Why He SUDDENLY Acts Cold | 7 Reasons Why A Man Acts Distant 

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If you always love yourself more than you love him, it wont bother you because you were fine alone before he came. You woman must learn to walk away you stay way to long. Love yourself ❤ A man that suddenly acts cold should be the biggest turn off for you..you can not build with a man like that.

If he grows cold he wasn't the one for you. This is a blessing in disguise.

1. Know your value!!! (Do NOT doubt yourself.) 2. Take yourself and your worth seriously. You need to BE A QUEEN to be treated like one. 3. Don’t give easy access. Access to your energy should be expensive. 4. Do NOT only express your boundaries. YOU MUST show them. 5. Always be ready to walk away. 6. Show that you are focused on actions not on words. 7. Have a healthy degree of skepticism. 8. You must be willing to say NO and you must be willing to lose the man, if needed. 9. Never EVER chase a man! A truly worthy woman, does not EVER chase a man. Giving the same energy that you're getting is key and if you don't like that energy then move on! NOW! It can be hard but that's when you need to choose yourself over the damn illusion/fantasy. A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period. So... If he ignores me I will step back and he will lose me. Simple. Simple. Non-dramatic and uncomplicated. I don’t, under any circumstance: play these childish-abusive-controlling mind games. I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me, and treats me as the Queen, I AM. (Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!) Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman: who knows my worth. Period. Also, We create each moment. This moment contains, through my focus, both positive and negative... I can put my attention on what I lack, what I don't have, what traumas I do have etc... And, I can put my attention on the calm moment that I am in, NOW, the food I just ate, and the fact that my body is satisfied, the shelter I do have... (You get my idea!) Both are here... And now. For the sake of fairness, I will allow myself to cry my pains, in the moment if/when they come/arise, AND also acknowledge the beauty I still have in my life NOW. Pain? Yes. Suffering? Indeed. And, also: wonderous magical divine beauty. Blessings to you!

A man's rejection is God's protection ❤

Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

Generation of ppl who are scared to love.Iv’e had enough of this bs.

Bueños dias. When a guy starts behaving that way...my first instinct as a mature woman is to pull my energy back into myself. I refuse to chase any man who cannot show a consistent genuine interest in me. I like when a guy can still go through something while including me, as I do not mind being emotionally supportive. However not in a way that is too much from too much baggage. Equal give and take is best.

That was the first indication that my intuition told me he wasn't faithful. Distancing. It was 100% spot on.

I need to go somewhere, where the adults are.

Far too many have this annoying obsession with "shifting the power balance". The *moment* he tries to make me the pursuer/chaser is the moment I "next" him. Not even my definition of male beauty would be worth role-reversal, let alone a nobody.

I understand shutting down in the moment but if you’re in a relationship you can’t just shut down and ghost your partner out of nowhere. If this happens, he’s not ready for a relationship! Let’s attack the problem together!

But if he feels like this then there’s no point starting a relationship! He should have thought about his feelings and the next person before getting into this situationship in the first place 🤨. Don’t you think?

Still trying to wrap my head around where things keep going wrong. We were doing good and then the next day he walked away. He wasn’t ready for a put together woman like myself.

7 reasons can sound a lot like 7 excuses sometimes😮

I'm tired of being told you're not my woman but ee can still do things together i really give up throw in the towel it's very draining 52 I'm retiring not gonna even try this mess no more 🙄

You are so right it’s sad then the man act like you did something wrong

I'd love to spread some positivity and say that the people who teach the truth are the ones who will heal the world.

As a woman entering a relationship with a man it's like Navigating my Everest No explanation and growing cold ? Ah that's so frustrating Could u these selfish men out there break this unhealthy Cycle ? Be brave stay strong and just say exactly what's on your mind

It's important to be in a relationship where BOTH parties are mature. It should never get to a point where either person is cold or dismissive towards the other. Having a discussion prior to a relationship, discussing how to address issues/concerns is a great idea. Getting to know the other person's likes and dislikes also will help, which will take communication/time. 🙏🏽

I know this video is about a man growing cold, but however, women grow cold and most of the time the man is not treating her well

This was a good one. I’m such an empath. I’ll just fall back with him. I’m not trying after that. Especially at my age. I can’t take moody men.

Yeah sounds like what I have just gone through! But my case I needed to walk away from it! 6 years and walking away!!

We lot tend to communicate with people who aren’t able to assimilate. People seek the heights of respect they do not know how to give or even unpack. When two people who once Cared about each other start to feel otherwise, just come out straight and let them know. Sure they’d be hurt but not as much as it would when you ghost them eventually. ❤️ x 💡

I completely ignored this video. :) But my Spiritual Guides had other plans. I watched two separate videos on an entirely different subject (medieval history), and when I clicked back to the main page it did not refresh.🤨😅 You immediately started talking which made me look down at the title. I almost kept it moving again, but I was asked to listen. The points you mentioned in the first two topics is my exact situation. Things were going fantastical and then suddenly I could feel the withdraw. We weren't physically together at the time, so I didn't understand what was happening. But energy doesn't lie. I could sense that he was feeling unsure and anxious in spite of the fact that he was clearly enjoying our time spent together and the talks we had. Fast forward a bit and I'm starting to piece a few things together through observation and things being said. And just plain intuition. People do not realize I can literally hear conversations that I was not present for. A male friend, who he has known since childhood has a great deal of influence on him. The friend and I have never met, so anything he says about me is speculative. Then there is his mother and grandmother who are in hopes that he will get back with his ex-wife. This is for financial reasons that I will not get into. Three people who have their own agendas at play, stating God only knows what (based on nothing), about me to him. It eventually came to a head. I told him that while he was a wonderful man and that I did love him immensely (still do), I was not willing to stick around for the drama. I do wish him every wonder thing! Especially the ability to think for himself and decide what is best for him, without giving into manipulative outside influences of friends and family. This I know will be immensely freeing for him mentally and emotionally. Unfortunately, the breakdown of his marriage and childhood trauma (abandonment issues), really did a number on him. Something he is not aware of consciously.

I really need to hear your advice. Thank you! 🙏 Because I’m 54 years old and widow for 7 years. 3 serious relationships before I married at age 35. Still hard to get this right, not gonna lie. I have played it cool, I have chased, acted crazy, ignored with no contact, etc….Knowing my worth. Letting go of co-dependency. Doing me. Letting them do them. Not gonna say it does not stink a little. But you know when it works!!! Period. I think we just want it too bad when we are putting all our energy into it. And we want what we want and don’t like to lose or feel rejected. That’s my biggest thing; the rejection I feel with it.

Thank you for the last reason when the man leaves you because he wants you to let him go. it helped me .😊 I feel better. I didn't do anything wrong and i feel Better now that i watch or video.

Thank you for making that first point and the explanation beforehand. So important!

I’ve been through this situation too many times and I can’t deal with it anymore. I can’t understand why a grown up man can’t simply talk about their feelings, thoughts or situations. Is not acceptable to me no more

It’s just a bunch of dismissive avoidance men out there. Which is fine, but they are also not self aware and not seeking proper help 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I guess I’ll still keep hope alive. That there’s still grown good men in the world who can communicate. Seek counseling or therapy for any trauma or emotional distress. 🤦🏾‍♀️

This world has taught men being or looking weak is a bad thing also they've had past partners that have made them feel as if it's a bad thing that's why you have to have a safe space for the both of you amen amen amen 👏 🙌 🙏 ❤️

Idk maybe women should start being as logical as men 🤷🏾‍♀️ when a woman suddenly acts cold then a man takes it as such with no other considering alternatives regardless the circumstances. If he's not into you then he's into someone else. See it for what it is & move on

I always check in on your content for a self check. You’ve been at this for years. Your voice is needed in THESE times. Keep blessing us with your gift 🙏🏾💕

Why does it still hurt so much, even when you know that he was not the right guy for you?

So good to have a balanced mature view point. There is a lot of bad advice going on out there that scares or confuses people. This i can feel is coming from more a healed place

Your video helped me make sense of a few things. Very helpful and right on time. Thank you.

Many good points, I am tired of trying to read people, I am an honest person and say what I am feeling, not playing games. I am glad that I know the person I can count on is myself and capable of handling life on my own until the right person comes along.

I expect MORE from men. Not teenagers, not man-children but MEN. I expect men to communicate clearly, effectively and honestly. I know that life can life the hell out of all of us. I get that. Trust and believe I get that but both sexes have to find a way to put a voice to their feelings. Shutting down and closing people off is not the answer. That's very hurtful and disrespectful. It's okay for men to express feelings. Jesus did! Jesus wept. Jesus turned over tables in the temple. He spoke the truth with love. It's okay! Men please stop shutting us out. Last, I whole heartedly agree with you about the internet being a bitter, nasty, negative place. The older I get the more I guard the gateways. What I look at on television/movies, who I listen to on podcasts/music, who I deal with etc. Very selective.

Excellent video & topics 💯💯💯 I love that you include your personal experiences in your discussions 👏🏼👍🏼💗💯

Hello Stephan, I always feel enlightened by your amazing relationship advice videos, I have been married for 5 years plus now. 😊

You are freaking amazing Stephen... and you're real

Thanks a lot for the video, it's really timely.

Great video Bro. Stephan!❤

Thank you for your clarity and guidance.

This is right on time and definitely resonates with what he has said to me on several occasions. Thank you Stephan!🙏🏽✨

Its like you have a little camera hidden in my life! 🤳🏼 This explains so much!

This was a great video!

Thank you for the great insight ❤

At the point of hearing how people believe things will not deter a certain man from talking to someone...Many peoole forget about the spiritual warfare that's prevalent, and all of the karmic people who try to attatch themselves with those whom they know they are not meant to be with long term. So yes, there are situations that will TRY to block a man from being with their true soulmate/twin flame..However what is meant to be will be regardless what anything nor anyone tries to do.

Love the insight.

This was very helpful!

Thank you for always sharing very helpful lessons, God bless you

Communication is a huge part ❤❤❤❤amen Jesus amen amen yes yes yes 👏 🙌

I agree with the last advice you gave towards the end, which should have been the first advise, in my humble opinion.

When talking about dating-not marriage, My experience is when they grow cold it’s essentially over. I’m not talking about cold for a few hours or even a couple days but anything beyond that is they are pulling away. They won’t come back in the way we want and need. Does the reason actually matter???? Nope!! Ultimately the outcome is exactly the same. Either we accept it and let them move along or we resist and try to get them back or make changes or chase them… ect I have dated men that fit all of these examples mentioned in this video but the end of the story is the same!! It’s over and there is no possibility for long term commitment and marriage. It’s sad, it’s hard, it’s frustrating,it’s a waste of our time, it’s hard to not cling on to potential, but again the end result is the same. There will NOT be an end result of long term commitment and marriage.

Thank you for this!❤

For a fact that if a woman ignore a man when he’s in that phase, she will get better results he will eventually come around

Love your videos!

Thank you much for this.🙏🏼

I noticed "that moment " w/:others & w/ my child's dad( pre-conception.😅). Like the shoe dropping..it's predictable!! 😂 I didn't really like him for long term anyway & could watch the process cause I didn't care. I think it's when the guy "wants something " and your able to provide , & what he's able to do, yet he's been a "good boy" or "his representative" isnt meant for long term. And he's gotta be himself!! And his poo or humanity comes out . LoL

Understanding is everything.

😢😢 It's very sad that friends and family do that. Plant negative thoughts in a man's head.

My ex doesn't know what he want's and I don't have time for him now and I am waiting on God to bring the right one for me because life is to short. to wait on him to get it together because my ex plat's mind games with me so I'm done now❤😂🎉😢😮😅😊

Interesting Video!🙏

It's been the best, I swear. We're literally best friends. Then all of a sudden he's distant and cold, when I call he ignores, doesn’t send messages, when he answers or calls after so ignoring all my calls he's like "what do you want" and making me feel like I'm bothering him and my mind starts to wander. I try talking to him that I want him to at least send messages and let me know what's going on because of how it makes me feel. One time he was like "I don't take you for granted, I love you" but then he continues not sending texts. I understand that he's really stressed from work and school but stress shouldn't destroy your relationships. I've always encouraged openness in the relationship. Everything you said about "Stress and Overwhelmed" is exactly what is happening.

Good vid,, thanks

Stephan, thank you so much! You delivered with love and compassion on a situation that encompasses us all in every type of relationship. God bless your passion for helping others heal. ❤

So true...some people just DO NOT know how to mind there own business, which is why it is always SO IMPORTANT to keep boundaries in place with others when it comes to ones personal business. Unfortunately everyone does not mean you well, whether if it is kinfolks or not. It really is very sad, but such is the way of the world.

Shutting down is never a good thing you have to be able to talk about anything and everything it's easy to just shut off but not cool yes yes yes always take the time to talk to God absolutely but you have to be able to talk to your partner amen Jesus amen amen thank you 🙌

I was peaceful and supportive the whole time before that issue and after that issue, but his negativity just really started rubbing me the wrong way and whenever I try to express that to him, he never listen. He just never was good at having serious conversations and that’s how becoming aggressive with him.

With pause...mindfulness ❤🙌🙏

Facts 💯❤

Can you do a video on men who are willing to openly date you but are afraid to label the relationship if you haven’t already 🥰

its just exacly like you say, I totaly agree

So many childish behaviors in the male that needs to play silly childish 🤦🏾‍♀️ games🤷🏽‍♀️

The only time I felt a really strong connection to someone he ended up doing this after helping in a situation. We were together when I was 15-17. So I didn't get this so when he became distant I felt I had to get out. He wanted to get married and everything. I still wish I would have handled that differently. Maybe one day we will cross paths again. I saw him once after 17 years and he had a big reaction I got scared and walked off.

Can you do an entire podcast about "staying in a relationship too long. . " I seem to miss that, because i caught my last 2 guys cheating on me! But they lied and told me 'we were exclusive!'

I love you Stephan ❤

Respect n Reset ✌🏾

If he has admitted he is scared of falling too quickly and ruining our connection, what do I do to show him he is safe to trust me and our connection?

🔥🔥Glory 🔥🔥

I’m really trying! 😢I don’t think I have another relationship in me. 🤦🏾‍♀️

I am a successful woman. He is younger and I give him more credit than he deserves. I can’t call him if my electricity is out. He is never available for me. I understand that we live an hour away. I would like for him to pick up the phone. I am out. That’s all I need to know.

This happened to me when I found out I was pregnant and then I found out he was cheating when our daughter was 14 months old. He ended up staying with her and is still with her. Our daughter is now 3 and it left me completely broken and this was 6 years into our relationship and we were best friends before since we were kids. I suffered bad postpartum depression and anxiety and from that I started experiencing focal seizures. And let me add that he’s doing to her what he did to me. Cheating. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t want to be with her because he continues to say he doesn’t want to be with her and is ending things but has not. I feel like he might feel pressured to be with her by his sister since that’s her best friend and pressured by his mother.

FACTS 💯⭐👌🏽💯⭐

he said he want me to feel how he feels…. mind you when we went places i always finding myself avoid situations he put us in with other women that he knew or didn’t know. and the ex he slept with had been communicating with sexually the time we were committed. he has been stuck in the past since before we started dating with women yelling, he talked and griped about it so much that when he was aggressive with me i did the same to him. i noticed i was doing that and corrected the issue but he is still on women yelling even when im not it’s like he like staying in the past i had been telling him to leave and he didn’t want to or be friends without sex and when i introduced him to the guy as a friend he antagonized me for 3 months about him as a friend when i never slept with the guy meanwhile he’s still in contact with his ex. so yea i slept with the guy came home and called him to tell him and not date he wasn’t tryna leave so if we become a couple after that you can’t be bringing up old stuff

I could've done without the last one 😜 he went quiet twice and I wasn't guna forgive him but after months separated and knowing I'd miss him for years I'm probably guna give him another chance cause i know he's waiting for a dinner date and wants to do better. Men are so frustrating haha he's so masc he's scared to be vulnerable. I'd better take it slow and make sure hes adjusting his behavior. I tend to go quiet too but not too the point of ignoring someone for days haha

I’ve been talking to a man for over one year but we’ve never met face to face because he lives 3 states away. He’s suddenly stopped communicating since he’s had to quit working to care for his dad who has Parkinson’s and his sister who’s dying with cancer. Could that be a reason for him to go silent? I know he’s not seeing anyone else. Please reply if possible. Thank you Stephanie.

Will if suddenly acts cold do what I do put a coat on 😂

Can you explain this phenomena like why men sometimes choose the new woman (pregnant or not) over with their longtime partner? (eg. 10yrs)

My intuition was telling me that he was going to act distant and I ignored it. I first I stopped initiating the text for a whole week and he not one time texted me. I texted him saying you seem pretty distant lately I want to be respectful of that. Just checking to see if everything ok. He says he been busy with work and he knows I’m busy too and he didn’t want to bother me. I later told him that I’m Never too busy to reach out and that I would love to hear from Him more if time allows. He said that he could text more. He did but the text were very short. I asked to see Him and he said another day would be better, so I stop asking. I ran into him in the parking lot two weeks before I decided to stop reaching out and the interaction was mad, awkward. Almost like we were strangers it almost seemed like he was pretending like he didn’t know me and I’m hoping that was the case however my heart dropped when I felt that he was pretending not to know who I was. We ended up talking small talk but after that feeling that I got, I try to make our conversation short as possible and told him I had to go and he said it was nice seeing me. Been almost 3 weeks and have not heard from him since. One day and he said another day would be better so I stopped asking . It’s been almost 2 weeks now Since I last texted him I ran into Him

I don't get cold, am always on fire especially for the person i care about.

Current experience with someone I met, unbelievable chemistry. Ruminating for a week as nothing since we met. I haven't contacted him as I refuse to chase him, I need him to reach out to know he actually wants me. Coming to the conclusion that he's not for me, I am a high value woman who has no problem attracting men, but I wonder if inner work needs to be done to avoid attracting these people 😢

I can handle myself and do. So what am doing with this man?

His best friend and sister told me to move on and leave him alone.. We dated for over a year. Finally through another he just wanted to be single

I'm sick of men with this "concept" why show interested and mislead the women? It's selfish.

Happen to me Was secretly Talking to Another Girl After our Break Up But I understand me & Him was Broken up

🤔 Attraction 👁 leads to Reaction 🦋💕😘

Already in my soul...just giving him a angel lady...he dune