Men cut their losses immediately when they are mistreated. Women sit there see red flags, tolerate bad treatment, disrespect and sacrifice their dignity to grown boys in the name of love and loyalty. It’s sad and that needs to change.
@@AidaRivera I just became a woman who would rather die than be disrespected. I never received this messaging as a little girl....just wow is all I can say
If a man cheats and you take him back you are letting him know it's ok to do it again and again and again..now he has no respect for you and will love you less..and eventually leave you
On the flip side most men cheat, where are you running too, to the next cheater. You could be bouncing round from man to man. All that you teach men your worth and how you want to be treated, they can hide and cheat. Like most of them do...
Because those type of men think women don't "deserve" respect. They think we have to "earn" respect. While men deserve it. Once he disrespects you CHECK HIM right in that moment and put some distance between you and him. Let him know you're not the one💯
This is also why you shouldn’t deal with men not on your level. Even if you don’t emasculate him directly, he feels insecure because he knows he does not measure up. He will cheat on you to take his power back.
I'm with you. And I’m losing big time. Not only in romantic relationships but in the family also. I can't seem to shut up and walk away. I wanna always have the last word. Yesterday my mom proved that silence is powerful and it got me so frustrated that things didn’t turn out so good .. Lesson learned
I have this issue to when I’m being disrespected. My soon to be ex use to call me all kinds of name and I would ignore him, then he would keep going and I would lose it! He would then in turn call me immature and childish after provoking me. It’s my fault for not leaving early.
I honestly can’t stand when I hear women talk down to and disrespectfully to men. It’s like nails on a chalkboard to me. If you gotta do all of that , it’s best to break up.
Erica I watched a family member give her back to her man at a party and air out his dirty laundry in front of his closet friends all while I'm observing him looking at her like he was pisssssed he didnt say 1 word. Errbody gone but me its 1am. He looking for his keys like hey hone ima run to the gas station! I said to myself oh he going to call his sidepiece to see her next morning! Best believe he got revenge on her ass for giving him her ass in public. I stay out of messy stuff women gone Learn.
Not necessarily. If a man is with a woman like that then it’s for a very good reason. Put him with somebody nice and respectful and he would act indifferent and cold to her. Playing her for a sucker and taking her for granted. So with the disrespectful one, he may break up with her, but then go to a nice woman and use her. Taking her niceness for weakness.
@@juliemorris2569 I hear you. But the thing is though, that men do the same thing. They humiliate their nice companion before an audience. Men do it and nobody talks about it or seems disturbed by it. Seems like only women who do it are considered bad. Men can do it but women can’t.
Wow that is crazy! Tony is telling the truth! Men’s egos are fragile and if a woman intentionally tries to emasculate him, he will seek revenge. I have four brothers and they told me how they get back at women who disrespect them.
@@ericajanellelifecoaching If a man’s ego is fragile then everything is emasculation to him when not everything is. So that places women in a fear zone of speaking up for herself or speaking truth in general which shouldn’t be. A woman doesn’t have walk on eggshells around a man.
Study notes from the video: To put things in perspective, think about how a king/queen would act vs. a person of no class Even when a man does something to "deserve" mistreatment, don't stoop to that level. A good man is going to behave similarly to a good woman. He will not tolerate a woman who mistreats him. Think about: How many women have been cheated on (like a dog) vs. how many men have been cheated on. Why does it seem like women "Lose" more in relationships than in relationships? ***It is because men refuse to be beat,*** which is why they don't "lose" as much in relationships. There are reasons which fuel a man "refusing to be beat," though. It is usually because of the emasculation a man endures. You NEVER get the upper hand when you emasculate a man. A man would rather be dead than be disrespected. This goes for work, friendships, and of course in relationships. This is the way "every man" moves. For example, even before a "good" man leaves, he will likely want to get even (take out revenge) with you. Do not ever deal with a man who will make you have to cuss him out, fight him, etc. Because one day, it will come back, with 10x the force which you threw "your's" with. It's not worth it to have someone pump you up to knock you out, give you HIV, etc. A man would contract something on accident and give it to you on purpose just because you cursed at him. Why? Because men are sensitive, fragile. Some cry more than women cry. Every man has a bit of insecurity in him, because of the burden and expectations put on a man. Some men won't introduce their wives to another man out of fear she will cheat with him. A highly insecure man is the most dangerous man. Run if you find a man who's extremely insecure. Men handle disrespect much worse than women. It is because men are typically less emotionally intelligent. Men don't tolerate the same kind of crap women tolerate--this is a double standard--but can be corrected by HOLDING A MAN ACCOUNTABLE. He should rise to your level rather than you stoop to doing what he does. if he doesn't change for the better, go on about your business. If you meet a man and don't think he's handsome, never string him along. If you feel a man is not looks-compatible with you and you're rejecting him/pushing him away, you're emasculating him and his goal is to do whatever it takes to get you. Like a helicopter with 14k roses 🚁🌹🌹🌹😆 Pay attention to how well-known wealthy/powerful men (who are looks challenged & used to struggle with girls) treat "beautiful" (I.e. models) women. They divorce or cheat on them. The reason he does her that way is because she *knew she looked better than him* and he wanted to get revenge. He knows many women don't want anything to do with a man she finds ugly besides money, which is why he cheats. He goes for the beautiful model type to prove he can get a kind of woman who would usually go for a handsome/attractive man. To clarify, Tony is not saying go for men you're not attracted to at all but to prioritize character over appearances, money & status. Never go for a man who you find ugly, immature, or insecure; don't entertain him or let him wine and dine you because it isn't worth it. There are consequences.
Some women are triggered by a grown boy in disguise and without hesitation her masculine energy jumps up and before you know it it’s on 🗣😩. Tony’s transparency in his life and relatable stories are a blessing!!
I’m so glad I don’t stoop down! I don’t have the time! Another thing is a lot of women that are emasculating these men are not seeking the healing needed prior to getting into relationships.
@Taylor Anne you see the fact that he likes dysfunction is red flag I would have been and bounced! girl you can’t let these men get you up to ten! simply keep it cute and feminine talk in a calm voice and they have no choice but to lower their voice, it worked like a charm on my kids dad 😘it’s like reverse psychology lol!
I’ve been arguing a lot lately with this guy. I’ve raised my voice and got upset, but he’s busy calling me names. But I’m going to believe Tony. I’m going to do my best to walk away, I’m not the type to enjoy arguing. Thanks for the message
Future met Scottie Pippen awhile back and he was very nasty towards Future. The way he got his revenge on Scottie was by having an affair with Larsa......the man’s wife and mother of his children. Tony ain’t lying when he said men are sensitive and some cry more than women do!
Imma be honest Tony this is one I am working on. I have had some very toxic men in my lifetime & they can take you there. I've walked away from every last one of them, but not before I said some words I couldn't take back. Thank you for opening us up to the mind of a man. These are lessons that are critical to us as women!
This is very true. I did this to my Fiance. The final argument, I kicked him out, never responded to his text, no phone call. That is when he started chasing & realized that he was taking me for granted. I told him to get back with me, he will need to be better than what he is now. He cannot throw tantrum for no reason or next time he will not just be spoken to, he will get a restraining order. If you respect yourself, walk away from a person who disrespects you. Never ever settle for garbage.
Tony should really consider Christian standup comedy or something lolll! My 19 year old son just came to my room to ask me if I was ok, I couldn’t stop laughing at the family reunion part 🤦♀️🤣! Hey it’s happened to me! Now it’s funny but it was the most uncomfortable feeling ever at the moment ! Ladies listen to Tony ,grown boys are real! They are everywhere and they will make you feel like you are the one that’s crazy! Do the work ! Trust God, trust the process, keep your legs close, if you make a mistake ;do not be so hard on yourself, forgive yourself ,move on , continue working and re-focus! Best wishes to everyone! By the way, Currently reading A woman’s influence (what a Gem) ,and have been a subscriber for a while! Thank you Tony & Sheri!
I'm on the floor in the first 2 mins.. "Ah, come here Chancellor..Um, the gentlemen right there...OFF with his head. Thank you".. Lemme rewind and try to focus! 😂😂💀
It gets me every time when Tony does the woman impersonation lip smack "Owooo, Tony you don't know".... Insert whatever we don't like to hear that steps on our toes🤣🤣🤣 This makes me laugh every single time!
I understand you but Tony is talking about what to do when your man is not treating YOU in a loving way and does things that make u feel like cursing him out or smacking him etc
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 He's showing you how much he does not respect you. Love & respect yourself and exit quickly. It won't get better sis and you deserve better...be blessed
Tony, you are right about soul tie as a result of someone sleeping with many partners, which also leads to fragmentation of the soul. Pieces/fragments of the person's soul are in the different people the individual slept with. But only Jesus can heal that fragmented soul and make it whole again.
That is true, so so true when a man even think you cheated . Lady's run and please don't look back. He WILL put you through it. Even after yall break up he will bring up it and still want to argue about it.
Thanks TG just woke up to a text and saw this video. It was right on time. I surely was about to respond to this text in the wrong way. Now thanks to your video I’m gonna stay on my Queenship thrown and not stoop to his level as I have done so many times in the past. Thank God for opening my eyes and you for this video. Keep me in prayer.
Mr tony you’re a god given man thank you so much I can’t believe this video came at the right time .... God bless you Mr Tony I really do appreciate this 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I love listening to this man he and his wife are truly blessed I appreciate all his time videos and advise just listening has helped and educated me so much.
My heart is melting of joy, I always behave exactly like that with me and others trying to tell me I was soft, I was a loser, and trying to change me. I'm in peace to hear about your knowledge about men. God bless you and your family, you don't have idea how it s helping a lot people. I'm so thankful my parents teach me this now I appreciate them more. Love and peace
Thank you so much, Tony! Those men in my life just came back with apologies. I was loyal and am not materialistic but three years with one and two with another, years apart from each other - their exes are a whole other story and I got mixed into the consequences. Six months later and I am almost back to my happy self again but, oh, so much more confident listening, learning, and applying the new knowledge! Going about my business now, thank you Jesus and the Gaskins family! Amen.
Whew!!! I wish I'd known this years ago because I would have been spared the heartache of trying to love an immature man! Mr. Gaskins is on point yet again!!!! Thank you!!!!
This message is so true , I’ve seen it , an insecure man is reckless and dangerous, anything goes . When they think they got nothing to lose , anything goes . Tony this is 💯 percent true
I’ve been waiting for this topic. I haven’t heard the entire video but thank you for the insight. I did all this except for the slicing tires thing but things I Did do it was not worth it hurt me on the long run. I have been hit but I didn’t leave, I have also done some hitting in a next relationship when the man didn’t hit me and I could’ve went to jail he could’ve pressed charges on me. It was not worth it I have been disrespectful and I admit I paid for it I look back and see how horrible it was and how much it costed me.
