Richard Jenkins hold your head up brah brah I love you enough to say that you gave a brother in me to share ideas , thoughts, comments and suggestions with any time...black kings can rebuild our kingdoms if we come together
Ladies, you are right on. I'm 72, and my experience is that young women, many equate the bad guys with love and strength. But, alas, most women want that good man after they(women), get older, usually it's too late. You don't miss your water until the well runs dry.
ava gd right.ladies listen if your willing to throw away a family, career,a life,a chance to raise children and make them into role models for the world to be a better place..just to be a party girl,get high, sleep with a bunch of cute guys,and do whatever you want.. don't look miserable in your early 40's and so on when nobody wants you now!!!who wants to pick up a piece of gum off the ground and eat it??????????
ava gd that is a good line ''you don't miss the water until the well run out's'. That seems like a simple line bit in reality it means slot because almost everything that nice people do is taking for granted. I said people not female or male people in general. But that's a good quote.
ava gd lmmfao ur exactly right...u don't miss the water till ur well runs dry...had that happen to me ...amx knew what she was about tried to come back to these waters after her well was dry
Lmao. It sucks cause as a nice guy.... I might not get the most girls. But ima have the last laugh. Smh. Nobody taught a lot of these girls that's its quality > quantity. You sleep with dogs you whole life, your not gonna be able to find a good man last second. Doesn't work like that.
A woman told me after I told her women don't have " Common Sense" that,, Women have a fairytale perception of love and craves " Drama" from relationships with Men. Therefore,, I conclude "Women love the pain of Love, not the status of what Love really is...they are utterly confused with delusion about Love!!!!
"Women love the pain of love." That's often true. That's why they don't mind 'falling' in love and being in a helpless state with someone they don't even know and someone who has no real obligation to them.
This is also known as "struggle love." African American women in particular seems to gravitate towards this type of relationship more than any other group of women. If a guy would actually be a good boyfriend, she ain't interested.
This is unfortunately true in the majority of cases, since you were clearly able to recognize this happening and word it well, how do you think it would be “solved” ? Curious for your opinion
Women don't appreciate good men just like Eve Did Not Appreciate God. God put her in a nice garden where she had no pain, could live forever and gave her an abundance of food and a Husband. Instead she choose to submit to the devil and lost everything. This same story replays today in relatinships. Women generally drift to men who make empty promises
Women often at times does selfish things or self sabotage themselves... My college sweetheart left me at the alter & never called me over 3 years until last week telling me how sorry she was & how she shoulda gotten married... How you think I feel? Well it took me some counseling to get over that & a lot of prayers. So coming from a good man who just don't wanna be bothered with another heart break I'll keep my love to God instead...
Why women treat good men bad? 5 reasons: 1)Daddy issues 2)insecurities 3)He allows it. He allows her to get away with a lot because HE'S insecure. 4) She believes he's beneath her and she can do better. The more self entitled ,spoiled and beautiful the woman is... The more she'll test you(in this generation). 5) (The most important one) YOU WEREN'T HER FIRST CHOICE... The same thing goes for men as well... Just saying.
Anybody who treats a good person bad is immature and also usually selfish. Think about it. Most of the women that treat good men badly aren't right in the head. They're more often than not spoiled brats and narcissistic and aren't disciplined mentally.
When kindness is seen as weakness trickery is at hand. They say nice guys finish last and bad guys finish first. Yet the first shall be last and the last shall be first. The circle chase can only end when good guys stand firm and maintain positive in the last days.
Great comment. Follow Christ first and all things will be added to you. With patience and faith and approach everything including, gaining a wife. Beware of the covert narcissist. Most dangerous of all. Keep in the faith.
+sarah ibrahim exactly sis , don't let these men bother you with their evilness , because at the end of the day most gender who commit suicide are men is because men know that they deserve it , just wait when judgment day come, they will regret it
After 10 years of trying to find a nice woman I gave up.....just as women say good men don't exist I don't feel good women exist either.....I've had guy friends tell me a woman asks for what she gets when she gets hit by a dude and I have never hit a woman in my but yet it seems like men have to hit a woman to even get a chance to be with her......I would rather die single if that's the price for love.
Christian Barrett Pim well let's just throw the whole race and culture out the window. Let's just say that lots of guys ruin their lives over pussy. I stopped chasing pussy in when I was 22. Yeah I admit. That was pretty young. I started a business when I was 25. Currently I'm 26 and i doubt I could have gotten Shit done if i was too focused on chasing pussy.
I see the disadvantages of being a good man in this opposite sex game. The advantage I do have is my willingness to walk away or in some cases, let go. A lot of them didn't recognize what they had until it was gone. My ex now wants to get back after she left for a more flamboyant type. Now she expects me to accept her back after she has gained 40 pounds and has the dude name tattooed on her. Am I wrong for taking joy in her downfall?
rejoice in her misery. do not take her back but do keep in contact with her so that you can continue to rub salt in her wounds every time she gets pumped and dumped.
Message to all men....there's no incentive to mess with these low level ratched women....focus on improving your health, your education, and bettering yourself as a man....these women don't have anything to offer you anyway.....go your own way.
James Bond Ah, ic. I think i heard that from someone else who quoted Mic then, lol. I never actually heard any of Mick's lines...aside from in songs, i mean, lol. Hehehe, seriously, I can see Hannibal Lecter saying that in my head.
It has to do with a lack of good parenting growing up. Females as such seem to regret their bad decisions in their 30's and 40's when they are alone..You hear, and see it all the time from their comments and statements.
You can't give love if you don't truly love yourself. Most women don't honestly love themselves and most men don't respect themselves to know their value. If a man has to treat you bad in order to feel excited than you've not mature. We all need to strive for growth and realize life is too short to keep repeating the mistakes of our youth.
Daunte Carter good abservation I felt the same way.. please let's as men continue to open up our social circle like the ladies did so we can support each other like they do instead of trying to fuck our buddies wife..set the bitch up and show him she ain't shit..bro's before hos
GOOD MEN ARE NOT TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF, A SOFT OR NAIVE GUY GETS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF, I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A GOOD MAN AND I WISH A BROAD WOULD TRY TO USE ME FOR ANYTHING, I SHUT THEY A## DOWN QUICK!
We draw to ourselves how we really see ourselves within. If a woman (generally speaking) has never or rarely experienced a positive or wholesome relationship with her Dad it creates a void within her which negatively effects her true vision of how she sees her(self). It is from this "vision" that she emanates a vibe or energy that draws to her men with the same spirit, demeanor, attitude, (sometimes even physical features) of their Dad. She secretly has a longing for that relationship with her Dad she will subconsciously seek to fulfill this longing in males who (in some way) remind her of her Dad. If Dad was a handsome, charismatic womanizer with a great sense of humor, but was hyper selfish, moody, with an inconsistent work ethic his daughter will be drawn to guys who are like this. Again, this is generally speaking. Take this and reverse it and say the daughter has a positive and wholesome relationship with her Dad. She (then), will grow up with her esteem intact for their is no void and hence she will be more patient and self disciplined in her quest for a man. She will subconsciously seek out a man who has the inner and external qualities of her Dad. If her Dad was average looking, thoughtful, a hard worker, consistent, intelligent, but a bit of a homebody and didn't have a great sense of humor she will be drawn to that kind of man. This is why some ladies (who have been negatively imprinted by their Dad) do find a good man, but due to their (negative) Fatherly IMPRINT they become bored with the stability and see his thoughtfulness and willingness to do anything for her as being "weak", but they want to keep him because they know that he's a good man so in many cases they end up sneaking around with the guys that remind them (in some way) of the let's say "Bad Dad" ie Mr. Excitement! Of course males play a part in this too with regard to our relationships with our Mothers. However, I am merely addressing the topic of this particular video. Peace.
DJ APOCALYPTIC - Honestly, the things that I have both seen and suffered through in my early childhood - my 20's. Came across this book years later in my late 30's called Understanding Sexuality by Roy Masters. It helped me better put into words all that I had inside of me.
Let me tell you something... If a Woman really likes you then she will meet you half way. She will not look at the "he's too nice angle." If you hear a Woman drop this line, please run!! I'm serious, Most of these Women have low self esteem and in other ways are saying they would rather be treated like crap! "Good guys are no challenge?" But Most Women are only looking for their own selfish desires and to eb the centre of the relationship!
So true. My cousin's been treated badly so many times and became bitter for awhile. I tried to encourage him to keep being a good man and not let his ex girlfriends change him. Hopefully the girl he's with now doesn't hurt him.
This is what ive come to learn from my personal exerience.Most of the good men end up trying to save or help woman that have been treated bad by other men so when they get a goo one who will ride with them to the end they dont know what to do with him they are not up to makeing littel changes to make it work but it's ok something better will come to a good man in due time.
Every woman who did you wrong gave you a lesson on how they want to be treated. Do not get upset just learn the lesson and thank those women for teaching you and preparing you for the next one. We didn't have all these Alpha coaches back in the day so men, Alpha up we got no excuses today.
I've been taken advantage of these females in the past. First they pretend they love me and the next day, they always asking me for money. So I'm still hurting by it a little bit but right now it's time to focus on me and wait for the right one to come along. Thank you ladies for this inspiring video.
Because oftenly it is the case, In my whole life i only met one person who is nice but can flip on someone ass on a second but the dude basically grew in a war zone his whole life. Most men don't have that set up.
Theory 1: They're shit-testing the good man to see how much stress he can take (the tests never end). Theory 2: They see him being nice as a weakness, which makes them feel vulnerable. So they bully him to make him mean, which they see as a strength (then tell him he has anger issues). Theory 3: They see his positivity as a strength, because he remains cool under pressure. So she wants to drag him down to her level of weakness, because misery loves company. Theory 4: She is biologically programmed to destroy good men and empower bad men, because she thrives better when society is upside-down, she won't have to struggle to comform to the "morals and values" perpetuated by dominant good men. She won't have to get out of bed, get off the phone, stop eating, go to the gym, work on her character, sharpen her mind, or do anything of real value. When bad guys are dominant, she can live in leisure and the subdominant good guys can be under her boot, so she doesn't feel like a mentally-weak loser. Sane women do not do this. But sanity has all but died out in the modern world. T'is what it is.
To all the good guys out there not all women are the same. Some have Fathers and/or brothers and we are attracted to the good qualities in you! But sometimes you go for the bad girls and you chose her over some wholesome girl you could've found.
Thanks to feminism taking fathers out of their child's life, most women in the US are like this. You have a father who raised you properly, so you admire good qualities of good men. A woman like you will get snatched up quickly by a good lucky guy or see the same fate as good men, used and abused by bad boys who pretend to be good men when you first met them. Users create a lot of bitterness among their victims that's hard to overcome. A woman has the power to be so much crueler than a man does for a variety of reasons, the ball is in a woman's court in most instances.
LuLu Star no offense but to me that is the biggest misconception I've ever heard.. What does a bad girl even mean?? Because there are plenty of educated and or hard working sisters that STILL overlook good men and go for the bad boy... The tattoos, masculinity,, and edge all spell excitement for her in the bedroom so with all due respect those "wholesome" girls do the exact same thing.. Trust me I would know from experience.. Lost one to one of those guys.. Just saying.. You hear all the time "we're not all the same" yet the same shit ends up happening over and over and over again
@jacob: it works both ways. MANY good decent women are passed over just like many men are. it's a two way street that i've been on in the past. the people that are right for each other just don't seem to cross paths very much.
My own opinion is that someone seeking a good partner should focus on improving themselves first. I mean mentally. Make themselves happy in this world and happy with who THEY are first so that they can recognize this in others. Candy comments that it's likely the father to blame, but Famous smartly argues that the only person responsible for a person's behavior is themself. Someone unhappy with themselves will only attempt to extinguish another's happiness and won't make a good partner.
I agree, a real woman will never cheat in any circumstances. for money or not, and that's so true a lot of gold digger will never learn. they after materialistic things instead of looking for the wise man with heart & honesty.
Well, you shouldn't have men to be the sole responsibility for your boredom.....you should be held accountable of your own emotions and not to depend on others. Happiness doesn't just happens.......You got to make it happen...So, don't say nice men are boring....Take a look at yourself and be independent of your own emotions.
I have noticed that black women I can only speak for black women because I'm going to speak regarding the black women in my family black women don't want a good man they don't they say they do but they don't that's just them talking that's just words when they say they want a good man they're just babbling out the mouth for an example I have a cousin who married this good black man forget that awesome black man he wasn't awesome black man this man work 12 hours a day come home clean put the kids to bed she told him the jump he would say how high she told him she wanted him to buy her a home he went and bought her a beautiful home brand new they had four cars in the driveway he paid every bill when it came to the mortgage water electric cable the car payment the car insurance payments the only Bill she had to pay was the phone bill and she would cheat on this man something fierce and when he would catch her cheating she would turn around and show her natural you know what on him one time he caught her cheating with another man and her and the man jumped him can you believe that she jumped her husband with her boyfriend then she ended up divorcing him and leaving him for this guy who drove around in this beaten down Honda with only one front seat which was the driver seat the passenger seat was not there and now that they are together he beats her pistol with her cheats on her left and right took her car that her exhusband bought her sold it and now he is not around he is overseas cuz he's in the army and she's having panic attack because he's not here he's having anxiety attacks because he's not here she's passing out she doesn't know what to do he's not here
The only way we can end this chain is by fighting back by: learning more of our culture, gaining better social skills, workign in our communities, standing strong and confident, fight against against the slander of our people, stand up for our black interests, and confront anybody harming BM or BW in an offensive way.
It is a shame because the same good men that these women mistreat and disrespect go on to live good, prosperous lives and eventually find their lifemate who treat them like the kings they are. Later on, the girl that did them dirty sees them on the throne and NOW wants to do right by them. Sorry. You had that good thing and you blew it, sista.
The sad thing is this type of behavior leads to generation after generation after generation after generation after generation of fatherless children who ruin the black community. I don't understand how women could do the same thing that didn't work for thier mother, grandmother, great grandmother and so on. I really feel nothing for a struggling single mother. She bought it on herself.
Thank you, my beautiful sisters, on your views of a growing epidemic. I am the brother that has been "burned" many times by what I thought is a good black woman. She had the spiritual, no kids, and similar interest but she and many sisters like her didn't have a good man in their life. Then that transferred to her next relationship. I always use the term "What I see outside my window" and what that means is that I have only the choices that are available to me at that time and the women that are available is what I see. I have gotten discouraged but not taken away or dating other races. I put God first and allow patience to guide me. I think and this is my opinion that some woman doesn't know what a good man is. Some women are very material and place stipulations in the relationship or they need "couch time" for other issues in their life and don't know how to address these issues. I do know that there are more black women than black men but some black women just don't see the good in black men. We as black folks just don't like each other constantly physically and most of all mentally hurting each other. Well, I could go on and on with that topic. Well, that's my two cents worth.
Gary Hall yea and women keep saying to me why dont u date a single mom I be like I'm 22 no kids I'm in navy. Why the fuck would date a woman with kids when all I'm gonna go through is drama. I tried it once and almost got shot
Curtis Reese 2969 lol..true they are going to have to talk to me eventually though I'm where the buck stops ladies...were you wondering when your sinister operations would shut down for good...I'm on social media now and it's over for you....
To Nice Guys: Dont worry about it and be glad you didnt put "yourself" in a (w)horrible situation. You dont want/need that kind of sex. They R NASTY. Stay true to who U are and the right one will come. Damn I wish I was a virgin.
My mother taught me to be gentle with women. I have been married for 29 years, but before marriage I was treated poorly by a few women who said I was TOO NICE. My brother experienced this too. One girl told me I was too weak and she needed a man who can "put her in her place"?!? I told her I need a woman who will GET IN HER PLACE". I think it's the fact that many women have not seen their dad treat their mom right, and havn't seen their mother respond to their dad properly (because dad is not there). So they have no idea how to treat a good dude. They like the bad boys because they see that on television. All the black girls at my son's school say he's "green" or "lame." BUT THE WHITE GIRLS LOVE HIM.
Encouraging video ladies!.... I am one of those Black Men that Black Women pass on based on what I don't have etc...We know the story!...lol.... I'll continue to be 'Me!' Like I always have a Black Woman ready for a Good Black Man will see me. For me, unlike other Black Folks I Do Not See Non Black Women as an Option. Not go lie I am attracted to other Women of another Ethnicity, I will not chase them. I Learned not to chase No Woman to Find & Seek Love. My True Aim is Love for Marriage, Family Life, being a Husband, having a Wife, child/ren, Family. All that applies! Yes Women have told me I am to Nice, they would use me, etc....All those negative lights put towards a Good Nice Black Man, I don't get it. I stopped worrying and trying to Understand long time ago...lol...Maybe one day if not, then I will be ok. Not Every person get Married and falls in Love. In the instance of being Good to a Woman, he/that person get left out. Thanks again for the video! :-)
There are many black women who define success as a bank account, or by physical appearance. Men wouldnt try to obtain money if women didnt long for it. Several Black women in America sees success as money. Theres a reason why Lil Wayne wants to show how many cars he has, and not the degree hes obtained. The ethnic Black women who longs for a hard working Black man is becoming obsolete. WHy do you think men dont work? Because they are attactive or flashy and the sisters love it.
Hello beautiful ladies.. I just recently went thru a situation that was wild out lol. I am wearing scrubs after work in a bar and a sista ask me with a smile am I a nurse.. I responded with no I am a nursing asst. Instantly her smile dropped and she moved it right along lol. I appreciate the love ladies because their are some good men out here but most women want the thug but just because I aint a thug don't mean I am a punk lol idk. Ladies thank you and you are queens. Peace
Facts. Then the good man is the one being accused of things he's not even doin. Acussed of cheating. Then you have some women that talks disrespectful to men even in public calling him all kinds of names then has the nerves to ask him for things. Smh. Then when he dont give it to them they say he's mistreated them or aint treating them right. Smh. Close friend of mine is going through something similar I told him he should leave and let her miss the good in you. Question anyone....would you buy a woman anything or give her money etc. If her mouth is reckless and accusing you of things you're not doin?
I know this the two of you are intelligent thoughtful patient sensitive kind and most important of all very loving women I hope each one of you has that special someone in your life and if you don't there's something really wrong with the way the world works but you've already laid that out for us still I wish the two of you the very best and I want to thank you for speaking out and making this video and letting us poor and broken and lonely men in this world know that they're still good women out there it gives us hope!!!
ive been in 3 long relationships, work 6 days a week 80 hour weeks, the women ive had disnt have to work just chill, wouldnt even do my laundry or clean when i was at work.. sundays on my day off i did my own laundry and did all the cleaning while she sat and played video games and smoked weed.. and somehow i became the asshole because i worked too much and was never there and she was bored.. unreal.. im single again now and never been happier, im done with relationships till i retire.. the same thing happens everytime.. they get spoiled, get complacent, and get ungrateful.. never wasting my time again.
Lil Wayne is a good example. It deosnt have to be all women wanting him, the few women who want him is bad enough. Black women still support and love R. Kelly. I know White women are the biggest golddiggers, but their actions dont affect me as much as Black woman. Yes there are Black women who love straighlaced Black men, but we are still going to complain about the ones that dont. Only because these are the women who continue to complain about their circumstances.
I'm single and I'm Definitely loving it A lot of men Do Not trust women Men Do Not like cheaters Men Do Not like gold Diggers There are some men that rather be single Then to be hurt again If you want a good man Don't let him go Fight for the relationship Prove to him that you going to be there for him No matter what For example If it becomes paralyzed Will you be there for him or will you run Out on him When he needs you the most
women take advantage of good men because they do not RESPECT them. Also, a man who is overly nice gives the impression that he is a beta male in society and women are strongly attracted to more masculine alpha traits.
Attraction is a mirror image. Meaning, when a woman likes a loser this is how she sees herself. Money, education and how she was raised doesn’t matter.
The main reason for women treat good men bad is because they test him constantly to see if they can stretch him some more without him complaining to much. They want to feel safe, secure and respected and if he fails her tests she has no respect for him and only stays for the money. Her other enjoyment in life is with other men. Because she believes that she deserves everything
Because you have accepted being treated bad black women have bought into such a low self esteem and the bank mind because I'm black men have told them that by not being present you don't know how to feel comfortable with a good man because you have accepted the live that black men have sold us for so many generations that benefit them and sexually exploiting you and taking advantage of your body black women need to understand was sexism is this is a part of the problem black men have taught you to struggle to believe in pain to believe in hurt from your mother to your grandmother because they're telling you I have to treat you this way because I'm going through this not going through that man thats tender and loving and kind you don't know how to ask because you're so busy being abused black women take some time to get some healing take some time to take some time off to repair.
I had a confrontation such as what you described, basically it was me having a conversation with these girls it was fun and friendly, and then these other women spent the rest of the time trying to tear me down, saying that I was a nice guy and I shouldn't pretend to be a bad boy. Just because i wasn't talking to you does not mean you had to be jealous
If your as big as a whale and posing in a dress like you look good or something that maybe one problem, ya think. Getting rid of the gum smacking and the masculinity might help also.
You know what this is a perfect example of why black women are so bitter and angry and want to cut your balls off you want to talk about being fat and obese have you looked at yourself in the mirror black man there's a lot of brothers walking out here with Man titties skeet marks in your drawers bisexual and given aids to their wives so how about you talk to your fudge packing brother how about you talk to those ones who don't take a bath and don't brush their teeth who don't keep a job who don't raise their children who don't pay child support their women with that attitude
that kind of woman has self esteem issues. probably had a bad relationship with her dad. she isn't mature enough yet to appreciate the good guy. men and women like this are not worth your time. run and don't look back.
A good woman is one that sets a realistic "bar" and adheres to it. A dumb woman is one that does not know how and what to do to set a bar. Enough said.
Im not saying its none. Im talking about the host of black women in negative situations. They have these crappy men because thats what they like. Im not saying all black women are one way or another. Brothers are tired of Black women getting and desiring crappy men and then complaining when it goes bad and shaming our name. Im not speaking on this issue because I think black women are bad etc. Im speaking up because these sisters bad mouth us in the media. And others need to know the real
Man/Woman we've all mistreated someone before in life... The key is to live and learn. At some point in life... No one is tricking you anymore, You're willfully knowing walking into the trap.
The problem is too many women equate being nice with being weak, which is the furthest thing from the truth. A weak man is a pushover. A nice man treats his women like a queen or princess, but instill in her that if she's queen then he's king no question about it, but modern feminism has given plenty women this sense of entitlement in which some feel they can be king and queen in a relationship and I'm sorry that's not how it works.
