His point is that he is already doing husband things without being married, whereas his gf says she doesn't want to do wife things when they are not married. Never marry someone who demands it
What even is wife or husband things? I think we complicate things greatly Two people should do things because they love each other,not because of weird stereotypes we have trapped ourselves too.
@@user-my4lf4bx6v only person complicating things right now is you. It Ain’t no “weird stereotypes” I’m a Man and you are a woman, we ain’t built the same. I am my wife’s leader and she is my follower.
@@BRlGADE_KINGPIN lmao no Your wife is your equal If you want to control the other person in a relationship,you are just an abusive piece of shit. I don't want my wife to be my follower,i don't want my wife to be a stupid weak person. I want my wife to be strong, opinionated and call out my bs if i say bs,same the other way around. I want a person by my side,not a doll
What she said about not doing "wife things" is a narrative being pushed out by alot of black media. Just look at Steve Harvey. Honestly I'm on both sides with this because it really depends on the person. I put out what I get back, and if I see that someone is giving 100%, I will give the same energy back and that's for the other side of the coin as well. Some people don't deserve wife qualities.
He's never going to be a husband for anyone other than his imaginary image of himself. Also he basically called this woman he's using for free sex for YEARS trash. And that's okay with you guys
What you are saying has back fired on me several times I show that I am a good woman and then I get cheaters and liars and abusers and people who only want my money one guy even told me I was too sweet of a person and I was just being myself
@@Reynakeya37 Yep, sadly that's something we need to figure out for ourselves why we are not seeing the red flags in men who are not stable. That is important, seek a therapist and learn how to see the signs of a good man over a player.
@@Reynakeya37that's because you're being wifey material to the wrong men work on your standards and don't just date any man that gives you the time of day. As a man, we like women that know how to respect us, but also knows how to respect themselves. This doesn't mean don't be humble, it just means that you have to start be better at looking for the right qualities in mem
@@Reynakeya37How many times has dating backfired on men... Yet women still expect us to make the first move, take control, spend monet... let alone any type of serious relationship. Stop whining and pick it up... or stay single
@@Reynakeya37I agree, you can be wife material to men who preach they are good guys just for them to use you up, its better to stay single people act like being single is a terrible thing. Im just cooking only for myself cleaning only for myself and taking care of bills by myself men dont do 50/50 anymore they want you to doll up, go to school, have a job, take care of bills and all the house chores, they can be living at moms, work out and call themselves high value.
My husband, before we were dating called me his “future wife” when we were just talking. No clue till after we were married. We never lived together before marriage, but I would get up at 6am to go to his house and help with who would be my son (step son). I took over my stepson’s schooling responsibilities and meds, so my husband could work and go to school. I was told how I was setting women back by doing his laundry, and confused others by not living with him before marriage. Now I was and still am being his helper while still doing what convicted me by my faith. Stop caring what other women think you should and shouldn’t do in a relationship. Do what makes sense to improve your relationship.
Just because that worked for you it doesn't mean it works for the vast majority of women who do this. There's a line a thousand women long who did all the wife stuff and are still the girlfriend a decade later.
My wife did the same thing. We didn’t live together until we got married. We didn’t even sleep together until we got married. People want to play out and live together and act like husband and wife but they’re not. Well according to god if they live together they are so honestly if the man won’t commit to marrying the woman and the woman doesn’t want to do wifely thing then leave. When you date someone you should go into it with the attitude that you’re going to marry that person. This is in response to someone that sent there still a girlfriend after a decade
Yup! My wife and I didn't live or have sex together until AFTER marriage. Everybody would be like "how will you know if you like living together or what if sex sucks" umm idk but it takes practice. Been married almost 2 years and we've been learning how to live with each other every day. It's not a difficult concept lol
Really, being friends should be the interview, dating should be the preview and marriage should be everything you’ve seen since day one. Honestly, if you care about someone, being friends should be enough to treat someone like gold and do things out of love for a friend. I did everything for my husband that I do as a wife today for him when we were best friends and I wasn’t even interested in a relationship with him at the time, but I loved him because he was my best friend.
@@JacquelynRivera930 friends are thr sweet spot of life, you should treat them like gold so long as they do the same, but the job of spouse isn't what they're around for. That's why dating us the interview. From vetting each other, seeing how the other is in many of life's problems, do they stick around when things go bad, do they share values, where do they see themselves in the future; kids, career, etc. Marriage is a life long job and commitment and between the married partners it's the two of you vs the world. Dating is just the interview to see if they line up with all of that, friends are friends. I don't view them as candidates of dating but it can happen and that's when the real interview begins.
@@KingNirada Hate to break it to you, but the basis of a wonderful relationship, starts out with a great friendship! These are all things you should do for your friends, not just your partner.
Women, don’t listen to these lowlife males. They want to use everything about you, your body, time, affection, sex, make you a maid and a chef and when they get bored they’ll throw you and get the next one without having any financial obligations towards you. Don’t be a slave to them. Trash.
And that's the mindset he's talking about! If you don't show that you have husband/wife in you, how is something supposed to see you as nothing more than were you are. If you want a promotion at work, are you going to just sit there showing you are a good level 1, or are you going to show you are a good level 1, and but hey, look, I'm also a great level 2 as well? Your work for the position you want, not the position you have.
Don’t change because of the other person is not worth it. Just move one till you find the right person. That is the right way. Otherwise when the right person comes by and doesn’t find the husband material in you they will move on.
You should invite him to celebrate that moment having a few beers, he took away a lot of problem off ypur shoulders, now is his problem, so be gratefull and happy . .
Oh shit... mine says same shit this one does sometimes, but she’s good other times. No games. Patrice O’Neal had the best relationship vice. He said woman will always want more from the man an try to break him, because woman love to test men, but what they really want is a strong man, don’t ever start making your girl/wife feel like the boss to be nice. Always keep her in line. She 2nd in command. Losing control of your role will fuck the relationship and she’ll never admit it or warn you, women will avoid confrontation, she’ll just leave one day completely fed up. And a lot of woman don’t “love”. Your an object, you’ve got value. That’s the hardest thing for us men to understand? They’re not attracted to us as much as they are to what we have to offer, or our status, what we can buy, the future we can offer them. Super rare to find a woman with loyalty when your at your weakest. Don’t ever take your partner for granted unless you don’t care if they leave. Stay trying to impress them, women always care about cheesy sentiments, flowers, compliments, gifts. They obtain there value through social feedback. Hence why their girlfriends and parents always sharing advice for them to try, and they listen and do it! In the end some say it’s safer to care or love someone less then they love you, sad but true...
Interestingly enough, I was a girlfriend doing wife things, as that’s who I am instinctively and guess what? He took advantage of that and decided to have other “girlfriends/ wives” elesewhere. I’m glad to report I didn’t change myself and found a man who was ready for wifey material.. he recognised and made me his wife. Previous relationship caused me a lot of pain though and it was hard to trust.
Y’all look for the wrong types of quality red flags popping up all over and you still chose to stay which is a sign of y’all having a good heart but gullible as all hell, learn your red flags and if you see it in someone immediately walk away, cuz once they show their true colors that’s who they really are
I'm very happy for you and your marriage. I understand giving someone your "All" for it to be not reciprocated and even taken advantage of. It was very wise of you to let that bad experience mature you rather than letting it turn you bitter. Congratulations on your success!🤟
It’s very disappointing that your previous relationships carried into your new one whom had nothing to do with your previous ones (just assuming by the way you told it) but glad things are for the better and happy to hear another human succeeding in this lame world.
This was a great reversal because so many women are told not to give a man wife privileges. When the Bible clearly states a man that finds a wife finds a good thing and find favor with God
@@fadishehada8896Therapy and learning to truly value yourself and others. Some people are just not compatible and thats okay! I spent alot of time suppressing my natural self trying to make myself a person that is marraige material and trying to mold others into it. If someone you are with for years says that they don't find you worthy of the title you want it's time to possibly break up and really look into yourself and heal with therapy and truly taking accountability. This video just confirms the games we play. Her staying knowing she isn't what he wants ,ripping away privileges from him and him keeping her there although he isn't really happy enough to see her as anything other than a girlfriend even though she blatantly let's him know she wants to be a wife is not okay. It's a relationship that creates loopholes and brings out your worst self. The best thing you can do in situations like these is be vulnerable and really willing to leave. Sorry this comment took so long. I wish you the best 💖
Women, don’t listen to these lowlife males. They want to use everything about you, your body, time, affection, sex, make you a maid and a chef and when they get bored they’ll throw you and get the next one without having any financial obligations towards you. Don’t be a slave to them. Trash.
He just wants yo have sex with her and make her his slave without legal obligations towards her. Women have self respect. That’s why your society you find it hard to find men that would propose.
I asked my baby mama when do her wifely duties begin? After the wedding? I work hard, bought us a new home, treated her daughter I didn’t make with her like my own and she still wouldn’t do right. She wouldn’t do shit for me even after I proposed and put that ring on her finger. She wanted a wedding but not the responsibilities that come with being a wife. After 8 months leading up to the wedding and seeing nothing from her I called it off. Within a couple months a woman came into my life and did everything a wife should do without me even asking because that’s just who she is…so I married her. I love her so much. We’re together and happy to this day and she never changed on me while my baby mama is bitter and getting used one guy after another looking for what she already had but didn’t see and that’s her fault. I told her this is what would happen. I guess she thought I didn’t know what I was talking about
... and guess what happens when these same useless human being don't get what they want? Divorce, Parental Alienation and litigation costing the other, $$$$, to see their child or children whilst paying Child support through the teeth....
So did i, I cooked, cleaned, worked, am a great mom, and wife and after a year and having his baby i guess I am still not worthy. So why keep doing wife duties once he told he will never marry me.
@@luisannalisasotelo7201Doea he not do husband duties?? Does he not pay for?stuff, provide and protect??? Ask him what you're missing to make that commitment instead of assuming you're worthy. He clearly thinks you're missing something.
@@constant1542great response my brother. It's like as a man,you're not allowed to dislike things about women. Most of them believe they dont have any errors.
Show your worth , you don't reserve it until you comfortable, he shows his housband worth because that's who is , now he sees she is holding back for the wrong reason that's who she is now that you know wat you have acept it or bounce
@@hotz1005 That depends on what he means by showing his worth. He talks about being a provider and a protector, but the there are levels. Opening doors for her, keeping her away from the curb, and paying for meals aren't husbandly duties. They're indicators of generosity and manners. Paying her bills and buying her groceries/big ticket items (house, car, etc.) are husband duties, and he should not be expected to do with them unless they are are married. The same is true of women. Being a positive, enriching force and strong emotional support are not wifely duties. Cleaning his house constantly, cooking most of his meals, and having his children are. She should not be obligated to do any of those things without the security of marriage.
Facts you should never have to explain what’s evident. Either they see and value it or they have a different value system. That value system won’t change automatically once you marry them
@@tosinakin2508 "opening doors for her, keeping her away from the curb, and paying for meals arent husband duties" while i dont care for the first two due to the fact the first one can be applied to anyone and the second one makes zero sense because a car jumping the curb hittin ya both. The third one however, im perplex about because you say its an act of generosity yet a woman isnt expected to do that. Infact its looked down upon if a woman goes 50/50 or pays. How would a man know to marry a good wife if they arent showing those qualities? Same honestly could be said vice versa.
Needed this video this morning, got out of a relationship just like this after 6 years. Sometimes people don't realize what they have until it's gone, now lord please give me the strength not to go back to her.
Don’t go back.. EVER! I paid dearly for my freedom last year. It helped that she went on a six month vacation out of the country (paid for using my money of course) while I stayed here and was forced to settle all of our affairs (both of us) the divorce; vetting realty agents; getting the house ready to list for sale; the negotiations for the actual sale; moving everything out; cleaning the house; hiring movers and storing my things and hiring people to haul her crap out, which I had to pay for also. Her vacation stretched on into 9 months as the country she was in, went into koof lockdown with zero flights leaving for months. On the day she gets back, I get a call from her out of the blue: “Where is all my stuff”? I laughed in her ear and told her it was all at the dump.
Your not alone Tom, I'm going through something simular. 2 years together and I love her but she's dragging me down. I know if I go back eventually I'll have nothing left to give and won't be able to help either of us.
So glad I never married my gf of 8 years!!! I would wake up , make Both of us breakfast, do the dishes, make the bed when she got up. Take her out shopping, then out to eat, then to a movie, then back home. Then I’d do a wash that night before bed, take a shower , get in bed and go to sleep. Then she got mad cuz she thought I was using her for sex, for 8 years??? I was using you??? Nah you were using me bro. Glad I dodged a bullet.
I just broke up after 7 1/2 doing everything. Im very caring person. I pay all the bills and drive and work a 40 hours or more a week to pay my rent. She wouldn't help me with anything gives me the excuse that i should ask for her too cook....? Why you know i work 10 to 12 hours a day. Nothing has really changed.....ive gotten to the point and now im hoping ill eventually find a women on my level.....im tired if doing it all and not getting the support i deserve.
Excellent work Jeremy! I hope bro realize the target is to be build themselves to be a husband and not to meet their requirements and the right wife will show up. A man that finds a wife... You know the rest.
Women are loved based on what they give. Lol. Body, beauty, age, ….. women are loved based on shallow reasoning (physical appearance). Men are desired and chosen based on resources. That makes sense. There are always conditions. Men don’t just give love. I hate this quote. Stop it. Lol.
Just don’t move in with a guy till after they have proposed of their own volition. Being the woman in an unmarried house, you will be cooking cleaning and shopping for him. He wants his cake and to eat it. If he ain’t asked you, YOU AIN’T THE ONE.
So u think a man should propose first than have the woman move in to find out she's dirty, cant cook, and they cant get along living under the same roof ? I don't think so, hopefully u test drive your cars before u buy them
She definitely the type of girl to say “My wedding was the best day of my life” Not realizing she’s already perceiving their marriage going downhill. I’ve come to notice that women view marriage as a “special day” kind of like a birthday instead of a lifelong commitment towards a relationship. That day is supposed to be the start of something beautiful. Not the peak of it.
Notice how she mentioned what he does for her, never anything significant about his character/personality. She could literally fill in any other man who does the same thing, he isn't special to her.
What she said was biblically sound that dows dwscribe hos character. Many men don't do this what did you want her to say .all the things she named would make any REAL MAN proud it it absolutely would be reflected on his character.
Uh doing all those things is a show of his character and morals, tf are you talking about? Many ppl dont act like that especially in the todays worl. Yall so fake deep, trying to relate your traumas as wisdom in these comments, it hurts
Why would anybody commit to someone not capable of carrying them off that's what's needed for a time? Men (old school)don't think of a woman doing that. We should be evaluating for wife material while seeing ourselves as the opposite.. All that premarital hooking up is so close to useless cause your ain't the same person when you cross over. You don't know what's on the other side till you get there. z Then you stay finding out more about yourself cause you got a taking thinking mirror living with you. Your glasses will be revealed and you get to grow. It should work both ways. Two imperfect people helping each other become the best version ever. What's the long term and short term goals and are they on code with your family/community or are you gonna find yourself on an island when you need an army/community?
Amen!!! I told my aunt this right before my fiance proposed. I was a lil worried he wouldn't. But I told her I'm a wife not a gf. Imma hold myself to that. Now if someone is taking advantage of that. You have to spot that and use the spirit of discernment. But husbands and wives your character shouldn't be limited to circumstances. My ex made me feel like I couldn't have marriage with them. I wasn't who they wanted and that was fine. Move on.
I felt him. I been in relationships like this, but it was the opposite. This goes for men and women: stop giving them the husband/wife package when they only giving boyfriend/girlfriend!! Know what you have and respond accordingly!!
This was very intriguing 🧐. He calling her out by basically saying, “He has to do husband duties for her for her to see a husband in him; but she can’t do wifey duties for him for him to see the wife in her?” WOW! 😮
"I'm already a husband, i'm just not your husband yet" BOOM! That's a mic drop right there! If you let the truth be told, there's A LOT of men in that position simply over the fact that if that wasn't the case, most of these women wouldn't even mess with you. You have no choice. Protecting and providing in a committed relationship before you even decide to marry this woman. If she's not already moving like a wife then don't expect that to change when married. She got you WITHOUT doing it, so why would she do it now? If it's not already in her to do what a wife would do then she's not ready to be a wife! Nice skit.
Waiting will only allow the satanic cult to totally eradicate natural laws and values from society. Women are the target because they control sex. Now that sex is free, human value is gone.
Keep dropping these necessary enlightenments!!!!! I don’t have social media, but RU-vid comes on phones at purchase. However, I’ll watch stuff like this because it’s “good fruitful, and has enriching substance”.
Cap. This is exactly what you need to do before marriage. If you can’t even make it last while “playing” house, how could you make it last in real life?
@@leethewarlord But not everything, remember, sex for after marriage, before its called fornication, a couple begins to treat each other like married just out of love(sex excluded), not because its a role they have to play beforehand.
GF is a parasite who wants to lock in access to his resources BUT she isn't doing the feminine affectionate things while he is doing the protect and provide things.
PREACH!!…. “I’ll do it when I get a ring on my finger”. Heard it all before. Femininity and wifely characteristics don’t turn on and off like a switch. You’re either a “wife” or NOT… Women would find it unacceptable if we turned our masculinity on and off “when we felt like it”….provided “when we felt like it”…gave affection “when we felt like it” and protected them “when we felt like it”…but that’s how they treat us….sad
People make it so complicated. Your partner should put in the same level of effort that you are putting into the relationship. If one is working hard, the other one should feel motivated to work hard too. Marriage or not - it's a teamwork effort and not a school group project where one does all the work.
True but also false. Marriage or any relationship is never 50-50. My wife says it all the time and it's true. There's going to be times when it's 50-50 but most of the time it's 75-25 or even 99-1. Everyone is going to have ups and downs, everyone individually goes thru highs and lows. When my wife is down for whatever reason she may only be able to give 10%, but I'll be there to make up the other 90% bc I know when the time comes that I can only give 5% she will make up the other 95%. Things happen and very rarely in a relationship are both parts giving equally at the same time. But to be holding back because of a piece of paper like this is crazy af. Give all you can give your partner all the time, even if it's only 20% at some times but give that 80% back when you can as well.
More like they are qualifying for a position. They need to start acting like the position they want before even being hired! If they dont like it now its better they know before marriage
This reminds me of another video but I can't remember who it was. just that if you didn't have context it would sound sexist towards women. This gunu bother me til I find out who said it. Somewhere along the lines of if the man is working and the woman isn't then she should be doing the other half of the work at home taking care of cleaning n cooking. If you're both doing both then great but if not then atleast the other partner no matter who it is should be doing the other half
I realized this before I married my fiancé. I realized there’s no circumstance that will change who she is at her core. And though I loved her, she did not meet me in a loving mindset. It was the most difficult choice I ever made to leave someone I cared so deeply about, but I knew it was the correct decision.
Going through the same thing, I can do everything but she still hasn’t displayed any wife qualities and I know she won’t, good person but doesn’t cook or clean and isn’t all that affectionate, I am actually ending it with her tomorrow when I see her, I’ve tried to talk to her too many times about this
@@thedilkdon112 We are similar I fell in love with a girl that is totally opposite of me in totally everything Even personality and even in birthdays date We are more than day and night and she soon enough became my gf She doesn't cook or clean she actually does nothing She is so disrespectful of my choices and doesn't bother to ask me how I am or how do I feel We are a girlfriend and a boyfriend but we are less than that.. less than friends.. Am usually optimistic but she is the total opposite I am trapped with her just because I love her although she disobeys me in litterly every single thing whether big or small I promised her that I will marry her but.. I only did that because I loved her at that time but now although I still love her but I think that I won't get anything but toxicity from this relationship Please don't make my mistake
@@thedilkdon112 You got this Jay. You are making the best decision. You both need to uplift each other and if that isn’t happening, it’s okay to walk away. You got this, I’m rooting for you.
Just to let everybody know, if she's not doing it as a girlfriend, when she's trying to win you over to marrying her... then she's not EVER going to do it.
But he doing it backwards if you want to marry somebody you know within 6 months of dating yes or no, let them go back separate residence and then figure it out
@@lywnnjohnson6130 the absurdity is her demands, like she's in any position to demand anything at all. She's not wife material, she's saying she'll do it only after he's married her, but the guy is doing everything else, providing, protecting, but for her, he has to do a little bit more. For what?? Some men have paid a hefty price for that
And what would the man want that isn’t for him? Clean his house clean his clothes go grocery shopping for him paying the bills bc it’s annoying to deal with cook for him etc people in relationships both get something out of it it’s not just love and butterflies it’s also the fact they do stuff that makes the others life easier ask any dude would you rather have less money and not deal with these annoying things or more money and you got to do everything plus work 99% of dudes would pick a little less money lol 😂
@@whiteperson1742 its not really related but I was offered lots of money (hike) to join new company, but I would basically be alone and will have to deal with problems on my own i.e. without a team's help. I was like that for 4 years straight. Now I have a team, with less money I dont even mind, we work for the money but that extra relax time knowing that someone is there to cover if need be is a great feeling. Same goes to marriage too I guess in a way. Now my wife is sick due to early pregnancy, I have to do all the cooking and cleaning of the house, and taking care of her job(self employed) . Which I dont really mind, of course it is frustrating and streeful sometimes. Dressing the first child for school, she is only 1st grade. Pick up and everything. But the point is, she is there when I need her, and I will surely be there for her, marriage is for bad times and good times. We cant have only the good times. We got both.
@@Marta_Fanai see you understand it most people commenting oh women are just leeches or they just want things are children once they grow up and have responsibilities and a real relationship they will see women do a lot for men that makes their life waaayyy better and less stressful I’m a father of two own a home 2 vehicles 2 dogs and 2 cats the thought of working taking care of my kids the animals cleaning laundry shopping etc would be hell
I get her, some men get it twisted when you start doing wifely duties, they feel like seen that you already doing the wife duties I don't have to marry you. We have too many women out there being a wife without the ring. You can treat a man right without giving him the whole cow, give him a sip of the milk every now and then until he decide to purchase the whole cow.
Then you move on until you find the right. Also check what it is that usually attracts you to men that turn out bad and try dating the opposite of what you usually go for.
My grandparents always told me never do wifey duties for girlfriend positions! My husband never had this problem. He understand boundaries! We been married for 25 years
Your husband doesn't know his value. It is foolish to buy a car without test driving it just like it was foolish of him to marry you without knowing if you can do wifely duties.
As a mature woman this is very interesting and thought provoking. At the time of dating my now disease husband he expected me to cook dinner whenever he came over my house. After having a conversation with my dad he said you’re not married to him, you’re not obligated to do anything that a wife would do. and it made sense when you’re dating you do dating things nowadays people are living together doing husband and wife things and expecting something to change.
Your the exception to the rule. You evidently didn't see "husband qualities" in your "disease" husband when you felt an issue with him expecting you to cook everytime he came over, especially since you ran to your pops about him. You shouldn't of never married him in the first place cause you didn't enjoy cooking for him. You got married for the wrong reasons more than likely. You knew who your husband was before you married him.
@@willoftheelect3476 First of all You are wrong in your thought process. If I didn’t want to marry him I wouldn’t have . Also if he didn’t see qualities in me irregardless to cooking he wouldn’t have asked to marry me. We remained married as a Christian couple for well over 20 years until he passed away. you don’t know anything about my marriage so that was a negative call on your part. My father was a man who had great qualities that I looked up to and of course I would get his advice. I was blessed to have a father and mother who could guide me in that process. my parents were married almost 50 years until death. God is our counselor🙏🏾
That's only when you think of marriedge as "the goal". Comming from me, a woman who wouldn't like to get married because I don't like the contract, the "wife things" only mean "sharing a life with someone else and doing your part". And those things should only be done when you live under the same roof, not before. There's no obligation if you don't actually share space, but when you start sharing roof then everyone should do something for each other and the home (no matter who does what). So I'd say your father's advise was missleading
@@purplesoul9927 Agree 💯 When you see the qualities of a Good man or a Good woman, the next stages should be towards marriage. When that 'Trial period' is not exercised... The relationship becomes stunted in its growth and one or both individuals will end up reaping the benefits without the intention of even getting married.
I was telling my cousin today that being a husband or wife not something you become because you sign papers, it's a state of being. You are a husband or wife before you meet your spouse.
Keep her as a girlfriend and be on the lookout for a wife if that's what you want. Most women don't date to marry. They date because of the validation.
@@constantnipples2428 ... It's better spoken... It feels good to the soul to say some things that need to be said vs implying! My dog can not talk but she can communicate... That's the difference between us and animals we can actually speak!
Ladies take it from a man don't listen to that 🤣 you'll be cooking cleaning and shaking with him for the next 6 years and you'll still be a girlfriend. MOVE ON!!
Wrong narrative. Apart from those who are infatuated, desperate or obsessed , every real mature man wants to see wife qualities in a woman he wants to marry. The reason for ignoring that and jumping into marriage just because of sex, physical appearances and to be married is the high rate of divorce. A bad spouse is a bad spouse if you like clean or don't clean, shake or don't shak.
Huh? Your lost luv. He not contradicting himself at all. This skit went over your head. Let me help you.. He got her to admit he already doing husband things in her eyes without being her husband so what he saying is... why he not seeing wife qualities in her before the marriage as she's seeing his husband qualities Before marriage. Please keep up love. 🤔😐
Those are the small things that you shouldn't take for granted. But a lot of people do. I'm with you bruh. Helps me work better when my wife hits me with one of those "I love you back baby". I'm saying right?
So I am reading through the comments and it is so abundantly clear that some of you struggle with the concept of wanting for your partner what you want for yourself. He is doing the things she is looking for in a husband and that's why she wants to marry him because he is doing what she requires. She isn't reciprocating. Do y'all get that? 😂 No wonder this is where we at in current relationships
This is one of the hottest topics out there even the church teaches these things... And anytime I hear it, or as a talking about from a lady...I'm like, we're destroying women of this generation. Thank you for bringing this up at least, for giving it the attention it deserves.
Just a honest question for a women, What are 'wife's ways to act... like how woukd you want and expect a women to act if was your 'wife'...? Real question notching a smart ass I'm genuinely wanting to know, cause I lately found myself at 32 genuinely in my heart wanting a forever man and to be married so yeah..... look forward to your genuine reply if it's gonna be sarcastic immature or whatever just dont bother replying I want I an honest genuine response as I gave when I asked the question Thanks🙂 God bless hope your doing well Shay
@@shaybaeXx1989 Short answer: Be a ride or die How: compliant(not like slavery but not nagging him on the daily over something small or trivial) also *loyalty* is a huge one, helpful (around the house, with his business whatever it may be that could make his day easier) 0 hoe tendencies (if you have Any hoe traits and characteristics delete them in your next software update its like a virus that keeps women single and men not marrying).
@@jaymiles5206 oh well if that's actually what every man looks at as marriage material then I check every box I just haven't found a man who is marriage material and the ones I do know and possibly coukd be I'm too scared trust and I also have 2 children which makes it harder s.fornne to trust cause he needs to be really good for my boys to look up to and want them to be a man like him, like set great examples all round and also I certainly acknowledge that's a massive thing for a man to have to have especially if their not all round decent, and vice versa me being a good example for another man and his children especially if he has a daughter
But I'm 100% ride or die loyal, I lived a long pretty fuked life and had alot of life experiences alot of which people should never experience but it's also made me who I am and the solid characteristics personality and loyalty I am and will have forever
This was legit my last relationship/marriage. I had to constantly ask for simply things prior to marriage and then when I married her nothing changed. Maybe for a half a year but if it’s not in her it’s not in her. But my current lady the love is endless 💯🌹
This is actually accurate. Everyday you see posts of, "Don't do wifey things without the ring" or "Don't do girlfriend without him asking you." but in order for the guy to ask her he has to bend over backwards and break his back. Not all women are like this, 100% but this behavior is way more common than a lot of females would ever admit.
Its only extremely common for the nice guy. And vary rare for a narcissistic åsshöle that makes her feel so bad that when he does something nice she admires that man 100 times more than she ever would for a nice guy who seems like he is simping.
Your mixing contexts. That applies to women that start off doing “wifey” things for a man that’s not returning the same level of support. That’s why women raised their standards. This video is specific to less common, more responsible men.
You're a 100% right, It is very common, You're programmed by everyone around you as a little girl Basically don't give away the milk unless they buy the cow senerio. Fairtales don't help this.( No I'm not calling women cows😅)
Oh, all right, he can go both ways Wing Boss remind ourselves for what we want, and who we won’t even though we might have them now, but show them the appreciation of what they do for you. It’s very important that men and women show each other appreciation so that if you are blessed to get married, you were know how to understand each other. Your love will grow more than you realize Blessed ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@kitty1977 yall really lack intelligence. Women sacrifice a lot to be a wife and mother. You all don't give birth which is very dangerous endeavor. It leaves you vulnerable and dependent for a period of time. You have to sacrifice income and experience on the strength that a man will provide for you during this time. What woman with sense would do that knowing you could walk away without consequence? Only a fool
@@acephalos5026 whole point of ops comment and mine went over your head...even if I stay home and cook and clean, that's not providing income or experience that employers will use. Still making a sacrifice to keep him happy but if he decides he wants to leave, I would have no recurse and would have lost out on time and experience I could have given to someone else, even if that person was me. At least if I'm married, I can get alimony while I train and raise my income after sacrificing. Yall don't think like that because a lot of ppl are inherently selfish and not cooperative
@@acephalos5026 if you're dating someone, you should be able to see if they are kind, caring, cooperative, hard working, etc over time. No need for me to give you all my efforts in an attempt to prove something because trust me, most men are not fundamentally decent these days and usually just take advantage. Know too many women who've done this only to be left and have them marry literal gold diggers after. Men love gold digger trophy wives, it's pretty obvious. Men don't care about this stuff as much as they say they do; especially when they have money to pay for staff. Unless he's paying all my bills then the answer to doing all that would be hell to the no.
I get it 💯. To add to it, if this were me saying something like she is saying, it would be because I’m scared of playing the fool. Me pouring into my man with acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, all of that, causes me to fall deeper, connect more. If I am saying that I don’t want to do more of those things it would be from fear that in the end I poured so much in and ended up empty handed. However, we cannot operate in fear, so the better solution would be to have the conversations surrounding expectations of marriage, appropriate time frames, etc. vs saying I ain’t doin this or that because I’m just your girlfriend. Even the way it was said out of her mouth had undertones of devaluing the title. My thoughts, love this perspective.
Preach my brother!...be who you are first...tap everything you can...until you find the woman who is & does everything you want in a wife...then marry her for who she is & not what you expect her to be!
