Why he only wants you as a friend? | Tony Gaskins 

Amen queen 👸. Houston.

That's it!!!!!!

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JUNE2021

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It's all about compartmentalizing. Let your friends be your friends and your man be your man.

@@humblewarrior7593 wow

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Well said🤩

Yea but sometimes women twist men arm by sticking around. It takes a very evolved man to turn down free 😸.

@@toriyt2714 That's true too

Amen

True but women have to take accountability as well bcuz we see the truth its just a hard one to swallow for some so they convince themselves differently determined to "change " the outcome not realizing the only thing they're doing is wasting time and blocking their own blessings they spend time leading into months even yrs convincing not only the man but themselves that there is more to their dealing with that man if they just hold on a lil longer put more effort he will come around and they will have the relationship she desires and in the end she still doesn't have that only battle scares bcuz she placed herself to remain in a situation that wasn't conducive to what she really wanted nor deserved ...ladies don't wait for a man to show u he's not interested more than once don't wait for him to become vocal about it either bcuz some aren't built that way meaning they don't want to say anything bcuz they don't want to be viewed as the " bad guy" they figure u will get the hint and keep it moving and then u have some that will remain silent bcuz theyre loving the benefit of u they dont want u over all but they damn sure will continue to come around bcuz they get something that requires no real commitment especially if u have given them that privilege for some time look at the behavior it always reveal the truth we have to be willing to stop and see things for what it is versus for what we would like it to be

@@toriyt2714 a grown boy will stick around, a grown man will walk away.

@@KINGDEVON16 ask T.G. why he made that statement..

@@KINGDEVON16 be mindful of trolling under these post please.

none whatsoever

Exactly! Don’t need that bacteria 🦠

You give us strength and resolve!! Don't settle for less than you want! Or you won't get it!! ...SIMPLE

So true I been there done that

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This same thing happened to me recently, except the guy came on very genuine and clearly expressing interest from his introduction, actually even asking for 100% trust up front, to which I told him trust is earned, not just freely given. From conversation: in person, text and by phone, it was clear he was interested in dating (I was too, to be honest), but he also made sure to include this, "let's be friends first and see where our friendship can go" because of how his last relationship ended. I almost went with it, thinking he meant let's take our time to get to know each other, until I saw his communication quickly transition into him just texting. So, I did as Tony has been telling us, I "BLOCKED" him, gotta go.... It's been a while since I connected with someone like this man, but I am not going to be a placeholder while you figure out your life or the role you want me to be in it while I cling to a fantasy that's just that.

Yes, so true

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Yep! You are 💯 correct. It hurts..but..gotta love ourselves and move around to find the man for us. Definitely an ego stroker.

Wait i thought men & woman could be platonic friends ??

@@drew9344in a woman’s mind yes….but a man’s mind is a different thing and a woman’s emotion can also get in the way. There will be exceptions though but…..😊

@@BeautybyJemyjoan that’s fair. thank you for answering, without any animosity & actually addressing the point of contention. this is random, but i like your hair. Blessings 🙏🏾

$/^&----Aint even gotta send this to him, he is intelligent and KNEW what he was doing and RISKING!

@jennifer thompson As these kids say, "Real Talk. Preach."

Well said! Excellent beautiful one!

Amen 🙏 well said

You got out in 2 i stayed 2 more then you until i asked him point blank period when i got off work at 6:30 am are you going to marry me? He danced around it tried to say im pressuring him then that didn't work so next let's try the manipulation game that didn't work so i told him it was over put 30 days in with my landlord 2wk notice in with my job and at the end he helped me load my truck saying i didn't give him time to think things out. Cut ties and never put myself in a friendship zone ever again.

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And don’t look back either. Learned lessons.

Yesss. Worst mistake I ever made.

Omg please why is that?... The guy am seeing currently said his best friend is a woman but he also said she's married....

@@kikikiki3216 there is something deeply wrong with a man that does not have a male as a best friend because of the way men are wired. There are situations in a man's life that only a male will be able to relate to. How is her husband alright with that? Something is not right. A real man would not be ok with his woman having a male as a best friend. No one wants competition. It's messy. When you are in a relationship, you want to know without a doubt that you are #1. That you are the best friend, confidant, safe place for the other person. Tread carefully, my sister. Sometimes they won't know, until you speak into their life gently with love and respect. There has been several men that I have verbalized that I am not ok with that. And they say, you know that makes sense. Never saw it from that perspective. Bless you dear one. Continued success and growth in your journey.

SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

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Wow that's good.

This is what I'm working to do on a relationship with a friend I have. To be a really good friend and remove myself from any underlying romantic scenarios and create space for myself and him to be open to our future husband and wife.

My children ask me the same thing every night.

@@ktucker4083 they know our routine, lol. I usually make sure he's in the room or around, when TG does "man to man "talks on Fridays. My 17yr old daughter is getting lessons too😁

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That is soooo sweeet!!!!

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Yes basically!!!

@@michelletiaraharris like having a female friend is no different than having another woman you are talking to on the side! You don’t always have to have sex, it can be an emotional affair.

@@breannn exactly!! Just recently a guy who has been trying to be my friend told me "I won't lie, I'm attracted to you, we have chemistry and connection. Our conversations are great and you're an amazing woman. I can share and have conversations with you that I cannot even have with my lady". I was like hold up, this is where it stops bro! Enjoy your life

You hit the nail where you posta sis.🙏🏾🖐🏾 I am being told that he is open to a relationship after we both work on ourselves more down the road... I do not believe him. He is lying.

Very selfish yes they are. Smh

It's funny because they will tell their homeboys or the new brood that your just mad because they don't want you. As to why you have an attitude. When in reality they hurt you. Smh

@@tashaequeen8935 facts, they stay lying and manipulating people and facts.

Day 3 of NC to protect my own feelings after being "friends"

Love it. Dating intentionally.....

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The fact that u didn't stick around and allow yourself to be used and abused emotionally and sexually speaks volumes about u plz dont let these experiences lead u to become bitter and jaded about relationships your partner is out there

Your "husband" will be blessed by your strength.

@@GabyDee7 Mentally I feel strong but emotionally, I still feel a little tore up about it. However, thank you for your kind words, please pray for me. Keyword = husband.

@@letrice2892 Not gonna lie, emotionally, I still feel a little tore up about it. Thoughts like "why did he choose her over me, what does she have that I don't and why didn't he put forth any effort with me and easily jump to her" still run through my mind so I'm still a little tore up inside about it. I'm trying my best not to let these situations turn me bitter and jaded even though they left a sour taste in my mouth; it's a struggle. Thank you for your kind words, please pray for me. 🌺

Did you pursue any of these men? Did you approach them with your feelings?

If he isn't faithful to her, he's not going to be faithful to me.

Agreed. Same thing happened to me and now he’s married and still asking to sleep with me😩 hell naw‼️‼️‼️

WoW!!

This is so true. They do.

This is so true!! I’ve always trusted my intuition. A woman’s intuition never leads her wrong.🙏🏾

That’s my theory exactly. A lot of our conditioning comes from tv/movies.

@@toriyt2714 and music.......

@@toriyt2714 true, sometimes I just want to see truly what kind of a friend you are before giving false hope. Can't be dating and building friendship at the same time that's energy draining.

Are you single

Ain’t it tho?! This is good to me! Never again will I tolerate this mess

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Sis that was me a few years ago. My feelings were hurt and the soul tie ran deep. Out of nowhere he said he was with a woman and was going to get engaged 💍 I felt empty, used, questioned things about myself such as my looks etc. I had to remove him out my head and heart and reintroduce myself to my worth and values. It took time by I did it. If you can say his name and not feel anything, then you know your soul tie has been broken. Prayers to you

@@lasheikatucker4598 thank you for sharing. I’ve been praying and have asked others to pray for me to have this tie completely broken for good. I praying for my heart to be healed and for thoughts and emotions to be completely cleared from him

@@mybrwnisbeautifulhin1165 I'm in this as well. But my heart is shifting and I'm grateful it's not a sudden loss. But I'm growing out of it on my own. I prayed for change and I'm changing. I pray for a smooth transition for you as well. Things will work for your good if its truly what you believe YOU deserve. May you find strength to love YOU so deep this will be a distant memory 🙏😇❤

@@purplesoul9927 I receive this. Thank you

I have been in that situation he became engaged as well and that fool actually told me he wanted both of us I said im good and wished him well it stung at first but I knew my worth I was reclaiming it I didn't care about the situation I focused on myself and thats the important part getting back to yourself bcuz we tend to lose just a lil bit of it going through the nonsense and taking accountability was key for me bcuz I saw signs that he and I werent going to progress so I can't blame him fully for things I think ppl always try to figure out where they went wrong in these situations but not focusing on how in the hell did they get there from the start bcuz that requires too much truth from ourselves and some ppl arent ready to be honest within themselves and that stops the healing process but one day your heart will heal beautifully and this will be a mere chapter of the past

Yes!! We gotta be that quick!!

Love your story! Yes the grass was definitely not greener on that other side

@@Jas-qm4cg She literally purchased his love but now he's stuck. It was fun and games when he was getting the benefits.

@@onelove4672 honestly that’s what he gets🤣

Karma got her nails dirty, I love her b***hy pay back.

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meaning he doesn’t wanna title, I’m only 17 but I know unfortunately 😬

Yes learn young so you don’t waste time

Yes babygirl learn this stuff while you're young so you can save yourself the heartache later of wasting time!!

God bless ❤

It happens to me in here all the time 😂

Mine are hurt again.

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Good 4 u. I just ended a seven month “friendship” yesterday. he texted me that he missed me but he had ghosted me for about 9 days. I did not respond and I will not respond. Unfortunate for him I found Tony Gaskins videos about a week ago. Unfortunate for me I didn’t find Tony Gaskins videos seven months ago. I could’ve saved myself a lot of regret & aggravation. HoweverI haven’t felt so peaceful in about…….seven months 😂

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Chilleeee me too! 😆😆😆🤦🏽🤦🏽

Me tooooooooo thank you for the hat 🤣

Hilarious!!!

He definitely was talking to me lol even had his name right Brian aka B 😂 lord thank you growth

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@@CS-pl1re When you move out don’t let him know. Just pack your things and leave when he’s gone. Don’t let him know!

That's cold-hearted 😢

Same situation! Glad that I realized and acknowledged it, but sucks that I allowed myself to be so blind to it. 😢

Amen sis. We all have been in this situation but when you take power, and everything good in you from him and leave. It definitely gives you peace even if it hurts

You go sis!!!

🙌 nothing is more powerful than a woman knowing her worth

@@letrice2892 I agree sis!!!!

Woah what a doosh. Feel for you and sending you much love, prosperity and healing xx

Also this happened to my sister 18 years back and she started to live her best life. She’s now planning for her retirement and watching her kids turn into fabulous young men and women whilst she got herself a great career. Am sure you will fly high too x

Yep. Done. Congrats to her glad shes winning. I cut him off he called dhs on me. I was like.

No control. So. Petty? Ok.

Such a messed up situation. I’m wishing you well on your pregnancy and your future ❤️

Tony’s personality is pretty cool and love his sense of humor 😃

I was waiting for his “Gotta Go!” 😂

@@mizzannabella lol, ikr!

Preach

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Just curious...if it starts shifting, was it ever truly a platonic friendship? From what you've described, the guy may just be following your lead for it to be platonic if you're always the one ending it when it shifts. I have males that I have known for years and in certain seasons we were indeed friends, and even those seasons they would insinuate things, that let me know if I wanted something to happen, they'd be down. I didn't fall for it because I valued friendship over lustship and fortunately knew the difference when a man genuinely is interested without the pretense of friendship. I have yet to experience or know heterosexual men and women who can remain 100% platonic friends, without one developing feelings or at minumum test flirting with the other. Also, when a woman comes into that man's life, especially as a wife, most of those male friends will shut that friendship with a woman down real quick. Not always because the man's new woman or wife is insecure, but because that woman/wife is trusting her intuition that's telling her the unspoken energy she sees between her man/husband and the female friend is not just platonic, even if the two have never had sex.

Y’all are not friends as long as you have a vagina and they have the male sex organ it is only a matter of time. Women and men are not friends I wish we would just be honest and accept that.

@@toriyt2714 Exactly how I would put it. From now on, if aman has a female friend, I will cut him off right away without an explanation. That's my major cut off game

@@toriyt2714 we’re friends. Some have been decades long friendships. I was speaking hypothetically, although there have been a few that I have had to block because they become insistent on trying something more. In my opinion, it’s harassing to me, but it would be misleading on my part if I danced around the situation. So, in all fairness and to be clear, I have had to end a few of those friendships. But, for the most part, I have truly platonic relationships with a few men friends. Nothing more. Nothing less.

@@BeBeautifullyYou not bad, you can keep platonic friendships. Wow.

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Uh uh....the pole! I squealed.

Right I was like noooo that is not how most women think and that GIRL was trippin.

Me too!! ... But it was extremely brave of Tony to go there!

Yes so true!!!

WOW..I was in a situation like this ever since 2018 as well. Easy getting in , seems so hard to get out. The chains are broken. I'm free!

THISSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!

Smart woman 😊

Amen

AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

👌, Plain & Simple Common Sense. Why is the word Friend getting confused if it is a male.?.?