cutting off friends for wanting to be frisky with you is very confusing to me. Just because I slept with all my friends DOESN'T mean that I slept with them ALL THE TIME. Ending friendship due to becoming closer than friends has always been a really strange concept to me...like frogs with armpit hair or something.
Hi 👋 im in my sixties in age. I identify as gay. I dont go out on the gay scene anymore. I never connected with any guy in a healthy way. I found the gay scene to be shallow. Yes its hard to find friendships.
I‘m sorry that you have to go through this Vitaly. I sadly think it’s normal - I am straight and every guy you think you have a good friendship with sooner or later they start to approach different. Normally I think I vibe better with men but because of this I started to hang out more with girls because I know they don’t try to get in my panties 😂
Виталий, это так грязно слышать. Смотрю твои ролики через яндекс переводчик. И эти истории просто ужас😮. Я думаю что между геями дружбы нет. Возможна дружба с девушкой но точно не с парнем. Я тоже состою в отношениях 23 года и найти настоящих друзей очень сложно среди геев. Я не знаю почему... Но моего парня хотели соблазнить и он взял меня за ручку и сказал: валим нафиг отсюда. Тебе лайк. Твой акцент замечательный для яндекса переводчика😊
We're a "community" defined by who we choose to have sex with. It's natural, if not lame, that sex would be a major factor in who we decide to socialize with. Genuine friendship does exist here, but there needs to be more in common than just being a fellow homo. Also, consider lesbians - there's VERY low likelihood that there would be sexual tension there. Not Even Emily is in your area 😂!
What your describing is no consent and that isn't ok. Don't change, don't let people like that change who you are. I hope you find some genuine gay friends.
You cant be surprised, especially considering this would actually be a phenomenon that happens with straight people too. If a 25 year old man engaged with a 25 year old female in some kind of relationship, it's inherently different from a relationship between a friendship between 2 straight men or 2 straight women. The likelihood of there being at least some degree of attraction or romantic interest for at least one of the two people involved is pretty high. A discussion of boundaries and expectations of the relationship would be a standard. Self reflection is also required here. Anytime someone complains about something and asserts that everyone around them is in the wrong, while them (the sole individual) is in the right, is almost always actually wrong. Theres a pattern/re-occurance for a reason. You need to understand your privilege of being a gay man in LA - one of the most queer friendly cities in the world. Yes, there will be lots of romantic opportunities and advances... but it's absurd to claim that in LA, that NOONE is looking only for friendship. "other-izing" yourself from the rest of the queer community at large is a side-effect of at least some degree of internalized homophobia.
Being sexually harassed regularly by your own community is not a privilege just bc of location. Many gay clubs have this problem. Sometimes, people put themselves in risky situations because they are naive. They learn from their experiences what is not acceptable. What that couple did to Vitaly was frightening, and I'm relieved they weren't dangerous murderers. Staying to himself isn't internalized homophobia; it's a response to repeated trauma and a violation of trust. Once he heals, he may be open to meeting new people. You can't force someone to change their mindset and reverse their experiences manually; people are much more complex than that.
@@aspookyspookynight I never said being harassed by your community is a privilege because of location... He said his viewpoint is that friendship in the queer community is a literal impossibility. If he is located directly in LA where one of the worlds largest, most vibrant queer communities exists, and he self admittedly has zero friends, and claims its every other persons fault in that community, then he is without a doubt the problem when it comes to making friends. There are sooooo many other gay men that want non-sexual friendships with members of their own community. It is factually incorrect to claim that you cant form or develop friendships within the queer community without encountering sexual assault or re-occuring propositions for sex. That actually insinuates that predators proportionately outweigh the non-predators... by VAST margins, and sorry, but that is both misleading and offensive. To say that literally every other member of your minority group is incapable of forming genuine friendships/relationships, while admitting to wishing he was straight (and preferring straight people) is without a doubt subconscious, internalized homophobia.
I feel your frustration and pain. If you ever visit the East Coast, then know there’s at least one Искренний и романтичный мужчина. Я бы хотел пригласить нас на свидание.
I understand as a gay man myself the desire to want to have gay friends you can relate to. But it is kind of sad when you feel like guys only want sex or are being nice to you bc they are hoping it will lead there. Dont gay men want some platonic friends? Lol
Yes I’ve been to house parties and literally everyone has slept with each other at some stage. Is there anywhere else in America you would like to live in ? Florida is popular. Also how come you didn’t emigrate to Europe or the UK ?
Vitaly, I am growing to respect you more and more and would really like to correspond with you about life etc. I’m very open about my life but need to share that privately…hope you will respond to me.
The plight of the gorgeous! Sorry Vitaly, but you are so dammed attractive (nice guy and nice looking) that it would be difficult for most gay guys to not be attracted to you and want more than just casual friendship. Men are sexual animals much more than women. So good luck finding gay guys to just be friends with. I am sure there are some out there somewhere...
They did you so wrong being dishonest about why they invited you. They should’ve at least been straightforward that they wanted a threesome. And absolutely NO - you didn’t make anything awkward! They did when they lied to you and then tried to spring it on you out of nowhere and then turn the blame around on you. Like wtf lol
hey legend, this is my first time writing a comment after watching for months thank you so much for your videos i love every single one and i love your personality
It's good to establish boundaries but sir you got quite an ego you're cute and everything but you're not all that part of this comes across it's just as and oh my God straight people are so much better then us gays who can't control ourselves video and I'm just so damn irresistible pour me. We get so much distrust from the outside let's do it to each other too
Personally as a gay man, NOT having sex with my gay friends is an insult. Your options are now...try and become boyfriends with a closeted gay man that seems VERY straight and don't DARE be friends with him, you MUST be frenemies. Pretty sure most boyfriends start off being friends first. At least that seems about right to me.
Just let me know when is a good time to meet. I live in Santa Monica and I’m Not like these LA guys. I’m a transplant from Seattle but originally I’m from Louisiana so I cook a lot of Cajun food.
Really?????? Well, I guess they're not your friends, darling. I'm gay and I have some male straight friends, and our relationship is totally based on trust and understanding. I never go over the top with them and vice-versa. I do not like harassment!!
