Why I’ll Never Be THAT GIRL (a Trend So Problematic I Just CAN’T)

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@ComaLies225 2 года назад

It only works if you have the time to be “That girl.” As long as you’re trying to keep your mental health in check, nutrition, goals, and take care of your biznezz, (bills, school, job whatever )you’re good

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Totally!

@dackjanielsmeup 2 года назад

That Girl is unemployed

@Isary96 2 года назад

i have time, but i’d rather focus on my mental health

@Vivi_LaRue 2 года назад

@@dackjanielsmeup I work 40 plus hours a week and manage to have a very similar routine to “that girl”. Daily exercise and journaling helps me mentally and physically. My daily housework takes a total of maybe 20 minutes. I am just not understanding why everyone is like “this is impossible…” because it’s really not. It’s just a morning routine. If doing this in the morning doesn’t work for you and doing it after work does, then fine. It’s still getting done. I prefer to do it in the mornings so when I’m done with work and the return from work pet care, I can relax and not have to worry about cleaning the litter box or mopping the floors at 9:30 at night.

@dackjanielsmeup 2 года назад

@@Vivi_LaRue Maybe you have seen a more down to earth “that girl” routine, but the ones I watched were hilariously out of touch. Like the whole point of it was to have a nervous breakdown in an attempt to be the uLtImAte fEmaLe.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Like this comment if you would like to see me do a 73 Questions video!

@charlotteschrodi2734 2 года назад

Yes yes yes!

@fgcfelice 2 года назад

I would actually like a 73 questions with you Abbey!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

That’s a great idea!

@nicktsimogiannis1512 2 года назад

Yes please

@emilybriggs2758 2 года назад

I agree!

@jessiel7694 2 года назад

Yes!

@samkatpierce 2 года назад

Yeeeeeeesssssss!! Asap

@pencilfanatic4651 2 года назад

Tbh I think a huge part of the development of 'that girl' was girls who feel lonely with no friends so they want to be super productive to make up for it. Might be why I was (am) veyr influenced by it

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Possibly!

@kokokrunchification 2 года назад

Yesss if you don’t have a family or friends, “that girl” lifestyle fills the void in your life, at least it did for me, while improving my mental and physical health and generally made me feel better about myself 🤷‍♀️ but I could see how people who are social, have kids or a 9-5 job would have trouble being “that girl” tho

@Vivi_LaRue 2 года назад

Um…I have friends. And pets. And a house to maintain. Why is trying to have a healthy lifestyle suddenly a negative. I am a “roll with the punches” type of person, but I absolutely find my life more functional when I have a basic schedule to work off of.

@Emily-hd9sm 2 года назад

@@Vivi_LaRue I think the original comment more so meant that people pushing this trend were taking advantage of people who felt lonely and lacked social interaction with good friends. Caring about your health is not bad at all, but anything can be taken too far, and when so-called "wellness" is taken too far, it may be a sign someone is trying to compensate for something

@Piecesoftheshadow 2 года назад

@@Vivi_LaRue It's not about being healthy. You're missing the point. It's about "influencers" creating this extreme routine that's not realistic for the average person and making everything look so perfect, which is unrealistic, but it makes those watching feeling like they're behind or not doing it good enough, etc. People just need to be more real and honest vs fake and making everything perfect. It's ridiculous. And not about being truly healthy. Healthy does not mean becoming obsessed with perfection. Healthy is just about moderation.

@jaclynturnipseed4723 2 года назад

I’m THIS girl, I’m messy and imperfect too. Some days I’m motivated, some days I’m lazy, let’s be honest, most days I’m lazy. And that’s OKAY, let’s normalize and endorse imperfection.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Absolutely!

@tinilangstrumpf5795 2 года назад

For me perfection is really boring. Imperfections make live interesting and people lovely 😉

@dawnbrashear221 2 года назад

I have no kids and I still feel this video in my soul. We should be friends!! I am getting into making dinner again but dang food is expensive. The water, girl I just drink what comes out of my zero water pitcher. I like my water plain! I do love my coffee too.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Totally! 👍

@sonorasgirl 2 года назад

Same lol. Like idk how ANYONE is “that girl” unless they’re childless and independently wealthy. I don’t have kids, but after work, cleaning, cooking dinner, and a wind down in the evening, I don’t have time for all this shiz

@romywhite290 2 года назад

I do like lemon water, but that's for a restaurant to do for me. I don't want to slice my own lemon.

@frankquinn6872 2 года назад

Well that was funny AF! I’m sure the up and coming “The Bare Minimum Girl” trend will need a inspiration figure - looks like you have it in the bag!😉

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I am IN

@stefaniewithanf7026 2 года назад

Oh my God, that sounds right up my alley. Can we start that trend? I have tons of paper trash I still haven't taken out to inspire the a e s t h e t i c.

@SimoneEppler 2 года назад

Count me in! 😂😂

@queencelestyna 2 года назад

I've really appreciated when people make videos or content like this. My husband and I both have ADHD, so talk about feeling extra frustrated when we see what we "should" be able to do, and we don't even have kids yet!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I’m so glad this video is helpful!

@kristynajurkova9058 2 года назад

Oh my. From what my brother told me about life with ADHD, I really cant imagine, how unique has to be "double ADHD" household. Do not mind those perfect videos.

@meredithkarasiak1058 2 года назад

I have ADHD too and I have a nervous breakdown nearly every day. Cooking dinner, cleaning the kitchen, getting morning coffee ready, and taking care of the dogs feels like I'm on a lifeboat in an epic sea storm. Meditating just gives me time to focus on the list that I need to make. What list? No idea... "That girl" types don't know the struggle.

@sonorasgirl 2 года назад

Ooof, as a fellow ADHD without kids, I agree

@gen1254 2 года назад

thank you for being REALISTIC! i swear i’m so tired of seeing these copy and paste ppl in yt and tiktok eating the same bloody toast with the avocado every morning and literally show everything is perfect

@brilliantbutblue 2 года назад

With the perfectly poached egg onto an aesthetically pleasing plate l might add😆

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I’m so glad this video is helpful!

@Maritinylibrary 2 года назад

I'm a college student and the way I feel this in my soul 😂😂😂 My motto in the morning is that if it takes more than 10 minutes its not gonna happen

@FateWorseThanDeath 2 года назад

Walking around the house just looking at the things here and there that my kids have just effed up for no reason. And not having the desire, energy, or money to fix it - especially knowing they'll probably just break it again. Most relatable thing ever

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Ya we decided we aren’t buying anything new or fixing anything until we move or they turn 10, whatever is first

@MR2spyder100 2 года назад

Wait until they're put of the house...teens aren't any better than littles on your stuff. 🙄😄

@Veilfire 2 года назад

I've noticed "That Girl" videos are usually made by women in their 20's who don't have children. So of course it's just not going to be realistic for most of us.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Yep exactly

@nikki5195 2 года назад

Not even your typical 20 something either because I feel like most of the that girls don’t have a normal 9-5 job

@Stopfollowingmeplz8 2 года назад

I'm a woman in my 20s without children and it's not realistic for me either lmao

@Piecesoftheshadow 2 года назад

I agree but it's not even normal for 20 year olds. When I was 20 I was still trying to figure my life out in every way while also working snd going to school.

@whitneywujkoayala8613 2 года назад

“I don’t have an hour to contour, NOR DO I KNOW HOW” I have never felt so seen 😂

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

😂😂

@jenniferwise4860 2 года назад

And on top of that, I don’t have the mental energy for it lol

@goranbreskic4304 2 года назад

To what?

@mr.mattatattat8598 2 года назад

@@goranbreskic4304 contour is the name of the type of makeup. contouring is when you take a slightly darker/ darker shade of makeup than your skin tone and ‘carve out’ the features you want to emphasize or hide. hope this helped a bit lol

@Iquey 2 года назад

Lmao if contouring takes you an hour, (both makeup and lymph drainage) you are doing it -wrong- maybe too slowly. Should only take like ...10 min at most. Dry brush and put on lotion with massage worthy pressure???? Makeup continuing should take like 3 min at most. A dot/line of concealer or tan powder, maybe another dot of highlight, and blend it.

@shelbysmith3712 2 года назад

I'm loving all the realness! It's something the internet desperately needs.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you!

@Luna-ig6jk 2 года назад

I love you for this abbey! Seeing that girl trend everywhere makes me feel like I'm the only one that doesn't have it together and I know thats not true but thank you so much for this video ❤ I'm going to share it with my niece so she knows real life isn't perfect

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

So glad this video was helpful! ❤️

@EmiLikesGaming 2 года назад

I really love that you showed the "damaged" furniture pieces. I don't have kids, but I also have small spots on my wall from some soup splashing while eating and some weird looking parts in my bathroom because I dropped a bottle and it opened while hitting the floor. It's so real! And I want to applaud you for including that!

@MommaDrake02 2 года назад

I'm in tears from this. My house is a mess too, I dread mornings when my toddler and baby wake up and constantly need me (because they're little and that's ok). I thought I was just a bad mom and a bad person! Maybe it's okay to not always feel joy and be calm as a parent?

@Luna-ig6jk 2 года назад

Absolutely. You are still a human and everyday as a parent isn't enjoyable but that's completely normal. As long as your kids are happy and healthy, you're a perfect mom.

@alenadanielsson5153 2 года назад

I feel you!

@jaclynturnipseed4723 2 года назад

I think it’s easy to feel bad for not feeling constantly full of joy for our kids bc of the posts we see on social media of parents talking about ‘how full their heart is’. Let’s be real…there are those moments of course but there’s also moments where they are so annoying and demanding. And girl, that’s normal to feel like that!! The fact that you do feel bad proves that you’re probably a good mama.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Absolutely, that’s completely normal! I’m glad you found this video helpful ❤️

@alvarieroberts720 2 года назад

Full warning when you kids are in the double digits you still have to hound them in the morning to get dress, eat breakfast, brush your teeth, and the list goes on and on. It never stops NEVER!

@PetsOnTheRoad 2 года назад

omg this is absolutely one of the best entertainment videos that you've made so far!!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you!

@lindseygillespie9173 2 года назад

Abbey this is one of my favorite videos of yours to date! As a new mom, I often feel so discouraged watching other mom "influencers" who make it look so easy. My house looks like yours, my routine looks like yours and I don't feel so alone. Thank for being honest and real! It means a lot.

@user-xv1kp6qf7h 2 года назад

I also LOVE that u call a robe a “house coat “ haha I’m going to start calling it that too . Cuz they’re so comfy! Esp in winter

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Totally!

@deadrose23 2 года назад

If I'm not mistaken, that's because she's Canadian (or at least has the accent). I lived in Ontario for several years and still find myself using Canadianisms like that pretty regularly.

@anitafoss2133 2 года назад

Yeah, yours is a TRUE REALITY show! I'm with you on this. when my boys were younger I used to tell friends and relatives that they're welcome to visit anytime but if they're coming for a house inspection they're gonna need to make an appointment and I've got an 8 year waiting list!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Totally!

@kayleegreene2058 2 года назад

Seeing all the little imperfections in your home was like a huge sigh of relief and recognition. My husband and I bought a little bit of a fixer upper ( 98% cosmetic fixes, 2% practical things). Between finishing college, full time jobs, our first pregnancy, and general life… pretty much nothing has been fixed. Seeing a gorgeous home with a ton of thought put into its designs still have the little marks of life disruptions and imperfections is a huge perspective changer! Thanks for your honesty, Abby!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I’m so glad this was helpful for you!

@leemcdaniel5072 2 года назад

Thanks Abby for showing how real people live. Love your videos. They're so entertaining and informative. People who present this glamorous existence probably do actually live this way themselves.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you so much!

@ryansisters1 2 года назад

As a psychology student, thank you so much for bringing this healthy mindset to youtube. It makes a huge difference.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I’m so glad it’s helpful ❤️

@brilliantbutblue 2 года назад

Agreed!

@thelmakatherine5396 2 года назад

You are doing great! At one time my kiddos were 8, 6, 4, and 0. Now 20, 18, 16, and 12...with the first two planning to move out this year. The days are slow, but the years go by so quickly. They are all still very messy, loud, and call my name through out the day. But I love them all to pieces.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thanks for sharing!

@nodgwig8948 2 года назад

You just made me feel so much better, thank you! I've gone through periods of feeling guilty for having fun unless that fun was "productive" whatever that means and "that girl trend" is just so toxic to people like me. I actually wanted to ask you about something I've seen in another one of your videos too, I wonder if there's a way to reach you? I feel a bit vulnerable asking here but I completely get and it and respect it if you just don't accept DMs anywhere.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

You can dm me at my Instagram, @abbeyskitchen 😊

@agnesemannucci7006 2 года назад

Love it! It was so fun to watch! You seem so real, so "normal"... That it's pretty SPECIAL to have someone like you on RU-vid! Thanks 💙

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you! ❤️

@peachhipgirl75 2 года назад

I’m an empty nester with 4 cats at home. My life is just as hectic as when my babies were at home, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Being that girl doesn’t sound exciting to me. I rather enjoy my life as it is. Great video, Abbey!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Agreed, thank you!

@QuantumSorceress 2 года назад

Thanks for making this video because this is pretty much what my life looks like and I don't even have children, haha. I work from home (I've been a remote worker since before COVID, so I've been doing it for 7-years) and I look like a zombie 99% of the time. I used to journal everyday, but then I tend to only journal when I'm channeling Sylvia Plath (AKA my psychiatrist should probably involuntarily commit me into a hospital), so I honestly think it's a good thing when I am not journaling. Because it means I'm not an emotional mess LOL. I don't do meditations because I find them boring. I honestly feel my happiest when I am doing my morning dishes, getting my coffee ready and listening to a podcast. I'm not very productive in the morning because I am a night owl and am more energized at night. So I take it very slow in the mornings. I usually play video games until like noon, I have an hour for "lunch" and THEN I start working. I am my most productive in the afternoon. Trust me, trying to be productive in the morning just leads to A LOT of procrastination.

@nicoleallen3079 2 года назад

I swear you’re my twin!!! I’m so slow to function in the morning. 5am is never going to happen when I fall sleep between 3-4am.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing what works for you!

@roksanaszulta5776 2 года назад

Love the bit about channelling your inner Sylvia Plath, because it's exactly how I feel about journaling 😂

@sonorasgirl 2 года назад

😂 I am exactly this too. It’s 9:30 and I’m watching this and snuggling my needy cat lol

@heidihilts401 2 года назад

Are you me? 😭

@amberbumbacco6102 2 года назад

This was exactly what I needed this week. Thank you Abbey. From a busy nurse with 2 jobs, autoimmune disease and 2 step kids under 11. I thought the other day “ am I the only person left in the world who doesn’t spend time contouring?” And now, I know, at least there is one other. Thank you, for keeping it SUPER REAL 🥰💛🏡😎🥳

@brilliantbutblue 2 года назад

You are doing awesome Girl, and l wouldn't know how to contour either, let's be serious our patients don't get to see most of our face these days anyway 😷

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing! So glad this video was helpful ❤️

@naomi7131 2 года назад

This was so refreshing to watch!!! Loved seeing the actual life and reality of someone’s life vs. the filtered picture perfect version.

@elisabeth2252 2 года назад

Thank you soooo much for doing this! I can't tell you how good it feels to see something that isn't just another picture of perfection that I know I will never live up to.

@kathy12238 2 года назад

I love how down to earth you are! My son is almost 11 years old and I just last year replaced all the furniture, the curtains and the car magnets that hit home. 😆 Keep not being that girl.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

YESSS our goal is to get to 10 then we either move or gut the place haha

@candaceroo 2 года назад

Maybe you should start setting your good intentions for the day? Maybe it’d help you stop judging everyone - from what they eat, to how they start their morning routine

@jeni2974 2 года назад

This made me feel like we would be friends! Thanks for sharing and can totally relate to all these things!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

😊❤️

@energizewithemmyskirvin8793 2 года назад

Absolutely love these videos of you being so real!! This and the Christmas video are my favs!!!

@masterfy24 2 года назад

I was watching another video from you about this "that girl" trend, but I had to stop, so I can watch THIS one you just posted lol

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

😂👍

@holleyjay1122 2 года назад

We have the same “kids live here” aesthetic going over here. I do some “that girl” things. I do yoga in the morning because it helps me feel good. I drink a smoothie because it is all I have time for. Neither would make a pretty tiktok though. There is usually some sleepy kids snuggles mid yoga as they wake up, and I’m feeding all the animals with my smoothie at hand 😆. Oh and the smoothie is usually more brown than green. I say we become our own that girl. Whatever it is that helps you be the best you, that’s your THAT.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Absolutely! ❤️

@mrsfruity76 2 года назад

YES!!

@constancegabriel-haevecker5912 2 года назад

This was absolutely hilarious! 😂 I love your down-to-earth, realistic take on life, both privately and professionally.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you! ❤️

@gabrielleferguson1626 2 года назад

You had me at “walking, talking Pinterest board” 🤣🤣 SO TRUE. These influencers/“THAT girls” never show what they do when things go wrong or not according to plan!

@amypierce1603 2 года назад

I just love your sense of humor!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you! ❤️

@Vivi_LaRue 2 года назад

I’m not sure why everyone is finding this “trend” so problematic. Get up, drink some water, make your bed, exercise for 30 mins (I do yoga), have breakfast, journal and make your to do list for the day, and get ready for the day. That’s literally my morning. Just add in pet care and house keeping and you have my pre-work agenda. Do I go out of my way to make my food pretty? Sometimes. Sometimes I make a meal. Sometimes I make a shake or a smoothie. FFS, my GRANDMOTHER used to get up 30 minutes or so before anyone else in the house so she could have some quiet time before the day got started. And that was 70 years ago.

@maar9494 2 года назад

Same girl. I don’t have the time for shit and work aLOT but to me doing these healthy habits its about MAKING it a priority. Its not always easy, and I cant always get to everything everyday but I make time for myself. I love doing a morning workout, lemon water literally takes two seconds (certainly quicker than abbey making a coffee in a machine and adding milk lol). Journaling can be done in 5 min whenever u feel like it. Its rlly not that hard. I feel like some people who shit on this are just salty. This entire video kind of just reeks of not like other girls because shes “messy.” Trying really hard to be relatable but this is not everyones reality either.

@Vivi_LaRue 2 года назад

@@maar9494 I NEED a morning routine otherwise nothing is going to get done. I am aware of who I am as a person and the reality of it is this: other than cleaning up after I make myself something to eat, I am NOT cleaning after work. I’ve tried doing it that way and it was a nope. And unless I go to the gym directly from work, I’m not working out after work either. I get that it’s not for everyone and that’s fine. And almost every video I’ve seen about this “trend” is people saying “this is my routine, find what works for you”. Journaling keeps me balanced. Not everyone needs that. And OF COURSE people are putting their idealized version online. Some days I get it all done, some days I don’t. But having that framework in place helps me keep all the plates spinning.

@maar9494 2 года назад

@@Vivi_LaRue exactly! And just because someone has kids doesnt mean some of these tasks are impossible. Its abiut finding what works for YOU. Shitting on it bothers me because at least its a step in the right direction of healthy habits and being a good influence. Nobody said it HAS to be that way otherwise you fail? Do I think maybe some take it far and unrealistic? Sure maybe but its up to us as the viewer to distinguish and take away pieces we like and dont like and use it how we see fit. I find it funny how Abbey doesn’t have the time for all these harmless activities but she does have the hours to shoot and edit this pick me video. Being offended by someones routine is a new level of jealousy unlocked 😆

@Blessing670012 2 года назад

This was so refreshing to watch, I cannot tell you how much it helps to remove the pressure to be put together all the time. Thank you Abbey❤️❤️❤️

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I’m so glad it was helpful! ❤️

@geraldineclaire 2 года назад

I have been binge watching your videos all week. I love how informative your content is, yet it’s also very entertaining! I love it

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you so much!

@BubblyViolin11 2 года назад

Tip on the air wrap: dampen your hair a bit before using it. It works best on slightly damp hair when styling and for hold.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you for the tip!

@slynnriley 2 года назад

Speaking of problematic… There’s this show on Netflix called “Unwell”. They have an episode where they talk about fasting/intermittent fasting and it’s “benefits”. If it’s not too triggering or anything, I would love your opinion on it😇

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I’ll have a look at that!

@tcoonn 2 года назад

@@AbbeysKitchen I’d love to hear your take on intermittent fasting!

@aliciawigren3170 2 года назад

The accuracy is astounding and SO refreshing to me! FTSAHM and WFM momma here, and I love love love this! Thank you 💜💜💜

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

So glad it’s helpful! ❤️

@emgogo8925 2 года назад

😂😂🤣the journal entry

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

😂😂

@ClementineCreative 2 года назад

This was very entertaining to watch 😂 Thanks for keeping it real, Abbey!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

So glad it was helpful!

@leahmommy7711 2 года назад

This video was so fun 😂 and I relate to much of it 😩

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thanks!

@amychatwin8063 2 года назад

So funny Abbey. Thank you for lending realness to the internet. And, as a fellow Mum, can you tell me where to get a housecoat like that? I'm sensing my 'next season' look...

@jlongarini96 2 года назад

Preach Abbey!!!!! Always sharing so much realness and it’s so appreciated.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

So glad it’s helpful!

@leggyegg2890 2 года назад

I’m surprised at how emotional this video made me! I’m disabled and struggle a lot with everyday tasks, most days my brain and body literally aren’t capable of any kind of ‘perfect’ routine. Even though I know I shouldn’t hold myself to an impossible standard it really is sooo hard not to compare. It was SO great seeing that someone I really admire who seems to have her shit together still has half empty cans everywhere, doesn’t plan the perfect breakfast, takes shortcuts just to get things done.

@Freya778 2 года назад

Same here with disability and chronic illnesses. Everything is a struggle and it can make you feel less because you feel like you don't function like you "should". It is great to know that we aren't even close to being alone in this because a lot of people live like this and feel like this, even loads of healthy people. So we aren't less than others, we ARE good enough and unique and perfectly flawed ❤!

@blindinglight1716 2 года назад

Abbey pointing out all of the examples that validate my desire to never become a mother (to human children that is) 👌👏👏👏👏👏

@dawnatoll 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing this video from a fellow Mom of 2 just trying to make it through another day in a pandemic!

@anastasiiatsybenko873 2 года назад

I love you so very much Abbey 😂❤️❤️❤️ your honesty and reality check are just sooooo refreshing!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you so much! ❤️

@kats8690 2 года назад

Did you reference Jenna Marbles three looks? cuz if you did, I love it 😀

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

😂👍

@charlottewitt4255 2 года назад

I really appreciate your videos and you´re helping me a lot ! I would love to see you reacting to Doutzen Kroes "What I eat in a Day" Video and Caroline Deislers´ new Spring Reset ebook 🥰

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I’ll have a look at that! ❤️

@kellysturgeon-savage6002 2 года назад

The portion of the video about your house and kids gave me a good laugh 😂 Peak Abbey sarcasm. RIP to the designer wallpaper

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

😂😂

@natalie6862 2 года назад

Yesss!!! Best video ever! So relatable. Thanks for being refreshingly open! (Rolling out of bed after getting sick of kids screaming “mummy, mummy” nonstop hit me in the feels!)

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Glad you enjoyed the video!

@potatogirl365 2 года назад

Obviously this won't work for everyone. A trend created for and by a specific young (and privileged) demographic is not going to fit someone with different energy levels and with more dependents and responsibilities. If it feels like it's putting pressure on you and criticizing, step off that side of the internet and redirect your energy. I've never seen people in real life who discuss and criticize each other's morning routines, this feels like a very "online" problem. And a lot of tools have actually been proven to work for mental health and wellbeing, so I don't understand why there is much bashing of yoga, journaling, and meditations going on in comments. They are not miracle solutions but can be powerful tools IF they work for you.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

For sure, thank you for sharing!

@angeldust999 2 года назад

This video is the love child of "i am not like other girls!! I'mquirky and soooo relatable" and "I am definitely putting other girls down to feel good about myself" especially the comments.

@Piecesoftheshadow 2 года назад

Which is funny you say that because that's exactly what the girls who make those videos and are "that girl" do as well. They act like they're "so different and quirky." And it's all fake for views and clicks.

@nicotinedealer7653 Год назад

It actually isn't like that, if you go through the comments you'll notice how a lot of women feel validated because of this. Most of us live like that and admit it.

@imogengray2990 2 года назад

Definitely a video on how to get period back - what kinds of foods to eat, how much and when, exercise etc. thank you so much for these videos, i love this channel

@brilliantbutblue 2 года назад

Always impressed at your informative, educational and well researched content but this is so RELATABLE and how most of us actually live our best life!! You nailed the normal 👍

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you so much! ❤️

@larkaiio3376 2 года назад

omg love that video, I am so sick of "that girl" trope, another way to make lives unrealisticly hard for ourselves for social media

@brilliantbutblue 2 года назад

Exactly! Unachievable life that's not how 99% of us actually live👍

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I totally understand!

@alexzandragraham2642 2 года назад

The intro here is what I needed 😂😂😂 thanks Abbey

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

😂👍

@alicevallerga7809 2 года назад

I wish this video would go on forever ahahha SO RELATABLE AND ENTERTAINING!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Aw thank you!

@rachelward8461 2 года назад

Love the imperfect, realistic house tour!

@christinahaines5899 2 года назад

While I appreciate the sentiment of this video, I can’t help but feel like there are some misogynistic undertones. It’s def true that the “that girl” trend mostly exists among young, privileged women and is not feasible for most folks. Moreover, there are unhealthy and grossly unrealistic goals perpetuated by this trend but I also think it’s okay to appreciate some of the ideals that come along with the trend and recognize that it has some positives like wellness and self-care. While I know concepts like “wellness” and “self-care” have largely been co-opted and now have negative connotations, it’s not an inherently bad thing to want to spend some extra time doing yoga and trying to eat nourishing foods you’ve made yourself. And I especially do not think we should blindly criticize and open up the floodgates for making fun of largely young adolescents who have the time and resources to explore those kinds of habits. I’m just worried that too much criticism has the effect of villainizing young girls who are still figuring out their priorities. While on one hand we should recognize there are unhealthy aspects of the “that girl” tend, let’s not perpetuate the idea that people should be villainized or made fun of simply bc they have extra time and have different priorities than a working mom. There is room out there to respect all kinds of lifestyles.

@aliuy8184 2 года назад

Thank you for this comment. Very well said.

@rachelcrandall8624 Год назад

YES! So true. Why do we have to call out people for having the time to do things that some people can't?

@aimimori7025 Год назад

Whilst I understand this as well, I think it’s fair to call out the “that girl” trend as being inadvertently albeit only slightly misogynistic as well; in spreading the idea that all women should aim to be “that girl” and if they’re not, then they’re lazy or stupid or unhealthy which is something that is constantly imposed on women who don’t do what society demands of them. While I think “that girl” girls are kind of annoying, I don’t really give a shit what they do. I just don’t think I’ll be friends with them cause we probably won’t get along lol.

@fanny.barrier 2 года назад

I don't see any problem with the THAT GIRL trend. To me it is inspiring, reminds me to prioritize my mental and physical health.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I’m glad you enjoy it!

@Maria.clarapm 2 года назад

Love it! So real yet you made it seem really aesthetically pleasing and fun. 😂❤️

@helletaylor726 2 года назад

I love this so much! I got into watching these RU-vidrs with perfect routines for a while and it gave me SO.MUCH.ANXIETY 😬

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I completely understand!

@Aethelrose 2 года назад

is anyone gonna tell her it's a trend for childless twenty somethings and definitely not geriatric millennials with multiple children who view the world with some demi lovato esque expectation that no one trigger their semi active eating disorder.

@livics610 2 года назад

There's still a privilege in the "that girl" trope

@Aethelrose 2 года назад

Aspire to it then.

@aliuy8184 2 года назад

Exactly! Like my goodness, she will always find something to pick on and if it doesn't fit her lifestyle, then move on and let others do their thing.

@Aethelrose 2 года назад

@@aliuy8184 but only if they're what she considers a young white girl. the day she does a wiead review of Michelle McDaniel I'll shut my mouth, but she literally only reviews girls that she doesn't think the woke mob will protect, just "privileged" eaters who are thin and white.

@emitou1469 2 года назад

Feel like I just watched 10 minutes of Abbey complaining about having kids 🙄

@AJ-yu1ip 2 года назад

Omg I love your realness! I just discovered your channel and you're one of my top youtubers. Nothing facetious about you, you own up to "mistakes" and you believe in balance. I've fallen into the guilt spiral after consuming too much wellness culture bc I could never live up to that. I'm now working on balance. Thanks for the content!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing! So glad my videos have been helpful for you 😊

@nerds_sanctuary 5 месяцев назад

omg! I like this video because it looks so real! Thank you so much! I'm feeling a such relief after your video! ☺

@isabellarno 2 года назад

I Love your videos and I have to say that one was particularly funny! It just gave me that weird feeling of: everything is a mess when you have kid and only busy moms can complain about how hard life is. I think it is not fair to present things like that… you can have a very busy life and have to order in even without kids… I know I’m taking it too personal because I don’t have kids and it is a little bit tiring to heard the same all the time… yes, because 95% of the women of my age have kids and everyone tells me that and I’m just like: so why do you have them? Nobody forced you! I’m sure you didn’t do this video meaning to be hurtful but I just wanted to express my feelings! PD: English is not my first language so please excuse any possible grammatical or spelling error in my comment :)

@RecoveringCityGirl 2 года назад

I typically like your videos, however, I’m conflicted about this one. I love the honesty and transparency, however, at times you come off as a bit judgy towards the highly curated wellness folks. Personally, I love this trend, especially amongst women of color. I love that so many of us are engaging in health and wellness through our own cultural and aesthetic lenses. It’s empowering and inspiring to see women of color creating such beautiful and soothing content. I’m a new mom myself - my son is 11 months - so I get it! He definitely dictates my life! No more morning pages for me and meditation these days looks like a shared nap with him in my beautiful tuft bed that’s never made up 😂. However, I don’t find the aspirational wellness life problematic in general, IF and only IF, you have the genuine desire, means and capacity to engage with it , you find it edifying and you don’t feel as if your “failing” if you don’t want to or can’t do it. When I have capacity for it, I feel amazing as if I’m filling my well, if you know what I mean. Like I’m loving on myself the way I want to be loved by others. That I’m living a life that I didn’t think would be in my grasp when I was a lil girl. And when I don’t have time for it I don’t judge myself - I give myself grace. Sh*t the new mom struggle is real - if it wasn’t for Athletic Greens - I wouldn’t consume anything green on some days 😂. I guess what I’m saying is that if the whole “hot girl summer wellness” thing’s not for you cool. And the community of women who engage with it shouldn’t belittle women who decide it’s not for them. And conversely, women who are on the whole bare minimum thang (like me right now 🙋🏾‍♀️), don’t need to belittle those who prefer a more curated experience… Just do you! Live and let live. Love and let love 🙏🏾.

@tiffanypayne3899 2 года назад

I agree with you on this one

@nat4465 2 года назад

I agree. We are just in a different stage of life (I’m a mom of four) we can be happy for that girl, maybe even gain some inspiration for recipes etc. And little by little improve and establish habits as we can. (I enjoy tea in the morning when I can 😋 and exercise for the most part. It’s a habit I’ve recently gotten more consistent with that has helped me so much)

@MeloniousThunk 2 года назад

So good! So relatable! And how cute is your DOG!? Abbey, I love this- from your simple but effective makeup routine and cute, comfortable attire to your being kind to yourself by leaning into balanced convenience meals. You make being a parent look fly! I have to ask: what is that vacuum-curling iron hair situation you have going? I didn’t see it linked… Looks like it’s a no-fuss, high-reward beauty hack and I want one!

@ChloeLynchComedy 2 года назад

LOL this one is so funny! I really enjoy your sense of humor.

@cristenrhodan9175 2 года назад

That Girl isn't real and we shouldn't bust our butt trying to achieve it. Just be a Real Girl

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Totally!

@abbybilik1721 2 года назад

Man, she like hates her kids.....

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

You clearly don’t have kids, so you…

@brilliantbutblue 2 года назад

@@AbbeysKitchen : Absolutely they do not🤷‍♀️

@Raccoon_Chic 2 года назад

@@AbbeysKitchen it does just sound like you’re insulting your kids the whole video though . So you.....

@katiecarie9402 2 года назад

I love this video! Thank you for being real abbey. We need more of that!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

So glad it’s helpful! ❤️

@ambisalad 2 года назад

Lol the water with lemon clip gave me curb your enthusiasm vibes hahah. Thanks Abbey! Recently started working outside of the home after 4 years of SAHM life. Let me tell you, while I was home I hopelessly aspired to fit this silly aesthetic. But now working outside of the home I feel like it’s just silly to feel like you need to adopt someone else’s routine and it’s more about embracing what works for you and your family and what makes you feel good, not stressed out or sad about what you aren’t obtaining or doing.

@shannonobrien7670 2 года назад

Hey Abbey, I love your channel and I understand "that girl" is a term people are using to describe influencers that are promoting unhealthy unsustainable diet trends, but I find the use of the term problematic and have seen it on a number of your videos now. The very language itself pits women against women, and singles out an ideal or person that is in need of healthy advice for ridicule. Sure it gets clicks... but will hating on a troupe help change diet culture and reach those that need help?

@nini-qc1qd 2 года назад

how is being "that girl" even bad? It's not like they promote smoking, drinking or eating take outs etc. If anything, they're doing the opposite. Exercising, eating healthy, studying/ journaling etc so how's that even bad? This video felt very "I'm not like other girls, I don't have time for their silly things". It's okay if you don't have that kind of time but she's not even in their age-range audience. If eating a cookie makes her happy then why can't she accept that for some people, eating a fruit makes them happy. I will never understand how people get sad when see other people achieving their goals-it's not like all of our goals are even same lol

@salmathecopt7969 2 года назад

@@nini-qc1qd right

@inspiredby624 2 года назад

@@nini-qc1qd Well to me the trend seems to promote an unhealthy level of perfectionism. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with the individual habits the fact that all the routines are so eerily similar is a little problematic because it gives the impression that health and wellness is one size fits all which is simply not true and can put unnecessary pressure on impressionable people watching those videos. I don't think it's fair to blame any individuals partaking in the trend for these problems but at the same time I think it's good when we get to see some variety in routines especially something that's less perfectionist and more relatable

@aanskska3058 2 года назад

I do think some of the aspects of being “that girl” are great, like the exercise, waking up a little earlier, being more productive, self care, etc. but the main point of it was do it for YOURSELF, and I feel like that message got lost got quickly, and it’s now about being “that girl” to impress others

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

For sure!

@karen2829 2 года назад

Every aspect of the internet is just so edited and filtered. This was amazing and totally real! This is the example to strive for which is to choose your battles, do the best you possibly can but more importantly there is no right or wrong, you do you!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

So glad you enjoyed it! ❤️

@colorsaburashid7677 2 года назад

Thank you , I was blaming my self , now I feel a little normal , your great 👍

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

So glad this video was helpful for you!

@matthewtfields8566 2 года назад

Maybe we should leave “that girl” alone. She’s done nothing to hurt you. She’s just trying to get herself together. Don’t discourage that. And please no one eat your kids leftovers with mucus in it. I don’t even think Abby really does that. Just let “that girl” live her life and figure it out. Abby has things that probably make her more than “that girl”

@WittyTzipporah 2 года назад

I know it's supposed to be funny but I honestly didn't like this one... It was basically a whole video of blaming the kids for everything...and while it's not untrue, it just doesn't come across well. I prefer the more informational videos.

@anouknoordeloos3389 2 года назад

Ooh i love this video so much!! The realism and sarcasm, just love so much!!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Glad you enjoyed it!

@VB-sj9bw 2 года назад

Finally a REAL and HONEST insight into the life of a mom - thank you for that! We definitely need more content like this.

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

So glad this was helpful!

@Raccoon_Chic 2 года назад

Gotta love a woman who makes a whole video criticizing how other women live their lives. There’s reasons some of us women choose NOT to have kids and one of those reasons is so we can have peace and quiet and freedom to do whatever we want. You just come off as being jealous of women that have this freedom and have a “that girl” morning routine or you seem to regret the motherhood lifestyle altogether. Also I don’t see how making lemon water is THAT difficult when you have time to make coffee in a fancy looking coffee maker.

@antoniav4133 2 года назад

well being "that girl" obviously comes natural to you, that's great! but for lots of people it's just not attainable and not sustainable. the narrative of being that girl is clearly a social media trend and makes some feel bad for not being perfect. to criticize that (aka show up with your imperfections) is not being bitter or jealous. just look at the comments under this video of the many people saying they are relieved to see someone portraying their unpolished life. even people without kids seem to find this trend just not realistic.

@Raccoon_Chic 2 года назад

@@antoniav4133 I never said that I attain "that girl" lifestyle. Maybe bits and pieces but my point is that Abbey just seems to like to diss on women that don't have kids and play the whole victim card when it comes to being a mother when she CHOSE that lifestyle. If you and others feel bad about seeing people who seem to spend all morning and every morning pampering themselves then don't watch that kind of content? Or realize that even the people that post "that girl" lifestyle videos don't actually do that every single day and alot of them disclose that in their content.

@g.r.e.t.a 2 года назад

Would love to hear your thoughts on "Wondr Health" (formerly called "Naturally Slim"). I took part in it a couple years back as part of a premium incentive for my insurance and, unsurprisingly, gained all the weight back. Some of the advice seemed really solid (like eating slowly to really enjoy meals) but a lot seemed really mentally unhealthy. I haven't seen any RD's discuss it and want to hear thoughts from someone who knows what they're talking about!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I’ll have a look at that!

@medeatigger9199 2 года назад

Even the thumbnail pic is super funny, love this video 😁

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Thank you!

@Trina_yup 2 года назад

Thanks for this, Abbey! It’s nice to see someone say that all those things are just a lower priority in their life. I soooo relate haha

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

I’m glad this was helpful!

@dainasworldnumbers88 2 года назад

The pressure to be That Girl! Unbearable!

@AbbeysKitchen 2 года назад

Absolutely!

@emilybishop2416 2 года назад

Ultimately the "that girl" trend is more selfcenteredness than I can stomach. Want to be beautiful? Spend your time focused on others.

@autumnburton2091 2 года назад

Self care is not selfish?

@emilybishop2416 2 года назад

@@autumnburton2091 I never said that it was.

@autumnburton2091 2 года назад

@@emilybishop2416 you said it was self centered

@emilybishop2416 2 года назад

@@autumnburton2091 noooo, I said the "that girl" trend is self centered.

@autumnburton2091 2 года назад

@@emilybishop2416 the trend is about self care by having a morning routine, taking care your mental health, and eating healthy. How is that self centered?